In June 2014,there was a story on this blog culled from Punch where Ebere's brother cried out for help regarding his sister Ebere who was on life support....
From this writeup,Ebere died due to Negligence...so so sad!
Please read.
''One year ago, we told you about the sad story of a young Nigerian banker, Ms. Ebere Ukwu, who went into coma and was placed on life support machine, months after arriving United States from Nigeria, to pursue her desire for best living. Ebere Ukwu, dreamt of elevating her life in America. She wanted to experience the different culture and lifestyle of North America.
After she lost her job as a bank manager during Nigeria’s financial meltdown, she decided to move to USA, to live out loud. She embraced all things American. But she never got a chance to romance the intrigues of life and living here. On June 1, at 12.05 a.m,Ms. Ebere Ukwu’s dream died with her inside the Intensive Care Unit of Wake Medical Center in Raleigh, North Carolina. She had been in coma for more than two years.
Her brother, Mr. Ezuma Ukwu, issued this statement when contacted: “The news of her transition is devastating to the family. On the 1st of June, I received a call at about 2.30am Nigerian time from the medical staff that her condition had deteriorated and by 5.20am another call came in that she had passed on.
We find solace in the fact that she made Christ her Lord and saviour; she’s resting in His bosom. The vacuum left by her cannot be filled, but we take solace in the fact that this is only a transition to a place where we’ll all meet and never to part again. We appreciate all those who have been with us in prayers.”
She was an ambitious dreamer that wanted to explore her young world and excel. The ICU room wasn’t supposed to be her final destination. But early spring of 2013, her exciting life of adventure suddenly collapsed during a visit to the Emergency Room for minor aches, pain and high body temperature.
Ebere arrived USA during the cold winter month of November 2012, in pursuit of life, liberty, happiness and opportunities. She anchored her new residence at her sister in-law’s place in Atlanta, Georgia. Atlanta was not friendly to her dreams of relocation and quick employment privileges.
Ebere soon left Atlanta for Maryland, at the invitation of an extended family friend, to try few available menial jobs targeted towards new immigrants wishing to settle into a different social structure and culture. Ebere accepted an offer as a part time nanny. She was frustrated by the lack of appeal and job satisfaction. This wasn’t the job she expected from the land of dreams.
Two months after her first job, she quit. Ebere was diabetic. During one of her daily chores as a nanny, she split her big right toe. The small cut was infected, thus, it resisted casual self-medication. But Ebere kept nursing the minor wound.
Ebere reconnected with Tunde Atiku, her sister’s ex-boyfriend who lives in Raleigh, North Carolina. She pleaded for Tunde’s assistance with employment and a new life direction. Tunde invited her to visit Raleigh and search for better employment opportunities she desired.
Tunde Atiku, a registered nurse in Raleigh shared the stages of Ebere’s life to the end of her time last week.
“Jebose, I met Ebere and her family during our university days at Lagos State University. Her older sister and I were lovers. The family welcomed me into their home. I was always around them and I am grateful for those university days when their home gave me love, comfort and a great girlfriend in Lara. Years later, after our university education, we went separate ways as life demanded. I moved to the United States. In November 2012, Ebere called from Atlanta and informed me she was in the United States.
Her immediate desire then was to legalise her stay in the country. She came into United States with some money to help her settle her immigration status. She didn’t want to marry to get her legal status. She hoped for a real marriage. Thus, in Atlanta, she was introduced to several suitors but she found none of them serious. Employment was becoming a challenge; her finance was draining by daily living and hustles in America. She wanted to work; through a friend, Ebere found a baby-sitting job in Maryland. She relocated to Maryland in April 2013 to become a baby sitter to one Igbo lady, a mistress from hell.
She called me every day, complaining of her hardship, mental abuse and threats from her employer. She would complain about mistreatment and irregular payment from the lady. I encouraged her to leave the job and relocate to Raleigh and live with me. I promised to help find her a decent job, free from daily verbal abuses and indignity. Ebere wanted the American dream. She went through hard life in Maryland because of this thing called the American dream. Jebose, imagine your employer, a fellow Nigerian, threatening to call the law on you because of your immigration status and withholding your agreed income. Ebere took care of her boss’ three children and also did housekeeping for the family, yet they tormented her.”
“While working as a baby sitter for this lady, she hurt her right big toe. But she kept nursing the toe, using off the shelves medication. But the toe got infected and bruised when she came to join me in Raleigh. One week after her arrival here, she knocked on my door one night and complained of severe body and foot aches. Her right big toe was swollen. I suggested we go to the hospital, she was scared because of the silly stories she was told in Maryland that doctors and nurses would report her to immigration if she visited any hospital and she would then be deported.
