She is Pregnant!.....GBAM!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
WHEN ANOTHER FALLS PREGNANT FOR HIM
Hi Stella I will really like to remain anonymous,I am in a serious situation at the moment and I need serious mature advises and not Insults please.My story goes thus: I am a young beautiful lady in my mid twenties.I am married to one of the most amazing man I have come across,and I have a handsome son for him.
Our marriage is 1yr plus and DH gave me the shocker of my life 3days ago about a girl being pregnant for him.He has been crying and begging non stop,apparently I left the country to birth my child and during that period he got some girl pregnant.She is 5months gone already in the pregnancy,she told him she was pregnant when she was 2months but he told her to get rid of it;she disappeared and then suddenly reappeared last week.so he had to tell me.
I have been sooo worried I have cried non stop.I love this guy,my marriage is still very young.needless to say i am extremely disappointed,he has been keeping a sober face since he told me.I dont even know what to do,I hate divorce and I have a child I dont want to see him grow up without a father figure.
DH will take up responsibility for the child but he vowed he doesnt have anything to do with the girl,that she was just some random babe like that.He says we should not tell anyone for now,how is everyone going to take it,my wedding was a celebrated wedding in January 2014.
I have been soo bitter,I love him, I dont know if I can trust him,I dont know if I can look him in the face anymore.I am confused and need mature people to advise me.
WOW,abeg let me read comments..I wouldnt know what to say right now even if i tried!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
BREAKING UP VIA SOCIAL MEDIA
Hmmmm!!! *Sad sigh*
Love is just like a knife that cuts both ways.
I think your relationship is dead and he just looked for a way out...just let him go and find a way to deal with your dead libido issue or face your work...you will be fine.
WAIT!
...why couldnt your boss wait till Monday work day? *side eyes*
BREAKING UP VIA SOCIAL MEDIA
I need advise urgently. So on Sunday night my boss called me in the presence of my fiancee for official matters and the moment I picked the call I was like ''good evening dear''....
mind you this is not the first time I call my boss dear and my fiancee is aware of the kinda relationship I have with my boss (note: we all in the office have this sort of informal relationship with my boss, like father daughter or son relationship, no string attached I swear), my guy was there all through the call and he heard our conversation, it was strictly business, so after the call I went to the kitchen to finished what I was doing and then I told him I wanted to go home( that's my own house).
He told me he wanted to talk to me, then we had a misunderstanding about the dear I called my boss, right now I wish I never said that "dear" because I never felt it was going to be an issue but what baffles me was when I got home, ( my house is like a 10mins walk from his) and went online to chat him up and apologise, so I went on whatsapp and dropped a message that I was sorry, so when I noticed he wasn't responding to my whatsapp and I could see he was online, so I decided to go to his bbm and ping him, just as I got to bbm I noticed he already updated something like ''one down the search continues'' and started using pix he snapped with my friend on his dp..
Now let me say something here I know he has feelings for this my particular friend of mine i know it no doubt, he told me and of recent he even reminded me that he is falling in love with someone else because i am kinda having sexual issues now( I lost all sexual libido and urge for sex so making love has been so difficult and I know it's been more difficult for him being a man) and God knows I had sworn to make this relationship work before this happened.
I am so confused right now, my anger is why couldn't he tell me it was over, he waited for me to get home and he breaks up with me through bbm and already rubbing another girl to my face and yeah I deleted him from my bbm because I couldn't stand it,. Please I want to hear people's opinion abeg
Hmmmm!!! *Sad sigh*
Love is just like a knife that cuts both ways.
I think your relationship is dead and he just looked for a way out...just let him go and find a way to deal with your dead libido issue or face your work...you will be fine.
WAIT!
...why couldnt your boss wait till Monday work day? *side eyes*
Alright
ReplyDeletePoster 2, I think ur fiancé is just angry at the moment and trying to spite u, it's not enough to break up the relationship and he did not really break up with u, if anything u broke up wt urself. Ppl can say stuffs when they r angry and all u can do now is av a conversation with him and know he is angry...u r taking his reaction too far although I hate jelly boys who go on social media to do stuffs like that, why update such status when u can talk to ur girl?? Na chewing gum boys dey do that kain thing.
DeletePoster 1, dnt know where to start, u need professional counselling for urself first and subsequently for u and Le Hubs. U also need spiritual fortification cos this is the beginning of a VERY LONG journey into the future, it's almost like going into a marriage full of baggages, the Lord is ur muscle! E-hugs
U try! Even if na ur papa call u, dear is soooo wrong ma
DeleteI only have word for poster 1: Sweety forgive and accept him back BUT TELL HIM, ur son must never lack, he would take care of him 100%and you too,100% attention, there must always be food on the table, and after work he should report himself home if he goes to a place he doesn't tell u,hes finished your son and you comes first..then u can add any other thing I didnt mention/remember. Straight and serious face when telling him,dont shed tears or feel remorseful,borne face let him understand you are damn serious..sorry love the pain would pass
DeletePoster 1 i kno u feel sad and dissapointed but u better sit dowwn in ur husbands house, he cn taake care of d child. God would give u d strength to carry on. Cos if u leave that house d lady would come in. Just trust God .. The Bible already tells us God would not allow anything tht we cant handle come our way...he knows u can handle this OK.
DeleteIt would end well
@poster1: your husband is very irresponsible.......kia,he couldn't even use condom n he has. 2 even release inside the said lady.
DeleteWill just read comments biko,cant deal.
Poster 1: its pretty obvious u ll forgive him, u luv him yea, u feel dissapointed yea, yur marriage is new and u hate divorce, d way u wrote d story, its obvious u ll forgive him. And dats fine. Forgive him. But u may not be able to trust him again, and if u do well.... lemme just move to poster 2
DeletePoster 2: i tink yur man acts like a baby, he ddnt break up cuz u calld yur boss dear, i tink d relationship has been over for sometime but he just ddnt tell ya. And den he uploaded pics him and yur frnd? How silly is dat. My dear, yu deserve better. U ll find someone else.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
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Eyah @poster one....sorry for this betrayal. Chai ds kind thing dey pain ehn. I kip saying d worst pain Eva in life....is heartbreak(emotional) simply bkos there's no medication for it. ND no matter d advice we give to u here u will still continue to hurt, only God and time can heal u. So go to God in prayer and ask for strength and d wisdom of Solomon to handle ds issue....keeping in mind that He will not allow u to be tempted beyond wat u can bear. Plz dnt leave ur marriage, if u go, in less than six months d babymama will move in. It will be hard to forgive and u will Neva forget Bt eventually d sting will become a dull ache. Don't tell anybody yet just as ur husband pleaded....if u do, he will resent u for embarrassing him and u will no longer have any leverage over him. Kip his secret....and if eventually it comes out(make sure nt frm u, evn if its frm u, make sure he Neva knws) u will alwyz have that leverage over him that even wen he betrayed u deeply, u stood by him and kept his secret. He wld alwyz want to plz u and make u happy. D trust now is d issue....na only God fit help u to trust that man again. So pray. It wont be easy bt it can work. Let God prevail.
DeletePoster two...kpele my dear. Dude broke up with u sinceeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, but Na now u knw. Its not easy but plz walk away. Wen a guy tells u he's falling in love with someone else wat do u xpect. Kpele love. It is well. One thing I've since come to realise.....d moment a guy stops loving u, there is nothing u can do or say to make him love u bak.....u may beg him into dating u again....bt then it will only be out of pity, Neva luv. Let him go. Occupy urself with work and other things and quickly look for a new boo, d best way to get over a guy si with another guy. #wink.
Hmmm...it is well...
DeleteNo.1: Your hubby seems contrite. For that reason, I think u should forgive him. You both need to hav a serious heart to heart discussion on the reason he did what he did, & exact a promise on not trying that again without serious consequences. You need to also discuss on what will happen to the child, his exact responsibilities & how his relationship with his baby mama will be. Every thing has to be aired openly. You also hav to make him realise that since he betrayed ur trust it will take time to earn it back, & he should work at it. Mainly by being accountable at all times. Also greviances should always be aired & not hidden. Two of u should get closer to God & pray together. Godly counsel & prayer will also help. Also try to avoid third party interference for a quicker resolution. May God be with u.
No.2: Move on! A man who loves u will stay & help u overcome whatever issues u ar having. I think u should reddress the way u address ur boss. It is always best to keep things professional at all times with employers to maintain ur integrity & professionalism. Your boss may be cool, but its wrong to take undue advantage of that (even if it is the norm for others). It is also not wise to address ur boss as 'dear' in front of ur spouse. Even if the spouse may know that there is nothing in it, this is out of respect & not to give the devil a chance to enter. For this ur case, ur calling ur boss 'dear' one time too often may have been the last straw to hav broken the camel's back for ur guy. It is off putting & he may have begun to think that maybe there is something in it. Still the easy way he ported to ya friend tells me he was not 'all in' in the relationship. So don't sweat it & all the best the next time around. O, b4 I go pls try to get professional help for ur sexual issues. Its really important to ur well being as a woman. *Hugs*
Poster1:-) Look at my face here just forgive him you are not God na im destiny .as e don apologise dey cry meaning he truly and homestly love u so don screw up ur pussy by uself , just forgive him and stand gidigbam behind him , So dat ashawo no go come blackmail am come use da chance spoil ur own life.be free wit him nd take him as ur son , so u can be safe.
Deletebe his best friend from now dear dont let dat whore win his heart over .
na ur husby take kia of him.
if u do just as I talk I swear u go .buy ram kill fo mi and find me to say tnk u.
Hallelujah.
Poster 1, I dunno why people here are acting as if your husband's dick mistakenly fell into the lady's Virgina. Truth is that your husband is irresponsible and this is not the first time he is sleeping with girls without protection...He also didn't sleep with this girl that got pregnant only once without condom...
DeleteThis is the last thing you want to hear right now but the truth is bitter n the truth is that your husband is irresponsible! But or marriage is young and he seems remorseful that he got caught.
The ball is in your court now, please do not mis use this chance by playing the meek wife. How u handle this will set the the precedent for what he thinks he can get away with in the future.
Calmly sit him down, tell him u have forgiven him but you do not trust him to do the right thing by everyone, so u want the lady's number. The two of u should call d lady there n then n he is to inform d lady that henceforth, all communication is to be via you n you alone. He mustn't contact her or go out n meet her without u there...if she tries to contact him for any reason, your husband must immediately forward her request to u. His slogan hence forth must be "speak with my wife".
Make sure u become the middle man between the two of them n I'm sure he will agree...u know why? He is desperate n ashamed and he has a secret to keep..
