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Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.


Na wah!





NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
CHOOSING BETWEEN THE DEVIL AND THE DEEP BLUE SEA

Dear Stellastic,
I am sending this chronicle on behalf of a friend, She got married in 2011 as a virgin but unknown to her the hubby has a medical condition called azoospermia (No semen at all).

She tried all options but she was made to know that He can’t father a child, She decided to opt out of the marriage and went to court for nullity of the marriage.
My Friend is now above 31 and age is no longer on her side, all her attempt to settle down has been futile, the guys are only interested in her money and sex.

The issue now is that she has a friend that is married  and her married friend is also having similar issues with his wife, the wife has a medical infertility condition, my friend does not want to be a spoiler but  thinks she is in love with this man.
The man in question also shares the same feelings for her but He is still in his marriage, Now my friend is confused either to date this man or keeping waiting for the right man.

Regards
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Wow this life!...Her husband cant make babies and his wife cant get pregnant and they are both in love?OMG!
I dont know what to say to this narrative sent in by BV on his friends behalf.if she is reading this,let her just know that it would be so heartless to break that woman's home.
both of them are prolly in love cos they feel they can make babies together!
let her find her own man and leave that woman's husband oh



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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
RETURNING TO EAT YOUR ''VOMIT''

My boyfriend of 6months broke up with me last month(march), he said he needed some time, later he said I was too good for him bla bla bla.  I was highly devastated and broken. All through I wept every night, couldn't eat, my weight dropped cos of thinking and the worst part of it was that he works close to me, so I got to see him everyday, he wanted us to keep being friends but I declined. The pain was out of this world, it was as if my heart was being pierced with a sharp object. 

The best I could do was pray for the pain to leave,it was as if I had a form of soul ties with him. I told a friend of mine about the whole situation and she advised me to declare a 3days fast and wait on God concerning my relationship and I did. I didn't centre my prayer points on my boy friend, I just

 told God that I needed mr right to come around and that the holy spirit should help me erase the feelings I had for my boy friend, so I could have my Peace of mind back, so I embarked on a 3days fast and got a very special book "Lady in waiting" by Jackie Kendall and Debby jones which was very helpful (I'd advice every single lady to have this special book)  and i poured my heart in prayers to God, I also prayed soul ties breaking prayer points cos 95% of each day was filled with his thoughts in my heart and I couldn't concentrate on other things. 


So, i humbled my self to learn from the book, I got better within the 3days then my boyfriend called on the 3rd day of the fast apologizing, coincidentally,the 3rd day made it exactly 1month he broke up with me, I was happy he called, I forgave him and I thought that was probably God's way of telling me he's the right one but after reconciling with him, I discovered that I don't have any feelings for him anymore

 all of a sudden, the excitement is suddenly gone, I don't look forward to hearing from him anymore,am at peace with myself all of a sudden.Few days after reconciling, I told him that I think we would be better off as friends than lovers but he declined. I don't know whether to give the relationship time and try to fall back in love with him or just break up with him finally and move on with my life.  I don't like being in a state of indecision I need reasonable advise please.


You found closure and closed the door.
you know what?what is broken should be thrown away...
when its gone,its gone!
Let him go abeg.







121 comments:

  1. Be right back to read chronicles of blog visitor!!!

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    1. Poster1.God is bigger than that medical condition,she should wait for her mr right...the idea of falling in love with another woman hubby is so wrong. Poster2.its obvious your 3days fasting is working for you and I see no reason why you should go back to that relationship

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    2. Poster 1: is it that u wanna Fuck Anoda man's hubby or u want to carry belle for him or just wanna marry any body? I don't believe it's not u dat has d problem! Can't be fooled. What if after marriage satan decides to tie ur womb and d married man goes on a fucking spree for 7 years? Only to go back to his wife! Becareful what u wwish some1 in dr marriage! Kanjiko!

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    3. Poster 1 why not switch partner's poster 2 I forgot what I wanted to say back to my S's. ......k

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    4. Poster 1: Was your ex aware of his condition and deliberately hid it from you? Was there no love at all btw you two? Is procreation the only reason for which you married? I really don't understand how people see marriage. Pls, don't capitalize on another woman's weakness to wreck her home. The table might just turn tomorrow. God is bigger than any medical condition, and He is a God of justice.
      Poster 2: You prayed and got your answer. Just move on dear. He's coming back cos didn't go crawling after him.

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    5. Poster 2

      I don't joke with God, when I truthfully get instructions from him; I don't look back because I trust him wholeheartedly not to mislead me. Dunno about u and how truthfully ur prayers were

      If God actually directed u to take back ur man, please don't disobey God!!! He knows what's best for us. The way we see things with human eye and knowledge is not the way God sees things.

