Chronicles Of Blog Visitor Narratives

Yesterday's chronicle has sent in a rejoinder cos he needs to clear the air on his bae's tilted to one side story...

Rejoinder to Blog Visitor Narratives Number 2 of 9th June 2015

Hello Stella and all followers of your Blog, I want to use this opportunity to put up a rejoinder to a "Chronicles of Blog Visitor Narrative Number 2" which you published on your Blog yesterday (Tuesday 9th June) captioned: "Breaking up via Social Media".

I went through some comments by your followers and I was saddened with what I saw based on the fact that my Bae sent you a story which tilted majorly in her favour.

Why didn't she inform your followers that she does not only call her Boss "Dear" but also sleeps over in his place sometimes? why didn't she tell your followers that she is still communicating with her ex boyfriend on a regular basis despite the fact that she is in a relationship with a guy that wants to marry her?

Why didn't she inform your followers that she has a problem telling men off considering the fact that she is in a serious relationship? but would rather insist on soaking up all the attention she gets and in that situation giving her partner ideas (whether real or imagined).

To be frank with you, when she informed me about her low, infact non existent libido issue, I was worried cos I felt a girl of her age shouldn't be having such problems, my worries were due to genuine concern for our future and not for the sole reason that I wasn't getting sex from her.

I won't deny the fact that she has told me of her informal relationship with her boss, but I always get worried cos I felt it was wrong, but she ends up always assuring me that there was nothing wrong with it and that she is not having any sort of affair with her boss,

In as much as I tried to believe her, the last incident in my house, where she started a phone conversation with her boss with; "Good evening dear"...got me so pissed that I had to sit her down and warned her of the consequence of such relationship with a white man (yes, her boss is a white man) who is married with kids.

As usual she got upset and we ended the conversation in a disagreement, she told you that I broke up with her through social media, I stand here to tell you emphatically that was not the case, as I had tried all possible ways to let her know that I'm not comfortable with her carefree attitude to our relationship.

That night after the disagreement, I put up the following caption on my DM on BBM..."Another chapter closed and the search continues..." This is slightly different from what she attributed to me, I also put up a picture I took with her so called friend who is actually a fellow church member (because we all worship in the same church). I did it just to jolt her into consciousness as I can vouch that I'm not in a relationship with her "friend" or any one else for that matter.

I can go on and on but I won't bore you or your followers with this matter any longer, as it is obvious my Bae is immature and does not know what a relationship entails.

I am ready to give the relationship one last try because I have always loved her, despite the red flags she has been displaying through her immature approach to issues which I can no longer condone.

I hope you both work things out,our waffy forefathers say ''Them no dey take chain tie person leg drag go stream then force water put for em mouth''

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

THE ON/OFF RELATIONSHIP

Hello 

I am an ardent reader of your blog and I really benefit from the advice given by you and bvs on this platform.

I am writing this chronicle on behalf of my friend who is torn between moving forward(which is very difficult)and forgiving her on/off bf abi ex..

I'll refer to her as  ''N'' and her on/off bf as ''P''.....and the koko goes like this;

N is a girl in her late 20s and has been dating P  since we were in university,200L precisely. that was 2007( 8 years ago).and throughout those years they were practically living together because his house was close to our school, even though she sleeps in the school hostel sometimes, like 2 or 3 times a week that's  the reason I said they were practically living together.

So, after our graduation, P decided to go and see her parents in the neighboring state for introduction..it was there that  N's dad discovered that P is not a graduate and was so angry with N, that after training her in the university, all she could do for him was to bring an uneducated man for her to marry ,that it will not happen...after much pleading( which took months), he accepted.

Meanwhile they were still living together in their base throughout her service and after her service. And my issue in this story is that the guy does not even take care of her the way he ought to. she takes care of herself by herself, even takes care of the household with her hard earned money. this guy is not even fine o, en no get money o, but my friend wan gree die for en head....if they have an altercation,he will go as far as Hitting her(my friend mouth na venom shaa).

Recently she got a better offer in another city and  relocated. Then she started seeing the better side of life and looking back to where she came from and the kind of life she was living and the one she's living now, she decided to call it quit.

  That was when problem started, because the guy no gree...when she told me about the breakup,i was so relieved and happy that her eyes have cleared. only for her to chat me up again that she's considering taking him back ,that their pastor has been begging, his friends are calling,P has been calling and crying that he'll change his ways bla bla bla....I just tire for my friend.

ohhh......I forgot. this guy is a womanizer o. can you imagine after meeting her parents for introduction, he didn't go back to finalize the marriage plans, he didn't call the parents to give them reason(s)for not coming back. the intro. happened about 3 years ago or so. and again they have gone for marriage class in their church o.

  The one wey pain me pass now be say....he wants reconciliation so that they'll get married in sept.as e don see say my friend don get better job.

is that not wickedness? i am so scared for my friend because she doesn't know what she's about to encounter in that marriage....so I dey beg all of una make una follow me bash am small or better still advice am because I will send her this link.maybe the comments will reset her brain.

Some relationships are dead on arrival but our stubborness makes all blind to the handwriting on the wall..if she doesnt listen to anyone then let her learn the hard way...its the best teacher!