Hmmm Another person has replied his lover's chronicle but this time,its different!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
RE - WHISTLE BLOWING ON THE IN LAWS
Hello Stella,
Just wanted to say something regarding one of your post, here is the link http://www.stelladimokokorkus.com/2015/04/chronicle-of-blog-visitor-narrative.html and i am referring to the first one.
I Am actually the guy, she was talking about, just want to point things out. Meanwhile she doesnt even know am writing this, as i came to see the messages you guys sent to each other on her email, while playing a game on one of her phones where you said "i love your narrative".
First i want to say thanks for playing mature and yes she is 23 or 24 now and i am not that much older than her..
I've been living abroad for the most part of my life since i was like 10, did all my school stuffs there and all that there. Before i met her i hardly want to come home even on school holidays, shes always been the reason why i come back to Nigeria more often and even when i do i normally give my money to my aunts to keep for me and collects from them, but ever since she became a part of me i started to plan my live for the better..( My fathers side is rich, unlike my mums, so the cousin shes was talking about is from my mum's) .
I finished school and didnt have much to come do in Nigeria, but i kept on missing her a lot..so i decided why not call my dad and have him set me up with some funds and the ones i had....now i am able to build a nice house, cars and business is good ( Please am not saying this for the sake of boasting, just for you to see how good its been with her around).
As i am typing this i am back from work and all alone in the house, cos she not here, meanwhile after her school she started working with me on one of my businesses (advertising, one of my company employees may have sent you a message one time asking to place some ads on your site, if i remember well, funny).
We will get married when its time, or rather when ever shes ready, as by the grace of God i may be young here in Nigeria, cos overseas i aint that young, i believe i have virtually everything needed to start a family( you stay in Germany so you should know better).
The issue my my mums sisters is because they fail to understand that i am no longer their little baby...that does everything they normally say. Regarding money i give them money almost on daily bases and it aint funny as even Dangote has the right to complain lol. I think am gonna have to stop here for now. All i can see is that people shouldnt just comment what they like on blogs without thinking the other way round.Those saying she's wasting her time, dont really know the facts, everyday with her is like i am just getting to know her....
Some of your readers have been saying shes been living with my for two years now, thats not true..shes been in school and only finished last November..so its was normally on weekends then. My mums people like her, just that they think shes kind of blocking their way to collect money from their cash cow or ATM lol.. Regarding snooping snooping around..lol honestly no man would have someone beautiful like that and not snoop around sometimes.
I accused him of snooping when i got this mail and that is the reason he closed with the snooping talk..hmmm so men snoop?
Good to see you defending your girl....good to know you intend marrying her.
Good luck to you both.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO.
GETTING OVER A BREAK UP..
Good day Madam Stella,
I really enjoy visiting your blog, I always comment as anonymous because i've tried severally to get a blog Id but I don't know how to go about it.
Aunty Stella, i'm totally heartbroken, my heart is shattered in many places and I doubt I can survive this.
I broke up with my boyfriend this morning and it's like my world has come to an end. We started dating from very young, 5years ago and we've grown very much closer and in love in the past year and talking about settling down because i'm almost done with my masters and he is doing his Phd here in the UK.
Our problem started a month ago, he told me about one girl in same school with him that has been bringing him food. He likes food a lot I know, and i'm a very good cook as he and my friends always say, but we live in different cities, he is in manchester and i'm in london. But, whenever we visit each other I do my best.
Now, this girl kept coming to his house and he tells me anytime she comes but promises me that nothing has and will ever happen.
We speak for at least 1hr daily, especially at night; last night, my guy was sounding funny, telling me tales of how he prefers fair slim girls, i'm chocolate and have big hips and this makes me look big sometimes. He kept saying all sorts but I saw it all as a joke cos I was even told him that I prefer very tall and hefty guys and he's not, but what matters is the strong love we have for each other.
This morning, I called him, and he started talking about being double minded about me, that i'm too popular in school for his liking and I have too many friends and wants us to be break up.
I've cried and cried, my face is swollen cos I know all the sacrifices i've made for him both financially and turning down many far handsome guys for his sake.
I feel like dying, at 28, where do I start from? What do I do? I've got my assessments and dissertation going on, I don't think I can continue.
Please,help! How can I get him back? Cos I can't live without him. He is my first true love...i'm shattered. Feel like dying.
Regards,
Honey you can live without him if he can live without you,get buy with your school work and cry all you want,it will hurt now but soon you will see that there is a reason he broke up with you and it will surely end in praise for you.
Cry all you want but move on!
you feel like dying but you wont die...
you are shattered but you will come out a survivor!
Poster 2- life is too short to cry over a man. He should go to hell. Your Mr right will come for you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, I take God beg you, let God make a man out of him first before you try to make a husband out of him. #rme
DeletePoster 1, I can't recollect the gist of which you sent in this rejoinder but hey! All the best. Get married to ur girl already.
Snoop doggy dog. Hahahahahaha. My colleague.
DeletePoster 1- I'm calling you out
DeleteNumber 1- you said you've been living abroad on and off since you were 10,that's a big lie, from the way you wrote, you sound like someone who does know where MMIA is
Number 2- someone that has lived abroad for that long does not say 'overseas' unless you're an ibo trader living in Austria or Holland
You and your smallie girlfriend should mature first before thinking of marriage jor
Gbam @ Carina
DeletePoster 2, he obviously doesn't deserve u,for his reasons are lame.i know how u feel but u deserve beta pls move on
Delete@poster1 : ride on, but make sure you do the necessary things asap
Delete@poster2 : cry as much as you can but after that, make sure you don't cry for the same reason again.
You can live without him cos he's not your air........
Love will find you, u feel bad cause you think that age is no longer on your side
Move on babes.
Kisses.
p2 );Baby dont cry am single and searching for good leave your past behind and lets move on if truly you are good character wise
Deletepeace
But why is poster 1 still snooping (replying with her phone, unknown to her)? Tiring!
