In the law of torts,Retributive justice is a legal principal that dictates that punishment for a crime is acceptable as long as it is a proportionate response to the crime committed....so when you commit a crime and hurt someone close to you and then you walk away and give your life to christ and begin to relax,someone close to you does same to you,what do you do?
Do you understand?
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
GOOD JOB VERSUS LOVE
Stella,
I have a pressing issue which I want you and BV's to give views on whether I am wrong or right.
I am 28years old in a relationship with a man of 32yrs for 2years now. He has made intentions of having a future with me and made an unofficial visit to my folks last year July.unfortunately finances has been an issue and has caused a delay in finalizing these walking down the aisle dreams. He is a graduate and has applied for jobs all to no avail.However, we are hoping it all works out this year because I am on immerse pressure to settle now from my family as my younger one is married with 3 kids.
My family liked him during the visit and saw all the potentials he has but then i am still been told not to put all my eggs in a basket so I dont get disappointed.(my older sister was disappointed by a suitor in the past after payment of dowry) and my family is hoping it doesnt happen to me.
I have made them know I am confident on this.
My family stays in Lagos and he stays in Owerri,because I didnt want distance, I worked out my NYSC to be posted to Owerri and rounded up this February..I have a job now, though its temporary but at least it puts food on my table. The problem now is, I was told to get my CV for a very good job in Lagos. A job that I could be paid 300k the least,and which will require I move to Lagos.I submitted my CV and now it is causing issues between both of us..
He is saying I am putting money before the love we share and I am not having my dreams streamlined with his...I have tried to make him see that if I get this job, it's for the better and since he doesnt have anything doing yet in Owerri, could move down to Lagos and who knows something could come up.. He has come to a conclusion that i am letting my family have so much control over me...
Please everyone , am I wrong here??
Honey i dont know what to say here to you but the worst thing that can happen to anyone is to be saddled with a lover/spouse who is a dream killer and it sounds like you are in love with one.
Dream killers will kill whatever dream you have and force you to believe and encourage theirs and their best weapon is emotional blackmail.
If you get the job,take it abeg!!!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
THE LAW OF RETRIBUTIVE JUSTICE AT WORK...?
As I write this my heart is breaking and I'm wondering if the sins of my past are coming back to haunt me. I am 31 yrs old and have been married for 4 years with no child to show for it. I think I have a weak cervix ,Bc I have been pregnant 3 times and have lost all of them. Sadly in the last 2 years I have failed to get pregnant again. When I was younger in uni I had boyfriends that would take care of me, buy me things to supplement the allowance my parents gave me, normal uni girl stuff. Shortly after uni, I lost my dad, things became very difficult. I moved to lagos for Nysc and lived with my big cousin who had a rich husband, pls don't judge me for this BV's, I'm ashamed to say I made myself available and started an affair with my cousins husband.
My cousin was always busy with kids, traveling abroad to stock her shop etc so she suspected nothing. She was even happy I was around to keep an eye on her husband. He became so addicted to me and I fell pregnant so he felt it was in our best interest to get a love nest he could visit often. I aborted the pregnancy obviously.He rented and furnished me a flat in lekki, and bought me a brand new car. My cousin wasn't happy with me Bc she felt I was living a fast life with married men and she told me if I moved out of her house she would wash her hands off me. I was even happy Bc it made me feel less guilty. My life was quite perfect even though I fell pregnant 2 more times and had to abort. My lover told me our affair couldn't go on forever Bc I would waste away and he would prefer to introduce me to his friend who really wanted to get married and who would take care of me very well.
He introduced me to this friend of his and we hit it off right away. He was very funny, caring and spent a lot of money on me. We had a short courtship and got married. I was still sleeping with my lover till my introduction, after that we ended our illicit affair. I made up with my cousin and she played a big role in the planning of our wedding. She also became something of a councillor to me and introduced me to her pastor who prayed with me and taught me how to be a better woman in marriage. As a young wife I saw the importance of having a God in my life and I became born again.
I know that God has forgiven me my transgressions, I haven't been able to confess to my cousin but we are extremely close now and she is my rock. Fast forward to now, my husband is a people person, every time my friends come around he likes to stay with them, he dashes them money and takes them out. My friends always tell me I'm lucky, Bc my Husband is so rich and generous. I have this friend that won't stop coming around , dressed very inappropriately, she shows up weekends when she knows hubby will be home and always joins us on our outings, she has even followed us on a trip before , because she was there when my husband mentioned it, started saying I'm lucky and my husband invited her along. I was pissed off Bc I know her intentions are not pure . I pray seriously for my marriage and I often wish death on anyone or anything that wants to put our union asunder.
Not too long ago my friend told me she had started dating a married man who was taking care of her, she also told me she suspected she was pregnant, I told her to take a test, I asked her some days later and she said it was a false alarm . I wanted to send a text with her phone one day Bc my battery died and I'm very sure I saw my husbands number in her messages, it was obvious some messages were deleted so I couldn't make much out of the thread but I'm very sure I saw 'i am waiting for you' and 'tomorrow7pm' before I could read more she snatched her phone .
I asked why she was texting my husband, she came up with one story and tried to make me feel stupid . She also started avoiding me, after that day. When I got home I pretended I wanted to make a call with my husbands phone and I saw her name in his call log. I checked his Whatsapp and saw he had been chatting with her but deleted all the chats.I couldn't snoop as a call came in and my husband is very strict and private with his phone so I didn't have another opportunity. I went on my knees to God and prayed for a God to destroy her life if she is having an affair with my husband.
My husband has also been very distant lately, we haven't had sex in months, he keeps late nights while still reassuring me everything is fine. I confided in someone who told me she's been very suspicious of my friend and my husband Bc she has run into them together in Abuja but they pretended it was a coincidence . She took me to pray on a mountain with a man of God and the man of God confirmed that my friend is having an affair with my husband and is indeed pregnant for him and that my husband is planning to marry her. He advised me to say special prayers for her down fall Bc she is an agent of satan, so we keep casting her to hell.
I have been so scared, Bc my friend is ruthless, she won't hesitate to move into my home and if she is truly pregnant my husband who is desperate for a child will want her as a wife since I have been able to give him a child. My friend advised me to send boys to beat her so she can lose the baby , but I'm a Christian now and feel too guilty to that.
I'm so confused and I don't want to lose my home to my friend. Is there any strong pastor that can destroy this girl with prayers or at least release the hold she has on my husband. If she moves in and births this baby my life is over .
From your narrative,you saw it coming but you still let it happen,One would expect you to be a pro in spotting Of husband snatchers but what did you do?you turned a blind eye!.
At this point instead of running helter skelter,a confrontation of the supposed lovers would be great....what more can happen again?
Choose your words wisely and ask your husband what he is doing with your friend,tell him you know and ask him what will happen to the love you both share.
Maybe you should ask your cousins husband to talk to his friend and maybe...just maybe you should beg your cousin for forgiveness.
@poster 1..pls dont allow that man yo weigh u down..dont even think twice before uou take that job..ive seen situations like urs and trust me it all ended up in painful finger biting regret..some men are not worth it at all..we ladies need to stand up for ourselves
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All I can say to poster two is dat karma is one sexy Bitch and you're reaping exactly what you've sowed. Well, not exactly tho, at least your cousin had kids for her husband which was your ex. Start packing your stuffs and I hoped you saved during the time you were married which I seriously doubt. You sound like the type dat like stuffs to be given to you not earned. As soon as your supposed friend gives birth to that child, she automatically becomes your husband's only wife. Stop praying for her to die cos she won't, you'll be alive to see her birth dat child. And just like you did it to your own blood, she'll also reap her own fruit someday.
DeleteP.S: God forgives better when thr's a confession attached.
Hmmmm Karma is at work o.
DeletePoster 2, what you need to do first is confess to your cousin and beg for forgiveness , if not no matter how many mountains you go without confessing to your cousin, it will be like pouring water on a basket.
When you have settled with your cousin your prayers will become effective.
Poster1: Pls get the job. Both of you are not even yet married. If you were married, I would have suggested you obey your husby.
DeletePoster 2: my dear, as far as I can see from what you said your relationship with God is still faulty. Some times we are the architects of our own problems. God is merciful yet we must do our part by totally yielding to Him bcos when we don't it incapacitates Him to work for us. He said, " My hands are not too short to save or my eyes too deaf to hear, but it's your sin that separates Me from you." Please reassess your life. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you make amends. Remember you still have a dark secrets bottled up in your heart involving your coz. If you have genuinely repented, you would have confessed to her bcos right now she doesn't know you stabbed her in the back. Again, your set of friends is wrong. Told you she was dating a married man and what did you do as a born again that u claim you were? Sorry dear. Take care of the root of your problem and then see God show up for you. Looking for a pastor that will destroy the girl for you? Wrong! I trust God to right every wrong in your life when you take care of the root first. A house can't be built on a faulty foundation. I do not stand to condemn you my dear, but to tell you the truth I love. Restoration may not be automatic when you repair your faulty foundation, but with God the process is sure. How I wish I could speak with you one on one...
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Poster1, am sure u know the answer in your heart. In a country where jobs are hard to come by especially good ones and u want to throw such a rare opportunity away because of a man who is selfish!!!!! If he was wise, he wud have encouraged u to take the job, I can't understand why a jobless person would want u to reject a good job with that kinda pay.
DeleteDr Mofin adviced ladies last week or two weeks ago about leaving their jobs for their bf and that advice came as a result of his friend who left a petroleum job to relocate to d US to be with her boo (boyfriend) at d end d relationship didn't work and she's back to Naija jobless. Shine ya eyes. Luv wears 3D glasses these days since some guys ain't loyal plus their are many bills to be paid that's why we are all looking for better jobs with bigger pay.
What goes around comes around mehn, you did it with your cousins husband, someone is doing it with your husband and someone will do it with the person doing it with your husband.....
