There are things said years ago that i can vividly recall and you would think it just happened.
Infact i have a tip for men folk.If Bae is talking,please dont interrupt her,when she is done,just ask her ''Please how long ago did this happen?''..LMAO!
If you are a woman and belong to the Elephant category where everything is recorded and remembered,PLEASE STEP FORWARD and gist us if you have applied this beofre and how it turned out.
Ever had to remind anyone of stuff they said years ago and their mouths drop open in shock?
Bwahahahahaahha.
Patiently awaiting in-house news
ReplyDeleteLol, i definitely belong to the elephant category. Never forgetting things people do ir say to me; even down to facial expressions and scenes, lmao.
DeleteClick my name for all your celebration cakes and cupcakes, cheers
Seriously! M trying hard to forget wat my ex Bf did to me years back! Dat guy abused me verbally and physically! Makes me feel like a nobody! I even try harder to forgive him! Thank God am doing fine with my Man! But still I can't Forget! He made me hate all d WALEs at attime! Bt I av let go!
DeleteMe and my elder sis are like elephants. My sis is worst. From the day the conversation took place she'll know she will need the info for future purpose.
DeleteWen I was like 12 or so,my mum used to tell me that she got married a virgin...I believed her.
DeleteWhen she figured it out that I had started chopping dicks,she told me that I should never date a guy openly(flaunting him or allowing him to flaunt me)that she dated guys secretely b4 she met my dad and up till now,my dad has never heared of any of her exes...Hian!
Our mothers can lie sha!
I be detective!! Heheheheeee my brain dey over store, I hardly forget things..
DeleteAdaDiUraNma is very mean and selfish! I put my life "on hold" just 2 be with her here in Cyrus and what did i get in return...
Delete#smh. I feel so shattered, stupid and empty right now.
Hot Ice.
BLOG ANALYSER: Hmmm! I don't know to describe mine. I forget things infact I have I what is called selective memory I remember what I want to remember nd I forget what I want to forget.
DeleteI can't type jor, i will just read comments .
DeleteOnyi Asa na the same bus carry us, but I remember all bae says sha.
DeleteLmaooo.....am guilty,I recall every conversations and words said...so don't try lying to me cos I'll just catch u once **heheheheeh**
Delete#abbytohxoft
My own is worse. Not just about what men say o.. I remember every gademn thing vividly. I'll even tell u the clothe that u had on when u said it...where we were, those that were present, the hair u had on, etc.
DeleteMine is scary that my family always refer to me if they need clarification of some sort.lol.. I'm their memory bank. Can't begin to narrate some instances here.. Epic stuff oh
I Do it a lot and it's really not a good trait it means you forgive but do not forget. Which implies you haven't forgiven completely.
ReplyDeleteWhenever I do it I feel very bad about it cos I don't like to be reminded about something I did years ago especially if I have apologized for it.
I disagree with you saying u forgive but don't forget meaning u haven't forgiven completely.
DeleteWhen u forgive but don't forget, for me it helps me thread carefully the next time I find myself in such a position to avoid a dejavu.
I hate such replays cos I go all hard on myself being stupid a second time
* for being...
DeleteMine is even worse I hardly 4give. Hardly get hurt but if and when I do it becomes end of story. Praying seriously against it. Good tn is dis memory also applies to good tins. Hardly 4get a favour.
DeleteWho forgives and forgets? I think is just God that can forgive and forget. I stand 2 be corrected duo.
DeleteHow easy do u think it is to forget? Nne not that easy o. I do it a lot with hubby & he keeps saying, u forgive but u still remember it now & then... I mean, I feel bad old stuff pop up once in a while, but... what can I say, if it helps to keep bae in check... can't complain!
DeleteThis is so me. I forgive and don't forget. But I don't think forgiving and forgetting are the same.
DeleteTalking about forgiving and forgetting reminds me of one guy that wanted to apologize to me and sent me a text- Baby please forgive and forget me. I will not do it again. lol
DeletePrecious ibik... that's quite funny Hahahahaha
DeleteHuman beings are not programmed to forget anything. Not unless u suffer memory loss. The contention should be about forgiving, but forgetting? Impossible. I thought the topic was about remembering stuff and not necessarily things that ur partner did wrong to u that u cannot forget/forgive? Or is the topic a cross section of reliving past hurts and the art of forgiving? Always..