DeletePoster 2: turn your wounds to wisdom. Pick up your pieces and move on with your life. What's in your future is so much more than what you're leaving behind. All the best.
Poster 1: this abroad u grew up in must have been uzbekistan ir paupa new guinea judging by ur written english. Kai u sabi tianyin.
DeletePoster 2: u r young forget him. Hes not worth it. Allow ur self cry. U will get over it and laugh one day. Gd luck
Poster 2. Do not despair. I live in the UK also and the same thing happened to me few years back. The idiot boyfriend started saying he liked fair girls and I am dark skinned. I knew trouble was looming. Long story short, we broke up. I unexpectedly met a really lovely gentleman and fell madly in love. My life was 10x better. I am married with 2 kids now it was a blessing in disguise. God has a purpose for you, so be strong and don't despair.
DeleteU r hilarious lmao
DeletePlsss ooo. I just finished waec from the other post after 2 hours.
DeleteOMG I have never read anything this hilarious in my life, like I did Miss Mae's saga. Like what the..?? I don't care about the complainant because she and Ms mae weren't friends, so the issue of snatching shouldn't arise. What is appalling is the magnitude of Ms Mae's foolishness and promiscuity. Niggar set u up big time.
I painstakingly read that nonsense for almost 2hours without skipping a line. Yes I did. And I wish that those who commented read it all tru before passing any comments. Ms Mae, wish I knew u, I for beat u like person wey tif for market. This idiot was giving u a push around all over lagos. Under bridge, computer village, friends house, and u even complained that u didn't brush ur teeth at some point. Ahahaha if u saw the way I laughed ehn. Like seriously?
Why would u allow his friend share a bed with u for starters? Is he ur brother? He was trying to fondle u and no hot slap ensued? That bit angered me the most the way u were narrating it to ur jerk of a BF.
He didn't even shrug when u told him his friend tried to have his way with u. Did u notice what he asked u? He said hope it was only one of his friends that tried and not both? Are u for real, were both supposed to try their ways with u? He wasn't even angry, he didn't react at all, I thought at that point u would spark and call the relationship off, but nooooo...Mumu u carried on to accept his miserable dodo and stale egg.
He pushed u to jump on a bus, he couldn't even come get u at ikeja initially, he made u meet him at a convenient place. U actually said it was like u sacrificed more, which was true but u carried on. Chai Chai Chai. He was hiding u from his folks? OMG
U now went to idle away in computer village, asking where u would sleep? A cheap hotel would have cost u both at least 5k...he could have gotten a room and spent time with u there at least. But he was pushing u up and down while he had his time with his family. U are a monumental fool and a disgrace to your family. I'm not sorry to say this but u irritate me for showing such stupidity and desperation for an immature broke ass prick. If u must fuck, fuck with sense girl.
Then ontop of it u scammed Stella. See what I've always said here, and some of u will come under anonymous to cuss sisi eko for oversabi talk, na so God go dey reveal una scam. I see this happened in January, I'm sure by now u are no longer dating him.
Look at how u disgraced yourself, telling a man that ur mother took u for birth control. Confirming how lose a girl u are, u even told him how u had met other guys online previously. Meaning it's ur stock in trade and he just kept quiet, forming it doesn't matter, when in his heart he knows that he won't be staying long with u. He established ur modus operandi and was simply playing along.
Abeg make I stop cos ur matter is so irritating. Trust u to switch to anonymous henceforth. Rubbissshhhhhh!!!!!!
As for this poster here. My dear no soothing words has ever helped a broken hearted person. Nothing we say here will suffice. What heals is time.. Pele.
DeletePoster 1. Mr husband, your rejoinder doesn't make sense sorry. Very bland.
And Stella, am calling u out. why person go take time to type epistle and u won't post it? Pls ooo, the energy I expend here no be small something, please no disgrace me like that na... it makes one feel wasted if u type and it isn't posted. Not like there are inappropriate words there na. Biko o. Ok bye
Poster one! Your English is nothing to write home about and as someone has rightly suggested this your "abroad" get comma! Ghana is a abroad sha! Ride on😁
Delete2,I feel your pain.
ReplyDeletePoster1 good luck to the both of you, as you said u love her.
ReplyDeletePoster2 please move on. What will be will be. God knows best and with time you will find someone better. Cry all u want but after d tears wipe ur face and look ahead.
Poster 1,biko marry her already make we hear word...
ReplyDeleteMtcheeeewwwww....
Poster 2,
So a human being like you is your life...
Smh...
Well,if you want to get him back,go and lose weight...most single guys likes slim girls...
Mumu girl...
Biko move on with your life...you have been dumped...deal with it...
I always wonder how it feels like when people say they cant live without someone? Why is it so difficult for some peeps to move on? Nobody is worth dying for nne.
DeleteReplace him, and you will be amazed how fast you will forget him. E no dey hard me then at alll.
There is nothing wrong with your stature, he's just looking for an excuse to dump you, hips wey people dey find? Abi na bones he won dey touch? You will meet someone that will love you the way you are sweet, life is all about choices.
@ Queen nd Boss of monkies.. U re too insultive.. Get ur self a better life pls..
DeleteDont mind dat mumu girl..As if d guy is d last man standing..mtcheeeeeew!
DeleteYour two responses are on point. The second one is harsh sha, but it's the truth. Tomorrow guys will expect a loyal babe. Mtcheeeeew.
DeleteThat's insensitive Linda. Putting down a fellow woman like you because she's in emotional distress is bad. That's why they say we women are our own worst enemy.
DeleteI tire for the girl o! Mumu man is her life. I reject it for you IJN. Cry, dry your tears and face your school work. You didn't come this far to come and fail
DeleteIf you have never had the experience of heart break, you'll comment harshly. I used to tell people off until I experienced mine. Sweety cry, pray, but don't sit there for long. Read books to help you, listen to bishop TD jakes sermon "nothing just happens". That sermon got me feeling good within days. You'll be fine.
