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DATING A MARRIED MAN AND THE URGE TO MOVE ON.....

Hi Stella,

Never knew I’d be sending in my own chronicle anytime soon but I just developed the urge to do this today. I’m a 25 years old female who somehow found herself dating two guys and one is married. (Yes, cuss me out). I never thought in a million years id date a married man, it’s never been my style, but somehow I’ve been in this relationship for well over 2 years with my manfriend. 

I met him while I was just 2months in a relationship with my boyfriend. I was serving food at my mom’s canteen close to his office while awaiting my youth service. I had noticed he was showing interest in me, wasn’t sure he was married at first, he’s in his late 30s and looks younger than he is. I asked my mum if he was married and she said he was married with 2 kids and so I mentally wrote off the possibility of getting involved with him. He was quite insistent and sent someone to collect my phone number. 

Next thing he offered to buy me a blackberry phone so we could ping, he was always buying things for me, clothes, shoes and perfumes. I was enjoying all the gifts and before I knew it got carried away. He also got close to my mum and family in general cause of me. That was how the relationship started, after my youth service I started working, but the pay was 20k, I could barely get by with it. Then he offered me a job at his senior brothers company where he’s a director. He has really fallen in love with me and tells me he wants us to get married, even though I know my parents will never agree I just play along. He’s a Muslim and I’m a Christian so he’s entitled to a second wife. 

Somewhere along the line I too have developed deep feelings for him. But whenever I think of marriage and starting a home, it’s my boyfriend not him I see myself with. Recently his senior brother has been making life at the office very miserable for me; he insults me and my work and always looks for a fault in everything I do. He seems to believe I got the job because of my relationship with his brother and even though my manfriend claims he doesn’t know we’re dating I’m pretty sure he’s aware. The embarrassment at the office is too much and I’ve reached my limits, also I never wished to date a married man, I don’t want to break a home or cause a fellow woman pain, my man friends wife is soo nice to me whenever she comes around.

 I’m seriously thinking of quitting the job, I’ve suggested quitting before but my manfriend always persuades me to stay. I know it’s the right decision to quit, I want to quit the job and the relationship so I can focus on my relationship with my original boyfriend. The problem is that jobs are soo scarce, and the salary on my present job is 70k plus my man friend gives me a monthly allowance of 50k. My second boyfriend is currently undergoing his Msc program abroad, and doesn’t have the means to support me financially. If I quit the job and relationship, it’ll be hard to adjust from the lifestyle I’m used to, my parents don’t support me financially. I want to do the right thing but it’s hard. 

My boyfriend is very brilliant and hardworking and I know it’s just a matter of time before things get going well for him. I know I should do the right thing, but I’m weak, maybe after bvs cuss me out ill have the courage to do what is right.

Hmmm you knowingly used him for your selfish gain and now that you hooked him with that your mama dolphin laced tohtoh you want to drop him abi?I pray he lets you go easily and i pray his wife doesnt find you to give you a bath.....you know the kind i mean.

Na now you remember your boyfriend?Anyway make i leave space for others to cuss you well so that you can have the energy to walk away.lol