DeleteYes I have a very good retentive memory about things. I can remember something of over 18yrs vividly. Infact, I know birthday dates of over 200 friends and family offhand. I don't foget things easily @all
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
200 friends ke?
DeleteIt is well
My mum is like this. When you are gisting her, she will do as if that gist is just for dat moment, then years later that I might ve forgotten, she wil use that gist as a referral and I will be like, when did I tell u this. Well, overtime I stopped gisting her since all she does is to record my gist for future purposes.
DeletePple like u are dangerous....one needs to be careful around u...u are just like my wicked MIL...that woman wil give u 35yrs old gist with full details like it all happened last nite...never forgives, very manipulating and always scheming...God will give me victory over her...dont know of anyone that takes pride amd boast of diabolical runz like her...she has threatened me several times that she allowed married to her aon cus she likes me..that i shld go n ask his ex-galfriends how she single-handedly caused a seperation btw them......but i know the JEHOVAH that i serve exclusively is ready to make a public show of shame of her....
DeleteWhat! 200? Mehn... you are a genius. I dey forget my own b'day not to mention those of my siblings, how much more friends. I am still trying to remember a ver dear friends bday without my having to ask her cos she will be pissed as hell.
DeleteI'm almost the same way. I've got a retentive memory as well. I remember my childhood vividly. It helps when you're writing exams and when your boo is trying to be slick but there are a lot of things I'd like to forget though.
DeleteIn my past relationships, my exes were always careful about they said to me because even if it's years later, I'll remember what was said, when and where it was said, what they were wearing at the time and my response.
The funny part is I'm really bad with faces and directions. I guess we're less oblivious to matters of the heart. We take them seriously and pay rapt attention.
@Anonymous 14:04, I'm not wicked or dangerous, also I'm not like your MIL, God will safe your marriage from any obstacle.
DeleteThat's just how God created me, especially dates, I can't forget once I know it.
*Larry was here*
@Nicole, we're not different @all, in fact we're identical in that aspect. I'm very bad in recollecting people's face or direction, if I've see someone for more than 3times and we didn't see for sometimes again,, when next we see, the person have to start introduction ni o, same with direction and places. Still laughing as I read your reply sha.
Delete*Larry was here*
You must be a Taurus, Nicole.
DeleteAnon 14.04, are u sure we don't share the same Mil? You just described mine. She's a real she-devil
DeleteI know someone like that
ReplyDeleteReplace women with BV'S. Blog Visitors never forget. Actually I hate to remind people about their past mistakes, except they decide to do really silly things like throw other people's mistakes in their faces... then I remind them they aren't any better, otherwise I have no space or strength to bear grudges.
Deletenooo i dont keep things in mind but hubby does.
ReplyDeletewho got time to crack brain.
Everything boo tells me is recorded in my memory, especially wen we are arguing. I hhardly forget things abt my relationship. But I can keep money in my bag and forget that I kept money der.
ReplyDeleteLol.
DeleteVERY TRUE..IN MALLAM AJEBO'S VOICE OF AOUS OF PARAKPO....TOMJERRYSWIT
ReplyDeletelet me sit and read comments
ReplyDeleteMk I go think hard coz am blank
ReplyDeleteToo much prick.. Lol!
DeleteNo ma, u are DULL.
DeleteKindly add 'DULL' to d array of names u displayed above.
Too many clueless ppl online.
Men dey try sha, no wonder ur hubby can't even bring himsef to perform his manly duties to u.
Must be tough for the poor guy. #SadFace!
Pink shell u wey sharp....abeg gerrout
DeleteTrue talk
ReplyDeleteChoi!
ReplyDeleteThis shud be veli veli interesting
Stella abeg post comment sharperly o
my mum na number one.she would remind my dad how he refuse to give her money invthe year 1990 so therefore he is not gettin a dime now lol sometimes my dad is really amaze about it
ReplyDeleteI forgive easily but I don't forget and afterwards I apply caution so as not to get hurt again.