      It is very normal for u not to love that guy again. Reasons, u resent him for what he had done. If I were in ur shoes, I won't be too quick to kick him away (after hearing from God). I will accept him as a friend (with no sex) and watch how he redeems his image for his mistakes. This time, no more naive girl. Be firm and straight forward with him. Even bring out ur own bad sides (and see how well he too can overlook and love u notwithstanding).

      People part for years and realise they made mistakes and still mend things. This was just a month. Be wise in ur decisions my love. All d best*

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    6. Poster 2. You are a typical example of a person who seeks God for vengeance upon the enemy, and who when God deals with enemy cannot handle it. Therefore later tries to share in their karma out of pity. Just an abstract illustration.

      Now to the matter. Count yourself lucky for being a recipient of quick answers to prayer from God. As many like u will pray and fast for months and still not make a head way.

      You asked God to unbind your heart of love for ur ex, as he was a painful distraction to your soul. God answered u.

      But the devil waited till u were delivered, only to bring back the pain (ur ex), in another format, to disgrace God in ur life.

      Yes it's disgrace because God honorably removed the pain, but now the devil wants u to fall back deeper in love with him, under the guise that he is the chosen ONE. So that when u get comfy yet again he can break ur heart for the second time, which will make it a mega disgrace this time, and you'll run back to God to ask why.

      If he was the chosen one, trust me when I say that God would NEVER have removed his love from ur heart no matter how much u prayed.. So much that u now despise him.

      God absolved u of ur emotional wreck, why would he bring back the wrecked ship after all said and done? Well, say he's the one, why would u suddenly want to do away with him? Think lady, think.

      I suggest that you stay aloof. Perhaps go back to God again to redirect ur questions this time. Maybe this time u can ask that God give u a heart to love him if truly he is the man. And if nothing, then dispose yourself of him. He's a virus.

      Good luck

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  2. Poster 2. Lucky you. You lost weight? Wish I could do so too. I'll soon fire this my personal trainer. Everyday only crunches and burpee. Mtscheeeeeeeew

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    1. Hahahahaha your own narrative cracked me up!! Fire away already

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    2. Lmao :D this comment is so hilarious and sweet in a way I know the feeling jare

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    3. Go find a gym my dear, I noticed that working out with other people helps a lot.

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    4. Bwahahahahahahaha..Werey woman.

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    5. You might also need to change your diet....

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    6. Amebo, u r so right... Seeing other people loose weight helps a lot.

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    7. LMAO
      Sweet mother hit the gym dear or get a dedicated work out partner you'll be working out with daily.
      Someone to motivate and push you.

      All the best.

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    1. Advice her joor...she's already facing God.

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    2. Patito which of them should face God? Hahahahahaha.

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    3. Lmao @ advice her, she's already facing God

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    4. @poster 1: I'm tired of people who come here pretending to want advice for their friends! It's very disturbing ! How many people share intimate issues with their friends ? Just tell us you want to fuck another woman's hubby because she was unable to bear him kids. That man you want to sleep with is still with his wife even after claiming his undying love for you. Doesn't that tell you something ? You are a side chic! Just because you weren't loyal to yours doesn't mean he isn't loyal to his. Your husband married you because he knew you were naive, but fathering a child and being a good father are 2 different things . You could have adopted or even gone to a fertility clinic to get a sperm donor.
      Leave another woman's hubby! Wait for your own! Why do we women think we need a man to be complete ? If you don't find a man to marry, have your kids and raise them alone! No one would blame you as long as you don't wreck someone else's home.
      @ narrator 2, so in 6 months you fell head over heels? How many relationships have you been in dear? You better love with your head! You don't love him any more because you've finally realised that you deserve better and there was nothing special about him after all. That story about you being too good for him was a polite way of saying you're probably naive and inexperienced. He left you for someone who wasn't and finally realised he lost a good thing . My advice , DUMP HIS SORRY ASS! Every man out there knows that if he meets a woman who's too good for him, he marries her!

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    5. So true he marries her and spends the rest of his life trying to make her life miserable because he continuously feels inadequate or inferior. Men always marry up and never appreciate the women but want to put them down to feel superior.

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    6. Nicole I agree wit u 200%

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  4. Poster 1.... you keep saying "my frnd dis my frnd tht" hope u re not the one with dis story bcos if u re u need to pray to God for ur own man. Leave tht married man and his wife alone. Don't take advantage of a fragile situation....
    Bye!!!

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    1. N1, you are wicked. What happened to the love you claimed you have for your hubby before you got married to him? You could not even cover his shame.
      So you married him just to father babies for you? What happened to Adoption or getting an anonymous sperm donor from a sperm bank?
      Now, you want to break another woman's home. Leave the poor man o because nobody told you to leave your ex.

      N2: that is a trick of the devil. Don't go back to him.

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  5. Devil and the Deep Blue Sea? Well the answer is obvious.. Jumping from one Marriage to another is obviously not a good stuff to do. Worst of all ur friends husband.. My Friend have some seelf esteem and pass. U dont rob Dimoko to pay Korkus. E nor dey work nah. My advice is that ur friend should just find any means and get pregnant. She is 31. The more she advances the more she loses that one time chance of giving birth. Awon Wheel Barrow Pushers are Superfluously Fertile.. #just saying...

