Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives...

Does age really matter when a lady in her twenties decides to pitch her tent with some two decades older than her?

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
WHEN LE BOO ISNT PUTTING A RING ON IT....

Physics was a subject I really dreaded while in secondary school. Then from nowhere, news filtered in of a guy who had 100% in physics and maths. I became keen on knowing this person. And when I finally did, I was lovestruck- he became my crush. I was still very young and innocent and so didn't quite know what to do with the feelings but I made sure I showed him wit every opportunity I could get at that time, like helping him write his notes..lol, getting him birthday gifts and all that. 

Finally, I gained admission to the university and lo and behold he was in my school! Tried to keep in touch but my studies took a better part of my time and so we lost touch. University came and went. Just before I went for NYSC, I got an anonymous call and it was him.he told me he had searched everywhere for me and wanted us to see. I was thrilled. We finally saw, had a few dates and then he asked me out. I accepted and it was mind-blowing because I discovered he too was attracted to me.i was 22years old then. 


It was pure love and innocent. I went for service, he was still in school since his own course was 5years. Immediately after service, I got a good job. One thing led to another, and we had sex 1year after we started dating. He was now serving at the time.he got a job afterwards but was not really fulfilled. He then decided to travel abroad to study. I was confused. Yes, I wanted a better life for him but I was worried about myself too. I was 27years at this time and we had dated for 5years.Well, I waited since I truly loved him. He finally finished 2years after while I too completed my masters in Nigeria and then he got a good job here in Nigeria shortly after. And we were happy. Now i cant define our relationship anymore. 


One would have thought marriage would be our priority especially because we are both very okay financially. He has appeared very nonchalant while I am constantly pressured by family and friends on the need to settle down fast. He doesn't talk about it and when I confront him, he keeps making promises I know he can't keep.Each month he keeps saying next month.

Now i will be 30 this year and there is no concrete plans for our wedding.Each time i want to take a walk he begs for another chance. I am so tired and confused. Tired of always being the one that talks about it like I'm desperate while he is carefree. Mind you he will be 29 this year. What do I do?

He keeps begging for another chance doesnt mean he plans to put a ring on it.
you are the only one who can read the handwriting on the wall in front of you.

Talk a walk and leave room open to meet someone else,get busy with work and see how it works out.dont sit down waiting for him like a piece of furniture and in another two years,he will tell you his family wont let him marry someone older than him.


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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
DATING AN OLD MAN WHO DOESNT UNDERSTAND

Hi Stella,
 I really don't knw how to put it but I think i am going into depression. I know a relationship shouldn't define you but once awhile everyone needs love and companionship and I feel I need it now .

I am 27years old and the only relationship I have really enjoyed is the one that lasted for 4years because up till today the friendship between us is still strong but we can't date ourselves anymore cause love left us, recently i started seeing a divorced man and I know he has plans of getting back with his wife which I don't have a problem with but at this point I just want to enjoy this while it lasts but he keeps giving me mixed feelings and i am confused because the single guys that I even have around are not serious.

 Now the issue is that he is analytical about issues because of the age gap and I always try to meet up to his standard and I don't feel he understands that i am still young and he should cut me some slacks I like him but with all this I might just give up and wait for my own man.

  Please i need advise on how to handle older guys with their level of maturity and all,i really want to be loved and show some the love I have inside of me.

Excuse me?did you say he is about getting together with his ex wife?then get out of the way for them them to make up you hear?since he doesnt understand you cos of his age,find a man your age range who does!!!