Why do people go to prophets when they meet someone to check if the person is the right spouse for them to marry or not?
Didnt the bible teach us to talk to God by ourselves?
Please correct me if i am wrong!
Didnt the bible teach us to talk to God by ourselves?
Please correct me if i am wrong!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY SETTING DISRUPTS TRUE LOVE?
Stella, I grew up in a highly dysfunctional family. The kind that shapes your ideas, principles, and general outlook of life. My parents separated when I was really young, and I still have not seen two people who hate themselves more than my parents do. My siblings and I grew up in the midst of so much tension and drama. I was the youngest kid, and I just tried to get by. I knew the only way to make things easier will be to excel and make a life for myself, so I absorbed myself in my books and always came out top of my class. I made some wonderful friends, and focused on my life.
Fast forward many years later, I fell in love with an amazing guy. He was the ideal distraction from the constant drama that was my life, and he was supportive in numerous ways. Somehow, my father found out about it, and disapproved strongly, mainly because of his tribe. He is the same tribe as my mother and being that I grew up with my mum, I understand and speak the language very well, and I'm more in tune with their culture than I am with my actual tribe (where my father is from).
On a good day, my father is not tribalistic, but he hates my mother's people and my mother with a burning passion and believes they make the worst spouses. Yes, if God so wills it and my relationship with bae works out, I would love to spend the rest of my life with him, but that's not happening at least for the next 2 years. My dad is furious and thinks I'm with bae because I'm naive, and because he's from a rich influential family.
The truth is I'm with bae because he's my heart beat. I don't know how to make anyone else understand this. I've been through a lot recently.. an attempted rape, an unwarranted arrest, and severe issues with my family. I've wanted to take my life severally when it got real bad, but bae was my rock. My mum and other siblings have seen what He is to me and have come to accept and even love him.
I dunno how to convince my dad. He has alienated me, barely speaks to me and has stopped providing for me pending when I end d relationship. I'm still very dependent on my dad, so this has been devastating for me. I did not set out to be a rebel or to go against my dad's wishes, but I really just want to live my life. I definitely do not plan on getting married without my dad' s approval, but marriage is still steps ahead. Can't I just live my life and be happy meanwhile?
Wow!...what a life you have lived at your young age!...why do some parents take out spousal revenge on kids?not fair at all.I dont know how you will handle your dad because he just might be right but who knows?
thread carefully not to lose bae or disrespect your dad in the process.what will be will be!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
MARRIAGE ASAP AND THE ROLE OF SEERS
My name is BK,i'm in my final year in school and there's a guy i met
last year December,he has been proposing marriage since the very first
day we met,we went to pray about it at a prophet's place where he
suggested and he said we are compatible,i'm not desperate as i am only
23 but it looks like he is,cos he wants Everything done by this
December.
Now the problem is that my dad took me to a pastor's place
and the man said i should chill that i haven't found my husband
yet.He said God told him that i should wait for 2yrs that my man would
come................Where do i go from here???
and the man said i should chill that i haven't found my husband
yet.He said God told him that i should wait for 2yrs that my man would
come................Where do i go from here???
If you are not desperate then tell him so,why are you letting everyone push you around by taking you to prophets?WTF is the meaning of that?whatever happened to your mouth?cant you talk to GOD by yourself?
I am sorry but i do not believe in any prohpet telling one who the right partner is abeg you!
Use your mouth and talk to God by yourself,and if you cant comot for road make i see!
NEXT!
Poster 1,
ReplyDeleteDon't mind your dad...he has lived his own life and this is your time....
Do whatever that makes you happy and ignore him...
Poster 2,
Some of this prophecies works!!...
Poster,tell your man to give you some time biko...don't be desperate...
Hmmm ur dad shud understand abeg... Y Wil he use his experience to judge odas... Na all d people for u mama villa dey like ur mama.... Just explain to him calmly...... No leave ur bae ohhhhh
DeletePoster two...... For dis time na him u dey Waka Waka dey see see........ Who b prophet.... Na God... Ehhhhhh...... Wait eya shei u say u no dey desperate free d guy make anoda woman take am..... Make all dis prophets wey ona dey go meet no put ona for wahala
all these quiet men are deadly ohhhhhhh
Deleteimagine the man i call my horseband tried to strangle me twice today
it took my shouting out loud for him to let me go
we live in a private enclosed compound
gate was locked
Anyone saying forget your daddy, has no regards for their own parents. If you are sure your dad always has your interest at heart, then you have to stick with him, then figure out with him if your bae is different or not. That way if you run into crisis, daddy will always have your back.
DeleteLiiiliii.... Biko don't give her this advice u hear? These men.... you can never tell.
DeletePoster 1- pls let ur dad get to see ur bae for who he is. Not for what he assumes. He can be convinced by bae's attitude. Let bae too start providing na.
