NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
WHEN LE BOO IS SNATCHED BY YOUR BESTIE.....
Hello Stella,
Happy Easter to you and your family. My name is Sandra and I'm in my late 20's.
Please i have a serious problem o, I've been dating this guy for over 3years now, and we've done introduction and nothing after that. Me and my female friends always say we can never date any of our ex's, so i try something . Me and my man were having issues, so i decided it was best to give him some space to have fun.
I told my friends about our issues and told them to plead on my behalf, not because I did anything bad, but because I wanted peace. Cut story shot, I told one of my friends to go see him, the one he's closest to and after a while i noticed she was pulling back and avoiding me. So i went to her house one day.
Unannounced, wanted to go through her phone but it was locked, but since I know the password i unlocked and immediately went to chats and messages, all I could see was my fiance name, how much he loves her, how she has always loved him, and in just 4months he has seen her family and about to pay her bride price.
He no longer takes my calls and he told his gateman never to allow me in, but because I've been nice to him, he told me everything that's been happening and allowed me one day he was away, i left work to go check on him, and I saw all her belongings and my was put in a bag and hid somewhere, her pictures were all over.
Please help me, I'm so broken, yanga dey sleep trouble go wake am, double wahala for dead body. I'm trying so hard to be happy but i feel very betrayed... HELP!
It couldnt have just started when she went to talk on your behalf,they were probably already at it before the storm came...
You know what?let them GO!
Karma is a bitch and never forgets!
Occupy yourself and try to forget the pain and betrayal.
Stella has said it all,side chick fear God ohhhhhhhhhh
ReplyDelete********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*********
Dear Sdk have said it all..just believe that all things work together for good let them be.
DeleteTruth is, it'll catch up....
DeleteAllow them....
Let them enjoy themselves and have fun...
What if they truly love each other??
Why didn't he just maturedly call it off with you??
Well, what'll be will be dear,
Get it off your mind ( its not easy at all) but you have to, forgive them, so you'll have peace.
Try and realize that there're other people in this world, its not easy getting over someone of like three years but you can and you will.
Be strong.
Don't put all the blame on your friend alone, to tell you the raw truth? The guy also wanted to leave that's why he left.
Though its wrong and all but he did.
Its possible he didn't love you as much as you love him (it has happened to many of us) but you'll meet someone that will sweep you off your feet. He'll love you like crazy...
Be strong dear, remember
Forgive so you'll have peace
Leave em alone.. Karma is a bitch!!
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Never listen to people who project their negativity & try to stop you from achieving your goals. Their belief doesn't define your ability... 💃
@Mosi_Tash_Jazzy
Some friends ehn,babe just let them be nd. Wish them well,I know its kinda difficult bt you can babe,occupy ursef,get busy,nomata hw liltle you would smile again...karma is a sweet bitch..
DeleteOxygen and Magnesium.. adonbilivit. .. Someone mbok tell me this is a nollywood movie... My dear just move on, she will reap what she has sowed
DeleteWhat makes it more painful is d fact it's someone close to u dat is doing dis.smh!
DeleteWhen u see some pple go out of their way to payback such betrayal it will seem dey are too weak or too wicked!u need Jesus to get over dis!pray for grace my sister,pray!Jesus heals!but if it's an advice from my human nature u need,i will prescribe u blow her brains out whichever way#rme#.cos it's so painful to me a third party,so I wonder how itt'll be for u.
Kpele.#hugs#
E Hug poster.
DeleteKarma is a bitch. That is why I run with my two legs because Babes are not smiling. While in School I prefer to keep Opposite Sex as friends and one or two Female friend.
the most humiiating part of this gist is ur things were put in(what kind of bag did u say it was) and put in some corner.First off ladies do not be too expectant of these murrafuckers, these niggas aint loyal mehn.SEcondly they av been dating for as long as u cannot imagine, if asked ur friend for her phone long ago ud av seen the evidence.
ReplyDeleteNow to the matter , allow urself n her new boo cos in the end u will come bk to tell us le boo married her n keeps calling u that he rushed things, it is u he wanted n bla bla...its d devils work,warreffa my darling chin up the best man is coming.
Thank you for this comment
DeleteI see your last paragraph happening
She won't enjoy that marriage
That kind of woman can kill
My dear d best is to leave them. You silence will so eat them up, forgive n free yr heart so d good man God has for you will come n meet you ready.
Deletethe most humiiating part of this gist is ur things were put in(what kind of bag did u say it was) and put in some corner.First off ladies do not be too expectant of these murrafuckers, these niggas aint loyal mehn.SEcondly they av been dating for as long as u cannot imagine, if asked ur friend for her phone long ago ud av seen the evidence.
ReplyDeleteNow to the matter , allow urself n her new boo cos in the end u will come bk to tell us le boo married her n keeps calling u that he rushed things, it is u he wanted n bla bla...its d devils work,warreffa my darling chin up the best man is coming.
Girls! Fear them
DeleteThat was how my so called friends went about spoiling my name to my bf back in school even to the point that he should not marry me because I was the only one in a r/ship
He told me to leave them cz they were never my friends.
Till date I don't have bff, nobody gat time for that!
This is so painful, that's y most girls hide their boyfriend and husband from friends, u can never Know what they re capable of doing. Its well poster, he was never urs, that ur friend wud sure meet her karma. Meanwhile avoid friends.
ReplyDeleteDon't you believe you will meet someone better? Are you going to waste your tears on this man??
DeleteHe has decided to be with her (she cannot be called a friend, stop saying friend) So leave them to do their rubbish.
When you see your next Boo you will dance shoki. Cos he will be better and greater than this one can ever be.
