*side eyes*
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
MOTHERS PLEASE SHINE YOUR EYES
Hello Stella of life, keep on touching lives, your generations are blessed. Stella please post this in the chronicles so many people will read and learn. Please its long but i have cut it to make it this length.
When i was young (4-5yrs old), i remember i was molested several times by an adult male. This happened as a result of my mum's negligence all in the name of hustling. She will leave me and my younger ones in care of some neighbours and go to the market or farm back then in my village. We will wander about the whole village from house to house like goats. Now, this is affecting me as i have never had an orgasm before while making love, i only fake it to please my partner. I have never told anyone i was molested, even DH.
As a result, i promised to be a good mum to my children by protecting them from molesters. I Am married with a two year old daughter, i left a good paying job after i had her and took up a teaching job so i can take care of her.
We live in a block of flats, we have neighbours and among them is one with three young boys between 6 and 12. I normally allow my daughter to play with them for some minutes once in a while since they also have an elder sister who is about 16 (stupid me).
On this faithful day, she was with them as usual and i later went to pick her. As i bathed her that night she cried out when i washed her privates, scared, i asked if anyone touched her bumbum and she answered yes mentioning the youngest of the boys as the culprit. I nearly passed out. I waited till she was fast asleep and then took a torch and examined the 'place', the edges were slightly coloured but i could not ascertain if there was penetration as she turned when i tried to.
I cried all through the night, i remembered my own experience, i imagined the boys 'chooking' her vjayjay with their little pr**ks one after the other and wept blaming myself, thank God DH was not around. In the morning, i took her to an old nurse for checking , she said there was an attempt to penetrate her but unsuccessful as her hymen was still intact. The pains would have been more serious and the area would be swollen and moreso, there was no blood stain on the clothes she wore. I breathed a sigh of relief and got some drugs for her.
I reported the matter to the boys' parents and they apologised and promised to interrogate them, they later came up with a story that my girl was playing roughly with the boys and that they lifted her up grabbing her trousers alone which might have caused her privates to have bruises. I doubt that story. They apologised and i accepted. Thank God they were not successful cos it would have been a serious case and i hate scandals. My hubby would have been involved and only God knows what he would have done. I have learnt my lessons. I decided to share this so mothers will know that even their neighbour's young boys are potential molesters. Thank you Stella.
I cried all through the night, i remembered my own experience, i imagined the boys 'chooking' her vjayjay with their little pr**ks one after the other and wept blaming myself, thank God DH was not around. In the morning, i took her to an old nurse for checking , she said there was an attempt to penetrate her but unsuccessful as her hymen was still intact. The pains would have been more serious and the area would be swollen and moreso, there was no blood stain on the clothes she wore. I breathed a sigh of relief and got some drugs for her.
I reported the matter to the boys' parents and they apologised and promised to interrogate them, they later came up with a story that my girl was playing roughly with the boys and that they lifted her up grabbing her trousers alone which might have caused her privates to have bruises. I doubt that story. They apologised and i accepted. Thank God they were not successful cos it would have been a serious case and i hate scandals. My hubby would have been involved and only God knows what he would have done. I have learnt my lessons. I decided to share this so mothers will know that even their neighbour's young boys are potential molesters. Thank you Stella.
Good that you noted that on time,please stop sending your daughter to play with boys else it might happen again.So much ish going on,where does one hide their child?I dont understand why sex has become food even for kids.
I am sorry to say this but a lot of kids watch things they shouldnt,see things they shouldnt and set out to practice it.....even those with male children,please watch them!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
SINGLES AND MINGLES AFFAIR - WAIT OR NOT?
Hi Stella bae
I participated In the last Singles,Mingles and I added a popular male bv and we started off,and he told me truthfully that he has a white girl friend back in the country he resides, but cant marry a white lady,and that's why he participated in the Singles Mingle,he says I'm the most beautiful bv he has ever seen and he likes me a lot,but I should give him time to break up with his girl friend and as soon as he comes back to Nigeria this summer,we will officially kick off a relationship.
I don't know what to make of this,cos truthfully I like him already,but I don't know if it is wise for me to sit around waiting for him to break up with his girl friend,we chat constantly, he calls often but we are just friends for now,at least until he gets back.
Please I need advise from fellow bvs,should I wait for him and see how it goes or should I just move on?thanks for a great job Stella.
