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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
STRAYING WIFE
Off Topic: please my fellow BV help a Straying wife. This is supposed to be sent to StellaKorz,but I can't possibly do that because she knows me personally. She will insult my life. Here it goes
I got married 8yrs ago to a man I thought was in love with me. Not knowing this man has personally disorder *multiple personality*. Today he's in love with me,tomorrow he turns me to his wrestler. Push me out naked sometimes without under thinking who is in the house or around. After which he will kneel down and beg.
I got married 8yrs ago to a man I thought was in love with me. Not knowing this man has personally disorder *multiple personality*. Today he's in love with me,tomorrow he turns me to his wrestler. Push me out naked sometimes without under thinking who is in the house or around. After which he will kneel down and beg.
Did I mention, there is no money in the marriage, no affection of any kind,not even when I was Pregnant,acting like he got kids somewhere. Above all the sex is horrible.
These things went on over the years until I told him,when he lay is hands on me one more time, I will walk out of the marriage with my kids. I was always complaining about our sex life to him, but he feels if I'm not satisfied I could seek satisfaction else where.. this is the exact point I need help.
Last 2years I met a guy,he was nice,young,and ready to listen to everything I've been going through over the years. We got so close, before I knew it,he became my comfort zone. I started having steamy sex with him. This guy is damn too good.. he made me realise I've been missing all these years.
He wanted me to leave my marriage for him, but I could not have been able to do that,becos I was thinking of how much my kids will miss their dad. My problem now is this, I'm in love with this guy, and he's about getting married as well. I don't know how to let him go. I might sound so stupid and foolish right now. But it is what it is, cant lie about what I'm feeling. Sorry for the long epistle!
This was dropped in one of the comment section.
I am so sorry about your situation,please hit me up,i promise not to curse you out.your situation seems like a really bad one.
Please let that young man go,you will not be happy jumping from pillar to post.
let me read comments abeg.
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WHEN THE 'EX IS IN THE PRESENT
Hi Stella kork! how's your family? I am really in love with your blog because of the inspiration. please I have a problem to share with you and my fellow BVS.
I am a married woman based in Lagos, have been married for 5 years with 2 lovely kids. hubby was sent to the U.k, last year May by their company for a 12 months course and During this space of 9 months I travelled to U.K along with our kids last year August to spend the summer holidays with him.....
Did I forget to mention that we dated for 2 years before marriage, and yes he's the best hubby one can ever dream of. He is so good to me and the kids but the problem is that before we got married 5 years ago, hubby told me how he broke up with a girl he dated before we met, he said the problem was because of genotype, which might be true becos hubby is AS. Yes!
It happened that hubby came back to Nigeria this week Monday to spend the Valentines day with us, and yes I am not #Teamsnoop# but was tempted to snoop, because he went to his parents house to visit, unfortunately, he forgot his phone, I quickly grabbed and read through, what I saw gave me a big shock.
hubby and the ex are still very much in love, even when we left U.K. 1st week of September last year, hubby invited her too. She spent 12days with hubby!!
The type of text messages they wrote to each other eehh! Hubby even cares so much about her parents, to the extent he pays her monthly allowance for their upkeep! Please when it comes to prayers i am a prayer warrior, even before we got married, he told me they parted ways amicably, the lady in question is a banker in Enugu state. They are still very much in love.
How do I talk to hubby about it, cos he doesn't like snoop and he respects my privacy too. I dont like having things in mind, once i split it out,i am cool. Please i am very confused and sad cos hubby is going back to U.k on 20th of this month. Where do i start from? Please help!!
Snooping has a ricochet effect and once it starts you need to follow it to the end..you have snooped and have seen,now you need to ask him because you cannot keep quiet,keeping quiet ensures there is peace but you will never be happy,asking might mean trouble and he will re-strategise.....whichever way,your marriage will never be the same.
I do not know what to advise you here.
Calling all #teamsnoop members to come out and rescue their new member.