DeleteWhat can I say? I know God has forgiven you, I know you'll still have a child of your own but you have to live with the consequences of your actions. Confront them about the affair, they won't kill you. What else can I say, continue being prayerful and stop going to any prophet, you are a prophet on your own. Talk to God. What did the prophet tell you that you don't know already? Those type of men are to be avoided like a plague o.
Poster 1,
This one is hard.... It'll definitely end up in two ways. I personally don't want to live separate from my husband but if we are dating, I can do any thing I want when it comes to job. Talk to him, tell him, you need the job and how no one knows how God can work and make him get a job through you.
Secondly he could just be jealous and truly not want to marry you cos no man in his right senses will not want his gf to have a good job. Not even wife o. Please sef, take the job, try long distance relationship.....
Me I too tire to type long story. Poster 2, how about u being the first person to be prayed to her grave by ur cousin, uhm?
DeleteSee ur mouth. If someone had prayed u dead, would u have been alive to seek repentance from God, let alone get married? U think ur hubby doesn't know u were banging his friend who's ur cousin's hubby?
Abeg goodnight.
Don't mind d idiot, born again my foot. Y? Becos u don finally see husband u remember God? Its women like u that will go 2 FB, put up a woman's chick and tag "leave my hubby alone". Go 2 blog wit stupid comments like "Vivian osakwe leave my husband alone". Then BV like Genny will cm n start helping u with holy ghost fire and all sorts of curses, Queen od this blog will give u a map 2 where u can get original acid. Now u want ur hubby's side chick dead? Huh? Y nau? Na so them pray 4 ur death? Y am I even insulting u? Who knows if were even ur cousin's own karma. This Karma self, only u will appoint someone 2 deal with a person n u will go ahead and punish who ever u sent. I just pity people wey dey go msg 4 u. Hisssssssssss.
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Pls guys, try to find ur way home now!!!
Thanks dear!!!
DeletePoster 1, pls don't allow any man cage you. Even if he is married to you he should be happy with your progress.
DeletePoster 2, pray harder
Bloglorduuuu....nne staff not staffs....would have thought u of all people should know better.
Delete@poster 2, so you now know how painful it always cause the women that their men do cheat on? Oh God, for the fact I never dated any married man despite all am passing through, let no single, married or divorcee ruin my home when am married. Only God can forgive, continue praying
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Poster1 ur boyfrnd is an enemy of progress
ReplyDeletePoster2 our God is ever forgiving,na dat u re swept off with troubles,go on ur knee,for many kneeling in prayers will make u stand up right dear,be strong
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I don't understand how a sensible married woman will allow reckless single "friends" in her home... Kai Babe u dulled!!! She went on a trip with u guys? My goodness! I honestly Dunno how to advice u. But just pray! I dunno if u shud organize boys... I dont even know if it's ok to confess to ur cousin cos it might destroy her home. Just pray and ask God to forgive u. Mind d kind of friends u keep! No friend shud know any details abt ur hubby... There r many bad people in ds world. Go to God in true repentance.. Only Him can make ds ok. Sigh.
Delete1st narrative- go for the job!!
ReplyDelete2nd narrative- Karma is a bitch, has always been a bitch, and will remain a bitch. Go and confess to your cousin, her prayers are still working.
The fact that u didn't confess to your cousin...your forgiveness was never complete!!
DeleteHi Pipi.
DeleteLong time.
Hope you are good dear?
Welcome back.
Poster 1,
Please take the job ASAP.
If he truly loves you, he will understand.
You guys aren't married yet so he has no rights to stop you from relocating just because of his selfish interest.
Never allow anyone drag you down to their level.
All man for himself oh.
If he were the one that got a good job in another town, be won't think twice before moving.
Be very careful with that guy.
He doesn't have your interest at heart (I hope he proves me wrong).
All the best dear.
Poster 2,
LOL
May God have mercy on you.
So you are wishing your friend death cos she is sleeping with your hubby?
Like really?
How pathetic!
You are so funny.
Damn!
So you can't take what you dish?
Sorry oh, you are having a taste of the better pill you gave your cousin to swallow without remorse.
How does it feel?
Sweet? No?
You are worse than your friend you know?
How dare you betray blood, family?
Idi wicked mehn!
Your cousin's husband! How could you!
You and that man can kill.
No pity from me.
Get ready to be de-throned by your 'friend'.
Kikikikikikikiki
She's your karma, accept it in good faith.
Hers will visit her soon too.
It's a vicious cycle.
I'll spare you an advice tho,(if you like disregard it, RME).
CONFESS to your cousin.
Yes! Confess with a contrite heart.
That's the only way you can fight this.
You need her forgiveness and blessings.
Bye.
Hellooo to all the shameless side chics and mistresses in the house?
Hope una dey read?
Kikikikikikikikikikikikikikkikikikikiki
Karma is a faithful bitch!
That's a lie from the pit of hell!....If anyone be in christ...ALL things Don pass comot. As long as she Don confess and Don repent.capice!!!
DeleteKwakwakwa@if anyone be in christ!
DeleteWhy is the poster running to the "mountain"
Is she in christ for real?
When she is out there looking for how to beat up her friend in the trade..smh
That confession is what I do not confess. Cos it would prolly do more harm than good to Ur cousin. Don't even know what to tell u poster, cos its almost clear karma is at work here
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DeleteGenny LA bay bay always blunt, no time!!!!
I'm good dear. Thanks
Genny you took the words out of my mouth. You slept with your cousins husband???? How wicked. Whatever you are seeing now is little compared to what is yet to come. Brace yourself. Idiot.
DeleteNN1: My dear, what more can I tell you, Stella has said it all, if you get the job, grab it. Whats with all these broke guys and acting up sef. He doesnt have a job, he doesnt want you to have your own job, he is a bad belle, i swear. BTW, there are lots of couple whose relationship worked despite the distance.
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Poster two, stella that advice is too soft, am so happy cos u're getting exactly what u deserve, God forgive me but I pray, she moves in and marries ur hubby, u're wicked n selfish and not truly repentant. Its called karma darling, enjoy
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ReplyDeletePoster2.Let the boys beat her but mmehn u let this happen na, you dulled yourself
ReplyDeletelet the boys beat her
Poster 2 biko biko biko, don't even annoy me asn you opened your eyes and let this happen to you, im so mad @ u, u don't know after marriage you would keep away from such friends, I mean your description of the lady, im sooooo upset with you, I've never been in your shoes'oo, but walahi, organise boys, and if the pregnancy is till early, make sure she drinks abortion pills, misoprostol and co and insert inside her, asn do everything to keep ur home, don't go and blame your childlessness on your past abortion, you have to keep trying, you better don't let them use your marriage to act Nigerian film, desperate times require desperate measures better act fast and smart, don't waste any damn time, infact as you dey read begin they strategize, she can't keep your husband's baby, forget this evil people telling you karma, did you keep your cousin's baby?
DeleteYou aborted it so no be karma enithing, don't even believe this karma talk, you better shine your eye and wise up, I been think say you smart ur just dulling yourself, don't even waste your energy praying for her to die, let dem rape her and put it on camera, she's a malu, finish her before she finishes you and anyone that curses mee out back to you and your household, the world is evil so dish evil b4 dey give you in different bowls! Shikena!
P1..
ReplyDeleteTake d job,
If ur bf is not willing to support u, drop him n move on..
Love alone will not pay rent n bills,
Love alone will not buy u loubs n designer dresses,
Unless u wanna do hungry love.
P2 relax n enjoy d karma!
Shey u slept with a married man?
It's only fair if they sleep with yours!
God is not partial,
Only that since u didn't break up ur cuz home,ur friend cannot break yours.
Try ivf..
God has 4given ur D n C's,
But as for ur husband cheating, that one is karma..
So manage it..
Same heartache u dished,same u shall receive.
Simple truth.
Ur married lover prolly told d man u married that he spermatize u too.
Enjoy d cheating spree.
I dont like your comments, they are too harsh and never encouraging, You sound bitter and hurt. Let Joy fill your heart.
DeletePoster 3:
Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.Isaiah 40:8 ESV
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Psalm 37:24
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Psalm 37:24
sorry I meant poster 2.
DeletePlease..... Help ma sister.
ReplyDeleteShe would love to serve in oyo state.
All details wud be sent to d helper. tnks.
That's too late
DeleteSpeechless!!!! God will help you all.
ReplyDeleteMogbe!!! Karma is a darn bitch mehn! @ poster 2. Poster 1 take up that job. Don't let that man stagnate your future. He should be so proud being jobless. If you eventually take the job make sure he doesn't turn you to the bread winner oo. Na so e dey take start
ReplyDeleteBe right back to read chronicles of blog visitor!!
ReplyDelete1] Babes you need to distance yourself from that man, he's bad news. Anyone who's not happy of your success is not a friend. And plz I don't see any reason why you should be desperate to get married just cos your younger sister is married.
ReplyDeleteIt doesn't make sense, marriage is a for lifetime contract so once you sing in there's no going back.
So be very careful!!!
2] Whatever goes around comes around. Am not here to mock you nor judge you. All I want to tell you is to go and confess to your cousin what you did, beg for her forgiveness.
Then sit your husband down and talk to him, men talk a lot. So before your lover introduced you to your hubby, he might've told your hubby everything that went down between you two. So thread carefully and i hope it works out for you!!!
*He shouldn't be so proud
ReplyDeletePoster two this is my face the whole time
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Ihe onye metalu...
