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SERIAL LOVER HUSBAND AND THE CONFRONTATION TIPS

Dear Stella i hope my mail meet you well. I am ardent reader of you blog but i hardly comment. Let me go straight to my story.

Am married with 2 kids and i will be 3 years in marriage this year. Everything seem perfect until last year when i started noticing hubby being flirty with my best friend. I don't keep so much friends but i have this very one that come over a lot and even spend the weekend with us. 

Foolish me threw caution to the wind because i never thought he would stoop so low or disrespect me like that. I even some times leave her home and go out to run errands or pick up my kids from school. What got me suspicious was that each time am out i and i leave them both at home i usually come back to a fight between them. And their stories don't corroborate. Late last year my husband said i should stop being friends with her i asked him why and he didn't give me any good reason, asked my friend what happened between her and my hubby she said nothing so i told her to stay away from my house since i was already smelling a rat.

I have never for once doubted him before this issue but after that i started keeping close to him, i snooped i didn't find nothing but i didn't stop. We share each other's password i.e social media and all our financial accounts too. It was just a few weeks after this that i noticed my hubby has changed his account passwords and logins. When i confronted him he said i don't need to know so far he provides for the house. It caused a big argument between us and i had to let it go to let peace reign not knowing it was just the beginning.

Ever since the password issue he started hanging out late after work, coming home drunk and each time i see him like that i get angry and nag alot but he still kept on, when i noticed my nagging wasn't helping i talked to him lovingly and each time i always get a promise that he will stop but it only last for 2 days so i let him be and let God take the wheel.

February was his birthday, i made dinner and ordered cake, invited my married friends and their hubby for  dinner hoping to surprise him. I started pinging my hubby to come home he said he isn't ready that his work friends are hosting him,i told him am waiting with the kids to celebrate wit him only for him to hang up and refuse to pick my calls again i had to go cover up for him that he is working late so we ate and every body left to their houses.

 I stayed up boiling and waiting for him to get home and give him my piece of mind. My hubby got home 11:30 pm and when i confronted him he gave me the slap of my life! I was shocked but i retaliated, hmmm stella darling the beating i got was not here at all, he broke my head and i bled so much he himself couldn't believe. Our parents came and got it settled and he promised not to touch me again which he hasn't since then but he has resumed his late night crawling again.

Last Week my hubby went to wash my car at the car wash he met one of my married friend there which he told me when he got home but i didn't know he did more than greeting to her. Yesterday my other married friend called to see me,on getting to her house i met 3 other of our friends there, it was a kind of intervention. I sat down and one of them brought out the bible and made me swore that whatever i was told i would handle it maturely and i won't let it break me,i said ok. 

My friend he met at the car wash said my husband asked her out and she provided evidence which was the convo they had via bbm. You need to see d wat my hubby was wooing this woman knowing quite all right that she is married and he even knows her husband. I couldn't even finished reading the chat, plus all the stuff he told her about me that am too lazy in bed, that she is too appealing to him as it took him so much courage to tell her all this,that each time we went on couples dinner he was always staring at her butt bla bla bla. She said he hubby was going to come over to our house to embarrass  him  but he had to stop because of me and the kids. 

All my friends made me swear not to confront him now but each time i look at him i feel like stabbing him and i am so sure he must have slept with that my friends then. Am in a dilemma, my other friend's hubby has called him for a meeting to accuse him of his immoral act but they are suppose to meet this weekend.

How do i handle this personally on my own, a lot of questions i kept asking myself, like how i have failed as a woman, how did it get to this, was i too careless??? I just need answers before i go insane.