ReplyDeleteI have no time to hold on to anger.
I let go once I've said my mind
Holding on to issues is shortening your life span.
Unnecessary
Very unnecessary my dear. You just mirrored my thoughts.
DeleteMe I 4get ooooh....provided that it didn't really hurt me.
ReplyDeleteIf not.......
Yes o, i remember telling my nursery school best friend how she was dragging for my wrapper when we wanted to do all those cultural dances and how we wanted my friends, and she was like uuhhhh seriously???
ReplyDeleteI do that a lot.I don't forget nothing.I'll be like you said,and I quote.
ReplyDeleteBut I only do that when need be,maybe someone says something contrary to what they've once told me, be it years ago, or I need to defend myself in some way,I'll remind you of what you once said.
Do I make sense?
Chai!
ReplyDeleteI won't forget the day my mum put fresh hot pepper into my eyes for disobeying her!
The worse thing was that she asked me to pound pepper that she wanted to cook...I never knew she wanted to cook my eyes!
I won't forget dat day!!!
Ur mom na devil To put pepper for ur eyes. Why not ur pussy.
DeleteMine was my vagina. I was like 11, and about to enter secondary school, just because I broke a flask. my saving grace was that as soon as she opened my legs, she saw blood and left me! Wickedness at d highest order!!!!
Delete@Anonymous 18:03, you mean you started menstruating @11 and before you entered secondary school??? *straigthface*
Delete*Larry was here*
No offence intended, but your mothers are wicked oh. Haba! How can anyone put pepper in a child's eyes and vagina? What is it supposed to achieve? Please let's not imitate such behaviour.
DeleteTufiakwa wicked mothers......gosh can't even imagine it..
DeleteMenstruating at 11 is not strange... Have a friend who started at 9....
Our house help used ginger to wash my vagina when I was 9yrs old saying it prevents promiscuity. I can never forget that day cos I ran"mad"
DeleteWell, I don't go by the name walking Calender for nothing.... I remember things, dates, time and worse, I can tell u how u said the stuff, what u were wearing and wot u were doing at the time... Terrible trait
ReplyDeleteI tell you, am that way too. It scares people. My friends call me 'walking diary'.
DeletePresent ma
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ReplyDeleteWhen I was dating my hubby 9 years ago in school., a friend was like "how could I? " that she can only go for people much older. Anyway, she just got married to someone that is few months older than her. At times I want to remind her but.......
Pls remind her....lmao
DeleteYes o, I do that a lot and sets off some serious bad atmosphere for hubby and I. Mtcheeww. I pray to stop sha. I just end up saying very hurtful things and he just goes quite.
ReplyDelete.. # Ayah Shehu #
Same here, I could remember my hubby saying one day that his mum will disown him for not having visited her for a wyl. I asked him what if he was living abroad won't she cope without seeing him for some weeks and he now said that its a different scenerio. I then reminded him of when we were living apart and I complained abt him not visiting often and he told me that if he was staying abroad won't I cope. That what is good for the goose...... The atmosphere changed and I wished I didn't say it.
DeleteI don't o.....i don't make them relevant. Life is too short, I have learnt
ReplyDeleteTrue talk! My mum can remember dates with time and not just time she go add secs. Lmaoooo
ReplyDeleteI give it to my mother. She has very good retentive memory. If u want to know d age of any family member, events in d past as in far back as 60's she remembers n tell u the date as well. The woman no dey forget anything samsam.
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
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This post just made me remember my mum....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
Na me be that oh ,i will never forget and oh lord deliver me from that spirit
ReplyDeleteI don't remember things, except the ones I want to remember
ReplyDeleteVery true stella,i can remember things,even if it happened 20yrs ago I wld give u every detail
ReplyDeleteBack in secondary school, my friend(O) said she can never date (D), not even in her grave. Fast forward to last year April, I heard she's the one disturbing D. Babe came to see me and I told her, her exact words. She was shocked. She tried explaining but who cares? She has forgotten her own words coz D is now a fresh dude.
ReplyDeleteI hate forgetting things. I never forget and if I do, maybe I choose to forget coz it's not important. My ex never forgets. He'll even remember the cloth u wore the first day he met u.