If I begin to type my past experiences with friends and my exs this blog won't contain it. But will say the one that shook me the most.
DeleteA girl I went to pry school with, grew up together and ended up leaving the shores of Nigeria at the same time to school abroad in the same college. So u can imagine the closeness. Anyway I was dating this guy, and she and another friend of ours whom she met tru me, but wasn't as close friends as we were, would bad mouth my man and ask that I dump him cos he was no good. I didn't understand the hatred they had for him, she in particular.
Thing is I carried them along my every move with him. I would take them with me to spend the night at his, esp my childhood friend o. He would take us out together to have fun etc. Yea we were that close. Sha long story short...that's how one day, my friend and I had a heated argument and we cussed each other. And to get at me she said I was a fool, that my BF was cheating on me bla bla. I was like how did she know? And I told her off cos I thought she just wanted to win the argument.
But me I sha went to challenge my BF, and what he said shocked my spine. He said he wouldn't mind if I decided to break up with him for whatever reasons, but that our breakup shouldn't come from my dear friend because he will finish her and reveal her for the devil that she is. Was like wao, it's getting hot in here.
He would later reveal to me that he had been banging my friend religiously, even more than he banged me his babe the owner of the prick. Yeeeee I wan die o. He said every time that she came with me to spend time at his, that at night when I was asleep he used to sneak to bang her in the other room where she slept. And at other times they met on their own while I was away or something.
Jeeezzz I freaked out. He gave me countless scenarios with proof, and I was dumbfounded. Even showed messages btw them etc. She was collecting money from him as well. He showed me acct details.
Of course my friend denied it. But after that she starts to avoid me, till date o, even as we are both married now. She never got her balance with me afterwards, she was belittled and disgraced. Yes the guy was no good either, but the betrayal came from my friend and not him. Not like I was ready to marry then, but it severed our friendship of many years for life. What prick can cause a whole nation ehn. U won't believe it. That thing btw men's legs is a demon on its own, same for women something.
We are no longer friends but act like strangers. I have never met her hubby and kids and she hasn't met mine too, and I intend to keep it that way until the trumpet sounds. Sad thing about betrayal is that it doesn't come from the enemy, but from those whom u relish as friends. Lesson learnt.
Hmm friends share.na one man mopol sure pass mehn
Delete@SisiEko u sabi 2 narrate tory ! Nne u be teacher?
Delete**Adaorah**
Try to put yourself together, if he was for you that wouldn't have happen, just put yourself together. Better awaits u.
ReplyDeleteKarma this, karma that. Karma be working overtime, NOT! To be honest I don't see anything wrong and y'all will be surprised they will have a good marriage. The only thing I'd rather they did was have d courage to tell her but den again must have been tricky for them too
DeletePerson wen be your own na ur own and NOBODY (man/woman) can take em away from u. Your friend and ex were probably meant for each other. Too bad they had to go through u.
It will hurt, yes but suck it up and move on. Don't bother caging urself in un forgiveness and ill wishes for them cos it will come to nought. Release them and move on
Won't be easy but, c'est la vie!
Na wa!! Frenemies every where. It is well.
ReplyDeleteNah wah oooo
ReplyDeleteHiannnn! Poster u must b a learner! Wat kinda advice do u want us 2 give u! U've learnt ur lesson in a hard way. All I can say is sowie n plz take heart...
ReplyDeleteYou are responsible for what happened. And also, like Stella said, they might have started for a while now so I guess the man already choose who he wants. Move on with your life. You learnt your lesson the hard way
ReplyDeleteNa wah...
ReplyDeleteWho does that poster??...how can you send a full grown woman with boobs and nyash to go beg your man in this age and time??...
It's like you are still a learner...
Well? You can't kill your self over a man....
I think you guys are not mearnt to be since he didnt wife you after 3 years...
It hurts I know but try and move on jare...life goes on....
Go shooping,pamper your self,and be happy...trust me,the right guy is on the way...
The so called friend had always been a jealous whore. who knows? she may have even be the causer of the problem the postter had with her bf. Am sure she would have been spoiling her before her boyfriend long before now
DeleteThe perfect schemer she is!
This is why I don't have time for close female bff. I roll solo. No time
Infact eh, she be real okpo. Friends + boyfriend, fiance or husband don't mix. This na wetin dem dey teach us from belle sef. I don't do friends o cos we women are terrible to ourselves. Even my own blood I no trust.
DeleteAs i dey,i no get gf o.
DeleteIf i quarrel with dh,i tell no one.
If he buys me gifts,only my kids know.
l do not discuss any intimate thing about us with anyone
Poster,from ur story,you have/had many gf. Stop it. Gfs are wuucked o.
Do this:
DeleteGather better stones
Wait them for corner
Stop them tire
Target the guy ogor
Target your friend belle
Hope u cracked a smile cos that was just a joke
Karma is a real bad bitch... just leave ur ex n ur frnd in God's hands!
ReplyDeletewhen your replacement is nearest than you think.. na i know what that means.
ReplyDeletei wont say sorry to you.. you needed space and you have gotten it so why keep crying over spill milk. God has given you the space you were looking for
let them go inugo... God will bring your own man and you will be careful to treat him right.
Good it happened now than when you are already married. Let them go. Life goes on
DeletePoster , that girl was never your friend but a frenemy who had always been jealous of you. if I were you, I will walk away with my head held high.
DeleteYes you will feeel betrayed and broken but never confront nor fight them. . In situations like this, your silence will be very scary to both of them.
Babe,he isn't for u, let him go,be happy n God who knows ur heart ll sure get u a far better guy.Some gals /frenemies no get shame.