Like i always say,i am against snooping so i will sit back and read comments on this.
#teamsnoop members should please desist from trying to turn this post to cussing me out,being against snooping is my personal opinion.
Let me read comments
ReplyDeletePoster two, I know how your husband feels. I couldn't get married to a man cz my parents disagreed. He's from opobo and I'm enugu. I was hurt a lot. When I got married, I changed my line. I'm sure he must have tried to reach me severally but I didn't want to continue being friends because I can't trust myself with him.
DeleteI think you should talk to your husband. Don't get mad and yell. Quietly tell him that you know about both of them and you know it's hard to get out of love with her but he can't do it with her still in the picture. He has to make up his mind fully and let him know that he has broken the trust you have for him.
Remember not to yell or fight neither should you cry. Look him in the eye and tell him you don't trust him anymore. Let there be sadness in your eyes. Make him feel guilty.
Poster one, Erm, na siddon De look I De for your case.
Hmmmmmmmm
DeleteI am retired team snoop!! Hahahahha women shaaa.... @poster before you question hubby pls make sure you have calmed down...
DeleteYou know him better on how to start this topic for communication..
Forgiveness is paramount here unless you want to walk away.
Do not address the lady nor confront her (wrong move)
Pray for him after all you have done stand!
Get busy, attend to what makes you happy!! My final advice... learn the Delilah moves she did on Samson. It works! Be strong... this too shall pass
Over to you @Ronalda swt *side eyes*
@poster 1... you know what you are doing isn't right please make it stop!!
Delete@poster 2..read my comments in the previous reply.. may I add this : when DH offends mee I simply spend his money to buy something I have been craving..lolzz
It helps me keep calm, then I will approach him after in a civil and diplomatic way hehehehhehe
Women sometimes won't let these married men be! Especially when she can't move on /single/lonely.
E-bear hugs dear..
Waiting for comments.
ReplyDeleteLike Jayem, be like say I go port go chronicles of hope. All these stories dey make fear catch me.
Poster 1: OYO is ur case. No words!
ReplyDeletePoster 2: eyah! Approach this with wisdom. Stella is right. Since you've found this out you have to follow through, but go about it carefully. All the best.
Marriagies have bcum scary...
ReplyDeleteThat first poster, are u sure u'r not LINDA EZE?
ReplyDeleteThe king, queen, amadioha and sango of this blog.
*JustAsking
Lmao!
DeleteShattapp dia!!! Leave linda alone u beast!!!
DeleteSpeechless at n2.
ReplyDeletePoster one....your husband? Pushed you our naked?...like seriously?
ReplyDeleteNo......u have to leave him
Poster two.... Your husband is not loyal ooo
I am happy you snooped.... Good..so u go know d keke nepep wen dey drive u......
Just stay calm and see what happens next!!!
Na wa o ooo.....or make u file for divorce.... Let him go and meet his ex....
SMh.... Unam ikot ebeh ebod ubed.
Taaa fi doo.
@Galore
He is not going to file for divorce from what I read here. Most married guys are like that. The only person I pity is the side chick now. I would advise Mrs Snoop to intensify her love for her oga oh. Let her not do anything that will push him into the hands of the other one. Cos as it is, he already has kids from his wife which is majorly the problem with same genotype partners. Unless she uses style to be asking about his old friends and stylishly ask about the chick. Infact it will be hard oh. Cos if you must ask, you would have put him on the defense and make him become smarter. Snoopers Union over to you all.
DeleteNo 1: I think it's better u take stella's advice, Jes forget the young man. Ur husband may nt be so good, buh hw u sure someone out dere won't be worse??
ReplyDeleteNo 2: Maybe you should talk to ur husband in a way that won't make him upset. Let him understand that you are hurt by his actions, if he loves you so much, he wouldn't cheat on u....thank God he's not a womaniser sef, maybe he so loved his ex Proly more than you! So if it's possible, u nd ur kids should go nd stay with him till wen it's tym to come bk, Jes to avoid temptations
Wat could be worse than an abusive husband?