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    1. Rob dimoko to pay korkus? *blinks*
      Na wa see fresh "proverbing" brought to you by Gpharm

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    2. Anon wheel barrow pushers are fertile....lmao...

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    3. Lol@rob Dimoko to pay Korkus,dat was cool dou..
      Poster1,leave that man alone becos he is married!are u sure dats really d condition of his wife?he might be exaggerating it to make u feel u two are at par!God is more faithful to fail,u are just 31,at least u married before,what abt pple dat didn't marry at all and dey are more dan 40yrs and still hopeful?whats all dese marriage craze abt?
      Poster 2,d fact he came back himself and u suddenly don't feel anything for him,means God wants u to have the last laff!(God is a humorous God,believe me)so dump his sorry ass when he least expects.he probably needed space to date some gal exciting him den,dats what it is.so make sure u use him very well before u show him d exit,he will learn dat being a player never really pays.

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  6. Narrator 1 --- stick to stella advice.

    Narrato2 ... stick to stella advice.

    me no get what to tell you all. let me keep reading other people's comments.

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  7. @poster1 hmmmmmmmmmmmm

    Your friend only thinks that she is in love just because they have similar experience, why break someone else's home because of her selfish interest?
    Please tell her to find her own man!

    @poster2 that you no longer have feeling for him isn't your fault, as for me I would say you shouldn't force it, if it ain't working,it ain't working.

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    1. Are you minding poster 1's friend? She couldn't hold on to hers, now she wants to destroy her friends. God will judge you!

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  8. Poster 2: u sound so innocent and soft hearted. Lmao. Ur BoyFriend as u said is prolly riding on u. Obviously taking advantage of that innocence. Please do the needful and be a King of Queens. If u must fall back to an already laid Bed. I advice that u do so knowing fully well that the once neat and laid bed could get dirty and scattered.


    Act like a Lady, Think like Man

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    1. @G_Pharm you are so on point. P2 let me tell you, that guy just misses whatever it is you had together. He is not ur Mr Right... inshort, pray against him.

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  9. Abeg how do i reply comments without using Opera Mini...

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    1. Download another browser e.g google chrome, firefox or CM browser any of these will work fine.

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  10. P1 that your friend is no saint.
    Imagine considering dating ur friend's husband cos ur friend can't fall pregnant yet..
    May those kinda friends not locate any1 pls.
    That's pure heartlessness.
    What guarantee does she have that her friends hubby can impregnate her?
    Abi to fuck her friend husband dey hungry her?
    All these ukwu nnu women sef.

    P2 ur bf prolly met anoda babe,
    After spermatizing her to his satisfaction,hes coming back for u...
    If he has money, chop it very well,
    Magalize him..
    If it clicks again,shoot,
    If u meet a better person, move on.
    Ashewo bf.

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    1. Lmao @ spermatizing. Well said though! I don't just understand guys. You can't eat ur cake and have it.

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    2. Lol, I always love ur comments!
      O

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    3. Sweetheart, I love your first advice to poster one. I don't agree with your second one. You aren't aware, so please don't plant what's not into the young lady's mind. Poster 2; if you. Aren't interested again, please end it

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  11. Poster 1. Please let her not break someone elses home. Let her look up to God for another man.
    Poster2. Let him go. Simple. What's broken atimes cannot be mended.

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  12. Stella what is broken is gone???hmmmmmmmmm....
    Poster 1 :Let ur frnd leave someone's husband and go somewhere else abeg...

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  13. poster 2- your prayer was answered. God opened your heart so that you know your true state- which is..you are no longer in love with him.
    so, move on!
    if you go back to him, trust me, that will be out of pity and the end?...disaster!


    poster 1- I am lost for advice.
    I can only say...all the best.
    its a very dicey situation. very very dicey!
    your husband deceived you..cos he knows about his medical condition but never told you.
    your friend..i mean the dude, am not sure his wife deceived him into marriage. or did she?

    these are the questions you should answer and then reason!

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    1. Lol! Bloglord, I like the way you're directly addressing the poster, no dilly-dallying. Thought I was the only one who thinks it is the poster's dilemma and not a friend's as she's claiming.