She was afraid that she could be deported. I told her that what mattered most was getting treatment for the toe. I convinced her that doctors did not care about her immigration status before or after treating her. Eventually, we went to an urgent care for initial treatment. The nurse recommended we go to the E.R because the toe had been infected and might need aggressive treatment. We tried another urgent care for second opinion; it was consistent with the first diagnosis. We then went straight to the hospital on Sunday, April 28, 2013.
“We arrived at Wake Medical Emergency Room that afternoon, waited for three hours before a doctor could attend to us. The doctor told her that her toe had been severely infected and it must be amputated. He also told Ebere that blood test on her indicated she had diabetes. Because of her diabetic condition, the infected toe had to be amputated in order to stop infection from spreading all over her body. She said she didn’t want to lose her toes and suggested antibiotic treatment. She told me she was not married yet and couldn’t see herself walking everywhere without a toe, as a single lady.
The hospital immediately placed her on admission. It conducted a lab test on her and few days later, the lab result showed she had kidney problem; her kidney was not functioning properly. So the hospital determined it would flush her kidney. Her blood sugar was very high, at 360 level. The normal blood sugar is between 90 and 110. The hospital pumped her with insulin, to control her sugar level. Her blood pressure was considerably normal but the kidney and blood sugar were continuously high for a long time. Because of kidney problems and diabetes, the hospital determined not to discharge her. Five days after she was admitted, I asked why she hadn’t been discharged. She said the hospital was still running tests.
“She called from the hospital to inform me that the pump that the hospital used to pump medication into her, was affecting her breathing pattern. I told her that fluids might have been overloaded. I instructed her to complain to the hospital that it was overloading her with fluids… she did and they removed some of the pumps. She felt better. Few days later; the hospital gave her the I.V. pump again. Ebere called and told me. I advised her that if she wasn’t feeling well, she should call them and ask that it should be removed.
“On May 12, 2013 at 5p.m, I called her hospital room but she would not pick the phone. I called several times. No answer. The next morning, I went to visit her, she had been moved from her room. The hospital informed me she had cardiac arrest the previous day. No one was monitoring her. Cardiac arrest is brain damage. Her brain damage was 75 per cent. The remaining 25 per cent was controlling just the internal organs. The hospital immediately placed her on full life support. After the cardiac arrest and while she was on life support machine, the hospital cut her toes to remove the bacteria in the system.
“Every day, I visited Ebere at the hospital and also discussed with doctors about her condition with regards to her care. Initially, the hospital wanted me to take her to a nursing home or to an adult daycare centre. She didn’t deserve to be thrown to a hopeless place. I refused to sign any documents to have her removed from the hospital to any assisted living facility.
“Ebere suffered. When you have a brain damage, you are gone. I told the family to allow the hospital to let her go. They left her in the hands of the hospital. They should have pulled the plug on her a long time ago. She spent more than two years on life support machine. More than two years brain dead. That’s sad. But she is at peace now. I blame the hospital for her death.
She walked into the hospital for care but died hopelessly. WakeMed was negligent. There was no proper monitoring of the patient while she was on I.V. How many times did the hospital nurses assigned to her do ground checks on their patient to make sure she was not in any pain or in deterioration? I am a registered nurse. Nurses’ standards and procedures require that checks of patients in critical units be done every 15mins. Ebere was abandoned, she had cardiac arrest with 75 per cent brain damage…
if they were doing the checks on her, they could have found her in pains and difficulty in breathing, then quickly rescue her with treatment.”
punch reportage
So sad!....2 years on life support?cruel!
Please if you are diabetic,watch your sugar level!
Aaaaah..may her soul rest in peace..sad face
ReplyDeleteAm diabetic in my thirties, i check my sugar level like 5 times a day.its not easy but life has 2 go on.i try 2 make myself happy all d time but sometimes I juxx break dwn and cry.
DeleteOh Jehovah!!! I remember her story. So she finally bowed out... what a very sad ending for one who just wanted to better her life. At least she can now rest.
DeleteBut God will judge that her employer for treating her with so much disdain. Some Nigerians abroad can be very mean..what they won't take they dish to others. Esp when they know that the person is an illegal immigrants and wants a menial job to survive. They take advantage of their vulnerability by frustrating them and not paying what is due them. Even when they pay they give them stipends. It's not fair, it's never fair to treat anyone like this. How much could she have been earning as a nanny that you'll deprive her peace?
I'm sure the lady has a job, would she accept it if her employers treated her the same way? I'm so sad for Ebere.. what a kill joy....her destiny truncated just like that. May you find eternal rest.
