Sunday!!!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
THE BREAK UP.....
Thank you Stella for this opportunity, now straight to the point....
I met this guy during my NYSC days in 2010 and we were very good friends during that period even after NYSC we remained good friends even though we lived several kilometres apart, thanks to social media we kept in touch. Fast forward to 2013 december we started dating it was a long distance relationship because he was in Abuja while I was in Lagos undergoing a post graduate degree.
We were both in love with each other or so I thought until after I finished my post graduate degree and relocated permanently to Abuja and that was when our issues started. Stella this guy lives in Wuse with his folks cos he says its of no use spending so much money in renting a place in abuja when he has a free place to stay, lest I forget he is a medical doctor in his late 20's like me.
Whenever we want to see he either comes to my house or we meet somewhere in town, along the line I got really curious and was asking to meet someone in his family to at least certify I wasn't dating a ghost ,he would get angry saying he is trying to shield me from his folks especially his mum because I am Edo and his people have negative opinions of Edo girls, that someday he would take me to meet them ,I said ok but what is your house address?
After much persuasion he finally gave me the address but told me not to come checking on him because his folks will not like it. In this 21st century how can a 29yr old guy say his folks dont want him to have a girl friend? I said ok and I didnt go..this guy would rather spend money on hotel bills, help strangers than give me a dime even when he knows I am very broke, if I complain he will say he knows I can take care of myself.
On this day I asked about his plans for us and he said he wont be ready to settle down till 4yrs time and this was in 2014, I said ok but that he should at least meet my parents first which he agreed to but never did. whenever the issue of our future comes up he will get angry and not pick my calls or chat with me for days. He has met my uncle whom I stay with in Abuja and my younger sister but I don't even know where he stays let alone meet anyone in their house.
So late last year I broke up with him, Stella this guy didn't even bother Only for him to call me in January to ask if I meant the break up, can you imagine? I told him yes and he was like is there anything he can do to change my mind I said no and that was all. His response to all the things I told him.was that I am not a patient person that I always want my things done in a hurry.
I feel sad because I wasted 1year of my life with someone who didnt value it but on a second note I am happy I am free at last from all the lies and deception.. I really hope I can love again because I just dont trust guys anymore because I have had other negative experiences in my previous relationships too.
Fellow bvs was I actually not patient or he was just being shady and I did the right thing by breaking up?
You broke up with him without doing your investigations.what made you think he was lying?why didnt you send someone to 'snoop' on the address he gave you?My verdict is that you were impatient...
Some of you ladies will meet a man and immediately begin to plan his wife-ing you,which is not bad until you turn it into permanent nagging
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
NACKING LESSONS 101
Hi Stella, it's high time I voice out my problem, i've dated a few guys and I realised I have abdominal pain during intercourse, it feels like the d**k is hitting my cervix and the pain is unbearable. I've also had situations where I don't feel pain at all. I'm suspecting it's a result of d**k size, the problem now is, I decided d "no sex before marriage" for almost a year now, even though I'm scared of ending up with someone who'll have a large d**k. So I met this guy and somehow I gave in and behold it still happened and of course he's well endowed. Please are there any bv's in my shoes?
how do I tackle this, i've tried different positions it's only missionary that's bearable. Or is it that my body is built to accept smaller sizes (God forbid ooo)
Have you tried red riding hood?LMAO.
have you tried penny in a saucepan?LMAO!
I think what you have is low cervix so you should avoid pounding.This would have gone into the Doctors in house but we dont need real doctors advice on this one...we need sexperts.LMAO!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER THREE
FATHERING ANOTHER MANS CHILD
Stella,
I am a 36 year old man married with children. I have a female colleague who I am quite close to. she is married and has been married for nine years with no children. I have never asked her out and never intended to but we are close. she tells me about her pains and challenges both in her official and private life and I try to counsel her.
I met her husband once at a company end of year party and he cut to me a gentle man. on a particular day in the office she was looking so sad and I could not help but ask her what the problem was but she was reluctant but after some pressure she opened up about her lack of a child and how it was negatively affecting her marriage. I don't know where I it came from but I just teased her that with my wife its "one touch" before she conceives. I just said it thinking it would calm her down and make her smile. It worked. She smiled and even laughed. I was happy that she had cheered up.
We had that conversation last month. Now she raised the issue again and said I should father her child and she is serious. She claimed that her husband appears incapable and has even permitted her to try outside after nine years. She asked me to be a donor. Is this adultery? Will it be a sin? Am Christian.
Will it be Be right Stella?
HIAN!......
you would be nacking another mans wife,fathering a child that would never know its father and walking away with a conscience that will haunt you forever!
Today is Sunday. God bless you all and peace be unto this blog. Ngwa bye!
ReplyDeleteApc leading as I heard !its terrible oo jona betwe do sometin !GEJ till 19""
DeleteJesus!
DeleteHas Stella migrated to team snoop?
Someone pinch me!
All these big prick they are sharing
DeleteDiaris God ooooooo
Poster 3: If e sure for you, go and ask your wife. Rubbish. You people will come here to ask questions you already know the answers to. If not that my wifi is cheap, I for tonguelash you well well. You know what is right and wrong. You no be pikin. Person tell you say she and her husband get problem, you dey talk how your own na one touch. It's what you were looking for she has come to you with. Nonsense. Better face your family and stop this nonsense of opposite sex office bestie that cos it can never end well.
DeleteAmen. Thanks.
DeletePoster One : You did the right thing. The guy never had any good plans for you. He wanted you to be the one to break up with him so that you won't go about saying he dumped you.
Poster Two : Sorry. Have you tried anal sex before? That may be your best option. At least, nothing will be hitting your cervix. Once you try it, it will even be hard for you to go back to the normal way again.
Poster three: Respect yourself and face your work. Don't even think about sleeping with her.
Poster 3, will ur wife be aware of ur plans and approve? *drops mic*
DeleteEwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww anal what??? May God forgive u
DeletePoster 1, you did the right thing. He does not love you, plain. Painful and simple.
DeleteWhy do I hv dis feeling poster1 is sabo and stella I dnt understand your advice today o,impatient ke! And when did u become teamsnoop,Love cannot be contained if u ask me, he was so confident he wasn't gon loose u and u surprised him, if he really really wants u back let him step up his game and stop asking silly questions. You felt like he was wasting your time n u left.
DeletePoster2....I'll leave that for the sexperts as i'm a virgin
Poster3...well done, her husband told her to out n she found u,if u do it once and it clicks u'll keep going back for more, forbidden fruit na him dey sweet pass plus u want to destroy your home with your hands, u're eyeing the babe as well anyways I say u're looking for trouble,let her look for someone else pls
Poster 1, I don't support the fact that the guy wasn't giving you money to take care of yourself. Even if both of you are working, he should still give you something, buy you things.
DeleteMost guys prefer to marry from age 30 and above, your guy maybe be 28, he said 4 years time, that 32 or so. He will feel uneasy the moment you start asking about the future. You didn't tell us when you started asking the guy this question, sounds like few months into the relationship....hmmm, kinda forward. Always let the guy be the one making plans/ talking about the future. You need enough time to study the rship and see if you too would want to take it to the next level- marriage. But it seems you were always having marriage in mind. Please don't rush a guy into marriage. Don't ask a guy to meet your marriage yet when the rship is still new (you are less than a year, why are you worried)
About his house, it's okay for him to allow his folks stay with him since he is not yet married. He may not want to bring you yet to see his folks because he is not thinking about marriage yet. I stayed with my brother for 2 years, he never brought the girlfriend to the house, they gist outside sometimes, at least the girl knows where he lives. At least he gave you his address na, if it were me I wudda paid him a surprise visit sha. Lol, I will tell him I came to drop something for him, I will just meet him outside. With that I will be sure he lives at the address, not keen on meeting his folks yet.