Number 2, threaten him... Even if u won't leave him, tell him u will if u ever have any cause to suspect him in anyway (please say it this way cos the wider the sentence, the more potential things it can cover.) He can use his imagination to determine what behaviour would be termed as suspicious.
Finally, make him get a test...tell him its either he listens to u as his wife n do d test or you will have to tell the people that can make him do it (his family...he he he) You might think this is a small act, but the psychological impact of such on a man is not small.
I'm not saying go about stamping your foot in d house and acting mad o...all this or action must be devoid of violence and tears...trust me, your calmness will be d scariest thing he ever seen. U need to quit crying n take charge of your home..
This may all seem like a lot, but remember that lady is no longer a mere side chick, she has got herself the ultimate upgrade which is baby mama...and u know what they say, every baby mama is a potential wife..Goddluck!
OHHHHHHHH.......EBELEBE!!!
ReplyDeleteLET ME SIT AND READ COMMENTS!!!
But men sha... I am so beginning to lose respect for men. Second story I am hearing in one week. Ki lo n se awon okurin yi. My dear poster 1, what can we do, we are african women and got no choice but to forgive ... Pschew. Pls don't take any child as your own o.infact don't kno what to say.pele dear
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DeleteU be witch no wonder ppl dey run from you try n reread ur wicked ur coment
u loose respect for men dat include ur father bah?? Crap for urself .hehehe dont forget dia are billions of men in the world ,so next time use ur brain n not ur pussy....
kikikikiki
ReplyDeleteI promised myself that i will not write anything today sha..... even though i feel like writing a book on poster 1 and her story. Till 2mrw sha...
Anyways,.....Guru marahaji, fix it
Please write... I'd like to read lol
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DeleteJst that Guru marahaji has killed it... Lol
DeleteAbeg write sometin 4 ur number one fan 2 read
DeleteYou're tired of yarning rubbish with yo bomb pussy stories.
DeletePoster 1, you would be having a ste0 child son....sincerely there is nothing you can do...forgive your husband.... so sad
DeleteYES poster 2,u are saying,you have nothing with your boss.if your boss is not a white man even if he is ...i tell u-u are lying.
Well your relationship has reached,it EXPIRY DATE N DAY.the bobo have seen you finished n is tired n now falling in love with your friend...
Please write oooo, I want to read comments!
DeleteHehehehehehehehehehehehe
Pls pls and pls dnt u break my heart oo.
DeleteI was waiting for ur comment, oh *sad**
Poster 1, I don't even know what to say
ReplyDeletePoster 2, Pele you'll be alright. And don't blame it on the sex, he wasn't going to stay anyway
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P1, random babe indeed. Brace yourself up nne, you have a stepson. Forgive him and if your heart still wants stay in the marriage. P2, na wa, hello dear, your boss? Speechless....
ReplyDeletePoster1, Your matter critical ooo
DeletePoster2, you've gone tooo far with the dear thingy, if it was your fiance that sed that ow would you feel?...
Certainly doesn't sound random to me either but hey.. What do we know lol
DeletePoster 1..My only worry is sexually transmitted diseases. Please go and and get checked out just in case. God bless you
DeleteAbi? Which kain office be that where they call their boss dear? Maybe na all those shop setting turned office, computer and photocopy center. Dat one no be office na omice lmao!
DeletePoster one your husband is very irresponsible. Random babe indeed yet he had unprotected sex with her and put his family at risk lol.
ReplyDeleteDo whatever will give you peace but don't make your husband the victim here. Only victim is that child brought forth by two irresponsible adults
Gbam!!!
DeleteStells, these 2 chronicles dey very serious ooo
ReplyDelete- ur DH? His moodiness and all? Adonbilivim
- Oriegwu!!! Seems he has been looking for an excuse afterall. Plus u knw he has feelings for ur friend? Hian.
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Poster 1, you just have to forgive him. Marriage isn't always rosy. Poster 2, God help you...
ReplyDeletePoster 1,
ReplyDeleteYour husband is a pig!!...imagine making love to the so called random woman without condom...
OMGosh!!!...
Don't allow him touch you again without going for test...
Make sure you suffer him before you forgive him.....
He is telling you not to tell anybody as if he will condone such if it were to be other way round...
Nonsense!!...
Poster 2,
Dude was fed up with you and was looking for something to hold on to...
Life goes on jare...
Move on!!...
But how can you call your boss dear??...I can't even imagine my workers calling me dear!!!...
Hian...
"Starting when"??...
Gbam
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DeletePoster 1,your hubby is a great pig. Random babe?. Lol. She is no random babe. She is a strong baby mama cum side chick.
DeleteThis is the time to make him pay. You must tell someone.Maybe your mum. He is very guilty now and he will do anything to make you happy. Ask him to give you so so amount. Bank it n chill. Whether you demand for cash or not,a child n his mama,who maybe plotting to overthrow you dry.
P2,abegi
Pls work on your libido first.
Leave ashewo man
Linda abeg pity her na ,poster -1 be strong is not easy though ,accept him and stand by him ,do married men sleep with girls this days without condom ,even single guys dont ,for him to accept am sure he disvirgined her,poster take heart not easy ,even me i dont know what i will do if this comes my way ,just accept and bear with him .I will tell you a story their is this guy his been married to a wonderful woman for 9 years no child ,he cheated on his wife and got another woman pregnant the wife forgave him and accepted the child after one year again he cheated again and got another woman pregnant ,and he told the new preggy please abort this child gave her huge some of money ,that he cant face his wife with this anymore ,abeg i done tire to type,story to long na india film
DeleteIt depends on the relationship you have with your subordinates/boss.I do not call my use dear for my current boss, because we are not that close, but I use to have a boss I still call dear/sir; even though he has since resigned from the establishment. I refer to my friendly customers and colleagues as "Dear", there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. For my subordinates, it doesn't stop me from giving them a memo when they misbehave, for customers, it doesn't stop me from giving them a piece of my mind when they step out of line.
DeletePOSTER 1....your husband was nice to tell you the truth....
DeleteIn my mum‘s case,my dad dint say anything oooh.until,after he passed away one woman now came to the house,that one smal 11 year old boy was our father’s son...and she wanted his share of our papa property......
Laugh no gree us cos my dad always spends his money immediately.my mum made sure,we got the best education.the house was in her name..there was no will sef.. THOSE DAYS
Did you say forgive??? Like seriously????
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Poster 1. Am sorry to say but your husband is very irresponsible how can he have sex wit a side chick without protection. Don't even leave d marriage but be careful just know that he might do worse. Always have a back up plan. Don't allow him touch you until you make him go for series of tests. Just be strong for your baby.
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ReplyDeleteChronicle is what I love most on this blog. Poster 1: I really understand how you feel, pls take it easy ok. For the sake of your child, divorce is not an option at all. You have to forgive him, but don't trust him again. Ever since I saw one chat btw my husband and one gal on facebook, though he denied not having anythg serious wih her, I don't trust him anymore, and I don't give him chance to chat with them again. We exchanged password, cos he suggested it when he was begging me. So right now I snoop a lot, and I love it. Finally, hand everythg over to God, and bear it in mind that men are not loyal anymore. Imagine he had an unprotected sex at the first place, I advice you go and do HIV test too. Poster 2: your guy has been looking for a way to park you since, so deal with it. Just pull yourself together and go find yourself another man.
DeleteChronicle is what I love most on this blog. Poster 1: I really understand how you feel, pls take it easy ok. For the sake of your child, divorce is not an option at all. You have to forgive him, but don't trust him again. Ever since I saw one chat btw my husband and one gal on facebook, though he denied not having anythg serious wih her, I don't trust him anymore, and I don't give him chance to chat with them again. We exchanged password, cos he suggested it when he was begging me. So right now I snoop a lot, and I love it. Finally, hand everythg over to God, and bear it in mind that men are not loyal anymore. Imagine he had an unprotected sex at the first place, I advice you go and do HIV test too. Poster 2: your guy has been looking for a way to park you since, so deal with it. Just pull yourself together and go find yourself another man.
DeleteChai, men are now confirmed dogs on heat.....
DeleteN1, dis is marriage, I will advice u to forgive him for dis one since he had shown remorse but tell him dt its d last time u will ever forgive him if he ever try dt shit again, weda it's with a random gal or not. Just let go of dis one for now, n pray for ur man too bc all these side chick's ain't loyal at all. Dey always know when to strick. Pele bc all will be well. N2, d guy had been tired of d rship long ago, he only found an easy way out. Just let him be for now n work on ur libido, believe me if he is urs, he will find his way back b4 u move on. But try and move on with ur life n love will surely locate u.
ReplyDeleteHun??? Forgive???? Orisirisi oooooo!
DeletePoster 1... When she gives birth simple take the child and raise him or her like yours..that way u would be cutting off unnecessary communication BTW her and your husband...
ReplyDeleteAnd BTW just forgive him but make him sweat before you do.
You said he is an amazing husband so look at it as a silly mistake, forgive and move on.
Wish you all the best.
Poster 2 pls throw away that anoufia out of you mind...he is a senseless child in a grown body.. So silly the way he ended everything and moved on immediately. BTW I don't understand you when you said he told you he has feelings for your friend. As in he had no respect or regard for you @all.
Fling him away and move on... He ain't worth shi shi.
Babe but why should the poster take another woman's child when the mother is alive? I think it's better for the husband to take responsibility financially and the child can visit them in their house and go... I don't think that woman is random like the hubby is making out.. And I'm sure he's been supporting her financially because what married man has sex with a random unprotected? Hmmmmmm
DeleteThe way some pple say 'take d child & raise him like urs' as if someone did not carry d pregnancy for 9months & went through hell to birth d child. Did u even seek d opinion of d pregnant lady. Or u think she can willingly hand d baby over to another woman. Abeggy d man unofficially has two wives & two homes.
DeletePoster 1 I knw it isn't easy but dt is d easiest way,u can take d child from her or tell ur husband to take the child from her or they shld sign legal documents concerning upkeep and the rest of the child. Also make sure u do a DNA test to confirm if the child is his.also make ur husband sign an undertaking Concerning his rlnship with d baby mama. I have like 3 aunties who raised their husbands children as deir own in deir house. It saved a lot of stress,though it isn't easy.
DeleteSo she should forgive him????
DeleteIf it were to be the other way round, would he have forgiven her????
Hmmmmmmmmm oooooooooo!
.take the child ke? u think the girl didn't intentionally plan it ..u think she'll release the child..she has seen a sweet guy who cannot control that thin between his legs ..pls abeg that's out of the question...