The bandwagon voice here will tell you to move on and not wait for him but you didnt really tell what kind of relationship he wants to kick off...why doesnt he want to marry a white girl?what are his reasons?does he have legitimate stay in the country he resides?Does he work?
What are you looking at?Marriage or a good time?
Do you believe the things he has told you?
Has he ever been married?
If you ask me truthfully,i would say wait for him,meet physically and assess him.
Just keep sex out of the relationship and tie your two legs together when you see him.Goodluck!
*Side eyes at the Male BV who will definitely be reading this*
Mothers pls and pls look out for ur gurls carefully even ur boys,mornitor dem wen playing,listen to their conversations
ReplyDelete********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*********
Poster 1 thanks for the Advice.
DeleteThankGod for your Daughter's case because Male/ female kids tender to pratice what they see on TV etc. God will help us all in guilding our kids in the right path Amen.
poster 2 Stella as said it all. Wait for him in my own opinion most of our boys marry /date those white ladies because of papers they endure the excesses of those white ladies because of paper after which they kick them out only but few of our brothers stick to them.
Just be Wise!!!!
@poster 1 thank God nothing happened to your daughter, children of nowadays ehn...hmmmm...
Delete@poster 2 Stella is right, atleast he was truthful to you, unlike some guys dat will hide it from you
Even one guy I met sometime ago told me he's not on any social network(facebook,twitter,instagram),according to him its bcos of hackers, I just laugh because no b my head him go use...
Well you can just kip the friendship and no sex till ur very very very sure of him!
Thank God nothing happened Poster 1, at least you know now to be more careful....
DeletePoster two, if there're other people asking you out and you genuinely like one, start something and see where it'll lead and when he comes, see him and you guys can talk. Let him not goan say he has broken up with her and then be lying to you o. There must be prove... You can if you want em.
Just be open minded, don't ignore others while waiting for him sha.
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.
@Mosi_Tash_Jazzy
I was sexually molested by a group of boys while I was 6 yrs old. My case is made more interesting because I am male just like they all were. My parents were seperated at that time. And my left me to play with my male neighbors, often times for hours. This is where the molestation went down, I still remember it vividly till this day. Its something I live and it somethin that has affected my life and still does. Its not really abt parents alwyss being thier, because we humans are not omnipresent; molesters and paedophiles will always exist regardless of how hard we try to curb the menace. Its parents forming relationships with their children where their kids are comfortable enough to tell them everything without fear of being scolded. I didn't want to tell my mum because I felt I would be flogged and that is often the case with most children over here. So pls parents and would be parents let us give our kids the boldness to divulge things to us so that we can rectify them before they forever define who they are.
DeleteYou've said it all. Parents should form a very close relationship with their kids devoid of fears. My sis does not have a close relationship with her daughter but thank God she's very close to my mum so in anything she calls grandma direct or tell her aunties(us). I pray you get over it BV. The Lord is your strength
DeleteThank God for ur daughter.
DeleteMothers let us be always attentive to our kids n raise our boys to protect a gal not molest them and pls stop confessing that all men r useless becos u wud also raise useless men.
Ohhh I was reading with an eye closed. Was just too scared to read through but grateful she's still intact. Hmmmm my sister no bi small thing ohh.. I have 3 boys and a little angel I suspect everybody I mean every ohh. Brother ohh sisters cousins even father my boys too. I no wan hear story abeg. Not easy having a girl child!!
DeleteThis life na wa...
DeleteToday, I am 31, until recently reading on blogs (thank God for innovation ), I use to think I was the only one molested at such age.
Mine is an interesting one, my mother lost 2 of her kids remaining me and because my dad's family wanted to take me from her, she decided to hide me with my dad's family friend, I was just 5 and there I was molested by an equally young boy of 7/8 years.That experience never left me and it grew with me till adolescent making me hate boys.That was not the only experience because after that it was just the beginning of molestation for me but others were not successful though they were from adults ( today looking back I know God really loves me).
There was one in particular I will want to share, he is late now and was said died of AIDS (every time I think of that night, I know God loves me but I don't know how much). The struggling of single mother no be for here o...he was living with us because we don't have a father figure (my dad was out of the country ) and my mom just had my sister then and robbers had come visiting and the fear of living alone with 2 young girls mad my mom ask the guy to come sleep over at our place and leave early morning to work and then we were all neighborhoods, church members like a family, so, no such evil thoughts against one another.she will even leave us with the guy and went to night vigil sometimes...
