Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

Is it okay to confess a love crime to a spouse?

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
CONFESSING A LOVE CRIME TO LE BOO

Hey boo Stelladivakokorkus, love you too much!

 I'm the most confused human being right now, stella I am crying right  here. I hope what I am typing makes sense.... I am engaged to a very wonderful man whom I met two and a half years ago, he was away at that time, he eventually came to Nigeria after a year and a half to consumate the relationship. 

He spent a month and despite my busy work schedule we saw everyday and spent so much time, finally before he left, he proposed and met my parents with his cousin in Nigeria here but that has been a year and 4months now and (I gave him my virginity) despite my vow to keep it till wedding night but honestly It just happened .

During this one year period I have spoken to none of his family nor any single friend and the both times I tried calling his mum I felt very unwanted, one funny thing is when he proposed he couldn't even display the pictures on his socials and advised me not to although my picture is his constant dp on bbm but that's only where it ends and I'm aware he has only 12 contacts on bbm. 

when I questioned him he said " he doesn't want bad belle in our relationship that he's really been through all that in his past relationship ".... But he has never stopped calling me nor stopped sending sweet loving voice notes that gets me so glued to be patiently waiting till now, although we never Skyped throughout cos of the time difference and his unending excuses ..... but this is naija and I'm in my very late twenties.... my parents are starting to get to me, although my pop has been very supportive.

Anyways a whole lot happened this year, I met a guy January this year, I somehow got close to him and apparently we got into the personal side of things and I cheated on my fiance , I was really at a cross road then, I know I had friends I could talk to but  I work round the clock, this guy....picks me up and drops me off at home, he became a constant figure.... I was stupidly vulnerable, I had s** with him and somehow we got deeper and he broke up his long term relationship for me cos it was becoming a constant issue,and said he found happiness in me...

I knew things were moving too fast but mumu me just stayed cos honestly I had so many responsibilities to move a limb. Fast forward to this month this guy has started talking serious marriage talk, shown me to almost all his family but just when I'm like "even if this person is not my ideal perfect type of man I'd just settle".." 

My fiance finally got up from his slumber and he's really pushing it this time,he told his big sister to call me and told me reasons why it looks this way is because his family hasn't met me, that we should give it the best this time... I don't demand he sends me money I don't need , he's there for me somtimes like he just started being there when I have a family gist etc , he's the best. My question are

how do I tell him I slept with another man? Is it forgivable?

This present guy has a bad spending habit I hate careless spenders and can has terrible mood swings especially when he's low on cash,is it endurable ?

How do I tell my fiance I'm not that saint he thinks I am cos I wanna take this guilt off my chest.

How do I breakup from this present guy cos I stopped telling him stuffs, that he should go knowing he left his long time 6yrs relationship for me and talking marriage plans already (that part bothers me tho)?

I love my fiance but I let people get into my head saying stuffs like, he might be married there with kids and all....  They might be right a little I will never know till I get to see things myself.... So confused, would have stuck to this new guy but so many reservations about him cos my eye has started seeing small small, he has the worst spending habit and it's not like he has much, I'd really love a prudent man, he gets constant mood swings and although he's really not had that in a while but I fear for future. I know this chronicle is a little confusing I need people to insult and advice wisely God bless. 
From Kel.

Confess wetin to who?you get winch?do you know what he has been up to all the while he was silent?can you vouch for him?
Well if i have to advice you oh,that secret and guilt of sleeping with someone else is the price you have to pay and YOU MUST TAKE IT WITH YOU TO THE GRAVE..if you do good girl and spill it nah you sabi.
Mumu!..lol

As for that second guy,if it doesn't feel right then let him go..Hmmm 



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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

JEHOVA'S WITNESS BROUHAHA.

Hi Stella,please help me post this on your blog because I seriously need advice on this issue

I am from a family of five with me been the eldest from my mum's side because my father got married to two wives,we grew up attending pentecostal church and we have always stick to that for years but recently my mum has been giving room to JEHOVAH WITNESS

At first I thought it was something that isn't serious but her interest grew day by day listening to them,I called her attention and caution her respectfully but she said I shouldn't worry so I chilled,my mum is the stubborn type least I forget,she doesn't take someone's advice not even my Dad,she wants her own to be done everything and if we try to correct her,na big war be that and so I have decided to let her be but we do have the normal child and parent relationship and nothing more than that,The issue at hand now is she has finally joined the JEHOVAH WITNESS and has even carried my two siblings alongside with her because they obviously can't say no if not na serious beat

what is driving me crazy now is that she is telling me to come with her but I said no,she practically do not want to hear anything about our church where we worship,meanwhile people from where we worship have been coming to talk to her but all to no avail and this is dividing our family thereby causing conflicts,Dad has tried too but my mum is so adamant,I am not speaking ill about the witnesses ooh but I just want my family back(going to church together)she sees churches differently now and talk evil of pastor/members,she now attend JEHOVAH WITNESS fully now,please I need advice on what to do to bring back peace and unity in our home.

Make i siddon read comments abeg.this aint my terrain