Na wa oh very sad story oh am so touched and cold.all bc to stay America she would have just used her money to start up a biz here jejeli not everything is by abroad.
DeleteRip day may God rest your soul u have suffered enough
Saddest story I have heard of recent.
DeleteWe can't begin to blame any one now she's dead alrdy rip lady sometimes not all we want are written in out destiny just live your life as it comes rip .
Sad! May her soul rest in peace.
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Rip ma'am.
DeleteSo sad, rest in peace
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So sad!
DeleteMay her soul rest in peace.
So sad...RIP Ma'am. ...America is not an easy place to live in....
DeleteReading this story has opened my eye at to a lot of things. I know this girl while she was in Maryland. She spent just 2 weeks. I lived in that neighborhood and good friends with the family she was with. There was never any threatening in anyway. Instead they tried to introduce her to a suitor. The lady in question even took her to an immigration lawyer in silver spring Maryland. That day I had to babysit her kids. And point of correction she has only two kids. Also She was paid biweekly. I never noticed any complain. If for anything Ebere was the one that told us that her sister Inlaw in Atlanta was threatening her and that was why she left Georgia. Am really appalled by this account. This world is really a wicked place. May Eberes soul Rey in peace.
DeleteThe registered nurse,dat doesnt know dat some1 wit dat high blood sugar is a ticking time bomb,no blame on d hospital dey did even more dan dey shld,2 yrs life support, d negligence was on her part,neglectin her sugar
DeleteI remember her story as published on this blog sometime back
DeleteSo sad she finally passed.
May her soul rest in peace.
Anony 10.07, welcome on board.
DeleteObviously, you know these much cuz you were her boss or related to her wicked boss.
She has gone to rest now so your explanation is over taken by events.Karma isn't on vacation or sabatical leave, we will all reap what we sow, it is that simple.God knows the truth.
When you advise people against travelling abroad with no papers or visiting visa, they think you are evil and don't want them to progress.
The worst thing that can happen to anyone is being an illegal immigrant, you will always be at people's mercy, they will shit on you, threaten you, you will live in perpetual fear etc.
Ebere would have been better off if she had started a small business in Naija,she may have even gotten another job.Her story is just sad.
People learn from her story.
Abroad isn't all that, the only edge these places have over Naija is that the system works and i know we will get there.
RIP Ebere
Ha ! I laff..get there indeed.
DeleteSo sad. May her soul RIP! Amen.
ReplyDeleteAwwwww
DeleteRest in peace ma'am.
It's a pity.
Very very unfortunate. RIP dear.
DeleteSad! May she rest well. But how is it the hospitals fault? They kept her on life support for two whole years. Her problem started when she cut her toe-(careless mistake). Knowing her condition, she should have run to the hospital instead of trying to treat it and allowing bacteria to get in. Also her family should have let her go since. High expectations. America no be heaven.
DeleteMy dear i dont understand why its the hospitals fault. Why go and be an illegal immigrant then expect expert everything? Pls dont blame the hospital or even the wicked madam i beg.
DeleteRIP,....
ReplyDeleteHmm
ReplyDeleteMay the soul of the departed rest in peace. This is sad!
DeleteSad. Very sad Rip Ebere.
ReplyDeleteSad. Very sad Rip Ebere.
ReplyDeleteRIP beautiful.
ReplyDeleteMay her soul rest in peace. Amen
ReplyDeleteVery pathetic tale.
I didn't read, very sleepy.
ReplyDeleteMay her soul RIP
Chai......
DeleteRIP MA!
Very sad.May her soul rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteWat a story Rip ma.
ReplyDeleteSo sad!
ReplyDeleteRest on Ebere
I don't even understand why people will choose to suffer just because they want to live abroad. May her soul RIP.
ReplyDeleteThank you oh. Reminds me of a BV here, last year or last two years or so.. saying her kids ate from " my husband's stew". " our stew", how he beat her and almost choked her to death etc bc she had no papers. I said leave na. Is that life? Funnily enough, some BV's didn't agree with that. Sure Sisi eko may remember... RIP Ebere
DeleteHer condition was torture on her.
ReplyDeleteShe had dreams,but God had others.
Rip.
God can have this kind of plan for no one .In live use your head and pray don't force things rip to the dead
DeleteAll in d name of living the American dream!
ReplyDeleteMay her gentle soul rip. So sad!
This is the reason I avoid Nigerians.. They are too wicked and greedy. Mind you I am nigerian but I avoid them
ReplyDeleteOf cos,I don't blame you.Nigerians are horrible here in the UK as well.no one want you to be better than them.I don't keep friends,even at work I try and avoid them.any small thing they will call home to report you.but the good Lord is our sheperd.