ReplyDeleteBabes,so sorry for how you were treated but the best thing is to forget about that guy & your girlfriend.It won't be easy & it will definitely be painful & heart wrenching but there's nothing you can do about it.Get yourself occupied & try not to dwell on it.God will surprise you in a positive way.
ReplyDeleteJust Like That?? I DON'T BELIEVE THIS STORY AT ALL.. let's hear from your Le Boo..
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.NOTE: Raise Your Words, Not Your Voice. It Is Rain That Grows Flowers, Not Thunder..
I would ve just called this bluff, buh then again, shot happens.
ReplyDeleteI had dsame experience yl in d university. But in my case, he was calling my best friend 2 beg me, she told me,& we planned on how I would do shakara first, then she'd tell him 2 get me expensive gift 2 beg along with. Na so my friend go use me shine. Anyways, dear poster, just let them b. Yea, it can b difficult, but a man that betrays u now can always betray u 10yrs in ur marriage. This is a sign. N'isi are ka-esi ama uto nsi.
You sent your friend to beg your boyfriend for you? Which kain beg does she want to beg that you can't do yourself? Eh maybe she used sex to help you beg him na. Just learn your lesson and move on.
ReplyDeleteLol
DeleteSo sorry . Chai karma will get to her don't worry! hope its not that you self snatch the guy from someone. *sideeye*
ReplyDeleteYou sent your friend, "the one closest to him". Its so obvious they've been dating since the days of Abraham and am sure she has long brain washed that guy against you.
DeleteI know it's painful but pls try and make yourself happy. You still have your life to live.
Y don't I believe dis story? D part where she unlocked d fone to read d msg and all of that sounds crazy to me. Even if she is ur friend, u still have no right to invade d privacy of her fone. Now if d story is true, don't worry Nne, karma is not just a bitch, karma is a fierce bitch. U know d rest.
ReplyDeletePoster, hard as it is let them Enjoy and Move on, God'll sort u out. You'll be fine
DeleteI have single male friends do you want one? Cos guy had been long gone and was waiting for an escape route which you provided. Hope say you be better person ooo
ReplyDeleteI'm interested biko. ( I'm not the poster)
DeleteGood riddance to bad rubbish! They deserve each other. Be thankful to God for saving you from the heartbreak you may have faced later on if you would have married him and had his kids. Stay Strong, get busy and go out with your girlfriends. Join a gym, look after yourself.. Pretty soon he will regret himself and start crawling. After all... She can only be 'new' for a while until he gets bored and looks for the next thrill so thank her.. In fact buy Her a box of chocolates and a thank you card because she gave you the best gift!
ReplyDeleteFriends, fear them. Never ever allow ur female friends be close to ur bfs this is what u get. And men God help them are something else.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, like Stella said karma is a bitch, I know it's difficult but leave them for God, she'll definitely meet her waterloo. I'm sure she's d reason u guys have been having problems. Take heart.
Ehn ehn?? Like seriously??? U go cage d girl or cage ur boyfriend?? Na wa o!!!
DeleteAbeg take a walk, some me loyalty is missing from their genes.
ReplyDeleteOMG
ReplyDeleteSay no to bff,girls aren't loyal
Probably they have been eyeing each other since n you gave them chance to get together
Let them go
Try as much as possible to get over it
Karma will surely visit them
Keep your girlfriend's out of your relationship next time
Things dey happen ooh
Ah bbe! Send me your mail or pin or something . She will learn!
ReplyDeleteTo do what??? Taaaa!!! A bad man is a bad man, vice versa!!!
DeleteGeez-us
ReplyDeleteI FEAR HUMAN BEING...Godforbid
Takeheart dear,dust the dirt off your shoulders and keep your head up
Its just a matter of time,you'll be fine and pls don't shut your heart to love cos its coming in a big way.
E-Hugs
hmmmmm! u r ryt stella..karma will serve them what dey deserve
ReplyDeleteDon't worry my dear. You just dodged a bullet. I can't even imagine how much you are hurting right now and even though pple may say u r stupid for letting ur frnd go talk too him. How wud you hv known?
ReplyDeleteHow do u even know they were not already collecting on the side.
You may not see it now.. But God has sth better in store for u.
Spot on!
DeleteDry ur Tears sweets.Dry dem.
Someone better wil come...Okay?
Warm Hugs.
They deserve each other.
ReplyDeleteInvest your time with ur family, work and focus on God.
Oh wish them well oh... send both of them goodwill msgs
Thank God it happened before u were married. He did it to u, that dated him for 3 yrs, 3 yrs from now, she's gonna call u and cry not dat I wish that on her but C'est la vie.
Move on my dear and its ok to cry, U r a woman; strong, compassionate and sensitive with feelings.
Remember Your best is yet to come.
I hope you didn't do d same to sm1 else don't worry nemesis will catch up with them
ReplyDeleteJehovah! This is serious. My dear it hurts...I know,confront ur girlfriend about it,but move on. allow them,such relationship never lasts! Sorry love.
ReplyDeleteThis is the reason I don't share my emotional business with friends... the extra nosy ones are usually kept at arms length. I have a friend who cosies up to my male friends whenever we have issues, goes out on movie dates and invites him to her home. Somehow she doesn't try to breach peace but is always looking out for her own neck. I used to think this kind of behavior was acceptable until I realized that it was not ok for her to do this, these are my friends that she wouldn't know if it weren't for me and instead of her to breach peace during our fights you step into the role of new bestie..smh. My dear please take heart so much freniemies these days... from your write up its obvious you deserved better and he wasn't it let her manage your leftovers it is what it is.