Always keep your options open in a rship until you start planning your wedding
Sometimes Stella dey fall hand for advice sha.. friends from 2010, lovers in 2013 give or take dats 4yrs, since d whole charade ended in 2014. And she says 'imaptience' if dem don do all d dating for 10yrs, wetin dem go do when dem marry ni? Hiaan, oriegwu..
DeletePOSTER 1... u even wasted too much time bfr taking a hike, wtf? At 29 he is scared of folks? Who does dat? I swear on my bra, dat douche face is married.... full stop
POSTER 3... advice her to opt for adoption.. I tell ya, d future is bleak and dat which u plan dikwa very risky.. better still she shud go to a crier bank, an anonymous sperm is better.. mbok
..notice me or I quench...
Poster 2 please read about pelvic inflammatory disease (PID)
DeletePls @ brownsuga. Quit the insinuations.
DeleteAnd for your clarification, I'm not the poster.
Poster 3, really dunno wat to say. It could be a way of helping them out tho, but can u walk away from d child if she gets pregnant? Then for d fact that she's Ur colleague, I won't advise it. If not for that, I'd prolly tell u to do wat Ur mind tells u
ReplyDeleteNo.1: You did the right thing. A year is enough for a serious man to show you what he is about. Don't allow years of your life to be wasted in vain. It hurts but you have cleared the way for a better man.
DeleteNo.2: You could also see a doctor or better still a sex therapist. I hear the cowgirl (girl on top) style helps when the guy has a long phallus, as the woman can better control the amount she can take in. As a christian you don't need to sample around, but pray & believe God will give you the best. Its not all about the organ, but how understanding your partner is.
No.3: Are you sure you are a christian? Can one take fire in his chest & not be burned? You want to complicate your life with adultry abi, & bring an innocent child into the mix. Why don't you ask your wife for her opinion, if you know what you are doing is right? Tell your colleague to get her sperm from a sperm bank, with sperm from sperm donors. She can be artificially inseminated. A very good fertility clinic may also help use her husbands sperm (if he has any) for a test tube baby. What of advising her to pray & have faith in God Mr. Xtian man. Enough said!
DeleteTHANK YOU FOR MOTIVATING ME TODAY. Up till this moment I was close to taking my own life. I have honestly been thinking about the best way possible to commit suicide. My health and financial situation has been the lowest this past years and have nothing worth living for. I live in a country that have the best medical doctors and I'm thankful for that but sickness is No1 reason for being depressed and bankcrupt and oh my, I am in the worst financial situation and I have been desertef by family and friends. I found out what life is about in a big way. I found out that there are many friends for every seasons. Fair weather friends and friends of all seasons. Oh my, oh my!'
My life during my sickness went from 100 to 0 within my own eyes (it was a 360 degree turn. I'm not perfect and I'm so far from being one but I strived so hard to be a friend of all seasons to both my families and friends and found it so hard that I wouldn't have a single soul come to my rescue during this trying period. Like I have said many times at the end of the day, is not the friends that was there when you were high that matters but the friend that was there when you were down. I'm so penniless reason being that I cannot work or run around to do my business for health reasons. I have friends that are super rich both male and female but they weren't coming to my rescue financially and I couldn't tell reason why? Saying I'm suicidal might be an understatement.
People that suppose to be my rock during this trying period were the same one scamming me out of the little money i have. So called fake prophets and pastors taking advantage of my situation all in the name of praying. I'm sorry to say this reason being that we have some good true prophets/pastors out there but so far some of the ones that I thought were real man of God took
my money and ran away thinking that i will not survive the sickness. Some of them borrowed money from me even when I was on sick bed and were no where to be found. ( the heart of human being is evil)
Bills accumulating and the little I get weekly for being disable to work cannot even pay my monthly house rent. My cable has been disconnected for months ( Watching TV is kind of therapic) my phone has been disconnected for days and can only receive calls right now. I have people that their names were being mentioned on daily basis both in print, papers and blogs as being very rich but wish they have been supportive as expected from a friend and only God knows why. I'm going through the worst time of my life with no boyfriend, husband, child,job, money and on top of everything I wish my health is any better. I pray and hope i will give a testimony one day too. Please Stella and BV'S I need all your prayers to come out of this all this trials and tribulations. STELLA THANKS FOR POSTING MY STORY AND GOD BLESS YOU AND TO EVERYBODY FOR READING
Sorry to read this dear anonymous. I can only imagine. I am not good at rendering words of comfort and clichés like "God will do it' etc. As I understand that there are some situations one will go through, that such words coming from anyone would sound annoying. So I'll skip the template.
DeleteBut how can everyone you know desert you? Did you wrong them when all was well? Because, let's be honest, no matter how bad a situation or a person, they'll always be that one person to hang on to. Perhaps you operated a solo 'mind my business" life and that is why everyone has deserted you? Perhaps because u shut everyone out, they do not even know u are ill? Just maybe..
Anyway this isn't the time to scrutinize you, what u need is to be alleviated of your burden. At least psychologically.. as I do not know the extent of your physical incapacity. I deduced from your narrative that u live abroad, so you perhaps are getting the medical attention that u need.
But... Do you need a person to speak with? Or is financial aid what you seek here? Or you simply wanted to rant and you've achieved it?
Forget about friends m'am, forget it. Let's concentrate on your family. Where are they? Are they close by to offer you anything? I'm sorry, I can understand it when friends flee, that's why they are just friends.. but when family members desert you, there's always a tangible reason for it. Please get to the root of it...make peace with them.. having someone to talk to on a daily basis itself is therapeutic. Especially as u live abroad it can be depressing if there's no one to talk to.
Please do not wither away in self pity, open your heart and door to someone so that together u can go through this phase. I know a few may have taken advantage of u becos of ur vulnerability...but dont let that deter u from seeking the help that u need.
Medical ailments isn't likely to kill someone quicker than a desolate heart suffering from loneliness. You'll notice it that as soon as u have someone around u, you'll feel right again as though nothing ever happened. I read from a lady who's very lonely, I think your sickness and being broke is secondary. You need a companion..male or female.
If u take ur life. U would land in burning unquenchable hot fire forever, draw close to God, people have been through worse and survived, my dear, this would pass
DeleteNarrative no.1. U did well. U even left late. All the signs of a surprise wedding waiting to break ur heart are there. His family does not like u, ( wc is prolly a lie as to not give u hope and also, to have a footing for when he wants to kick u out.) he called u d's January bcos, he doesn't have anyone to screw. He waas acutely Conji'fied; Doctors esp those met during service are just looking for playthings. No.2- see a doctor biko. This is 2015 woman. Until u have maggots dripping out, that's when u'll go see a gynaecologist. 3. Conceive by what method? Has her husband seen a doctor? Has she? What was their conclusion? Don't do it. Don't ever do what u can't tell ur wife /children and they will be okay with it.
Delete@ Sisi Eko. I found part of your comment to be not only insensitive but also judgemental. I wasn't trying to
Deleterant and neither do I need your financial assistance but just telling my story on how depressed it is for me. Having said that, I still appreciate your input and advise. BTW.you will be surprised how wicked your own family can be towards you just to inherit your wealthy. Sometimes, people that were not your family have a big impact in your life. Good for you for having the whole world around you. Once again, thanks for your input.
