Are You A Virtuous Woman? - A Must Read.

''My mother always said to me “the bible is complete, it is a manual/guideline to live and survive in this world” I never really understood what she meant, I felt like the bible was just a big, boring, ancient book with little significance to the present world we live in. 

As i grew older, I realized something; I began to understand a thing or two about this book. This book has been in existence for as long as 350BC, yet, it is still the most sold out book in history till today. How could the bible manage to remain significant after all these years? How can we still relate to situations that happened centuries ago? I basically thought everything that was/has been invented has its time of fading away; well the bible is one that has proved me wrong. 

Drifting back to the topic of this article, I must say that I am not preaching religion or instigating religious arguments, I only want to share an inspiring chapter of the bible that I can describe as ageless. This chapter serves as a code of conduct and a secret to greatness for women of all generations, regardless of religion and the evolving process of the world today. 

This chapter is proverbs 31 citing from verse 10-31. I would highlight the main points, but if you have spare time in your hands, you could go through this chapter as well, and make your own observations. 

Proverbs 31:10-11 “who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil”

It’s clear, one of the virtues of a virtuous woman should include “trust” she should be trustworthy and accountable in everything that she does. Trust is the foundation of any successful relationship.

Proverbs 31:13-14 “she seeketh wool and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants ship; she bringeth her food from afar”

Who says as a woman, you should be tagged as a liability? 

Who says as a woman, you cannot contribute to the welfare of your family? A virtuous woman is not one who sits idle, waiting for anyone to feed and provide for her, she gets up and work with her brain and hands.

Proverbs 31:15 “she riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens”

People would say “it really isn’t important for a woman to know how to cook; after all, we are in a new age” my sisters, do not be deceived, the world might be changing but certain principles remain constant. A virtuous woman must feed her family; she is expected to cater to the well being of her family.

Proverbs 31:16 “she considereth a field. And buyeth it; with the fruits of her hands, she planted a vineyard” 

It simply means a virtuous woman should possess foresight; she should have a mind to take advantage of viable opportunities, she should be a risk taker.

Proverbs 31:20 “she strecheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy”

Now, this verse deviates from her household and herself, a virtuous woman should show compassion to the poor and needy, regardless of how little she has. The little you have to give could go a long way to blessing someone’s life.

Proverbs 31:22 “she maketh herself coverings of tapestry, her clothing is silk and purple”

Silk and purple signifies royalty, dress like a queen and you shall be seen as one. I am not talking about expensive designer clothes; I am talking about dressing appropriately and investing in your look.

Proverbs 31:23 “Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land”

As a result of her good deeds, her husband is honoured. A virtuous woman’s life should be reflected on the people she associates with.

Proverbs 31:25-26 “strength and honour are clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness”

Strength and honour are key attributes of a virtuous woman. As a woman you should be honourable, live a life that would inspire others. Strong women! 

Portray strength in every aspect of your life. Even the bible approves feminism. The tongue as they say is the determinant of one’s future, use your tongues wisely, speak kindly to others.

Proverbs 31:27-28 “she looketh well to the ways of her household, and eatheth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her”

Can you see why my dear mother told me that the bible is complete? Many of us women believe that a man should be the only provider. My friend! You’ve got to invest in yourself, get up and change your orientation, get your hands working. Feminism this, feminism that, how can you call yourself a feminist when you cannot provide for your own needs? 

You want to fix Brazilian hair, take a vacation to the Caribbean, live the luxury life, yet you sit at home and wait on miracles. Girl! Even the bible says “heaven helps those who help themselves”

No matter how little you start off with, it doesn’t matter, you will eventually grow. All you need to succeed is in your hands. Rome was not built in a day but the builders had the foresight of the Rome they wanted, they worked hard towards it and eventually great Rome became a reality.  

Beauty is not everything, in short beauty fades but the legacy you leave behind will never be forgotten. Be a queen, join your king and establish an empire. To all the single beautiful ladies out there, work hard on building yourself into a virtuous woman, the true king will find you in the midst of your discovery. It’s not easy, it is a gradual stage, but if you understand these principles and apply them, in due time ye shall be highly exalted''. 

Sent in by BV Anne Adams