DeleteNarrative one! Anyone that tells you marriage is sweet all the way is only lying to you. Your marriage is very young, my dear your husband will not be the first to get somebody pregnant and he will not be the last. It's not easy, but forgive him, accept the child and norture him or her like your own. The did has been done.
ReplyDeleteAnyone that tells you to leave your husband will turn around and marry him and you will be filled with regrets. Good luck.
Gbaaaaaam!
DeleteIt is obvious you are not married....accept the child and raise him like ur own.lol
DeleteBut she made a valid point...If she can she shld accept and nurture the child like her own...After all the child is d real victim in this situation...in fact I tink she sounds more married and logical than u anonymous 17:01, that's if u are married ooo...i knw it will hurt, that child will always be a painful reminder of her husbands indiscretion in d past...but honestly...that Child if she eventually accepts and nurtures it may be the one to love her above all others, reason being "gratitude" for loving and accepting him or her even wen she had a choice not to.
DeletePoster 1... When she gives birth simple take the child and raise him or her like yours..that way u would be cutting off unnecessary communication BTW her and your husband...
ReplyDeleteAnd BTW just forgive him but make him sweat before you do.
You said he is an amazing husband so look at it as a silly mistake, forgive and move on.
Wish you all the best.
Poster 2 pls throw away that anoufia out of you mind...he is a senseless child in a grown body.. So silly the way he ended everything and moved on immediately. BTW I don't understand you when you said he told you he has feelings for your friend.
As in he had no respect or regard for you @all.
Fling him away and move on... He ain't worth shi shi.
Simply take d child ko, simply kidnap d child ni. U think dat home breaker doesn't know what she's doing. That baby is her ATM card while d unfaithful nigga is d ATM. She ain't giving up her child for nobody.
DeletePls monitor the woman. Kill her on the delivery bed thru mirror.
DeleteI don't think the gal will allow her to raise her child, when she's still alive. If you are in the pregnant girl's shoe will you accept that?
DeleteI don't think the gal will allow her to raise her child, when she's still alive. If you are in the pregnant girl's shoe will you accept that?
Delete"When she gives birth, take the child..."
DeleteYou think a woman will want to just let go of her child regardless whether it was for another woman's husband? You think she cares about peace in the man's home?
Who knows? The man may have lied to her that he wasn't married. It's a very dicey matter giving that a child is involved
Poster 1: like u have bn planning divorce before d incident... Running away from a problem is creating a distance to d solution... I don't support ur hubby but don't divorce him... That is what a wandering 3rd leg can cause for a man... He is ur husband... C'mon woman; don't take to self pity or crying... Deal! and don't allow that lady to ruin ur home... Trust me, no matter how smart a man thinks he is, a woman is smarter so use ur 2nd sense.... as long as d lady isn't moving in... I repeat, divorce is d least of what u should do...
ReplyDeleteAnother lady?? or the man n the head of the family already ruined their peace forever....na wa o, thank God u r a woman sha....case closed
DeleteMarriage is for better or worse, leaving him isn't the solution. Olori I support
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ReplyDeletePoster 1, this your issue is a dicey one
ReplyDeletePoster2, you can't eat your cake and have it. You wanted to proof to your boss that you're faithful at d detriment of your relationship.. I wish you luck with your sugar daddy. Father daughter relationship with your boss bomb! You no know where ur papa dey?
She thinks we r in kindergarten.
DeletePoster 1. I don't know what to say to you... I'm so sorry about this. Kai!
ReplyDeletePoster 2 : fiance? Like you both are engaged or what? He has put a ring on it and broke up with you this way?
Secondly, you say the issue of sex is making him what? Sex? And you say the said babe is your friend?
I have nothing to say! I feel so sick..
Poster 1, it's hard,but u n hubby would have to sit down and talk things out. I would say forgive him since he's obviously sorry about it. The deed has been done....what if u didn't know of the child?
ReplyDeletePoster2, see call a spade a spade,calling ur boss "Dear" even if he's younger,is all shades of wrong! Having said that,i also think ur Boyfriend,had wanted to break up with u since,he only needed an excuse to and u gave him.
Lol .....talk things out.....very funny....
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ReplyDeletePoster one: please don't even think of leaving your husband. Allow him shoulder responsibility for the child but pray that any affection whatsoever that he has for the lady dies. We as mortals might give advice that might seem somewhat excellent but take everything to God in prayer as he is the ultimate problem solver. Pray and fast strongly against strange women for 7 days and God sure never disappoints his own. A miracle can happen.
Poster 2: it is obvious you loved the guy more than he loved you. Be glad he is gone from your life. How would your bf let you know that he likes your friend, now he is already flauting her. You were in a relationship with a child. But you also have some fault, how would you be calling your boss "dear", that's all shades of wrong in my opinion. Just move on and let bygones be bygones
Poster 1, dnt knw what to say really...I pray God help u fix your home.
ReplyDeletePoster2, dt guy fell out of love with u a long time...pls move on even tho I knw it's hard.
You are gonna be fine.
If only ur friend cld resist him and turn him down...
Poster 1, ur story really got to me. I feel sorry for the pain ur goin thru. I know that feeling of betrayal. Pray, ask God to give u d will no power to forgive ur husband. Leaving is never d answer in this case. Do not leave ur marriage. There re a lot of men with secret children outside, as in a lot. All u need to do is pray to God for direction nd guidance. Forgive ur husband but still show him ur hurt. It's painful.
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ReplyDeleteDon't divorce him, its easy for people to tell you to leave, but don't keep quiet either, call everybody that holds him in high esteem, his Parents, yours, your Pastor. He should be disgraced! What rubbish.m
He wants to save face after messing up.
He should leave this experience with a "scar" that would make it never happen again. All the best.
P2
Im sure that guy did the happy dance inside when you receive that call, he's a coward.
He wasn't into you, imagine! After helping him cook and clean, pele.
Poster 1 this is very good advice, but if I were in your shoes, I would get him to write an apology to you stating what he did. Hold the apology letter, send a copy to your Mum or someone else you trust and use that as your proof just incase he picks up another random girl. Then please make all the demands you can now. If you want money for a business, land etc get it now. You deserve that and so much more. Finally, do NOT sleep with him till he has done every test possible, not only HIV o. Remember other STDs dey. It is well with you and I hope he is smart enough to carry out a DNA test after the child is born. Men when will you all learn? Seriously a lot of men need some serious koboko. Anyway there is no koboko like karma sha.
DeleteGbam! You are right about Poster 1. Imagine the husband saying "she should not tell anyone" as if it is him, he'll still keep it secret by now? The whole village would've hear by now that the woman is not living with the husband again, due to infidelity, and he won't accept sorry at all. Men are something else. Even bible said it "what you don't want someone to do to you, don't do it to another" it seems some husbands don't read their bible anymore. God have mercy! But pls @ poster 1, forgive him.
DeleteHe should be disgraced u said?wot for he killed sumbodi? Y must she advertise herself ontop wetin? Craaap for ursef pa pa paaaa miloooooo !!! shows u nefa comot for ur mama totoh dont worry u go dey alright
DeleteJezebel.cus mi n die.
Sorry about ur ashewo husband.
ReplyDeleteHe should be responsible for d baby.
I hope he's not gonna marry her cos na There wahala dey.. shit happens my dear, take heart.
P2 na from play play we dey get player.
Ur boss and u *side eyes*
So as e give woman Belle outside wahala no dey na till e marry her wahala dey....please define marriage.....u r on a long thing
DeleteHmmmmmmm.....complicated!
ReplyDeletePoster1...its difficult but u Neva know what Gid has in store. Don't walk out of the marriage, what if he was gay. Anyways just let the girl have the baby. And he will support the child. As his punishment, or better still adopt the child. So that seeing the child everyday will be a constant reminder of his sin.
Poster 2, abeg let him go. Some guys can form self righteous till thy kingdom. Let him go, since he enjoys "searching" as per his bbm status. If u beg him and u guys continue, he will forever be suspicious of u. That's the sad truth. Just let him go
Poster 2 u and ur bf anre small children! Very immature things still doing bbm update and dp rubbish! Biko grow the fuck up and find urself a MAN not a boy!
ReplyDeletePoster 1 ur story reminds me of mine oh. Dh went on business trip to calabar and slept with one random girl. Good thing he used protection so no pregnanct. and he came back crying and begging me to forgive becoz I left our home and was staying in a hotel. My dear at the end of the day, I forgave after I gave him 3 very hard tasks to accomplosh including confessing in front of our church leader! He did it all and has been since making it up to me bcoz I was also pregnant at the time. Truth is u can't leave ur husband, he told u and confessed his sins. Forgive him and I know it'll be hard but do what I did, write out his good side and bad side....compare them and ask ur self if ur husband is a good man or not. Only u know the answer. I did that and found out at the end of the day my husband is good to me and will give me anything I ask for.
Pray to God for guidance and make sure DNA test is also done when that girl births. Teach ur husband to use protection if he gets horny next time. It is well! If u need someone to talk to and pray with, let Stella know and I'll drop my details with her.
Your dh Na learner o
DeleteYes DNA test is very neccessary..Thay child might not belong to her husband..I fear all these desperate girls getting pregnant for people's husbands..Its a trap.
DeletePoster 1: I dunno wat to say to you. *lips sealed*. Just follow your instincts. And no, don't leave the marriage yet coz some folks will advise you to do so. Babe, fight for your home. It's yours and yours alone. The pregnant babe might want to use the fact that she is pregnant to demand more from your husband, but show and let her know you r in charge. If possible, if she wants anything, she should go thru you instead of your husband. Get involved and open your eyes coz if you leave that marriage, she will jump into your home. Pray for your husband and pray that God gives you the strength to over come this temptation.
ReplyDeletePoster two: your bf's mind and hrt is far gone with that ur friend. I know how it feels coz av seen it happen to someone I know and love. Get over him. Will be painful but try. D guy is a jackass for breaking up with you thru social media. And as for ur relationship with ur boss, dunno wat to say. If you get into anoda relationship and he calls you when u r with ur boo, answer him with sir to avoid problem. And your boo was looking for a way to break up with u, so this is his moment. Move on
Fo thru her for what? They don't have a business together. P1, better don't mind all these people saying adopt baby or child and mother fo thru you. Recipe for disaster. Because if I were the other woman, I will make life difficult for both husband and wife if you put up such condition. The best is stay out of it! And reality is that your husband has agbere in his dna. He will still do more, so be ready! Start preparing yourself psychologically for his disasters. He isn't the only one, just that his own caught up with him fast. Stay out of their drama o. If you don't,you will let your hubby impregnate her the second time by fighting her o. When you fight her, your hubby wont like it and he will begin to perceive that you hate his child. So many things can go wrong from there. He will forget he wronged you that time when he impregnated the lady. Focus will be on "you hate my child,you want to divide my children". On e he gets that notion, he will have more sympathy for the new child and visit more often, rather than the child visiting often and then, you will hear another baby is on the way! Shom ye e?
