Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

Hmmm Narrative number one touched the deepest depth of my heart and narrative number is just........OMG DH has replied!

Why?...oh why......

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
DIAGNOSIS - DIVORCE AHEAD

REASON - IRRECONCILIABLE DIFFERENCES

Hello Stella .

Greetings to you and your family.

Skipping the accolades.

I love you and what you stand for already.

Now to the reason I'm writing you this mail.

. I need honest, objective advice based on what is moral, Godly and just.

This is going to be long, because I want to let the picture out and clear, for a better advice.

I have been married for about 6yrs, with 2 beautiful kids. I'm a great wife, mother and a career woman, with a great job, I try my best, no one is perfect. but I'm in an emotionless and affection less marriage

I have never taken a shower together with hubby, I tried and he pushed me out, my husband has never held my hands ,public nor private. and I decided to accept my fate.

But recently, I have become worried as lack of sex has crept in. My husband doesn't touch me, and when I try to come unto him, he says he is tired or that he is not in the mood, this went on for a while and I kinda lost myself esteem .

I have prayed and communicated my feelings to him, but to no avail.

He'll work at it for one week and then next week , he is back to his default settings .

I look extremely good, I get compliments from both the opposite and same sex.

So this has got nothing to do with my looks.

Stella how can I live like this, my husband comes from work, meets me in the sitting room, I try to go hug him, he puts me aside and struts  and wiggle his waist upstairs to his room.

After a while I then go upstairs , to ask him how his day was, he says fine and that he is tired, the next thing I hear is a huge grunt and snoring, I'm just left there on the bed with my iPad and I shed a little tear and i sleep as well.

Stella for about 4months , my husband didn't touch me, there was a time I was so horny, couldn't bear it anymore, so I went to meet him , we were both in the sitting room, I winked at him and said baby, I'm really horny u know I've been telling u, guess what he said?

He told me 'that I don't have  problem abi' that I beg he is not in the mood, after that incidence , I told myself I will not make any move anymore. And concluded maybe his libido is low.

So for the past one week , my spirit has not been at rest, I've been praying as well , something said, I should check his phone

Ps: his phone is password protected

So I decided that I'll find a way to get his password, then an idea came to me

I made a video of him, typing his passwords, with my phone .

So that night, whilst he was asleep , I took his phone , entered his password.

Stella ................ I'm broken and hurt.

What did I see , oh lord .

I saw not 1, 2, 3, 4,5,6,7,8 but countless of girls on whatzapp chat, with messages of how he has been sleeping with them and also giving them money.i snapped a screen shot as evidence.

Did I mention he keeps late night!

So that night, I packed my bags, took my passport.....

When I woke up, I sat on the bed facing him, I confronted him.

He didn't know in details what I had seen, he became defensive and of course lied, when I started downloading evidence, he started saying, it is bullshit, those are nonsense and doesn't mean anything to him , I took his phone and smashed it, threw it downstairs.

I had already packed my stuff, he told them not to allow me out of the gate, I drove straight to the airport , told the nanny to look after the kids, oh lord , the tears on my little boy , that morning, he saw me leaving.

As I write ,I'm in Nigeria , with my parents.

I'll be going back today. As I can't live in the same roof with him, I'm disgusted and I feel sick.

But I"ll get a place for myself. I've decided to go for a divorce.

My mum says I should work it out with him .

Dad says, I should do HIV test first of all, and that he supports my decision.

As it is right now, I have decided to divorce him, because this is not the type of marriage I envisaged, I have not been happy, and will not be if I stay. I don't even want my kids to emulate this kind of marriage .

My husband has a spiritual problem, to have disrespected me so much, and condescended so low to sleep with everything and anything. I will pray for him, but till then he should sort himself .

Please I'm broken and a mess, I need to know how to get pass through this pain. I've not eaten for the past two days, I just can't eat. Thank you all .

My dear i just want to hug you and tell you its gonna be alright but i cant. 