Delete....yes when it's time to let go of a woman,dese men use the most flimsiest excuse!infact even what made him love the gal in d first place,he will use it against her to her utmost despair.these boys of nowadays,na God hand dem dey oo!
DeletePoster2,u just think u can't leave without him,but I bet u,his will be d easiest!pray to God to comfort u,disentangle u from any soul tie and remove the love u have for him from ur heart.and I bet u,it works!then pls and pls always go out with friends,drink some wine,loosen up u are in d UK where u can freely afford to live Lavida loca' for d time being without anyone judging u,go shopping,makeup properly,snap nice pics and paste on ur timeline etc .u will be amazed at how fast u will forget about him.he might even come back for u when he sees u ain't bothered but pls don't go back to ur vomit#tongue click
Olori western union, please do g be insensitive to the feelings of others, that's how she feels right now. Girl cry if you need to, cuss him out but rest assured that you will not die without that looking ass nigga
DeletePoster 2: Cry Him a River. His Mind is all made Up. Get Your BiG Fat Sexy Hips Up. And with Yhur Head Held High. get Yhur Masters Cert and Get Busy.. That Dude just lost interest un Yhu.
ReplyDeleteThere are many others out there who would appreciate the Big in Yhu...
Remain BlezzeD there. Yhur Ex is Yet to see Yhur Best..
They probably been fucking for five years! It could get boring. Date a man now and not one school boy.
DeleteP1 Outright irrelevant. U n ur gfrd is sick in d head.
ReplyDeleteP2 Sorry! U can live without him. First love or no first love. Time heals all wound
Narrator Number 2: Heartbreak Is a Must EXPERIENCE if you must move on stronger and better in Life, Its a Must.. Well it has happened and it is what it is, Cry Over It and Dust Our Ass And Move ON.. Mind you, There's Nobody You Can't live Without..
ReplyDelete.
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.NOTE: Raise Your Words, Not Your Voice. It Is Rain That Grows Flowers, Not Thunder..
Poster 1 of yesterdays narative. I wanted to point things clear to Yhu. From what u wrote. I am approximately 14 Months older than Your Boy. And i can flawlessly Relate with your story. My mom always said the same about me. I never let her visit me in school during my High school days. And even now in the University. She is Overtly caring and i dont really like that. It makes me feel like i look up to her for everything. And that is complete Thrash. I love my Mother. She is my everything. Her Hapiness is mine. My Best Friend.
ReplyDelete. She is my precious, my priceless one, my
hapiness, she is gifted. She is my rock, my shield
my Joy. My protector on earth. She has the vocal
cords that enables me to speak. She alone has
that tongue sweet enough to explain to me that i have no Father than My saviour. Jesus. She is
totally irreplaceable, she is flawless. She is
beautiful, all shades of amazing. Her eyes
radiates cosmic rays. She is incomparable. She is
wiser than all the fetish wisdom solomon had. All
the gold in saudi can not compare to the immaterial endowment she has. My mother is
patient understanding and very considerate.
Nothing in this world is worth her obsession. She is
awesome. 'Ugebe Oyibo mu' (foreign Mirror). I see
ur reflections through me. The mother of all
mothers. I love you Mama raise to power infinity. God bless all your efforts Nnem. Your natural
flair for what is right is what sends miraculous
blessings down ur way. You are a star mum. The
world is silently knowing her best.
After all said and done. She still thinks i am ashamed of her. Well, i am slowly starting to adjust and make things right. At least when i am home from school i make sure we do things today Unlike my siblings.
Phhew.. Forgive My Long epistle. But i had to pass this across to that Mother and some other Mothers going through this kind of situation.
That Being said, I believe You should give ur son some space but dont let him forget that u have his best interest at heart.
Ok, Bye.
Small boy.
DeleteAwwww G_Pharm this is so sweet!
DeleteSo you are 18+ Ehen!lol
I always thought you were a girl, I wonder why.
Errrr.. Poster 1 I don't know the 1st part of this story but you sound not too mature sha.
Poster 2 you won't die you hear? Move on. It would hurt but it won't kill you.
So you are 18?...
DeleteUmu azi enjoying senior jokes...
Nne na aso ka ofe onugbu..G-pharm welukwa nwayoo..Dont let any woman come inbetween u and ur mom tomorrow oh..not even ur wife..
DeleteHmmmmmmm
DeleteWell done @ poster 1. Continue to love her and I pray you get married soon and have a wonderful life. To be honest, guys that have lived abroad(legally) and have gone to uni and worked in proper jobs, are able to love like this, cos they have seen another type of life. Nigerian men that have always lived lived in Nigeria do not know what love is( no offence)!
ReplyDeletePoster 2 so sorry ooo, I know the pain of losing your first love, you have pretty much grown up together and you can't imagine not being a part of his life cos your lives are so intertwined, so much history and memories, but my darling you really need to try to compartmentalise the pain. You need to face your dissertation and your finals, do not let this be a life changing thing for you. Please my dear I beg of you, try to put the pain aside and face your degree. You need to be a success in life and he is nt the autor and finisher of your life.
He may actually come back to you after sowing his wild oats but do not wait for that.
You are more than wrong,Nigerian guys that have lived all their Lives in Nigeria love better esp in paying bills, as long as a guy is well brought up and godly you have no problem,living abroad doesn't mean you will be a good husband.
DeleteHmm I'm not talking about paying my bills o, i can do that myself. I'm talking about real true love, treating me right and being considerate. Truly understanding me.
DeleteAlso if they earn more than you they do pay the bills but they do not like leeches that try to such them dry. My friends that earn not so much in the UK, their hubbies pay the bills, but them a car and give them money to start a business and these are not mega rich guys.
Yes they prob don't throw away their hard earned money buying girls hair etc which is prob what you mean.
What is paying bills? They pay the bills and then misbehaves. Old demi you are
Deletesoon right!