DeletePoster 1-
ReplyDeleteI am somewhat lost for he right advice.
You should prolly forgive him.
Looks a case of a prodigal son. Agaracha has returned.
You know what, get a clear head and think straight about the matter.
Hhugs
Poster 2- you call your boss "dear"
Huh? Really?
*scratch head *
Hmnnnn! I don't understand that level of informality at allllllll.
All the best to you as you accept your boyfriend's breakup with you
Women always been @ the loosing side!!!
DeleteCan't deal mehn!!
Poster 2.. which kind of office do u work in that u call ur boss dear?? Even if he calls u dear u have to still maintain ur respect for him and address him appropriately.. As for your bf let him go.. if it wasn't that u called ur boss dear it would have been that u like wearing braids too much or u wear only red nail polish so u may be a witch.. he wld have tot of any flimsy reason to break up with you.. As for your friend if she dates him make sure u give her otapiapia.. Dnt wait for karma..
ReplyDeletePoster 1.. An sorry dear but u are in for a long ride of an uncomfortable marriage.. the girl will have that child the only thing u can do is to pray for her to have miscarriage if not.. She will forever be in ur husband's life.. she will be calling to ask for money for diapers, milk, school fees etc and u know what they say about Okafor's law.. Even if u take the child she will show up at it house whenever she feels like bcos she wants to visit her child which u won't deny her..
So stop crying and start praying bcos my frd told me the story of how her fada told her moda he wanted to marry a second wife.. her moda being a member of Efac in Anglican church got down on her knees and prayed and before a week the lady in question died.. How strong is ur faith?Oya start praying and God will do it for u.. Dont worry ur spirit about the innocent child God will take him back and send him to a deserving home..
Wtf kinda advice is this??? U and ur mother are 1st class witches!!!! So she should pray for a miscarriage for the random girl?? Are u insane? What type of God answers that type of wicked prayer??? Pls of they sent u from una coven to bring innocent blood for them to suck, no put am on top SDK chronicles. U are a shameless woman for wishing miscarriage on another woman no matter what she has done.
DeletePoster 1 pls do not pray this prayer to God rather pray for the peace of God to rest on u and give u wisdom to come out of this.
See useless advice
DeleteIndigo! Imakwa ihe?
Oya make she also pray say make her husband dick become useless or cut am off na, bcos he fit still make another woman pregnant. Abi she can pray for the husband to die so him no go fit give another woman belle.
My dear, that's the disadvantage of this matter, the girl would be calling your husband every time, she would be in your lives for a very long time, icnt be happy in this situation rara
DeleteNa lie! Forget that tin! Ur friend's mummy killed her. Forget kneeling down and praying o. Na juju she use
DeleteIf she has a miscarriage it won't be a bad idea...God is not an author of confusion...she shld go on her knees and pray...If God wants d baby to stay fine...If not...den d girl will miscarry d baby...and all of u shouting nd sayin no miscarriage, u will never knw how much it hurts till it happens to u...
DeletePoster 1......I'll read comments from the married folks in the house
ReplyDeleteposter2...so his love for u was based on sex right, No sex, No Love.....Infact no respect as well, that one no be fiancee abeg, so what if u had eventually married him and u lost that sex drive,guess your friend would have taken your gbenshing position.
He wanted out all along and just used this opportunity
Dust the dirt off your shoulders and move on pls......No time to check time abeg
Poster1,your Dh said he dsnt have anything to do with the girl and she's just a random girl so how did she get pregnant? He's not a good guy,a marriage under one year, he slept with another woman without condom,the truth is that he will co tinge cheating since he knows u are a soft woman. Just accept your fate and carry your cross, with the way it's going the other lady can even come to your house and nothing go happen! Poster 2, forget him,what kind of friend go u have? Will she date him even when she knows u dated him before? Just forget the guy
ReplyDeleteContinue*
DeletePoster 1: ná wa o. This one nå permanent scar on your marriage and peace. Even if hubby has nothing to do with the mother but takes care of the child, can he truly ever be free from her? Your husband didn't do well at all. Could he not have used protection? Well, you say you love him so much, you just must forgive him and accept the situation. You will get used to it. The woman should stay in her lane while you remain in yours. All the best.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Would you have liked it if your fiance had a female boss he calls "Dear" in your presence? Abeg you too forward sef. On top of that you have not been fucking him, of course you leave him with no option than to imagine you've been fucking your "deat" in the office. Trust and love fro him is dead, no use flogging a dead horse. Just move on!
Thank you Uduak. I Roger your advice
DeletePoster 1...I'm sorry to say this,bt she isn't just a random girl neither is ur hubby truly sorry. He claims d girl is just a random girl he met and den went ahead to straff her without condom. Odiegwu!!!. As for u feeling he's remorse,my dear he isnt,ur husband is a cheat,2bad d sigbs came early. U travled for couple of months abroad to birth his child and he cldnt kp his THINGS in place for just some months na waaaa..infact I'm scared on ur behalf,what wld happen if u travel out for a year? Hmmmm. Ur marriage is barely ayear plus and dh has already gotten anoda pregnant...madam what sort of nonsense is u shldnt tell anybody,u berra xall both families and tell dem o,so dey'd say some sense in2 ur dh head cos believe u me,ds won't be d last girl he impregnates.
ReplyDeletePoster2... what is it u wrote again sef *scrolls up* ahaaaah...lets him go,d manner @which he broke up with u clearly shows he has/had no regards for u. Imagine #one down,d search continues* hahaha u mustav been dating all ds big boys by mouth bt without brain,cos a classy dude wldnt write such even if he did break up wv u. Let him go oo,he isn't d only dude on earth,u shld even be glad ds happened now cos it saved u a story dt touches d heart in d future
I like your advice to poser one sha ....but if na me ehn, dat man go sign to be my slave forever Ni o!!!
DeletePoster one
ReplyDeleteMarriage is filled with lot of bitter episodes. This is one of them and the outcome depends on how u handle this issue. I won't advise you to leave but to make things work with him. After all, he has done what men do best by inserting his dick into the next available hole he saw while you were away. NNE, I know it's easier said than done, but please forgive him. He did not plan for the pregnancy, it was a mistake and he seems genuinely sorry about it. I know it hurts double ble because he not only cheated on you, but he also got the girl pregnant. All he can do is to be responsible for the child's upkeep without causing any further drama in your marriage. You just can't walk away and let some other woman displace you in your own home, mbanu! I have seen this happen a couple of times and at the end, everything ended well. Your man is not the first to cheat, and I know it will be hard for you to trust him again and all. Lastly, show him pepper! Threaten him, move out for a while, make him suffer before you accept him back. That way, he'll think twice before new does anything rash.
Poster two
Biko, rapu that your boyfriend! As far as I can see, he only used that 'dear' episode as an excuse to break up with you. And you yourself stated that you know he has a thing for one of your friends and he even TOLD you! That's enough sign to tell you that the relationship was doomed!
And to think that he was immature enough to take it to the social media? My dear, you were dating a boy, not a man.
Biko receive divine sense and do what is right.
Silent observer
P1, there's nothing you can do about the situation. Your story is quite dis-heartening and I can't imagine being in your shoes. Needless to mention that divorce is out of the question. Find a place in your heart to forgive him and move on with your marriage. You're not the first neither will you be the last person it happens to. And pls, don't be harsh on the girl. It takes two to tango. At this time, you need Jesus most. Pray for inspiration and strength. God wil see you through... Men!!! They can disappoint! That's why I don't have use for a man now. Making money on my mind
ReplyDeleteP2, you made a grievious mistake calling your boss dear. Are you sure there's not more to it than meets the eye? No? Ok. If you're sure you love your bf and he loves you too, call him and sincerely apologize. Then again, you said he has feelings for your friend. How can you reconcile yourself with that? Can you live with it if your rship leads to marriage? Its complicated if you ask me. But still apologize sha. If he comee back, don't have sex again. Be friends. Talk, chat, laugh, see movies in cinemas together, discuss the word of God and see where it leads to. Believe me, when you eventually get married, your libido will consume any man. Now is not the time
Poster 1. It's not a serious issue, at least u didn't find out on your own. First thing first go and see the girl as a family, give her all the support she needs. Hospital bills, things for the baby. Then when the baby arrives. You, your husband and the woman should agree about monthly child support. Which your husband should be giving u to pay the woman and monthly visits. That's all, treat the child like your own child. They should not have any secret meeting o, always be involved.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. Both of you are cheating.
U for kuku say make d pregnant babe move into her house. Shiooooor.
DeleteWas she involved in getting her pregnant?didn't the babe know he was married. Her husband is a scum. He couldn't control his penis just within the period his wife was away to have their child,he had to make another one with another woman within one year of their marriage. I bet you this lady would still birth many babies for him. I won't advise you dear poster to involve yourself he made the mess he should clean it up. Now is time to shine your eyes and take care of yourself and baby,your husband aint loyal. Imagine how many more random babes he has that haven't gotten pregnant yet. He is remorseful cos he would have got caught anyway. I won't take such with any man but what do I know I ain't married but any man that tries that with me is good as divorced baby mama should carry and go.
DeleteSaint Obi
DeleteThey should not have any secret meeting???? Hahahhahahahha I laff I French!! As if if the bastard man wan go fuck again him go tell him wife....
DeleteSmtcheeeeerwwww!!!
See which girl as family. Pls poster don't listen to this rubbish advice, don't visit any woman in the the hospital or any of that sort of rubbish. But maybe you be responsible for sending money for the upkeep after the child is born. Can you imagine what men cause and give so much complicat to a young marriage. Sorry dear. I just feel like slapping your husband... After they will start to cry crocodile tears
DeleteLet me read comments..btw poster one..if she was some random babe he won't get her pregnant!
ReplyDeleteThank you. Random babe my thin ass.
DeleteBreaking up via social media ish is stupid and immature.. Don't like it kobo.
ReplyDeleteYou wen get belle....God go help u solve ur puzzle
@Galore
go with Stella
ReplyDelete#GODWIN™
Nawa o. You knew he had feelings for your friend and you were still there?
ReplyDeleteWhat kinda relationships do people keep these days?
As for calling your boss "dear", e no just gel at all.