Omg! Stella I love u more for that 1st response. How are you so intelligent? You remind me of me honestly
ReplyDeleteposter 1:Pls run to lagos do not walk to the airport oo fly,u think marrying a broke ass bruva is easy right?Not just a broke ass a dream killer?Stop the pity party,even good men become bad men one day now imagine this ogbanje who wants ur life to be like his.Hell No
ReplyDeletePoster 2:I almost fell on the floor laughing @ u.I remember the day i said that most married women who cry wolf were once mistresses n their nemesis is catching up with them ,yes there r those who did not sleep with peoples hubby but you are in the category that makes pepper enter my eyes.
You destroyed ur cousins happiness and u want to look for pastor to scatter ur friends life with prayer,you were preggers for cousins hubby now ur friend has a hold on ur boo n u r shouting.I commend ur friend, in short she shud dethrone u from that house, she shud move into your matrimonial home and bear children for ur dog of a husband so u will know the pain your cousin went tru.N yes i know powerful pastors but i will rather contract them to pray that u must feel every bit of pain ur cousin felt.N yes that home of urs u must loose it oo.
Wait what were you thinking d man u had an affair for intro"d u to his friend, hmm birds of a feather .This is ur KARMA .
I love u babes. God bless u for being honest with the she-devil. Seed time and harvest will never pass as long as the earth remains.
DeletePoster1. left to me I will advise you take the job and also while doing it help him search for something better in lagos so he can move to lag too. Won't advise you to leave d job cos of love which you don't know how sure it is.
ReplyDeletePoster2. your story is pathetic. You've prayed to God now its time to ask your cousin for forgiveness, tell her evrything and apologise. You didn't break her home though you stabbed her at her back. Tell ur cousins hubby so he can talk to ur hubby and quietly confront ur hubby. You can even lie your friend has exposed it all to you that's y you are asking just to get his reactions. I pray God hears you but now is time to apologise to ur hubby.
Poster1. left to me I will advise you take the job and also while doing it help him search for something better in lagos so he can move to lag too. Won't advise you to leave d job cos of love which you don't know how sure it is.
ReplyDeletePoster2. your story is pathetic. You've prayed to God now its time to ask your cousin for forgiveness, tell her evrything and apologise. You didn't break her home though you stabbed her at her back. Tell ur cousins hubby so he can talk to ur hubby and quietly confront ur hubby. You can even lie your friend has exposed it all to you that's y you are asking just to get his reactions. I pray God hears you but now is time to apologise to ur hubby.
Sleeping with someone's husband always have repercussions, always. U can't run away from it. U should start with ur cousin.
ReplyDeleteP1_ that kind of love ..I no do
DeleteP2_the law of retributive justice****u are facing that..pray,fast,confess..God be with u..**we all have sinned in different ways
POSTER 2: ITS KARMA. ENJOY THE SHOW.
ReplyDeleteLADIES AND THERE RECKLESS WAY OF LIFE.
Hmmmmmmmmm.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, I dont think Prayer can solve this o. Not saying God does not answer prayers, nope. But let me ask o, what will be your prayer point if you stand before the great and faithful judge? Will you boldly ask him to punish your friend who is doing the same thing you did to your cousin years ago?
Or will you act like you do not know that this might be the fruit of the seed sown years ago?
My dear, the blood washes away our sins but the consequences remains.
Sorry dear, but this is your cross to bear. I pray God gives you the strength to carry it.
Pele
Poster 2
DeletePrayer point: Mercy
Poster 1
DeleteBe led
Avoid selfishness from any human
Poster 1: better take that job if you know what is best for you. You won't be the first or last to do long distance relationship. Your bf doesn't have a job so he should be encouraging you, not discourgaing you with his selfishness. Take the job! Whatever will be, will be. Love alone can't work.. There need to be compromise and trust!
ReplyDeletePoster 2: hmmmmmmm your story is very epic. You enjoyed sharing your own cousin's marriage... But now that someone is helping you share yours, you don't like it? My dear I'm sorry for what your experiencing and I won't judge you because you've changed. We all make mistakes and God has forgiven you!
I think you may need to come clean with your cousin and beg her for forgiveness then talk to her husband to talk sense into his friend. Keep fasting and praying, don't nag your husband and just pay attention to him. look after yourself, after all, what does your friend have that you don't have? Plan some alone time with your husband, plan activities and do something unexpected. Perhaps your marriage has become predictable and he's enjoying your friend because she has that 'new' feeling.
Your story has made me sad coz it's a reminder of how strong Karma is. God have mercy on us all...
I will pray for the both of you.. xx
She slept with her cousin's hubby nd even got pregnant thrice!! I wnt judge u but if u were wise u wnt have taken ur friends to your house when u know wat u have done nd I suspect that u foolishly told ur so called friends that u were sleeping with your cousin's husband, u r born again and u still have such friends? This tin u wud have stopped since is wat u allowed to germinate to this, aside karma u allowed this to happen nd as for ur cervix, u can go to a good hospital where they can stitch it, may god help you
DeleteJenny You're right! How can a born again woman keep such friends?! Hmmmmm let me go back to not judging lol and the many abortions.. Now you're struggling to take in when before you were flushing out the babies like bowel moments.. Bet you never saw this in your wildest dreams.... Hmmmm God knows best!
DeletePoster 1,
ReplyDeleteBiko,choose your career first before any yeye love...
Poster 2,
Karma is dealing with you and I pray your husband gets married to your friend....
Infact I need to see this your friend to give her a handshake for a job well done..
Lick your wound and move on and if you want God to forgive you,confess to your cousin what you did with her husband....let me stop here cos I don't want to cuss you out...
All your useless prayers to the mountain will not work in Jesus name Amen!!!!..
Amen! Divine retribution at work :D
Delete@the drama queen of this blog, never knew you can advice her like this, still loves you more
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hmmnnn. i'll be back
ReplyDelete1. You said he doesn't have a job yet and its likely the job of 300k clicks for you. Hnmm all I'll say is you had better take the job when it pulls through. If this guy is meant to be, fine but if not let him go if he wants to. The right man will come. He should be helping you both to stand and not otherwise.
ReplyDelete2. This is serious. Karma is playing out here. Approach your husband in a subtle manner about what you know and I pray things works out fine.
This may seem difficult but may actually be the way out, beg your cousin to forgive you of your past misdeeds. This may open your womb to conceive and also quench the fire in your home. I'm saying this because some people's heads are just too strong for you to betray them.
Will you shut up there. What will she gain from confessing? Her cousin will even encourage her husband to throw her out .
Delete@1, so love is more important than ur future, if it were ur broke ass boy friend that got a job of 300k in lagos will he reject it because of u, u be mumu, silly girl, this guy has bad luck so dump him asap or else u will regret it.
ReplyDelete@2, may God punish u, u are looking for a pastor that will destroy ur friend after fucking ur cousin's husband and aborting twice for him u still ve the guts to talk, it's stupid married women women like u who insult single girls on this blog, u are a chronic ashawo, u even nacked ur cousin's hubby even when a date for ur wedding was fixed, karma is a bitch, u just lost ur hubby, no matter what u do, ur hubby must marry ur friend, if u like fast 6-6 for 200 days, God does not answer such prayers, idiot.
Funny enough, which pastor called by God will do something wicked for u,abi na babalawo she bin wan talk before?
DeletePoster 2 why will you be praying for God to destroy your conniving friend, when she's just like you, birds of the same feather...... Look here God does not answer such prayers jare so stop decieving yourself, until you have confessed to your cousin and asked for forgiveness your repentance is not complete. So do the right thing and God will do the rest. No more useless prayers please!!! Enufsaid.
DeleteGbam!!! @ poster 2!
DeleteCome ooo,ds stupid girl must u insult to pass ur info? I see u grew up in d gutters.ur comments are digusting,i just hate seeing ur name here cs u can never advice,all u do is insult pple.pls,take ur satanic spirit some where else bt not sdk.foolish girl advertising herself,i piry pple around u cs u will never impact positively in their lives.pls and pls take ur fustratn out of ds blog
DeleteHmmm, I'm speechless 4 both narratives. Let d pros do their thing.
ReplyDeletePamscrib.blogspot.com
Poster 1
ReplyDeletego for the job in lag
Your bf is just trying to blackmail you emotionally to make you feel bad
Poster 2
*singing* what goes around comes around
Karma is really a bitch!
Imagine dating your cousin's husband
Tufiakwa..you are lucky its not your sis that is pregnant for your hubby...
Now u are looking for a strong pastor to destroy the girl with prayers.....
Better goan confess your sin to your cousin and seek for forgiveness...
Its her 'eleda' that is dealing with you.
P2: This your karma didn't wait at all.
ReplyDeleteYou're a Christian now, all you have is God, He is ever merciful. Her destruction shouldn't be your prayer point, ask for mercy for yourself and liberation for your husband (do not pray amiss).
Exactly my thought! Don't make her your prayer point. Ask for mercy and keep praying.
DeleteWill just read comments
ReplyDeleteThis people should wait let me get home b4 they announce the result.
I pray oshodi will be peaceful, cause that is my root.
Poster 1 - abeg dump his ass and move ahead ,dreamkillers.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 - you dey serious gobe ,women we are our own worst enemy .my dear there is fire on the moutain,tell your husband you know already ,which way forward shekina
Poster 1...nawa for dat ur boyfrnd abi na fiance
ReplyDeletePoster 2...if I hear say KARMA no b BITCH
Poster 1, your boyfriend is the type that if you eventually marry, he will frustrate you into being a housewife because he will be afraid you might earn more than him, get promotions, not be dependent on him, etc. He seems like a control freak and an emotional blackmailer. You think if he got a job that pays well in another state, he will need your opinion before moving? Avoid destiny killers by all means possible.
ReplyDeleteDo not allow your family pressure you into making a huge mistake. Your boyfriend is showing you who he truly is so you best believe it. People like that always want everything to be all about them and once their partner starts to rise and shine, they start sulking and seek for ways to destroy that shine.
Poster 2, when you realized your so called friend was coming around too much, and dressing inappropriately was when you should have put your foot down, severed all ties with her and told your husband your feelings about the whole thing.
