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TYING A MAN DOWN WITH LOVE CHARMS AND THE CONSEQUENCES
My story goes like dis.i got married 11yrs ago and blessed with 5 kids.The last two are twin (3months now). I have 4 boys and a girl.
From the day we got married my husband has been cheating on me. He has numerous girlfriends and he even sleeps with older women.i have planned several times to leave him but I just can't wrap my head round being a single mum to 5 young children.
I come from a broken home and it really messed up my life.I love my kids so much and I dont want them 2 go down the lane I went through as a lil child.My boys are really stubborn, dey need their dad's training.
I can take care of them financially because i am a medical doctor it's just the emotional factor involved in broken homes and the way our society sees single mums like you are a hoe.i was recently posted to the HIV clinic in my hospital and the rate of new infection is very alarming especially among married woman.its very very scary.
If my hubby ends up infecting me wit HIV it's going to be catastrophic. I have prayed,fasted and sowed numerous seeds throughout the years but it's getting worse .I have taken the matter to our pastor but no improvement.
I told my friend about my hubby's promiscuous lifestyle and she told me she will take me 2 Benin to tie him down.that for the past 7 yrs she has peace of mind in her marriage because her own hubby was very promiscuous to the extent he sleeps with her house helps so she had no choice but to arrange him.Her hubby is very responsible now and he's always the one that talks sense to my hubby anytime we quarrel about his womanising.
The problem now is I cannot leave him because of the kids and staying is also very scary because of HIV.Please I need mature minds to advice me on what to do.
Please what should I do??? Should I go ahead with the Benin trip which has been scheduled for Saturday.
Thank you bae and blog visitors..
OMG!!! You are between the devil and the deep blue sea.Hmmm my dear i dont support anything tying down oooh.it is better you pack your bags and walk away or stay and face whatever it is you get.forget that Benin trip abeg you.
Na siddon look i dey oooh.
Lol @ tying down, is he a goat abi na rago ne?!
ReplyDeleteYou better get your arse to Benin and tie the hell outta that randy husbnd of yours!
DeleteA virtous woman keeps her home and heaven helps those who help themselves, biko, don't wait till the day you say, "had I known"!
Meanwhile, write down the address o and post it here so I can go too.
SHARONNA
EYou better get your arse to Benin and tie the hell outta that randy husbnd of yours!
DeleteA virtous woman keeps her home and heaven helps those who help themselves, biko, don't wait till the day you say, "had I known"!
Meanwhile, write down the address o and post it here so I can go too.
SHARONNA
You better get your arse to Benin and tie the hell outta that randy husbnd of yours!
DeleteA virtous woman keeps her home and heaven helps those who help themselves, biko, don't wait till the day you say, "had I known"!
Meanwhile, write down the address o and post it here so I can go too.
SHARONNA
Don't mind her. And some people here saying give him condom. will she wear the condom for him too? mshheewww nonsense !! plus you plus your husband - una be goat
DeleteYou better get your arse to Benin and tie the hell outta that randy husbnd of yours!
DeleteA virtous woman keeps her home and heaven helps those who help themselves, biko, don't wait till the day you say, "had I known"!
Meanwhile, write down the address o and post it here so I can go too.
SHARONNA
You better get your arse to Benin and tie the hell outta that randy husbnd of yours!
DeleteA virtous woman keeps her home and heaven helps those who help themselves, biko, don't wait till the day you say, "had I known"!
Meanwhile, write down the address o and post it here so I can go too.
SHARONNA
Poster, do you know the price your friend has paid for the"tying down".. maybe her husbands penis ain't working again..all those shrines, their gate fee is "no going back" once u enter, you've carried curse. Leave or stay put
DeleteMy dear if God cannot save you
DeleteThen nobody can save you. If you dont want HIV, then leave now while you still can!!!
Madam,what are you still waiting for???...
ReplyDeleteGo to Benin with your friend and stop dulling...I know some holy holy sanctimonious people here will tell you not to do so that you should continue praying...
My dear,your life is at risk here...don't make your kids motherless...
Shine your eyes....
choi.... now its gonna be so hard to convince u not to make dat trip.
Deleteu shld visit this blog and learn from Olukwu our native doctor
OLUKWU d native doctor prt 2
"These young girls are so ungrateful"He said out loud.After all, wasn't he the one who gave Amaka her first Charm? And what did he get out of it?Nothing absolutely nothing.Not once did she ever just say to herself "let me sleep here with this old man and ease his loneliness."LIE LIE!!!!!.All they know is; "give me,give me!!!!" They never think about him.
"Baba, I want children....."He mimicked ."Oh!...I want to be rich, I want him to love me......ekwa ekwa ekwa!"
He adjusted his wrapper.It had been falling off his waist for some months now.
He remembered when he was a young man,before the SPIRITS called him to serve.He was quite "a terror" to girls back then.
He smiled at the memory.If it was that time eh?He would've FINISHED Pamela sharp-sharp.
And that's what they used to call him back then(when he still had friends)Olukwu "sharp-sharp".
Now, look at him.Alone and by himself at the age of......... Well.....to be fair, he wasn't really sure of how old he was.His last count was 43, but that was years ago.
As first High Priest of The Spirits, he was forbidden to have a wife or a child.When the time was right, The Spirits would send him an apprentice.As custom, he would teach this apprentice everything he knew till the day he left this world.
"Biko!he said out loud with his arms stretched to the ceiling of his hut.
"Let that day come soon...before I die of Loneliness"
"OLUKWU OLUKWU!!!" The Spirits were calling.
He ignored it.He already knew why they were calling.He was too upset to respond.
"OLUKWU...OLUKWU!!" The voice of the Spirits could be quite persistent it needed attention.Right now he couldn't care less.He preoccupied himself with searching for his Calabash of Kola nuts.......he was feeling a little peckish.continue reading
Your friend is evil,so she tie her hubby?jesus!!!!pls don't go to that benin trip.just focus on your job and lovely kids it is well
ReplyDeleteAnd that was how my neighbor, mama NNAEMEKA tied the husband to stop cheating and this good wealthy painter dropped and became very poor .he even lost all his customers. The funny thing was that this woman started from where the husband stopped. Her own ashawo no be here
DeletePls Dont go o. Am from Benin, and I am pleading with u not too. Pray hard I knw God wld see u thru. Dis tinz always has consequences at d end and it wld surprise u ur friend wld leave u standing.
ReplyDeleteOh Benin pple pls stop falling our hand too Nw.
Abeg let us hear word...
DeleteTying him down does not have any effect o... plenty peeps tie thier husband's, its only in his wife's presence the D will rise..
DeleteFor you to ask us on the blog before travelling, you no get mind my sister. Better travel the road you know.
Close ya legs and buy female condom. That's the solution for you.
DeleteLol.... Me sef tire for Benin things oo 🙊** runs away**
DeleteTie am abeg.Stupid men should be tied.mine is my atm now,i have peace of mind now
ReplyDeleteBenin people...tuale for una oo
ReplyDeleteIs not about tying him to spot cheating,mind you that once you do that ,you have distroyed him. Everything about him will return to zero. His wealth and health will gradually drop.
DeleteJust when you think you've read it all... Madam forget Benin, stop having sex with ur horseband,yes tell him why.. Stay for as long as u still can. May God arrest ur horseband's heart and deliver him.
DeleteLolzz double Tuale for Benin people oo
DeleteHian pack her bags and walk away t where kwa... Stella nwunye Korkus wich kain advice b d@ abi no b u write d@ part? *sipping kunu*
ReplyDeleteMadam, please i will advice you not to go to any native doctor to do what ever ur friend think is working for her. Trust me, it will backfire and the worse would happen. Never give up on God..you've sown seeds, fasted and prayed but never give up. Remember when situations like this gets worse, you're just a step Close to your breakthrough. All God Needs is your faith, clear your mind off doubts...instead of going to Benin on Saturday for that, why don't you go to another church to seek the face of God? Never give up. Go to Liberation City in Lagos and trust me, your solution is on the way. You can watch their live program on Liberation TV or wwww.liberationcity.org
ReplyDeleteDon't spend your Money on any Juju..instead sow again and even if it means doubling it, do it. One Thing is, if you sow on the wrong soil it won't produce anything. Don't just sow in any church all because you want to sow. Sow a seed where you can actual gain from. Wishing you all the best Madam.
