The Psychopaths Bond And How To Spot Them In A Relationship.

This post is to help women who are currently in love with Psychopaths a.k.a Mad men!

You are probably dating someone who is a Psychopath do not know.....

You think its love he feels for you?My dear Psychopaths are incapable of love but that doesn't stop them from pretending.....

''Hello Stella, 

I read the narrative day before yesterday about a woman married to two cheating scumbags and it got me thinking. While I do not rule out women who are at fault, there is something fundamentally wrong with some men out there. I was about turning in my own narrative but I already know the answer to my relationship woes. Problem is I simply dated a psychopath  

Yes! Psychopaths are real and they are out there roaming the streets looking for unsuspecting females to devour. You might be in a relationship with one, thinking of dating one, married to one or your ex might be one. They are very hard to identify until it’s too late but then the damage has already been done. This breed of guys stalk, haunt and destroy their prey in ways the most calculated serial killer cannot phantom

Psychopaths come as both male and female but for the purpose of this article I will focus on the male Psychopaths

All those stories you read here that touch, stories of marital woes, cruel and unfair treatment from a guy to the supposed lady he claims to love. Just know this; these ladies are all victims of the psychopathic bond. These guys were flawed from the beginning, they are not capable of love but they are very capable of making others fall in love with them. Even before the very first conversation a psychopath wants something from its prey, be it marriage, kids, sex, your self-esteem, your disgrace, money etc. It’s all about self-gratification to them and when they are done with you they leave you a shell of who you are.

He come in all shapes and sizes: rich, broke, good family, bad background, married, single, handsome, not too handsome, powerful, pitiful,  you name it.

Enough of the introduction here is how to you spot a psychopath (aka mad man)

While there are lots of signs, I will stick to ten and if your partner exhibits this kind of behaviour then it’s good to know exactly where you stand and engineer the next step of action

1.         The beginning of the relationship always starts as heaven on earth. You will feel as if you have met your soul mate, the perfect guy for you. This is the first red flag, a psychopath is not capable of love they will only mimic your emotions and pass it off to you as genuine love. If a relationship is too good to be true, it probably is

2.         They love you exactly the way you want and desire to be loved. You like your guy to be soft spoken and smart, he will be that guy, you like a guy that can shower you with attention, he will be that guy. You want a guy that buys you gifts and takes cares of your needs, he becomes it.  He will be anything you want him to be

3.         Things get heavy pretty fast, it begins to overwhelm you. You know you are moving too fast but you are swept away by a magical love and you find yourself going against things you believe. He will promise you marriage within a week if that what he takes to have you under his spell. This is usually called love bombing. This magical feeling can last as long as the psychopath wants it to last. It will last until he gets bored but make no mistake he will get bored

4.         His words don’t hard up, he tells you something then does the complete opposite. It is never two plus two with him. The psychopath is a pathological liar. They make up the lies as they go just to keep you sucked in for as long as possible. When his words finally unravel, it is almost always too late

5.         He blames everyone but himself for his troubles. There is always someone out to get him; he is never the bad guy. His ex is always a vindictive bitch, his boss is always a bastard and someone is always doing him wrong. He does this to make you pity him and drive you further in to his treacherous web.

6.         The psychopath is usually very self-confident and self-aware. He doesn’t have to be the social type but he is very comfortable in his own skin, gets along with people, always the life of the party. He is always exciting and spontaneous (what better way to sweep you off your feet). He has a great circle of friends who talk about him in glowing terms and  all you friends like him (at first)

7.         After the honeymoon period is over and the psychopath has you completely where he wants you to be (hooked on his particular brand of love). The real monster emerges so abruptly you don’t notice at first. You feel him start to pull away and when he finally redraws his love you feel as though a carpet had been taken form under your feet. He starts a process called dosing where he will gives you just enough love to keep you coming back and keep you taking his bullshit. This bullshit could mean cheating, emotional , verbal  and even physical abuse

8.         You start to work on eggshells, you start picking your words knowing that anything you do might send him over the edge and possible lead him out of your life. He blames you for the fact that he has stopped loving you. You feel if you could love him harder, take his bullshit a little more, show him unconditional love maybe he will return to the way he was. You try to win back this love, my answer is don’t bother.

9.         He always wants something form you , be it sex, money, attention etc, when you give it to him he throws a little bit of that love you once shared at you and you keep wanting more. Like an addict, you are addicted to his love and he keeps taking and taking until he can’t take anymore.

10.       Your whole relationship becomes you longing for what once was and not what is. The period of enjoyment in the relationship is significantly less than the time of suffering. You keep hoping for it to get better, for the good old days to reappear  but it doesn’t happen , you lose you self-respect, dignity and everything else trying to hold on to something that never was. If you are lucky you finally realise he has nothing to offer you and has not offered you anything but false promises in a while

When he is finally done with you, and that’s if you are lucky, he will move on to another victim and if you are not lucky you might be married to him with two kids on the way with nowhere to run. A psychopath discards his ex-lovers with a degree of hate and viciousness that leaves you with a deep sense of disappointment, profound loss, anger, bewilderment and incredulity.

If you are currently dating a psychopath YOU DO SO AT YOUR OWN RISK

The only way to break the psychopathic bond is to STOP ALL COMMUNICATION WITH THIS SON OF BITCH IMMEDIATELY.

DO NOT SEEK CLOSURE, YOU WILL NEVER GET IT.

Trust me one message, one email or one phone call can completely put you back in this extremely dangerous relationship,

If you find yourself married to one, I have no advice for you but it is good that you know exactly the type of person you married

When I left my ex, he dammed near left me shattered and I considered myself lucky, some ladies are not

Kind Regards

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