What are your expectations?
FORMER RUNS GIRL GIVES TESTIMONY OF MARRIAGE MADE IN HEAVEN!
Hi Stella I appreciate the good work you are doing and am glad it is touching lives positively cause that's the most important.
When I read negative stories about marriage I get worried cause I have been married for 7 years and each day seems just like yesterday......
I met my hubby in my office and 6months after we tied the knots, my family was worried but I believed in my heart we were meant to be with no doubt whatsoever cause truthfully I didn't have an ounce of doubt.
My husband is my bestest of friends,not even the kids can take this position.When we started dating we came to an agreement on no lies,no matter how it might affect the other person ,we promised to always be truthful,communication line is always open,friends always wonder why I trust my hubby so much,I really don't know,it came naturally.
When I had our two kids he wasn't around but the third boy he was in the labour room with me,he saw the baby's head come out and this even made him love me more.
Stella my husband worships me,when I pass he always grabs me and I push him away telling him we don old.I weigh 90kg with a big tummy which I am working on seriously.My husband is just a yr older than me so no be say na old papa and one youngie.
Stella my marriage is made in heaven, we have our differences,we quarrel but never go to bed wit it.A friend witnessed us quarrel once but in 5mins time we were laughing and apologising, we made up..
Stella,sometimes i wonder why God has blessed me with a wonderful guy.I used to do runs oh! immediately I met this guy I changed my ways and I made a covenant with God,I never cheated on him,I kept away from friends and made time for my marriage.
I abandoned my job and became a full time housewife not becos I wanted to but I had to make the sacrifice and my hubby never made me regret this decision cause he's been supportive.Now my kids are grown and I now run my business.
I think one of the reasons marriages fail right now is becos people always go after the physical without the spiritual,everyone wants to be the important figure, no one wants to make the sacrifice,you want everything to be just the way you want.
What are your goals for marriage?what are the doubts you have about your fiancee or fiance? have you discussed it with him or her,or are you going to bring it up after you get married? (big mistake)
Sorry for the epistle but I can go on and on cause God has really blessed me and indeed I am blessed.I am writing a book on marriage which might help the young ones.
Sorry for the epistle but I can go on and on cause God has really blessed me and indeed I am blessed.I am writing a book on marriage which might help the young ones.
Stella marriage sweet oh!no be small and by the way we don't have all the money in the world ,our kids go to a good school,we live in a family house,we have a car,I can't afford to fix human hair of 40k,I keep it low but I am enjoying my life. Love you Stellakorks.
Darling thanks.
I have since come to realise that what works for one might not work for the other.
The key to Marriage happiness is hidden and only those who seek,find it,those who run in with physical longer throat and expectations run back out when their expectations are not met.I am happy for you.
Marriage is not easy at all,I am so pissed with my hubby right now and asking myself why i married him,in 5 minutes i would be blessing GOD for blessing me with someone as understanding and as good as him.LMAO!
Marriage is not easy,let us please encourage each other in anyway that we can.
Okay na
ReplyDeleteStella,i would appreciate if u post this my comment ooh...
DeletePoster i like your story but u didnt give us the main gist....what type of runs were u doing,how did u meet your dh,did he know your type of lifestyle.what made you change your lifestyle n how..have they been challenges.
Thank you
Wow!
DeleteSo happy for you boo.
May God continue to bless you!
Thank God for you madame poster
DeleteMay God help already married and intending married people
**lululiscious**
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DeleteBest chronicles ever! Thanx for sharing
DeleteI'm genuinely happy for you
DeleteThis sue sounds like a runs girl...like they just have her hope....lol
DeleteOkay.
ReplyDeleteAll Glory be to God
DeleteGood.
ReplyDeleteAm happy for you.
Thank God for your life.
THELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeleteI thank God for you dear poster..
Lord ΐ ask that you make my marriage heaven on earth when the time comes..
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
THELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeleteI thank God for you dear poster..
Lord ΐ ask that you make my marriage heaven on earth when the time comes..
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
Nice 1 , hope long throat babes wey dey here looking for millionaire they learn!!
ReplyDeletepeace of mind and happiness is da koko
as the rich also cry.
