Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

Have a lovely Friday and you read through these narratives and offer solutions and/or advice.

God bless oh.

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

WHEN JEALOUSY AND INSECURITY THROWS COMMON SENSE OUT OF THE WINDOW.

 My elder brother he is married to  one of the most beautiful girls in my school at that time, was once the miss campus. he met her through me and I must say she is a decent and wonderful woman, she was in her final year when they met and I must say I played a very important role in their courtship which eventually led to marriage. She graduated before me cos we read different courses, and she was lucky to be retained at the bank she served.  Cos of her beauty my brother was afraid and quickly proposed and they got married. 

My brother is also good looking lol! 

Everything started well, she is a blessing to him and he knows, God has really blessed them,after 3 kids my brother started showing the bad side of himself, he gets angry over everything she does, finding fault, nags like a woman,loves to see her cry, cos I stayed out of the country I didn't know all these was going on and anytime I called she tells me all is good. I came back to the country after I had my baby and was pained at what I saw, you could tell she is depressed even when she pretends all is well. My brother behaves like a monster, In the house he only smiled at me and kids, when I could not take it anymore I asked him what she did wrong and my brother's response was he likes to see her cry!!! 

Saying she is too beautiful and it sometimes get into her head! I was mad at him asked him to change but he wouldn't, few days ago he shouted her down and disgraced her at an event we all went to for no reason. Now his wife can bear it no more and we talked at length on Sunday, she said she is taking a walk after 7 years and may not look back. She loves, respect and adores my brother which everyone in my family knows of but she is not getting any love or respect,at first I supported her but then her kids, and I don't want him to loose this woman. 

I'm writing this so I could asked him to check your blog and read people's response and change. So many things I can't even write here. How can a man love to see his wife unhappy!!!              

                Maybe she needs to leave him alone for sometime to figure out if he would be happy without her or not.How can he say that he loves to see her cry?Tell your sister in law to take some time off this beast of a man and do not cajole her into staying becos he is your brother.

You said your brother will read this?...If not tell him i said shame on him for being a wrapper!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

A COUPLE THAT INVESTS TOGETHER BREAKS APART?

 I'm married with 2 kids and live in the states with DH, we both have good jobs and decided to run same account since it makes things easier and faster here. It worked well as we lived in our own house and even have apartments we rented out. 

Everything was going fine until recently I started making some shocking discoveries, my hubby was building houses in Lagos and PH and I didn't know, opened a new business in Lagos without letting me know and becos I trusted him so much I never bother or question him how he runs our accounts when I went to Nigeria I was staying at my brother's house since I believed we are yet to finish renovation on the house we bought at Maryland only for a friend of mine that lives in lekki to ask me why I didn't stay at the house since it's completed, I had to come up with a lie just to cover up, she was so happy my house is just next to her's and she has seen DH there on several occasions cos he frequently travels to Nigeria for different reasons!!

 So when I travelled back to the states I quietly did my research and found so many things. When I confronted him he said he wanted to surprise me!!! Even when there is a tenant in one?? Houses built with our money? We run same account but what I earn annually almost triples his. We have been having serious issues now and I realized when we go out he doesn't refer to me as his wife anymore but mother of his kids.

 I'm so hurt right now, I know what I should have done since I'm a U.S. Citizen, but the implication for him and our kids is what is holding me back. Please has anyone been in my shoes??

He said he wanted to surprise you?might be true cos if it was a secret,he wouldnt be building near your friends house.

He also probably thought you might not approve of the project but i am sure he meant well,whichever,please disengage same account mode and save your own monies in a seperate account.

Use wisdom to handle this becos for all you know,your hubby might have been saving for a 'rainy day' and looking forward to the altercation so that he can walk.