Hardly forget stuff tho
ReplyDeleteI'll tell you what you said years ago word for word (either a flattering or demeaning/profane statement).... Yes that's me. I can't help it. One really needs to be careful with one's utterances(via text especially as one can't tell how the receiver will perceive one's message)...if I don't want to forgive you, all I've got to do is remember what you said that pissed me and that's it, my anger has been fueled.
ReplyDeleteIf dis is true how they will say they hv slept with only 2 or 3 guys? Or that they think is abt 3 or 3 as if not sure exactly. Lie lie people.
ReplyDeleteMe I don't forget oh ,I even remember time ,date n sometimes d dress I wore its so bad sometimes my parents or friends call me to bear witness with dates n all lol
ReplyDeleteI am a walking recorder, I remember dates,time,place,faces and anything worth remembering. I only use it when someone is trying to deny or to save someone from trouble. As for my hubby,I have used this to get even and deliver myself from so many situations. In school, it helped a lot cos I love reading everything I see except my books. My family are always like hmmm," no wonder you dey always get migraine cos of ur clustered brain."
ReplyDeleteHi Stella, I want to make a contribution. Please, how do I go about it?
ReplyDeleteWat did u just do now??? *Side eyes*
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ReplyDeleteUsed to be like that wen I was younger.. Can keep malice and grudges for Africa!! Never forgets hurtful words!! Thankfully I've grown past that. Nothing surprises me any more, I don't keep things bottled up for so long any more. I forgive even without the offender asking,and it makes my life so much easier!!
I dey record small small
ReplyDeleteOh yes. I came first second and third in that area. I still remember things that happened during my nurrsey sch and dats over 32yrs ago. Whe I remind pple of what d did or said years back (word for word, detail by detail) and they express their shock, I simply tell them that if they don't want me to remember something, then they simply shouldn't say or do it. If they say or do it, I will to remember ( and pay back if need be!)
ReplyDeleteits different for me oh....am in my mid 40s and I forget a lot...instead its hubby who remembers wrongs and has a book of remembrance....always bringing up quarrels from the days of akintola...its an annoying habit cos he just reels off past quarrels....me once I give you the missiles, we quarrel I forget...
ReplyDeleteWow this topic really came on time. Boo and I were talking last nnyt on our way home n I started telling him about things he told me 3 yrs ago wen he was still toasting me.he was like ""huh I said that?" Loool
ReplyDeleteI always forget cos I don't take things serious.
ReplyDeleteNa me be this ooo lol
ReplyDeleteI still remember something a teacher said to me when I was 5 and in primary 1. I saw the teacher 22 years later and I didn't even bother greeting her. She came to me looking for greeting and I reminded her of what happened then. She was shocked. I'm now 36 and mother of 3. I still remember vividly. Lol.
ReplyDeleteI do that a lot n it has helped my sense of reasoning..
ReplyDeleteI don't easily forget at all. I'm good at remembering even damn word...
ReplyDeleteill jst read comments joor. coz remembering tins gives me headache.
ReplyDeleteill jst read comments joor. coz remembering tins gives me headache.
ReplyDeleteAh! My ex boss is like that. You can't lie to her cz she will remind u word 4 word of what u previously told her, or what occurred.
ReplyDeleteNot forgetting simply means u don't forgive.its always good to. Forgive cause by doing that u r at peace wit urself
ReplyDeleteHow easy is it to forgive and forget? At times, u forgive but just cannot forget
DeleteThis one na woman talk...who geh time
ReplyDeleteDAT OIL MONEY BOI
I can't type jor, its a long story.
ReplyDeleteI remember but a lot of times i bite my tongue not to awaken old memories
ReplyDeleteI do this too,God help me. Why? Because words spoken in anger cannot be recalled. Once,my ex-fiancee wrongly accused me about having slept wt a man I worked wt based on w@ he'd heard. He even said I spent weekends wt the man in question. He said some hurtful things which I'll never forget. I wept and prayed to God cause I was innocent in all of it. I never looked back cause his words had shut the doors to any form of chastisement or reconciliation. I'd forgiven him a long time ago but even as I type this,the emotions born out of the pain still wells up. Anyways,I'm now in a better place and I thank God.
