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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

FORBIDDEN MARRIAGE

Good day Stella, please post my story as anonymous. I need your advice.

I got engaged in Dec 2014. Unfortunately the engagement was called off. The elders concluded and said that my late grand mom and his late mother shared the same paternal grandfather so the culture forbids our marriage and that

If we marry our kids will die mysteriously.

We are allowed to marry if it was from the paternal side.  For me its not fair

but the strange thing is my grandmoms maiden surname and that of my ex fiances mothers maiden surname are different from the name of the grandfather they supposedly share, even those of their own mothers.

 that's why my mother and her siblings were all shocked because my late grand mom never mentioned my ex fiances mom to them

But unfortunately, my fiance out of fear and lack of faith has given up and told me to move on, that we are life and death.

 Before he said he was gonna stand by me despite what happened.

He suddenly became mean towards me ,said that he still loves me but we must move on.

 I found out recently  he has started wooing another woman whom he asked out when we were having issues with our long distance relationship.

She had turned him down then,  that's why he came back to me. So now since our engagement ended I found out on facebook he has gone back to her. I think he is desperate to marry.

We are members of a relationship advice blog. His identity was hidden but the story was too much of a coincidence, I put the pieces together and realised he was talking about me and the new woman he wants

I prayed to God to give me answers if my fiance was the man for me, weeks later i saw my fiances attitude changing and the recent post on facebook

He even refused to speak to my pastor who is igbo too and advised me that he sees nothing wrong with our link that his sister also married a distant maternal relative and they are happily married with a child.

Pastor asked to speak to my fiance for counselling but he refused. I can't stop crying,

 A voice inside me says I have been saved from marrying the wrong man even if the tradition was reversed.

That voice telling you might be the best thing that ever happened to you,please move on

This your story dey turn me for eyes abeg!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

MEETING ONLINE .....

Hi Stella,how are you doing? hope this meets you well.I would like your advice on my relationship. My name is Tonia and I met my boyfriend 2 months ago online in Abuja,we arranged to meet as I was leaving abuja the next day and it was amazing it was like we knew each other before.

 he asked me not to leave,that I should chill a bit but I refused as I was going back home to convince my parents to allow me move to Abuja. I have moved to Abuja and I have noticed something that I need your advice on. my boyfriend says he really likes me but he doesn't call or return calls. 

He is really busy and I get that but if you really care about someone you will make out time even for a phone call, I really like him and i want a committed relationship with him.my friends have advised me to ignore him but I want the advise of people who are not biased or do not know me. He says he is not the type of guy to call all the time and I want to believe him but I also do not want to be someone's side chick. Feel free to advice and pardon my errors thank you.

Met him online?facebook?badoo?.From your explanation,you are unto a player and its best you forget him.

Let me leave comments to give you sound advice.