ReplyDeleteMiss Carlie
Leave them girl, you probably caused it but that is not important anymore. Just keep yourself busy, apply yourself to something and work hard at it. Read, write, do something you enjoy.
ReplyDeleteRemain optimistic, it's not the end of the world
My dear, just move on, I know it's painful. You guys weren't destined together. But if she used otumokpor on him then karma is a bitch. Let go dear, e hugs
ReplyDeletePoster no man is worth breaking your heart for , yes it's painful but please move on and trust God for better things , brighter future and a good man that will love and appreciate you not heartless he goat .
ReplyDeleteAs for your friend just let her know you know but don't quarrel with her oooooo , look good and be very confident when speaking to her and move on Biko .
Next time be sure not to trust your friends , and you really don't have to be a man's live in lover to win his love , nmmmba nu put a price on yourself , you go staying with him , cooking , spending your money on him, he Fs you like tomorrow will never come and yet he just tosses you out like a used tissue paper or condom , my dear that is why you are hurting so much.
Sorry dear!
ReplyDeleteDude Is a two timing aristo!
Maybe he Is not your missing rib,
It also shows d kinda friend u have..
Careful next time.
It's not easy but try n forget abt them.
No b clear eyes
ReplyDeleteDear poster ,
ReplyDeleteAm so sorry .
I can imagine the hurt and betrayal eating away at you ..the shock, disbelief .
But listen good . Your bae was never yours to begin with . He either never loved you or fell out of love wih you. And yeah he prolly had an eye out for your friend and she was probably the cause of the many problems you Wer having with him.
There's nothing you can do but to let go. But make sure u disgrace her very well ...report her to her parents if you can ,tell anyone who cares to listen the hand she has dealt you . And God would repay her back in her coin .
Lesson to everyone : privatize your relationship . Mine, I don't discuss ...I don't introduce my boo to anybody.my bestie knows him yeah but when he's in Nigeria we all don't hang out . I keep him and my friends so far apart for obvious reasons (he's a catch ) and the devil could use them to destroy my joy . I no fit shout
Am guarding him so jealously cos have heard way too many stories like this . It's better to loose him to a random chic than to my bestie .
Dear poster I feel ur pain, but let them be and move on. Beware of the kind of friends u keep, never get any of them involved in ur future relationship(s). They don't need to meet or know ur future bf all they need to know is the date and venue of your wedding and also the price of your asoebi.
ReplyDeleteThat evil friend of yours that sowed that wicked seed is gonna reap a bountiful harvest of wickedness. The bible has said it, there's no peace for the wicked.
Choo ,women are their own worst enemy ,nne forget him ,your man will come ,karma is a bitch
ReplyDeleteLord have mercy! Eeeeeeeeeh!! Frenemies!!!!!! Painful, but please let it go. Chai! People should learn to fear God oooo!!! Nne biko, leave them just like Stella rightly said they have been 'meeting' before una problem. He was never yours. Be calm and see how God will bless you.
ReplyDeleteHmm well thank God am not into that bulshit called love coz relationships crap I can't deal I wish I could meet u coz what I would advise u to do if I say it here they would fire 100 shots at me
ReplyDeleteGbam!!! Please say it!!! Nothing dey pa
DeleteGerman, u ain't into relationships u say, are u into les-be-honest kinda thingy?
DeleteKai nnem I feel so sorry for you right now. Chai some girls are wicked sha *smh*
ReplyDeleteStella we all know that she leaving them alone and letting go is the right thing to do but it's easier said than done! Just imagine the heartache, the betrayal chai
My dear I dunno how this is gonna sound but I think your man has been hypnotized. Cos it's either the way Stella said it...that maybe the both of them might has been seeing each other before the breakup.
Or it's diabolical cos no man leaves a woman he's been in love with for 3yrs for another girl just like that. And to talk of love...gosh I don't even know how to comfort you now.
Just pull yourself together and get over it...I believe God can help you through the whole process too. It's wel with you!!
And this is not the end of the world..am sure you'll get over it but it will take time! kpele
*Warm Fuzzy Hug*
dear BVN,let them go!
ReplyDeletelike Stella said,kama is a bitch!i you find one who would appreciate you and treat you like the queen you are!
Oh my God
ReplyDeleteTrust nobody! Even your nuclear family coz we all are humans sorry ehn just leave them alone you'll find your soul mate and you'll laugh last and trust me poster few years from now their karma will start manifesting
ReplyDeleteGirl I'm in love with you prolly coz u're beautiful and smart I'm sorry I can't reveal my blog id just knw you have an admirer
DeleteBe hyping itself u hear???
DeleteUrself*
DeleteAm with you on this one @Miriam. Even your nuclear family!
DeleteMarian, it's okay to hype yourself under anon.
DeleteIt's very okay.
Infact, let me click on the "beautiful" dp.
Brb.
lol
Delete@Okija n Quickie
@ Quiksliver and Okija Wife how una take know? Chei
DeleteHian !!!!! did d quarrel u have with ur ex lasted for four months???? if yes, then u really slacked, u should have monitored her and confronted d guy in question to know what's up, they messed up big time but u know what, DAT guy is not ur husband, don't make trouble with any of them, just distance ur self from them, delete their numbers, memories and every thing about them from ur life and move on, its one of those things, some pple were disappointed on their wedding day but dey didn't die, so fashi them.
ReplyDeleteU may confront them to pour out ur mind cos u will feel better doing so, after which dey become past tense/ history to you.
God will give u , ur own man, a good and faithful one.