Luv is a very Beautiful thing I do Agree, Y I Appreciate Breakup is It Maks us Stronger nd Correct those mistake that cost us our Previous Relationship, U shud hav Put A Stop 2 This Breakup from the onset, immediately another Babe Start Bringing Him Food, knowing So Wel He Likes food Alot, MyDear if anybody can Live witout u, U can Also Live without them
ReplyDelete1) I don't understand the reason for this chronicle aswear
ReplyDelete2) Nne this is not the end of the world, and the sooner you realize that, the sooner you'll get over that fool! Men do not appreciate what they hshave till they lose it...that's a fact!
Just cry all you want, clean your eyes, put on ur makeup and move on! That fool doesn't deserve you nor does he deserve your love..he is a bastard and he'll surely regret this. But when he comes crawling back, do not fall our hand and take him back oo. Think with your head next time and not your heart!
If he can cheat on you now...then he'll surely do it again! Just pray your own man locates you! It's well
You've said it all @cutie berry
DeleteI think poster one's Girlfriend cried to boyfriend dearest and either sent in this herself or mandated the boy to..lmao!!
DeleteI might be wrong.. but I have a feeling this babe is still lurking in the shadows here..
Nne,keep living with him...Marry him if you want,Do as you please..but I don't want to see a chronicle from any of the supposed aunties.. ejoor,biko!
Poster two..Get on with your life..you have been dumped unceremoniously!
Don't grovel,don't beg,done call(i wish every one had my kind of heart).. don't even take him back.. I know he will crawl back after he has seen the new babe finish..
Don't ever make the mistake of taking him back..move onnnnn!!!! God just saved you from an asswipe!
I Have your type of heart my sister!! A real ass swipe! Mtcheww
DeleteDon't*
DeletePoster 1.you and your gf should get married soonest period...only jealous guys snoop. Poster.stay strong,move on.
ReplyDeleteI'm even thinking she sent this herself. Madam why do u feel d need to get d approval of people who don't know or care about u.we've adviced u...it's ur life.. Do as u please. Hian
DeletePoster2,no man breaks up with his girl like dat.go to Manchester and find out what went wrong .best of luck #sipsMoetnChandon
ReplyDeleteWetin go wrong again pass say e de see food chop constantly from woman wey no get big hip.
DeleteDoes the dude really knows what he wants or na anywhere breeze blow am, e de go? Mtchew!
Small boy.
Don't even dare
DeleteTo go find out ?
Forget him and ut
Heart break? I dread that thing. It feels like your heart wanna tear out of ur body
ReplyDeletePoster before I got married to the best man on earth I had 3 broken engagement,(but the good thing is i never had sex with them)people started thinking something was wrong with me,I became afraid to date because I thought I had a problem until my husband who
Deletehappened to be someone I never noticed,came aroundand married
me and till today iI sing praises to God,I just couldn't believe God
blessed me with so much happiness,very soon you won't remember you even dated him,but try not to beg him that will make him feel uncomfortable.
@poster 2
ReplyDeleteIf you feel like dying right now,I can help you by prescribing something that could kill u within 2 seconds!Mtchewwwwwwwwwww!
Let me tell you a secret about men,they do anything to get your attention and when they finally get it,they access you.If they realise that you can easily move on without them,they would still hang around you but if they realise that you could even die of heartbreak if they left you,they will look for the slightest opportunity to dump you and watch you from afar to see you can move on without them!why do you think that some men who had dumped their girlfriends earlier plead to be forgiven when they've realised that their ex-girlfriend moved on with a (better) guy?
If you like don't forget about him and move on.Life goes on so Be STRONG girl,you can survive this!
U are 110% correct, I know what u mean from experience.
DeleteGbaaaaaaaaammmeeeeessssstttt!
DeleteBiko kedi ebe like or love button di? Pink lady a trillion like/love to dis ur comment. U r so onpoint n I affirm to it from experience. Bia nwata Nwanyi beta move on.
DeleteNne,ur so wise..u've said it all...
DeletePink Lady Nwanyioma, oya chop kiss.
Pink lady my love.....plenty homo ooooooo!!!!
DeleteSo true! Men are like babies, they crave attention . They need to know that they are replaceable.
DeleteAo true if ahe ignores him and doesnt try chances are a he will come back as soon as he realises the grass isnt greeneŕ,5 years he got bored he wants to taste another pum ,after he may return or he may not bu don't hang on,try ur best n move on
DeleteThis is like fred...omg. he broke my heart when i was fragile, weneva i was getting over him, he will ask to be taken back. And this happened like 3-4 times.
DeletePoster 1..i like u..not all guys can come out to defend dia girls..u rili love her..marry her soon biko
ReplyDeletePoster 2..I know it's hard o..bt cryin won't help either..dust urself up nd prove to him dat he left d best girl..den wen he comes baq,(surely he will),drop him like a broken plate..
N2, I hate it when gals say I can't live without a man. Is he d air, or d water or d etc or even God? Nawa for u o. Gals should stop sounding desperate so that men will start taking dem serious. Give urself some picnic with ur friends, get fresh air n start ur life afresh, u will be surprised dd way God will turn ur life around. Goodluck.
ReplyDeleteDey go jur! She's heart broken. Allow her express herself besides the feeling sucks...
DeleteLADY IGO SAYS TO THE HEARTBROKEN:
ReplyDeleteTHE REASON WHY YOU ARE FEELING SO .. .