Bini Babe
Don't do it.... Don't think about it... It might worked for ur friend. The repercussion can be worse than ur husband's womanizing nature. I pray God touches his heart.
ReplyDeleteMadam DONT DO IT!!!!!!! Your friend is very dangerous. DONT!
ReplyDeleteSo Madam of all the prayers and fasting you've had, you cannot be patient enough to see your seed and mid night tears materialise in the life of your hubby, HABA MADAM.. Remember this Song that Say's I CANNOT BOW BEFORE YOU AND BOW BEFORE MAN, NO WAY! NO WAY!! NO WAY!!
ReplyDelete.
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.NOTE: Raise Your Words, Not Your Voice. It Is Rain That Grows Flowers, Not Thunder..
Me love the song though
DeleteIs it the version by freke Umoh?
let d comments roll in...dicey situation!! sorry ma'am!!
ReplyDeleteHave*
ReplyDeleteThe best person to advice you on this one is Amosu 1.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile lemme sit down, tie my legs and pretend to be a quiet somborri
Madame for a doctor, you are an illitrate
ReplyDeleteMy dear, that it worked for your friend doesn't mean it will for u.
ReplyDeleteIf u think u have tried to make ur hubby change and there isn't any improvement, inform his people and whatever they say to it will determine the next line of action.
Pls don't follow ur friend anywhere, it doesn't end well...stories like dt end on a sad note cos the devil doesn't give u anything freely without collecting back
Think about this and act wisely.
U av 5 beautiful children to cater for,
Dnt let d devil into ur home.
Move out
if u think u can't cope with his attitude.
Stay strong dear!
I am proud to have you as a daughter.
DeleteBeautiful advice!
Chop kiss darling.
Poster are you reading this???
Pls do so slowly and digest everything CC said.
Devil doesn't give freely without collecting something in return.
Hmnnnnn!
@poster .. Roger that **
DeletePlease poster don't walk through that road because the thorns on it is worse thank that which is on the road u are currently on.
ReplyDeleteKeep praying to God he'll answer you at his appointed time
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You are the one who sees single women as hoes that's why you don't want to be a single mother.
ReplyDeleteGbam. She is the type who goes round harassing single women and flashing her ring at the faces, " happily married " hehehehehe. so it took a HIV clinic to open your eyes to the reality.
DeleteFollow oh, follow to the baba, go and drink dead body water infact wash your pussy and mix shit and vomit for him. Illiterate doctor.
exactly!! women being their own worst enemies. everyone's journey is different. anybody who automatically thinks ill of any single mother just because is an asshole
DeleteDis one no concern small children like me
ReplyDeleteTake him to T.B Joshua for deliverance
Madam, I want you to know that anything involving charms always have a bitter ending. That it is working for your friend doesn't mean it will work for you. You can't even tell what they'll demand from you to tie your DH down. What if it will involve taking a soul? please don't do it. Its better to leave and keep praying for your husband to change while you and your kids safe somewhere than to go fetish. All things are possible with God.
ReplyDeleteWhere's ur 'it is well'
DeleteAnd you think any reasonable human being here will advice you to tie him down? Madam, if the heat is too much, you're advice to leave the kitchen. If you're infected with an incurable disease, you will still leave behind your adorable kids for no any better parental care(God forbid). Use your tongue to count your teeth
ReplyDeleteScroll up and read advice. You go fear! I thought so too until I read 'advice' to go ahead. Smh
DeleteMistletoe
Tie down ke?
ReplyDeleteHoney the devil is nwere isi, nwete isolated ( take head, bring head) . It has its consequences...it should.
Why not leave dis matter to God.
I know you've been praying....but I know God answers.
You can pray with proverbs 5:15-21
The truth is I know God won't support your going all diabolical and He is your last bustop...why not hold unto him...
Ask for wisdom. Ask Him to arrest your husband just like Paul on his was to Damascus.
His powers have not reduced
That I know.
Be strong ma
God is with you.
And he would give you wisdom
....all this my plenty gist seff
Ezenwanyi get in here, your honest advice is needed. Poster don't leave your husband oh. You have come this far to even think of backing out.
ReplyDeleteMy opinion
Looool.... Wetin person no go read for sdk? Dis woman get strong mind before...uve fixed date already na so Go to Benin ooo..u can go there and sell ur soul to the devil thinking its better than HIV...when the repercussion comes back ,ur kids whom ure sacrificing so much will hate u more.....pls I advise u to step out of the kitchen if u can't stand the heat...marriage isn't for everyone and some men will never change their evil ways...talk to GOd and do what's right.......Stella u must enjoy me
ReplyDeleteLeave him instead of tying him down coz d day he regains his 'sanity', u r doomed. U can leave madam b4 u r infected with HIV...My Aunt trained her 5boys alone and today, they r doing well. It's just dat ur schedule might seem tight 4dem but u will survive. Others av, so u will
ReplyDeleteOh boy...ill read comments
ReplyDeleteSweetheart...i sympathize with you but that Benin trip can NEVER be the answer. Please hold on to God for he is still in charge of making impossibilities possible.
ReplyDeleteGod be with you in this trying time.
You know there is no permanent solution outside God. You tie him down and one of his mistresses finds something stronger unko? My dear, your man is a cheat and you have been spreading your legs for him? Since you prefer to sit there, don't give your children as an excuse...you are sitting there because you don't want to lose your title of Dr Mrs. Your children are not benefiting from your husband's lifestyle and if you die from a disease they will be begging to live like children from single parent homes. So please stay there and either get your families to caution him or you accept it and use protection.
ReplyDeleteTheir sorrows shall be multiplied that hasten after another god says the Bible.Madam, don't add to ur problem.Remember that their is no free gift from the devil.
ReplyDeletePoster2: You might get more than you bargain for. usually things like these end with madness, so be careful.
ReplyDeleteLol.....nollywood haff scattered ur brain lmao
DeleteOh no! Don't do it! I repeat don't! He ll end up being a "big mumu" later on in life oh! Hian! Nothing good cmes out of holding a man dwn with jazz @ the long run,dont do it
ReplyDeleteHeheheheheheheheh, the devil gives with left hand and collects with right hand!!!I grew up in benin, so I know what I'm talking about Poster run from your friend run!!One day she will tie you down sef and she will also be the one to expose you...A medical doctor and you are going to see a traditional "medicine" man,Lord Jesus, just Negodu!
ReplyDeleteDon't even attempt it. It never ends well.
ReplyDeleteI think you should ensure he uses condoms whenever you want to have sex. If he doesn't consent, madam, divorce him.
Why not advise your husband to always use a condom with his girlfriends...5 children is too much if you still want to be valuable sexually.
ReplyDeleteMadam,rule out the benin trip forever.Stop having sex with ur hubby for a while.maybe he will change.and keep praying.dont give up on ur marriage yet
ReplyDeleteYour blog name sha
DeleteHmmmm, this going to be a hard one. I really do not know what to advice you but I know that going fetish just to win your husband heart is a no no. There is nothing God can not do. just keep praying for him.
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tie him down and pack ur load.
ReplyDeleteMadam, Please do not get involved with the devil, forget Benin fast fast. There are always consequences to such things.
ReplyDeleteIf talking to your husband has not worked, then try other ways. You can stop having intercourse with him (if he insists, tell him he has to test for HIV), take a long vacation from him and please stand your ground. Nigerian men only believe you if you do as you say. Since he still behaves like a child, treat him like a child i.e. discipline him like one. Finally, if all else has failed, separate from him till he changes.
Please above all choose to be happy, do not let a human being who God created make you sad. God is working for your good!
