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Sometimes love hurts when you close your eyes.....

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WHEN LOVE HURTS....AND LIES

Hi Stella Kork, I love this platform. It's really been helpful to me. Am a female  blog visitor based in PH, I could not make it for the BVs party as I was out of town but when I saw the pictures, I knew I missed a lot.

Am so heartbroken and lonely right now. I can't stand the hurt I feel any longer. I needed to share this story maybe I will find the peace of heart I desire. 

I am a single lady of 29yrs, he is 35yrs we met May 2014 on transit from PH to Lagos, latter that same day, we were on board same flight, same sit back to PH that was the point we started talking and exchanged numbers. He never communicated me until I met him again in my church by January 2015, we chatted, he confessed he lost my number so we exchanged numbers again, that was when our relationship started. He has a good sense of humor though not much of a talkative but we blended so well. 


I was turned on by his niceness, he showed me so much care, he would not let me open the car door,  he opens it for me. He gave me a typical westernized treatment, he showed me wat I tot was Love. He's lovemaking was made in heaven. I started fantasizing marriage and kids with him.  I love surprises,  so I would always buy him good designer wristwatches, sunglasses, shoes etc just to express my heart. I usually wrap it up with a card, and drop at d middle of his bed and run away before he comes back.  I loved him in return and I never resisted to show it to him. He is yet to buy me a gift but I never cared even though my heart secretly wants it. We do go out to gardens and drinking joints once in a while and he foots d bills. 



he knows the right ways to treat a woman,  he showed me so much care and love like I've never known in my life.

I had my first relationship at the age of 25 after I graduated from the University, it lasted for 2yrs, in that relationship, I never knew love or niceness. it's just me showing all the love and getting no good treatment in return. So when I met dis new guy, he showed me something  different, he showed me so much care and love, I was knocked off my feet because I never believed that guys like him existed, I tot it was only in cartoons and the movies . 

I have never been cared for or loved that's why I felt this new boo was heaven sent plus I've been praying ceaselessly to God almighty for a new relationship that would lead to marriage. He showed me so much love and care. He served me breakfast on bed, bathed me like a baby most times, even when I visit him we always play hide and seek games in his compound, this little actions awakened the dead cells and love in my heart. He told me he was engaged but does not have feelings for the fiancee anymore as a result of her constant nagging and regular quarrels. In my small mind I kept wondering the manner of Lady that would nag and quarrel a guy like him cos he was too perfect. He promised to formally call off the engagement with her since she does not have feelings for him either. Our love life continued.


 During church services, he does not like us walking together or even talking to ourselves in church he said it was a covenant he made and he will break it when we get married. During the weekends he hardly picks his calls and most of the times when am with him,  he puts his fone on silence mode. I don't snoop and am not the type to visit any house unannounced either. Early May this year, I called his line and he immediately switched it off, so I decided to get to his home. it was a Sunday .

Stella guess what? He was home comfortably gisting with a lady in his sitting room whom he introduced to me as his fiancee. I reminded him about their breakup he told me about, he answered without any emotions or even remorse that they never broke up that as I can see, they are very much to together. The lady angrily went into his bedroom and he asked me to leave his house immediately, I forgot to say I came with some good egusi soup and Garri, I also made jollof rice and fried fish for him,  Stella na so your sister carry her food begin cry go house. I almost had an accident driving home.


 He sent me a text message that nite saying he was sorry that with me is where he wanna be, that he is so sorry about the episode in his house, that he needed to sort things out in his own way since the lady involved was a family friend, says he can't stand her any longer that she came to his home to plead for a continuity, that I should give him time and all will be fine again,that he really wants to settle down with me. 

It's exactly one month this happened and he has not called me again and I've never called him either. I hate him for what he did to me but my heart can't seem to forget him, my heart can't stop loving him, he treated me so nice, awakened the love in me, made me fall hopelessly in love with him. It's so sad as I can't seem to forget his face and all the good times we shared together, those memories I will forever cherish as I have never experienced such.

My fellow blog visitors is this the end of the road for my relationship, should I leave him already and move ahead or should I take the Bulls by the horn, call him and have a face to face chat to clear up this issues and know my next direction. 

I need matured minds in this advice, preferable someone who has gone through a similar experience. Remember true love makes the victim blind so your sincere advice will go a long way. 

Stella I have privately attached my picture for you to see and delete afterwards, i am not an ugly girl. I am 5ft11inches tall,  almost 6ft. I wonder why I 've been very unlucky in relationships.

Yes i saw the pics and you are VERY beautiful......!
You started a relationship in January 2015 and you have not heard from him for a month,meaning it ended in May.
Give or take,the Relationship lasted about 4months but you gave him everything a wife gives a man,your time,your love,your money,your food and you sealed it with your tohtoh...YOU GAVE HIM EVERYTHING TOO SOON.

Understandably most of us have been there

Do you have running shoes?Put them on right now and start running.

If he comes begging,tie your two legs together and pretend to be a mermaid.