Over the years while counselling girls who feel so depressed and suicidal after a breakup, I've come to realize that 99% of them feel so because they've opened their legs for the guy; he even probably dis-virgined them. On the contrary, nearly 90% of girls who never offered sex to the boy didn't feel depressed or suicidal. God in his word is so clear where and when sex should be enjoyed; in marriage. On a personal note, my husband was my friend for 7 years and fiance for 4 years before we got married (I was nearly 30 years) and I remained a virgin (by the grace of God) and he same. It is only by giving heed to God's word that a young person can keep his/her way pure. I've also realized that once these heartbroken ladies gave themselves to Christ and began fasting and reading the word of God, they had amazing recoveries; they became ebullient, peaceful and hopeful. In their next relationships, they do not make these same mistakes (talking about those I was able to follow up)
En . . . (her name) was so shattered when she found her fiance with her best friend on the bed on val's day. the young man had feigned official duty to put her off . . . but since En had his flat keys, she went there to watch movies and while away time. The guy was busy sucking away at the girls vag88a when she opened the bedroom door. She simply fainted and to add salt to injury, they both left her there and she kept wondering supposing she had died? She woke up alone in that house. To think that En would have loved to continue in that relationship was beyond understanding. It wasn't long and the young man and his new girl tied the knot. En became suicidal . . . she had not only been opening legs but had aborted for him twice. As counselling progressed with fasting and the word of God (she found solace in the gospel of John especially chapters fourteen to sixteen). En finally sent a "thank you card" (on advice) to the heart breaker . . .for releasing her from his life (as a closure) and the guy was confused. En is joyfully married with kids. And as fate would have it . . . her ex is yet to have any child after 8 years of marriage . . .
FROM LADY IGO WITH REGARDS.
Gotta have it or make it stop, Lady Igo?
DeleteLooool
Lady Igo please how can one get in touch with you if the person needs counselling?
DeleteLady IGO my blog crush... me love your stories scarra
DeleteOMG! I love dis woman!
DeleteHmmm........! Thank God for En.
DeleteHmmmmmmmmmmm
DeleteCan you ever offer advice without preaching?
DeleteNollywood alert!!!
DeleteAnd no, most don't feel bad cos they had slept with them, they feel bad cos they loved d person. Pls get Ur facts right.
DeleteUr own too much! It has happened already! Advise her on the way forward...Hian
DeleteLady IGO of life!!!! I love you too much (no homo) I always look forward to your comments in Chronicles
DeleteI always look forward to your comment seriously am glad you are here to always give a Godly advice like a mother will give to her child, poster2 take heed and may God help me. Thanks igo
DeleteChoi..i love u Lady IGO...ur stories r so sweet
DeleteBuh y did u turn me on na?
Lmao @ sucking away on her vagina...oriegwu ooo
Ok bye#
Lady Igo I hail oh
DeleteThk u. Lady Igho. I have done Esther fast prayers yet this soul tie is stubborn with 1 ex. It's been over a decade. Another guy who has been tryx to date me for iyons threatened to go spritual
Delete. I rebuke it In Jesus name. Bn to Pastors who want to date me n have extorted money
Poster1: talk to her
ReplyDeletePoster 2: move on. After my own experience, I make sacrifices that I know wen we break up, I won't feel it. Abeg I am not ready to start counting my losses so I try to avoid that. Stop making unnecessary sacrifices 4 men. They should do it themselves
Poster 2,u Nid 2be hard -hearted like me...
ReplyDeleteCry if u have to buh just move on sharperly..No time abeg!!!..."Mr Right" will locate u soon.
Some heartbreaks are God's way of telling u that something u feel is the best is just "good" and not good enough for u...
I came out of a major heartbreak and met DH in less than 6 months....
U have to be strong...Channel ur energy to ur hobbies,hang out with frnds and make urself happy.
Life is too short to cry over any man biko...!!
Sending u E-bear hugs from Ronalda's cubicle cos mine has finished...lol
Poster 1- I dnt understand.I dnt have strenght to visit the link either..
Sweethearts/ fellow BV's, happy sunday to y'all...
Unu erikwala rice ubochi uka ndi nne? Daluso nu oo.
@Iphie dearie,Quick Silver,Linda Eze, Chi -Exotic,Chizoba,BlogLord(am nt vexing for u again tho),Olivia Silk,Lady IGO,Alloy Chikezie,Preacher's wife,Ronalda,The General's wife,Duchess(not Rotterdam BV pls),Eesah, ButterScotch,Jenny zee,Brown Sugar (if I no mention ur name,no vex)..etc...I love y'all..
May our week be blessed IJN...One love!!!
Love u too darling chysugar ..... Poster2 abeg just cry small nd forget d idiot nd u can live without him, lots of us have been through this before nd we de even vex for ourself say wetin make us cry for d idiot before, you will get over this
DeleteYou said we have an unfinished business?
DeleteI responded but you probably didn't see it.. whatsup?
Love you too dear.
U been de vex?
DeleteChai!
Bloggie offended Chy and knoweth not.
Ngwanu gbayalu inugo?
Chop kiss!kiss! Big hug.
Kisses darl.
DeletePs 2: Awwwwwww love, I can tell you I know exactly how u feel, as am going through same now but hey, like Stella rightfully said, cry honey, pour it all out and soon you will get over it.....Men are like dat but the right one will come along....wish you the very best love.
ReplyDeletePs 1: best of luck 2 you both
Post1 nice to hear from you, what are you guyz waiting for, you love her she loves you, biko seal up.
ReplyDeleteConcentrate on your masters and Dinah it well. The girl in question has finally cooked and 'cooked' for him. You got played and it wasn't justvyeaterday abibthis morning that it started. Sorry, but let him be. When he married two wives (girlfriends) he will know which one is far better for him. Till then concentrate and finish your schooling. Let him be.
ReplyDeletePoster2, the girl visits him regularly, the distance from Manchester to London no easy, just forget d guy nd face your dissertation
DeleteVery long journey God restore you
DeletePoster 1 tnx for loving your babe but do the needful quick.
ReplyDeletePoster2 it is well with you , your does not feel you anymore. These things happen and cannot be explained just let it gobcause fighting a lose cause is a very futile exercise, degrading n shameful n as a sister i wont want you to toe that lane so again let it go. Your guy will come n if its this same anuofia he will come on bended kneels to get you. I will advice you to make out time n cry but after that give plenty space, cut all contacts with him even stop doing things that might remind you of him n face your school work ndor kaar oh. May the new babe give him something that will make him purge then when hes in the loo he will remember what hes lost anugboko.