Faith without work is dead. Sometimes you have to do your bit while praying and not just sit there. God gave us common sense for a reason. I pray your marriage works out. Ask your cousin for forgiveness and also ask God to please forgive you.
poster 2: You decide to turn a blind eye, is that because you were scared your friend will expose your dirty secret.It's obvious that they are both dating and am sure she will do everything possible to be carry his baby.
ReplyDeleteContinue praying and asked your ex to talk to him if he can.
She would have told d friend about her affair with her cousin's hubby, very unwise,wen u dey do bad thing no allow people know next time
DeletePoster 1, ur guy is jealous and scared.
ReplyDeleteNEVER, EVER lose that job in lagos because of an insecure man!!!
You gotta be selfish.
As for meeting people cos u a not getting any younger, join organisations.
There's FGBMFI, there's JCI. You travel for JCI conventions around the world, you get to meet lotsa people.
You will get married in no distant time, inugo?
Ezigbo nwa....God bless you.
Poster 2, you are getting exactly what you dished.
You were fucking ur cousin's husband without remorse, and now u wish death on anyone who comes near ur husband???
I laff in ashewo voice
I'm not a saint o, but I cannot pity u.
Shebi u a born again?
Ngwa, take it to God in prayers.
She's perggers for ur husband u say?
I'd have given u instructions on how to deal with her with #1000, but u a no longer a badass rascally b!tch
So, do it the Godly way, u hear?
Goodluck to you.
My dear poster1'-you better take that job and dont let that guy pull you back.whats his own?so he wants you 2 to start your lives on poverty?abeg he should chill jare
ReplyDeletePoster 2.had to lol @keep casting her to hell.
My dear all i can say is PRAY SOME MORE and SOME PLENTY MORE.
And i'm not in support of you telling your cousin anything.just let it die.
That your friend sha.....wish you could do the ''sending boys'' shii to her but then.....you all born again and all yeah?
P1 follow ur dreams. Love don't ve address
ReplyDeleteP2. Rephrase ur prayers. Ur prayer point is so "old testament" with a lot of die die.
@ N1: Nne, use your hand and leg and collect that job o. Let your man relocate if he is serious. Afterall they are better opportunities In lagos. Love with your. Head biko.
ReplyDelete@N2: karma is a baaaad bish #side eyes @ married female bvs who always talk about their sexcapdes with sugar sons# I think your husband found out that you had an affair with his friend, and decided to pay you back. As for your friend, well, the signs were there. She followed you on a trip say who die? Mtcheeew. Nne you are a slacker. You allowed someone beat you to your own game. @ this juncture your ex lover has to step in, and talk sense into his friend's head. Oh, don't bother confessing to your cousin, you have repented abi. Don't further complicate issues on ground abeg.
Why do I have this feeling that her dearest girlfriend knows about her sordid past and will tell her cousin all about it?
DeleteBirds of the same feathers!
And oh,poster,your hubby knows you were fuckin' his friend even while you were engaged to him.
You are done for!
I don't have hugs for you,neither do I have consolation words for you. You were very wicked to your cousin.... according to you,you made yourself available to him abi? Probably laughing at her while she formed love with her hubby..thinking you won the trophy?
Please we have a lot of people on this blog looking unto God for different things...my prayers are with them..You know what to do,your cousin is still alive? GO AND CONFESS.
@poster one
Any man that wants to limit you now will definitely do worse after marriage.
What if you decide to do your masters away from him in future? He will also come up with a plan to blackmail you emotionally.
Oh well,get the job first,and move to Lagos.. If there was any sincerity in him,your relationship won't be threatened .He can also apply for jobs in Lagos and come there only when he has got something reasonable. Until then,a distant relationship for now won't be bad. You influenced your nysc posting to Owerri,and settled in there not as a liability right? He should also try to find a job before coming to Lagos to stay.
Don't let your folks put you under any form of marital pressure.
I wish you the best!
Poster one! Are you really thinking about this??? Please what's the address of the company so ill send my CV.
ReplyDeletePoster Two! Seriously I don't know. You should have stopped this from the very beginning. You allowed your friend get too close. Looks like you're scared of your husband.
If confessing to your cousin would help you forgive yourself, then pls do it. I don't think you have much to loose already. And Pls, CONFRONT your friend! Talk to your husband. This is going one way. You confess to your cousin, you loose. You don't confess and your friend takes your man, you still loose. So make the best decision by doing what your heart say is right and confront your fears. Talk to your cousin and be ready for what comes after it. But before then, be sure of how your husband feels about your pregnant friend.
Goodluck!
*#things dey happen!
Btw @ N2: Genny baby go cuss you die today. Heheheheheheheheheheheh
ReplyDeleteI know right lol
DeletePut me down la effizy, puleasee!
DeletePoster1: pls ur happiness is worth more than a dream killer in form of a husband.
ReplyDeletePoster2: karma is a bitch right! Stop seekin God in far away places cos he's certainly not dere, He's close to you. Go down on ur knee n seek for forgiveness of past sins n confess all to ur cousin cos trust me u wld certainly knw no peace till u confess to her n ask d Holy Spirit to bless ur confrontation wit her, let Him be ur words, then hold on to d Lord's promise dat what He has joined together no man can separate n trust me He wld work wonders for u. The Kord blees n keep ur marriage. Amen
Narrative 2; you are here crying and being afraid . You are the worst kind of scum, a pretender . You have enjoyed the good life , even your so called husband was a gain of your evil life and now you want the best for yourself. Claiming born again Bc you are married ! Ha hahahaha I laugh in your face. You betrayed your own blood for several years now you want another woman's downfall and destruction.How do you know your cousin didn't suspect you ? Yet she became a rock and brought you closer to Christ. Your husband deserves to be snatched. Evil slut I can't wait for your friend to take over.
ReplyDeleteGbam!!! Me sef can't wait!
DeleteKarma is a bitch
ReplyDeleteKarma is a bitch,
ReplyDeletePoster I love wat is happenin 2 u, the shoes hurt right? Very good!
That girl will get pregnant and u will be evicted from ur husbands house! Ur can't carry are child amen! More weakness to ur cervix amen!
U r not even remorseful about what u did to ur cuz and u r here prayin 4 thunder to strike ur friend! U hvnt seen anything yet! Chai! This is very sweet. Very soon u will rejoin ur aunty gweggs group! Anu mpama
God doesn't sleep, what u sow, u will reap
Madam you are not a saint please take it easy on her!
DeleteI tire, Some people dont even think. May all your prayers be answered if your hands are clean. If they are not clean, may all you have said to this poster hover around your head.
DeleteIs it a crime to seek advise on stellas blog? You guys should chill.
Advices like this makes me love Stella the more. You're so matured and a lovely person. Talking to her husband will be the best thing and I advise her be open-minded. Pray more dear and don't go blaming yourself.
ReplyDeleteOh dear,it's not karma
ReplyDeleteCos karma doesn't exist
It's just that Nigerian men stray like dogs
They are all like that and our girls are desperate for riches.
Material babes.
U sef no wise!
Which woman in her right senses would be married and still associate with single friends?
Only the foolish ones like u.
I did runs too,chop money well well and frankly it hasn't backfired and would never backfire cos I'm so smart that I keep DH on check 24/7
Be wise!!
Invite your friend over and poison her food with an abortion laxative
Afterwards stay away from her and relate with old ugly women so u can have peace of mind
As for ur pregnancy wahala
Come to uk!!
They are good with belle matter
Congrats on advance
Mamie baby! I must befriend you! ! Hahaha you are epic I swear
DeleteOhhhhhhh!!! where's the like button when you need it.
DeleteSure you did runs. #rolls eyes. U can talk for Africa hian!
DeleteOld timer prostitute. Devil.
DeleteHehehe mamie ooooo
DeletePoster 2 better give her abortion pills! What nonsense! There's nothing like karma so fix the situation!
DeleteBestest comment. Bvs especially the married women be talking Shit. I laugh in spanish when I realise that 99.9 percent of comments are from the ladies. Guess your husbands don do wetin pain una gan.
DeleteP2, right now you need to be real smart.this is not the time to cry. You only need to confess your sins tto God coz he's the one who forgives. Talk to hubby,if una get money, try IVF, go the USA, dey will do it well for u since u say you've gotten pregnant before. Talk to your cousins husband and ask him if he ever told his friend u panshed him. If he didn't that's good. Let him help beg hubby. Try desperately to get pregnant, she might deliver her baby,there's nothing you can do about that. But if you can get pregnant as well, then u remain number one.
P.S: when u go for IVF, tell them u want twins. All the best
Ahahahahahaha....u wee not kill sumborry o
DeleteMamie you must enjoy me lol! But madam you did wrong may God intervene in your situation
DeleteLmaooo
DeleteLMAOOO!! I love the fact that BV's are always waiting to hear someone admit they used to do runs coz apparently people that don't do runs don't exist LOL... Mamie I hail you!! Honest woman.. You always have a story lol
DeleteLOL. ..Mamie Craze woman. ....Some ladies have no secrets. ..keep doing friendship una hear?
DeletePoster? Betraying your blood is the worst thing ever....I will never condone it. It hurts to even think of it. God help your home...I really don't know what to say....your hubby probably knows you were passed to him. whatever you decide to do, think long and hard....If you decide to send thugs to beat her, on no account should you confront your hubby o. ..Play the fool. If you decide to confess to tour coz, bear in mind? that your relnship with her will never be the same again...All the best. ..
Judgemental idiots on here be spilling trash. ...Most of them have done/are still doing worse, yet they insult others...God help u.
You all should come back here and take sides with poster 2 when you catch your sister or cousin on top your hubbys dick. Hypocrites.
DeleteNawa ooo......
ReplyDeleteThis one Na real the sin that men do live with them not after them again.