So, it happened that day, playful me had left our blanket outdoor nd my mom told me to shake the blanket first unknown to me there was a little lizard.AAs my mom was about to spread the blanket to prepare for the night before she left for the night vigil, the Lizard came out and my mom with the guy checked all nook N crannies of our house, found it and killed it.
My mom left and the guy said, I was going to help him do something, that Was how he brought out his " very long and dark thing",to massage, to say I was terrified is because I lack words to describe myself that night, I wept like a baby on sighting it, I was just 8 years, he asked me to go and sleep when how terrified I was,hhmmmm ( when I remember that night I still feel God loves me beyond my understanding because I hear stories of rape and I just shiver, later when the guy died, he was said he died of AIDS ).
Today, through my different cases of molestation , I still came intact by God's grace , I have forgiven my dad's friend's son, it took me years (I grew up not talking to only him in his family, I just couldn't bring myself to it and I wondered what his siblings thought of me).
I pray when I become a mother by God's grace , He will give me that discerning spirit because in this life,life just happens you can't be even extra careful but with God on our sides, He will help us to be the best for our kids and guide our children from the vultures of this world and heal all those in these shoes.,aAmen.
Poster 1,
ReplyDeleteNa wah ohhh...
Thanks for sharing...
I don't joke with my children...I guide them jealously...
Poster 2,
Am sure the nigga is Jay Moore or Efe Kelvin....
Hahahahahahahahahaha....
Don't put all your eggs in one basket ohhh...make sure you have a plan B...
Linda ije ya. Bwahahahahahahaha..
DeletePoster 2 wait, meet him and assess him ok. Good luck.
Poster 1 thank God nothing happened o. Mother's pls let us guide our daughters well biko.
Lindodo! I too dey gbadun ur comment at times. See as u name d guys, e come b like say name dem b d culprits sef.
DeleteWait ooo
DeleteIs Efe not female?
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DeleteHahahahahah Linda you of all people will also accuse me chai. Lol please I don't participate in single and mingle post, i also don't keep white as permanent girlfriend Unless casual i prefer my black sisters don't need cry cry love for anything serious. @ Linda i thought u will protect my interest but you have just accused me wrongly. I demand apology or i will sue you for character assassination.
DeleteN1, u re a good parent bc so many parents will beat dia daughter when she felt pain while having dia bath accusing her of not wanting to bath instead of finding out d cause of d pain. I love d way u handled it but don't be too tight with ur daughter, teach her d good n d bad as she grows up n advice her, make her ur friend so dt whenever someone tries rubbish wt her, she run to u for safety. Good job, I wish u well. N2, u re d one dt is wearing a shoe, u no what u want in life, n if d guy possesses dt which u want den follow ur heart. So many ladies av fallen for guys staying abroad bc de thought abroad guys re all rich n so, n after marriage, dey find out dt its all not worth it. So look well b4 u reap. Goodluck
ReplyDeleteShe is a good mother.
DeleteNarr 2:
ReplyDeleteJaymoore, make up your mind na.
Stop stressing the girl, biko.
Bwahahahahahahaha.
DeleteAbeg leave jay o
Ehen...
DeleteMore like Jaymoore
@2, let me ask u a question, do u ve a boy friend already, cos I really don't t understand y u want to put ur life on hold bcos of a guy u ve never met, u sound like u are desperate for marriage, anywaz na u sabi.
ReplyDelete@angel, I can't understand it, waiting for a guy u have never met, that is like waiting for a ghost, my sis pls continue ur life, if he eventually comes back, then you can start something. Wish u luck.
DeleteN1. Thank God the boys were not successful. If you see d fear coursing through me as I was reading your narrative.
ReplyDeleteI have girls. I don't allow them visit any friend with boys without me being physically present.
N2, you shouldn't have brought this here knowing the guy is also a blog visitor. It already speaks of desperation on your part.
Nice comment so far.
DeleteYou are right @gbogbo bigs girls.. This is the reason why someone like me can never take part in the S & M whatever. You had a private discussion with the guy, why make it public ?? Wonder why people make private issues public. The day both of you would have s*x, you would also make it public. Smh. This is the reason why some of you can't keep relationship. Everything should be put on the Internet
DeleteBoys get molested even sometimes more than girls but the world pays more attention to the girls,most men lost their virginity to older women who molested them so pay attention to both make and female children,never let your son go play with an older female,females are far dangerous but the world only attacks men.