Anyways, let me read comment.
Poster 1:
Hmmmmmmm
@poster 1 would you have loved to find out from another person that your husband has a child outside? Am sure u wud have felt worst if u had found out from another person.
ReplyDeletePlease for the sake of his sincerity u need to forgive, I know it won't be easy trusting him again, but u have to try, ask to meet with the said girl, then ask for a DNA to be carried out to be sure he is the father, then u both should agree on paying the girl off and nurse the child as ur own, that wud avoid ur husband always going to meet her in the name of going to see the child. Pls don't let this break ur home since u still love him.
@poster 2 this ur dear u call ur oga is suspicious mhen, I have not seen where it happens. All the same it has happened u need to move on, he has been looking for ways to breakup, since the opportunity came he grabbed it quickly. Its not easy but move on
Poster one:
ReplyDeleteYour marriage is too young for a strange woman to start having children for your hubby. They probably have been in this affair before he married you. Maybe you didnt notice.
That being said, i think your hubby is really remorseful. He has realised his mistake and how much he has let you down. I would give him props for opening up to you about his mess. Some men will hide it and you would hear from outsiders or when the woman shows up at home with the child.I know its hard but please forgive him. May God give you wisdom to guide your actions.
Poster 1 ...Do not allow desperate hoes to chance u out of ur marriage.These bitches aint smilling..Since ur husband is remorsedul and wants to take full rwsponsibility,te him invite d baby mama(not ur house oh) to somewhere u can meet her and discuss..Let d hoe know u are aware and u wont allow her to enter ur home..Te her urself dat u have forgiven ur husband but both of u will take reaponsibility of d child..Tell her how much u will be paying her for her upkeep which u will foresee..Tell her how long its gonna last befpre u take d child into ur custody cos ur hubny cannot run two homes..If she refuses ur offer,threaten her u will deal with her mercillessly of she dare to lure ur husband into her bed..Infact give her d warning of her life.Know where she lives and monitor her before ur thing go turn to another person's own..
ReplyDeleteProtect ur home jealously if u truly love ur man..Never u trust ur husband again..From today,turn ur self to member of #TeamSnoop# Soop till rapture comes..Pls forgive ur husband..Most men cheap..its unfortunate dat he got into d trap..
She lured her husband to her bed abi? With wetin? Na he clear eye he take go fuck her jare..he even get mind no use condom. Arrant nonsense. Abeg I dey vex
DeleteLmao at snoop til rapture comes.
DeleteBless dis ur advice to poster 1........
DeleteExactly.
DeleteLet her know you know what's up.
Then,warn am final.
Warn your oga join
Tell people,I repeat,don't let it be any secret o or else that lady go born again
Lol u seem to have it all figured out....a man messed up n see all the woman has to do to clean it up....women are really slaves sha.
DeleteMbanu Mbanu chizzy....my blood dey hot!!!!
DeleteDis ur advice just like that???
That's the reason why men will still go back and do rubbish when dey know that their wives will easily forgive Dem......
Can't deal biko!
Firstly, It's not advisable to have ur bf/gf on SN... keep ur relationship off SN... @least one is enuf. cos SN breakup is d worst... if dis guy had d guts to tell u about ur friend that means they have bn doing something under ur nose and u didn't get d msg... He indirectly broke up with u by telling u... please save urself d stress of constant headache and move on... there are very good guys o, buut once a guy, always a guy... On judgement day, before God go open men case file he go first attend to every living thing including umu anumanu. Nne jide Obi gi aka...
ReplyDeleteShit happens but u will b fine, as for ur friend... Hmm!
ReplyDeleteSo poster 2, u dey call ur papa mate wey be ur boss 'dear'....d people wey dey pursue u for ur village catch u well. .I feel even if u guys have an informal relationship in ur office, it shouldn't get to d point of endearing ur boss. .For what now?
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of familiarity is that one? And according to u, he's not even a young guy cos u said "father daughter/son relationship..
Anyways that guy is gone and gone for good so just let it go.. and I don't understand what u were still doing with a guy that already told u he's falling for another girl. .are u that desperate for love that u will settle for less? Please go find solution to ur libido and next time learn to put a limit to a working relationship. ..
No1 lemme wait 4 comment.
ReplyDeleteNO2 u just wasted ur time wif dat guy,he played u big time.4get him..
1. He's so ooooo he other girl. That's what we always say to diffuse the situation. When he visits his 'son' old feelings will be rekindled and baby number 2, 3, etc
ReplyDelete2. Pele. That's all I gattuSay!
*** mynameisSkelewu
No1 lemme wait 4 comment.
ReplyDeleteNO2 u just wasted ur time wif dat guy,he played u big time.4get him..
Poster 1: I will not advise u to leave ur marriage. The mistake has been made. Just pray that more women don't come up with such stories of him impregnating them. When the baby is done, make sure u do a DNA test to be sure it's ur hubby's baby. If it is, ur hubby should cater for the child but then u must ensure that the baby mama keeps his distance from ur family. As for trusting him again, my dear, it will be almost impossible cos once trust is broken, sorry means nothing.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: ur relationship died even before u took that call. A man that will break up a relationship becos u called another man dear is not a serious person. He has been looking for reasons to break up with u n possibly move over to ur friend. My advise to u is to forget the guy cos he is not even man enough.
1st poster: Ur case is very delicate,handle it with wisdom...Most ladies here will advice u to quit the marriage but I won't cos marriage is for better,for worse...Except in life threatening situations like domestic violence,physical/emotional abuse dat might culminate to death,then i'll ask u to take a walk.
ReplyDeleteUr marriage is very young and I must say I was so much disappointed to read ur chronicle ..For a man to make love to anoda woman who is nt his wife without a condom says alot...Forgive ur husband buh maintain ur stand as his wife...He shd find a way to cater for that baby without makin u and ur child suffer...
As for that oda "strange woman",pls neva get into a fight with her...the 3 of u shld sit down and set out modalities and ur hubby shld sign an undertaking in front of ur family members to be of good behaviour from hence forth..Do not keep it secret..Confide in ur mum and let her advice u accordingly...
Am a realist and seriously ur case is exactly wat is happening to my friend nw...In her own case,the side chick traced her and met with her and told her all dt has transpired between her and DH...ara agbaa enyi m nwanyi...She is so devastated at the moment buh I know her as a strong woman.
Some husbands ain't loyal @ all...Resisting temptations is wat most men cannot do.It takes grace plus the fear of God....pls be strong,inugo?pray for ur husband,he needs Jesus now more than ever..Marriage no easy ooo.
Poster 2: "Dear" for ur boss is wrong...if I were in ur man's shoes,i'll suspect u too....wat happened to "sir"...u fucked up abeg...U gave out d wrong vibes and impression...But all the same,i won't condone it if my man starts datin my frnd,it says alot...U have deleted him? FINE!!! .Delete him off ur mind too and move on...Next time,address ur BOSS in the correct manner except u are datin him...inukwa dear for a boss? na u cause am abeg.
Poster 1, forgive him, if u divorce him u dnt know the kinda baggage ur nxt guy will bring, just force him to wear gps tracker on his foot so u monitor him, poster 2. How can a young lady who hasn't given birth suddenly develop low libido? What is stressing u out? berra get dat checked or ur nxt bf will also dump ur ass
ReplyDeletePoster 1. I feel so sorry right now, it's complicated
ReplyDeletePoster 2....Tell urself d truth..U are shagging ir boss.U love him more than u love ur fiance.After screwing him in ur officemu eill go home to ur guy tired and daz d reason for ur loss of libido..Which kain loss of libido is dat? And what mumu "dear" be dat? U are calling someone's husband dear right infront of ur guy!? Asi gbuo gi dia..
ReplyDeleteAs for ur guy,he is a stupid and lousy sombody..Imagine him crushing on ur friend and told u openly without minding ir feelings..And u oponu radarada still remain in d relationship dey do wetin? I dont knpw d difference beyween u and yesterday chronicle poster..Both of u should borrow some brain..Daft girls everywhere..Mtchweeweww!
poster 2. u sure say u no dey do side runs wit ur oga? y on earth will u call ur boss dear in front of ur man. what if he was the one calling anoda woman dear. dere r sumtins we do dat is nt normal, we expect d orda party to b cool wit it, bt its nt done.well my advise is give him space n dnt call him mayb afta a week or 2 call him or go see him.
ReplyDeleteo ma ga ooh!..
ReplyDeleteP1:
nne ehn i have tried 2 place myself in ur shoes. heaven knows its a tough situation u have here considering d marriage is barely a year +..geez wtf is wrong wit these men. some random chick u say?..n he straffed her witout CD? God abeg..he couldnt even wait 4u 2com bak home from child delivery...as it is, u know wot 2do am sure buh if its me am certainly gonna go ballistic. if na boy she born power tussle go start 1 day cos like play polygamy don set in weda she lives wit u guys n not married 2him. who knows he could be pretending sef acting sober. my dear na God fit help dis ur case ooh..im speechless. its just unfortunate. na 2 accept n gba kamu say 2nd wife has come 2stay.
p2
lol...u no get case.please move on. he obviously has been waiting for an avenue to break up wiv u. dat ur friend sef no fear God. sorry bout d online breakup buh d dude isnt worth all ur time and trouble i swear...get som1 beta n flaunt him too on whatsapp as u don delete am 4 bbm.
Poster 1: I'm in same situation as your husband, i relocated my wife and two kids abroad last year and regularly visit them but it happened in one of my stay here in Nigeria i stupidly had unprotected sex with a random girl like that who later claimed to have got pregnant by me, lo and behold she refused all plea to abort with a promise to settle her simply bcoz she is just nothing but a gold digger and eventually gave birth same day my son clocks 3yrs. Many men don't do this intentionally bcos in my own case i truly love my wife and she knows i really do. I haven't told her about the mess and i don't intend to do so anytime soon bcos i plan to do DNA first before any other step Please don't be too fast with hash decision bcoz your DH may eventually not be the father after DNA.
ReplyDeleteImagine this selfish fool...you want her to do abortion, why did you not ask your wife to abort her own kids first?
DeleteShe is a gold digger...hahhahhha you didnt see that before digging her hole abi, now you want DNA, so where was the condom?
Im 100% sure that baby is yours and may your wife not forgive you....selfish idiot.
Anoda wondering dick. I pray she leaves ur sorry arse when she finds out *loooong hiss*
DeletePoster one, insist on a DNA after the birth of baby. Most of this single ladies are too desperate to be trusted, a church member was in a similar situation it was DNA that reveal the truth. And for your husband and his wanderind prick, just pray he will not invenct you with aids one day.
