Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

When Cupid Strikes..what do you do?

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

WHEN CUPID STRIKES YOU ALONE.....

Hello Stella my name is ***,I am a single mum and in my thirties. I met this guy and believe me I don't understand myself anymore. I have to google if this is love or infatuation. Lol. But it is serious. The thought of this guy na him full my head. And most times I am worried if am doing the right thing.

The question I want to ask you and my fellow BV's is that is it ok for me to call him or text him or should I just wait for him to call?.

I am afraid and I don't want to give my feelings out\away

And secondly how would I know if he loves me (stupid question I guess).

Please if you would publish remove my name. But I need reply. Thank you. 

One love

Approach him and start up a conversation.invite him out.initiate a friendship that will help you find out more about him and hopefully in the process he will pick up interest but right now you are loving on next to nothing.

Good luck.....When a man loves you,you will know!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

Stella sugar I adore you. You can't hear that enough. I plead anonymity, so to the point. I started a relationship in July 2014. He came in with a kind of vulnerability because of the unexpected death of his girl friend before me. We worked through that since then it's been one challenge after the other but we weather the storm. 

The problem is that as you read this,we are not speaking and haven't been for about 2 weeks because he claims I did monkey business with a guy friend of mine he (boo) gave me permission to see. Did I mention he has chronic trust issues? That's what's killing me because I'm leaving the country for my PGD in June and I'm confused about whether to leave him or continue. A greater part of me wants to stay because apart from little misunderstandings, he's good to me. But the other part wants to give up and go away to start a new life.
Please I need advice ASAP.
Any BV ever worked through a long distance relationship with a partner with trust issues? Or did you just walk away?

If you are not emotionally strong or prepared,a long distance relationship that has trust issues will break you.This is a decision you will make after you relocate and see the consequences and/or good sides.

I wish you love honey!

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REFERENCE - WHEN ONES SPOUSE HAS A BFF OF THE OPPOSITE SEX

It was after reading about the chronicle about the bv whose boyfriend has a female BFF that i decide to send my story so she can learn from it. During my NCE program i had a friend whose name is Aisha,we are so close that my family and her's became family friend,the story am about to share started when we are in NCE 2 .

Her cousin A was transferred to kano to work with one of this commercial

banks,he started showing interest in me but i didn't send him because of the religion difference,i decided to give him a chance after much begging from my friend and him,also after he started saying that i am one of the people that discriminate because of religion. 

I later fell in love with the guy we dated for 2year. At the begining of the

relationship i noticed he had a female friend B whom he calls every

morning and night, after about a year my friend Aisha told me she is

no longer comfortable with the friendship between her cousin A and his

friend B,we confronted him and he said they are just friends i.e his

BFF from his previous place of work. I accepted it as the truth.

 After 2years of dating (April 2010) this my guy broke up with me on Easter

day with the excuse that he is ready for marriage now and that i am a

christian and he can't marry me,but we can still be together until after

his wedding.

Stella that was the worst easter ever for me,that reason was just an

excuse because that was the exact reason i gave for not wanting to

date him. The truth was that he had fallen in love with his BFF B,i

walked away that day and never looked back and with the help of my friend i

was able to move on.

On the other side there is this guy whose is now my horseband chasing

me for years (since 2006 when i just finished my secondary school) but i

didnt even look at his side,well i decided to give him a chance (october

2010) after my break up with A, we did our introduction (december

2010) and got married august 2011. My husband loves and adores me and

i love him too.

If i look back i do thank God always for making A to

break up with me if not i would have missed the best man in the world. We

have everything we could ever wish for,plus a son and my daughter is on the way.  

As for my ex,did i mention he was promoted twice while we were dating,

well i heard he later got married to his BFF in 2013,he was also demoted at his place of work. He started calling my friends to apologise on his behalf,i told them i had forgiven him but none of them should give him my number. Why wouldn't i forgive him? 

God has given me double for my loss,i married before him,had my son before he

even got married and i am living fine in my happy home where my husband

treats me like a queen.

My advice to that BV, please walk away now,the relationship is just 2

months before its too late. This kind of relationship will waste your

time and deprive you of meeting good guys. Dont get me wrong o,i didnt

say having opposite sex BFF is bad o but there is a limit, my husband

also has a female BFF before we married but she gave us space and after

marriage she became my friend too,she even tells me things she cant tell

my husband,she is married now and we are family friends. Now she is even

more of my friend than she was with my hubby. So be wise. Thanks.