Dear Poster, unfaithfulness can be so heartbreaking but society expects African women to condone it with a brave face and blind eyes... that never works.
ReplyDeleteSo does not 'tying down'. Your friend is living in a fool's paradise that will one day be shattered. Don't join her there. I can't ask you to leave your marriage but you know best how much more you can take.
Don't allow him turn you into a sort of ritualist... or whatever they are called.
Prayer may still be your answer. And with five kids, introduce condom... and tell him honestly you can't put yourself at risk.
God help You, I pray.
Lol...tie tie no dey work again
ReplyDeletePray!
Dress sexy
Loose weight...
Wear red pant
Catwalk
Wear padded bra
Infact keep praying until something happens
So true!......
DeleteSeriously??????
DeleteYou forgot to add anal sex. Dear poster, once he has anal sex with you, it's all over. He will never have eyes for any other girl again.
DeleteThis one u manage get brain today.....its well
DeleteI am short of words though !! Pray is all I can say. Don't tow that line of diabolical means it doesn't end right . 'f-hugs'
DeleteMy dear poster, you cannot use devil to fight his agent. Instead of going to Benin biko park your bag and take yur children with you as you re running. ThankGod you have a good job. Going to Benin will backfire one day. I pray God grant you peace of mind. Amen.
ReplyDeleteAm not in support at alllllll, but why are men not loyal, the devil can never give u anything for free ooh, d day it will backfire u will regret ur life. If u can't endure plz walk away with ur sanity intact then look for a divorcee to date, plz enjoy ur life cos marriage is not a do or die affair,
ReplyDeleteI'm a guy and im in support of the tying down... he's ur husband, he loves u and u guys are married it's just for him to stop being promiscuous abeg if I see person wey go tie me down like dat make e tie
ReplyDeleteTo think that you are guy and u support this arh I fear you oooooo na your type dey tie woman
DeleteForget the Benin trip. 2 wrongs don't make a right. U ar supposed to be a child of God. I advice u to separate from him & man up & be both father & mother to ur kids. Life is not easy, but he is even being a bad influence on ur kids (if u don't know). If after separation he still continues & brings in another wife, then divorce him. Peace of mind is better than taking chances. Test urself for HIV just in case. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteMadam please buy condom's,that's the only advice I can give. I am sure this man didn't just start his promiscuity. Probably started while you were dating for it to have materialized to this stage. I cant advice any woman to either leave or stay in her marriage. When you start getting scared of HIV as a married woman, then im at a loss. Pray for guidance from God, so you know the right decision to take for you and your kids. Goodluck
ReplyDeleteThis is a Serious issue.. Have u tried hiring area boys to rough him up a little and say he slept with one of thier girlfriends or try to set him up with A girl that will say theyslept together sometime ago that she has HIV and It's best if he checks himself out. Maybe he go fear small. Going to Benin is extreme, what if something happens to you on the way there..But if u eventually go to Benin, It's between you and God. He is the judge!
ReplyDeleteUr comment is so on point! I would suggest you act wisely madam..go by this advise and also buy condoms and put in his office bag,in his car,in his pocket plead with him to alws use it if he must cheat am sure with this he will change if he truly loves you.I have involving fetish things when it comes to marriage what if the repercussion bounces back on ur kids and something happens on your way to Benin. I know its really hard cos am a married woman too but you just need to try if truly you want to stay back in that marriage coa of ur children.
DeleteI pray God gives you the wisdom to make a final judgement .
if I wasn't convinced that juju is evil, I would have said arrange him straight up! But it is evil and if you want God to have hand in your matter, you cant enthrone the devil there. Unfortunately, your choices as I see them are to either end the marriage and face up to bringing your 5 kids alone (with God's help) or stopping sexual contact with your husband whilst still co-habiting. The option of him using condom without still contains elements of risk. It is true that kids from broken homes go through a lot and it is not the ideal situation but, is having a promiscuous dad as role model a better option? Frankly the decision can only be reached when you have prayed the thing through and received God's direction in your own spirit. God is with you dear.
ReplyDeleteYou can't wrap your head around being single with children but you can understand going to satan for help?
ReplyDeleteSo as you are, with an unfaithful husband, is a single mother focused on her life and her kids not better than you are as a Mrs?
I bet if asked you'll claim Christianity. smh. Please stay there and catch hiv, onuku.
This is why some women tie down there husband because of things like this. Can anyone blame this woman now after 5 kids o.
ReplyDeleteI would advise you to go ahead to have peace even if Na my blood I will tell you to tie his bloody ass down.
You go fear Benin trip na, shuuu Stella keep your advise o, madam Doctor don reach Benin since, she just dey find sympathy. Benin people i hail una!!!
ReplyDeleteSmart woman,
ReplyDeleteYou want to use "Hiv" as an excuse to tie your husband down.
Of course, you know if you throw in "Hiv" and the fact that you grew up in a broken home, we will all sympathize with you and some might even encourage you.
Woman, you knew your husband has been cheating on you right from day one and you think giving birth to kids everyday will stop it?
Why didn't you walk away when you had one child?
If you have resorted to doing jazz then It is better you walk away from him for a while and keep praying for him to change.
You can go to Benin and get Jazz to tie your husband to prevent Hiv and the next minute you might step on an infected needle, unfortunately PEP may not work at that point.
Oh, so you think you have it all covered because you are a doctor.
They might dash you madness as love portion.
Please don't.
I am saying all this to say
Stop trying to control tomorrow. Cast all your cares and worries upon God. I have never seen God fail. He didn't fail yesterday, he has not failed today and he will never fail tomorrow.
XOXO MYSTERY
Gbam .. Well said
DeleteGbam! Gbam! Gbamest!
DeleteEvery single point you made!
I'm even surprised a whole medical doctor would 1) write in to this blog and 2) stoop to claiming she can use juju to prevent infection by HIV
My goodness. When she married him knowing he was a cheat, she still agreed to have five...a whole five children with him. Madam medical doctor, you never heard of condoms? I'm sure you pass them to your patients. Why do you even still want to sleep with your husband sef? He's clearly not interested in you. Best way to prevent infection is not to sleep with him. Leave him to his girlfriends
By the way, you're setting a terrible example for your children, especially the girls by staying in that marriage. You're telling your daughters it's ok to marry a Randy he goat and you're telling them it's ok to use juju to "fix" their problems. Haba
I love u xoxo
DeleteIt seems not only HIV is her concern !! It's sad .
DeleteShe who wears the shoe know where it hurts !
Ma'am don't go diabolical no matter what !!
you better go and tie him down as soon as you can before he infects you with a deadly disease. its either that or leave his sorry, cheating ass.
ReplyDeleteAnything concerning tying down always has a negative repercussions, so please bear this in mind and how will you feel if it backfires.
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Dear Poster, pls do not follow your friend to benin , no man is worth the stress, the charms could have an adverse effect on your children and if by any chance someone finds out what you did , your reputation will be ruined .Close your legs and pretend to be a mermaid before he infects you .
ReplyDeleteBenin to tie him down?
ReplyDeleteI know ur husband is not treating u well.....but pls....going to "tie" him down spiritually won't help
There is karma at the end.....
@Galore
Poster, you contradict yourself..you said"from the day we got married my husband has been cheating on me" then you went on to say you cannot wrap your head around being a single mum to 5 kids..
ReplyDeleteIf your husband has been cheating on you from day one like you said,you didn't have 5kids then,you could have left if you had wanted to..
Your having 5kids is not an excuse for you not leaving,trust me,you simply don't want to,you are hoping he will change,and its cool..
But my advice to you is,rather than kill your husband(cos that's what may happen to him if you go to benin) free him and let him go..
What worked for your friend may not work for you,it could end up fatal in your case..
My advice to you is to either leave or stick with him,you have been with him for 11yrs..
Don't kill someone's child in your bid to "tie" him down..
You may be his wife,but he has family who love and care for him as well..
Do not go to benin! Let him go rather!