I know a babe who's dad won't let her marry a divorcee. The divorcee was a good guy who was just unlucky the first time. But when her dad sent her to UK for her masters, divorcee visited twice a month and took total care of her upkeep- from books to house rent and everything in between. She was d last born but stopped calling her dad to ask for financial assistance. When he noticed he asked to speak with d guy and today they are happily married. Divorcee was a young guy in his 30s sha.
Now all a father wants is to see his daughter happy. Once he is certain that this man can fend for u as good as he can and make you even more happy than he can he will relax. Your dad is not a bad man, he just doesn't want history to repeat itself. You ppl should work towards convincing your dad that you will be fine. Ok? It's not a burden for u alone. If bae feels the same way about u let him fight this 'battle' with you.
Liiiliii.... Biko don't give her this advice u hear? These men.... you can never tell.
DeletePoster 1- pls let ur dad get to see ur bae for who he is. Not for what he assumes. He can be convinced by bae's attitude. Let bae too start providing na.
I know a babe who's dad won't let her marry a divorcee. The divorcee was a good guy who was just unlucky the first time. But when her dad sent her to UK for her masters, divorcee visited twice a month and took total care of her upkeep- from books to house rent and everything in between. She was d last born but stopped calling her dad to ask for financial assistance. When he noticed he asked to speak with d guy and today they are happily married. Divorcee was a young guy in his 30s sha.
Now all a father wants is to see his daughter happy. Once he is certain that this man can fend for u as good as he can and make you even more happy than he can he will relax. Your dad is not a bad man, he just doesn't want history to repeat itself. You ppl should work towards convincing your dad that you will be fine. Ok? It's not a burden for u alone. If bae feels the same way about u let him fight this 'battle' with you.
Poster 2 you are still dependent on your dad and you are talking bf with him. Is anything wrong with you?
DeleteAnonymous 20:22, you were nearly strangled by horseband and you aren't calling the cops pn hom or breathing down his family. He's got anger issues so give him space to cool cos if you provoke him, it might lead to one minute silence but God forbid. Take care and stay safe. Kyla
DeleteWhat is the meaning of bae? A beg quit the bae thing,must we copy everything? Poster one ,better be careful,the truth is that not every tribe is good in marriage, some tribes believe in for better or worse,some believe in polygamy or children from different men who belong to the same mum,in some tribes you will notice that any woman can become a wife by just being pregnant while some tribes so respect marriage that even if another lady gets pregnant for a married man that lady will never be recognized which discourages ladies from birthing for married men and makes a married woman feel safe, the truth is no tribe is perfect but some
Deleteare far better than others in so many aspects like marriage, your
dad may be right so look well,these things are very obvious,you are just being blinded by love.look well but I hope your dad isn't saying it out of anger. Stella I tire for this checking with prophets for marriage compatibility,the thing is so rampant that you may not even know where your name has gone,many girls do it and it has destroyed many lives, read your bible and find out God's requirements for a good marriage,traits you must look for before getting married.for me the 23year old girl should wait a bit,why is the man in a hurry,is he old or hiding something,desperation hardly end well.
Evil father his using u for rituals no want make u Marry.seen a movie like that. What kind of prank is he playing?
DeleteHahahhahahahaha@ comot for road make I see. Stellalicious ooooo dis ur advice na gbamest!!!
ReplyDeletePoster one, i feel for you, you have been through quite a lot, just keep praying and pls don't dump your bae because of your dad, you may never find anyone like him, considering what you have written here. All the best.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, are you a zombie????? Why are you letting them push you around??? You said your guy took you to his prophet who said you both are compatible, befor nko? Of course he would say that. They must have seen something in you, hence, the desperation. I'm strongly against this prophet thingy but then, i think you should go with the prophet that your dad took you to. Then, pls run for your life from this your boyfriend.
Poster 1:You already said your dad isn't tribalistic. Don't you think he may have a reason? I think you should speak with your boyfriend and put the relationship on hold for now.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: please don't rush in oh. Why is the guy in a hurry when he has the rest of his life with you? Tell the guy you need time.
Lol @comot for road make i see..Next...stella calm down o jare..i also dont believe in going to a pastor to knw d will if God..talk to God and he will show uou the way
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ReplyDelete@P2; its most likely your dad wants you to be done with schooling , NYSC and getting a job hence, the 2-year clause.
ReplyDeletePoster1.go to your dad's family people,make sure they set up a meeting were by they will talk to him.your happiness matters a lot! Poster2.you are still young!just relax
ReplyDeleteCall on me and I will answer! That is the word of God, go on your knees and pray it out yourself forget all this prophets cause most are fake
ReplyDeleteIt is well postter 1
ReplyDeletePoster 2 stella has told you my mind.