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DeleteQuicksilver you are more bitter than the commenter, get a grip on yourself please.
DeleteQuicksilver you are more bitter than the commenter, get a grip on yourself please.
DeleteI can remember wella, My hubby dey fear to talk sometimes because I'm a good listener and I would remind him 'WORD FOR WORD'. Please keep your ATM card away cos I'll keep it in my head and read it out to you at just 4 glances. I hardly save nos on my phone I know the caller as soon as I see the no.Thank you Lord for this gift.
ReplyDeleteI can forget!!!! I can't remember faces from my childhood, school friends etc except those that had been close with me over the years or we still reconnected in Uni or so...
ReplyDeleteI don't remember events ... I move on from things fast.
This is probably the reason why I have peace of mind...I don't nag, if I'm angry, I express myself and move on...I forgive easily too..and don't take much to heart...
But if I decide not to, I cut you off and move on...and easily forget about you too...
Sometimes I could remedy I was vexing with hubby but can't really remember what led to my anger 😂 so I would just shrug it off and move on...
Hubby was even the one that would try to bring up past issues, but luckily for us, he learnt fast and is now a forgiver/ forgetter...cos one look from me, you'll feel so ridiculous bringing up the past...
Funny enough, people consider extremely brilliant but to remember past incidents/ childhood stuff de hard me except someone brings up a particular event and I make the effort otherwise ahead ahead , na im get me
Present ma. I don't forget things o, both good and bad. Forgive and forget no dey possible except u have fish brain. But forgive and overlook dey very possible.
ReplyDeleteEspecially India Women...The red dot on their foreheads is a recorder...
ReplyDeleteYes that's true. And it's because they are a scheming,manipulating,blackmailing lot. Just the same they can remember every single word in a song they are interested in even though they are not musicians yet during class group discussions and exams the the same recitatoe will star asking you what did that lecture call that thing yesterday.
ReplyDeleteThen how come many people are doing exam malpractice with a memory like that?
ReplyDeleteNa wa oo,bv's sef!everyone has suddenly become "recorder".I can bet my ass that if this post was about "women being forgetful"same set of recorders ll still be claiming forgetful.FAKE PEOPLE EVERYWHERE!
ReplyDeleteDon't mind them.
DeleteCan u remember what happened in 1993
Deletehehehehhehehehheheh most of the comments don make me laugh tire.......alot of pple dey honest with their comments for here......i love this!
ReplyDeletehmm....I wasn't like that before oooo. Just your typical go lucky babe, everything will work out for the best, no condition is permanent, forgive & forget, life goes on, blah blah. Then I married my husb and everything changed because he neither forgives nor forgets. We have been married for 13 years and the other day he said he will not skype with the children(we're currently living apart for a short time) because when we first got married he asked me to teach him how to use the computer. Then I was still the naive starry eyed fool, I told him I wasn't sure I could teach him anything because nobody taught me, I was just used to seeing my father's office computer that he would bring home from work for us to play with. I did not have any formal training in computer and that was the message I was trying to convey, thinking he would hire somebody to teach both of us at the same time. Na in the man vex oo. I have knelt down, shed tears and apologised for this "heinous crime" over the course of 10 years. The fact that he still had the audacity to bring it up even after all my pleading and begging just tears my soul apart. Talking to him now is so difficult and strained. I'm just holding on for the sake of my children, but I am very, very bitter. Don't think I will ever forgive him or forget this for a very long time. More than 10years this incident happened!!! and I have apologised so many times. Seriously wishing I could throw in the towel and call it a day. i hate this farce of a marriage. Now it makes me remember all I have endured for the sake of Nigeria marriage and I am sooo bitter.
ReplyDeleteThat's my wife. She remembers to the tiniest detail things i might have said or done wrong twenty years ago. Things that i don't even remember or that the passage of time has changed my perspectives about
ReplyDeleteThat's my wife. She remembers to the tiniest detail things i might have said or done wrong twenty years ago. Things that i don't even remember or that the passage of time has changed my perspectives about
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