"Anugboko" got me in stiches. Lmao!
DeleteN2,...baby pele.
ReplyDeleteCrying is allowed.
Please cry as much as you want, then come back and read comments regarding ur narrative.
Your emotions will heal, and you will be made stronger by the experience.
It shall be well.
@2, when I say it's not safe to date only one guy people will cuss me but that's d bitter truth, my dy dear no man is worth dying for u hear, shebi other guys are toasting u, what are u waiting for, grab one of them and move on, so if ur guy drops dead now will u die with him, I hate people who are too emotional abeg.
ReplyDeleteNarr 1: Any need to have sent this in?
ReplyDeleteNarr 2: sorry. Move on!
Waiting for IHN tomorrow already.Omo c Miss Mae mea lmfao.
DeleteI don't understand poster 1's point.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Be strong! It is not easy, take it from someone's who has been there. Men are unfathomable creatures, and can drop a women who has been there for them through everything for a cheap fling. They are fickle and superficial, wuite frankly they don't reason like we do. Will he see the error in his ways? Probably, after he has married her and found out that the woman he thought he married doesn't hold a candle to you. Then will he start calling you with touching stories and lamentations...
What is your role? CRY. Weep like a baby, think about the memories, look at the pictures, reminisce about the good times. Allow yourself to grieve.
Then get up, get dressed, remind yourself of the spectacular, beautiful, amazing woman that you are and will be for the right God ordained person, of how lucky the man who is worthy of you will be when he meets the gem that you are, and live your life with no holds barred. Start to love yourself again. Breakups try to take away your self esteem and belief, but you must rise above such talk.
Be Strong, it will end in Praise!!
Stella fix your comment system abeg. Aftet typing and typing, the comment just disappears! And only 200 comments can be viewed!
ReplyDeleteP1: Some holier than thou sheep will still come to vent their fustrated lives on u.
ReplyDeleteWhat on earth is wrong wit a girl living with her boy friend??
She should remain in her father's house??
Y'all quick to condem while you are already condemned.
I'will live wit my bf if we so decides. Its a sin, i know but am already a sinner from birth.
You all shud fuck off
Ode, who dey quarrel with u? Its your life, do whatever d fuck u want with it. Mtcheew, oshisco
DeletePoster 1: your narrative wasn't necessary but its good to know that you love and respect your girl. I don't look forward to another narrative from you or your gf.
ReplyDeletePoster2: the Lord is your strenght.
Poster 2 please move on already, I bet you are a catch. What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. Cry all you want but don't kill yourself. The guy is just a jerk.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I've been in your shoes before only that I was the other girl (the side chick) that he constantly promised to leave the main chick for.
ReplyDeleteI tell you what give yourself time to cry each day and study for your exams with your friends. Pray pray and pray...I promise you youd excel. Don't fail and come and say it's cause you were going through a break up. No employer will buy that story o. So chin up princess.
Secondly it's not because he is a PhD student that you think he is a God, he is a mere man. Do I remind you of all them lot more that applied for Dangote's driving job? Or that or incoming president doesn't have a phd? Wake up girl!
5 years? Big deal! I've done 9 years. And after 7 months my present husband proposed. You can meet a guy after one year and he proposes! You are 28, big deal! I was 30. Cry onto God and trust me he would bring you the man you desire and need. Not a man who doesn't appreciate your worth.
So wipe your tears okay? You have a future career to prepare for. Get started
Awww, come outta anonymous mode already, I loveeeeee u. Straight to do point, 'this too shall pass' poster, be really azin extremely strong, common eyes 4 his side, face ur studies aggressively,make yourself proud. Thank God,no be d new babe break down news,in my own case na d new babe broke d news,picked my call and told me to go look for work since both of them are lawyers and they work, mind you,I'm a pharmacist. My dear,I cried sotey,I cried well,but one thing I didn't do was call him. All this happened last year Jan, guess what come Apr,d fool started begging me,I moved on and I'm getting soonest azin dis 2015 to a guy that adores me,and guess what this ex of mine is still begging even d side chock that turned main babe had to delete all my pics on his phones and other gadgets and tho he has left Naija, as at last night he was still and I just blocked his arse off. My point, it might feel like 'death' now but just hold on and be strong cos u deserve way more and need I say until we broke up, I never knew my stupid ex chases anything in skirt. My dear, it will end in praise. *e-hugs* in *TGW's voice*
DeleteToo many errors, who sent *autocorrect* job na? Was mixing my 'not-so-good' pidgin with my English. Mtchewww, pls ignore all grammatical errors
DeletePoster 1: biko park well! Wetin consign us with whether na your papa get stadium. For all we know u r lying. You schooled abroad blah blah blah but your English na wack! Abeg! Park well jor!
ReplyDeletePoster 2: break ups happen, u'll be fine. *hugs*
Poster 1, U lived there since the age of 10 but you are so aware of little comparisons that should be taken for granted - age, wealth. LOL! Wish you guys luck still
ReplyDeletePoster 2, even if you guys come back together, please know you still have to leave. You may get back with him bcos withdrawal has to be gradual but just know that this guy is not THE one anymore. It WILL NEVER WORK again. I have seen this happen a lot. Cry, think, sleep but dont reach out to him!
I promise you it gets better. Soon you will wake up and realise, u deserve better and i promise you will get a better person
Poster 2, you are very blessed because this is the first time I am commenting on this blog because of you.
ReplyDeleteMy dear I have been there before and understand your pain.
I am not going to tell you to wipe your tears.
What I am going to tell you is that you are on this earth for a purpose and you should not let anyone take that away from you.
Put all your time and energy into finishing hard at school( this will both keep you distracted from the pain and give you good academic results) .. There is no point in you allowing him to mess you up academically too.