Get on your knees and ask God for direction.
The prophet is human like you.
God hears and answers all.
Poster 1: u can start by finding out the reason behind ur dad's hatred for ur mum and her people? That it didn't work out well for ur parents doesn't mean it will not work out for u. Knowing the cause of the hatred will enable u know how best to approach ur dad on this issue.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: y is everybody taking u to see a prophet. Are u possessed or wat? Can't u decide what u want for urself? U r quarelling with God? Can't u kneel down and pray to God urself? Biko, u don't have any issues.
When you meet a true man of God, you will know the difference between you and a man of God. This people have different level of grace. They communicate with God one on one. I went to a church sometime last year, I was invited for a programme. The man that was invited to be the preacher for that day was AMAZING. This man knew his Bible. He knew he Bible so well I stood all thru his sermon. When it was time for prophesies nko, this man told people their life history. My friend that invited me was brought out, this woman doesn't know this man from Adam, but he started mentioning the names of her forefathers. Called them by their names and surname. Called all their generation out down to generation. Told he r her life history and that of her hubby. Told her Her problems and what she was going thru. Gave her a psalm to go and read for 21days and that settled it. He asked for nothing in return. I was standing all thru because I was AMAZED. When it came to prayers, it was like God himself came down. This man was praying with so much passion. He wasn't even touching people and they were falling. Anointing was every where. Every where. I could feel it. I never let any man of God lay hands on me but I did let him. So please true men of God knows if someone is right for you or not..
ReplyDeletePoster about dysfunctional family. Go to your dad, spend some time with him and talk to him. It's hard for fathers to say no to their daughters...
@ cutie pls where is d man of GOD i need help, can i drop my email?
DeleteLook Qutie,dont be so quick to believe these pple oo cos I can categorically tell u dat even at all dese drama' he can be fake!u need a discerning Spirit to bear u witness in ur heart dat he is from God not by what u see with ur eyes and analyse with ur carnal mind.
DeleteI have also met dis kind of MOG thru a cozin,infact he was so gud dat remain small God's voice from heaven would say:'dis is my beloved son in whom I am well pleased'
Well well,dis same MOG told my cozin that her and fiancee den were d will of God,dey compliment demselves perfectly like the moon and sun,dis and dat...but today dat marriage is crashed after only 3yrs!so how's is dat?cos I tot d moon and sun can't leave without each other#rme#
Abeg. I no dey prophets own oo,cos me myself I am one.thank God I also see through dreams,dat aside God talks to everyone after Jesus rose again!
Qutie pls what's this preacher name and his church if you know it. Thank you
DeletePls can u inbox me the man of God number , urgently n if he is Lagos. Help a sister.
DeleteAbeg where the man of God dey? And when next are they having church program ??
DeleteQutie my sweets!! Longtime
DeleteMen of God see the future and the past.
Men of the devil equally see same.
This is where we ask for the spirit of discernment.
U speak the truth qutie I hv experienced that before n it's Amazing! Poster2 ask God for the way forward. Ask him for direction, who knows wat greater thing lies for u! Not all prophets speak the truth, d first prophet might b an arrangee just to lure u into marriage.. pray till u get answers
DeleteQutie, please connect me with this pastor...Abeg
DeleteI hope u know even the devil quotes the bible.. In fact the ones that gv u the life history of your family are the fakest ones.. Using illusions to deceive ppl.. Pls let's be guided..
DeleteImo state?
DeleteUna love man of God pass God himself,you don't keep c
DeleteGod's commandment, you don't read your bible yet you will be looking for fake men of God because of man matter. Better read your bible and be amazed at how all your problem or type of people you will likely meet have been stated in the bible.
Nne m... No be today I start to see those seeing, life-history telling pastors ooo, abeg beware of them... most of them usefamiliar spirits to operate! Morale of story... na dem fake pass! Pray for spirit of discernment.
DeletePeople working with familiar spirits claiming to be sent by God. Why won't people ask God about things with their mouths
DeleteAnyone who says they don't believe in prophets only fool themselves.... The issue here is what type of prophets? There are fake and their are real ones... Nothing wrong in going to a pastor to pray with you concerning a future partner cos they operate on a leve of annointing most of us don't.... How many of u here pray for hours and study the word? U cannot live on this blog and expect to walk in the realm of annointing some people walk.... Gospel truth is the more u spend time with God he reveals his ways and and certain secrets with you.....also going to a prophet should not stop u from praying for your self. Some revelations they give u can be a confirmation of what God has already said to you or something u do not know, but any revelation most times can be confirmed from more than one witness...
DeletePoster 2, I agree with Stella and if time permits me i'll tell you my experience after work today. Yes I work on weekends! Happy Sunday people xoxo
ReplyDeleteit is well,,,,with you both
ReplyDeleteSecond poster, desperado at it's peak!!!