DeleteIs it Efe Kevin ? What's his name? Antenna moving around for amebo gist
ReplyDelete@Poster 1, thank goodness you noticed on time, women have a lot of work to do when raising their kids, may God make it easy for all of us.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2, if you're still younger, you can wait for him, the choice is yours.
*Larry was here*
Narrator 1: too much films that our children are watching. Painful your daughter has to pass through that. Stop allowing her to play with your neighbour kids and also dont trust your own brothers too. Bad things plenty for this world.
ReplyDeleteNarrator 2: dont put your eggs in one basket. plan b is allowed oo
Poster, very good of you to share...
ReplyDeletePls desist from allowing your kids play with boys. No, let me rephrase, limit your daughter as much as you can cos you can't totally stop her from playing with boys...I mean chool is there too. So, educate her that nobody is allowed to touch her privates. Tell her to bite very hard whoever tries it and report to you immediately.
Molesters are usually close family members , cousins or neighbours. People you trust
One has to be careful!
Like stella said too, parental control on what your kids watch on teevee. Sadly these days parents are too busy to care.
Second narrative: I no follow oh! Make dude no chop u clean mouth oh! He wants to breakup with his white girlfriend and come back to start a relationship with you???
*where is this my toothpick sef?*
May God help us mothers!
The guy is using sense.... Hmmmm.. who is forcing him to stay with the white girl sef lol
Delete#1-Thank God you discovered on time...please be careful next time. I was molested as a kid by a well known Bishop when I was 7years old. I'm in my late 20s now and trust me, it's been nightmare for me sexually, I hate men cos of that, but pretend just to please the society
ReplyDelete#2- Shine your eyes, it may work for you, cos it worked for me. I dated my present bf for 5years from nigeria while he was In the Uk. I joined him in the Uk 1year ago, making it 6years.. and trust me, the love is doing us like sweet wine..getting married soon (though I still hate sex cos of my experience, but pretend while we are at it). Did I add that we didn't see for that 5years but dated on phone and social media? Yeah! *folllow your heart though, just be wise in all*
#drops mic#
Why are you protecting the bishop?
DeletePoster 1 thank God you took note on time. During my NYSC a 4yrs old girl was continually molested by one man her mum sells stuff to. The woman would not even listen to the girl if she does not want to go and give uncle things. She'll tag her lazy until I spoke to the little girl. Parents be watchful. Poster 2 Wait for him. No harm in waiting just be careful
ReplyDeleteP2
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahahaa
Sorry but u cracked me up..
Hope u r not keeping ur virginity for him?
Fuck o if u see who to fuck!
When he comes,u guys can hit it off,
If it works,fine. If it doesn't, no shaking.
Hopefully d whitey ain't his wife else u will be d side-nigerian wife.
Shine ya eye...
Shine ya pussy eye...heheheheheheehhheehe.
P2...d parents of those boys should warn them sternly...
Na so rape dey start.
From kids into adulthood if d behavior is not flogged out.
Lol you be clown
DeleteHaha! I dey gbadun ur comments errytime
DeleteLet me sit and read comment
ReplyDeleteJesu!!!!! Oghene!!! 4real
DeleteEfe ur name dey ring bell for up ooo. Dis one no be sit down look matter ooo. Lol
DeleteIn a lonely place now...tears running through my face...y does it look or seem im unlucky relationship wise
ReplyDeleteBabes just hold on, wipe your tears and trust God coz I'm sure he has prepared someone special for you, there is nothing like bad luck in relationships it's just that you've not Been linked to the right person and when that person comes you will be glad. God bless you dear
DeleteCry all you can, when you feel better, dust yourself , keep your head high and go and achieve your goals in life. Someone better will come along and meet you busy busy with your life and change your story.
DeleteThere is nothing wrong with you, they are too blind or they know you deserve someone better than them.
Be cheerful dear.e-hugs
I really appreciate the comments its not going to be easy especially when im ideal I just wish sept would just come ...big hug
Delete@poster one;thank God we aint hearing A bad story now...but those kids eehhh;i guess its too much of Nigerian movies they ve been watching that keeps hyping their sexual urge even when they are still kids..i just hope their parents try to correct them at this early stage sha!!
ReplyDelete@poster 2;follow your heart!!
