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WHEN LE BOO BAD MOUTHS BAE AND CAUSES DRAMA WHEN HE IS CONFRONTED

Gooday Ma'am StellaKork of Life, i never believed i will be doing this but thank God i finally had the courage to do so. please kindly hide my identity as i bring this matter before the honorable House for advice and candid opinion please.

i have been dating this guy for the past five years now and everything was perfectly okay and i thank God everyday for bringing him my way as i have been jilted in the past which actually made me give up on dating and guys, during this 5yrs of dating we had our ups and down but we where able to manage them and sort things out until late last year he had to quit his uniform job and go back to school due to my encouragement and advice, as the job was tasking and demanding and he wasn't happy with it hence i helped secure admission and he went back to school as we hope for a better future.

 we had our future plans and all, but recently he started acting funny, now drinks, smoke and of cos i suspected cheating as i snooped and saw text messages and a suspicious name he stored on his phone, meanwhile, this guy woke up one morning and told me he is tired and said he is breaking up with me, few days after my birthday, giving some excuses that i pushed him to the wall, just flimsy talks to justify his aims, i cried and begged and all until we made-up again and he apologised and i also did and said am sorry for everything he thinks i have done because i know all the pushing i did was to encourage him strife harder to be a better person in life. 

Recently i met with a very close friend of mine who happened to be same language person with my guy and he also happened to know my elder brother because we all graduated from same university hence we were very close friends, he called my bro and told him that look at what my bf is saying about me that period we broke-up that i squandered his money, he is always helping my family (which is not true) and also said things we did intimately while we dated and how we had sex and all to the extent of saying so many crazy and nasty things, mind you our relationship has always been along distance one but we always made out time to be with each other, and that his family has already said they cant allow him marry a girl from my tribe(urhobo) yet he didn't tell me.

he even showed my friend a gal on his phone and said that is the girl he wants to go after now. i heard all these things and i became heartbroken as i gave my all into this relationship and helped him out in every possible way i could even in academics. with all the hurtful things i heard so i confronted him but didn't tell him who told me, at first he denied and later angered that he said a lot of things when we broke-up and did some nasty things but that he is sorry that he knows if i decided to leave him its his fault, but Stella i never had the mind of leaving him because he is someone that has a great future but needs a little pushing to face life, so i have promised i will always be there for him even if he decides to end our relationship, i decided to ignore him for some-days as i was terribly hurt and needed to clear my head as i didn't believe he could stoop so low to talk about me to people and ridicule me like that.

i didn't call but we chatted once in a while and he called once. then i decided to let go and called him yesterday for us to talk and settle our differences, meanwhile we where chatting some days ago and i was telling him other things i heard behold this guy got angry and said God will punish whoever told me and deleted me from his bbm and blocked me on whatsapp. so when i called him yesterday he said a lot of things and finally said God will punish me and whoever told me all those thing and said he is not ready to settle with me or become my bf unless i tell him the name of the person who told me all these things and the elder sister has also called that she wants to settle things between us. 

my question now is should i tell him and the sister the person's name who told me all those things as he is painting me as the bad person and also claiming that am leaving him because he is no longer working and has no money. Am really confused and don't know what else to do but i will like to clear my name as i have always supported this guy in every way possible and did things for him that ordinarily i will not think of doing. 

Advice me please as i am really down and heartbroken and confused.constructive advice is needed. thanks and God Bless.

The person who told you is your very close friend and has probably done you a lot of good by telling you these things.if you are hell bent on clearing your name,please ask this close friend first if it is okay to mention names.......

If you invested so much time and emotions into this relationship and he is still making you sweat it,I suggest you let him go..If you ask me,aint worth it at all.

A man who runs you down with bad words becos of personal ish aint worth the trouble....A REAL MAN KEEPS HIS MOUTH SHUT and has his character in check!