That karma is a batch no dey work anymore o, in fact Karma don dey slumber since o. @Poster, take heart u hear? More reasons y I don't allow my man close to any of my friends, or talk about my friends all the time with my man cause these niggas/bitches ain't loyal anymore! Whatever happened to 3 is a crowd bikonu? Don't worry dem go soon taya of each oda u hear but forget karma o, karma dey fuck up!
ReplyDeleteU don't allow ur man close to any of ur friends??? Choi....dat man mmust be a very useless dog!!!
DeleteOkija wife its probably cos she doesn't wana send in chronicles oo..my mom told me a story last weekend.
DeleteA married woman brought in her unmarried best friend who was thrown out of her house due to rent wahala . Anyway she was given the boys quarter for the mean time till she gets her footing . Yes you can guess where the story is headed. Madam caught her shagging her hubby one afternoon ,and not too long after she was let in too! Bestfriends for 15years oo
A pal live in my compd?.
DeleteGod forbid.
Instead,i will help u with rent o
It's a pity my dear, but move on ok. Don't allow dem get d better part of u, be brave n I promise u, u got nothing to loose. Such rships don't last provided dt u did not wrong d guy. Let God be d judge. I wish u well.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 please leave them, I know its not easy but you need to move on. He's not yours. Don't worry God will give you your own man.
ReplyDeleteNawa o. They've bin having affairs behind ur back joor. It's well. He was not urs.
ReplyDeleteIt's a pity dear
ReplyDeleteBut a man can't be snatched,they just leave
Ur man left u for ur friend
Be strong,maybe he wasn't meant for u in the first place
Someone better will come ok?
Correct!!! Tell Dem o!! A good man is a good man
DeleteMy dear, do not say or ask them anything, just try to get over it, get busy with other activities and your own man will definitely come along soon enough. He wasn't meant for you in the first place and Like Stella said, karma is a bitch. The problem I foresee is that, when everything comes crumbling, the lady will say you are a witch.
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Kai, poster why would you send ur friend to go and beg, ur man catch with man, even self he caught you with anybody, you beg yourself, dis one will teach you a lesson you will never forget in a hurry, don't trust anybody with your man next time. My advice to you is to move on with ur life and see how their story will end, karma is patiently waiting for your frienemy
ReplyDeleteHey, I am sorry. But trust me, the man is not worth your happiness. About your friend, forgive her, it's hard to, but for your peace of mind, forgive her. Receive strength to move on dear. # sighs#
ReplyDeleteSweetie,move on.God will give you a better man!Real men cannot be snatched,only fake ones can...
ReplyDeleteDry your tears,you will smile again!
As for that traitor who called herself your friend,she deserves to be baptised with acid!
Thank you pink lady love!
DeleteChai !
ReplyDeleteTruly I'm not an authority in this, I might be tempted to give you a wrong one.
Let me waka.....
......Where is mai gun abi acid for my so called bestie delight.
Na wa o
ReplyDeleteOhh my heart!
ReplyDeletePoster so sorry.
But just know that you cannot lose what is not yours.
That guy was never meant to be yours.
So dust your beautiful self up, and leave the treacherous 'lustbirds' alone.
Don't even pick a quarrel with the girl.
Allow her conscience and karma to teach her a lesson.
Try your hardest to make yourself happy.
But don't do anything rash, either to yourself or to them.
Watch as they'll come crawling and begging for forgiveness.
It is well, hun.
So sorry poster that this happened. You said you sent one of your friend that was closer to him to beg on your behalf. From what later happened it is possible that they have been dating without you knowing hence the cloSsness. And am very sure she is the reason he fell out of love with you and so there was absolutely no way he would want to settle with you. My dear you have to let him go. You cant force him to marry you. Karma will deal with them. You can cry after which you clean your eyes and pick yourself up. You have to be strong for you. Dont make yourself miserable because of him, he is not worth it at all. God will give you a better person and i hope you will learn to handle issues yourself without friends. Not all friends are bad oh but dont take chances anymore. Stay focused.
ReplyDeleteomg...friends!!!....anyway just dust ur feet and move on, God alwayz has that special ne for everybody.
ReplyDeleteNa wa o!eyah.cnt deal too but God will help u.
ReplyDeletePoster, jinx this relationship and btw, U did nothing wrong by telling Ur slutty "friend" to check on Ur bf.
ReplyDeleteFind a cele woli, they will tell U what to do....
D bible says an eye for an eye..... d moral thing to do is to put a spell on her.
Quick ooo... before U end up like Xoxo ummysterious ooo........
Ma tots exactly,no time 4 karma dis,karma dat,i fink u shd b dier karma
DeleteMy dear Poster, let them go jare. Move on with your life as He wasn't meant for you. Surely, karma would catch up on your supposed bestie friend. I am certain you've learnt one or two lessons, so move on dear. Its a phase and would surely pass.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile, Stella I thought you had more than one narrative only for me to scroll down, nothing...
Karma is really a bitch,but i know its still going to hurt.. especially when they finally get married.my dear just stay clear of both of them n any information about them..
ReplyDeleteMa dear relax and do d Right fin which z
ReplyDeletePlay ignorant and invite d Girl for an outing,get her a bit high den Yhu poison her,make sure yhu leave her dere and go home i.e yhu gurls shouldn't go togeda come up wif an excuse and leave Dats so yhu don't witness her death.let her die own d road so dat birds would feast on her remains.Such pple don't deserve to live
NB:Sugar all u av to do is let go bcos we loose gud fins for better fins to come.Vengance is of the lord
That your friend is a very bad person,please move on and thank God you didn't end you with that type of man that will be interested in your friends.
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Too bad, this is happening to you...you just have to move on. That why I dont keep female friends.
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ReplyDeleteVery sorry ooooooooooooooooh!