ReplyDeleteWhen next you are travelling tie up his prick
Sometimes one don't know what to say to someone who's hurting.
ReplyDeletePoster one I know you're hurting, good you still love him and willing to work it out. There's no better time to get a better terms of agreement of how your marriage should go henceforth.
Forgive him, but make sure he goes through all necessary medical checks, wait as long as possible for him to come out clean. Then together work on your marriage, at least you know what you're dealing with, if possible see a marriage counsellor together.
As for trust he has to earn it, he has to work real hard to get it back, but please when you forgive do not use it against him.
Be firm, calm and calculated, he doesn't get off easy, but don't push it. After all for every crime there is a measure of punishment.
So sorry dear, your heart must be in bits and pieces. Just see it as fate's way demystifying him, you know he is man after all (fallible), that way you will be more rational and heal faster. Hugs dear.
My hubby impregnate another woman,end of marriage o. I travelled to birth our child..painful labour for hours,stiched tohtoh,swollen and painful breast,sleepless nights..I come back,u tell me say u give girl belle..No na,hmm hmm..I can't and won't take it. I can never trust him again. When there's no trust,the marriage is good as dead abeg..The Lord is your muscle..with this child,he'll always have a relationship with the mother for life..she'll always be in the picture. If you can live with that,good luck to you
ReplyDeleteposter 2 for him to break up with you over bbm, it means his mind is not there again so just move on with your life and forget he exists. the way he went about it is kinda annoying so don't he even bother being in touch with me. and future advice stop calling your boss dear, e no make sense and it def sends the wrong signal
ReplyDeletePoster2 gerrarahere mehn shii! No amount of familiarity will make an employee call his/her boss dear, you're probably sleeping with him. Would love to her the guys side of the story
ReplyDeletePoster1 no words, can't imagine how broken you must feel rn
Hmmmmmmm. He got someone pregnant, and he is begging you to keep it a secret and he doesn't want you to leave his life.
ReplyDeleteIf the tables turned and you got pregnant by another man while he was away, would he forgive you, keep it as a secret, and still remain married to you?
So many things men do to women and expect them to take it when they know they themselves will never take it.
I will pass on this and read comments.
Infact I wanted to read all comments before commenting but I can't!
ReplyDeleteDear poster 1 ur DH which I suppose is ur hubby is a manure seller abi? Why is he distributing his sperm all over the place? I don't think u should continue with him. For him to have raw sex with a random chic only God knows how far he has gone with other gals. Just one year in marriage and he impregnated another gal by the time u get to 11yrs in marriage, super eagles coach will contact him to start up a football team. I'm so disappointed at married men who upon committing adultery, impregnate their mistresses. It's rather unfortunate! U asked for advise that's my own! If that u caught him cheating u can manage with d healing but having raw sex with d babe and giving her little ajasco nne me can't take it oh... so u know if u can live with it or not.
Gbam!!!
DeleteBest advice here!!!
Hmmmm.......
ReplyDeletePoster 1: since you already know you can't leave him and you hate divorce, you'll have to be ready to accommodate your DH'a baby mama. Encourage him to support her financially and be there for that child... Your husband's disloyalty is not that innocent baby's fault so don't let that child be denied of a father because of this issue.
Second thing you need to do is to fast and pray.. Perhaps take some time away from your hubby so you can really hear from God so he can free you of the bitterness and Anger you feel... After all, that woman did wrong (if she knew your hubby was married) but he's the one that betrayed you, not her since its you and DH that took vows.
He defiled your marriage so if you decided to divorce, God would understand but if you're ready to work on your marriage you must be ready to TRULY forgive and accept that baby as your own.. No wicked step mum nonsense.
May the wisdom of Solomon be with you.
Poster 2: Hun.. This guy has already dumped you so there's no need for this chronicle because you said it yourself that you've deleted him. He doesn't respect or value you and he was looking for a way out because calling your boss pet names can't be a reason to breakup... I would be single by now if that's the case coz I always call people 'babe' or 'Hun' so your BF has been looking for an escape plan....
Don't beg him... Let him go... It could be that he and your friend have been scheming behind your back and seeing each other coz what man would have such liver shortly after breakup to disrespect someone he once claimed to love.. There's more to this issue.... Let him go and stay gone
Best of luck to you both
Your comments are always on point. 100 likes!
DeletePoster 2, d guy was fed up with u and was looking for a way out. I think u should move on cos that ish ain't even enough to break up a relationship. In d future, pls don't refer to male colleagues as dear or even anyone.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 1; Nothing to cry about...just be prepared to deal with a baby mama & an addition to your family for the rest of your life...the deed is done, just find a way around it.. just know that your husband cannot get rid of her because of that child..the child would need care too. so it's left for your husband to find a way to go about it so it doesn't interfere with ur marriage...
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2; Calling a boss "dear"..hmmmm..I'll like to work in your kind of firm. To even call mine his first name is a problem. "Sir" must be involved.
Truth is, that guy was just looking for a way to end things even before then. How can he be loving ur friend under ur nose and u still trust that kind of person.. just leave him and move on abeg.. u don't have to act like it's affecting u. This kind of situation, you simply call him or ask him to speak to you one on one so you both know what exactly is eating you up ...Not that it will change anytn, but at least u can learn one or twos from there... after that, u end it officially.. ending a rshp like this is never good, as both parties will be bitter towards one another.
Poster 1, God will direct you. Poster 2, Stella has said it all
ReplyDeletePity?!! No pity am o... When he was putting his penis in a 'random' hole it was sweeting him Abi? lol lets not make excuse for men that behave like pigs
ReplyDeleteNa real one down... The guy is silly haha!
Poster one: its such a pity, i can feel ur plight. But wait o, Nigerian men sef;wot does he mean by not telling anyone? If u were d one in to be promiscuos will he cover for you? Well, its ur marriage and its still young, so don't take any rash decisions. Just take your time and process the whole situation, think of wot u want in the long run before u make any decisions. I pray God gives u wisdom to handle the situation.
ReplyDeletePoster two: my dear, that guy was just looking for an excuse to give u red card. Most guys can't stand a sexless relationship, especially when sex has already been involved. Plus he has already hinted u that he's in love with someone else. Just let him be. Its difficult, but u'll eventually get over him. Don't cheapen yourself by continuosly begging him.
MEN SHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NOT UP TO A YEAR IN MARRIAGE AND HE ALREADY CHEATED AND BROUGHT A STRANGE WOMAN INTO HIS HOME... Y'AL ARE EVIL!!!!!!! HABA!!! NO DISCIPLINE, HIGH RATE OF IRRESPONSIBILITY.. MAKE UNA FEAR GOD OOO
ReplyDeletetHE deed has been done, madam just be blunt about things...no go act slow ooo.. tell him how you feel..give him rules and tell that woman to stay far from your marriage.. that guy might go back to that woman cos they're gonna keep seeing eachoda bcos of the child..so just deal wt it.. Fix it!!!!!!!!
POSTER 1, im just in shock. pls what else can a man do to sm1 more than this again? The only thing left is for this man to KILL YOU. And im sure even den u will not divorce him. You will continue the marriage from ur grave in Ikoyi cemetery.
ReplyDeleteThis is bad honestly, it's bad enough he cheated while you went abroad to birth the only child you ppl created together. so he cant hold himself for few mths abi?
Poster I bet this girl was even sleeping over in u ppls house wen u were away,maybe even on ur matrimonial bed.
I just tire for Naija women,dat is why our men will keep disrespecting us, bcos dey know no matter wat we will always stay.
Beyonec Knowles mother, Tina dat d father got sm1 pregnant, nobi quick divorce she give am, a 30plus yrs marriage.
Your's is just 1yr and already this. My dear get ready for more children outside this marriage. what if it was even HIV dis guy carried, is dat how he will pass it to you and ur unborn son bcos of his useless dick he cant zip up. He no even fit buy ordinary gold circle condom.
Speaking real here, I know you love this guy. You need more than advice on dis matter. U NEED GOD
My dear you need to fight the devil in this ur marriage,you need to get closer to him and bind this spirit of adultery and strange women in ur home (that is if u decide to stay).
Lord knows my enemy wont stay,but if u decide too. you need some space to urself outside the home to enable you think and connect with God. You need to Ask for wisdom from above how to handle this issue. 60yr old woman sef no get enuf wisdom to handle this.
Then dat ur husband must suffer when u eventually return home. Weda na new car he go buy you o. Or you will travel to Dubai and guy xpensive jewellery and designer bags. By d time you finish Maxing out his card, no more money for him to spend on dos HOES.
My dear take heart, Na only God and matured minds like your mum fit advice you properly. IT IS WELL
Na wa oo..these chronicles get tougher by the day ..POSTER 1..I don't even know what to say even though in trying too..I wont advise you to just leave DH and divorce..these men though ..don't real know why they keep doin this .you need time to think and sort ur head out..only you and I mean only u can make this decision .u r the one that knows the kind of situation u r in right now ...please don't believe him saying he won't have anything to do with. The girl again..he wld ati be goin to see her As long as he has taken responsibility ...At the same time don't doubt him ..but please don't rush to make any decisions ..it's heartbreaking ..Pray and use ur head and a road to follow will open up ..pele
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2::
guy is looking for a way out..a guy putting up .,one down the search continues .,,my dear u r part of a list of trials..pls free him and use ur two legs to run out of it..don't look back at all..and when u r In a relationship y call another man dear ...we women should know that men are real jealous and babies at hearts ..I can't even stand my own DH callin another woman dear ..for what now??pls the relationship is already dead..just leave it
Poster 2, let him go. How can your man tell you he has feelings for your friend. I don't understand the kind of men you people date o a dim very confused. Besides, just because you call your boss dear doesn't mean you should have done it in his presence that day. If you don't say dear won't the conversation hold. Since you have apologized it is now up to him to accept it, you can't force him and if your friend is his next choice them you need to reevaluate your life and your choice of friends because I can't imagine dating my friends ex. Good luck
ReplyDeletePoster 1 the Lord is your strength. Just know that the baby mama would always be a part of your family equation.
By the way POSTER 1, ur husband had been seeing the girl ..it wasn't random
ReplyDeleteQuick question for the men..if your wife gets pregnant for another man,what will you do??
ReplyDeleteAnother Gbam!!!
DeleteHelp me ask Dem oloriburuku oloshi men ooooooo!!!
In Response to N 1 , please everybody here raise your hand if you think her husband will FORGIVE if SHE was the one that got pregnant and is remorseful and told her hubby of just a year that she is pregnant for another man.