Sorry o poster 2, I dnt know what else to add but I know that my bible tells me that "fro all have sinned and come short of the glory of God " but I know our God is a merciful father. May he intervene in ur marriage and heal all the cracked walls. E hugs.
Poster 2,ntoooor. When u carry another person prick,anoda person go carry your prick#ingrandmavoice.
ReplyDeleteP1,who won the Presidential race?.RCA OR FFK?
N1 Please and please pursue ur dreams...just take the job biko. N2. I will advice u to confess ur sins to ur cousin...and then continue praying for ur home..
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I won't lash you about what you did to your cousin, God is doing that already. My own is why on earth will you allow your friend come and visit you while dressed inappropriately? Let me tell you, I had some friends like that but as soon as I sensed foul play, I cut them off before they could even get to my husband. Why did you play siddon look with your marriage.
ReplyDeleteSide chicks, pls pay attention to this post o. God is a vengeful God!!! Take heed o!!!
She isn't wise, she foolishly allowed friends into her home when she knew wat she has done, if that her friend is married and is not scared of her then she knew the secret cos madam poster told her she was sleeping with her cousin's hubby then
DeletePoster 1, dis is wat my kogi friend calls anya chidenu. U haven't even gotten de job and u guys are already having issues. Nne pls if u get de job (by God's grace u will) go for it. Don't let any bad belle hinder ur blessing.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, u know ur friend and u know wat she is capable of doing, u shuld have avoided her. Don't worry God is in control. He has forgiven ur past and he will surely bless u with beautiful children.
Hmmm, I know who this is. That stupid girl cannot go Scott free. Ure you will be severely dealt with in this lagos if you like be coding your pregnancy. We will deal with you.
ReplyDeleteThe cricket legged men nko?
Delete1. that saw cousin of wife and didn't care but went ahead to commit foolishness
2.or the one who saw and decided to marry a woman whether he knew her past with his friend or not, yet maybe the giver of belle to her friend?
This karma you guys keep talking about sounds partial against women.
Seed time and harvest as this earth remains will not cease (no male or female)
GOD is merciful, confess all to HIM ask for forgiveness, ask for grace to overcome guilt(one favorite tool of the enemy to keep people down) then get up and keep running your Christian race. HIS grace is sufficient for you.
I feel so sorry for u... Inasmuch as it's karma that's biting your ass ryt now, I still will not wish this on anyone. As I'm a married woman myself . you need to just pray to God oooo cos u nid to confess n pray for forgiveness from ur cousin, tho u will be destroying her home (thank you very much) then your husband may just continue strictly with his affair (after all u ve destroyed ur womb, ie. In his opinion, and u were doing d same tin without shame to ur own cousin and this one now has wt he desires most.. ) hmmm... Ur situation bad sha.. I can't lie & u will be living in total condemnation from all around u cos of ur past and hw u deceived them n kpt it a secret n now want urs to be different... It is well with u! ... My dear, I rrly feel for u n ur situation. But I knw that you can't kneel before God and end up in shame... Just pray oooo. Just pray.. Cos if I was d husband hmm.... Karma ain't a bitch!!!!... . Wt u sow u shall reap!......... But God has d final say.
ReplyDeleteVery juicy gist.....this election Monday is fun on sdk........stella u must enjoy me
ReplyDeleteHmmm, I know who this is. That stupid girl cannot go Scott free. Ure you will be severely dealt with in this lagos if you like be coding your pregnancy. We will deal with you.
ReplyDeleteHmm Pls tell us more
DeleteThat your jobless boyfried is a dream killer, RUN
ReplyDeletePoster one , take that job. Your man is jobless and wants to hold you down . If Suffering is your middle name Stay in owerri. How can a jobless man who has not paid anything on your head be asking you to reject a good job when he can't offer you anything . Pls go to lagos and meet big boys.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm narrative num2......na God hand u dey oooo! I pray God intervenes.
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ReplyDeletePoster 1: Any man that has your best interest at heart,would look beyond him and always wish the best for you no matter what.My take is ur boo has a complex and doesnt want you getting to the top of the heirarchy before him and might always have a problem with you if somethin beta than his comes your way.U really need to "think", weigh and stick to ur core values.
ReplyDeletePoster 2:Wow!i pratically ate my heart out jux reading your story,i can almost relate to this.U know wat i hav come to realize? we often pay for our sins indirectly and urs could coincidentally b karma, Two wrongs could never make a right.I take it that u trusted ur husband sooo much so that u ignored all red flags and mayb flaunted certain thins to your friend.
Worthy of note is "not evryone has it in her to tame her beast" reason y u shud b mindful and watchful of your utterances.
Errrrrr now is the time to be logical and not emotional,have a sit out with your friend and get to find out wat resulted to such betrayal,get certain information from her and use it to your advantage,ild advice you involve family and close friends because if shez indeed pregnant then u jux mite learn to accept the new reality and if you can live wiv that den u shud also be able set boundaries. E-HUG
Poster2;nemesis!
ReplyDeletePosterr2;karma!
Poster2:seed,time and harvest!
Congratulations!ur harvest time has come.recieve it with joy.#rme##tongue click#
Final word:u are a very wicked person!
Poster1,leave dat guy asap,cos he is already jealous of d fact u have a job now,hes only been gentle abt it because u are feeding him.if u rise higher and marry him,he will wake up and divorce u for a flimsy reason cos he can't stand it.
@Poster 1, that boyfriend of yours is a dream killer indeed. Just because he's jobless he doesn't want you to move forward but remain stagnated like him. Please follow your dreams and accept that job my dear. If he truly loves u, he would support you.
ReplyDelete@ poster 2, you should seek the wisdom of the lord in prayers for directions. Honestly, don't know how else to handle this.
Poster 2 :I really feel for you what you did was very wrong, sometimes when we are young we think we will be young forever and we behave without Thinking. Thank God you have given your life to Christ, trust God to touch your husbands heart, I think confronting them is a bad idea, talk to your pastor...
ReplyDeleteP1, ehen! You better go and take your job and see if bros wont come and meet you. P2, the Lord is ever faithful. A clear case of what goes around comes around
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Don't mind that bf of urs and go for d job,then watch how what happens next
ReplyDeleteHe won't get a good job and won't let u get too
O ga abu ogbenye buru amosu?
Poster 2:Am sorry but karma has come visiting
Keep praying!!!!
Poster 2 : please if you love yourself take the job , let the guy say whatever if the roles were reversed he won't blink an eye before he dumps you . Biko you deserve better for your self esteem and your future , if not he will use his bad luck to drag you down , then of course he will say you are sleeping around , please shine your eyes .
ReplyDeleteLast poster: hmmmmmm Karma is serving you what you my dear rightly deserve , not only will your friend get pregnant , she will sweep you out of your home in Jesus name , it was okay to pay your cousin back but it's not okay to be served with the same plate , I pray you don't find respite , may the souls of those aborted babies hunt your dirty soul .
May you burn in hell , start packing your load cause another will most definately take your place .
To all you side chicks reading this ,may all of you burn in hell fire .
Amen!!!
DeleteYou must be possessed with a demon! U think God answers such prayers of condemnation? Who the hell are u to condemn anyone to hell? Have u checked ur own life? May u also burn in hell for ur own sins (or are u sinless? Haha yeah right). May all the people u have hurt never forgive u and may their curses haunt u and ur children forever. When ur children sin, may they also burn in hell and never find respite nor mercy either. May ur shameless adulterous husband and father of ur kids burn in hell for his sins alongside his mistress. Finally, may the law of 'karma' pay u back for the evil u harbor in ur dirty, self righteous, devilish heart. Amen!!!
DeleteLwkmd. See as these ones dey exchange generational curses like person wey dey exchange dollar to naira o. Exchanging curse like Xmas gift. Ahahaha see how you guys carry matter for head. Haba. I dey go sleep jare
DeletePoster 1 please go take the job. Your man will come running to you afterwards, P2, I think your case is a case of your past coming back to haunt you. And then, you saw it coming im sure, cos who does that? Allowing your friend full access to your home like she runs it? You must be naive in marriagedom! With all of your experience of sleeping with your cousin's abi sister's husband? Oma se o! God have mercy on you fa!
ReplyDeleteIt was the devil that allowed her to be foolish not to know that u dnt allow friends into ur matrimonial home with the kind of thing she did with her cousin's hubby,who does that this days?
Delete#1, Go for the job! And then see how things will work out with the relationship. Many are praying for this kind of opportunity , don't lose it because of a boyfriend.
ReplyDelete#2, I love the way Nemesis and Karma do serve their dishes hot! Judge you? I won't! Your consicence is already doing that, that was why you sent in your story. But you are not getting any empathy from me either. You are praying for her downfall? If someone has done that to you, will you be where you are today? I will advise you not to confess to your cousin, because that same love she is showing to you now, will turn to hatred that by the time she starts to deal with you, you won't believe your eyes! This friend knows about your affair with your cousin's husband qui? If yes, she might have told your husband. Or she knows some things about you which you all talked about during your good times? If yes, she has spilled all to your husband. My advise is that you carry your cross and lick your wounds in private, rather than looking for a strong pastor to destroy her life, or put them asunder. Your term 'strong' pastor is not what I think it is? # reading in between the lines#
I so much dislike women that sleep with their relative husbands or boyfriends, there is no freaking f****** excuse for it! As long as you have tasted her salt and you still opened your legs for her husband, it is a act of wickedness! A mother of all betrayals! GOD can never be mocked!
Nitty.
#word!!!
DeleteGbamest!
DeleteChimoooooo!!!;@poster 2,,u are dommed!
ReplyDeleteU mean 'doomed'
DeleteYes doomed!!!thanks @peanut....
DeleteP2: you allowed this to happen. I mean wish ex runs girl allows her single friend to come to her house unannounced and skimpy dressed? No 1fuck up.