But here is my advice to you;if you have someone here in Naija who you love as much as you love this your "Anticipated" lover,then follow him,but if you are still single and have no one on your matter;then use the time and wait for this guy...simple as that!! bydway you are showing symptoms of a lady who is in a rush to be in A relationship.Else why would you send this piece in when you know you met this guy from singles and mingles and you know he might come across this your write-up here,which would give him the impression that you have no other hope but him...and you know what that means baa?? He would just play with you if he aint a Gentleman..
#all the best to you as you decide...
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She wouldn't have participated in S&m if she had a man she's in love with. Well, I guess. If a relationship she has is so promising why look for another man? I think she's single, hence she's apprehensive.
DeleteMums let us try to look out for our kids more often both may and female. I am like a hawk when other kids come visiting or when we go our be it at a party or in the house. Nothing like sleep over in my dictionary.
ReplyDeleteP1: Happy they didnt succeed.
ReplyDeletekids of these days are doing things more than their age and thats because parents do not caution their kids anymore. When we were kids, we dare not use the F word or other related words in front of our parents, they also monitor what we see on TV buh these days, parents dont care. pretty sad.
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Mothers should watch their kids very well,when I was a kid I moved around a lot and if I begin to narrate my stories from the time I was 4 till I was 20 it would be pathetic and very sympathetic. Please be very vigilant and your kids
ReplyDeleteOf your
DeleteAm always with my daughter BT if any boda takes her out for more than 5mins I go looking for them ooo ... I no d take chances.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2: you want to do oshofree thingsss..that format is an old one used by smart guys back then. Dont let tem explore you wih old format oooo. He cant leave his white gf who has papers for you hustling here in nija...
ReplyDeleteDude want to sample yellow clean p****y #lickstongue
Gracious goodness, truly where does one hide their children.. bcoz if u save them from neighbours at home, how about school, church?
ReplyDeleteWhy can't an iron pant be manufactured, so that a lot of people will be safe???
ReplyDeleteN2, a lot of us will say 'follow your heart'.
I can only add....'make sure your p***y is not in ur heart'.
G'luck!
Parent pls Tek k of ur children alone. 2. Dnt put all ur eggs in one basket.
ReplyDeleteIf I catch any Lil manchi near my lil gurls. ..na amputation straight.
ReplyDeleteHaa.nawa o.what is it with the devil sef?even small boys be looking for vjay to insert somthing too.
ReplyDeleteLord have mercy.
I think i know the blog visitor......madam while reading i already taught''you should wait''.wait pls.....summer is around d corner and you'll know whats up.
Goodluck
Taught (teach) vs thought (think)
Delete@02:43 what's your point?
DeletePs.1 thank God you noticed on time,young children of this millenium are not as innocent as we might all think,i no of a family that watches porn like a normal home movie,father,mother n their kids(all girls).
ReplyDeletePs.2, Wait for him to come then access him before you rule your judgement. And just like stella said berra tie those your two legs together,dont use bcos his based abroad fool yourself.
Alot of mothers have failed in their duties. No wonder we have a generation of alot of stupid children everywhere. The importance of a mothers care can not be overemphasized. If you do not have the time and patience to raise children, please don't have them. When we've chased al the money in the world and our kids are useless, what's the use? You still end up sad, heartbroken and unfulfilled. Kudos to the mums out there who know and practice true motherhood.
ReplyDeleteAs you can see this lady quit her job and still...a mother working is not the issue. It is quality of upbringing not quality. Half of the girls who were molested then we're molested by men who had stay at home mothers(cause back then less women worked). People need to work and,make money these days. Parents both mothers and fathers need to be examples. Feed your kids minds with positive things
DeleteLool you funny.. many cases of molested children are hardly at home mothers..
DeleteP1, please times are very bad now, if you can sacrifice a well paying job for her, you shouldnt leave her to the wolves to devour, you can do far more better. Even female kids are not left out, infact they are worse, you read a case of a baby girl wriggling her waist like an adult at a birthday party. God protection and guardiance will be on her and I pray healing for you too for that horrible past of your childhood that wont just let go, the great Jehovah Rapheka that heals all pains, wounds and sickness will heal you completely and make you whole again in Jesus name, amen. P2, of course wait for him in the interim, meaning don't depend on him totally. When he comes you would know wether to move on or continue with him.