Stella I like how you keep it real. You make me love u same way you make "hate" ur attitude sometimes and this goes to marriage.. like you said, one minute you regretting you married year DH next you're blessing God for him..If we can hold on on the positive attributes more.. Thanks poster for sharing your beautiful story! My DH is more of a *jnr* brother.., you know that relationship right? Lool Marriage is bliss if you open ur inner eyes. @SHB
ReplyDeleteI will continue saying that RUNZ girls makes the best wife...
ReplyDeleteForget all these holy holy mother Mary kind of girls...na den dey do worse...
I have a doctor friend that does D and C and the majority of girls that patronize him are those kind of Mary amaka local girls...we had a serious argument about it and he invited me to his clinic to see things for my self...
I even saw one that dressed like a deeper life member....
Oriegwu!!!....
Poster,thanks for sharing...
Lmao u funny I swear
DeleteIt is true oooh.....the girls you see doing abortion,i get shocked..
DeleteMy fiance is a doctor,so there was this day i went to see him.then a patient came inside, chubby malo girl wearing gown that was sweeping the floor..this girl was 3 month preggy n had done an abortion with a quack doctor who collected 60k from her n was having complication.that was her second abortion
There was also one day,he was driving me home,he saw this girls(2 girls),said he knew dem n wanted to say hi,then one of the girls was hiding her face cos i knew ha.when i asked him why the other acted that way,he said she wants to do an abortion.....n dis girl can do holy mary
DeleteYour boyfriend/friend is deir aiding and abetting murder and you think it is something to be happy about/ brag about simply because you are trying to prove a point that holy holy girls are worse than Runz girls. Keep deceiving yourselves and encouraging mordern day prostitution. What you're looking for up and down, you would soon find it.
DeleteInstead of seeing the good in testimony, how God does not discriminate against anyone and would have mercy on whomever he would have mercy on... you're there justifying Runz girls... what a pity!
Whatever happened to doctor patient confidentiality? Huh?
DeleteGod bless ur marriages bvs
ReplyDeleteI would have said this is okija wife writing but she dnt write oloriburuku lol
ReplyDeleteAbeg, leave my sister okija wife alone ooooo !!!
DeleteNa English poster type o! No be yoruba... I wonder how u think say na ur Okija wife? na wa for u o!
DeleteLook here Stella, stop chewing my comments! Ogini bu ifea? Why are you so biased? With your plenty annoying rules. Don't post soap opera, don't derail, bla bla bla. Did I commit any of the above crimes? I spent energy to type, not solar power. Be guided!
ReplyDeleteWhere is ...it is well Mr?
DeleteAwesome .............................
ReplyDeleteam really happy for you! I know some big mouths will still say karma is a bitch and bla bla let us not forget that God said I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy ,believe me grace differs but in all let's live a good life.enjoy your marriage na God do am for you
ReplyDeleteU already said it so who is d big mouth?
DeleteGbam!!!
DeletePoster am so happy for dear. May God continue to bless ur marriage.
DeleteYou're lucky to have that kinda man. God has really blessed you.
ReplyDeleteTNK U Poster! I luv ur write up So help me God!
ReplyDeleteThis life is a hot pot of beans. I thank God for your marriage poster. The rest of you, DONT QUIT YOUR JOB. Unless your man is rich like here or else you will see something
ReplyDeleteGod favoured you.
ReplyDeleteHe wiped your sins and made your life beautiful
May your home be blessed.
Thanks for sharing. May the good lord continue to keep and bless your marriage.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing. May the good lord continue to keep and bless your marriage.
ReplyDeleteNice WriteUp Dear, I Always Tel People that Care To Listen, that God has A Purpose for Bringing Each of Us Into the world, No matter the Family u r born Into, U can Always Make the Best Out Of It, No Matter What Ur Passing Through, God Is Never Late, Dear I Wish U All The Best In Your Marriage.... Oluwa Please Give Me the Perfect Wife, Because I no get Power to shout... Lolz
ReplyDeleteone thing i know is that marriage is sweet and can remain same when you marry right.
ReplyDeleteif you are ready to marry also be ready to do these;
know what you want in your spouse, if its material thing be ready to enjoy it with its consequences bt if its true love and happiness its out there and still not readily available. in all you choose you, you must work more to make it count.
know that you must not win that argument. be ready to forgive and move on.
live according to the family budget.
no third party at all no matter how close they are. quarrel and settle it within yourself
be faithful to your marriage vows. trust and pray for each other.
NB: that divorce can be avoided. it all depends on you.
marriage is so sweet. let yours work and tell us the story cheers.