DeleteNa all of una. Dont remove yourself. Especially the ones in the UK. Very wicked and stingy. RIP Ebere.
Delete@ Valerie, they are not only wicked and stingy, they are cold hearted.
DeleteEeyah so sad!
ReplyDeleteMay her soul RIP.
May God accept her soul,and give her family the fortitude to bear the loss.
ReplyDeleteThis story is also a learning tool. This lady died due to a combination of many things:
1.The wound on her foot. She sustained a wound on her toe,and did not manage it well because she was afraid that going to the hospital will expose her immigration status. Folks a lot of hospital in the USA will treat you first regardless of your status. Her toe was not healing well because it was complicated with her history of diabetes especially not being controlled. Lesson to learn here: if you have a wound on any part of your body that is not healing accordingly after home treatment for along time,PLEASE-go seek medical help ASAP. Diabetes can go undiagnosed for a while,and a lot of people tend to neglect the symptoms until they go into diabetic coma. Even a puncture wound you think is little might be bigger inside.
2. Sepsis- her foot got severely infected, and needed to be amputated and she refused because she is not married. Infection lead to sepsis, and sepsis can lead to coma. eventually the foot was amputated to save her life but it seems like it was already late,because the infection has traveled from her foot thru her blood stream to the brain
3. Uncontrolled BP- her uncontrolled BP caused her to go into kidney failure which is why she was retaining too much fluid,and not breathing well.
So my people,DM and HTN are one of the 2 health conditions that one can easily live a normal life with. If you are experiencing any headache that doesn't go away,blurry vision,,frequent urination,frequent urinary tract infection,frequent thirst,dizziness or anything that is out of norm for you-please go get checked; it can save your life, and prevent you from complications such as renal failure, blindness,amputation,and a lot of other things..
God bless you all
Thank you jare. You said exactly what i thot when i read it.
DeleteDiabetes can kill but because it moves slower than Hypertension or HIV, people regard it as a minor ailment. Once it involves the kidney(s), it is only a matter of time.......
Even if they sue the hospital, their chances are really slim due to her own negligence.
Please endeavor to take good care of your body & organs to the best of your abilities....You only have 1. Regular checkups, some info online, healthy eating habits, exercise, etc.
Anonymous doctor, you're right to a T.
DeleteExactly what I deduced from the story.
Another anonymous doctor.
Anonymous doctor, you're right to a T.
DeleteExactly what I deduced from the story.
Another anonymous doctor.
She likely developed septicaemia with septic emboli thrown intermittently leading to respiratory problems, a cardiac or even a stroke.
DeleteEven if she was monitored every 2 minutes by nurses, I doubt if much could have been done for her due to late presentation to hospital and delayed amputation.
Nigerians, go to hospital first and immediately.
Not chemists, or health workers, or blogs.
Borrow money and go on time because when the damage is done you will need to borrow more money, suffer more and manage complications that would not be there if you'd gone early.
Thank you so much...you said it all!
DeleteThank you jare, the nurse sef no sabi anything.
DeleteOmg! Dis is scary. I tot its only in Nigeria doctors n nurses aren't so responsible. It's everywhere. I heard so many stories like dis all over d world. You are definitely ur own doctor, pay attention to ur body n read up. RIP to d dead. She's definitely in a better place.
ReplyDeleteIt's all over,when a heath care worker do too much over time,you will become tired and restless and pass agressions to your patient and at times the patient would be scared to call the nurse In charge cos of fear of being shouted at,that's why long day shift should be removed and they won't have the time to go else where and do bank.neglect is a big issue
DeleteHmmm..., aina abo are u one of this horrible NHS nurses cod the way you describe the attitude of nurses resemble majority of NHS nurses behaviour especially the Nigerian ones. Horrible set of people.
DeleteNa wah oh, such a sad story. A lady with so much dreams, a bank manager. RIP ebere, rest in the Lords Bosom.
ReplyDeleteAttack from the pit of hell,she wld hav made it there in america,the enemy saw it and truncated her destiny.hhhhaaaa,i cancel evry evil at the verge of breakthrough in jesus name.
ReplyDeleteMy dear! Na attack o!! Thank God for the blood of Jesus!!
DeleteHer family should sue the heck out of that hospital and get millions of dollars. That is the beauty of the US of A
ReplyDeleteSue the hospital for what? That she did come to them when she could have gotten early help? She came at the dying minute? Her nurse friend doesnt want anyone blaming him thats why he is quickly blaming the hosputal
DeleteThis is so sad, may her soul rest in perfect peace. Amen
ReplyDelete#emdossupernova
Some thing bothers me here,first she was told by 2 hospitals to have the toe amputated and the RN didn't encourage her to do so? Abeg Nigerians should help ourselves oh,how can u choose Wat people would say over ur life? People missing body parts get married.