@ Sue - Got u Sue. thanks
Delete@ Sue - Got u Sue. thanks
DeleteAt Sisi Eko. Sisi Elo, where is your sensitive chips? Your comment was totally out of line and insensitive. Did anyone ask you for money? Do you know or realize what it means for someone to not only be depressed but also suicidal? If you have nothing kind or encouraging to say, please zip it up. Depression is a big disease and not to be toyed with. If the disease has been taken serious as should have been, perhaps 150 people wouldn't have lost their lives in that germanwings flight. Why kick someone when they are down? Be sensible and sensitive about your comment next time. To you the Anonymous, please do not give up as this too shall pass. Remember their is always a light after the tunnel. ARISE AND SHINE
DeleteAt Sisi Eko. Sisi Elo, where is your sensitive chips? Your comment was totally out of line and insensitive. Did anyone ask you for money? Do you know or realize what it means for someone to not only be depressed but also suicidal? If you have nothing kind or encouraging to say, please zip it up. Depression is a big disease and not to be toyed with. If the disease has been taken serious as should have been, perhaps 150 people wouldn't have lost their lives in that germanwings flight. Why kick someone when they are down? Be sensible and sensitive about your comment next time. To you the Anonymous, please do not give up as this too shall pass. Remember their is always a light after the tunnel. ARISE AND SHINE
DeleteSisi Eko. STFU. Your comment shows how stupid you are. Depression is a very big disease than you thought and i
Deleteknow first hand
Awwwwww Madame anonymous I didn't mean to be insensitive. God be my witness dear. However, I apologise profusely if I came off as insensitive. I was only trying to understand ur position from the tone in which u wrote in ok? When I asked what u needed I wanted to know how best to solve ur immediate need. I'm deeply sorry I struck a wrong nerve. Please forgive me.
Delete@ Sisi Eko. Thanks and apology accepted.
Delete@ Sisi Eko. Thanks and apology accepted.
DeleteNa sit down read comments I dey.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, try spooning, it may help.
DeletePoster 3, ara apukwana gi o.
You are asking us if u shud Fuck another man's wife...like, u dey case ni?
Why can't ur colleague seek a sperm donor, and the sperm will be inserted artificially?
Must it be u?
Respect your 36 yrs of age o!
Poster 1, so you couldn't even go and check out the address playboy gave to u?
Ontop of dat, he was stingy to u?
Ok!
I gat no words.
Stella abeg which one is penny in a saucepan?
Narrative one, i disagree with Stella. You did the right thing and i applaud you for your decision in leaving him. He seems like he is not committed and he has told you so himself. You will be waiting a long time for someone like that. A man that is serious with you does not even need 3 months before you shows you before friends and loved ones. the only barrier is if he is not living in the same state with his family. this dude (dr) had something to hide. Leave him and meet the special person God has planned for you.
Deleteother story people sorry i cant even remember your case again.
My husband has undescended testicles and my only option for pregnancy was through a sperm donor. I would have preferred a known donor but we got an anonymous donor and I have been blessed with a beautiful child. I never ever dreamt this would happen to me but I prayed and I have no doubt that this child is a gift from GOD.
ReplyDeleteDear bros, you dont have to have sex with her to be a donor. All you have to do is voluntarily donate sperm to the couple if they are in agreement.
Madam Pray your child doesn't marry his/her sibling in the near future.
DeleteGod bless u for this comment.@ Poster 3,I don't know if telling ur wife that u want to be a donor ill go down well with her coz if it were me,I will start looking @ dt ur colleague one kind,but I'm sure u wldnt be doing any harm to her if u only donate ur semen for artificial fertilizing and I also don't think ur colleagues husband will like to know who his child biological father is. U and the lady can do it without letting a 3rd party in.but don't gbensh her O!
DeleteMay God be with that bundle of joy he gave you, it shall be permanent.
DeleteI will then advice the man to tell the woman to follow your suit, she should go to hospital and buy an unknown sperm donor
*Larry was here*
@ anonymous 1645. He won't. He has a GODLY Heritage and his steps are ordered by GOD. GOD is a GOD of order and not of confusion.
Delete@starry Larry. ...aAmen and tthanks
Poster 2,big prick is not for you.
ReplyDeleteLet me ask you,do you engage in foreplay before the main thing?.
Also,check for Fibroids
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P3,sleep with her and tell her to sleep with her hubby the same day too.
You are cultivating while the hubby will plant.
Make love to her,pound her,roll her,gyrate her,shake her,mold her,take her,harass her insides,do all these put at the last minute,PULL OUT.
Do not give her your crude.
Whenever you finish the coital jugunjun,tell her that whenever she is making love to her hubby,let her imagine it's you.(chai).
By so doing,she will give her all to her hubby and a child will come.
(Advice o).
U r nuts 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Deletelmao!cultivating nd planting
DeleteEwu
DeleteNot fibroid ..cysts. It could be an ovarian cyst causing this discomfort ...Pls go for a pelvic scan
DeleteHa
DeleteU r a married woman I suppose... kindly act like one pls!
DeleteHmmm!!! Sex 101 in da house.. Mi liki some IreneB.. Lol
DeleteAnon 19.59,hahahaha. Na blog we dey no be church. So recognize a joke,u hear?
DeleteHahahahaahaahahahahahahaha!!!! This comment cracked me up!! Abeg ooo,, @Stella.. what position is 'Red riding hood' and Penis in a saucepan?? Lol!! Dis blog no go kill me with laugh!!
DeleteP3, Its adultery,
ReplyDeleteP2, I don't know o,
p1, to me, he wasn't serious. Forget Edo or not, can't he even take you home, and just later tell his parents you guys are friends??? So he has just friends from his home town. Its good you left jor. You'll meet someone more responsible and someone that'll love you irrespective of your tribe. Thank God you moved on jor.
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Its better to have no one, than to have someone who is half there, or doesnt even want to be there.
@Mosi_Tash_Jazzy
Best advice!!
DeletePoster 1: my bf and I were just 3months when he started talking marriage , I was very hesitant cos we Wer still in the infantile stage in our relationship, but the point is the dude knew what he wanted from the get go..
DeleteHow can your boo be telling you not to visit his home ??how can u be following him to hotels at Ur age?how can you even stay with him for up to a year ??? Why??
Pls always trust Ur instinct . No Ur not desperate ,yes you did the right thing ..God would give Ur man ok? Thank God you were smart enough to leave that idiot!!!
Spot on.
Delete@Lola I wonder oh, stella dis ur poster 1 advice sef... Babe twas gud u took a walk, dude was obviously not so involved abeg. You'll be fine dear, dust urself up ok
DeletePoster1,
ReplyDeleteYou were very desperate...
Imagine pressuring a 29 year old guy for marriage when he has not even started life...
Thank God you broke up with him cos Abuja guys are so fake and can lit for Africa....
Poster 2,
I hate big dicks as well...
Maybe you can try using a lubricant..,
Poster 3,
A friend in need is a friend indeed...there's nothing wrong with helping her out...please I am begging on her behalf to put a smile on her face afterall it's not new and many couples have been doing it...
Some questions though!@poster 3....no,its not adultery. No, its not a sin. Its a blessing. Common keep ur d..k to urself bo. Hian
ReplyDeletePoster 2 find out if you have fibroids. It could be the location of the fibroids that is causing you pain.
ReplyDeletePoster 3, iwu mmpama!
ReplyDeleteHow dare you ask if it is a sin? Are you a sperm Bank? Nothing upsets me as much as hearing people act like they do not know the gravity of the offense they are about to commit. What you are about to do is called ADULTERY!! It is a taboo in Igbo land and that colleague of yours is bad news. You better run away from her.