ReplyDeleteMothers plz be very kiaful about ur children especially d girl child, poster2 I don't trust any guy in diaspora but it's ur choice.
ReplyDeleteHave u heard of Anal sex b4? They do that to d boys 2
DeleteSo Nigerian men shd be trusted here?
DeletePoster2: what offence did the white chick commit that he wants 2 leave her 4 u? He can't marry a white chick but can date her 4 God knows how long. People re telling u 2 wait and access him just becos he's overseas? If d chronicles was between a guy here in naija with his babe and u what will d responses here be? I bet ull see comments like "leave another woman's man alone"., "stop being a side chick" etc. My advice poster Uve no biz waiting and probably praying for a man 2 dump a woman just 2 b with u irrespective of her colour. Ask him why he didn't break-up b4 participating in d S and M post.
DeleteMen make una dey fear God o.
Lol....sdk and the advise she gave to the female Bv...I don't think she nailed the advise well but it's good...two of una na BVs...your intuition will tell you if you should continue or stop...you are seeing the signs that we can't. see.
ReplyDeleteAll the best!
I will be very careful with my babies when I become a mother.
Thanks for sharing madam.
I just wonder what is really happening with young ones these days....God help us.
ReplyDeleteMothers are really trying I must say.
Hmmmmn pédophiles and molesters are everywhere o, I dnt knw why the rate of sexual urges has increased, maybe it's coz the world is gradually becoming Sodom and Gomorrah where no one frowns on unnatural sexual perversion or maybe Christ's coming is really closer than expected. Lord have mercy and please mothers protect your girl child very well and even the boy child too from evil women that molest young boys
ReplyDeletePoster1/thank God your daughter was saved.
ReplyDeletePoster2/wait till he comes then u access him wella(SNOOP)
Poster 1 thank God for your daughter,that nuffn happened to her,don't beat up yourself,just be extra careful from henceforth
ReplyDeleteI never seem to get lucky in the single and mingles.. nawa oooo
ReplyDeleteLmao! *evil laugh*
DeleteThank God you have seen that you can't be careful enough. Still be careful though. You called your mother negligent but upon all the pains you took to ensure same doesn't happen, it almost did. So you see, start from an early age to teach your daughter how to protect herself.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry for what happened, she is way to young to suffer all this. Just don't relent.
Can one be an island?
Even when you keep kids away from male adults, d male kids will try same thing.
Keep her in care of male family members, u'd hear of fathers molesting kids.
Keep her in the care of female nannies, u'll hear of nannies who tell female kids to perform cunninligus or touch them.Lesbian nannies.
Female nannies also molest male kids.
Recently, a family friend recounted to me in tears how her son of 3 went to play with his usual neighbourhood playmates. One day, the woman was bathing the boy, he said "mommy, come and suck my peepee", taken aback. Trust Nigerian mums, she used a whip to make sure she got info from the baby. Lmao. The boy said it's an older boy of 11 in their neighbour's house dat will put his pee pee in his mouth and he will also do the same service to the baby. And the baby liked the tickling feel of it so, he told his mummy to do it for him. Imagine...see flogging frm both parents(11 yrs old told his mother it's another uncle that taughy him this thing), stuff like that.
Long and short is, we should be careful. Alert and prayerful. Devil is on the prowl and seems to speak to idle people and suggest unbecoming desire to them. And we encourage this by the overcharged sexual atmosphere, mtv videos, our artistes sing only about touching, shaking, sex., plus access to porn and internet.
**BonaParte NN
Oh, dear lord.. this story broke my heart. What kind of evil is going on in today's world??
DeleteI can't deal please, I just can't!
Poster 1 be wary of that 16years old daughter of that your neighbour!!
DeleteMolesters can be opposite sex and equally same sex.
I learnt my lesson along time agao, will never leave my kids with anyone as I was molested by a elder cousin, he disflowerd me at a very young age and I didn't even know that was it cos it didn't seem like it and was still thinking I was a virgin. Parents need to be extra careful who they leave their kids around with, cos as d idiots molest oposite Sex, they also do to same Sex.
ReplyDelete@poster1 : thank God that they didn't successed ........i 4 make trouble if na me.
ReplyDeleteChildren of nowadays do the unthinkable
@poster2 : stella, which one be bandwagon again
So no freedom of speech again!
Please poster,do what pleases you or should I say follow your heart.