      Poster 1: Leave somebody else's husband alone if you don't want fire to burn you! Fine, your husband tricked you, move on. Even if the "supposed" barren wife tricked her husband, it is not your place to teach her a lesson, neither is it your duty to be the instrument of destruction to pay her back. So you have no excuse or justification whatsoever to have an affair with or get pregnant for that married man! Forget age, if you're as decent as you claim, you will find the right man. I turned 34 this year and will be getting married next month to the best man a girl can dream of. I was a virgin till after I turned 30, I went through unimaginable heartbreak and almost made another mistake due to a heartless mean liar who tried to take advantage of my innocence and trusting nature. I met my fiancé a year and a half ago and took things really slow because I had no more trust in me for human beings in general. He's patient, he understood, he is Godsent. No we're about to get married. I didn't say "age isn't on my side therefore I'll date a married man", because a lot of them approached me, especially once they know you're over 30 and unmarried; they feel you would be desperate enough to date them. I didn't look in the mirror when I clocked 32 and say "why not get knocked up by a married man?". So lady, quit that nonesense right now and let that married man and his wife be, otherwise there could be hell to pay!....... Don't say I didn't warn you

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  14. Poster 2.i can relate.and you know what i think you should do?move on.ok?without the chap ofcorse.
    Enjoy the peace you have found.guess you were just so fond of him hence the seeming you were gonna lost it.

    Poster1...hmmmmm.how about the man annuling the marriage it he feels theres nothing left there for him and on his own terms too?
    If he's still married to that woman,then tell your friend to check the next busstop.

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  15. This is beyond me
    I'll just read comments on this one

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  16. Narrative 1,
    Why are you writing on behalf of your friend?
    Why would a friend confide such in you?
    Poster, you are the Friend!
    All the same, tell your friend it will be wickedness and heartless of her to break up another woman's marriage! The man might want to eat his cake and have it by sleeping with your friend, get her pregnant and still keep his matrimonial home. Your friend is already sleeping with him! How did I know? How else will they have shared such sensitive info?

    Narrative 2, not interested!

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  17. @poster1 : your friend is not in love
    They are attracted to each other because they have the same problem.
    She should not break another woman's home or else God will disappoint her.
    @poster2 : if you don't love him again, then move on.

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  18. How can a break-up afta 6mths relationship shatter ur heart to pieces U had to embark on a 3days fastin to mend it. That relship must be centered on too much f*ckin.
    6mths wey person jus dey build relship foundation n any break-up of any sort shd be welcomed with open heart. U r confused n ur Spiritual United is not helpin matters. Drop that selfhelp-book n use ur head

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    1. I need to press a like button on dis comment

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    2. I'm telling u. 6 months ke. Too short for this kind of heart break. I have a guy who is still trying to convince me to date him and its been 6 months

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    3. Ah don't say so o. Where heart is concerned there's no protocol. U can't control certain things my dear. Esp when it comes to love. Otherwise why would those who meet within 5-6 months get married if their level of love for each other has not surmounted logical reasoning?

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  19. Poster 1,this story is about U, yes U.Well to the point, if our friend destroys someone else's home cos of lust and infatuation,her own life will have an interesting turn real soon,u know y, cos of cos she isn't even giving God time to work,she wants to work ahead of God therefore doing d wrong thing.That poor woman did nothing to not be able to conceive a child so if u can't find urself a new dude better jump n pass that marriage.Nobody asked u to quit ur marriage.U can't even reason,dude is not leaving his wife cos he luvs her.

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    1. Gbam
      If ur friend wnt 2 know if the guy is truly in love, he should ask him to divorce his wife.....
      Dude won't.

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  20. 1. Tell ur friend to leave another woman's husband, they are still very much married. In fact what dey feel for each other isn't love but rather they its a case of I have d padlock, u gat d key as in dey see each other as d solution to d problem , she should back off and look for her own man, 31 isn't old naa .
    2. If I hear p?????? stop ur imagination, its goodbye , what or who is an ex???? use ur brain

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  21. So why did he break up with you in the first place? Please move on! God has lifted the burden. Don't take it back oooo

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  22. Narrative number 1 please tell your friend to find her own man except if she wants someone else to take away her own happiness same way she is thinking of taking another person's own.
    Wish that other woman who can't conceive would be able to contact me, am not God but there could be a possible solution to that.

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    1. Anon 15: 21 pls I will need ur contact

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    2. Please contact hope valley clinic for IVF. It is at lekki by iKate round about. They are very good

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    3. Pls I need the contact too

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    4. Hope gini?Abeg forget that hospital o
      Pls just an advice.i have used them.amd also a friend.

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  23. What happened to adopting in her first marriage,from what I read its just baby making dat was d problem....poster 2 wrote my story buh we dated for 3yrs or so,I found sm1 else n d bell z ringing already,don't worry too much u ll find him soon*hugs*

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  24. Yippeeeeeee! I just discovered that UC browser makes it easy for me to comment on my BB now. Lol. If you find it difficult to post comments on here through Opera mini try Uc browser. Thank me later. :D

    Poster 1 pls don't break another woman's home. You didn't waste time to leave your husband, don't shatter a home that another woman has built biko.

    Poster 2: I know how you feel, now that you are thinking with your head and not your mind, pls give him a chance for few weeks or so, if you feel the same then walk.

