Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

Hmmm Are you #Team baby mama?please step forward,one of yours is standing at a cross road oh....

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE....

THE CONSEQUENCES OF BEING A BABY MAMA AND ITS EFFECT ON
NEW RELATIONSHIPS.

Hi Stella mama. 
 Please I will like you to share my story on your blog for advice from you and fellow BVs.

I will be 30years old next week, I had a lovely son (my world) in my first year in University, not like my child was born out of mistake though but things dint just work between the dad and i. Stels, am still very sexy even after childbirth, most of my mates dint even know I was pregnant back then in school talk more of having a child. My son is almost the same height as me now, am so proud of him. He was 11years last month. 

I met this other guy (37years now) while doing my youth service in the Eastern part of we country. We were friends before we started a relationship. I told him about me been a single mom and everything he needed to know about me.


 I was retained at my place of primary assignment after service though on contract with merger stipend while my boyfriend was still on job hunt, he would come to my office to while away time as he was always bored a home and depression was even started to set in for him. I always assisted him in every little way I could financially.

I introduced me to his family and also met some of my people too. There was a day I used my son’s picture for a dp on my bbm, the younger sister who was in my contact list saw it and told every member of the family of my child. My guy wasn’t happy about it, I thought I should have kept it a secret.

Well, a year later he got a good paying job with his uncles’s connection and that’s when he totally changed behaviourally. He won’t call or return my calls, he’s always forming busy which am very sure he’s not. This guy travelled out of the country for weeks without telling me, he just simply kept a distant, we weren’t even in talking terms and that’s how the relationship faded out even though I made efforts to make it work.

Two months later, we came back together again somehow but I noticed change in his attitudes as if been forced to be in the relationship. I confronted him many times to know what the problem is until he later opened up.

His reason for disappearing was the fact that i am a single mom which is a stumbling block between us. I was like fine but I told you from the onset. We ended the relationship that day. Eight months later, what did I see? Its my bf’s wedding invite.

 He actually sent me an invite. 

Many weeks later, he’s asking to still be friends with me, like seriously?I  Am the type that once I date you and we break up, I don’t ever want to have anything to do with you..Am I being too harsh?.I Am seeing someone now, should I tell him about my child? I Am confused. No insult pleaseeeeeeeeee. Stella please help me to summarise it and edit any mistake..Thank you my love .

The boo that dumped you and went off with someone else because you are a baby mama,please forget being friends with him cos the next thing he will say is that he misses you and made a wrong choice and he will wanna continue from where he stopped,ignore his ''olive branch'' please..HEEDIOT!

As for the new boo,tell him now,if he loves you,let him stay,if not let him walk,your child is the most important thing in your world,do not let anyone tell you otherwise.
All these ladies rushing off to be baby mamas una dey see?The society you live in frowns at it and there are consequences,una no dey hear!Mscheeew!



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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
GETTING A JOB BEFORE GETTING MARRIED IS IMPORTANT?

Madam Stella, sure you are enjoyed your Easter time out....Mine was the worst of all because I have so many issues on my table. Don't even know where to start but let me start by saying.I Am lady of 30yrs of age, born into the family of 4 but lucky to be the last born. We are not well to do in my family but my parents ensure we have good and quality education and we all graduated with good grades, but thing that keeps me confused is that no 1 has been able to secure job before and after marriage because we are all girls, now been the only one left in the house my father is standing on the ground that I must secure job even if it will take me years before approving my marriage. 

Boo and his family aren't cool with that because he has been waiting for years for me to finish school and since i finished I am yet to secure a job. I know my Dad has a point about the work ish but boo is saying he can't even wait till middle of this year not to talk of the whole year because this year makes it 10yrs of our relationship together and age is no longer on my side too...

Please I need advice on what to do and as well plead with any Bv's that can help me with a good job. I will be grateful if my request is granted.

If it is advice you want you will get it,I do not know about anyone giving you a job here,keep your fingers crossed and keep checking in house news,who knows!

As for your dad,does he bear the responsibility of your other sister's marriage?

Are they living well?what does the man you want to marry work as?Is he financially stable?..Your dad might be trying to salvage a broke ass situation.

If Boo can help you out with establishing a business then fine.I dont know abeg!

All the best oh!