ReplyDeleteAnd you said she followed you guys on a trip? Maka gini? Mtcheeww.
And your husband takes your friends out and give them money? Naaaaaaa. All these were recipe for disaster and you let it happen. Now you are afraid of your friend. Hmmm. Well then go and learn new sex styles and ask your husband wats up with him and your friend. All the very best
#Ayah Shehu #
Ehe? What is there? Should I dress like a nun Bc im visiting my married friend. If her husband can't keep it in his pants that's her business. And any wife that wants to deal with me Bc im dressing like that to her house will be punished. Mchew.
DeletePoster 1.,,r u a learner??? U saw a 300k/month when graduates are managing jobs with less than 50k a month,and u are still asking whether u are to take the job or not???...pls send me ur mail,make I forward our CV's cos we plenty wey dey find 300k-500k /month ....plssss,help a sister.God bless u in advance...
ReplyDeletePoster 2:-I won't judge u..NEVER!!!
But u see,most times wen we repent,our sins still haunt us cos karma is a mean bitch...
I think u shld talk to ur cousin,open up 2her and if possible (if u have the boldness)confess about ur past sexcapades with her hubby...
There is every probability that she must have suspected her hubby to be cheating and consequentially must have pronounced some curses on Whoeva the 'strange " mistress is...
I smell anxiety in the tone of ur chronicle and I can bet with my left boobs that ur hubby will marry ur friend 'cos of the foetus developing inside of her...
However,be prayerful and watchful and ask God for the grace to face wateva happens...
I won't rule out the fact that u need to have a pep talk with ur hubby and make him understand that he's hurting u so badly...
As for ur frnd,hmmmmmm...
I raise yansh for ladies who allow their female frnds interact with their husbands to the extent of exchanging phone numbers...It was a grave mistake u made...
As a married woman, u shld be mindful of the friends u keep....
***nuff said***
#chysugar
Poster 1.,,r u a learner??? U saw a 300k/month when graduates are managing jobs with less than 50k a month,and u are still asking whether u are to take the job or not???...pls send me ur mail,make I forward our CV's cos we plenty wey dey find 300k-500k /month ....plssss,help a sister.God bless u in advance...
ReplyDeletePoster 2:-I won't judge u..NEVER!!!
But u see,most times wen we repent,our sins still haunt us cos karma is a mean bitch...
I think u shld talk to ur cousin,open up 2her and if possible (if u have the boldness)confess about ur past sexcapades with her hubby...
There is every probability that she must have suspected her hubby to be cheating and consequentially must have pronounced some curses on Whoeva the 'strange " mistress is...
I smell anxiety in the tone of ur chronicle and I can bet with my left boobs that ur hubby will marry ur friend 'cos of the foetus developing inside of her...
However,be prayerful and watchful and ask God for the grace to face wateva happens...
I won't rule out the fact that u need to have a pep talk with ur hubby and make him understand that he's hurting u so badly...
As for ur frnd,hmmmmmm...
I raise yansh for ladies who allow their female frnds interact with their husbands to the extent of exchanging phone numbers...It was a grave mistake u made...
As a married woman, u shld be mindful of the friends u keep....
***nuff said***
#chysugar
@ Poster two - I always tell girls, what goes around comes around! U hurt your cousin who tries helping u, and while at it u felt good. Why are u now running helter skelter? And to think of the fact that as a pro in the game, u didn't know how to shield your home from 'friends'???? Birds of a feather flock together! Ur conscience didn't make u stay away from your cousin's husband and u also keep 'friends' who do not know their limits? I pity u! Deal with it!
ReplyDeleteWhy dnt she tell her cousin's hubby to get someone for her to marry instead of sleeping with him and marrying his friend
DeleteUholalal.. See gobe. Mouth drops*; @poster 2 1st You are surrounded by bad company(friends) 1 is in d process of snatching your hubby, the other dey advice to go beat so d preggy would fall off, another one took you to ori oke nd prophet is advising special prayer forbher downfall. lol. No one has advised you to confront your hubby. Change your friends!
ReplyDelete2.Its just kama playing out here... that's why its good to live right as much as possible. There's really nothing in this life. what goes around cones around.
Awwv and the cousins that would have been of tremendous help in times like this you have dealt with her.
What to do now? Comfront ur hubby, if its what u think then start preparing for the worse and pray to God. Save up sha so u cn start a life when yawa gas because before you know anything alll secrets will he opened. Right now you are vulnerable. Sha I know nothing God can't do since you said you are now with him. Pray, prepare and Believe!
@poster2) You need to beg your cousin for forgiveness
ReplyDeleteAll y'all that said she shouldn't tell her cousin una head correct ones that said she should tell u are worms.
ReplyDeleteDon't confess to your cousin. unless you want to destroy her home an yours.Ask God for forgiveness in truth. His a merciful father. don't know. what to say abt ur friend .my dear u saw it coming .don't. Confront her or husband bc most second wife prepare for the worst battle an she is ur friend who know s some of your secret. so thread with coooo
ReplyDeleteYes she dsnt need to confess to her cousin, God is enough to confess to cos if u tell ur cousin u will regret it, ppl saying confess to her are wicked,do u think her cousin will hug her after d confession?
DeleteI tire o, confess to God
DeleteN1. So you have a good opportunity in Lagos yet you want to DIE in Owerri. Is it everyday you see a job of at least 300k in this harsh economy?! Rearrange yourself biko & leave that SCRUB ass man. Owerri. Of all places. Mscheew.
ReplyDeleteN2. O__________O
Poster1: Any man who has ur best interest at heart will rise above his insecurities and wish the best for you especially when the decision taken is not a selfish one.My take is ur boo has a complex and doesnt want you topping the heirarchy before him and might prolly have issues with you if somethin beta than his comes your way.You should critically "think". "weigh" and stick to your core values.
ReplyDeletePoster2: Wow!i pratically ate my heart out while reading ur story.I can almost relate to it.Do u knw what i hv come to realize?that we often pay for our sins indirectly and urs coincidentally might b be a case of karma.
Eeeeerrr I can bet you flaunted certain thins to ha face reason y we shud all be mindful and watchful of our utterances cuz "not everyone has it in ha to tame her beast".U prolly set off a tone without knwing and she decided to get even.
Newaiz now is the time to b logical and not emotional.ild advice you hv a sitdown/civil communication wiv ur friend(betrayer)alongside a mutual friend and try to find out the reason for such betrayal and den use wateva information you get to ur advantage #note that this is a logical step if u cnt handle it den dont begin. Being emotional has neva solved real problems.
Be sure to involve family members and close friends because if shez indeed pregnant and you can live wiv that den u might as well set boundaries.Goodluck dearie
Poster 1,I really do not know what advice to give...I just pray God directs you aright.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, I won't judge you, coz who am I to do so? Take it to God in prayers. Just as one BV commented, you do not need to seek an MOG,call unto God and he will hear you. Do not let your so called friends near your 'home' again. Never!
RayJay
LADY IGO SAID;
ReplyDeleteDear poster 2
THE Lord taught us to "pray for our enemies . . ." Matt. 5 and not to pray against them. So the man on the prayer mountain is? Good you've "confessed to your cousin" and she prays with you. Yes, let her husband talk to her friend while you keep talking to God in PRAYER AND FASTING. Do not stop until you see God intervene in your case. You can continue to show your husband love and ask questions of concern; that you know he is having an affair. . . etc. Cut off from those friend that tell you to do things that will not glorify Christ and from this very friend that is taking your husbands attention. Concentrate on prayers on your own and with your cousin and any other good friend that wants to help you pray.
I believe your marriage will be saved but if in the end . . . your husband strays, do not stop praying and worshiping God. He has forgiven you since you confessed and repented; see 1 John 1:7-8 etc.
It's well.
Regards.
LADY IGO
Poster two you are a Learner. Are you the first to sleep with someone else's husband . You can't even tie down your husband. After all your years in the game, they have taken your man. My dear don't confrss nada. Go with boys to your friend and beat her to a pulp. Cut her womb out if you must . If you like relocate to the mountain it won't work.
ReplyDeleteThank you everyone for your comments, I am the poster. I am in tears reading them. But pls don't ask me to confess to my cousin because I cant. If I do she will never forgive me and my husband will definitely throw me out. My cousins husband will also never forgive me for destroying his family and friendship. So that is out of the question. I need to teach that girl a lesson she will never forget. I need her out of the way. .... POSTER
ReplyDeleteBia poster,look at your mouth like you need to teach that girl a lesson...you are not serious....
DeleteThings will never work well for you if you don't confess to your cousin....
I would have told you how to handle the girl but no I won't cos you deserve everything that is happening to you......
Be careful with the advice you take hear
DeleteI don't suppose you telling your cousin
You will just end up destroying her marriage. Pls be careful with the advice you take hear be careful
With the way u sound desperate, please don't send assassin to the babe o.
DeleteAhahaha, get her out of d way ke?
DeletePlease don't harm ur friend that's carrying ur baby ahahaha! I mean ur hubby's baby- aunty karma's only doing her job
If you listen to these illiterates here, you'll have yourself to blame. ...Be careful.
DeletePoster please go back and read my advice.
DeleteGOD is more powerful than any boys beating(which is criminal).
Take care to step out in faith in doing the right thing
GOD guide and keep you.
When you have your baby and GOD arrests your husband (pray for that too)come and testify so people will remember that HE is still in the business of arranging things and answering prayers. Be sincere with GOD
Poster1, am sure u know the answer in your heart. In a country where jobs are hard to come by especially good ones and u want to throw such a rare opportunity away because of a man who is selfish!!!!! If he was wise, he wud have encouraged u to take the job, I can't understand why a jobless person would want u to reject a good job with that kinda pay.
