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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE.

A LAZY ASS HUSBAND AND A CHEATING BROKEN WIFE.

Hello Stella,
Trust you are very well. Stumbled on your blog a year ago when someone left a comment about you on LIB so thought to check it out and I have not been disapointed. Please I need the house to tell me where I have gone wrong or what I am doing wrong as I am at the verge of giving up.my story is a bit long abeg be patient with me oh.

I have been married for 8yrs with two wonderful kids but I am not happy in my marriage. I got married at 23 and i have not experienced the joy of being married.Problems started after I got married oh. DH and i didn't date for a long time as e lived abroad so we didn't see much. 

After marriage I found out that dear DH lied to me about a lot of things including the stage of his job and finances. Even money for marriage I found out he borrowed from friends. I spent most of my savings go too for that wedding b cos I was covering him from my family. When I went to join him, all was revealed but I stayed b cos I am from a broken home and I didn't want that for myself.

Stella DH finally lost his job oh and he refused to work instead he was living off his girlfriends. He even left me for days wen i was pregnant to be with his married girlfriend for days.Taking money from them to feed his family. I was new abroad so didn't know much. My mother was living abroad too so she too had to take a second job so she can be sending me money. At this time I was pregnant with my second child. 6 months after I gave birth, I went job hunting and found one. DH said he was not going to work oh so I took up the responsibilities of the home bear in mind I have been abroad for 2yrs and he has been for 15 yrs. 

Stella, all he does is carry girls, go to clubs and take money from friends. I hear of all the things he does oh and this man can LIE OH! E LIE PASS FISH OH. His family sef Don tire for e lie lie oh. There is nothing he says that I believe till I see it.
There is no truth in his mouth at all.
Anytime we have issues, the first thing he does is insult my family. She is so depressed with his insults and liying attitude. We used to live in Spain so I convinced him to move to UK so he can find work which he only agreed after i stopped paying rent and we were kicked out. No where to go, he then left to UK.
I moved to UK to join him to make things a bit easy for him but he will not let me breath. He wants me to still join him in paying bills oh. Did I mention that he put me in so much debt in Spain that I am still paying till now? This man has never bought me gift oh for 8yrs oh not to talk of our kids. I do everything for them. Wen i suggest lets go to a restaurant he will say only if i pay for it. All I do is think of when I will experience love.
Recently I met a guy at work whom I became friends with. the guy pays so much attention to me like I have never seen before all thru my years of being married. He is just the definition of a gentleman. One thing led to another and we had sex which was mind blowing. Now it is forbidden where I am from but at this point I don't really care. I confided in my friend and she said the guy knows my problem and he is just using me but of course I know that but he tells me what I want to hear and it makes me really happy. I have told DH a lot of times that I am tired but he thinks I cannot survive without him.
I want a fulfilled life for myself but I am so confused about leaving is staying because of the kids. I just don't feel anything for him anymore and my family really wants me to leave and find my life.
Please any advice are welcome from matured minds oh.

You have already left him emotionally and spiritually,since you have started sitting on another ''DI*K''.it is better you leave him....Stop using kids as excuse,go and ''find your life'' before you are labelled a cheating wife a s excuse for his failure.....well you are a cheating wife albeit your excuse is wearing sandals...lol

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

CHOOSING LOVE OVER FAMILY CAN BE FATAL?

Hi Mrs Korks! hope this mail meets you well. I never thought i would be needing advice so soon....I really need your honest opinion on this issues because it has been eating me up for a while. I need your candid advice but you may also choose to put it up . I am a young lady of 23..i am in a relationship with a 27 years old man. He finished school quiet early and he is doing fine for himself. 

The issue here is we have different background though we are both from same tribe.I attend celestial church and he attends apostolic.. His mom has something against white garment church because of what happened in her marriage in the early years that caused divorce.For the record..my parent are also divorced(white garment ish too). people in apostolic church dont make their hair...use makeup or wear trousers...i do all those because my church isn't against all that. 

we already prayed about us...the warning side is that we need to be prayerful for our union to be successful...(who doesnt ?) We knew about our differences before we agreed to date . My worries now are...eventually ..we are going to have to involve third parties like my parent and his parent ... With all these differences...How we go about it.. ? i see reasons why his mum thinks all celestial people are fetish but a woman doesn't have a church once she is married right?and that notion doesnt apply to me... i see the reason why his mom is against ondo cos we are stubborn to bits but can we generalise?i am cool headed...he can testify... i have indirectly suggested break up because of all these but he said he is not giving up without trying...

Mrs korks i get advances every now and then...how do i go about it? how do people handle unsure relationship like this? He might want me but rebelling against his family because of me is outrightly wrong. I need your advice. i might end up referring him   to this post just in case you post it. GOD bless.

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