Oke so ngwere ba mmiri,aru ko kwa ngwere o ga ako kwa oke?
Gbam! And how about using condom since he cannot keep it in his pants.
DeleteExactly!
Deleteeh eh.........Benin people I hail una o
ReplyDeleteHave thought of the consequences!consequences!!consequences!!!.
Me hail you pass oo Lolzz
DeleteThe devil has no free gift hun. If he gives you what seems good today, he takes a thousand of them immediately. Be careful what you wish for. WAIT ON GOD.
ReplyDeleteLADY IGO SAID:
ReplyDeleteDO NOT GIVE UP:
You sound like one who "serves God" so why go to the devil for a solution? Isn't our God the almighty God with whom all things are possible? One thing you should not stop doing is praying and fasting with vigils. Foremost, to concentrate (and free your mind from HIV fears) here are the options:
1. Stay (use female condoms for std/hiv) and get him to use male condoms (buy it yourself) and feign "family planning" since you have 5 kids already with a good proportion of boys (which appeals to his African mind). Hope he listens to you since you're a doctor and works in the HIV section. While doing this, be very submissive and love him purely. Persevere in character etc. He might attempt to provoke you but bear. Let him wonder what is making you this changed; you can win him over without words. Get your kids to join you in fasting and prayers (yes; train them in it no matter how little) and draw your family closer to God.
2. If you must leave, do not get a divorce but see yourself as "leaving to fight" (via the above methods specified.) Call/visit him and let him know that you love him but just can't put up with his promiscuity. Let him know that you're praying for him. Give him gifts and cook meals for him and stuff the refrigerator/freezers etc. Do not ever keep the kids away from him. Let them know that their father is so dear to you and that you are praying for him to change from following strange women etc.
3. If you decide to get a divorce; know that you are entitled to it as a christian under the circumstances described but know that you must come to equity with clean hands (have you been submissive too him and without bickering? Have you loved him inspite of his filth?) Well, that you're entitled to it does not make God to like divorce; he hates it (but not the person but the act.)
Whichever is your decision, read the scriptures on a daily and nightly basis and draw close to God.
Finally, I know of a lady who went to "arrange the husband" like your friend suggested. Yes, she arranged him and he became "submissive and controllable" just like your friend's husband. After 10 years, the lady went mad (stripped herself stark nude and moved to the streets confessing). . . of course, the husband's eyes cleared and he went back to square zero; married another lady and disowned all the 3 kids involved. I can tell you today that the kids; two girls are prostitutes while the only son was killed in higher institution in a cult war. Devil's mission has not changed; kill, steal, destroy; do not go to him for solution for there is none. Watch your friend and pray for her, else, you will soon write in to tell us her woes.
Prov. 16:4 The sorrows of those who run after another god shall multiply; their drink offerings of blood I will not pour out or take their names on my lips.
praying for you to take the right decision.
Regards.
LADY IGO
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DeleteTnk u so much for your advice.Am really touched.
DeletePOSTER.
Terrible advice. The man has been cheating on her for eleven years, and your advice is that she should cook for him, clean, buy him gifts and be submissive
DeleteThen you try to add to the bible by saying she can only divorce him if she has been submissive. Which verse in the bible says divorce is only allowed if she was submissive?!?!
Good day to u dear Stella and please keep up the good work. Dr. Please do not go to any place with any friend or anybody to tie down your hubby. These things never end well and in most cases the sacrifice is neck breaking. I assure you there will be terms and conditions and the question is will you be able to meet them especially if something precious to you is involve?
ReplyDeleteDown to my suggestion are you a christian? It's one thing to report an issue to your pastor but have you personally held God by the neck, leg and held him so tightly? Did it suddenly start or has he always been a cheat?
Medically, i'll suggest you run tests periodically to be sure of your status, make the condom your friend henceforth don't wait for him to buy you do the buying and let it be in every nook and cranny of your bedroom away from the children please. Down to the spiritual part please get a bible, take 10 days off from work, fast and pray for those 10 days the prayer time between 00.30hours and 03.00 hours, a priest once told me what good plan make make during the day is messed up by principalities around us at night between those hours. Pray in your birthday suit, read your psalms if you are interested I can give you psalms that you never knew existed. Pray for the foundation of your marriage, remind God of your wedding, pray for your marriage, pray that God should give those girls your hubby is sleeping with bigger assignments that they won't remember your hubby, pray for you children's future, skills etc tell God everything in your own words and present and let him guide you and reveal the way forward to you in a way you'll understand. My dear the sincere prayers of women have express routes to God. If only we ask Him and trust in Him. My mum went through stuffs and we are 7 now our stories are different we thank God. And it may be best to take the mermaid stance for now till you see the clearer picture. Hugs and Kisses!!! #God's Limited Edition#
I concur!
DeleteVERY GOOD ADVICE....DEAR POSTER, PLEASE DO NOT GO TO BENIN OHHHHH, NO TRY AM AT ALL....
DeleteLIKE IS SUGGESTED IN THE COMMENT ABOVE, THE BIBLE IS YOUR WEAPON.
I AM ALSO FROM A BROKEN HOME BUT THAT WILL NOT MAKE ME WANT TO DIE IN A MARRIAGE THAT THE MAN IS SO RANDY....
IT IS BETTER YOU TAKE A WALK THAN GO DIABOLICAL..... JESUS IS ALWAYS THE WAY...PLEASE DO NOT GO DIABOLICAL....IF YOU ARE SCARED OF HIV, PLEASE TAKE A WALK AND ALWAYS INSIST ON CONDOMS...
AND SINCE YOU WORK IN THE HIV UNIT OF YOUR HOSPITAL, YOU SHOULD BE ON PEP, WHICH YOU TAKE EVERY MONTH, RIGHT??
SO PLEASE, WHILE TAKING YOUR PEP EVERY MONTH, ALSO, ALWAYS INSIST ON CONDOMS AT ALL TIMES.... AFTERALL, YOU DON BORN FINISH....
BACK TO THE BENIN ISSUE, AS AN EDO BABE, I AM ADVISING YOU NOT TO TRY IT.....NO BE THE SAME DESTINY YOU AND YOUR FRIEND CARRY COME LIFE OH....
Thank u so much.pls I wd like to have the psalms.
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@edo babe spot on !!
DeleteDear poster please its either u leave that marriage or you keep coping. Tying down things my dear no make sense at all. Leave it all to God. Or u move out for ur own sake. Pls don't even think of visiting that tying down man to avoid future kasala
ReplyDeleteWhat if u have accident on ur way there...n u dir instantly....what will u tell ur maker?...God forbid it for u
ReplyDeleteBetter leave ur husband and have ur peace of mind.....or stay with him...and avoid sex with him because of HIV.... U are in d medical line....u know better
And friends this days...u can't trust them......years from now..,...she is gonna expose u...that u went to see a herbalist for keep ur home.....
Better think well....let God guide u
@Galore
ANOTHER VERY GOOD ADVICE....
DeleteDEAR POSTER, PLEASE DO NOT GO TO BENIN OHHHHH, NO TRY AM AT ALL....
LIKE IS SUGGESTED IN THE COMMENT ABOVE, THE BIBLE IS YOUR WEAPON.
I AM ALSO FROM A BROKEN HOME BUT THAT WILL NOT MAKE ME WANT TO DIE IN A MARRIAGE THAT THE MAN IS SO RANDY....
IT IS BETTER YOU TAKE A WALK THAN GO DIABOLICAL..... JESUS IS ALWAYS THE WAY...PLEASE DO NOT GO DIABOLICAL....IF YOU ARE SCARED OF HIV, PLEASE TAKE A WALK AND ALWAYS INSIST ON CONDOMS...
AND SINCE YOU WORK IN THE HIV UNIT OF YOUR HOSPITAL, YOU SHOULD BE ON PEP, WHICH YOU TAKE EVERY MONTH, RIGHT??