Hmmmm! She is a frenemy but u didnt notice it on time. I concur wit stella, let them be, your blessing is on the way,Ok?
ReplyDeleteStella said it all.they have been on it b4.Just move on and be happy the end for them will not be enviable it is not a curse its just natural.
ReplyDeleteSome girls no dey fear sha. In this era of wickedness, you're still endangering your life. Dear poster, let go and let God avenge for you. So painful though
ReplyDeleteU spoke well Stella. Move on poster and thank your God the betrayal did not happen after you said 'I Do'...
ReplyDeleteHappy Easter
OMG father keep every unfriendly friend far from my life! My dear her KARMA is doing press up it will come to her hot and spicy
ReplyDeleteKaai.....d thing can dey pain.....women e no good ooo
ReplyDelete.enemy as friend.....
@Galore
Na wah o oya since u r officially single, how bout dinner for two at Asia town restaurant let's talk, u cn bring of one of your friends along sha o *evil grin*
ReplyDeleteLol
DeleteMr soul .see your head like machine to grind egusi
Lmfao!!
DeleteSHE HAD HER EYES ON HIM AND LIKE SHE SAID SHE HAS ALWAYS LOVED HIM, JUST THAT U PROVIDED A LEGAL PLATFORM FOR THEIR RELATIONSHIP TO THRIVE.IT WILL BE PAINFUL BUT SWEETIE DONT FIGHT, DONT CAUSE A SCENE COS HE WAS NOT YOURS FROM THE ONSET. WISH THEM WELL AND MOVE ON. GOD WILL SETTLE YOU IN JESUS NAME
ReplyDeleteHmm dis life,ur best frd could be ur worst enemy..let dem go,bt wt I blive is dt dey cannot last long,it's well
ReplyDeleteLadies please I beg u in d name of God.. Trust no friend with your boo!!! None! U shudnt even be telling friends about ur boo. The heart of man is desperately wicked. For married ladies if u must confide in any lady,she MUST be married... Don't be so nice and den it leads u to regret. Don't allow single friends in ur house anyhow.. To prevent stories dt touch. So sorry poster. God will give u another man.
ReplyDeleteOMG ! Bestie ? I can't deal.
ReplyDeleteHmmm dis life,ur best frd could be ur worst enemy,leave dem cos dey cannot last long,am sure God wil vindicate u,d right guy is on his way..is jst a matter of time,Til den pray until somthing happen.
ReplyDeleteAwwww sorry Dear. The guy isn't yours let him go and be careful with friends.
ReplyDeleteGod will give you your own!
Poster, cry as much as you can but them let go.
ReplyDeleteTime heals all wound. Someone better is coming.i won't be surprised if they were already dating behind your back.
Move on dear,God has a reason for everything!that's my moto.......God will pay your friend double of the heart ache you are going through right now,some girls na witch o!!!
ReplyDeletePoster that ur friend is a devil, some friends do not have the fear of God in then...I pray she regrets her actions someday.
ReplyDeleteMy dear allow them and make urself happy.
Unloyal bitches!!!
ReplyDeleteIf i cant plead with him and he'll listen then i'm saying my bye byes.than to tell any frenemy to worsen situation.
Ladies however close you are with any of your friends,pls keep your relationship and some other progress to yourself.
I dont care if you've been friends since when you were both 3months old.
Can you imagine the backstabbing bitch.
Nne,he was never truly yours.
The heart of man is desperately wicked.dont you get it?
The heart of woman is so desperately wicked too.......in case una nor first understand am.
Abeg i vex.this mata vex me
Fucking sly!
ReplyDeleteThat girl can kill aswear.
Nne,just forget about them.
God will console you with a man that truly deserve you.
Be happy sugar pie.
Yea. Karma will get him! Friends tho! I can't deal abeg! I can count d number of close friends I have. Dem no pass 2 girls, one married. I can't deal with these kinds of girls. I prefer having male friends to female friends sef
ReplyDeleteNa wa o, this kain friend worse pass enemy na, just let them go, good riddance. He never really loved you, if he did, he won't fall so easily
ReplyDeleteGuess it was never meant to be.
ReplyDelete@Queen Linda.....no mind Dem awon ass choppers oshi....we say it d way it is we no dey shake!!!
ReplyDeleteSDK no ever delete my comment o, go ask my friends Dem for uni.......my name Na CRAZY DEN.....
Don't mind Stella....
DeleteShe should visit all these top politicians page and see the kind of cusses they get on a daily basis...
Stella this blog will be dry without curses and negative opinion...
Many SDK don join Mountain of Fire
DeleteThat bff of urs is a thief, and if she cld do this to you, then she can kill. My dear leave them, I know it ain't easy, but just 4get them. Don't even fight ur friend over the guy, don't ask her anything about it. Pretend like they don't exist to u, if she's on ur BBM contact, delete her and the guy. It's very hard I tell u, but if it's me, that's what I'll do. Cry at night if u have to, but hold ur head high in d day. Don't ever become depressed and reclined becos of d 2 muvafuckers, dey ain't worth it. Take this as one of those terrible blows life deals u, and be strong. Be very strong, u need it now, so that they both don't laugh at u. A better man will come, one that will make u bless God for allowing this one to betray u. What I'm saying is so hard, but just do it. The karma that will befall ur friend is still in a cake mixer, it hasn't even entered d oven. It will hit her so hard that she'll curse d reason for her existence. And as 4 u nonsense friend, if u are a bv and u see this post, just know this, u have bought market that ul never finishing paying for in this life.
