Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative

Hey!

Your Sunday going well?

STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
LENDING YOUR LOVER MONEY AND THE CONSEQUENCES.

Please Stella, it's important!

Hello Stella Sweets! I'm one of those coded BVs behind the scene, lol. The third class degree guy! You posted my story on your blog like a year ago and I got quite a few calls. Some promised to get in touch and never did, others called in sympathy. 

God has been kind, I was called to continue work with the company I served in, and in no distant time I already rose to the position of a Manager. But there are buts, it's a demeaning job, or you could put more appropriately, i'm under employed. Salary is constantly constant at 25,000 naira, no compensation whatsoever for overtime, work hours is almost 7:30am to 7:00pm everyday including Saturdays, even on some Sundays. No off days, no public holidays. 

Wetin man go do, I have been managing. The result of the stress is written all over me.

Ok!, the job is not the reason for this chronicle, love is the reason for it.  

I found love on one of the social media platforms, it happened that she wasn't too far from me. We arranged to meet, so I travelled over, and at first sight we clicked like magic. We fell head over heels, talked everyday, I got familiar with her family etc. 

Then, the off times began, she started the "com'on open your phone", I unlocked it. She snooped the hell out of it. I took hers and she started feeling uncomfortable. I saw some chats sha, we quarrelled and made up. I love her so much that I can still swear she'd never cheat on me. After the off times, she started spelling out laws that she's entitled to her privacy, which is her phone.

 I told her i'd rather break up than accept that. Since then we haven't been on good talking terms. Plus she also receives some night calls that freaks me out. I'm always on waiting, waiting to talk to my girlfriend. Still I can swear she's not cheating, and trust me, she's not.

Alright, this is the main purpose for this narrative..

Times have been very rough for her family, her dad was rich and they had everything they wanted. Recently, things haven't been good at all. I have been her only source of joy. I became too sympathetic to her issues. She was crying all through when she couldn't  give her mom a birthday present. Since then I undertook the tradition of sending cakes from my location to hers whenever any of her siblings were celebrating birthdays. I bought her a 40,000 phone after the iPhone 5 she's been using from when they were living the life got broken beyond repairs. She's the first child, so she feels the brunt of the situation more and cries at the slightest opportunity.

In December last year, that bumper business period, her mom's shop was empty and she kept crying. She suggested if I could help her borrow from anyone, just so that the mom would do business this December and be happy because her BP was already on the high side. So I thought of a plan, and I transferred 150,000, which was almost everything i've worked for, into her account and faked that I didn't know who did the transfer.

 I was hoping to start a small business with it. But you know how love can make man go kolo mental. I admitted afterwards and told her that it's a loan, and I'll need the money back by January this year. She was shedding tears on the phone, and told me countless 'I love you's' and promised not to fail.

So we drew out a plan, that she wouldn't tell her mom about it yet. She went to the main market, bought the stuffs, stocked up the shop and locked it. Then 4 days later, she told her mom that they should go open the shop in faith, maybe angels will hear their cry. 

The mom was hesitant and later agreed. When they got there, she opened the shop and they mom almost fainted in disbelief, chanting songs of praise and calling on her neighbours to come and see. Eventually she told her mom of how we planned it together. The mom called and rained prayers of life on me, promising not to default in repaying. 

Now, the issues of privacy and her night calls have torn us so apart that we haven't talked in weeks, infact since the whole of February. 

I have been thinking of my 150,000k, maybe to continue saving or find some small business to do with it. I called my girlfriend to ask about the money and why her mom hasn't paid till now. She sounded a bit sick or confused, she also sounded a bit taken unawares. That her mom gave her the money a week ago, and since I hadn't asked for it, she used it to solve some pressing needs.

 My next question was when and how would you pay back? I could sense behind her words, tears were already beginning to roll. She told me about her fees, her dad hasn't been able to raise the fees. Her brother's project supervisor and he's fees too. Time was ticking so fast and they were both already getting threats from school and his project supervisor; so she had no option than to use the money. Her pleas for me to hold on, that she would find a means to repay was mixed with tears and I could feel it. 

I sounded a bit angry and I raised my voice, displaying my manly pride that since she said we can't continue dating because she wants her privacy, why the hell did she touch my money!

After I hung up, I broke into tears. I can feel my girlfriends heartbeat from here, and I know the next few days will be a horror for her.

I need advice, should I forget about the money? I wish I had plenty of money, I want to marry her, buy her the best of things. But In reality, that's a huge sum for someone in my class. I don't want her to go sleep with anyone because of money,and I'm afraid I might push her down there. 

Please advice me.

Today na Sunday and i no want to meander around with my words.All i can say is that she has taken you for granted,and probably mistook your kind heart for someone being weak .Tsk,tsk!

Why didnt she ask you before spending your money?

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If you cannot trust your lover with money matters,you cannot trust them with any other thing...you swore several times in this narrative that she wasn't cheating but her rules and regulations concerning not touching her phones is what has caused the friction in your relationship.

I dont see you getting your 150k back,so wipe your tears and go back to work.