SO PLEASE, WHILE TAKING YOUR PEP EVERY MONTH, ALSO, ALWAYS INSIST ON CONDOMS AT ALL TIMES.... AFTERALL, YOU DON BORN FINISH....
BACK TO THE BENIN ISSUE, AS AN EDO BABE, I AM ADVISING YOU NOT TO TRY IT.....NO BE THE SAME DESTINY YOU AND YOUR FRIEND CARRY COME LIFE OH....
As a married woman, I imagine what she will be passing through and i know exactly how she feels but this one pass me, as i dont know what to say. I pray i dont see myself in this mess. God pls, u no i cant stand d heat, make me not to witness it even if it will be, make me blindly inlove that i will not notice it.
ReplyDeleteIf i say pray, for how long? But dont relent continue to pray.
Omg!!!
ReplyDeletePlease don't do that!!!
It's better for him to infect U than arranging for him......
U need emergency prayers and I am calling on d good women of SDK to support U in prayers. ...
Wait till U see d stigma attached to U being a single or divorcee..... U are already btw d devil and d deep blue sea and there's no lesser evil here.....
Answer me this, Would U allow Urself to be sinned upon or Would U rather be d sinner????....
D sinned sleeps soundly, has clear conscience. ...d sinner only knows in his heart that he doesn't deserve to be happy but goes ahead to sin and hurt anyways.......
Ur friend has shown U d way,I know U are going to Benin to "arrange" for Ur husband, U just wanna know about d repercussions....
I feel U, I can't tolerate a philandering husband, and no one can tell a person to take pain and be charitable, pain and charity should be voluntary things..... and Now d philander is getting what he deserves, and I sincerely do not blame her because he started it...she did not create this mess, he did..... do what U must!!!
Better for him to infect her? That is her death sentence. She shd either leave the marriage or use protection.
DeleteEZE,are you the person that wrote this or someone used your phone. For once u did not stop evil. It's well
DeleteHmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteI was reading something online and I came across people testifying about how they cast a spell on their hubby, boyfriends etc
You name it n 2 think is oyibo them
Wow
Your case is complicated tho
Ma, if you charm your husband nw,just know it clear one day.
Good luck, wish you all the best.
hmmmn,my sister every juju has expiring date and the day the tying down will expire....it will be brutal he might even lead to your death.run to God in prayers.
ReplyDeletemadam u better pack ur load and leave. don't tie him down, leave and pray for him from afar. When God hears your prayers, he will come back to you. In the meantime, live your life and enjoy your children. There's no medal for who suffered the most in a man's house, and collecting HIV is just crazy! Run now!
ReplyDeleteChai we women don suffer. Why don't you tie your legs together and pretend to be a mermaid. Please expel the Benin trip from your agenda. It is well.
ReplyDeleteMy dear please do not go to any benin...please try praying for your husband..juju will never help you and remember juju get expiring date...go to God for prays fasting to too God tell him your problems I mean cry to God and you will see he will surely change for good
ReplyDeleteMy candid advise? Don't take that trip.
ReplyDeleteFor me I don't subscribe to anything fetish, you can try if you believe in such things.
There is this adage my mum uses to caution us all the time "the rat should not go dancing in the in rain with the lizard, the lizard can easily shake itself dry but that is not the case with the rat" (just trying to translate as clearly as I can). It might have worked for her, but how sure are you that it will not backfire for you, this kind of people don't usually tell the whole truth until you're deep in process. Please be guided.
Doc. You see every bodies destiny is not the same. What worked for your friend, might not work for you, you just don't dabble into fetish things like that, unprepared spiritually and mentally. I will advice you to jettison that plan. 11yrs of marriage with 5 kids, no be beans, it can go up in flames if your plan does not work. You are a medical doctor, with 5 kids, what more do you want, please try to reduce drastically how often you guys make, it's just a thing of the mind, and insist on protection when meeting your husband, until he comes to his senses.
ReplyDeleteMust it be benin? Lol. Madam please do not try love charms on ur husband, the moment that charm fails whatever little love he had naturally for u turns into mighty hatred and u will end up regretting. It worked for ur friend doesn't mean it will work for u, go on ur knees and pray cos the gift of the devil always comes with a deadly price. I bet u that if u look critically into ur frienemy's marriage and life u will see that something is missing if not now maybe in the nearest future. A word is enough for the wise.
ReplyDeleteSimple advice, use protection and keep praying as well as reporting him to people he listens to or respects.
ReplyDeleteBenin is a no no for you.
Divorce is a no no for you.
God will deal with him in the best way possible.
POSTER u r talking of juju here oooo. Do u knw d repercussion if it fails or d other consequences? Hubby fit turn vegetable. Though it might sound tempting but don't try it. I would personally advice u to pack ur things and flee like ur ass is on fire. What the society thinks is does not matter when your health counts. Leave now before its too late. AM SOLIDLY BEHIND YOU. God will see you through
ReplyDeleteBeware of evil friends.
ReplyDeleteNaive women like you have followed friends and in everlasting trouble. Some ended up taking spiritually oaths they never bargained for. Some others were been given potions and concoctions that killed their husbands or destroyed his life totally. Do you know what your friend is copying with in her own marriage? You will be surprised at what some women cover while parading their marriages as perfect.
Education does not equate IIntelligence or exposure, so I'm not surprised that you have stooped so low as to be considering this nonsense.
Ask yourself if all the wives of wandering men have tied their husbands spiritually so? You want to assume the power of God and re-create a man? Devil is soaking your koboko in hot pepper.
Is it by force to stay married to him? Right now, I think you are worse than your husband for considering this evil.
Stop deceiving yourself about your sons needing their dad's training. It's a total misconception. It's a proven fact that kids brought up by responsible single parents do better in life than those brought up by 2 dysfunctional parents. Your husband, being a man, does not guarantee his adding value to the lives of your kids. You have every reason to stay put and fight for your marriage, but don't use your kids as an excuse. If leaving is your best bet, leave.
If you decide to stay and you give him an ultimatum and he still doesn't change, can't you close your legs?
VERY GOOD ADVICE....DEAR POSTER, PLEASE DO NOT GO TO BENIN OHHHHH, NO TRY AM AT ALL....
DeleteLIKE IS SUGGESTED IN THE COMMENT ABOVE, THE BIBLE IS YOUR WEAPON.
I AM ALSO FROM A BROKEN HOME BUT THAT WILL NOT MAKE ME WANT TO DIE IN A MARRIAGE THAT THE MAN IS SO RANDY....
IT IS BETTER YOU TAKE A WALK THAN GO DIABOLICAL..... JESUS IS ALWAYS THE WAY...PLEASE DO NOT GO DIABOLICAL....IF YOU ARE SCARED OF HIV, PLEASE TAKE A WALK AND ALWAYS INSIST ON CONDOMS...
AND SINCE YOU WORK IN THE HIV UNIT OF YOUR HOSPITAL, YOU SHOULD BE ON PEP, WHICH YOU TAKE EVERY MONTH, RIGHT??
SO PLEASE, WHILE TAKING YOUR PEP EVERY MONTH, ALSO, ALWAYS INSIST ON CONDOMS AT ALL TIMES.... AFTERALL, YOU DON BORN FINISH....
BACK TO THE BENIN ISSUE, AS AN EDO BABE, I AM ADVISING YOU NOT TO TRY IT.....NO BE THE SAME DESTINY YOU AND YOUR FRIEND CARRY COME LIFE OH....
Gbamest!
DeletePraying for a promiscuous man to change?
ReplyDeleteWhen u can take care of 5 kids without a qualm?
Divorce d baga or pray for God to punish him.
Let him be cripple n remain at home at ur mercy.
The Devil is NO free giver.
ReplyDeleteWete Isi Bia were Isi....dats wot that scumbag is..
I won't advice u to leave...who am I?
buh he who wears d shoe knows where it pinches him or her most...
There is nothing Prayers can't do u know.
Might be delayed buh GoD stil answers Prayers.
I sincerely sympathize with u darling...