ReplyDeletePoster2: come mk I carry u go meet my own Imam hence ure on a prophecy spree. I truly don't get it.
DeletePoster 1: relax hence ur guy isn't ready 2 settle down yet. Who knows if 2mrw both of u part ways(not wishing u that tho) without the pressure from ur dad. How will u feel knowing U at a point fought ur dad over him. Tell ur dad ure working on it while u go on with ur affair without him knowing. When d time 4 u guys 2 get married try 2 get an uncle or aunt 2 spk with him. #myopinion#
Poster 2: You're not yet ready. Marriage entails sacrifice and decision making. Wait!
DeletePoster 1: Your father will receive your bride price not your mother or her family. Please don't make the mistake of ignoring your Dad, Dads have a covenant over us, good or bad they may seem or are PLEASE ensure they perform all traditional rights (you can keep your distance after). Also in all my years on earth I have learnt that ones origin is very important; just because you identify with them doesn't make you from there. Please don't ignore your father's counsel like a lot will suggest; bitter or not he is your father....a man is the spiritual head... .read your bible to know the role of fathers and mothers.....pray
Poster one: your dad is obviously still aggrieved by you mum and her family!!
ReplyDeleteBut that doesn't mean he should impose his own resentments towards your future .. He has lived his life, he should allow u live urs, and make ur own mistakes as well.
All he has are just conjectures!!! And nothing else.
You ve to involve a very diplomatic and wise member of ur dad's family, someone who ur dad respects and hold in high esteem , to speak to ur dad .
Thread wisely and pray, it is well .
Poster 2: pls are you that gullible??
Are u a child of God?
Are u aware of the authority u ve in Christ Jesus ??
Are you aware of the spirit of discernment ?
Are you aware that the spirit of God and not 'prophet' reveals things and mysteries to the children of God.
What do you need the validation of so called prophets for?
N2, you can pray to God for direction. Don't let other mortals mislead you. N1, be careful so you don't get on the bad side of your dad in the process of trying to impose your bf on him.
ReplyDeleteN2, you can pray to God for direction. Don't let other mortals mislead you. N1, be careful so you don't get on the bad side of your dad in the process of trying to impose your bf on him.
ReplyDeleteFolks have turned prophets into God. Poster 2, biko talk to God, do not believe any prophets. Most of them can't see beyond the walls 0f their room, yet they claim they see God.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, invite someone your dad respects to talk to him. Above all, pray.
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DeleteWhere your mail naa ?
DeleteMail u with what na? Spiritual email address?
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What's it with people and going to prophets?
ReplyDeleteIs that that God doesn't hear non pastors or it that there own goes faster to God than ours?
Haha.. Stella don vex.
ReplyDelete@poster 1 and 2,you both need Jesus.
N1, it's true we need our parents support in marriage, but follow ur heart if u truly no dt u re in love wt dis guy, pray to God to change ur dad's heart. But don't go around doing it in a way dt u will make ur dad look like I don't give a fuck abt what u think. Use ur no 6. N2, marriage is Btw two ppl dt wants to spend d rest of dia life togeda, it's not in d hand of ur parents, siblings or any pastor or prophet, u no what u want in a man, pray about it n listen to ur spirit. Avoid sex wt him for now n concentrate fully bc sex av a way of confusing things. Look carefully b4 u reap. Goodluck.
ReplyDeleteGirls are too desperate for marriage these days
ReplyDeleteP1...God is your strength
P2...na wa for u
Poster 2....So many prophets are confused n misleading ppl these days. Just pray and ask God direction. There are good ones anyway but I don't believe in them telling me whom to marry Cos some of them doesn't even hear from God
ReplyDelete@poster 1;i wont Advice you to disrespect your Dad due to soo many reasons;and also since you say you are also dependent on him for now..
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand,this same thing happened to an uncle i know who got married 3 years ago..i cant go breaking down all the details cos its more of an inter-tribal issue but the summary is that nobody supported his marriage from that specific tribe being that many of "our people" who got married from that side have soo many issues which are not too pleasing to be heard...now he doesnt know where he is to take his marital issue to cos the family have folded their arms(behaving to be mermaids now) and saying they told him in the first place;and that he should look for any way to save himself from the storm he caused..
Now what am i saying,your Dad is suppose to give you his blessing before you get married since he is still taking care of you but on the other hand you have to know that if you ever get married without this man's approval and any such mess he had in the past with his marriage to your mum is to come up in your own marriage(which i dont pray for) then you have to go through that storm alone or maybe with the support of your mum too..which isnt that good!!