Who even told you her husband is aware of this rubbish she is planning? What if she has a venereal disease and you get infected in the process? Have you even discussed it with your wife ( Fear no go let you na!!)
You are here asking BVS if you should go ahead so when your conscience starts dealing with you, you will say Stella and her people advised you to do it, abi?
You know what I think? I feel you are one of those Men who cheat on their wives and feel it's adding another Feather to their cap. Better delete the idea of fathering a child with your colleague and FACE YOUR WORK.
Sharrap u ignorant mofo! Who told u he must sleep wt her bf donating sperm? See d level of ur ignorance. Writing wt ur whole nerves. I can see "akwara" all over ur head. Meshie onu osiso. Iti akwu!
Delete@Dark n Lovely,
DeleteYou nailed it!
Chop kiss.
Poster 3 biko advice her to go for an anonymous sperm donor.
Artificial insemination.
Any good fertility hospital will have a sperm bank.
She should use one! Haba.
It's seems like you both have been eyeing each other.
You both want to use her childlessness as an excuse to satisfy your raging sexual attractions for each other.
Just negodi this poster...
Abeg park well.
Onye oma emeka.
Now you are acting all dumb on us and asking us unless questions.
Hahahahahahahahaha
You think you can fool us?
For your mind, you be good samaritan abi?
If I catch you there eh...
Like you don't know what you plan to do is evil.
If you were so clueless, why didn't you direct this question to your dear wife?
Mcheeww!
BTW, who told you her husband has given her the permission to sleep around for a child?
Ok,let's assume her hubby did, why hasn't she slept around since to get a child?
Why must it be you she wants to "donate" to her?
(Nna see these people oh. This post don dey vex me sef!)
Be very careful man.
Don't allow your long throat for another man's wife lead you into trouble.
Face your work!
Mind your damn business and keep your dick for your wife ALONE!
Gbam!! I second you... Imagine telling a waiting mother that the wife takes in at one shot... You are a senseless man indeed! Oya go tell ur wife's nah
Delete@ anon...busybodi correcter (apologies to the original), has the female colleague not heard of artificial insemination?
DeleteShe asking the poster to father her child portrays the fact that she wants him to sleep with her!!
Cos I believe that's one of the reasons the poster is seeking advice.
I'm sure the female colleague has started picturing herself writhing, moaning and sweating in pleasure under the male colleague.
Shiorr!!
The woman wants it
DeleteThe guy wants it
Ngwanu nu. Mewe ya
I think u were impatient my dear poster 1. Alot of people especially guys are very scared of settling down. Who can blame them with the high rate of divorce atm. God will bring someone else in his time ok...cheer up
ReplyDeleteAss licker
DeleteMy fren smell away.....
DeleteI don't think being ready is the problem ... When a man sees who he wants to marry , he will make it known aLmost immediately and no one will stop him.... I think the problem is that u are from Edo and I no go lie , people they fear their girls .... Dem they fine and sabi fuck but they are very deadly and they can kill and very hot tempered ... Even their men hardly marry them especially Esan girls ..... Na ashawo dem de do oooo , Aisha Buhari talk am so
DeletePoster 1: me feel u did d right tin, a guy dat wld hide his family members frm u after 6month of dating has somethin to hide.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. Guess u need to always b d one ridin him so dat u can control d depth of his ## in u. And if he mst ride u stick to missionary n spoon where u can always use ur hand to adjust ur postures.
Poster 3: u dey ask question wen u knw d answer. Oya go ask wifey n ask am wetin she think..if slap no go land ur face...rubbish
Hehehehe, serious slap o, @poster 3, any decision u take and cannot involve ur wife or that u know she'll get mad about if she ever gets to find out, u need to flee from such.
DeleteSherry's Daughter
Poster 1 abeggg pls don't listen to Stella at all at all at all! You are VERY right to have left him now, thank God its only 1 year, although I dont believe every relationship should lead to marriage but that does not apply when your in your late twenties, ah no more time to waste, you were vere very expedient in your actions.
ReplyDeleteFirstly his parents don't like Edo girls so u cannot even go to his house' AND he says he is not ready for marriage for another 4 years and there is no guarantee thast it is you he will marry. Mehhn girl I like you, you did not hang in there hoping against hope. You saw the situation for what it is and did the needful.
Please hun, do not second guess yourself, if he really wants to marry you he would fight for you, he would have kept trying instead of one cursory phone call.. He is triflin.
Hold your head up high, be the best you can be, stay positive and stay smart. You will surely find the right guy. Try to delay sex for as long as possible in any new relationship, and if you do have sex, be really good at it.
Best advise so far. Ure 28/29, no time to wait for 1 liar. People meet n marry within 4 months to 1 year so what's his story. He ain't ready, his parents don't want Edo. Infact since you don't know his people/ where he stays for 1 year, just know he is playing with you. GBAM! Kudos darling u took d best decision.
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Best comment.
DeletePoster 3,our story is similar,I'm also in my late 20's but d difference is his age(33),he sneaks me into his house,there4 his folks doesn't know we were dating,he's also stingy but gives me when I ask.... I finally had to end it with him when he said he's nt emotional ready to love(means he didn't love me all d while..(7months). I had to end it... I was hurt,but finally got over him.
U did d right thing babe,he wasn't meant for u.
Poster2: Try spooning.
Poster3: don't sleep with her,its adultery.
Poster 1 d guy's downlow homosexual,na dem plenty pass 4 abj
DeleteYou are very right Olufemi.
DeleteBLOG ANALYSER: @1 Abeg u did the right thing. No time for time wasters u are my kind of girl always working nd thinking ahead of time. 4years? He was sincere nah! Thank God u relised he wasn't going any where. A guy who is serious will introduce u to one or two members of his family members as girl friend but pls next relationship don't force or insinuate that a man should meet ur people. BTW I met my hubby around 2010 wen were serving I gave him time to find his feet after a few years we got married last year. @2 let the doctors offer the advise @3 forget it let some one else do it for her. U are abt to go in to something that might destroy ur life nd family. Beware!! Stay away from her. There are alternatives like adoption nd she could use some one else without leting him know
ReplyDeleteOnyi baby, not all men who introduce their girl to their family and friends are serious.
DeleteMy ex's elder bro, wife and kids know me.
His younger sister knows me.
Same with all his friends.
Even his granny.
And everyone was thinking wedding bells will ring soon (except me tho).
2009-2012, before I ended things cos of my own happily selfish reasons.
Did I also mention that he's stingy?
My sisters don't like him.
So, even if a Nigg a introduces his girl to the world, if he's not gon wife her, he won't.
Smfh@P3...To think that u are even married...You are very selfish...Haba..U don't even care about how your wife and three children would even feel.
ReplyDeletePoster 3 Please leave another man's wife alone. She may appear vulnerable but that doesn't mean you should take advantage, have you thought of the what would happen if she does get pregnant? If you really care about her and her well being then pray for them or advice the couple to use a surrogate/adopt.
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ReplyDeletei love sdk
N2: I have the same problem with the poster. But in my own case, it happens everytime I have sex after eating. The pain is something else, its as if something is hittin the insides of my pelvic region/lower abdomen. Due to this pain, I have to wait at least 3 hours after eating to have sex. And I'm a light eater. But I've been celibate for almost 3 years, so I can't say if the pain is still there
ReplyDelete3yrs!!! Pls I have a question is it possible to be a normal sex person and later just become celibate I have been a normal sex person and now my gf wants us celibate is it possible I have tasted it should I now stop tasting it
DeleteNo. Continue tasting.