So much devils in this era #sigh
ReplyDeleteIssokai... Side eyes (in Stella's voice)
ReplyDelete@Poster 1, thanks for the advice... To be forewarned is to be forearmed.
Poster 2, is it wise to bring this tale to the blog?
ReplyDeleteKnowing that He will read it and know you're the one that sent it in. Is this narrative for us or an ultimatum you're giving him.
If a) thread carefully, im sure you're not the only one he added. But what I can't tell is if you're the only one he told this tale or if he's serious. Give it some time. Most of those things are trial and error till the guy focuses on one person and they try to work things out
B) if it's an ultimatum, don't you think you're choking him? How do you plan to find out if he actually left the white girl or not? Remember she also is human and a woman like you. She may love him and be the one funding his lifestyle. Even if it's a casual relationship, he should be given time to clear the path. He choose to add you here, so he must know what he wants with his life(if he's genuine). Give it time please.
Sending this message looks like you're badgering him. T-I-M-E or L-E-A-V-E
I'm not sure you can do anymore than these two
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Bonaparte NN, on point as usual!!!
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DeleteShe knows the guy will c dis post so why send it? "Side eyes".... lol
ReplyDelete#1 God na only I know. Make u help us in this civilisation/modernisation wey we dey adopt o. Movies/Music all join!
ReplyDelete#2 Shine ya eyes dear
Hmmmmmm Child molestation is too too common nowadays... what is going on in this world?. God please help us all and watch over my children when I'm finally a mother myself. Jesus is indeed Lord! Mother's please be protective over your kids! it is your job to question them everyday and know everything about the kids they play with and their families.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I can almost guarantee you that your friend is with that girl for papers or something along those lines because if he can't/doesn't want to marry her, why is he there?why is he wasting his and her time? why does he want to eat his cake and have it too? I think you should entertain other options. Ask yourself this, what makes you think he won't do this to you too when you're in a relationship with him? entertaining another woman when he's in a relationship... you're a woman too like her so have compassion and cut off communication with him, If he wants you, I'm sure he knows where to find you. Later you will send a chronicle of him cheating after you started your relationship and stella will say 'Did you not see the signs?' well isn't this a sign? Your relationship is already starting off on a bad note so do your research before you regret.
Good Luck xx
#2...wait for him to come n hit d poosay. Hehehe
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pls mothers not just your daughters but your sons need to be watched too, all this homo tins going on do you think the boys are safe? I have a 14yr old son thats really good looking, he looks so fine every where he goes pple just love him, he is shy and doesnt talk much unlike his younger brother i took my time to educate him on sex which i never did with his elder brothers bcause i wanted him to be aware. there was a time he had infection bcause my house is never free from adult visitors who shared their room/toilet, ha i nearly died i treated him but you need to see the level of inquisition even Hitler army go fear until i was satisfied nothing happened but asap i made every adult leave my kids room even though i got the wicked woman title i gree until dem call me to my face then we go dig am. so mothers be vigilant period.
ReplyDelete1: not just the girls but the children. boys can be spoilt by women. #s*x toy#.
ReplyDelete2. meet the guy first. i think he thinks homeward. stellaz advice is a go for me.
Hmmm! One can't be too careful these days! Well, lady I'll say you should follow Stella advise and wait to see the gentleman but I'm wondering if the white girl is his girlfriend or wife and is it break up he's waiting for or divorce? Please don't mean to burst your bubbles but its kinda common with our men.
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Ma Cousin Lost his virginity*side eyes*to an lady we referred to as Aunty back then so can you Ladies stop the "watch your daughter" sermon biko bcos even d male folks ain't safe.
ReplyDeleteGod protect ma future kids for me biko because I can't shout
Narr 1....wise woman.I follow you doubt that story cooked up by your neighbours.
ReplyDeleteNarr2...Please don't be a learner na,continue with your life while you await his return, but you know he'll read this and will know it came from you right?
This is the world we live in.
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What Sex Has Become in Today's World
Hmmn. Who needs time to break up with their partner?
ReplyDeleteAnd how can you tell when they are actually broken up? Don't believe everything this person tells u o.
The fact that he admitted that he has a girlfriend doesn't mean anything. Guys are master deceivers. Just like the devil, they'd tell u truths intermingled with lies.
Trust ur instincts girl coz they are already being stirred up.
Poster 1 u are indeed a good mother but don't be too over protective,just let your daughter know what's good and bad.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 reasons why u need an extra tyre is when u have a flat tyre u get it out and fix the extra tyre,my dear fix it with the extra.