ReplyDeleteAye ooo.....God will visit her soon with his vegeance. Just keep calm and let karma fight for you
ReplyDeleteAs long as you didn't snatch him from another babe & didn't cheat on him, relax & watch karma pay them a visit. As for your "bestie" she's a witch (the kind that fucks ones hubby behind ones back) that relationship has been on before you broke up with your bf.
ReplyDeleteNotify your family & move on (there are better men out there so don't fret) she's welcome to have him they deserve each other (two lying conniving bastards) don't envy their marriage cos the mgba okpuru (underhand dealings) go plenty & don't forget to go pick up your stuffs cos she fit use am jazz you.
Wishing you the best
Poster, you know you do not completely trust your friends that's why you felt it 'was safe' to give your ex a break after all of you had decided that y'all wont date each other's ex.
ReplyDeleteMy Submission:
1) Learn to keep somethings (both good and bad) in your life-not just your relationship private. It is called talking ALOT and saying LITTLE. It is an art; master it.
2)I think d 'break' was all d excuse your ex and friend needed to fast track their relationship.
3) That you were strong enough to even give d dude some space says alot about who you are as a person.
Conclusion: just leave them oh; no prayers no curses, its not necessary. They will surely reap it cos their foundation is supa dupa faulty. Before you know it they will start having trust issues with eachother, knowing how they started.
Move on; You will be fine!
Lest I forget, pls go back to that house and collect your things. That kinda friend, no...
abeg move on with your life,get busy although it would seem as if it wont work buh with time you would get over him
ReplyDeleteDear poster, pls let it go. U don't know what God has in stock for u.
ReplyDelete*I have monitoring spirits *
ReplyDeletePoster...i know it is painful but concentrate on your life abeg , when the right man comes along, you will know.
You are too beautiful and too young to chase after a man. She did you a favor, thank her.
Do not go any Cele before you turn to a bundle of wretchedness.
XOXO MYSTERY
Hmmm......
DeleteBwahahahaha.......
Poster, who would U rather listen to, Xoxo that has no where to go but down. Or Ezenwanyi Alusi N'ejelu onwe ya Ozi, that has dug herself from d ground, dits @ board meeting with d movers and shakers....
Poster, d truth is that there are no marriageable men in Nigeria, they are few, that's Y there are plenty Aunty Gwegwegwe like Xoxo, whose life is spent and will not hesitate to Ve another dragged down.
Xoxo is a social rejectee, in case U haven't noticed, her life is messed beyond logical *****!!!
Wretchedness and Xoxo is like bread and butter. Be guided.
Lwkmd @ Poster is very young....
DeleteXoxo, poster says she is in her late 20s... how old are U Aunty Gwegs?????
This is not healthy. Lmao
DeleteMen can be such bastards,(xcuse my language) not all but majority,you wld smtimes wonder if blood flows thru dere veins.
ReplyDeleteMy dear as painful as it is,take dis as a learning curve, that guy wont have been a good husband to u, probably can even sleep with ur sista, cousin, maid sef. But u too NEVER EVER, allow ur man and ur friend pass hi hi relationship,not to now say dem havn eachodas no or pin. U NEED TO WAKE UP. I don't have the no or pin of even my bestfriend husband. wetn I wan use am do, and in exchange none of dem have mine. I don't just believe in dat shit. Not bcos I don't trust dem,but my dear I no wan hear story. Na HUMAN NATURE 101,u just learn now. You are just in ur late 20's,i know it is very painful,iv had my own heart broken too and it isn't easy.
But my dear, life goes on. Delete dem both from ur life,look good,go out and NEVER stop praying. D lord will give u urs................FOREVER 16
Dear Stella and SDKERS..
ReplyDeleteU guys never learn...
A one sided narrative is not to be swallowed just like that.
Dear poster, better chunk of the comments are calling upon KARMA to dance skelewu with ur ex and your bff.
Who knows if it it the KARMA that has visited you.
According to you. You "decided it was best to give him some space to have fun."
What kind of fun do you want him to have???
Hahahahahahahhahahaha
Instead of aiming for settlement, the bitch part of you will rather have him wallow in pain and come kneeling and begging.
Until I hear from all the parties involved, your narratives will be considered a waste of time.
Thats one of my greatest fears having such a wicked and evil friend poster cry it all out and then move on you ll definitely hurt for a while especially when you hear her gist let her know that you know and then delete her from your life....if the guy comes back in future just remember how you feel now and do the needful
ReplyDeleteWomen, that's why I dnt have best friend. Take heart dear.
ReplyDeleteDo not trust any girl with your man,period
ReplyDeleteAunty stella, please this Okowa Dude u said i should vote for tell them the party is not stated in the flyer
ReplyDelete#1. Awwwww poor baby! Your heart is going to break much more as events begin to unfold but the trick is to brace yourself and sit it out. Unfortunately, my love, emotional trauma is like a virus. There are not cutting corners to suppress the pain, at least no healthy ones, you just have to wait it out. Though it's excruciatingly slow but it will pass eventually, I promise you.
ReplyDeleteHoney, grief makes a vulnerable mind more susceptible to ridiculous suggestions on how to get even or how to move on or cope with the pain. I don't know you, sweetheart, neither the type of friends you roll with but from what I just read...
Whatever you do, please avoid the following ;
1. Planning a revenge mission: Let the Master Planner do what He does best. Vengeance belongs to God. Trust me, you can't out-plan God. You have no idea about the plans He has for you so please, don't provoke God by trying to fight your battles. You need the Lord's grace now more than ever.