ReplyDeleteDr Mofin adviced ladies last week or two weeks ago about leaving their jobs for their bf and that advice came as a result of his friend who left a petroleum job to relocate to d US to be with her boo (boyfriend) at d end d relationship didn't work and she's back to Naija jobless. Shine ya eyes. Luv wears 3D glasses these days since some guys ain't loyal.
P2:Karma is oush oush, you caused this for yourself, marriage without friends keeps one from runing from pillar to pillar...some say its not good to stay without friends but i tell you its so sweet to stay off cos you are free from heartache and backstab.You taking friends out with hubby see where it has landed you. Pray very well and hope newly married babes learn from this. A busy woman that goes to work cook and clean i see no time you will have wanting to see friends ,maybe its a way of showoff to your friends ,sweety face the music .
ReplyDeletePoster 1:
ReplyDeletePlease my sister listen to me.
If that job comes through, take it. Embrace it with your two arms open wide.
And even if it doesn't, don't just stop continually applying for jobs.
I say this because for two main reasons.
First, an arm of the company I work with is into recruitment. You have ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA how much jobs that pay within that salary range are hard to come by for even experienced graduates with several higher qualifications let alone a fresh graduate.
Secondly, there is a misconception that a higher number of divorces are caused by infidelity but the truth remains that majority of break ups are caused by financial pressure in marriages.
If none of you are financially stable, it will cause more friction than you can ever imagine when you get together.
Imagine not being able to pay the rent when it is due, not being able to afford ante-natal payments, not being able to buy baby food and diapers, living from hand to mouth and always begging relatives for money even when you are married.
However, I will still insist you manage your relationship in such a way that even if you take up the job, your boyfriend/fiance will still know you are available for him when he is ready to marry you because I think from what you have said, he is genuinely interested in you.
Poster 2:
I think you 'consciously' permitted your husband's affair with your friend because of the guilt you felt from your previous affair with your cousin's husband
One problem that human beings (particularly Christians) find hard to grasp is the concept of grace and total forgiveness from God.
We always feel we need to 'do something' i.e. pay penance before we are forgiven.
Listen, Jesus Christ said to that adulterous woman "Go and sin no more" end of story. He did not say, go and sweep the whole streets in the city before your sins are forgiven.
You have repented and you have been cleaned. Let go of guilt.
PLEASE I BEG YOU IN THE NAME OF GOD, do not confess anything to your cousin after several years. You might end up breaking her marriage and even your own marriage (cos your husband might hear from her when London Bridge starts falling down).
Make peace with your husband and open up with him and your friend. Confront two of them but try not to be angry in doing so.
I also suggest that you meet your cousin's husband in the presence of his wife (your cousin) and ask them as a family to intercede on your behalf to your husband.
Last and Most of all, PRAY & COMMIT everything to the hands of God and never stop being a loving and respectful wife to your husband because he is second place after your God.
This too shall pass....
POSTER 1, you want to marry a jobless man with all u have read here. Please go for d job, jobs are very scarce nwdays,u may neva find dat opportunity again. DESE MEN ARE NOT LOYAL, neva sacrifice your career for a man xcept ur married, even den. Continue the r'ltshp with him, visit him as much as u can. also assist him in his job search. BUT NEVER MARRY a jobless man. Wait till he's settled jobwise.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2, I have no advice for u, since the moment u started sleeping wit ur cousins husband. I know no1 is above mistake,but I cant just imagine wat wld shift me to stoop dat low.dere are oda married men out dere nau. Guess karma is catching up with you. Pray to God, na only him fit solve dis one...............FOREVER 16
Poster 1: Please wake up and smell the coffee. I don't want to say you are stupid or foolish but you really sounding like one.
ReplyDeleteLet's look at it logically, he has been applying for jobs to no avail; without being told, you know the labour market for Naija is tough. I can show you graduates who are cleaners, drivers, jobless etc all because of 'Naija'.
You are to get a job that will pay, not 100K or 200K but at least 300K & you are still contemplating, let me help you, please give me the job.
This is what oyibo call, a no-brainer
You prefer both of you remain there, unemployed all in the name of love??? You are either new to this blog or come from a very rich family.
Please respect and behave yourself and take the job. If the pay is small, I would have said, leave it but that money, that money fit change person life. He can start business with some of it, assuming you can spare him some money.
Finally, please attend a good marriage course, maybe that will help put some things into perspective.
If you are in Abuja, I can guide you to a very good place.
Finally, tell your family to back off, marriage is not an achievement nor a do or die affair, take your time and look before you leap.
Cheers,
Zadok
Do share the abuja address
DeleteAbuja BVs can utilise the opportunity
Poster 2 honestly there is nothing much u can do. He who must go to equity must go with clean hands. Pray, yes, confront ur husband and not ur friend, then move on. U did worst (ur cousin's husband). Not judging though. If u r truly born again u won't be looking for a pastor to do that prayer. What sort of pastor does that sef? I wish u well.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 use ur tongue to count ur teeth.
I just had to comment.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2- Ntoooin!! If you are really really a born again christian, you won't wish anyone dead. So I suspect you.
If you are a born again Christian, you would know that the bible talks about restitution. Remember the story of zacheaus? He returned everything to people he cheated. Woman, you have to go and 'restitution' yaself. You and your cousin's hubby have to go kneel and ask for forgiveness. God is a merciful God, but there's ALWAYS a price to pay for sin. It would be up to her to forgive you. If she does and shes a christian, let her lay hands on you and bless you and your home.
I give you three months at most, you will take in. #IMO
Go with an elder too. Let the person help u beg. Lathough if your elders are like mine, they will finish you with insult first. Hehehee
Poster 1what sort of question are you asking nau, ehnnnn, abi don't you want to progress? Please leave that dream killer of a boyfriend and find your way to Lagos sharp sharp, instead of him to encourage you to take the job he's trying to discourage you, that is a sign that he's jealous of the progress you are about to make and believe me if he was in your shoes he'll take the job without thinking twice. I believe you have COMMON SENSE please use it ooooooo!!!
ReplyDeletePoster2. God will never kill your friend,remember u were also pregnant for ur cousin's husband is just that u aborted it, so it's d same situation that ur friend is in d only difference is, ur friend is keeping the pregnancy. What u did to ur cousin and urself was very wicked!!! But we can't cry over spilt milk(all the many mistakes u made in d past)
ReplyDeleteLeave all these mountain prayers(am not saying it's wrong), just go to a genuine church and seek counsel from a pastor. God forgives us our sins but we still get punished for doing them wrong things. The blood of those aborted kids are crying against u and the incest u committed is also speaking against u, so u need serious prayers of genuine repentance. Ur prayers should be prayers of MERCY not prayer to kill ur friend because if u kill this one it will be counted as murder against u even if she was killed on ur behalf plus ur husband might still have another girl get pregnant for him.
poster 1..keep asking till somone else takes the job
ReplyDeletePoster 2...please do not confess anything to your cousin,since you have asked God for forgiveness that settles it,just make sure you get pple to talk to DH and start from there.pray God gives you the strength you need
As for the Judges..u all aint saints..m-amie #Gbam
Poster 1 dont mind dat your boyfriend...shoooo do think it is easy to get a job now? you are even tryin to help him and he is forming shina rambo for u...girl pls go for dat job if she loves u he will come for u...I,m a guy and i no what i am talking about.
ReplyDeletePoster 2...Karma don start work o cos d fruit a man sow d same he will reap but not to worry God is in heaven just keep believing in Him while you pray but stop praying for d girl's destruction rather pray for her interest in your hubby to go sour so that she will live to see how kids go full your house 2moro...God doesn't answer murdering prayers o..pls
Poster 1 dont mind dat your boyfriend...shoooo do think it is easy to get a job now? you are even tryin to help him and he is forming shina rambo for u...girl pls go for dat job if she loves u he will come for u...I,m a guy and i no what i am talking about.
ReplyDeletePoster 2...Karma don start work o cos d fruit a man sow d same he will reap but not to worry God is in heaven just keep believing in Him while you pray but stop praying for d girl's destruction rather pray for her interest in your hubby to go sour so that she will live to see how kids go full your house 2moro...God doesn't answer murdering prayers o..pls
Poster 2,,
ReplyDeleteThere are somethings we humanbeings has forget about doing eveils to an innocent or doing to pay good with evil,,GOD in heaven has his own ways to pays evils back,this ur husband maybe never ur own husband becos u planed and get him through decived,,2,,God has answer your prayers but u must go on ur knees to ask ur cousin for her forgiveness together with that ur pastor ,yes it will hurt her and her family stands,but be very much deplomatics about it and asked the holy spirit of Christ JESUS to lead u while going,,this u must do,there is a very big loose in confession,,,u will be fine in spirit of connecting with the holy spirit God after u have confessed to her and all will be much ok again,,go in peace,,from swiss
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteIf I hear say you leave a 300k job for a man who hasn't even married you yet...
Poster 2
How on earth will you allow a single girl to go on a trip with you and your husband??
You sound very remorseful and I believe God has forgiven you. Confront your husband already, you have been in the dark for too long.
I pray God to help you out in this situation.
poster no2: do not complain...u did all that to your cousin...she fed u, was your rock and all but u had no ounce of guilty conscience...my dear you have to deal with whatever your husband does...u got him through your lover and look what u were doing with this so called lover and u think he would have given u better man...quietly reap what u sowed
ReplyDeleteI second your tots Ray Jay!
ReplyDelete@ poster 2, warm hugs from afar.God will heal your home and your womb. Who are we to judge really?
Poster 1 of you like male you use man take do your career. That guy cannot stand seeing u make more progress than him.
