Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives

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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

CHRONIC SNOOPER QUESTION

Good day Ma'am,

Am a one of those passive blog visitors, just read through comments and never really commenting. Keep up with the good work and changing lives Stella.

Am 24 years old, have a really good job and doing OK financially (Thank God). Of cos the next thing would be to find a good man and settle down( not desperate ooo, so don't curse.) .  

I have been dating this guy for about three months now, he is a nice and has not given me any reason to doubt him whatsoever . However I am a chronic snooper but I try not to do that with my boyfriend cos I have a feeling I might see something I wont like (knowing how guys are). My bf knows am a chronic snooper and he also knows that I respect his privacy enough not to snoop when it comes to him.

Oh well, one day from normal yarns and stuffs, he gave me the permission to go through his phone. I refused because I have a feeling I will see something that will hurt me, but he insisted that I do. So I went through his pictures, what do you know, he has a picture of all of his ex-girlfriends, ex flings, female friends you name it. And its not just one, one I may be able to deal with but  there are probably about 10 picture of each of these girls. I felt really sad and wished I had not gone through his album.

 I was open , I told him its not cool to have all those girls pictures in his phone. In his defence, he said he probably forgotten they were there and that he doesn't pay much attention to such stuffs. Now I did not ask him to delete them cos I felt that would have been too forward and too soon for me to demand such (considering how long we have been dating).

so now my question is, how long into the relationship would be appropriate for a girlfriend to ask a boyfriend to delete pictures of exes.

*Side eyes at #Teamsnoop*

Make i siddon read comment today abeg.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

CONFESSIONS OF A REPENTANT WIFE.

Hi, Stella!                                                             

I am a lady in my late 20's and i am married let's say close 2- 3years now, but prior to when I got married, I didn't love my husband but I just wanted the marriage because I had done D/C for him twice, so didnt want to worry a new man with my issues if eventually I didnt get a child later in life, we would both know its our doing but I thank God I've got my own kid now and even pregnant wit the next baby.         

So unto my problem, after I got married, was living seperately from my hubby cos of his work. So, in the process i had sex with 3 other guys,one of them was my EX. But I decided to stop the shit cause I know its a sin against God and myself. Along the line some months later my hubby was transferred to Lagos where I am based and we continued living together, gradually I realised forever was too long to be unhappy so I made up my mind to make the love for my hubby work, and all thanks to God it did work.

 Eventually, I love him now more than anything or anybody in this world but i am scared of these shit I did. Cos I know I really messed up.

Now, I cry every single day all by myself cause i am scared, don't want him to find out.

Unknowingly to me, in their village, a married woman is not permitted to cheat on her hubby because if after cheating she comes back home to cook and still has Sex with the man, eventually the man would die that is if she never stops.

 And there would be a sign on the man's face that would indicate that his wife has been indulging in infidelity. Though, my hubby is still well and alive and I no more do those shits but I don't know how to live with this baggage for the rest of my life. What can I do?.

Please help me post this, cause have been thinking if I should or if I should not because of what people would think of me. Thanks Stells.

The average Nigerian man would NEVER forgive a cheating wife yet the same tradition which sets trap for a cheating wife allows them marry multiple wives and have several girlfriends abi?I just dont get it.I dont know what to advise you cos once you confess your marriage might just be over and your kids paternity might become questionable...let GOD guide you abeg.