Note that A father is still the head of a family and is suppose to be respected;now what you should be asking yourself is,does my father want my happiness or Not?? When you answer this question within yourself;its then now left to you to finalise your decision with getting married to this your prince-charming or Not...
But Note that you are on your own oooo if any gbege is to come up in the future!!
#for me i respect my parents words more than anything ooo cos i know they can never and have never misled me all my Life...but parents differ sha and you should know more about yours than any of us here...
#All the best to you as you decide..
@poster Two;sorry for your ignorance!!
Just know that you are the one who is to stay for better for worse in your marriage,and not all these prophets you are visiting....
Last time i checked;friendship,dating and courting is still a procedure to get to know your prospective spouse better before you finally say "I DO" or is it not applicable to your religion,church or belief??
#better take your brains with you ooo..
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U 23 n u' v already started viziting prophets??? Itz too early na
ReplyDeletePoster 1: be patient and try and see if u can av ur dad's blessing. Bae should be patient with u too
ReplyDeletePoster 2: since d two prophets r contradicting each other, pray about it urself. Stella, at times, prophets help too. I just dunno how to explain it to u stella
But bae didn't say he wants to marry her now. They are just doing bf and gf. What is wrong with people on this blog? Understanding simple English is not that hard now
DeleteLADY IGO SAID TO THE GIRL THAT WENT TO "THE SEERS"
ReplyDeleteTHE TRAGEDY OF A LIFE LIVED OUT OF GOD. . .
Ma**y was 19 and very beautiful; six feet tall, ebony chocolate (if you imagine what I mean), and "an hour glass" shape that turns heads 360 degrees. Men began to come for marriage when she was 16 (looked more mature than sixteen) and above all, the daughter of a known lady professor who insisted that she'd complete her masters before marriage.
At 25, she had hit the jackpot of a suitor and her mother capitulated. A*e, her suitor is an oil magnate with an intimidating personae. Well, mama had to consult pastor to ascertain the veracity of the magnate's proposal. Pastor confirmed it and told them that the marriage is blessed with 3 boys and lots more. finally the wedding was fixed "in six months time". All the while, Ma**y's friend (a seasoned Christian) had encouraged her to take out time and seek God . . .pray and do not allow folks to think for you . . . have a personal relationship with him etc" but the "bride" will have none of it . . . she's been swept off her feet by the whole exactness of "the dream jackpot" and the anticipation of the family.
It was during "counselling for the wedding" that the first shocker came . . . "why does the pastor want you to be coming in turns for counselling?" Her friend had asked but she could not give any reason. The "man of God" knows what he was doing. Well, long story short; Ma**y was raped by the "man of God". And what became of his "marriage confirmation"? Well no marriage held . . .The lady's eyes opened to all the deceits, she was too downcast to consider marriage to a man . . . she hated men . . . the downward spiral continued to the point of attempted suicide; and saved by her lady christian friend. It was then that M . . . decided to seek God in fasting and prayers that she overcame the passion to take her own life and made peace with Christ. M. . . is not married yet (in her late 20's) but has overcome the hatred for men . . .
Let's see Ecclesiastes eleven vs. nine
"You who are young, be happy while you are young, and let your heart give you joy in the days of your youth. Follow the ways of your heart and whatever your eyes see, but know that for all these things God will bring you into judgment."
Thank God for everything. When people's parents tell them to face their studies in school,some would 'claim wise' and be going for all night.........then they will tell us stories of woe and stop going to church.......read your bible, pray,go to church and come back before 12noon......a word.........I done talk finish......
DeleteWhat's the morale behind this story sef.....
Deleteabeg sharrap. everytime you have a stupid story. go and read your bible jor.
DeleteGod bless you and curse those who curse you for quoting the bible.
DeleteNawa for this life o. Will simply read comments
ReplyDeleteWhich prophet?
ReplyDeleteThe only prophet I would believe is prophet Elijah of old, any other prophet is a fucking fake.
Abegi..u can wait sha..just 23 might turn to just 32..depending on d next prophet.
Lmao
DeleteLol, age is not the problem in marriage,to get happiness is the problem,many ladies who marry too early regret even more than those that marry late,because many that married early deceive themselves into thinking they missed out on something, I think the 23yr old should just give 2more years so as to study the man's attitude well
DeleteI cannot comprehend why one would want to go to his pastor to find out if you are with the right person
ReplyDelete@ Poster 2
ReplyDeleteIf I hear say one Seer go tell you say na your hubby be this for the first time make I stand bath for shower. They will keep saying " nay" so you can patronise them for long as a customer.
For this ipad age, na e one person dey allow prophet determine compatibility for rel/marriage? If you believe in the spiritual, then approach his throne and hear from God yourself. Better ask Seer too whether the Bobo go sabi fire if you don marry am. Women be bringing business to conmen since 1759.