I think most ladies really need to their Cancel dream life and face reality
ReplyDeleteAnd here i am still searching *straight face*
ReplyDeleteHahahahah... no worry u go see
DeleteYou see!! No one understands this universe & the tricks it plays, imagine a goodlookn sister with the fear of God in her, yet BF sef she no see.. We're all pawns on a chess board played by whoever.
ReplyDeleteA truly God-fearing good looking sister will never lack a good husband, and she doesn't need a BF. What she needs is a good friend that'll bcom a fiancee and then husband
DeleteI'm not really happy wt the poster for including her runs detail in the post. What for? To encourage those that re in it? To me, it was absolutely unnecessary. But I thank God for your marriage anyway. The Lord shows mercy on whom He wants
And here i am still searching *straight face*
ReplyDeleteHappy to u
ReplyDeleteam also proud to b a married man..
Marriage sweet ooo.. For person wey understand am
Hmmmmm....
ReplyDeleteYou should have left the runs part out.
Thank God u are happy and u have peace of mind.
Y? Is it not part of the testimony? That beauty can come from ashes? I think God had mercy on her when she became truly repentant & changed her ways. We do not know the intent of her runs. Only God can see the true heart of man. Still its best to do what is right (i.e not be a runs geh). Poster may God continue to engrace u & lift up ur home.
DeleteNo its not part of the testimony darling, her runs has nothing to do with her marraige.
Deletemadam 27, try n relate d runs n d sweet marriage, hnnmmmm,
DeleteExactly! Just not necessary
DeleteHmmm,thnk God for your life.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is sweet when the foundation is laid on Jesus Christ the Solid Rock.
ReplyDeleteCongrats to you. U changed ur ways. Some will never change but who r we to judge?
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm....
ReplyDeleteYou should have left the runs part out.
Thank God u are happy and u have peace of mind.
Why?
DeleteBecause there are so many people that are looking for reasons to do runs..and this might be a reason for them, the poster just got lucky, her getting a good husband didn't have anything to do with her doing runs, and someone has commented above that runs girls make the best wives ( I don't know if that is true or not) but it sends the wrong message. And we have young girls who visit this blog as a source of inspiration.
DeleteI think I see your point of view@27little things..
DeleteMakes sense.
Hmmmm. No she ain't lucky, she's blessed. MERCY found her.
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ReplyDeleteWow!
ReplyDeleteGod bless you "Sisterly" for sharing...
What caught my attention is how you left friends of old... the youthful exuberance and focused on making your marriage work!!
I am sooo impressed!
May God keep blessing your home.
Old things are passed away.
Behold the future is yours..
Marriage is beautiful.
Let no one discourage the future brides and grooms.. I can't deprive someone of this bliss.lol
Of course there will be issues here and there but how you handle it like poster rightfully stated determines how everything plays out.
Thank you Lord for everything.
I fervently pray my single bvs here find their purfect rib!
The ones having challenges will witness a turn around..
If you are been molested,abused and tormented...please take a walk,even if it is temporarily,pray from a distance.
God bless.
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DeleteTrue talk. Endurance, resilience, perseverance.. all the same meaning. Joined with prayers, is what can make marriage a success. May God help us all.
DeleteA Woman filled with wisdom @iphiederie. You always say it as it is and God bless you for that and when you pop invite me o, mofe wa je rice
DeleteSue and sisi.. God bless!
Delete@Tolu.. lol..i will invite you dear..tnx
My dear u are lucky ooh, plz we need more of this chronicles so that people who are considering being a single mum can ve a change of heart, not every woman has time for marriage wahala abeg life is too short.
ReplyDeleteBless u
ReplyDeleteOh wow****takes a deep breath**...
ReplyDeleteI was getting sick and tired of reading d ugly marriage tales here menh!!!..its depressing and definitely keeps scarin the singles....
Poster,am immensely happy for u...I read ur "epistle' with a wide grin on my face...I could feel and sense ur happiness frm here...
Love is beautiful...marriage is a wonderful institution ordained by God and involves a lot of commitment and hardwork frm both parties...May God bless ur hubby for makin an honorable woman out of u....
May God bless ur home more so that the joy,happiness and peace of mind u feel won't eva end....Am so excited on ur behalf..chai...
Obi atogbugom eziokwu m n'ile...
Chysuga or whatever. Those ugly marriage stories are sent in by people who are hurting and need counsel. You're such an ugly person and I didn't notice it just today.