You are twenty eight yeah big deal. Better than being married to him and at the age of forty finding out he ain't the one for you hunny.
Forgive him, heal, love yourself more and fulfill your purpose in life.
Most importantly get close to God, he has his arms open to embrace you.
Someone better suited will surely come your way.
Wishing you all the best dear.
Hugs and kisses
Poster 2 reminds of my ex that suddenly start sayin he likes thin and fair girls nd I kinda have hips..Idiot saw me b4 asking me out o.Just forget him and move on,still thinking of buying my ex a present for breaking up with me.Good riddance
ReplyDeleteLet's buy the gifts togeda baby...
DeleteMine deserves a boxers...hahahahha
The mofo still calls,i've stopped picking anyways...
Edo finest..
DeleteIf he ever calls,or you by chance run into him.. just say thank you.. am sure he will be surprised..he will fall for it and ask why you are thanking him..
Then slowly tell him thank you for being an asshole.. Tell him that if not for the way he acted,you will not be in so much bliss now..
Pat him on the back and let him know that his stupidity is part of the reason you are so happy today..lmao!!
Poster 1 - Thank God that your story rhymes with what your gf posted. Why don't you have a talk with your aunties & make sure they understand that you as the man is making the financial decisions so that they can stop stressing your gf. You have a gem as a gf please wife her asap.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 - Your bobo has ported to a slim fair babe as he described. Oh yes it will painful, it will be as if there's this sharp pain in your heart but you will get over it (this is one wound that time actually heals) . You have assessments & dersertions to contend with so please face that, give it your best & see it as a gift for you. There is nothing the eyes sees & sheds blood so see it as part of life & infact count your self lucky cos you deserve better than getting hitched to a superficial man. You are just 28years so don't go developing hbp over societal pressure cos much older women have gotten married to amazing men cos they believe they deserve better. God will bring the man who will make you see why He (God) delivered you from your ex so go through the process of letting go & know that you will come out stronger & better. And don't go wishing you are a prototype of what he went lusting after. You are unique, amazing, special & beautiful just the way you are.
Poster2,There is nobody that u can't live without out,get urself together, this will pass and u will bounce back. When I had my heartbroken, I tot I was going to die, lorll but for whereeee, It only made me become more stronger.
ReplyDeletePoster 2! I know aw it feels! Pls cry very well! Infact dedicate a whole day to cry and wash up look pretty d next day nd mmove on! Shit happens!
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2: Please move on with your life. It was never meant to be! period. We all have our own share of heartbreaks. I have had lots of it and am still keeping my head up high. I advice u to move on, find new hobby, make new friends. and i promise you before the year runs out that ONE person that's meant for you will come calling.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: take heart dear, its not the end of the world. Dust yourself up and move on. Its good it happened now, you are still young. I bet there are lots of guys who are dying to get your attention. IT IS WELL, DEAR.
ReplyDeleteY do ladies keep making sacrifices for guys.....why??why?? Move on already
ReplyDeletePoster 1...By Abroad, do you mean Ghana? What kind of English is this. Who says "stuffs", biko guy God bless your hustle but please you and your girl should not come back here again.
ReplyDeletePoster 2...Are you ok? Your guy has been messing with Ms. Food, used you and broke up with you and you are looking for how to get him back. You are just 28 and you are crying. If he dumped you at 35, what would you have done. The handwriting was on the wall the minute he started collecting food from ol'girl but you did not open eye to see. Darling, he is not your anything, talk less of your everything. Life will move on and you will find love in a beautiful way. Wipe your tears and love yourself ok. next time be wiser please. I am sorry I am being harsh.
P1.we have heard.
ReplyDeleteP2.dont die ooo ur future hubby will not forgive you.soon you will remember this moment and say good riddance.u have a destiny to fulfill, cry but don't die.
Lady Igo, I pray never to encounter a counselor like you. People come to you in confidence, can you not relate their whole life story online. Please go and study counseling psych and learn how to use others experiences to help people. It is not by doing what you are doing. You betray one person's confidence in you.
ReplyDeleteOde. Did she mention names? Ewu hausa
Deletedid she say the persons name?oversabi!
DeletePoster1;I think this was sent in by the babe and not the guy,how can u be playing game,from dre u jump to mail??not even text message??Na so Na...plus wiv all ur 'abroad' upbringing,I don't think u'll be immature enough to write this 'chronicle'!AniwaysAniways,Mr/Mrs poster,Na ur babe carry story come meet us,Na she ask for advice,Na she talk say una dey live together, wat we did was to advice based on wat she told us.....My own is Dat if she's as good as u claim,wife her Na??just DMT send another 'chronicle to us again,also pass the message to ur 'aunties',in case they want to give their own side of the 'story.... Tanx!
ReplyDeletePoster2;cry,cry,cry,cry,that's how to let out the pain,also forgive him and move on...its not easy but its worth it!Be sure that u're over him before u go into another relationship,make sure its not a rebound....Forgiving him gives u this feeling of 'freedom'!Let him be eating food up and down OK??just make sure u're over him...Also pray and read well for ur exam,no guy is worth it!!
@poster 2 cry as much as u cn den move on! Urs s beta. Sef 4 ma life I only experience true luv once! Eva since notin hs bin good, buh I tnk God o. Am alive n I hv faith mine wil fyn mi soon!!! Cheer up darlyn
ReplyDelete@pster 2 cheer up, if He cn lv u, den ma darlyn he s nt urs ok!!! Ur own s by d corner it's jst 4 u 2 move on so he wil walk up 2 u! Ur own s beta sef I only experience true luv jst once in ma life, n d ddnt wok out. So I hv bin in pains no relationship sim 2 b fear Douno if am d worst sinner on earth. Buh I tnk God I blv ma tym wil cum, so dear u nid 2 b happy
ReplyDeleteMiss Mae Meer lmao. So you don fuck person man. So u enjoyed the sex? Lmao Sdk dat post sweet die. Cos we sidon read am, thank God today na Sunday say work na tomorrow.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, Being 28yrs old doesn't make you too old to find genuine love. Was over 30 when I met my husband and took us another 3yrs to finally start dating....it's not been all rosy in marriage but I beg you to take your time and focus on your course.
