Domestic Violence Advice From An Angry But Concerned Woman!

''When a man pushes you to the wall, talk to a counsellor and please SHUT THE FUCK UP ... Men are angered by words that's why silence is the best way to kill a  man (cause he is afraid, he doesn't know what you have up your sleeves) MEN ARE AFRAID OF SILENT WOMEN (SILENT not QUIET - they are different) And if a man is abusive and you can't help it, maybe its time to WALK OUT''.

''Good Morning dear BVs, 

say NO to DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. I am not saying PLEASE this time around, this is something we all must say NO from whether we like it or NOT. I am worried at the rate at which domestic violence (emotional, physical and every kind of torture associated with it) has risen in many homes today. When God instituted marriage, he put man and woman there because he didn't want them to be alone and the institution marriage should be based on love not otherwise.

 I have never read in my bible that a married man beat his wife or otherwise (maybe because I have not searched the scriptures enough or has anyone read that in their bible?) Even when Saul's daughter mocked David, did he beat her? when Sarah couldn't bear a child for Abraham, did he beat her? I used these examples because men come with stupid excuses for beating their wives "she abused me", "after all these year, no child" so they go ahead and turn their wives to punching bags.

By nature women are the physically weak ones, we need more attention, we are the ones with loud mouths etc, dear men THAT IS HOW WE ARE WIRED ! Just like you are WIRED TO BE MACHO. Never for any reason no matter how good as it sounds abuse your wife whether physically, emotionally, mentally or try to ruin her just because you want to prove a point. 

There are ways to pass your message across without being abusive. And for Christ's sake if this woman loves you, if she stood by you why will you suddenly become a beast? 

I am a lady, I know women can go overboard sometimes. Please forgive us if we suddenly change. And talking about a woman changing (from good to bad) have you asked yourself why a woman who loved you would suddenly go cold on you and decide to be a "witch" WOMEN CHANGE FOR SO MANY REASONS 1. Maybe you changed 2. Maybe she is mad (cause the devil decides to use her) which ever the case is turn to a good counsellor (God and a physical counsellor, your pastors, an elder you trust or therapy)

Whichever away it is, when it comes to DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, men listen up, IT IS A WOMANS WORLD. i don't think you heard that IT IS A WOMANS WORLD. Yes ! Because the world will support a woman once you have laid your hand on her or her kids.

Talking about kids, are you crazy men ? Your wife offends you and you decide to beat YOUR kids, YOUR kids cause those children are yours, she didn't impregnate herself. What kind of example are you laying for those children. Children learn fast and my mom used to tell me something, 90%of a child's character is shaped by what he sees growing up. Your child beats up his/her mate in school and is suspended, check your home first, that child learnt it from his home. 

Man, you probably learnt to be abusive from your family and you pass the same destructive culture to your child and keep destroying generations after you. MAN LEARN ! PLEASE LEARN ! There are too many things I want to write here but .....

DEAR WOMEN, I know you are a woman, you ought to be loved, cherished, pampered and tolerated but do you ever think EVERY MAN has their BREAKING POINT. Like a rubber band that has reached its elastic limit and then they SNAP. Then you cry foul ! May I send this note to women who say their husband cheat on them, if your husband ever cheats CRY, WHINE, SULK, BE COLD BUT NEVER EVER EVER EVER NEVER EVER GO AND BEAT UP ANOTHER WOMAN TO PROVE TO YOUR HUSBAND YOU CAN TREAT HIS FUCK UP ! Are you fucking STUPID ? 

Haven't you heard silence kills a man faster than words or blows ? Haven't you heard about soaking them in the blood of JESUS (I am a Christian and I believe in the blood !) Why beat up another woman or confront her (let her dig her grave) You beat her up, your husband beats you up on her behalf and you cry and send SDK touchy stories (This is 2015, women are doing big things now, no woman should be sending touchy stories ... you should be sending stories on achievements to motivate people PLEASE).

When a man pushes you to the wall, talk to a counsellor and please SHUT THE FUCK UP ... Men are angered by words that's why silence is the best way to kill a  man (cause he is afraid, he doesn't know what you have up your sleeves) MEN ARE AFRAID OF SILENT WOMEN (SILENT not QUIET - they are different) And if a man is abusive and you can't help it, maybe its time to WALK OUT. 

A lot of WOMEN don't understand the reason why court marriages are compulsory, it makes WALKING OUT A LOT EASIER. PLEASE TAKE A HIKE. Don't listen to any pastor who says you should stay because divorce is a sin, murder is a sin too (Whether you kill the man or he kills you, you are still going to sin) BUT DON"T STAY in the marriage and hope he will change like magic. RUN AS FAST AS YOUR LEGS CAN CARRY YOU. Run because YOU NEED YOU, YOUR CHILDREN NEED YOU, YOUR CHILDREN NEED YOU. No woman will mother them like you would, not even your sister.

Let me tell you what happens when he kills you:

1. Your parents and family lament about your death but may probably never be able to do anything about it.

2. Your pastor (the man of GOD who asked you to stay) conducts your funeral 

3. Your children may be forcefully taken away by your husband who puts them with another woman and ..... (you know how it goes with another woman)

4. If he doesn't take them, they are left with someone else who may not even give them any attention and then they become a nuisance to the society

5. If God loves you, they would be well taken care of.

Whichever way, please no woman or man should be made to go through hell in the name of being married. SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.

The world is a global village, speak to people online, facebook, twitter and all and ASK FOR HELP, ASK FOR HELP. DON'T DIE A VICTIM !

Have a good day, be happy, find love where love makes sense, LIVE AND BE HAPPY ! DON"T LET NOBODY ABUSE YOU, don't kill yourself by yourself, DON'T LET THE DEVIL USE YOU.

Thank you Stella, please share this with BVs, if it is going to stop, it starts with us.

Gracie.

FROM FELLOW BV

You said men are afraid of silent women?some women have tried keeping quiet and got more blows for keeping quiet.what is wrong is wrong and a man that abuses will use even your silence to pummel you.....I understand your anger but easy babe!