ReplyDeleteRIP this is some thing that could have been avoided
Thank you. My sentiments exactly. It's a shame she died but from this story, I don't understand why the hospital is culpable. She was told she needed amputation but she refused. Her blood sugar was consistently high so it was only a matter of time. Her RN friend should have known better
DeleteDont mind the RN. Hes deflecting blame from himself
DeleteThat RN friend should just keep quiet.
DeleteThis is geart wrenching. I remember reading this story on this blog last year.
ReplyDeleteI pray she finds peace in the presence of the Lord.
Her family should sue the hospital.
There is no excuse for negligence.
Gut wrenching!
Delete* gut wrenching
Delete#typo
Thanks Anon 10.31
Heart wrenching is applicable too...
Deletethis is just so sad, May God please strengthen her family at this difficult time. she went to America in search of a better life but didn't live to enjoy it even for a day, one problem or the other started as soon as she stepped into the promised land. may God grant her eternal rest.
ReplyDeleteWow so sad,rip
ReplyDeleteThis is extremely sad. Unquestionable God. Rest in peace Ebere, just rest.
ReplyDeleteRIP ebere. I read this story in 2014 and was touched... America is not a paradise as we see it... We don't need to get there before we are it in life, I have had friends go there and still complain. No place like home naija is cool if not for our bad government. I still do believe in naija. RIP to Ebere!
ReplyDeleteHmmmm. . .so sad
ReplyDeleteMay her soul rest in peace
ReplyDeleteRIP
ReplyDeleteChai! SO Dis Lady Finally died??
ReplyDeleteChai!
May she find rest now.Amén
Amen!!!
DeleteThis was not negligence ...rip to her
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts too,except I didn't read it well,but from what I can see dey did deir best but things had deteriorated too badly.
DeleteHmmmm, terrible! May God receive your soul home, amen. No place can be better than your father land, seekers of greener pastures.
ReplyDeleteAwwwh! I remember reading her story here. Its a pity. May God console her family
ReplyDeleteSo sad
ReplyDeleteRIP Ebere.
Rip to the lady. My God rescued my children from untimely death yesterday I'm going on an aggressive fast today . I'm still in shock . I'm too scared to tell the story. God pls save me and my lil ones from the snare of the fowler.
ReplyDeleteRip to the lady. My God rescued my children from untimely death yesterday I'm going on an aggressive fast today . I'm still in shock . I'm too scared to tell the story. God pls save me and my lil ones from the snare of the fowler.
ReplyDeleteRIP Ebere...
ReplyDeleteRest in peace dear one. My brother in law that is barely 30 is diabetic he still takes chocolate and ice cream like mad. I have tried everything to stop but he won't listen.I cry for him every day and he's such a nice person. I just wish I can tie him wit a strong rope so he doesn't move around then, I can monitor him very well.
ReplyDeleteThis is very sad. May she RIP
ReplyDeleteRIP Ebere
ReplyDeleteSad. Rip ebere
ReplyDeleteNigerians in UK are terrible I avoid them like plague. That terrible nurse behavior they have in Nigeria they still display it here . Terrible lot.
ReplyDeleteI remember when my now ex husby used to threaten me with immigration after beating me up back in the day . God go punish u bastard man .
ReplyDeleteThese registered. Nurses feel they know much. You are trained to carry out doctor"s orders. The woman had multiple problems. Why refuse amputation when it can save your life. They treated her free and you are saying nonsense. This is why many pediatricians hate to care for nurses children . With their limited knowledge they think they know much. Rest in peace woman.
ReplyDeleteDont mind these low quality nurses
DeleteSorry doctor.
DeleteHer soul rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteThis is so sad.
The hospital tried their best.
It is quite unfortunate, she died.
Nitty.
May her soul RIP, atleast her family should have looked for a way to go stay by her side. Anyways this is not the time for trading blames. So sad.
ReplyDeletePity about the loss of such a promising young lady. So sad. I pray she is in a place of rest.
ReplyDeleteI do not agree that the hospital was negligent. If anyone was negligent, Ebere was. Knowing that she is diabetic, she shouldn't have self medicated. Everyone even outside the medical profession knows the dangers of self medication.
Also note that hospitals can only do their best. They cannot save all the lives of their patients. And most importantly, the hospital cannot and would not have taken her off live support without written permission from the family.
There is also a lesson here in Ebere's life - THE DANGERS AND DOWNSIDE OF LIVING AS AN ILLEGAL IMMIGRANT.