ReplyDeleteHow many people will call her names ? how many people will say marriage is too young don't let another man destroy it ? How many will tell him to bring the baby home and let the child bear his name ?
questions , questions , SUMMARY UNTIL WE HOLD EVERYBODY MAN OR WOMAN ON THE SAME MORAL STANDARD AND RESPECT NEEDED FOR A RELATIONSHIP TO WORK THESE TYPES OF SHIT WILL STILL CONTIUNE .
n/b: I hope nobody here believes this will stop him from having side chicks? I mean he has done the worst he could do to his wife in what is considered the honeymoon stage of marriage , wetin go happen by year 5 , 7 , 10? and she still there so why the hell not ?
It's disgusting how the society treat women. poster 1 if for instance you are the one that cheated and got pregnant for another, would your so called DH forgive You? His whole family will come out and clap on your head, call you all sorts of names. Now you want to forgive what? Babe if you forgive him, he will continue to cheat afterall you forgave once and will always do. I know so many boys that turn out right without a father figure. Carefully plan your exit. Men are liars. One more thing don't keep it quiet, tell everyone, your family, his family etc.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, if you must forgive him ,let him know that a condition for forgiving him is that you have to take that child from the side chick and raise the child . This will forestall any attachment he will have to her because of the child. Raise the child like yours.
ReplyDeleteIf not, the man will keep sleeping with the woman. A child is already involved and whether you want to believe it or not.They already have a bond because of the child.
It is difficult doing this but it will save you a lot of headache in future.
Poster 1: I'm sorry about the way u feel, but pardon me to say this! your horseband is a disgrace..... Not only that he was forlicating while u were out of the country, he was doing that without protection. No respect, no VALUE for your life and that of the new born baby.
ReplyDeletePlease ur safety first ..... go check ur self up in the hospital biko oh.I wish u luck.
Poster 2: Just move on already, better things coming ur way soonest.
Poster 1- My anger is towards your husband, why he no use condom? He is a bad player, abi the girl carry 'BOMB PUSSY'? I had a babe back then worwor girl but has a bomb pussy. Why are all ladies who send in chronicles, very beautiful and in their mid twenties?.
ReplyDeletePoster 2- How your libido no go die, your boy friend is poor and your fucking your rich boss. You finished your libido on your boss, wicked girl, next time don't date in your neighborhood, na see finish.
My Dear,
ReplyDeleteI feel for you. Its very easy to get dillussioned and weak and cry. Wake up like the champion you are. He has told you, the world is not over. Advice: Firstly, You make demands. Real demands. He has sold himself cheap, and slept with someone without condoms or protection, endangering his family. 2. After the baby is born, you demand a DNA test, to ensure you are not stressing your family unnecessarily . 3. If the baby is for your husband, then you demand the baby is trained by you or your inlaws. The reason is that, Okafor's Law will apply. The affair will continue.
This would not be easy, and if the girls family is strong, it might not work. Allow your husband to be in the forefront and just cry look sorrowful , but remember to control from behind the scenes. Wake up to the challenge. You will have other children, and you have to train all equally and well. It will be to your advantage much later and you inlaws will hail you.
Another factor , is what ethnic group you belong to. If you are igbo or your hubby is igbo, then you will operate smoothly. You have the first son, and so no shaking. if yoruba, the mother might keep the baby etc. i dont know about others. Also talk to his parents.
need to be somewhere now, so bye and good luck.
Na wa o! Poster 2, you call your boss 'dear'. Please stop it o. Even if his wife approves, do not do things like that, because in my opinion Chica, that's crossing the line.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 - he seems repentant. Test him for stds then go into counselling if you decided to stay. Do not broadcast your situation to your friends please.
ReplyDeletePoster 2- the guy wanted out. He didnt know how to tell you
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Poster 1, your marriage is too young for you to start experiencing this. Anyway, it's all up to you to decide if you can handle your husband fathering another child from another woman. Your husband will always be in the child's life whether you like it or not. Since you hate divorce, I'll say brace up, face the situation and cope with it.
ReplyDeleteBut make him sweat well before you forgive him. I hope he doesn't repeat this. BTW, your horseband is a dog for cheating on you at this stage of your marriage, he couldn't even use a protection!
Poster 2, your ex is so immature for breaking things off like that. It's obvious from your narration that the guy has wanted out teytey. He has given you hint by telling you he is falling in love with your friend. Just forget him mbok. BTW, why call your oga 'dear'? That's way too informal. The witches in your village got you on this one.
POSTER 1: she's not a random girl.......if the sex was random, both the nacker and the nackeee will not be in touch. So where did she see him to tell him she was pregnant? hmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2: forget abt the man, sorry the boy
Poster 1, ur case is kinda complicated but the thing is you av to forgive him and Move on, if the baby is born accept and love the child.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 firstly ur first mistake was calling ur boss dear, wat kinda relationship will warrant u calling ur boss dear? I know the answer to that just asking you. Your boo acted childish, since u know he has feelings for other girls u shud just try to forget him, face ur work and stop calling people's husband or fiancée or bf's dear.
Poster 1,pray to God,seek wisdom to handle it biko,dnt leave ur marriage since ur husband is acting remorseful,some men shaa,let d babe birth the child and take the child,the babe shld go far from una. Hmmm,ur husband sha,hope he won't repeat this again? Shits happen! Be strong.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,broken relationship is better than broken marriage,the guy is too childish joor! He is not worth it,make him go joor! Dnt be confused,put ursef together.
Poster 1, forgive ur husband, I believe he will change...no one is perfect pls. We offend God always, yet He forgives us ehen we ask for mercy. Thank God he didn't hid it frm u. Give urself some time, u'll be fyne. Pls for d sake of ur baby, don't leave ur marriage. Ur husband is a saint compare to some men I knw.
ReplyDeletePoster 2...Ur man was just looking for a slightest move to dump u. That relationship was dead long ago. Forget his sori ass, he never loved and respected ur person.
Move on dear, real dude will Find u soon.
#1: OUCH!!! Oh my love! The worst nightmare of most married women. Unfortunately, this fiasco is more common than you realise. It's just horrible because your marriage should still be in the honeymoon phase and you guys just had a baby. What should have been a surreal experience for the family has been tainted.
ReplyDeleteThe sexual energy between a man and a woman he is sexually attracted to, can be overwhelming and often irrational. A man who is disciplined from his waist down can rule the world. Sadly most men, including men of the cloth, can't resist sexual temptations. I don't know your hubby but from all I read, it appears he is a good man who messed up during your absence. I'm in no way holding brief for him, after all, capitalising on the fact that your wife is overseas having your baby is no excuse for infidelity. It can even be argued that he chose the wrongest time to stray because that is so insensitive, he should be preparing to welcome back his wife and his baby. But what's done is done and can't be undone.
A lot of married men sleep around especially when their wives are pregnant or away to give birth, but some use protection so we never get to hear about their shenanigans. It hurts more that your hubby, not just cheated on you but he didn't even use protection. Pregnancy isn't my main concern, who knows if he has been infected with STDs and passed them on to you? Isn't it sad that society has forced us to reduce our level of acceptance? Instead of raising hell on earth for an adulterous husband, we are now supposed to be thankful if they used protection. It is what it is and that's why I wouldn't advise you to end your marriage. However, please, go run some tests to be sure you haven't been infected.
Honey, the world is getting crazier by the day and it is very difficult to find a good man, most of the good men still have their weak points. You may find a faithful man who is lazy and quarrelsome or has poor hygiene and very stingy. Same way you may find a guy who is gently and kind, provides for you and spoils you with gifts and all the goodies, very romantic and willing to tolerate your vices but he is unfaithful. You have to decide what you consider a deal breaker.
Take some time out to clear your head and don't be hasty with any decision. All marriages have their ups and downs, some worse than others. Having a step child this early in your marriage is going to be very challenging and I doubt the baby mama is some random chic, she may mean more to your hubby than he is willing to admit. Sweetheart, the months and years ahead may be very bumpy but I pray God grants you the grace you need to go on. One day at a time, it will get better.
#e-bearhugs.
Married Bv's pls I want to know what Grounds for Divorce is in this our lovely country Nigeria is.
ReplyDeleteI cant believe ppl are saying it's no BIG DEAL,if once husband get's sm1 pregnant. Pls what is worse in a marriage than what has just happened. We Nigerian women take so much from men in dis country honestly.
I bet the Grounds for Divorce in dis country is DEATH abi? bcos the way I see it, majority of women on dis blog, xcept ur husband physically kills you, you guys will not still leave.
Bet as dey are being stabbed by dere husbands dey are still professing love, and saying no strange women will ever enter dere homes.
Even at dere abode in Ikoyi and Atan Cemetery, dey will still continue to perform dere wifely duty. cook and clean in spirit.
Infact dey will still be making love to the guy in spirit bah, and chasing any strange women dat enter dere homes.
Lol
DeleteDi di ùkò
Lmao!! Gbam Gbam! Well said.
DeleteMy sister ask them....in this twenty first century women still have this slavery mentality.....
DeleteDis one is d gbamest ooooooo!!
DeleteCan't deal mehn!
Nonsense!!!
POSTER 1...
ReplyDeleteWhen i hear other women advise Poster 1 to collect the child and cut off from the woman, i ask, do you think the other woman will give up her child so easily? It is your husband that messed up and not her.
It is your husbands indiscretion. Whether you like it or not, that woman is going to be part of your lives forever.
If she refuses to give up the child, then you probably will ask your husband to cut off from her and the child. He will do that for a while but his mind will always be on that child forever and one day, he will resent you for that.
What is the solution? If you decide to forgive then your husband must Co parent with the woman peacefully.
Are we really surprised that 90percent of Nigerian men hates condom? especially the ones that have condoms littered in their house. On day 1...they can gbensh with CD, Day 3...they are already begging without even when condom is available everywhere.
POSTER 2...Did you snatch him from your friend or did he have an eye on your friend before you met?
Why your friend of all people?
Dude just looked for an excuse to leave. Nurse your heartbreak and move on. Completely ignore him.
POSTER 1...Could this be the case of two bomb pussies?
POSTER2... Is this a case of one bomb pussy?.
Oya BOMBPUSSYEXPERT explain to us. Anyi choro your analogy.