Narrative number one I would advice you to take that offer. If he loves you he will support you. Such good opportunities are hard to come by. Love doesn't put food on the table. Trust me I've been there. Leave that broke guy. Narrative number two, I have many words for you but I'll try to keep it short; so you have made your bed and now you refuse to lay in it eh? What your friend is doing to you is nothing compared to what you did to your cousin. I hope you and all your "runs girl" counterparts meet equal and worse fates. None sense. Is it only the mountain? Climb to the sky sef. Now you want to tie scarf on your head and deceive us. Harlot.
ReplyDeletePlease don't call her harlot (don't judge lest you be judged, he who has not sinned cast the first stone)
DeleteShe says she has left that lifestyle behind , even better
Poster1 do you like poverty that much with an inferiority complex man
ReplyDeletePoster2 this is not karma use your brain flush that your friend and her pregnancy out hian na wao for you saw all the signs and you paid a deaf ear.
Poster one Pls leave that broke guy. He's an anchor holding you down. Pls poster two under no condition should you confess to your cousin. Unless you want to lose everything. Her hubby will even deny you. Moreover how do you know your cousin has been so clean. All those trips abroad for her so called business. Move on and keep your hubby no matter what. Drown him in love and hot sex. Your "friend" can do nothin.
ReplyDeleteVery wise advice , forget all these married women traveling for business , when they leave their hubby at home what do they expect . She saw her beautiful cousin at home and thought her husband would go to vigil with her. Abeg deal with that friend and keep rocking hubby jare.
Delete@ Just saying, 1000 likes for your comment.
ReplyDeleteThe Bible says in the time of ignorance God overlooks. I can bet that if she knew God the way she knows Him now she would not have done all those things she did.
poster 1: pls accept the Job...He's not your husband yet, So dat 2moro you will not regret.
ReplyDeletePoster 2:
Am very sure ur cousin prayed the same prayer dat God should punish any girl dating her husband, not knowing the girl was you....SMH
But wait ooooo to all you runs babes...why do u get pregnant for the married men u date?
if u know he's not gonna marry u, why do u still get pregnant?
why not protect ur womb and future?why abort?
if u wanna engage in unprotected sex, why not do family planning?.am not gonna judge you, i pray God answers ur prayers...But pls channel dos prayers to having a child.
@Just saying,beautiful &Godly advice u gave.God bless u so much &lavish u with more wisdom..
ReplyDelete@Just saying,beautiful &Godly advice u gave.God bless u so much &lavish u with more wisdom..
ReplyDeleteKarma is a bitch! A warning to all bitches running after married men. This will surely happen to you.
ReplyDeleteP3:We serve and worship a merciful God.His grace is sufficient for us all.Genuine repentance is all God ask of you. Just let go completely.
ReplyDeleteThis feeling of your past is haunting you and affects your faith and trust in God to answer your prayers.Please while you engage in midnight prayers also follow it up with being a sweet wife.
Mistakes have been made by allowing your loose friends around your home.Did they know about your affair with your Inlaw?
Anyway keep trusting God and pray without seizing. You can also go for deliverance.He is a Deliverance Pastor James on 08033830065. Nkmama (Hope Stella does not cook jollof rice with my comment)
#1: Sweetheart, a wise woman once said "if you play love in a tight room, it will jump through the window". The 2 major issues responsible for the breakdown of marriages are financial issues and sex related issues. A recent poll revealed, to my utter amazement, that financial issues rated higher than sex related issues! I honestly thought with all the infidelity and sexual incompatibility stories we read or hear about both locally and internationally, sex related issues will be higher. This goes to show the importance of financial stability in a marriage.
ReplyDeleteI always advise people in relationships to postpone marriage plans until both are financially stable. If the feelings are genuine, there's really no need to rush into a union both parties aren't well prepared for.
Honey, I think you should accept the job offer. If you sacrifice such a rare and enviable opportunity on the altar of "love", you will end up resenting your boyfriend and that will be the beginning of the end of the relationship. You need more than love to make a marriage work. I know men are usually very competitive but to stop you from getting the opportunity of a lifetime when he is currently unemployed, is ridiculous. Your partner should encourage your growth and not blackmail you emotionally, especially when he can't provide for both your needs. Even if he were a millionaire, I'll still advice you to take the job offer. Assuming you reject the job offer and the relationship ends up not working out, what next?
Sweetie, let your heart do the loving while your head, the thinking.
#e-bearhugs.
Dear poster 2,
ReplyDeleteDon't allow these wicked married women on this blog who did worse things than u b4 they got married to make u feel worse than u already do! Most of them slept with married men,did runs,snactched their friend's husbands and even worse things!Don't confess anything to ur cousin.But wait oh,u dated a married man and yet you couldn't sheild urs from bad bitches...na wah 4 u oh.Don't confront him,keep being loyal,seduce him and pray to God to 4give u and bless u with children.There is nothing God cannot do.As for that frenemy of urs,send some bad boys to rape her until she passes out...she needs to be dealt with!
Sorry dear,ur husband needs some spiritual touch.....do something now b4 its too late!
#2: Oh no, my sweet, you don't get to drop a bomb on us like that and attempt to insulate the backlash with the "please don't judge me" line. Emotional manipulation is kinda cheesy. Generally, I don't believe in crying over spilt milk, I prefer going straight to damage control mode. However, there are instances where I bend my principles a bit, especially if I think the present predicament is still intertwined with the past.
ReplyDeleteForgive me if I'm wrong but your newly found faith comes off more like a defence mechanism when it suits you. It doesn't seem genuine. Clearly, your past is catching up on you and instead of you to humble yourself and pray for God's grace to handle your marital challenges, you've snapped into the killer mode. Restitution is a major part of repentance. I know there are some confessions that should be from your mouth to God's ears or from your mouth to your confessor's ears then to God's.
This isn't about coming clean to your cousin, it's about maintaining a contrite heart and stop feeling entitled to destroy your friend whose actions are incredibly similar to yours, though yours was worse, she isn't even your blood relative. What is Christ-like about trying to ruin the life of another when God has forgiven you a worse offence? Or you think searching for occultic "pastors" in various churches, wears your evil intentions a godly garment? Do you remember the Biblical parable of the of the creditor who wrote off the huge debt of the debtor, only for that debtor to go harrass someone else who owed him pittance and locked him up because he couldn't pay? You claim God has forgiven you so why can't you pray for your friend's repentance and the grace to forgive her as well? For you to wish death for your friend shows you are not yet bornagain. Sweetheart, you can't use God as a spare type. You claim being bornagain so we can't judge your past acts but you tuck your Christianity under your pillow when you want to embark on a revenge mission?
Mark my words, if you make the mistake of causing your friend harm, God's vengeance on you will be colossal. God is a God of mercy but He is also a consuming fire. Your hands aren't clean enough to provoke God's Justice because you will also be adjudged. You quietly enjoy all the benefits of having your cousin in your life and your personal conviction isn't strong enough to at least withdraw from her since you can't come clean?
A lot of women who never slept with a man or a married man, have husbands who cheat. They pray for God to restore their marriages and not for God to kill the other women. You would do well to channel your agility towards praying for restoration of your marriage and quit being a spiritual assassin before your evil prayers ricochet and destroys you completely.
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Poster 1: take the job already, you are young and the world is yours. Your boyfriend would flee in a heartbeat if he was the one that was offered the job. Don't feel bad, you can do long distance for now. If he's yours, he's yours.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: we have all sinned one way or the other but damn, did it have to be tour cousin. Ask GOD To Forgive you. Don't See Any Reason Telling Your Cousin now. You will destroy her home and break her heart. She will never be the same with that kind of news. Forgive yourself too. Confront your husband asap as lovingly as you can. Confront your friend. Find out what's going on but please make sure you tell your husband you know. God has forgiven you. I pray it works out for you. Sorry we all judge you. It's going to be a rough road for you but believe that at the end of the tunnel, you will come out smiling. Stay strong and good luck.
BBM1
Poster 2 it is well. Thanks for sharing your story. We are all not perfect. Today on BBC radio there were discussing the culture of perfectionism. And why Jesus Christ came to die for us.
ReplyDeleteStudy selfish people guilt no hold them. There are ladies who have done worse and have happy homes because they have repented and turn a new leave. Meditate on the woman on the well. And read alot of the bible books Apostle Paul wrote. He was also addressing condemnation. You know the accusser will haunt him for Christains he killed in the name of religion.
So confess that you have forgiven yourself.
Next please be accountable for yourself and learn to love yourself. Be a friend first to yourself and respect yourself. Check your friends around you are they your friends? Define friendship. Be of courage and do not be unevenly yoked. She was carrying the spirit of lust and cunning and you allowed the lady. Don't be heavy with guilt. Ask God to give you the courage to confront the problem.
I have asked God and I ve happily cut off from such Jezebels. But my dear the battle doesn't end there. They are unrepentant and yet they are attacking me to frustrate my life. But they didn't give me life. They have equally gone about to destroy my support system. Yet it's God who gave me life.
Be also wariy of false prophets. Have a relationship with God and Jesus Christ will see you through. Your past is your Past. Forgive yourself of your past. Don't be heavy laden with guilt. If you still guilty and heavy laden then confess to your cousin. I think your guilt is fueled by the fact that your inner circle hold this as a leverage. It's of my own opinion that's why you could not drive away the Jezebel when you initially detected her lustful skills. And your fear has become reality. for she might have used your past to lure your husband. who is hurt from being betrayed.
All is well, this message was delayed by several hours but it's now out there. Pray about it and God will guide your steps.
God bless
You wey sabi chop clean mouth now got played like this? You are not as hard as you portrayed yourself or maybe you let the born again thing get to you too much. Your street cred should always reflect in whatever you do whether born again or not . You've layed your bed, lie on it.
ReplyDeletePoster 1...please accept the job
ReplyDeleteposter 2...Regardless of the fact that you are now a christian...never forget that *No Sinner Would Go Unpunished!! so just sit back relax and allow KARMA play it's game!!...