Is not only guys dat molest female kids oooo some anty gwegwegwegwegwe will call u and ask u to be sucking dia boobs y d anty gwes will b mastubating... I ain't kidding I know wat am talking about. Mothers should try dia best and leave d rest to daddy G.O!
ReplyDeletePoster 1,thank God U found out.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,hmmmmmmmm
It was my father's nephew that fingered me too much that I always ran away from him, until he left. I will be a house wife when I have children, if you like curse me as you like cursing housewives in blogs, it is your business!
ReplyDeleteJeez. Na wa o. Why would anyone cuss u for wanting to be a housewife? That's a job in itself if it's to take care of your kids o. Wouldn't blame u.
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DeleteHad the woman whose 3kids were kidnapped knew this would happen, I bet she would have resigned her job.
Btw. Any update on those kids?
Post 1 please plead the blood of Jesus Christ. And rebuke any familiar spirit of perversion. Teach her her rights. Discernment is key of life4 any decision. Love ❤ God bless
ReplyDeleteThanks poster 1.My little angel is fast becoming a big and more beautiful everyday.I keep an eye on her by God's grace nothing dey apn.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 I hope say no be longer troat dey do you sha.If dat guy were to be in Nigeria would have waited?
I too was moles ted by numerous cousins and Uncles that came visiting our house in past. My past made me very wary about allowing visitors into my house.
ReplyDeleteI started early to teach my three sons sex education. I bought a lovely book "Those are my private parts". Then I am very open with my boys. They tell me everything. Last 2 weeks my 5 year old came and told me that ***** my neighbor's 7 year old daughter kissed him, I quickly subdued my initial reaction to yell and gently asked him where he was kissed and he said on his lips. I then told him that next time he should say No and tell her off.
We mothers should make our children trust us. Shouting or condemning them would make them half truths. Also I recommend the book " These are my private parts". It helps teach them about avoiding and understanding molestion.
@anonymous u took the words right outta my mouth...the molester can be anybody so it's a matter of having a relationship with your kids where they can tell you anything...we have heard of fathers who molest their kids so how will u know it's happening under your roof if your daughter doesn't have the boldness to say it....some of us were lucky cos then growing up we played with other kids a lot but we never had any of such experience and the issue of molestation was not even common topic like it is now......I have 2 daughters and I trust God for wisdom to protect them as humanly possible.....@ anonymous who is determined to be a housewife..lol...no be fight oh, if u can survive without a job your cup of tea...after all some women do business from home....the issue whether you work or not, is to be vigilant and attentive, let your kids talk and express themselves freely without you doing any drama and shouting for Africa...ask them leading questions so they can give u gist and talk...
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm After reading through, all I can say is idontknowagain. Sometimes I'm happy we are here, oh its relatively safe here, then u hear stories of teachers in school molesting kids.. school playmates doing one tin one tin. I have 4kids 3 boys and an angelic baby girl she's 4, one day my 7yr old said to me momma you know this "Nasty girl always touch her peepee in class. Lord, I was traumatised. He said, she sits next to me and I want my sitting changed!! Lovers, its not enough to teach, you must get involve as someone rightly said in their conversation and their play life.. My 9yrs loves surfing online alot, u know what he does?? Straight to Google images.. ohhh how my heart pants. Although it's always Ben10, foot De rue, dragon ball I mean cartoon character images but what if he starts looking into sex pictures on Google images.. whenever he leaves t laptop, phone na fast fast I deh go check to see what he actually searched. I noticed too that cartoons also have adult content. I stopped tv watching except for Saturdays. Na God ohh this one pass be careful.. Stella, what's ur formula for ur boys ohhhh?? How do groom them on this subject what are their experiences(i no mean otherwise oohh) what's ur approach?
ReplyDeleteI am also a child molester, I did it as a child.I stay with my grandma as a child and my grandMA was a babysitter.I remembered she had bathed this baby boy and was naked, I shouldn't be more than 3/4 years , not knowing WHT I was doing, I went to sleep atop this baby, he should be a year or few months younger.
ReplyDeleteThis scene never left my memory .God forgives and cleanse me from evil, heal that poor boy I innocently molested and help me too.
I might not understand what I did then but I pray for forgiveness, healing, cleansing and deliverance in Jesus name.