Be strong hun.be strong.
Here is a big hug for u babes.
Bia Nwuye G, hug no go solve this problem oh!
DeleteDs woman seem to have made up her mind at least 90% to tie her husband.
"Tie"? Really?
The devil is really deceptive and wicked.
Smh
Poster, embarking on that Benin trip will be ur greatest mistake bcos charms do not last forever besides there will always be repercussions. Kip praying for ur hubby. By the way, have u had a chat with him to know why he kips cheating on u?
ReplyDeleteMake ur hubby start 2 use condom
ReplyDeleteMy dear, u certainly don't want to get involved in fetish things. It has its own consequences which no one will ever tell u. Pls divorce your hubby if ure no longer happy n focus on ur kids which is far better than Dipping ur hands into something Uve absolutely no control over. But if u think it's going to b d best(hence u don't want 2 imagine urself a single mum), then by all means go ahead n face d consequences when it comes.
ReplyDeleteWhen you say "tie him down" are you referring to the penis or the entire body? Be mindful of words and taught that comes to your mind, they sure influences us a great deal. I'll advise you to use the threat game not jazz way
ReplyDeleteMadam, what if this 'tying down" backfires?? Have you thought about that? If you cant cope with ur hubby's lifestyle, walk away. At least ur hubby will know he is the reason the marriage crashed.
ReplyDeleteYou are already a single mother madam but you want to save face for society and act like all is well. You have already decided stay and be a mrs by fire by force. Goodluck
ReplyDeletenawa oh you just gave Benin people a bad name with this your story,but i would just advice you to leave than committing sin, leave him for God.
ReplyDeletenawa oh you just gave Benin people a bad name with this your story,but i would just advice you to leave than committing sin, leave him for God.
ReplyDeletePlease leave the marriage cos whatever u do will befall or children in d future.....BTW president obama was raised by a single mother , who told u boys can't get wayward in their fathers house? Madam wake up or die of HIV .....,I'm out,
ReplyDeleteTie down as how na!!!
ReplyDeletePlease expatiate.
Try our Lady of Perpetual Help Novena every 12 am, Let me know the Jazz that's more powerful than God.
The Lord is your strength.
Once you start the Juju
ReplyDeleteU should ready to renew the Juju with another Juju else it will end bitterly.
Remember that anybody tied down will not Progress.
For him to Progress, means Juju go backfire
Firstly, you sowed numerous seeds but not on SDK blog. abi we no reach to enjoy the fruits from the sower? na only advice we dey useful for?
ReplyDeleteBack to the matter at hand, Benin juju priest no be here o. Shey you see as the thing took some people across shore to catch bigger sharks to build houses in the beach and middle of ocean.
Why tie a useless man down? tying him down will make his life useless, biko and am sure you don't want that on your conscience. Just walk away and never look back.
Poster, you have two choices, walk away from the marriage (ask him to use protection henceforth, stay&save a little before u leave) or stay back while keeps living recklessly (remember there are worse diseases than HIV) the Benin option is a no no,don't get involved.
ReplyDeleteOoooooooowwwwww, madam biko my sis jiri ya nwayooooooo. Pls cancel that benin trip if u like ur self, it can be very painful my dear. But don't u think that as it works for the other woman it may not work for u? My advise for u is borrow legs join ur own and waka, that charm may turn that man to another thing oo, before u know it family go call u round table talk.
ReplyDeleteMy dear since womanising is his talent ,just get him loads of original condoms for his use ,tell him you got him this codom because hiv is real and you have been posted to hiv section what your eyes have seen ,so you decided to get him these condoms for his safety ,omo forget that jazz level you go renew tire one day them go tell you say the man is dead .pray for your self and yourkids .if you read your bible very well you will see that the great men in the bible that are after Gods heart are high profile womanisers (david and solomon )my 50 cents get him loads of original condom.
ReplyDeleteMadam,plss tie him dwn. I hv also settled my own hubby after he impregnated my househelp.Disgraceful bastards.He will never change.No bitch will enjoy d friut of my labour
ReplyDelete@ poster please do not embark on that trip to Benin, its better you leave with ur kids than goin to Benin, what if d charm stops working what then becomes of You? Keep praying and have fate in God, there's nothing HE cannot do...Jesus loves you
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Tie him down ke!! My sister please keep praying for your hubby cos there is nothing prayer can't do and if you know you can't manage him anymore,please leave him jejely and find your way with your children. Afterall marriage is not by force.
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Don't do it!!!! There is no lesser evil, evil is evil.. . .
ReplyDeleteAre you a christian? Are you born again? Please do not go to the devil because of a cheating hubby. Since u are sure you don't want to walk away from your home, please move to another room. Forget sex. Infact pretend he is dead. Thank God you are working so u don't have to beg him for anything. He will destroy himself or learn his lesson. Sex isn't food especially after 5 kids.
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Sadly, we understand your dilemma. Typical married people don't use condoms and the randy ones still won't reduce their comfort in anyway when they have extra marital sex. You might just end burning as a victim in a war you know nothing about. Painful. But, have you ever asked yourself why you want to do this. Like, really really want to do this?
Delete-do you know that in the year 2070, you will probably be dead?
That is how your life ends! Bang! Who knows if there is an afterlife?
I know you don't want to be selfish and divorce is very tough but you brought kids into this world and it's your responsibility to try to live long for them. Even if you don't die of HIV,unhappiness has its own adverse risks. You don't deserve to be unhappy just because you're trying not to be your mum. I am sure when you married him, you tried so hard not to marry someone like your father, someone maybe not violent and ended up with a caring philanderer. Have you ever tried to live life for yourself? Your upbringing made you over analytic. You are very cautious, you are uptight. You don't want to make mistakes at all.
You have to relax and live life for yourself. Stop thinking about what we will think, many of us(society) don't care a thing about you. We just want to listen to the drama in your life. We are not your friends. Your first friend is you. Are you happy with this man? No. Do you want to tie him down to secure his love? No. You just want a puppy arrangement, to tone down his Penis and make it only erect 4 you. You want to make a robot out of him? Think you will be satisfied?
It is a great sin in all religions to tamper with someone's freewill. Imagine your son grows up and cos you don't give him money,he runs to make charm to control your purse and brain. To make you a cuckold.
Do you know that to fulfil this your quest, you might end up tampering with other parts of his life? His brain? His prowess. You might end up killing him. The sharman religions believe that when one element is shaken, another thing must move with it so that the balance of the world will be restored. Btw,What worked for your friend might not work for you. Think it over, it's not that easy. It can't be just his promiscuity, you might end up destroying him in your quest to make him your djinee(genie).
For me, I advise, instead of destroying a man's free will just to keep him doing what ' you feel ' is right jus so your neighbours won't call you a divorcee like your mother. Why not just leave this man? You were brought to this life alone, don't influence another person's own with fetish. This man is a philanderer, he might have too much testosterone in him just like jFK(ure a doctor, u know better), he is an innocent soul just like you. Don't tamper with his life. He didn't force you into marriage. Just leave him if you can't cope
**Bonaparte NN
Please don't. The devil gives nothing without collecting multiple back. Ask your friend what she gave in return and what repercussions. she didn't tell you all that, did she?
ReplyDeleteOKOKOBIOKO!!!!!!!!!!!DOG WEY NO RESPECT ESEF NA CHAIN THEM GO CHAIN AM... IT IS WELL
ReplyDeleteHmmm, madam pls forget that trip, you'll be jumping from frying pan to fire. This your story self, you said your hubby started cheating from the day you got married, so invariably you had no kids then, yet you went ahead and had five kids even with the youngest just 3 months old. Sorry ,but you never wanted to leave but you just thought having more kids will change him. I'm not judging you, but seeing that kids could not tie him down, you now want to charm him. OMG, are you a christian? If yes, pls ask God for forgiveness for even considering this option. If you can't leave the adulterous man, then leave him to God to judge. Please don't allow the devil to use you
ReplyDeleteI am not qualified to give any advise in this case and I also suggest very matured Bvs take charge.
