Chronicle Of HOPE - 6

Chronicles of hope is a post to encourage you about love,life and others....If you have a chronicle that will inspire everyone not to lose hope and show that God is ABBA MIGHTY FATHER..please send it in....

Do not lose HOPE!

HOPE ONE

LOSING LOVE BUT FINDING YOUR BEARING

Hi Stella. Thought I should send my story in. 

I am not married. i am 25 and 2 years ago the love of my life broke up with me.

Looking back theres no need to cuss him out or play the victim stella. I WOULDNT DATE ME THEN IF I WAS A MAN.

Dont get me wrong, i am a sweet girl. Beautifull, kind, intelligent, mature, romantic, good cook, the works. A proper Igbo girl that was trained well.‎ 

Now you must be wondering what the problem could possibly be? ok, i will list them out..

1. Pride.. My inability to stand down and know my place in the relationship. Forming Miss Feminist. My inability to choose my words well when speaking to my man. I came off as arogant and saucy most times.

2. I didnt present myself well to his family. do you know that even if a guy isnt interested in marrying you, his family could be your strongest allies. Men dont know what they want or whats good for them. if you get along with his mom and siblings omo, a lot can happen. I had loopholes with them.

We were madly and irrevocably in love. and despite all my craziness I am his best girlfriend coz he always said he never wants to love and cant love anyone the way he loved me. he was PERFECT. sooo good to me. yea I didnt like his night life and the fact he doesn't go to church but I believe those would have been sorted. Me gan that speaks in tounges and knows the word i am not living by example.

After breakup its easy to believe you will find someone else. for where? i have met good guys. but none provokes any emotion in me.‎ 

Why did I write in? a lot of people have lost great loves. and its easy to incline to the thought that "it wasnt meant to be". thats BullShit. things were done wrong. you cant put your fone in water and expect it to work. I read the single and mingles post and see hundreds of single people putting themselves out there for a chance at love. Thats BRAVERY and I love it.

I have taken time to develop and improve myself as a person. i have learnt not to react to everything. you should do so too. I know strongly that my forever love is coming and i am determined to be a humble and submissive wife. The one that gives him peace and pride. His succour. Makes sacrifices ‎ And a discerning spirit to recognise him when I see him. Much love.

XOXO

Thanks stella

The best thing that will happen to anyone is to look inside and try to correct their imperfections.everyday is a struggle to be a better person for everyone but we all know that no one is perfect.I am happy that in losing your true love,you found yourself...thats hope that all wasnt lost.

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HOPE TWO

WHEN ALL HOPE IS LOST GOD STEPS IN

Stella darling  

I am sending this mail to encourage the young lady(poster 2) that sent in her story on thursday(29/01/2014), that chronicle made me cry. it took me back to where am coming from and made me realise how awesome and faithful God is.

This is my paraphrased story:

I was barely 12years and my brother 4yrs when we lost the pillar in our lives, the one we called father, friend and our earthly provider. 

It was from that day that I knew that life is not what we see it to be, it's far deeper than what we know. Fast forward accusations started flying and my mum was labeled a witch from that day for killing her husband. 

They said she should prove her innocence by going to the village to seat on the floor for 7 days and nights to mourn her husband, the church said she won't go because she's a christian and a deaconess for that matter, she refused telling them she loved her husband and that is the last respect she can give to him, at this point the church deserted us to our fate(my dad was a dedicated christian, he was a Deacon and father of church. 

He carried church members and pastor's problem like his own)my mum was broken and scared but for love and for us she stayed strong. After burial and everything her in-laws said she can go but not with us or any of my fathers property (it was at this point that the mad and Delta part of her came out) she left the village came to Benin and moved every important document to the bank, she came back to the village and reported the issue to the king, then took a lawyer (she let the world know that she legally married their son at age 20 when he had nothing, stayed with him for 13yrs and had 2 wonderful kids for him and now they want to reap where they did not sow, that it won't happen)and she went to court, of course she won them. 

My dad's brother thinking he was still my dad's next of kin went to my dad's office in lagos to claim entitlement, he got the shock of his life, when they told him my mum, my brother and myself were his next of kin, and he pleaded with the company to employ him and put in my dad's position(see madness....Lmao). The management called my mum, talked to her to be careful with my dad's family because they had never seen that kind of character his brother exhibited and paid her every entitlement due without waiting for us to be 18yrs. 

Fast forward.... After like 3months we no longer had family,friends or relatives (Hmmmmm life, even church that is meant to be our keeper deserted us completely) and this made us a bit unfriendly and introverts. They all thought we would become liabilities to them, that my mum won't be able to maintain the life style we were use to, and that she would always come running to them and begging for one thing or the other(as at that time my mum's salary was about 8k, See ehn we suffered, nor be small, But the devil is a lair, trust me when I say God knows his own and he rules in that affairs of men). 

One day my mum called me and my brother,sat us down and in tears she talked to us(that she wanted us not only to be a family but best friends, and that she will do her best to take good care of us on behalf of my dad, but that we must now understand the new situation of things and corporate with her, she vowed that no man in life will ever see her nakedness again;she kept her vows). 

It's been 15years now and I have not seen my paternal grandmother or any of his relatives ask of us,even his friends (that normally come to our house every weekend to eat banga soup and starch),I pass some on the way, and I shake my head because I know them but they can't even recognise me (what a world, anything about my paternal family is blank to me, they don't know me, but I know most of them). 

In 2012 I went for an interview with the company my dad worked with(a multinational) his very good friend was a member of the interview panel, he said I should see him after the interview,I waited and we talked and we exchanged numbers, he called me up one day, that he's in Benin and I should meet him at Motel Benin plaza,mumu I carried my bag and went to meet him, only for him to tell me that I have grown into a very ripe fruit, and he will like to have an affair with me, I was shocked (this is someone that has not seen me in 12yrs) and walked away,when I got home I told my mum everything and I gave my mum his number, she called him and gave him the insult of his life.

Today my mum is a happy woman again,I am a graduate,I am running my second masters now, and my brother is an undergraduate in one of the best private university in the country. I too went to a private university (we went to private universities not because we are too rich or because we could not pass SSCE or JAMB, but because my mum wanted to keep my dad's dream alive, my dad used to say it while we were growing that non of his children will go to a public university no matter what).

In all never for once in this 15years did we beg to eat, borrow to pay school fees or lack any neccessity,all we did was corporate with my mum and manage what ever she can provide.

Some of those people that ran away then can't even afford the life that we live now for their kids (that's how people's tables turn because no man actually is the author and finisher of live, besides no man knows tomorrow)

Poster stay strong don't give in to any ungodly counsel (Runs may fail,marrying a rich man might not also be an escape root) and most importantly don't give up on life (your future and that of your siblings is very bright), pray a lot telling God that you no longer have a father because he deemed it fit to take your's and he(God) promised to be a father to the fatherless, and a husband to a widow.so your hope and focus is strictly on him and no one else( you can't kneel before God and kneel before man,it is not possible).........please I will need your contact so that I can always communicate with you and encourage you from time to time. 

Stella and Bv's God reigns supreme in the affairs of Men and at the appointed time he makes all things beautiful.

God bless.

WOW!...Thank God!