When i wanted to marry,a pastor said my bae wasnt my hubby ,that i was too young to know my left from right n that as i dey rush go in na so i go rush come out. That his family bad blahblahblah.
DeleteA decade and some extra years,i am still here by God's mighty grace,loving bae more n more,forgiving ourselves,and him dragging me up that success ladder and above all,supporting me in d quest of this academic el-dorado.
Prophet been talk say no be my hubby oooo
@poster 1 na ur papa go marry u??eh??abegiiii fashoo am hjare he's being so tribalistuc nd since ur bobo get moniii whts d ish with ur dad nt supporting u.
ReplyDeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteMay be you should first understand what your daddy is saying about your mother's tribe. Sometimes our parent are right and you need to know what brought about conflict between your parent, does your guy or his family shows any trait of your daddy's fear, if NO then let daddy understand that what ever happens between him and his wife Will not ba an issue in your home. Then leave the rest to God.
Poster 2
I will go with Stella on this, don't be too scared because of marriage issues that you won't' be able to hear from God. Now you don't know who is right, what if the guy or daddy have seen the pastors before you met them, you are still the solution to your own problem. Pray and let the heaven speak.
N1: Your story really touched me. Its one of thos things children suffers when they have parwnts who hate each other. It's not fair on the children but sadlybits the kind of life they have met on earth.
ReplyDeleteI honestly pray you find a solution to your problem. I don't want you loosing your true love but still you can't end up your father's enemy.
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@poster 2, I dnt believe in going to prophets to ask if spouses are compatible or not. Those prophets all tell lies. He even took you to His own prophet meaning maybe he must have paid the prophet to say u guys are compatible. You are just 23. Take a chill pill. Dnt rush into marriage o. With the way he'desperate for marriage, hope he doesnt av ulterior motive o
ReplyDeleteLol @ "commot for road make I see"
ReplyDeleteKai!
@ Stella Dimoko, Gbam you said it all
ReplyDelete1 and 2. I believe in prayers a lot. Talk to God about your issues and all will be fine. It is well.
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ReplyDeletegot nothing to say
ReplyDelete#GODWIN
P1: no comment lemme book my space and go back to read.
ReplyDeleteP2: everything is wrong with u! Like Stella said, don't u have mouth to pray? U r asking where to go from here abi? Just go to sambisa. Going to a prophet to verify what? Like u don't have a sense of belonging. If u think deep down that dis guy is for u and it's time, go ahead and don't listen to what one prophet is saying. Y go to a prophet in d first place? Nkan nbe.
Poster 2,i wonder how people allow 'Men of God'to detect who they r going to spend the rest of their own lives with. Like really? We already ve d spirit of God in us to discern such things as his grace is sufficient enough. Even if u ve like 5 of them on ur case,bliv u me,there is that one man that ur mind is set on among them unconditionally.Now thats d the spirit of God speaking to u. The spirit cant talk like. thunder into ur ears,is already in ur mind;depending on the kind of spirit that leads u.
ReplyDeleteB guided,dont b brainwashed.
Tell your dad....dat u love n respect him n would love to have his blessing in life... the fact that ur mum n him couldn't work things out has nothing to do with the tribe she comes from.he should give u a chance to take dis particular decision n way eva comes out of it u r ready to face it(na u know ur nobody ) .also that if u doesnt let u marry dis person,u would feel really bad n b mad at him for not letting u marry who u want......
ReplyDeleteIt is not an emotional blackmail to force him to accept ur wish but u sincerely need him to get to know ur bobo away from d tribe view.
This discussion would b between ur father n u....n he would say YES ...when he does..tell him"daddy I love you"
2-take ur time ,pray to God,don't b in a haste -God's time is the best ..
Take time to set your goals n set the ball rolling
If dat man is your husband even if u say u ain't ready by December.. he would wait
#Bv -Nene
Make different pastors and prophets dey there dey use Ur head, in d end, what matters is Ur heart, if u love d guy and he is OK (cos otherwise, we'd have to read meaning into his desperation) then my dear, just follow Ur heart
ReplyDeleteI tire ooo, this prophet thing is so annoying, both posters should pray for God's intervention and be wise about any actions taken
ReplyDeletePoster one chill out, if that is your husband by and large your father will come to love and accept him just like others ans everyrhing will work out fine.
ReplyDeleteMadam prophet and seer watch yourself, you are so young and dude is already desperate, looks like he is much older and running out of time or he feels has found a naive gal he wants to bend to his will.
Follow stella advice, I agree with her for today sha
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ReplyDeleteCant you open ur own mouth and pray to your maker? God knows what is best for you so talk to him and stop looking for a middle-man.. Millions of gullible people have been led astray doing this same thing ur doing now.. if u lose a good man u got no one to blame but yourself. Tbh, it seems u aint into the dude sef.. at 23 perhaps ur not ready for marriage. Free the guy if u aint interested jor.