ReplyDeleteermmmm before u have aids plss leave him oooo.... abi him don go Benin tie u down already sef..becos ehnnnnnn this kind of your love ehnnn no part 2 ooooooo..... @channels!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteIf he has not infected you already, chances are that he is taking precaution with his many women. Why don't you encourage him to keep doing so?
ReplyDeleteIf he has not infected you already, chances are that he is taking precaution with his many women. Why don't you encourage him to keep doing so?
ReplyDeletePlease don't involve yourself in black magic. What works for one doesn't necessarily work for the other. It might seem tough now but it'll be better. The consequences of your friends action will still manifest and she would wish she left her husband to sleep with the whole world. Please don't do black magic, please.
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A child on a farm sees a plane & dreams of flying. But d pilot sees d farmhouse & dreams of returning home. That's life!! Enjoy yours
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Abeg, forget this Benin trip. you have prayed, please have faith and trust God to change him. if you are still not comfortable please use protection when you have sex with him.
ReplyDeleteAbeg, forget this Benin trip. you have prayed, please have faith and trust God to change him. if you are still not comfortable please use protection when you have sex with him.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, There is nothing prayers cannot do. Trusting God is the ultimate.
ReplyDeleteYour benin trip might work now but na u go tire later. I don talk my own
....*whispers*Some men are so annoying dou!they mite need to be tied down like they tie a stray dog.
ReplyDeleteFor me I fear going into juju houses sha coss they end up taking more than they gave u!
Chineke! Only a divine miracle. God pls visit her and touch the heart of that man.
ReplyDeleteDear Madam doctor,i advice you forget that Benin trip forever cos every jazz has expiring date.
ReplyDeleteTo the HIV issue I suggest you make love with condom from now on and see how he feels about it,thank God you have children already but please think about it properly living with a man that makes you that sad is not worth it.
Hmmmm
ReplyDeleteMitcheww
You aint serious madam BV!
U are a typical nigerian "I must remain a Mrs "
Don't worry,when u drop,your husband will use your hard earn money and marry another woman!
Just make sure your randy hubby isn't your next of kin!
One thing I know is that Randy Men were never Good!
So u married him because u wanted to be Mrs somebody!
I know 96% of naija female doctors are very desperate!
SO Mrs Randy,stay ,a doctor who shud be preaching birth control had 5kids for a randy man!
Wise women after 2kids with a semi useless husband,put a stop to child bearing!
I don't pity u! Simple!
Its your mess,clean it up!
ADAnna
gba!
DeleteIs it dat u 4got ur brain @ home b4 commenting? What's wrong in she hvn 5kids? Kai must u talk? @poster 4get going to Benin, u stayed with dis same man 4 11yrs, my dear u r a medical personnel, use condom beta still 4get him n take care of ur kids
DeleteDnt even waste ur energy going to tie anybody down, thank God u ave a good job n can support ursef n d kids. I advice u learn to ignore him n do whatever makes u happy n God's willing he will come around. Gud luck.
ReplyDeleteHuh?
ReplyDeleteTie down?
Ok na!
My dear, continue to pray no be ordinary eye my dear, Ur husband is under very strong satanic influence, pls don't join forces with the powers
ReplyDeleteOf darkness in the name of taming him, my sister you must dedicate @ least one day a week to pray for your husband and kids, with fasting as well, God is with you, I pray your husband starts looking like a vampire to the girls he chases, I pray he starts chasing serpents and scorpions that will scare him back home for good in Jesus name
I Know 96% will say "Pray for him" ,if 86% of females who pray for the conversion of their unrepentant hubby/Boos channel such prayer towards the eradication of insurgency ,wallahi,niaja will be a better place!!
ReplyDeletePrayers is GOod,but sometimes dis Men need to get a taste of their own medicine.....
I can't waste my time praying for the conversion of one MR randy,who has chosen to be a wreck.
DR,biko,you are married but single!
The difference between u and Nadia is that people see u as a Mrs.
Marriage isn't a do or die affair!
Am so angry! Niaja women being senseless since 1258!
AMina osuiji
U have left LIB and come here!
ReplyDeleteLazy Man who roam blogs when he shud be making money! Ed dreams,Mr jupiter get a life and stop being a nuisance.
Go ahead and tie him down
ReplyDeleteU knw he is a cheating bastard n u kept on stayin dere n bein a baby factory.u nevva wnted to leave so stay dere n use condom.shikena.d bible says he dat is down,nids fear no fall.so he's already useless jst let him be.or ur marriage shud be a non sexual rship were u jst live in dat house witout ny romance involved.
ReplyDeleteHmmmn i only have one sentence for you.... nothing from the devil is free (double faced)
ReplyDeletei can only imagine what you're passing thru, i suggest u keep on believing in God He never fails... as for dat Benin trip, my dear it wont do u any good
ReplyDeleteAll I can say to u, is using juju as a last resort has its repercussions, not just on Urr husband but on u, I speak from experience as someone who has dabbled into it to keep my man, the man still waka comot and I tot doing more wud bring him bck, not knowing wat I was getting myself into, I fought aa spiritual battle that God has finally delivered me from, at the end of it alll, I still ran to the church, and that wasss where my answers were, u say u ve prayed n fasted n sowed seeds, did u do them from ur heart? Bcos u ve only done itt thru aa year n u ve already given up hope! Means u never believed! Wat if ur prayer has started working but ur impatience won't let u see it! All I can ssay is stay away from dtt ur friend, she won't be there wen problem starts, walk with christ n u wud definitely see a difference
ReplyDeleteThe juju tin as far as am concern, is a waste of time, an act which may backfire. Jst leave him or if u are staying talk to him, tell him wat u know and tell him tht from. Hence fort no condom no sex, or u are leaving. Him for good.
ReplyDeletethe benin trip is a no go area, Pls introduce condom to your love making to stay save. if your hubby is worried about it, talk to him how you want to stay alive and take care of your kids. Try this. Also seriously put him in prayers, you will scale through.
ReplyDeleteMadam, don't go to any juju man. I doubt if that works, but I bet you, that woman will be the one to tell your husband that you are using juju on him. Me I don't trust anybody.
ReplyDeleteSince you are financially ok to take care of your children and you know the consequences of sleeping with him, face your children. Boys are not easy to control. Blank out your heart towards this man. Don't place him anywhere in your heart until he changes. Be happy and face your life and your children. Good luck. Rose
LMAO!!!!!!!!! So women tie their husbands, hehehehehe! This is too damn funny. Shey somebody said it on this blog that what some women do to get married and stay married is disgusting. So madam after your friend tied a grown man, she's happy with herself and her marriage abi. And it's those kind of women that would be running their dirty mouths calling out single girls to go and get married. They would also shout down women that walked out of their marriages with dignity and pride, while they resort to disgusting methods to keep theirs. Mehn! Nigerian women....smh.
ReplyDeleteThis is not just about marriage sef. No matter what, you should never entrap the free will of others to suit yourself and elevate your comfortabilty. Imagine somebody in your work place decides to "tie you down" for their own gain. Madam leave the marriage!!! Now I know why most Nigerian marriages are still going on. There's something tying the man down. May God punish any married woman that opens her mouth to curse out any single lady for not being married or any divorced woman for taking a walk. God forbid for Nigerians and marriages! Tufiakwa! I hear this fetish stuff but I always thought ito just a reflection of the imaginative and creative power of Africans to attribute their present condition to something bigger other than themselves. Now I know. It's real! Tie him down first and see what will happen to you later in life.
Leave the randy man alone and move on! Madam mrs or I die. Even with his randy nature, you joined twins to the battalion of three and you have known him for 11 years.Abeg do what you want but when things start going on in your life, please STFU and know it's karma! May somebody not tie your kids down someday.
Why not live apart for some time and see his reaction(s)? Tell him you have had enough of his adulterous lifestyle.... Tell him you won't be coming back and see what he will do......