DeleteBros,she want u to propose before tasting again. So propose n u will see her open her shrine for u to worship in.
Delete1- You shoulda snooped.
ReplyDelete2- Flee fornication. Snop sinning against God and your body.
3- No, its not adultery. Its helping your neighbor. Rubbish.... The evil that men do live after them, you know.
Where is mma cee? I miss your comments. Lady Igo is my new blog crush.
ReplyDeleteDon't fall into that trap. Why are you asking Stella if it's wrong? Why don't you ask your wife? If you can't ask her then you have your answer. You are both married and your rekationship and level of closeness is Innapropriate if you ask me.
ReplyDeleteI'll be back to comment.
ReplyDeleteStill dancing my birthday shoki.
Poster 1: You weren't patient to some extent, u shld have gone to the address to verify that his mother did not like you or he was squatting with the Main Chick.... atleast verify!!!
ReplyDeletePoster 2: try someone smaller for more clarification, u can even audition ur next bf's dick b4 u engage in sex!!! Or u tell them to send a pics of their dicks, some guys still do it!! If u can't stand the pain, then don't try big dicks, but it seems it the size u prefer and like!!
Poster 3: u can donate ur sperm with knacking her, and she needs to let the child no he was fathered by him but ur husband is his/her father, so far everyone can be mature and trusting about it!!! Or u guys shld go to a sperm bank and help her out!!
Poster 1-abeg forget him ,you probably been dating a ghost or he has a wife
ReplyDeletePoster 2.pele ,kehinde will come for your case
Poster 3-no no no ,that is wrong and adultery
P1- D guy ain't loyal and for me.... I can't deal.Do Ur investigation and make your decision.
ReplyDeleteP3: Stella d question is for him to be a donor for IVF.Pls pray about it and follow your heart.But no canal knowledge of the woman ooooo.Nkmama
No the question is not for artificial insemination.. any good fertility clinic has a sperm bank for that.. He just wants to gbensh anoda man's wife..
DeleteP1- D guy ain't loyal and for me.... I can't deal.Do Ur investigation and make your decision.
ReplyDeleteP3: Stella d question is for him to be a donor for IVF.Pls pray about it and follow your heart.But no canal knowledge of the woman ooooo.Nkmama
N1. At least it's just 1 year. What are you crying about? A man is behaving really shady, not taking care of you and worst of all, not sensitive to your feelings. How can he ask you if you meant the break up and if he can do anything to change it? Is that how somebody who loves you will respond? Stella what kind of advice are you giving this girl? First you say don't snoop now you're saying snoop. It's not the first time you are talking like this, stop contradicting yourself. What do you mean she was impatient & nagging when the writing is clearly on the wall. When somebody isn't honest with you, you'll know. Move on
ReplyDeleteN2. Not everyone can tolerate big dicks. You can still cum with a small/medium one as long as the guy knows what he's doing. Dont destroy your womb/be in pain because of big dick.
N3.
Don't even try it. These things have a way of coming back to haunt you in the worst possible way. Don't tempt fate.
I second ur advice to poster one. I don't understand Stella's advice at times. @ poster one, u did the right thing by walking away.
DeleteChronicles toh plenty..!
ReplyDeleteHmmm! For the first article, you did right. A year without meeting anyone is a like going to the farm and not expect crops. And he isn't doing you a favour, you are. A man committed to you will also be responsible for you. Reasons Why Slim/Skinny Single Ladies at 30 Need to Add Some Weight. Kindly click http://thepinkjournalng.blogspot.com.
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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One: ur post just doesnt make any sense believe me
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Two: yu are made for small dicks so accept that fact ok.... Lolx..
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Three: pls dont try it ok..
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Edreamz I want you to fuck me!!!
DeleteTaaaaaaaa#inPatienceOzokworvoice
DeleteLeave our blogSon alone
@poster one::: You girls will just be mumuing ur selves up ND down!!!! So u have been lodging ND fucking someone u don't know his house and families??? Tufiakwa gi!!!
ReplyDeleteIt has happened to me before because the guy stays with his dad and step mom. Nothing new about that.
DeleteNarrative1- Sorry to say but u weren't vigilant. U fell for his tricks. Ur bf stopped planning to marry u the moment his mother complained about it ethnicity.So he played the"my hands are tied card for you" and u fell for it.U did exactly what he wanted u to do:"be the one to break up". That way, no one will put the blame on him.Then,him asking u whether u were serious about the break up or not wasn't cos he wanted u back. Trust me,he found another person with whom he wants to start another relationship with He just wanted to hear ur final stance being the arrogant man he is.I pray u find a compatible partner soon.
ReplyDeleteNarrative2-u may need to see a gyn doctor as u may be having cervicitis or problems wt ur cervix generally. Plus,pls stay away from pre marital sex.Alot of STDs out there that even condoms don't protect against.
Narrative 3- Adultery is a SIN.So don't think by fathering her child,u have helped her and God will now reward u.NO! U have flouted God's injunctions thereby putting ur wife and the husband through emotional trauma. If she wants her child to be fathered by another man,she should end her marriage first.Pls don't be a pawn in that Woman's game.Agreed she is frustrated but she wants to also eat her cake and have it! #likita#....
Ur actually ryt about number 1I am a guy and dats the same thing I did wen I was in the same situation I started behaving shady and waited for ha to end it and I behaved like I didn't want it to end but deres no problem since she wants dat...lolz
DeleteAnonymous, ur head is very there.If u are a lady,then I must say you know how we men think stones.Lol
Delete*we men think atimes*
DeleteHappy palm sunday Stella bae. Abeg wich 1 be penny in the saucepan & red ridding hood. Tried asking Google but na stories & cartoon pix I dey c.
ReplyDeletePoster 2..I have the same issue too.no one to confide in
ReplyDeletePoster 3...U are a bloody useless womaniser..U got close tp dat woman bcos u know her childless state..U wanted to be a shoulder to lean on and later graduate to a dick to lean on..U deliberately boasted about ur 'one touch' expertise..U wanted her to know u are willing to impregnate her..U are actually looking for another man's wife to fuck..Why dontni get busy and act maturedly..Onye oma Cy..Sperm donor oshi..
ReplyDeleteDat woman did not get any permission from her husband to get pregnant outside..She lied to u..Let her go and adopt..9yrs is enough for her to adopt..Stay away from dat woman before u ruin her marriage..
Busybody sperm donor oshi..I pity ur wife I'm sure u did not tell d poor woman what u are are about to do.
Poster 2....What u are experiencing is not normal..Pls visit a gynaecologist..Ur ekmb need to be examined..Sex shouldnt be painful..
Poster 1.....Its good dat u walked away from dat situationship..Dat guy is lying to u..He already has a wife,fiancee or babymama well known to his family..U are just a side chic..Forget dat his Edo women crap..it is just a ploy to scare u out of his house..Dont even bother snooping to his house..Ur discovery will be shocking..Its just one year relationship..U knew something isnt right but u stayed with him outta desperation.Is it bcos he is a medical doctor? How are u sure he is truly a doctor? Who knows,he might be native doctor agwoturumbe..D guy is a time waster..Move on and stop crying over nothing.
For once u commented with sense. I almost loved U if not for...... Ur comment was on point
Delete...a dick u ride on.
DeleteBest comment so far!
DeletePoster1 . ..you are a medical doctor not a hoe. He should be proud of you and if he is not, let him keep it moving.
ReplyDeleteThis type will introduce a hoe they met three months ago to their mama.
Do not let him reduce you to a hoe they shag in hotels.
