Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

Any side chicks in the house? hoping to take over?lol
Dream on dreamer!

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

WHEN LOVE DIES IN A MARRIAGE....

Hello Stella... I've been married almost 4 years now I am blessed with 2 beautiful children and I bless God..the problem is I have fallen out of love with my husband ,in fact I am filled with hate for him..

I am emotionally abused ,he sleeps out, he always finds every reason to demean me,he doesn't respect me,talks to me anyhow. and we could stay in a room for 2 weeks and not have anything to say to each other.. I've been in past relationships and I know what it feels like to be happy..I am so unhappy, I wake up every day with a pain in my chest from too much thinking. 

I hate my life so much I regret Ever setting my eyes on him...oh I am so sad that it affects my role as a mother because I am always moody..I go to bed almost every night in tears...I kneel down to pray and I ask God why...

nothing is as worse as being in a loveless marriage..  He drinks a lot and smokes all the time and would go out for days without even calling his family..i am constantly depressed and I don't want my kids to grow up in this type of atmosphere it is really unhealthy.

I really want out of this marriage but I am confused and fragile I don't have a good job and it is going to be hard... ...I have seen pastors and they all say I should stay and make it work for the sake of my kids but the problem is i am completely miserable.. Only leaving would give me sanity..even his sight irritates me....my fellow bvs do you think I am just over reacting and I should stay or leaving is my best bet?

I am thinking first...like asking myself if i would allow myself stay in this kind of situation....I guess people are different.I would never stay with someone who makes me feel less of a person.Every emotion i give or invest must be given back without me asking...you know what to do darling.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

CONFUSED EMOTIONS

I'm a beautiful lady 24 years of age. I have a good job and fend for myself well. The only issue is this boyfriend matter. I haven't had a stable relationship since 2011, something always goes wrong or I seem to pick the wrong ones. I'm not a picky person but I work with heart. Guys are coming to me but I don't seem to feel anything for them. 

Recently I met this guy and we got talking and I started to like him. He already told me he had a girl friend and I decided to just be friends with him. But he his a really good guy and he does those lil things that makes me like him and I have warned him severally dat he will make me fall for him and he doesn't say anything about it. We hang out a lot and he tells me he likes me a lot too. Now my confusion is that I feel so much for him (something I havent felt for anyone in a long time) and he also say he likes me too but he has a girlfriend and I have asked him what will happen to me and him and he says he doesn't know. He's been with his girlfriend for 2 years and nothing is wrong with their relationship but he likes me and doesn't wana let me go.

Please what do I do? I like him and I don't want to lose this feeling Cuz it's hard to find someone who likes me the way I like him. But do I leave him or not?

Please I don't need any insults but advice only. If you have nothing good to say, please don't bother commenting.

Thanks very much Stella. God bless you.

What you should do?walk away now!

You asked all the questions and have all the answers but you are still confused?there is nothing wrong with his relationship,nothing wrong except that a side chick is waiting to see how she can break it....you are that side chick.

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NARRATIVE CHRONICLE........

Good day Stella. I have a chronicle. It is  not my personal story but that of a woman married to someone who regrettably, I am closely related to. This story sounds concocted but I swear on my life that it is true.

They got married in the year 2013 after a rather tumultuous relationship. Even during the period of courtship, he showed himself by insulting her mother openly. He also asked for his gifts to be returned whenever there was a fight.

Barely a month after the marriage, he gave her the beating of her life. Within three months, he had beaten her thrice: Hitting her across the face and on the head with a belt buckle; leaving open wounds. By this time, she was already pregnant.

The baffling thing is that any time he hits her, he is quick to apologize and even tend to her wounds.

After the third beating and threats to kill her should he come back from a journey he had embarked on and meet her in the house, she called me and I advised her to leave because I was afraid he would carry out his threat. She left but was back with him within a week.

While she was away from him, she opened up and told me all she had been going through.

When he was at work, she was not allowed to sit in the living room or watch tv. She was only to clean the house thoroughly and sit in the kitchen until he came back from work. After which he would inspect the house to see that everything was in order. She is not allowed to eat dinner alone because he believes she would poison his food. So they always eat together. And if she got a second helping for herself, he would kick the plate, pouring the food on the floor.

Whenever they have a fight, she is not allowed to sleep in the room but on the bare floor by the kitchen door.

Whenever he is around, she is not to make any noise. He spits on her for no apparent reason and tells her he hates her. He buys her things and within minutes of giving it to her asks her to return them because she doesn't deserve it.

Barely five months after she gave birth, he beat her and chocked her because as he claims he was speaking to her and she didn't answer him. He threatens her at every instance that he is going to take her child away from her.

And most shocking of all, when they have a fight, she is not allowed to sleep with her five month old baby at night. The baby sleeps with him in the bedroom while she sleeps in her usual spot; the bare floor by the kitchen door. He only takes the baby to her when it cries for its mother.

These are just the highlights. There is so much more to tell.

The perplexing thing is that despite the fact that she complains, she has refused to leave the marriage. Sometimes I wonder why she ever married him because the signs of his temperamental nature had always been there.

You are related to this man?OMG....he is due for a permanent bed at yaba left.

Women who stay with spouses like make me confused...why do they do it?why?why?