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  25. Poster 2 listen to your heart, my husband of 17 happy years and I had a break for 1 year, when I had moved on he came back and I dropped my bf and went back and I have no regrets. Truly follow your heart cause what works for me or Stella might not work for you.

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    1. You dropped ur bf just like that??? So unfair! Poster mbok DON'T go back to ur ex! God answered ur prayers.

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  26. Poster 2 @Stellastica e no easy to move on...but she should try. I have been there before and I understand how she feels.

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  27. Poster 2. I was in the same shoes.....at a time like that. don't go back, don't ever. I don't have strength to type but that is the summary of the matter. I pray u decide right. As for me, Ex is equal to zero!

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  28. @Poster 1, your friend shouldn't date the married man. He is not the write person for her because he is already taken. Let her be patient, her Mr right would show forth. Rather than being a home wrecker, she should linger on little as that man that would love her above anyone else (except God) would show forth soonest.

    @Poster 2, you are now at peace with yourself and no longer in love with him, So move on. Don't go back to him. This might just be the devil tempting you; you can never tell. What's the probability he wouldn't repeat same actions and break up with you again? This time, you won't recover from it. That chapter of your life with him should remain closed. Don't return to your vomit. As a matter of fact, dont be in a hurry to get into a relationship now. A breathe of fresh air is needed and would do you some good. So, by the time you go into another relationship you would have clearly defined reasons getting into one.

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  29. Narative no1 tell ur friend to contact me am searching and dont need her money i gat my life if you are real let her hit me up am available looking to settle if shes serious send her contact to stella i'll grab from her
    i hope shes pretty with good manners ooo,
    coment here is you are realy serious .
    thanks

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  30. Sweet malo chic14 April 2015 at 15:45

    Poster 1 Pls relax your own man will come. Poster 2 Pls allow him go, he is ur ex already.

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  31. @ poster 2,I know exactly how you feel..however what's in the past should stay in the past..since you don't have feelings for him,no need forcing anything.just move on..
    Would have been a different ball game if you still harboured emotions for him,but since your heart is blank,pls let that door stay shut..

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  32. Hmmm one man's meat...i'm so scared of getting pregnant and having kids that i've actually said to my self that if I marry a man that is impotent in d sense that he is infertile not that he cannot get it up or last long I won't mind as if i'll be happy to adopt.

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  33. Poster 1


    Please don't break up someone's marriage because you are desperate. There are a lot of men out there. (though I'm yet to grab one..lolz) If you are desperate for a kid and can't wait for a man, please make arrangements for a sperm donor.

    Oyibo

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  34. Poster 1: how will u feel in the wife's shoes, i will say wait for your own man. And who are you to conclude the woman can not have her own child and even your ex-husband can father a child with the help of God and technology.
    Poster2: that was your prayer request and you got it why worry

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  35. Poster 1,

    I found your friend's decision to divorce her husband due to azoospermia very unreasonable. Unless the man's condition was such that they were not even having any sexual relations as a couple.

    A medical doctor told me that in Nigeria today, you will be shocked to know the amount of couple's who have had children by sperm donors and adoption without revealing their secrets.

    A sperm donor would have just solved her problem with her husband. One of his brothers could have just helped out in confidence.

    She will not find the grass greener on another woman's fence. Whatever that couple is going through can be solved and I pray they will get the wisdom to do so.

    Your 'friend' sounds really desperate. Let her let them be and go and reconcile with her own husband and find a donor so she can have children.

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    1. From the story, it found like she was tricked/deceived into the marriage. That could wipe out any form of love you might tho j you had for someone. It would have been better for the husband to let her know what she was getting into instead of claiming "decent/no sec before marriage etc. all her dreams of having a family with the man she trusted and loved just got shattered right before her, that could destabilize anyone. Depending on what transpired between them, I don't blame her for leaving. Sperm donors cannot replace that joy that just varnished in front of her when she found out the truth and their situation as a potential family. My problem is the fact that she now wants to destroy another family.

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    2. You make sense @Just Saying.
      I feel she left because her husband didn't tell her beforehand about his problem.

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  36. poster 2....move on girl.telling u dz based on experience.

    poster 1...i think ur friend thinks she is in love coz they got something in common. let her pray n wait for her own man. for goodness sake, that man is another woman's

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  37. I'm happy it's my birthday! Thank u Lord

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  38. Nothing is impossible with God @ poster 1 nd 2

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  39. Poster 1. That's is the devil confusing u, u r not in love. U just feel that way cos u r both in the same condition.

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  40. N1, what God has joined togeda, let no man put asunder. u broke ur own home n now u want to break someone else's home? That's heartless, wait for ur own man, bc from ur story u lack patience. U would av adopted a baby if u had loved ur husband n breaking someone's home just bc u want a baby n u think dt u av found d right man in anoda woman's home shows clearly dt u can't handle a marriage. U only need babies not staying in marriage, so pls wait fr ur own man. N2, u asked God to erase ur bf feelings n he did bc he isn't d right man for u. God brought him back so dt u will forgive him n move on not fall back into fornication wt him. If u fall back into fornication wt him, den u were deceiving urself in d first place bc d God I no hates sin n can never support it.

