Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

Thank God its Friday.......how many of you have mothers in law that is your BFF?..Lucky you!..lucky me!

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

WHEN MOTHER IN LAW GOES SILENT ON YOU...

Dear fellow SDK blog visitors, what do you guys think about calling in a respected elderly family member to help a couple talk through an issue when they have tried resolving it themselves but all the couple's effort only leads to bigger arguments? I'll give a case in point:

I needed to travel for one day to write a professional exam, but my husband refused to let me take our two little kids (under 2 years of age) to my parent's house for my mum to take care of them. He said he would care for them himself. 

(Note that his mother was out of town if not I would have taken them to her).

 I wanted to make my mother-in-law aware of the situation so that I won't be accused of abandoning my kids for my career (you know how judgmental naija society can be sometimes). I tried to call my mother-in-law, she wasn't picking, I sent her a text explaining the situation and then proceeded to call her again.

 I was shocked to see that she was talking to my husband about the issue on the same line that I had just tried calling her on. My mother-in-law totally refused to take my calls because she was of the opinion that couples should keep everything between themselves. My husband went ahead to take away my copy of the house keys. He locked the doors and said whenever I was ready to go, he will let me out, in order to ensure that I don't come back when he is out, to take his kids to my parents' house. 

I had already assured him that I wasn't going to take them away but I was opposed to leaving without a key since it will be very inconveniencing for me to go on such an exhausting journey, return and not have immediate access to the house (My husband's whereabouts is usually very difficult to discern on account of the nature of his job). Again, I tried to get my mother-in-law to intervene and ask him to let me have one of the keys but she still refused to take my calls. I sent her another text. I was running late so I proceeded to take my husband's wallet which he left in one of the rooms. My intention was to use it as an exchange item so I can get the keys from him.

Unfortunately, this got him very mad and in a bid to get the wallet back from me, he pushed me and I hit the back of my head on a glass table resulting in a head injury as revealed by a CT scan. In all of this, my mother-in-law still refused to take my calls even though she could hear me shouting and crying through the phone (recall my husband was intermittently on the phone with her while the fracas was going on). Since that day, I haven't called her again, and she hasn't called me either. Even when my parents informed her about my head injury via text (since she wasn't taking their calls), she still failed to give me call to find out how badly hurt I was. 

She has come to our home one day since the incident, I was taking a bath, by the time I was done and came to the living room, she was gone. I don't think she asked after me but I didn't bother asking my husband whether she did. This is someone I have loved and respected as a mother all this time, we have never ever had even one disagreement. By refusing to get involved, she has effectively destroyed our cordial relationship forever. I cannot honestly say that I feel like she cares whether I live or die as long as we obey the golden rule of keeping everything between ourselves as a couple.

Something doesnt sound right from your explanation...your mother in law who used to have a good relationship with you cannot just stop taking your call because of something so minor except of cos your husband poisoned her mind against you and said things you didnt say during that period.

I would advise you to go and visit her,get some gifts along for her and if need be,go down on your knees and beg her to forgive you for whatever it is.

No use dragging it.

Just go and make peace..I am very sure your hubby is the cause!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

TALES BY MOONLIGHT BETWEEN LE BOO AND HIS EX

Dear Stella,hope this mail meets you well? And hope il be able to get positive feedbacks from my fellow BVs.

Straight to the point......

I met my recent BF last month and he happens to be my crush in secondary school. He's still very into me and I into him too.

The problem now is about his Ex.. she really made him pass thru hell with her ways for the 2yrs they dated and he had to break up with her. Now the girl learnt that he's now dating someone else(me) and has been on his case,and she also said she's pregnant for him and won't abort it. 

My BF said she can go ahead to have the baby, and if DNA says the child is his,he would take responsibility for him. 

This lady in question is very desperate to come back and I'm beginning to fear for my life but my BF keeps telling me to calm down and trust him. 

Dear fellow BVs,please what should I do in this situation? 

Do I stay or leave? 

Thanks as I await comments .

Hmmmm...this is a one sided story as recounted by your boyfriend.

Do not allow any guy use you .....Are you sure they have broken up or just having a lovers quarell which might be settled with time.

She is pregnant?do you know if he has fathered other kids with her or anywhere else?

Your boyfriend says you should calm down and trust him?meaning you dont trust him already?

My dear shine your eyes because it is only a relationship.SHINE YOUR EYES WELL AND DO NOT TRUST HIM UNTIL YOU HEAR BOTH SIDES OF THE STORY....he probably dumped her cos she got pregnant and moved on to you!

secondary school crush my BIG FAT soft ass!