ReplyDeleteI will advice you though, since you are not interested in leaving, place yourself on post exposure prophylaxis and also insist he wears a condom when he wants to be with you.
The PEP is not even out of place for you because you are a Doctor working in the HIV unit of your hospital.
I have worked in the APIN unit of a hospital before and I know Doctors in that unit take drugs every month or so as a preventive measure....
So woman, do the needful...
The devil is a liar.
ReplyDeleteThere is power in the name of Jesus.
Have you ever seen the devil give free gifts? The repercussion of what you are about to do is grave.
You are educated. So why would u even think of something like this?
You don't trust God enough to take of your situation.
Madam becarefull o! Don't use your hand to destroy your home.
Who said single ladies are hoes? Been married dosent make someone better or saved.
Its better you leave him for a while. Or stop having sex with him. You can also insists on the use of protection.
Take time to pray for your husband.
Speak to him in love. Appreciate him. Make out time for him.
If you can't do all these, then take a walk.
Ehen do stay away from that friend of yours. If she can tie her husband. I wonder what she will do to you the day u provoke her.
He that has an ear let him listen.
pleassssse I beg you in the name of God do not go because it will complicate your issue and make the situation worse.in my adage: we say onyinye ekwensu bu weta isi; bia were isi.meaning the gift from the devil comes with a prize.which can even be your children.you can never tell.pls my dear sister wait upon the lord and he will never disappoint you. he doesn't fell.this is just a trying period. hold on and do not fall
ReplyDeleteIf sotay I tie my own another person no for come help me tie am . I slack jare . Next time I marry I go tie am with so many things I go chop winch join.
ReplyDeleteDear poster,Na wa for u ooo!!!U seem like the type that sees marriage as a do or die affair...how does society see single mums??as a doctor,u gave birth to 5kids for a cheat??abeg wat school did u attend??See,u're d reason y ur prayer hasn't been answered,you know Y??cos u don't sow with FAITH,u don't also pray with FAITH!!U endured 11 years wiv a man and now,u think the only solution is 'TYING HIM DOWN'??Even if u don't fear God,don't u watch Nigerian films?? So u want him to be your 'boy-toy'??When it backfires cos it must,wat will u tell ur kids???U said u're not concerned with d financial aspect of being a single mum,Buh d emotional aspect,wat emotions??Haven't u been suffering since u got married??wat other suffering will be there as a single mum??See d type of friend u even have,shows the type of person u are......Its left to u to do wat u please,just don't forget AUNTY KARMA....she will she waiting patiently to pay u a visit!!!!
ReplyDeleteSweethrt poster,pls emberk on dat journey oh,go and tie the burge down,he will thank U later.wen U twO are getting old,that is b4 Jesus comes,go and untie him. Dats my own oh! Am out.
ReplyDeleteMadam don't go to benin for any remedy.
ReplyDeleteDon't leave ur marriage for the devil for any reason what so ever.
Pray dat your husband will not contact any disease nd if he does, you nd your children will never be a partaker of d disease.
When ever you are praying while he is around, pray loudly to his hearing for a positive change nd pray dat if he contacts any virus dat ur body is not for the virus.
I ve seen ladies that God vindicated in similar case bcos of their faithfulness nd prayer.
Pls stop going to pastors for prayers bcos now you are the prophet of ur life nd family. Ask for 4giveness from God nd pray prophetically.
Sis believe me you will begin to enjoy your marriage nd your children will turn to be the best among their equals.
Gudluck.
Madam don't go to benin for any remedy.
ReplyDeleteDon't leave ur marriage for the devil for any reason what so ever.
Pray dat your husband will not contact any disease nd if he does, you nd your children will never be a partaker of d disease.
When ever you are praying while he is around, pray loudly to his hearing for a positive change nd pray dat if he contacts any virus dat ur body is not for the virus.
I ve seen ladies that God vindicated in similar case bcos of their faithfulness nd prayer.
Pls stop going to pastors for prayers bcos now you are the prophet of ur life nd family. Ask for 4giveness from God nd pray prophetically.
Sis believe me you will begin to enjoy your marriage nd your children will turn to be the best among their equals.
Gudluck.
He's promiscous !!!! Yet you open toto born five for am !!?? Do u want to tie him or his dick ??!! Since u enjoy it so much u don't want to share with ANODA woman . But after five kids what do u really need him for ??!! Let him fuck so ur toto that five kids came out from can rest . And maybe after five kids things Don fall apart down there . No one wants to swim in an ocean .thats no excuse for cheating tho ,but it is what it is . Just give him condom one day maybe he'll get fed up or die . Women just know this whether u tie him or not 80% of men cheat you can either leave with it or without ,either way life goes on .
ReplyDeleteSOSO MYSTERY.
Stella i am a full blooded benin man. Most of the perception people have about benin is not true. It sounds so strange to me. I remember my cousins girlfriend that lives in lagos once visited him in Benin and she started pleading with him to show him his father shrine that she heard all houses in Benin have JUJU behind the house. IF THIS JUJU REALLY EXIST IN BENIN I WANT THE ONE TO MAKE ME RICHER THAN DANGOTE. PLS CAN ANYONE REFER ME TO A NATIVE DOCTOR IN BENIN THAT CAN MAKE ME RICHER THAN DANGOTE AND BILL GATE PUT TOGETHER..... Ignorance kills faster than HIV
ReplyDeleteSweethrt poster,pls emberk on dat journey oh,go and tie the burge down,he will thank U later.wen U twO are getting old,that is b4 Jesus comes,go and untie him. Dats my own oh! Am out.
ReplyDeleteMadam poster do u think two wrongs can make a right? Infact your husband is better than you Bcos he has not gone fetish on you yet. It's Bcos u don't knw the spiritual implication of what u are planning. Moreover if instead of tying him down he is killed then u will be a widow and your worst fears will become reality. My advice is to continue praying for him and face your children squarely cos they need you more. There is no jazz to keep a man from cheating, if there was am sure all these prominent and rich men would be tied down by their wives
ReplyDeleteNnem dokita.pls don't go .it will backfire.the devil will offer you but you will repay with your life or ur children.
ReplyDeleteIts better to leave him.or totally avoid sex. hian but you sef.why continue having kids when u noticed this behaviour from the onset of the marriage.
If u decide to go ahead with a divorce pls know that its permitted as a christian under the circumstance.
Tie him ddown. Head to benin. 11yrs ns here
ReplyDeleteOh eya, you came here to ask for help...from the association of Married Single Women. You might get good advice from a few sensibly and happily married women (Iphie, TGW , Q, Genny, Bloglord, Ronalda and co help her please). The life you are leading is what you want your children to learn from? Your only fear is HIV, you are not even considering that your silly husband is exposing your kids to women who might want to rid him of you and your kids so they can take your place. Ok its just about HIV right, You work in the HIV Clinic, do the married women have special HIV vs the Single ones? You already know the status you are clinging to might end you there and you are here calling single mothers hoes. You have sitting room decoration as a husband and you are insulting the woman that has more respect in her life than you? You are educated and do not know that your husband OWES you fidelity and God as well? Go and tie him down and sleep at night knowing that your husband is only in the bed because you used juju. You will beat your chest and smile in public and answer madam when you know that if the juju fails, your community penis husband will be back to his ways. My friend will you seek a permanent solution, all these lazy Nigerian women sef. You prayed and fasted and you are expecting God to come and do the work again. He has heard you, call his family and yours together or you pack your kids and separate and hit him with upkeep bills until his eyes come down. Please be sensible before you use your desperation to stay a wife and really finish the most important people in your life (your kids).
ReplyDeletestop sleeping with your husband...Let the marriage be in name only since you are scared of divorce....Face your fears and make a logical decision decide which is more important your peace of mind or people's opinion.
ReplyDeleteIf you are considering tying him down it is time to leave that marriage...With the devil nothing goes for nothing..As you tie am na so you don tie yourself and your children cos all of una na one blood....
Please delete that your friend from your life asap....