I would never stay in a situation that makes me unhappy like you described up there but i do not want to be the one to tell you to take a walk from your Marriage.

If it broken down and you have tried all you can without effect,then take a break from that Marriage and see if your absence will allow God fix it.

So I am suggesting you take a break far from him and see how it goes before you consider divorce.

I just wanna hug you honey.

He is on your phone right?Please send him a link to this story so that he can read your narrative and see the comments.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

RIGHT OF REPLY - THAT MOMENT WHEN DH WALKS IN WITH SIDE CHICK

http://www.stelladimokokorkus.com/2015/04/chronicles-of-blog-visitor-narrative_30.html

Greetings. 

My sister brought attention of your blog to me yesterday evening after cussing me and telling me she is ashamed to be called my Sister. My wife wrote to you, narrating what I did on our anniversary. Your readers had plenty to say about it, with some asking why I continued with the date,and I agree it was disrespectful to say the least. The fact that my wife did not confront me is the reason why I continued and truth is I did not know what else to do but I did not expect her to pack and leave without even thrashing things out. My wife is very private so for her to share this issue publicly, I know I've lost her. 

She is a very strong,understanding person. A prayer warrior who introduced me to Christ when we started dating and truly my gift from God. She is indeed my rib and soul mate, my own family love her more than they love me sef. I accept all the insults given by your readers, I'm a bloody bastard that doesn't deserve her, as stated by one reader. My wife is very noble and patient and very selfless, I don't know to this day why God gave her to me and I think that is why I did what I did, even at her worst, she is still the best. She puts Everyone before herself. I can't blame devil sef coz na me use my own hand dey scatter my marriage and cause all this Wahala.

Here's my explanation, since the first day I met my wife she has been independent, which is now a problem in my marriage. she doesn't bother me asking for money and that is why I loved her initially because anybody that lives in UK knows how life is there and how rare it is to find African women that fend for themselves. 

But here in Nigeria things are different which made me stray and look at my wife differently. She behaves as if she is not married to me because she does everything herself, it's not an excuse but as a man, my ego blinded me. My friends would mock me that my wife doesn't need me, that she probably has a boyfriend outside our marriage because their wives even ask money to buy Maggi, so I should be with a side girl that will appreciate me as a man. 

On a few occasions we've been out with our friends and she will take out money to pay as if she's still in UK, and because she is not Nigerian she doesn't fully understand our kind of men and pride, that's just few examples. God is my witness when I say I had never cheated on my wife for one day before this incident but the problem is, I know my wife will be VERY ok without me, her independence is over good. She is ALWAYS dressing up and going to the gym even when I've travelled, as if to impress other men. She said she's no yet ready to take in, you see my problem? Am not insecure but Is it bad to want to know and feel that your wife needs you?

I accept all responsibly, please help me post this on your blog for your readers to help me in begging as she she has blocked my numbers so I only get through to her via my mum and sister, who has even helped my wife to change all the locks in our house in London. Which kin yeye sister be that? I will be going to London this week to continue begging. Mumsy sef don warn me strongly say mek I no return without her Southy daughter. Wahala dey! 

Rachel, please if you're reading this, baby please answer my emails and calls. I can't even sleep or eat and it's affecting my profession and how I relate with my patients. 

P.S - Please, any single men on this your blog should come and marry my sister so she can leave my marriage alone Biko!

LMAO!...I am sorry but i had to laugh at the last line.
Rachel please find it in your heart to forgive him and give him another chance...everyone deserves a second chance if they are ready to accept change.
Please mail me and lets talk.
DH I hope that you have learnt your lessons and will begin to treat your wife like a queen.I am also an independent woman and i do most of these things you have accused your wife of and it isnt a crime.Keep away from those friends who poisoned you,i am sure they would give anything to have a wife like yours.I hope and pray that God fixes it for you...Please tell us how it goes with your London trip.Wish you all the best.