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    1. Depending on how she was tricked and all the unattainable promises and picture the husband had made and painted before she got married, she has the right to leave if she was tricked into the marriage. What is heartless is tricking a woman into marrying you when you know you can't give her kids. At least let her know beforehand so that you can both plan other options instead of shocking her once she's in thinking you've trapped her. It's unfair! If it were to be a woman who did that, everyone's tune would be different. Everybody's saying adopt a baby, adopt a baby; would he have adopted a baby if the wife was the one unable to have kids? Or wouldn't he have gone out to impregnate someone or worse still, kick her out and bring in someone new? So why the double standard? Especially when she can have her own kids. She has the right to do whatever she likes, she married as a virgin, which means he never touched her, probably gave excuses that they should save themselves until marriage etc. It's up to her to leave the marriage, do artificial insemination or whatever she decides after the lies and trickery of her husband. My problem is the other home she wants to destroy just because she now feels old, that's not right! She needs to leave that married man alone or else there might be hell to pay. I understand why she's now single but will NEVER condone what she's about to do to that family. There's no justification whatsoever for her to date or have a child for ANY married man. She should wait for her own man abeg.

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  41. 2nd poster,may God bless u for this narrative...i'm in a similar situation, a guy I loved with all my entirety only to realize he has been cheating without feeling remorse yet lying to me. Well,I have been praying to God to finally kill the affection because it has dropped drastically already,and d ability to reject him finally refuse him when he comes crawling on his feet,because he has erred my innocent soul.Thanks for the recommended books.

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  42. @Poster 1 friend" do not breakup a friends marriage just because you know's their problems,that you couldn't be patient in your marriage doesn't mean God cannot fix things in your friend's home. Never be the reason why their marriage is broken, it was meant to be for better or for worst. And God is still in the business of doing miracles

    The tears of a barren broken woman is very dear to God, so pls stay away. at time like this you need to give your friend and his wife time and space to fix their problem.

    Controls your feelings and run away from him a good and suitable man will come for you.

    Don't take advantage of the situation and take what doesn't belong to you.
    remember what goes around ALWAYS come around.

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  43. lol at G_pharm's "you dont rob dimoko to pay korkus" they are one and the same. In essence poster one get your own man and live your life if the man in question walks out of his marriage then you can fi ori ko, Poster two you need to clear your head you are enjoying the peace you got from being single take a break and breathe a little before taking any decision.

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  44. Poster1 leave another woman husband alone,dont ruin her home oh,the couple can do ivf am sure the man will still marry later
    Poster2 forget him

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  45. BVs BEWARE, AS THE SINGLES AND MINGLES POST COMES UP, THERE IS A SCAMMER CALLED ANTHONY OBI, HE WANTS TO SCAMM SOME DESPERATE NIGERIAN LADIES. HE CLAIMS TO LIVE IN LONDON, SO BVs BEWARE.....

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    1. Buuuuh you know already from this ( that's if he visits this blog or has someone here that knows him), he is going to change the name and location so people don't know he is the same person.

      My advice, ladies should be very careful and don't swallow hook, line and sinker whatever you are being told and shine ya eyes.

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  46. BVs BEWARE, AS THE SINGLES AND MINGLES POST COMES UP, THERE IS A SCAMMER CALLED ANTHONY OBI, HE WANTS TO SCAMM SOME DESPERATE NIGERIAN LADIES. HE CLAIMS TO LIVE IN LONDON, SO BVs BEWARE.....

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  47. #1: Darling, this is hardly a catch 22 scenario. She has nothing to lose if she refuses to date her married male friend. It's her mind playing tricks on her. Please tell her to stop putting herself under undue pressure before she makes a colossal mistake again. One failed marriage may be glossed over but two failed marriages??? That shouldn't even be an option so she has to be very careful when choosing another partner.

    If she got married in 2011, how long was she married that she got to try all options? If she got an annulment, it means she filed for it within 60 days after the marriage. Even if it were a divorce it had to be at least 2 years within which they could have been separated. Sweetie, this isn't me attempting to blame her for ending her marriage in such a short period, rather, I'm trying to work out the time frame in order to understand the urgency of re-marrying. How could her attempts to settle down with other guys(more than 1 guy) be futile between 2012-2015? Honey, some people wouldn't even be fully recovered within that time span. I find this fire brigade approach unsettling.

    Just because you see a piece of a square puzzle, don't conclude that the square block at the side is the perfect fit. Just because her married male friend's predicament seems to mirror her situation, doesn't mean he is the right guy for her. Honey, a man who abandons his wife because of fertility issues cannot be trusted with another woman's heart. How long has he been married? Has a doctor written her off as well? There has been repeated cases where women defy medical reports and become mothers to adorable children. Even if she can't have a child, that's still no excuse to break up her home.