Hian
ReplyDeleteHian!!!!! Lord have mercy, many don't know how to Pray n get the signs to know who the right person is,Which is y they Seek d counsel of prophet n men of God. There is nothing wrong with it
ReplyDeletePoster1- Just let anyone ur dad highly respects talk to him,to understand that at the end of the day your happiness is what matters.And he should allow u choose who you want to marry.
ReplyDeletePoster1 wow such drama in your life,your dad and mum must have been the worst couples when married,he only disapprove of your bae because he's from the same place as your mum,i think you should talk to your dad let him know you really love and want to spend your life with this man hope he understands
ReplyDeletePoster2 you are not desperate yet you are going from one prophet to another even writing her for advice,why don't you just wait for two years like your prophet of doom advice
Narr2) I dont blame u at all, i blame d prophets who prophecy such thing to a lil gurl like u .......and I also blame ur dad too. Come to think of it if u ain't desperate y would ur dad take u too a native doctor? Yaah I call such prophets native doctors.......
ReplyDeleteNarr1) hummmm sometimes we just ave to listen yo our parents. Y didn't u tell us were ur parents are from?
The papa fit be agbor and her mama ishan!
Delete@ poster 2..I don't believe in all D's pastors...Only God knows who is serving him. What does God tell you about him? Fast for a day with faith and ask God to show u a sign.
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Stella u they para oh for poster 2. Pls not everything pastor or prophet says re true, learn to do ur own prayer n fasting.
ReplyDeleteStella e yaf vex! But na true u talk. I make it a point of duty to tell my aunts n my mum in case she is tempted to go meet anybody to leave my name out. @poster 1 n 2 I normal take decisions on my own. Strong decisions that is....so I can leave with whatever outcome my decisions bring. I won't want to ever beat up myself for following any body's advice n it comes out bad. Good luck to u both. Una need am plenty.
ReplyDelete*normally *live. Whew!
DeleteNot a good adviser.will read comment.
ReplyDeletePoster 2; wat do u expect ur guy's prophet to tell u? Lean 2wards ur dad more nd wait. U rush in u rush out.
ReplyDeleteP2---You are desperate. 23, still in School you allowed a man to take you to someone he has arranged with, to tell you he is your husband. Mschew.
ReplyDeletePoster 1:Sori abot wat U went tru as a child. My dear I think for now U shld wait don't be in a hurry,keep praying your father might change his mind with time. It is very important to marry with our parents blessings. Poster 2: God give birth to gods and dog to gods and the bible clld us gods. U only go to your father in prayers on your own, quit going to prophets,bcos you are also one. I know alot of people believe in it. The bible say search the scripture and know the truth,go to God in prayers and you will your answer there. But I also think your not ready yet for marriage.
ReplyDeleteHonestly speaking, divorce or separation is the worse that can happen to products of that affair. Its the kids that sufferd it. As for the kakiri kakiri lady, why are you allowing people to take you to soothsayers? Am not even in support of that guy. Its totally wrong for him to take you anywhere. Run away and never look back
ReplyDeleteStella please understand poster2 is still dependent on her parent
ReplyDeleteso if a parent drags u to a prophet u better follow. Any way poster 2 ur intuition wld have told u a Lon time ago wen this topic marriage initially came abt. Now over to u to pray n fast three days seekx for direction.
I also ve to add God is not the author of confusion. Even after wen u wed keep praying
Poster 1.I can totally relate to your story
ReplyDeleteHad a case like yours.
I wonder why some parents won't jus let us marry who we want.
Poster1...date him secretly without ur dad knowing,if you two are stil in love and ready to settle down u can go on with ur weddin, with or without is approval after all you wont be depending on him by then and moms blessings and prayers are more important than a dads blessings.
ReplyDeleteForposter2,I think you need to chill oh, marriage is not a play ground, and I think your guy is up to something, first time to comment.
ReplyDelete#1: Baby, I wish I could be there with you to comfort you bear-hugs but I'm afraid we have to settle for e-bear-hugs. My heart sank as I read through your story because I see the ghosts of your past is about to haunt your future if you don't confront them. You know why my heart breaks? You didn't ask to be born, your parents' actions caused your birth. You can't be held accountable for whatever dysfunction you had to endure. Time and time again, I see young men and women psychologically scarred from their compromised childhood and they aren't even aware why they act the way they do. Some have unexplained anger issues, self esteem issues and other emotional issues. There's a reason why some people are so unpleasant, aggressive and can never see the good in others, "sins of the father..."