Stella ukwu sugar, that your advice no make sense.
Ladies. ..stop catching feelings anytime you fuck a guy.
if you can't stop catching feelings. ..use vibrator .
Sex no be food.
Poster2. ..continue until they rearrange your womb.
Poster3. ..Women can be overloyal sometimes. The reason he told her to go outside is because he has children outside.
Donate your sperm to her for artificial insemination.
Except ira another man's wife guga gi
XOXO MYSTERY
Here come d aunty gwegwegwe with her stupid advice..U are good at issuing advice but ur life is miserable..U couldnt even get urself a half man to marry ur old ass..Such a shame!
DeleteEwu where did she say she is a medical doctor? I guess u smoke ur usual indian hemp before reading..Ezi!
DeleteShe is not a medical doctor. She's only in her late 20s like him.Chizoba is right.Read that line and comprehend again.
DeleteNo she is not the guy is the medical doctor
DeleteAgadinwanyibaby Chizoba
DeleteAttend night school not for you to learn how to read
Cos yours a hopeless case
Attend night school so you can sell your okpa while watching the people making effort to read.
By the way ...I am still a fetus, I am in no hurry...kikikikikikikiki
XOXO MYSTERY
Excuse me? @ poster 1.. Stella, She wasn't patient how? From all the examples she cited, it is obvious she was the one pushing the relationship fwd to even reach the one year sef.
ReplyDeleteHow can he not allow her visit his house? And besides, the day he told u that his mother doesn't like edo people is the day u should have waved his ass a bloody goodbye. I mean what fuckery?
That should have been the number one sign. Then he also treated u like a third class citizen, so in ur mind, u thought u had a bf? How could u have been planning a future with a guy whom u didn't know where he lays his head at night? And u were planning a future with him?
OK, why didn't he come to meet ur folks, since his own mother na willy willy? I beg u did right by dumping him. If possible I would have asked that u dump him over again and again. Nonsense
Sis eko I luv u for di,exactly my mind,I swear I nor understand stella advice for poster1,stella u say na u type am,imagine 29yrs forming 18
Delete****LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*****
@ N3 he said donor Stella. Maybe just a sperm donor. He should discuss it with his wife first, and the lady's husband before coming to sdk blog. @ N2: I will sit here and read bvs advice. N1: I don't think you were impatient. Some men just age without. Growing up. What's with the excuse of edo girl bla bla bla? He didn't know you were edo before asking you out? Mtcheeew. Good you have moved on. Find love again but keep your options open. Not every relationship must lead to marriage.
ReplyDeletePoster1.you did the right thing.if his parents does not want edo then look for who will appreciate and marry you. Poster2.since you don't want small dick then manage the big one that comes your way. Poster 3.do not sleep with another man's wife.Gods time is the best
ReplyDeletePoster 2. Bullshit story.
ReplyDeleteGoodbye
Sorry, I meant poster 3's story is bullocks
DeletePoster1:you are right by leaving him.He is not serious about settling down with you.He is only interested in pounding your toto.A man that want to marry you will not be afraid to meet your parents.He will not be afraid to introduce you to his parents.There is no garanty he will marry u after 4 years.Continue being a good girl,you husband will locate u soon. Poster 2: This ur problem get as it be ooo.If u say no sex before marriage,how u go take know sey ur husband prick no 2 big for u.Abeg, select a man wey his thing no go dey pain u during intercouse.Sex is meant to be enjoyed not endured. Poster 3:If your mind dey okey with am,make u go ahead with it.The woman is dying silently and u may be the only person that can end her misery.But make una go test for HIV and other tests.
ReplyDeletePoster1:you are right by leaving him.He is not serious about settling down with you.He is only interested in pounding your toto.A man that want to marry you will not be afraid to meet your parents.He will not be afraid to introduce you to his parents.There is no garanty he will marry u after 4 years.Continue being a good girl,you husband will locate u soon. Poster 2: This ur problem get as it be ooo.If u say no sex before marriage,how u go take know sey ur husband prick no 2 big for u.Abeg, select a man wey his thing no go dey pain u during intercouse.Sex is meant to be enjoyed not endured. Poster 3:If your mind dey okey with am,make u go ahead with it.The woman is dying silently and u may be the only person that can end her misery.But make una go test for HIV and other tests.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: I'm really surprised Stella is saying you were impatient with all you've just explained.. Normally she'd say didnt you see the writings on the wall and that you did the right thing coz he's not serious... She's even asking why you didn't get someone to snoop at his address lol thought she was against team snoop?? Hehehe. Poster to me you did the right thing.. Sounds like the guy was dragging his feet. Once he starts mentioning family and how they won't accept you.. And you keep insisting then you're fooling yourself. Don't go back there.. Find someone else.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: hmmmmm just manage it lol ask your partner to be gentle and not to be pounding you like yam.
Poster 3: well... You can try artificial incrimination? That means you won't have to have sex with the woman in question.. But if you're both serious, discuss it with your partners.. If they don't agree.. Don't do it. But you would have to be active in that Child's life in some sort of way.. If not as a father than perhaps an uncle? But it's a very sensitive topic so I would consult your wife and take it to God in prayer but don't dare cheat on your wife
That's not stella, I think some else helped her in posting this news.
DeleteArtificial incrimination ke? Chineke! Wetin I no go read for this blog! Insemination is what I think you wanted to type. In any case your advice is irrelevant because poster 3 wants to sleep with the woman. He is just looking for underlying justification. Nonsense!
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DeleteLol well duh... You know I meant incemination. Autocorrect will embarrass someone on blog LMAO.. Thanks for the correction hun :)
DeleteHey poster 3 there is nothing wrong in being a speed donor ( I don't know if it's against God's word ) but if people can be surrogate mothers then why not ? You don't have to sleep with her to get her pregnant . If your friend has the financial strength she can go abroad for a sperm donor , things like this it's best the donor remains anonymous to all the people involved because in the long run it can come back to hunt you , so if you ask me ! Has don't do it , let her go abroad and get a sperm donor .......... Okay let me tell you a story maybe you would understand why .... My mum is from a polygamous home and so she had a lot of step sisters and brothers Nd her mum is the first wife , we live here in the states and she helped two of her sisters crossover , fast forward 5 years later one couldn't have a child and she approached the other to sleep with her husband and get pregnant for him so she could get pregnant for them , to cut the long story short , she delivered the baby and fell sick immediately & all this while everybody thought the baby she was carrying was for her husband , she called my mum from the hospital telling her she was feeling strange & finally opened up to her about what she had done & confessed that the plan was to tell everyone she had a stillbirth and the other one had been faking pregnancy also for months , she adopted her sisters child right there in the hospital , and exactly two days later she passed away . Autopsy showed there was nothing wrong with her . My brother people get mind oooo , all I can say is don't do it
ReplyDeleteYour story doesn't make sense.
DeletePoster 1: u should av gone urself to investigate about the address. U should av gone when u feel he is at work. I won't say u were impatient. U were just dull
ReplyDeletePoster 2: no comment
Poster 3: don't father a child with dat woman coz u will regret it later. U av ur own children and ur own wife, let her wait for God's time
For the very first time stella permits snooping mmmmmm poster1 you sound very desperate and young take it else guys will just continue to use you,poster 3 I don't get you,you want permission from us or what? Let me ask a question...how will you feel if your wife mother's a child for another man out of pity? You get long troath,mind your business mister man,is even asking if it is a sin and you are a christian may God judge you if you do such evil against your wife
ReplyDeleteDarling, you were not impatient, visiting him at home doesn't mean he has to introduce you as the woman he wants to marry.He can introduce you as a friend.