    Please, I apologise in advance for what I'm about to presume because it appears your friend didn't love her ex hubby in the first place. Perhaps she realised her marriage was a mistake for other personal reasons but used his impotence as grounds for the annulment (which means they were married for barely 60 days) or the divorce( meaning the marriage lasted over a year or two). Is she mindful of the fact that her male friend loves his wife or feels obligated to remain married to his wife? Are you aware that a large percentage of married men who promise marriage to their mistresses, don't end up leaving their wives after all? You can't break a happy or unhappy home with any justification. Your friend should kindly more on and not even wait to see whether or not her friend divorces his wife. 

    Assuming without conceding that he leaves his wife and marries her and she still can't get pregnant, which way to go? A lot of couples have clean bills of health yet they can't get pregnant. So will your friend be okay if another woman takes her place if she fails to achieve pregnancy after the marriage? 

    So she's above 31 years and she feels she's running out of time? Really? Sweetheart, please calm your friend down because she's moving too fast too soon. This married friend may keep her as his mistress and string her along till she's 40 years. Then the phrase "age is no longer on her side" will have a whole new meaning to her. I know several couples who ended up adopting children because they had fertility issues. Just because your friend ended hers, shouldn't prompt her male friend to end his. He might even be taking advantage of her desperation to settle down or she may even mistake his intentions due to the haste to get remarried ASAP. 

    Call your friend to order, from what I just read, there's more to this story. ‎More haste, less speed.
    #e-bearhugs.‎

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    1. I read your analogy before I looked at your name, I was very impressed and then I scrolled up and looked at your name-Ronalda! You are sooo intelligent, wise and mature!! Biko who be your mama? She deserves an award #better pikin

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    2. Million likes Ronalda, you are so blessed so much wisdom. God really blessed your parents and your DH. #better pikin . #e-bearhugs in your very clear voice

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    3. Bwahahaha. Yimu

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  48. #1 She doesn't even know how God works His wonders and she left fiam. Pls tell your friend not to break someone's home. She should pray to God in humility.

    #2 Do not go back to him but keep praying that God would perfect everything for you.

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  49. Ps 1: am I supposed to say "awwww"??? Mtschew! Your friend should leave her friend alone to avoid acid bath from the wife! Ps 2: what kind of mumu heartbreak is that one abeg??? I think you opened ur legs TOO wide while you were in that r/ship! Just 6 months??? Swthrt, nxt tym try not 2 open it that wide and you would see it won't affect you that much. 2ndly, don't go back to that guy snc he left you without a good reason! God answered ur prayers and don't make any further mistake! He is bad news and old gist! ...and DON'T bother being friends with him bcuz there is a probability that when you do that and he starts recalling the past, you may get tempted to open ur legs wider.. Cheers!

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  50. Ps 1: am I supposed to say "awwww"??? Mtschew! Your friend should leave her friend alone to avoid acid bath from the wife! Ps 2: what kind of mumu heartbreak is that one abeg??? I think you opened ur legs TOO wide while you were in that r/ship! Just 6 months??? Swthrt, nxt tym try not 2 open it that wide and you would see it won't affect you that much. 2ndly, don't go back to that guy snc he left you without a good reason! God answered ur prayers and don't make any further mistake! He is bad news and old gist! ...and DON'T bother being friends with him bcuz there is a probability that when you do that and he starts recalling the past, you may get tempted to open ur legs wider.. Cheers!

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  51. #2: ‎Honey, indecision is a normal reaction to all your went through. It will be superhuman for you not to be remotely affected when the one who held your heart hostage surfaces and begs for a do-over. Even in a bad relationship, there's a part of a you which gets comfortable with familiarity. That's the part that revolts against change, be it positive or negative. 

    As human beings, we are creatures of habit and it's not so easy to break out from certain routines even to our detriments. That's why a part of you may be willing to take him back. Sweetheart, your prayers helped you get over a negative relationship within such a short period, it appears you don't realise how lucky you are. Some ladies spend years and even an entire lifetime jonesing over a lost love. Some do all sorts of horrid stuff just to get over an ex, yet they still find themselves crawling back on all fours to beg for affection. You were handed a clean slate, please use it.

    If he were the right guy for you, the love you had for him wouldn't evaporate and you wouldn't have the inner peace you feel now. God is not an author of confusion. Your heart has been cleansed of all affections for your ex to make room for your life partner. Isn't that what you prayed for? I know there cases where a runaway love returns to beg for a second chance and it will be in order to accept the person back, but it doesn't apply in this case, in my opinion. 

    Sweetie, close that chapter and look forward to a brand new healthy and loving relationship. Don't even accept any form of friendship from him. Certain ex-lovers have no business being friends, be cordial but don't allow ‎familiarity so you don't "fall off the wagon".
    #e-bearhugs.‎

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    1. Nice one Ronalda.
      I had a similar situation to poster 2 .