2. Stay away from any fire brigade relationship. You can never have a real relationship when you aren't over the previous one. You have to sit it out and deal with whatever pain you feel. That "get under a man to get over a man" slogan is one of the most misleading statements I've ever heard. Do you know why? It appears cathartic initially, but the pleasure and comfort you feel has a short shelf life and when you are done, you're gonna feel worse than a wet rag doll. Not only has one dude caused you untoward pain, he gets to make you whore your lady parts to some guy you ordinarily wouldn't have given the time of day just to feel better momentarily? Isn't that too much power to all a punk who betrayed you in such an inelegant manner to wield over you? You should even give the dating game a healthy break to avoid rebound relationships.
3. Don't beg for his affections, apparently this happened because whatever he felt for you wasn't solid enough. You deserve better.
My darling, my heart bleeds for you, it really does. I hope you've learnt from this? Never allow your friends get too familiar with your boyfriend, let alone your fiancé. Whatever issues you have with you man should be dealt with by both of you, your friends shouldn't be mediators. Never ignore the warnings signs in your relationship, stop putting window dressings on the problems in your relationship. A man who is ready for marriage and who wants you in his life would date you for 3years. He knows if you've made the cut within the 1st 6 months. The next year or couple of years will reveal his intentions. You'll notice the relationship is getting more serious and he is getting more committed with wedding plans. If he seems to slow down after a year of dating, it's likely he's having 2nd thoughts. It explains why some men breakup only to get hitched to someone else barely 5 months post breakup.
Finally, honey, it may sound laughable now but go do a private thanksgiving in church, just you, your thoughts and your God because you just escaped the projectile from a rocket launcher! You would have made each other miserable if he married you. Forget about your age! So what if you're in your let 20s? Does that justify trying to salvage a nonexistent relationship? Would you rather get married before you turn 30, only to realise you've made a huge mistake before you turn 31 then finally get divorced at 33? Isn't it better to develop yourself while you wait for God's best even if he surfaces just before your 34th or 35th birthday? I'll allow you noodle around this questions.
God speed! My love.
#e-bearhugs.
Are u human?or an Angel?jeezzzz.- l love u.
DeleteStella stop enabling Ronalda's comments. They are very annoying and over sabi
DeleteNkea n'agbaka kwa isi aswear.
ReplyDeleteThe fact that you sent this shows how strong you are, it may take long/short but the right person will definitely come. That guy was never your own and thank God it turned out the way it does. Make yourself happy and don't loose sleep over a man. Trust in God!
Let it Go, and ask God to heal your heart. My heart was broken and it never healed for 3 years, it was torture for me.
ReplyDeleteIts better he is with her, God is saving you for someone better, just wait for Gods best. I don't know wen he may come, but surely he is on his way to you my darling.
This year you will find someone that will make you understand the term Heavens best, and you will thank your stars you let your ex go.
My dear things like dis happen everyday,girls re so desparate n guys,I still wonder if dey av a heart,but its individual tin anyway.just maintain d ryt attitude,block all connections wit dem,social media etc,and b close 2 GOD only him gives healing and in a way only him can,busy urself,go out nd dnt stay alone.
ReplyDelete@poster i perfectly understand wat you going through cos av been a victim before it took a year plus to get over it and witin that one year i did alot of things that were out of my person but thank god today am better and happier and to think the fool was even a broke ass nigga. when u get over it u will c clearer and b happy it happened it will b hard but u will get over it
ReplyDeleteSome female friends are poisonous! Poster take heart and learn from your mistakes. Let God be the judge, Btw Stella I love love love your blog. I heard about your blog last year July via Instagram and I have been hooked since then. I read it every single day! I also read other blogs as well but your style of blogging is unique and I spend hours on yours while I just glance through the other blogs. I have read here several times that people accuse you of being jealous of the other blogger and I like to say ignore those insinuations and keep doing the good work. You are both great bloggers with different styles of blogging . Keep your head up and God bless.
ReplyDeletePlease wheneneve a woman snatches your Man,pls kneel down,and thank God,thank the girl too,for revealing to you that your man is snatchable. If you had married him,your life would have been miserable,Thank God for your life,no body will be able to snatch any man meant for you,so move on,and you will see new boo
ReplyDeleteDear poster don't worry just move on its not going to be easy but he wasn't for you and God just saved you from his hands. I know how you feel because right now I feel same and worse, my husband just confessed to me he cheated on me just 2 months into our marriage with a friend of mine. Funny enough our marriage is barely 2 years old. He confessed because our pastor asked him to after he went to see him to complain of our stagnant situation and hardship. Am so broken right now...
ReplyDeleteMove on abeg, u no try at all, God only use u as stepping Stone for them to find themselves, forget that Karma sh*t, they may have the most beautiful marriage to ever exist, what will be will surely be.
ReplyDeleteBut next time u Dnt allow any third party in ur relationship, not coz they will snatch ur lover away but coz ur relationship happenings should be strictly confidential.
Kpele.
Some of you women are quite silly. So your man will be snatched away like a toy? No man can be snatched. The man went to were he wanted to go. Your friend is not a friend because she betrayed you and I hope he deals with her. But dear poster, she did not snatch your man. Your man is not toy.
ReplyDeleteSorry dear,you have learnt the hard way.Never trust any friend with your man.Don't ever bring them into ur relationship even if u re having issues.
ReplyDeleteForget them and move on.Trust God to give you a God fearing man.If he fears God,he wont do this to you.
@sisi eko - gist of life!! How could she? Hmmm... I have a bestie but for some reason I keep having dreams about someone telling me not to introduce her to my future hubby when I meet him {He hasn't found me yet} These dreams and premonitions come every-time. I trust my friend because we don't have man issues or any other issues for over 8 years of friendship. But with this story, I will listen to those voices in my head and not be too 'trusting'. Thanks for sharing
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