ReplyDeleteHow can someone of that age claim a female friend cannot visit him at home? so his parents are home 24 7?
What if you get pregnant and he disappears? Won't it be laughable and stupid that at your age you don't know the address of the person that impregnated you when you are not a teenager?
What if there is an emergency? It could be anything !! He collapses in the hotel ?
That dude was hiding stuff from you, he probably had a serious relationship or had no plans for you, trust me. Good riddance to bad rubbish.
Move on!!
@poster1 : you did the right thing jare because if you ask me I will say u were dating yourself.
ReplyDeleteYou said u both are in your late twenties, n he made it clear that he will settle down in 4yrs time, so were u planning to hold on to him for 4yrs?
He doesn't spend on you bcos he believes u can take care of yourself??
He is a looser
You weren't impatient, u did the right thing
@poster3 : you are a complete HE GOAT
You deserve to be castrated
@poster2 : go 4 small dick then n learn to say NO to pre-marital sex
Poster 1 - sounds like my ex but i made sure i went to his house. The mom was a delightful woman but the bobo didnt want me anywhere near his peeps
ReplyDeletePoster 2 what is your definition of a big and small dick? Try all sizes and decide on whats good for you. Not everyone is built for the cartapillar size dick.
Poster 3 -its not such a bad idea if everyone is in agreement with legal documents signed. That includes yur wife amd her hussy
Poarer 1 u fall my hand sha.Edo babe wey no get liver go check out the guy house!! How u go dey screw person wey you nor know where dey stay.
Poster 1...from what i read from ur story u are in your late 20's, u didnt seem to know any of the guy's family members, he was stingy to u, didnt want to get married for another 4years, by which time u will be in ur 30s, he already told u his family won't be happy with him being with an Edo girl (which Is the excuse he'll give u when he eventually dumps u!) and it took him more than a month at least to contact u after u broke up with him?...my dear, please don't mind Stella, u did the right thing by walking away, otherwise you would have been in that relationship another 3 or 4years only to find out u wasted your time.
ReplyDeletePoster 2...please stop having premarital sex.E no make sense...
Poster 3...There's nothing wrong with it as long as your wife agrees (which I'm almost certain she won't) and if her husband agrees as well. Also you guys don't have to be sleeping with each other for you to be a sperm donor...your sperm can just be collected in controlled environment i.e a fertility clinic or hospital, and the woman can be inseminated with the sperm (but u can't come back in future and try and claim d child)...then it won't be cheating at all and u won't be doing anythingwrong... U will infact be giving a couple an opportunity to be able to bring another human being into the world in love...which is a great thing!
Stella very surprised with your advice for poster1 ooo
DeleteHello........!!!.......poster3....can't u respect ursef n face ur family mr fatherer u asked a question lik a toddler!mtschew weda na sin can u imagine .....
ReplyDeletePoster 3, please try artificial insemination don't knack her abeg
ReplyDeleteposter 2 - go do a scan and check for fibroids.
ReplyDeleteposter 2 - do a scan and check for fibroids.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 you did the right thing
ReplyDeleteposter 2
poster 3 someone was sad that she doesnt have a child and the best you could do was boast about your wife nd her one touch...smh
Ask your wife she ll give you the best advice
Stella, your advice to poster 1 no gel at all. Asides the fact that he refused to make proper introductions to his family members, didn't you read where she said he doesn't take care of her, but would rather do to outsiders?
ReplyDeleteGirl, you did right by dumping his sorry ass.
Poster 1,
ReplyDeleteI totally disagree with Stella on this one. That guy is just after sex.
You were absolutely right to let him go and I am speaking from experience. And please, do not sleep with any guy that comes after him.
I once had a boyfriend like him. He could leave his station and travel for miles just to have sex with me.
Soon as he was done, he would become very distant and tell stories. He would even start talking down on me.
One particular instance, he even came to my house and when I said no, he forced himself on me.
It was all about sex and nothing more.
When I decided to cut him off, he started calling and saying he wanted to get serious. I still dumped him.
He is married now but I am very very happy I did not have anything further to do with him.
I still struggle with the bitterness he put me through knowing deep down that he was just using me but God will see me through.
Stella you have been caught right in the act. Did u just ask the first poster to snoop? What happened to team no snoop...you don't have any excuse. Anyway poster u didnt do Anything wrong cos Obviously d guy Wasn't ready for Anything Serious. It's good that you broke it ofd
ReplyDeleteMr poster no 3..... Fear God oh...this is why I always communication in marriage is essential, you need to be friends with your spouse to be able to tell them every odd, weird, senseless thing that happens in your life....the first time u had that conversation where she opened up to you, did you tell your wife?
ReplyDeleteNow , have you still told her? Youse how you people open yourselves up to temptation? Don't allow the devil use u..#thatsall
Poster 1:::: I doff cap for you oh...you were obviously in a situationship....de fuck man wey fit don marry sef...how could you not have gone to that address just to check it out and find out who's really living there?
ReplyDeleteAnyways, thank God you saw the light, no mind Stella..impatience ko, mama peace ni..#notime4fuckery
I use 2 ve d same problem as poster 2...it started out of no where & has almost stopped, it happens 1ce a while now. I can remember a friend 1ce made a statement dat made me feel d contraceptives I used 4 pcos was responsible. But she sud c a doctor cos I sometimes regret not finding out y
ReplyDeleteI use to ve d same problem as poster 2. It started out of nowhere and is almost gone, happens 1ce a while now. I ad no one 2 talk 2 but I can remember a friend 1ce made a comment dat made me feel it was d contraceptives I used 4 pcos dat was responsible. But she sud c a doctor cos I sometimes regret not doing so.
ReplyDeletePoster 3: u are a Christian and that is adultery..she should go and discuss IVF and other things with her husband..u should not be entertaining her marital problems... Smh I think she is even lying that he husband gave her the permission to go outside...
ReplyDeletePoster 1: u did the right thing to leave him...I have to disagree with Stella..he is behaving like a man who does not want to be serious..let it be...u will find someone better and more serious
Poster1,u messed urself up walahi!broke up without any tangible reason,everything was based on ur suspicion,and u couldn't even honour ur conscience by confirming one!hmmm.well what will be will be!but before then,pretend to reconcile with him,then snoop around that address and even his pone,if what u suspect is so,then walk away forever,but at least u have a gud reason and closure also!
ReplyDeletePoster2,u have a shallow vjay,keep away from big dick_ed' men.
Poster3,shei u can hear urself?how does it sound?#rme#u just wan sleep with person wife,its like u two have hots for each other ever since!so if una wan commit',u two should remember 'diaisGodo!and don't use her barrenness issue as excuse #tongueclick#
She did the right thing pls.
DeleteWhy should she go around snooping on someone who is not proud to introduce her to his family ?
Poster 2: ur case n mine no get difference ooo. My abdominal pains started wen i gave birth to my 1st child i neva did CS n eva since den av been xperiencin it until last 2 wks sunday. I hard a positive mind set bfor goin to church for healin service n i blivd God was goin to heal me. Just lik u na only missionary style dey bearable n its makin our sex life not interestin at all. Tank God i was prayed for n i ave stop feelin d pain for sm time nw. I smtims feel it if my mind set for sex is not dere n i just want to satisfy my hubby. My own mit b prayer it needs urs mit b medical so it all depends on wat u bliv. But i pray God wil heal u bcus such pain is not wat any woman wud lik to xperince.