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What I find disturbing is the role your boyfriend plays in your life. My darling, you are too emotionally scarred. It's not healthy to build your world around a man. It appears you feel he is the only good thing in your life, he is your rock, your provider, your confidant, your lover, he means everything to you, no? Therein lies the ticking time bomb.
Sweetie, you've inadvertently made your boyfriend some sort of a demigod which is understandable, considering all you've been through. No matter how angelic a human being is, if you trust your happiness and stability on that person, your love will be taken for granted even if the person loves you. Nobody has the capacity to play such a role without feeling overwhelmed and act out. You are holding on too strongly to him and that will blind you to his faults. For fear of losing this amazing guy, you may let him get away with murder and settle with whatever he offers you emotionally when you actually shouldn't.
Who knows? Your father's objection may just be a blessing in disguise. If the stress of it all had made you suicidal, what do you will happen if the love of your life rejects you or tells you he needs a break? My point exactly! Heartbreak is debilitating but once the pain makes you want to end it all, it shows that was an unhealthy relationship. Be with a guy not because he is the only available choice but because from all the available ones, he's the one. Competition is vital in every healthy relationship.
It's a pity we don't realise the importance of therapy from psychologists in this society because that would really help you confront your past to start the healing process. Sweetheart, I'm not saying he isn't the love of your life, I just want to make sure you are in a healthy relationship. No man or woman should be your anchor, you should be your anchor supported by the person(s) you love.
You can't fight the person who butters your bread. You aren't independent enough to piss your father off. It's good your mum and sister approve so it's only your dad you have to contend with. You have to be wise, my love, downplay your relationship with your boyfriend for now while doing all you can to win your father over and pray for divine intervention because you need it, we all do. I pray everything works out for you and I wish you a blissful life ahead because you deserve it.
#triplee-bearhugs.
these prophets are business men and women. yes they may see but with which power. how do you know the fake ones(after you' ve been dupped). ask God what you want and he shall answer. my God never uses a middle man to answer prayers.
ReplyDeleteposter1: ur father is yet to tell you something. ask him. he has his reasons
Poster 1: let ur dad understand that pple r nt d same, wat happened to him ws his own fate
ReplyDeletePoster 2: talk to God urself n be careful
#2: This is one of those controversial issues because of the positives, the negatives and the false positives. There are genuine men of God who can sense such things, sometimes their predictions come to pass, sometimes they don't because people can alter their destinies (I'll explain shortly). However, there are more false prophets and pastors who would manipulate people and take advantage of their gullibility. My advice, however, is to err on the side of caution by praying for perception and that inner peace you feel when you're on the right track.
ReplyDeleteA lot of people mistakenly assume the approval means an effortlessly blissful marriage. After all, how can a union approved by Heaven fail? So they get married and rest on their laurels because they see no reason to work on a marriage destined to be successful. Here comes the tricky part. The gift of free will can alter a person's destiny for the better or the worse. A couple must put in efforts to make their marriage work, regardless of the solid foundation. Where they decide to waltz along the "que sera sera" complacent route, the marriage made in heaven will be heading for disaster.
Take the Adam and Eve union, for example, Eve was fashioned out of Adam's ribs. It doesn't get more "bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh-ish"than that . The original marriage was not just ordained by God but also created by HIM, yet... We all know how things turned out, don't we? I have seen too many marriages with several stamps of approval from various spiritual leaders, end in disaster because they took things for granted. While some other unions predicted to fail ended up being amazingly successful because the couples dug in their heels and put in a lot of hard work to prove the nay sayers wrong.
Sweetheart,have you wondered why the urgency? Does the impending union have an expiration date? Who proposes to a complete stranger from day one? Isn't it prudent to get to know more about each other before taking such a huge step? Like the saying goes "before you say I do, you should ask with whom?"
Like I mentioned earlier, honey, I'm skeptical about such enquiries but this may even work in your favour. You can combine both prophecies and watch how things play out while still keeping your options open. You've been told you guys are compatible , a 2nd message advises you to wait for 2 years because you haven't found the right person. So why not put "Mr compatible" to the 2 year waiting period? It's a win-win situation. If he can't wait for 2years, he automatically rules himself out, not necessarily based on the prophesy but based on the fact that a guy with good intentions shouldn't bow out because he's pressed for time. Within the 2 year period, you'll know for sure if he is the one you want. If another guy pops up as predicted, you'll be in a better state of mind to make that decision. Just keep an open mind and watch how things play out. Who knows? A 4th or 6th guy may turn up before the year runs out. Pray for guidance and perception, your spirit will be at peace with the right person.
#e-bearhugs.
Abeg, anybody watching laali and married again on zeeworld?
ReplyDeletePoster 2 is the guy's name Ifeanyi please run as fast as u can. His so called prophet is a spiritualist oo. My dear poster be careful. For that guy to be in a hurry, hmmmmmm.
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