DeleteAnonymous oloshi gbogbo leave chysugar alone ooo!,she's not the causer of ur loneliness and childlessness!
DeleteI also thank God for my marriage. Sometimes I ask myself if am dreaming. My husband has changed so much. He's so concerned about my welfare, does things for me. I remember when we were always fighting. My sister if someone tells you prayers don't work abeg slap d person for me. I wish I can send my story here but my family full for here.
ReplyDeleteLmao! One minute I am asking God why he made me marry a man like my hubby, the next minute am blessing God for the day I met him. Marriage is sweet sha and I definitely enjoy being married. God bless ur home poster.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm, happy for you @ poster....... I pray I find my own (DH) soon.
ReplyDeleteJust a matter of time!
ReplyDeleteEven if it's brief! Be happy whenever d sun shines.
Stella that second paragraph its me
ReplyDeleteNa so, just cuzone you got lucky doesn't mean every other runs girl would.
ReplyDeleteMy dear I love you for living within ur means. God bless you.
ReplyDeleteI enjoy reading this particular chronicle of hope, because she kept it real, although, I believe in Karma ... But GOD shows mercy on whom HE chooses to, and none is without sin.
ReplyDeleteLet me share my own marriage experience, with the believe that it can give one or two persons hope. For many that have been reading my old blog until my new blog, I have never shied from saying my marriage was not a fairy tale one, because I don't believe in fairy tale love stories, and of course it has been used against me few times. But, I stood on my grounds, because I wanted newlyweds to be prepared for what lies ahead, to avoid break-ups.
July 27th-28th, will make it my 14th year of marriage. The first early years were tough, because we were finding a common ground for our inter-tribal and inter-religious marriage, coupled with the usual ups and downs in marriage.
Later, we compromised on the cultural differences, and we both accepted the same faith ... but there was the 3rd party presence, which of course, had it's multiplying effects.
We relocated to USA in 2012, and I tell you people, I am so enjoying my marriage to the fullest! I have never been this happy! Like it is said, happiness is relative! I am always prudent, so money was not a very big issue, we simply managed, but there were other little things that mattered so much to me, and he is doing them!
Yes! The environment helped! It is now just two of us! When we quarrel, we settle asap! He said, there is never a dull moment around us because we can tease each other and have sense of humour, we can find each other's trouble and we are good at making babies!{he threatened me with baby #6, when I insisted, I wanted to work} Infact, few minutes ago, we just finished teasing and quarreling with each other over something we read together ... he is sleeping beside me, while I am typing, right now.
So, marriage is a beautiful institution, not a fairy tale movie, it has it's sweet, sour and bitter moments, simply take it a day at a time. If both male and females enter with the attitude to work hard towards it, love each other, always ready to forgive, pray all the time and most importantly, be patient, we would have hope stories to share and laugh about in future. There is no magic wand or Cinderella god's mother or shortcut to it!
You can read more here;
http://www.thenitty-gritty.com/2014/01/anti-clutter_21.html
http://www.thenitty-gritty.com/2014/07/yall-invited_26.html
Nitty.
poster am flabberwhelmed. soo touching. i especially lik d part u said u cant afford 40k hair but stil happy n contented. i pray ur testimony remains permanent n may d good Lord continue to strengthen ur marriage. am inspired.
ReplyDeletehad tears in my eyes while i read. kip it up. i prayGod blesses me wit a good man n a good home....amen
ReplyDeleteThat is what is call grace.Grace make someone unique.Happy for u
ReplyDeleteMarriage is beautiful! With its ups and downs it is still beautiful especially when you have Jesus Christ at the center of it all. It's all about God. Take God away from a marriage and chronicles go full everywhere.
ReplyDeleteWhich human hair is 40k. Abeg dats fake. It's 70k
ReplyDeleteYou are a big fool. Can u even afford 70k
DeleteMarriage is d best tin that can happen to any body,but wen u enter marriage and u let a day pass without communicating to God in prayer my dear u re in for trouble..i am blessed with the best man on earth and i got that tru prayer..prayer is d key to every good marriage cos.d devil is out to destroy many home but wen he sees that u re prayerful he wont get close to.u..hugs to d poster and stella
ReplyDeleteShe may av been a runs gal based on her conditions then... buh frm d write-up, I can say that she is level headed, down to earth, and economical... so... yes, she deserved the man.
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