ReplyDeletePlease,take this Queen Primer
DeletePoster 1, I'm sorry sir but I see no sense in your post. Absolute rubbish suggestion from that woman! If her husband has truly permitted her, why didn't he come visit you and tell you himself? Arrant nonsense!!! Are you the only one available.On the DL, you want to sleep with that woman. yep! You do! Are you now the trader of children? BS! So if you decide to go ahead and she gets pregnant, you think you'll be okay coming home to your other kids while another man you very well know lays claim to your child? And in the future, this child turns out to be superb, what would you do? You think you'll turn a blind eye?
ReplyDeleteSee, this may sound extreme but I don't even support IVF of any kind in any case or the nonsense sperm donor crap, anonymous or not. I believe children are a gift from God. A privilege, not an entitlement, not a right. Children are not to be bought or put together in a lab. If anyone can't have, then I think it's a sign to channel energy and focus on something else in life. If one still desires children and can't have naturally then adoption is the way forward, as they are many who have and are incapable of caring for them. With the amount of people who spend all their life savings trying for children from their reproductive organs, you would think there are no more orphanages and that people have stopped abandoning babies by the road side.
Mr, tell her to adopt! Or go look for somebody else other than you. If you like donate your semen or sleep with her as if you're God who is the giver of life and decides when one conceives.Do it and regret your very existence! Mistcheewww.Crappy question!
Poster 2 ,go and check for PID,big dick cannot cause such pains,see a doc.
ReplyDeletePoster 3 is a thief, he just want's to fuck a married woman. You know what? Another man will fuck your wife too.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, maybe you've got fibroids. You need to go for check up.
ReplyDeleteLADY IGO SAID;
ReplyDeleteFOR POSTER 3; INVITRO FERTILIZATION IS NOT A SIN; BUT WILL YOU FORGET?
I'm a Christian and wife of a missionary preacher/writer. What the scripture calls sin is fornication; 1 Cor. 6. And that means "having pleasure" with another lady or man's wife as long as she is not your wife. If you donate your sperm to a lady in a hospital setting, you did not have sex with her. You only assisted her to have a child (with her husband's and your wife's consent). Of course, you body belongs to your wife; so says the scripture; Eph. 5. So if your wife approves for you to donate to this lady; it's okay. But PLEASE DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HER NO MATTER THE PRESSURE! To know if your mind will accept it think of your wife being a surrogate for another lady friend with the lady's husband's sperm and consent. A case of "do unto others as you will like them do unto you".
Again, know that you mustn't be the donor; she can go for an UNKNOWN" HEALTHY DONOR AND THEY ABOUND IN SPERM BANKS AROUND THE WORLD. In this way, it will not result in "claiming the child tomorrow"; supposing you lose your own kids (God forbid). Cases like this abound and I know them.
LADY IGO WITH REGARDS.
@Irene B - what kind of yeye advicce is that? I hope u were being sarcastic and didnt really mean that.
ReplyDelete@SDK - which one is penny in a saucepan biko? Expantiate fully.
@Poster 1: U were in a situationship. U date a guy and u dont know where he stays? He is either married or has a live in lover and u were the side chick.
@Poster 2: hmmmmnn I no get advice for you jo. Either continue with your abstinence or see a dr.
@Poster 3: U want to sleep with another man's wife? Have you not heard of artificial insemination? U were boasting 'one touch' to a heartbroken woman? U see your life? Tell her to go to a sperm bank and use an anonymous donor. If you must donate, do so anonymously to the sperm bank. Not tomorrow now, you will go and knock on the poor woman's door and ask for your child back. Do not sleep with another man's wife!! Yeye dey smell!!
Olu i commend u 4 this comment
ReplyDelete"Mehhn girl I like you, you did not hang in there hoping against hope. You saw the situation for what it is and did the needful.
Please hun, do not second guess yourself, if he really wants to marry you he would fight for you, he would have kept trying instead of one cursory phone call.. He is triflin."
Poster 1 there's something I noticed about you Fear! If you are afraid you will also attract a man who is afraid. He will exhibit this in a different way. Get over the fact about your age and be confident in yourself that you love yourself. You read the signs and you afraid if you made a right decision. You asking for people's opinions. You are also afraid time is ticking.
Well my dear from all indications this guy worked you out. He played on your fear, being stingy is a no no. When a guy only cares to treat like an accessory abeg keep it moving.
I can tell you guys who I have booted still cry today coz they know the best thing they lost. Their spouses don't give them peace or chance for that rubbish. Marriage isn't a war ground to get something. a Man has to love and protect his wife. The wife has to feel save in his hands.
Make sure you are ready for a relationship and marriage. By His Grace you will also attract a man who is.
Poster 3 you like your colleague. You about to jeapodize your marriage bc you want to help. Abraham Sarah and concubine no teach you lesson? Your colleague doesn't like you she's selfish. In short both of you are selfish. Enuf said. Work it out.
Anonymous 18:09......so if anyone wants to help or reach out to you how do we do that?
ReplyDelete@ Mama. Thanks. Please just keep me in your prayers
DeleteQueen bee are you daft? So all she said is not tangible reason? Read her story then come back and comment....mschweeeeeew
ReplyDeleteLady buchi very stupid comment....ur prerogative not to support IVF but u sound ignorant and don't really know what it entails.....e.g so a man and woman who are married and the wife is u able to conceive due to some factors get their egg and sperm fertilized; then put back in the wife and results to a baby is wrong? How on earth will any normal person say they don't believe that? How is that evil? You obviously are not even born again so what is the children r a gift from God thing you are rapping? Do you think any lab can breathe life into an egg and a sperm? Agreed all this anonymous donor thing is taking things far, but any life created is a blessing from God and are souls registered with the creator...children are your right because if you are created male or female with sexual organs then it is your right to have them...it is only a few cases God will withhold children from anyone I.e David's wife.....while you are not meant to commit sin to have them nothing wrong in using medical science to have kids.....u use medical science for healing and u believe ur own crap.....if u were childless u won't vomit the bullshit u just did.....mschweeeeeew
ReplyDeleteWell said
DeleteHello poster 2, I have been in your shoes, when I got married having sex was so unbearable I would. Stop my husband half way and not continue.. I later found out I had fibroids and it was the location the fibroid was that made sex very painful... I think you should see a proper gynecologist to help you or rather you can go for a scan first to check if it's fibroid.
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ReplyDeleteThank you Doc Who. I share ur views. Esp about corper doctors. I met one who showed me shege. But I've left him to Karma. Poster 1. You did the wise thing. He is not a serious human being. He wont even marry u after d 4 years. Way before then u'd wake up one day and see wedding pics on fb. Pls move on with ur life. He is nothing but a confused, lying time waster.
Poster 3. You are a man with absolutely no morals to even contemplate such a thing. You want to sow in another man's field abi? You are a foolish man. I know in ur mind, you don do am finish. But go ahead and open d door for satan to destroy you finally. You've been warned.
POSTER 1, that guy is either married or is living with his main chick. Stella she's in her late 20's,not 18yrs. 1yr is sufficient time to know we'r he's living. Dis is not even abt marriage or even him introducing you to his parents. How will u be dating sm1 and you don't know we'r he lives.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2, I doubt you have serious issues taking up your life. its sex you are thinking abt. Are u married ? its on top boyfriend u dey say all dese things. Cum back if its ur hubbys dick givn u issues den i'll advice.
POSTER 3, You are very stupid,im sori to say. I weep for ur wife and she will feel she has a husband. NO ADVICE FOR U,IM ANGERED AT UR PURE STUPIDITY. SPERM BANK OSHIIIIII.............FOREVER 16
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