      I thought I was the only one who prayed for a love to vanish.Yes, I did.
      I never believed it that such prayers could be answered but when you experience emotional pains especially in a relationship then you will understand the pain I'm talking about.
      I was asking God to remove the love if it was not His will for me to marry this guy.
      I could not believe it o but it happened , though I am still single but I don't have any guilt or pains what so ever, I have peace and feel free.

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  52. You got married in 2011 and divorced in 2014? My dear you didn't love that man. And please go find your own man, stop falling in love with people's husbands and yes its your story and not your friend's

    He left you just like that with the excuse of you being too good for him? That nigger is a mo'fucker. If another reason was the cause of the breakup I wojndhave advced different. Tell him you wanna find someone that can match you! And 6months is to early to go through all you went through. Maybe its your nature or its sex. Sex just makes people feel too attached to each other. If you dist sleep with him, trust me you won't feel bad at all. Try to stop sleeping with every man that comes to date you. Your body is your bafainig power! Move on and leave they heart breaker selfish small rat!

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  53. Poster 1 so you left your husband because of azoospermia? Who told you he deceived you? Was he married before to know he had the condition? Didn't both of you go for the routine fertility check together before you got married? It's obvious, Nigerian men and women marry for kids alone. Seeing this narrative I'll never, ever blame a man that sends his wife packing for childlessness, because if the tables are turned, the woman would do the same thing.

    Azoospermia doesn't equate sterility. It could be due to blockage or obstruction which can very much be handled by doctors with high success rate. Even in non obstructive ones, sperm cells could still be harvested and people conceive and have their kids.

    You didn't even wait at least 4 yrs.What about adoption?You actually got married for kids and got caught in your net. If I have not seen a lot of couples who decided not to have kids and have been married over 25years with successful careers, I would think not having kids or even adopting kids is a ticket to hell.

    Mehn! Nigerian men and women deserve each other. You're now asking rubbish, dirty question. Yo, it's you not any friend. Sorry, unlike you not everybody leaves their spouse who has the fertility issue. He wants to use you, if not he would have left that woman. Theres an adage in Yoruba that translates to "the head of a child brings children." The man's family would use you to bring their children.

    To the men out there battling fertility issues, do not despair. It's better you realize early, save up and go for treatment. Azoospermia or as aspermia or the countless number of male fertility problems can be taken care of.Marry women that love you not the ones looking for sperm donors and money machines. It will be fine with you guys.

    I pray you get the child you so desperately want madam.

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  54. Thou shall not covet thy neighbour's wife (husband) To poster1.
    Love is not foolish to poster2.

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  55. Poster 2 so you and your friend(assuming your story is true..lol) do not know that it's wrong to be in love with another persons husband abi? So in your friends mind the wife's case is beyond God to do about? She should leave that man and his wife alone before God begins to judge her, u don't know the prayers she has been firing....even if the man is a dog and came to chase her she should leave him alone cos if more women refuse to allow men then they will not make us victims.....she should leave them alone and look for her own..
    Poster 2: pls move on, u don't need all that drama...

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  56. Unbreakable thank you for your comment.....I was married for like 7 years and my hubby began cheating as usual...he started an affair with this girl and eventually got her pregnant and moved in with her.to crown it all they both mocked me.....hhhnm if tears could kill I would have died....I wept and I cried out to God from the depts of my soul......I told God to judge.....FastForward months later she had the baby and the baby died......he eventually crawled back to me and to cut long story we are back together after much drama......me I do not look for trouble and I do my part as a wife but as long as am married to him he will not maltreat me and go free oh cos I loved him with a sincere heart......don't mess with the husband of a praying wife..we sisters should have each other's back and send Randy men back home........poster you or your friend leave them alone, God will do a miracle in their lives and in yours too.....

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  57. Lady bauchi pls shut up...how many stories like this have you heard that you want to compare to men who send their wives packing or maltreat their wives cos of childlessness? That statement you made is so annoying...90% of women endure childlessness when the man is at fault so pls don't come here and talk what u don't know.....how do u know if he deceived her or not? Must she tell you every detail of the story'? My only problem is her wanting to take over another woman's husband....

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  58. People whether the problem is hers or her friend's, please just give advice and go. No big deal.

    Poster 2
    I know how you feel. 6 months is enuf to develop strong feelings for someone. I stopped seeing a guy I really liked and until now I think about him a lot even though we knew each other for just 8 months and it's been 6 months since I last saw him.
    I wish I knew to do a 3 day prayer to get over him, but I did pray and gradually, I regained my peace of mind.

    However, he'd call me and then those feelings will get stirred up again and I'd find myself thinking about him all over again. So, it'll be wise for you to stop seeing him and stop all communication with him.

    He broke up with you the first time means he's not sure. Don't let him play with your heart like that.

    Move on.

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