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ONCE CHANCE MARRIAGE!

Hello Stellalicious darling beauty, hope you and yours are OK. I would have hailed you more if only I was in a better mood.

I Am happy and grateful to God for giving me life today. As I type this I type in tears,Stella. I sit back and what floods my mind now is just REGRETS. I never knew my life will turn out this way. Like job said " what I fear most has come upon me" is exactly my present recitation. 

 My own problems started two weeks before marriage. I was beaten to pulp by the man who was supposed to cherish me as his bride to be, for no tangible reason, and I made up my mind to quit but I looked back at my parents position as pastors and my wedding card has gone round and my dads station was the venue, so I accepted all the pleadings from from close family and friends who knew about it with him strongly promising that it will never happen again.

 I believe that that was the greatest mistake of my life. Fast forward to the present it has been HELL so far on earth. And I ask myself WHY me. I suffer humiliations from his him and his family cos I have no job, they said that am a liability to them. I suffer lack and deprivations. My hubby even beats me in the presence of his family members. So many things my people. And yes My mother in law hates me for reasons best known to her and most times attempts to beat me up. Talks to me as if I were a child and spoils me around to whoever gives her attention

Each time we visit my MIL, my hubby MUST disgrace me. (I get a lot of i am sorrys after each round of beating or offence. Sometimes he cries in the course of saying the unending sorrys.) It is either he is beating me or reporting me to his mum. 

There is no type of insult and abuse that I have not gotten from this man and his people. Sometimes he accuses me of saying things I did not say just to spite me so that everyone will hate me and justify his actions towards me. When he starts he will sometimes throw my things out and later when the evil spirit in him leaves he will go and park them in and start begging. 

He is very stingy also. I grew up in the church and in the very quiet side but this marriage has turned me to a bitter woman. Each time I cry to my parents they tell me I chose him amongst all the numerous suitors I had that were worshiping me, so I want to quit and bring shame to them and myself? That I should endure it all that it with pass. They encourage me greatly and you won't believe that my survival in my husbands house is my parents. I turned into a big time beggar. Uptill date I try to think of how it all started.

Stellaluv, "had I known" is my popular  phrase. Tears flow down uncontrollable each time I look at myself, jobless, cash less, no hope of tomorrow, dependent on someone that doesn't give a damn about me. I mean nothing in his eyes, a man that reports me to his mum even when he knows that she doesn't likes me, a man that beats his wife whenever he is angry. Abuses me together with his people. Treats me like a house help all in the name of marriage bcos I got nothing doing. He tells me that if am waiting for him to take care of me I will wait till forever. 

That I should look for my own or wait for my children when they grow up and start giving me, children that are just 2 and 3. People who knew me before marriage passes me on the road without knowing its me,i am only 29 but I look like 40 cos of maltreatment and lack, with old clothes. 

I went out yesterday with a slightly pierced clothe and I was humiliated, felt like the earth should open and swallow me, but what can I say or do?. The last time my husband bought clothes for me was like two years ago, does the same to his kids. Feeding is a problem cos he gives me 2k for soup and stew every week . I depend solely on my parents. And most times feel very ashamed of myself for disturbing them. If not for my parents I don't know how my life would have been. 

But they are getting old and will retire soon. What will then be my fate? 

*crying uncontrollably *

I do not understand this story..How can everyone of your in laws be against you for nothing?Nobody challenges him when he beats you?

When you talk about providing,does he have a job?

You talk about kids,meaning there is still sex going on in the marriage?wow!

2K for stew and soup every week?I dont know what that can buy in Nigerian in the market right now so i do not know if the money is big or small to make the food you mentioned.

You know what?...Go and make peace with your MIL and others and try to get them to talk to this violent machine you married.

I am also taking it into consideration that this is a one sided story...There are three sides to every story.

..Your parents cannot intervene?