ReplyDeleteA better guy will come. He is carried away with the food he is eating and wouldn't realise what he is missing until a better man has you. xxx
Don't mind them . That's how I told a so called pastor about my marital woes ,next sun when I wasn't in church he used it to gossip with the audience (congregation). It was my sisters that told me ,needless to say I never went back there again. Yeye church gossips . Lady igo ko ,lady igo ni.
ReplyDeleteHi,poster 2, feels like we are a kindred spirit, am also going to be 28 soon and doing my masters here in the UK. Quite close to London by the way. When I was coming from nigeria, bf gave ultimatum of him or masters and for one reason or the other I chose masters. Am not dead yet. It is painful but with time u will move on. God has something beta planned for u. Funny enuff I just submitted my last assessment on Friday, have exams in three wks and have to deal with dissertation.we wud b fine. Just make sure u focus and pass well. Kisses.
ReplyDeleteN2....Sorry dear.Ur boyfriend doesnt know what he wants.So if Sikira(with small hips) starts taking Amala n Gbegiri to him,he will fall for her??Honestly,if he cant respect what u guys shared for 5 years,then he is not worth your love.Men are selfish.If u like,spend ur last kobo on them,they wont be faithful.Be strong dear.This too shall pass!
ReplyDeleteDear poster, December 2014, my boyfriend visited and I realised he had been cheating in Naija; January, 2015 my brother died, two years into the new year. I had tons of coursework to submit, I had the option of applying for extension based on extenuating circumstances but I didn't do that. You know why, because I would have still had to do them. I wiped my tears and even in my pains,i aggressively faced my coursework. I aced all of them. What am I saying in short? This life will throw lemons at you, you need to make lemonades from them. Do not give up, please let your inspiration be the amount of money your parents are paying for your school fees. Do yourself a favour, dust yourself and move on. Please do not attempt to call him, he is not worth it. It may seem like all is lost now, it's a lie. Positive thinking: you will meet another man that will marry you and you will look back and shake your head at this situation because you will be so happy. Please move on please. You can drop your email, number or anything I can reach you with and whenever I come into London, I will get in touch with you. If you are open to get a new friend though, if you are not, no problem but try to be happy and move on. God Bless you.
ReplyDeleteMay!
#2: Baby please STOOOOP!!! Stop doing this to yourself. I'm not sure which is more disturbing, the fact that at 28 you're done with your 1st degree with a good enough GPA to proceed with and about winding up your masters' and you wonder where to start from because some dude thinks the 5 years spent with you means little or the fact that you've built your whole world around him so much so that if he sneezes, your earth quakes?
ReplyDeleteAwww! My darling, no human is worthy of that much power over your emotions, can't you see that? Don't you recognise the signs of an abusive relationship? He may not hit you physically but look at what you've allowed him do to your heart. You abuse yourself by allowing him abuse you and you stay put begging for more. You ask how to get him back? Affection comes naturally. If you have to beg for it, then you're not worth it because you don't beg for your entitlements. I doubt her food is responsible for this, the love potion angle is you trying to defend his actions.
Honey, how can you ask where to start from when you haven't even begun? This is an obvious blessing. That relationship is toxic, you've allowed your mind to be so messed up. Like Stockholm syndrome, you crave the abuse and love the abuser. Why can't you live without him when he can and is living quite well without you?
Crying is cathartic, it's ok to cry. Sweetie let him go. You may not feel so now but you deserve better. You think you love him but something this unhealthy and addictive isn't love.This is a lethal obsession that will end up killing you if you don't kill it.
I wouldn't be surprised if you've already made up with him by now but start programming your mind to end this unhealthy relationship. There's usually only one path such relationships lead, destruction! Sweetheart, you deserve better. I pray you realise that sooner than later.
#hugsnkisses.
#1 Is it when guys started disturbing your girl, you'll act? Pls make una go do Court marriage.
ReplyDeleteI rem d chronicle wella
#2 Pls cry but don't kill yourself.
Poster 2. Don't worry this will pass. My ex boyfriend who I was dreamily in love with broke up with me all of a sudden after all the promises of marriage because he wanted to marry a Canadian citizen for papers. It felt like someone used a frozen knife to stab my heart. Guess what! Now I'm planning my wedding to my family friend who has been loving me from a distance and I realize that I love him too. So the pain will pass don't worry. But your boyfriend needs to move on so you can move on. On to your destined husband.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: girl I totally get how you feel...my ex had been pressuring me for sex and I told him I wasn't ready...yet he kept asking...sha we fashid the topic for a bit and one day he came to visit and tried to initiate sex and as usual I declined...that was how he started insulting me..saying he doesn't even like big girls that I should be lucky he even looked at me...he picked up his things and left...from that moment I cried and cried this was someone who told me he loves me...I did so much for him but still...babe I wanna tell you IT'S OK TO CRY...i cried but the next day I looked at my swollen face in the mirror and I told myself he wasn't worth it...I realized God saved me from what I would have regretted anyway...I then created a quote for myself. "You are amazing and if a guy doesn't want to be with you because of the size of your jeans then he should get the F out with all of his things"...with that mindset,I started living for me...doing things that make ME happy...it's been a month now and I can tell you IM OK...was it easy?...Ohhh helll nooo...but I prayed to God and I accepted I was amazing and that was all...yes you think you want him back now...but girl when God gives you something better,you will thank him.....it's ok to be sad for a while (for a day at most)...after that get on up girl...you have a lot to focus on...you are beautiful,you are amazing....you don't need him to validate you....do things that make you happy..stay focused..and pray...it helps
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