XOXO MYSTERY
Poster1...your hubby sucks,he can't even use condom.i will not advice you to leave him but you need to tell your mum or a family member. Poster2.date your boss period
ReplyDeletePoster 1 ; Kpele dear , me i found out my husband had a kid on facebook , nobody told me when I asked him he was very on the defensive by the time I finished with his sorry ass ,he come gentle , am so glad I found out not those his useless family members , became friendly with the girl and mama , when the girl's mum wanted to start forming difficult I told her, it's your choice ooooo but you better wise up , they are in the UK , I invited them over to meet and greet and I was in full control of my horseband . Told all his family , was he uncomfortable , cause he was their small God ------ Kai I enjoyed myself, called his close friends , told them we get pickin too forliverpool ooo , as unna friend play away match . Posted our get together on facebook ------ but yours truly was boiling Inside ,I was and still am hurt oooooo.
ReplyDeleteOur pickin sef is my friend on facebook , but me make sure I dey post me and my husband photo , my children's pictures just to show say unna no fit try me.
Please poster no waka take it in your stride , tell your family , don't mind him about keeping it a secret , and give him your conditions oooooo , allow the child to visti at a certain age or else na to give the mama belle again , and monitor him , if u show him you are angered he will not tell you anything , na you sef go take decision on her up keep , clean those pretty eyes and be on top of your game Kpele dear .
Meanwhile I hope you have a job ----- as for salary no tell am everything , you know no bi only you get pickin.
This you cannot wish away , be wise .
Poster2: what was it again too lazy to scroll , trust me the man no get love left . Aaaah yes why call your oga dear , in this Nigeria but talk true , are you sure there was nothing between you ,if am his wifey and I hear you call my horseband dear you don find another work bi dat .
My heart breaks for u.....only God knows how this will play out !!! He confessed oooook so mayb he's sorry. Just so sad....don't keep his secret from your parents and his! He will continue to cheat but hopefully be more careful! Don't over born for him! 2 kids are fine! Engage urself economically. The story has changed, but don't employ human or native wisdom ...... Go to God for direction . Most importantly give urself brain
ReplyDeletePoster 1: It's one of the challenges of marriage.It has already happened.What is important right now,is what decision you take. Pray about it and you have to discuss with your husband.The reality is that it's so easy for men to cheat,it's truly a man's world cos it'll be a different ball game if the shoe was on the other side.
ReplyDeleteYou have to decide if it'll better for you to raise your child as a single mom or work your marriage out.'For better or For worse till death do you part'
Poster 2: The Man boy does not regard you in the first place.Meanwhile,no matter how familiar you are with your boss or colleagues,never use ,'dear'...it sends the wrong signals if not to the recipient but definitely to people who hear you say that. It doesn't sound right. Going forward,'do not stick to a person who tells you he's falling for your friend cos it means he doesn't care for you and wants your friend, then in your next relationship,be careful the things and actions you display around your significant other cos it can be misconstrued.
Poster 1. Please for forgive your husband though its painful but do this cos of your child. Allow him take responsibilities of the child but he needs to reassure you that he won't cheat again even if na lie most of them dey talk. Let God heal you aching heart and home.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. First of all, stop being too informal with your boss so you don't cause another problem in your next relationship. Secondly, I think he has moved on and all you need to do is help yourself to do same. Men and their wahala. Pelee
Poster1:-) Look at my face here just forgive him you are not God na im destiny .as e don apologise dey cry meaning he truly and homestly love u so don screw up ur pussy by uself , just forgive him and stand gidigbam behind him , So dat ashawo no go come blackmail am come use da chance spoil ur own life.be free wit him nd take him as ur son , so u can be safe.
ReplyDeletebe his best friend from now dear dont let dat whore win his heart over .
na ur husby take kia of him.
if u do just as I talk I swear u go .buy ram kill fo mi and find me to say tnk u.
Hallelujah.
Poster1:-) Look at my face here just forgive him you are not God na im destiny .as e don apologise dey cry meaning he truly and homestly love u so don screw up ur pussy by uself , just forgive him and stand gidigbam behind him , So dat ashawo no go come blackmail am come use da chance spoil ur own life.be free wit him nd take him as ur son , so u can be safe.
ReplyDeletebe his best friend from now dear dont let dat whore win his heart over .
na ur husby take kia of him.
if u do just as I talk I swear u go .buy ram kill fo mi and find me to say tnk u.
Hallelujah.
P2:-) Crapp for ya seif.pa pa pa milooooooo !!!!!
u ova get respect , wot a responsible whore u be...u dey call ur baba mate dear !! And nofin between u too even to use hand raise ur breast go up?? Cos all na still notin .anyway ur bf na mumu so dia for,
Craaaaaaaaaaap for ur sefff!!!! U go tey for singles n mingles atleat if u see season 1000 e no too bad.
Meaning ; change ur evil way turn new leaf
Hallelujah.
P1:I don't think your hussy is so irresponsible as to have unprotected sex with a 'casual'. I suspect she is his side chick but has been good at hiding it. So get ready for 'wife' no.2! From your description your hussy is a very good guy, why do you think your fellow women would not want a piece of him? Very few good men out there, so the good ones are in high demand! Most men can't do with just one woman. I know this blog is dominated by women who will come here to say all kinds of wishful things but that is the truth! Adjust your thinking. The fact that your hussy strayed does not make him a bad man. Hang on to him.
ReplyDeleteAll the thinking about 'one man one wife' is acquired and mainly propagated by the church. The church has never been known for its forward thinking. The church opposed every new thing that has made life worth living. For example the church opposed the printing press, the establishment of schools, the steam engine, street lights, motor cars, etc. So the church's views on most things are unrealistic and unreasonable.
P1 pls do not opt for divorce because your husband impregnated another woman, it is truly a trying moment for you but do not leave your home for another woman. Your husband can see to the upkeep of the baby but you still have to let his parents know to avoid another mistake.
ReplyDeleteP2 It is wrong to address your Boss as "Dear" to the hearing of your fiance but as it is, i can say that your fiance never intended to marry you otherwise he wouldn,t have concluded on quitting d relationship within an hour or so the incident happened. You have to move on but please try and limit the informal way of greeting at your office before it causes another break up in your relationship.
My goodness, what type of advise are you people giving bikonu. Poster 1, your husband is a chronic cheat. How can you travel out of the country to birth his child and your husband's "welcome back" gift to you is a pregnant babe? And you've been married for just 1 year you say. Pls quit calling him a good man because he's very far from it... The decision to leave or stay in the marriage is entirely yours but don't deny yourself the truth, your so called DH is a WICKED man!
ReplyDeletePeople will just be advising women to chop sh#t all in the name of marriage... mschewwwww anamanu
POSTER 1 I KNOW YOUR HUBBY AND I WOULD NOT WANT TO SHOW THE LADY IN QUESTION CUZ IT WILL BREAK HER HEART AND SHE MIGHT DO SOMETHING STUPID CONSIDERING ALL THE TRASH YOUR STUPID HUBBY TOLD HER... AND ALL THE PROMISES HE MADE TO HER NOT TO TALK OF HOW HE TOLD HER THAT YOU FORCED HIM TO MARRY YOU...... LET ME NOT EVEN GET INTO THAT BIKO.... SIT DOWN AND THINK........
ReplyDeleteMrs Kork, I tried commenting via sdk app but it wasn't working, and i don't know if it still went through. Anyway, I need poster one email or phone number, poster1 if u don't mind pls send Mrs Kork a mail if it is ok for me to reach out to u, I have a DVD i need u to watched so u can be encouraged, I went for a programme and a woman shared this same exact thing u are in, It wud be nice if u listen to it. God bless.
ReplyDelete#2: Sweetheart, there's something known as office etiquette. Even if you are shagging your boss, you have to keep things official, the only time the "good evening dear" line would be appropriate is if the Sunday call was unofficial, so it becomes a term of endearment from a lover to another. It may be acceptable if your boss addresses you as "my dear" or "dear" provided he addresses all his staff the same way but none of you should address him that way.
ReplyDeleteIf there's someone guilty of using too many terms of endearment for staff, I'll take the crown. I'm so used to such terms of endearment for my domestic staff but they dare not reciprocate. When it comes to my subordinates at the office, I keep it strictly professional especially with the male staff. So if a person like me who punctuates with terms of endearment can shake my head in disapproval, you should know even a liberal mind will find the way you addressed your boss inappropriate. If you all have an unconventional father-daughter/son relationship with your boss at the office, why nor use "daddy" or "dad" or some other fatherly title?. That your boss had to call on a Sunday also doesn't help your case.
However, your boyfriend can't claim that, that was the reason for the breakup. It doesn't get more juvenile than that. It appears your relationship was already D.O.A and I wonder why you kept it going? The second your man is bold enough to tell you to your face that he has feelings for one of your friends and is even falling in love with her, you ought to have pumped the brakes and re-evaluate the so called relationship. How old is he, by the way? Who does that? You shouldn't be surprised at animated way he broke up with you. He made it ambiguous so he can deny the intention to break up with you, wherever he wants something from you. Help clear the ambiguities by ending it yourself.
Honey, he did you a favour by acting like a punk! Walking away from a creep shouldn't be too difficult unless you don't know your worth. And you wonder why your libido is on French leave? Seriously? Unless you have cradle snatching tendencies, you shouldn't be turned on by a pubescent boy. Please allow your libido disappear for now, I'm sure it's more psychological than physical. When you find the right guy who treats you like the priceless jewel you are...nature will take its course.
Don't be confused, you've overstayed your welcome in that relationship, you should have ended it long ago. If your friend is silly enough to date him then you've just killed 2 birds with 1 stone. Lose her number as well.
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Everybody claiming marriage is for better for worse....if u can define marriage u will know that it is between a man n a woman.....when another party enters it the meaning of the marriage has been lost so please feel free to rename the union of three or four of them. U guys just forget a woman's feelings and pressurize her into being sad n hopeless forever.....when will men start treating ppl the way they want to be treated..... a head of the family that understands the meaning n importance of family uses clear eye to scatter it shreds and u all are telling the woman to calm down....woman forgive u must o for ur personal peace, but if u forget or ever trust that untrained husband of yours...na u sabi...second chronicle loading.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, you love him so much but just angry.its normal.its unfortunate it happened. He wasn't even careful enough because it could have been something else. Just forgive him and try and work it out.But don't worry too much over it so it won't affect your health.It has already happened.Most times calmness will eventually change the situation to favour you.Just forgive him, there's no point.Its difficult but you'll get through it.God will rearrange things for you if you let him.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, let him go and let the girl go too because she's not your friend. For him to have the audacity to do that then they must have gone far.They are not the air you breathe.You'll do yourself a a huge favour by letting go. He's not in love with you.Maybe he tried but you added to it cause why would you call your boss dear? What gave you the liver to do it?He doesn't trust you and he's fed up because he's warned you several times. Its better than for you to have a broken marriage.
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