DeletePoster 1- you deserve better than what that husband of your
is dishing out to you.
Poster 2-wow wow wow!!! May God give you the wisdom to tackle this situation.
Poster 1: I've got no words for you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I can only imagine your pain. You have to confront him and ask him. Don't tell him you looked through his phone. Just tell him you did so and so with this lady, why? If he asks how you know all that tell him nothing is hidden under the sun. Don't rant or rave just let him do the explaining. Don't even respond just let him know you know and watch what happens. If you rant and cuss him out all regret will be thrown out of the window. Sorry dear, shit happens.
I'm teamsnoop for life.
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Call d girl and warn her because if ur husband apologise he will still sleep with her, she has to know u know ur hubby cheated with her
Deletefor 2 only there's two things which involves in this."you know the truth" "the truth hurts"
ReplyDeletewith due respect,you're of age than i.(snooping) not wrong as it sounds.if you didn't inquire or snooped you wouldn't have known.my sister try to sort things out gently,bc if hubby or darlin finds out you snooped,no respect.first thing to do is tell only your mum not your dad.she knows how it feels bc she's a woman.definitely she'll help you.don't tell your hubby's mum.your mum knows the next step better than i.but never snoop again bc if you aren't aware,by now this statement would still be in you"i trust my buddy"
Tell your mum Gini? No o.....every parent will stand behind their child....don't tell any parent
DeleteOdiegwu poster 2.
ReplyDeleteI can just imagine the Fire that's burning in Ur heart now . Just calm down please. Your gonna have to talk it out with your man , I imagine if the situation was reversed he won't be here seeking advise .
Pls talk to him,tell him the ex wouldn't be tolerated. Period ...he married YOU , not HER for God sake..why are men so foolish and incapable of loyalty Haba ...!
Nsogbu di. I will just read comments.
ReplyDeleteAbeg buy new sim,harass the hell out of her,tell her u know about her travel,tell her you know she's AS n that she should know any child she'll have with your hubby will be an SS. warn her and even get a guy to call your hubby n warn him to lEave his gf alone
Deletedont even understand what i typed
DeletePoster 1 smh
ReplyDeletePoster 2 Hmmmmmmm
Poster 2 - biko 4get all that privacy bullshit, is it fair. Chei so as u were leaving mistress dey land uk. So sad, u better confront him not as a rebel but as a woman, cry your heart out to him, he seems sensible so no fire for fire...
ReplyDeleteTell him how terrible u feel and how used u feel, like a circumstantial wife...
I feel for u. That kain thing dey pain
#teamsnooponlywhenneccessary
Like in this instance of DH travelling n all. You did the right thing.
Save your marriage
Poster 1. Sorry but i dont know what 2 say o
Poster 2 tell him u dreamt about him still seeing his ex and died at d process.tell him u prayed about it and beg him to confide in u
DeleteNarrator 1 .. your case na wa ooo. Adultery is a sin before God. Please leave both of them and face your children. If you are working, try and take care of the kids. I dont condone adultery at all. I think say na single girls they commit fornication but walahitala una married women una own too much.
ReplyDeleteNarrator 2 ... Prayer warrior. Abeg bind and cast the demon out ooo. Let the banker go and get married to another man oo. You better take your prayer to Gear 5. i wish all of una well
Lying,fornication,adultery,stealing are all sins,u are not different from an adulterer ,all sins are equal before God
DeleteNothing to say. No comments.
ReplyDeletefor number one.when i was in J.S.S 3,we had guidance and counsellor.i dont care to know if you're a muslim or a christian
ReplyDeletego for counselling.you're a way too pranky to have a sexual life outside.i'm just 21 but i know what i'm saying.there's no amount of new things that is hidden under the sun.na today yansh dey back?? NO!!!! First problem
having sex outside,while dem dey marry you
secound
you dey feel for the guy.my sister wati dey do you??ehho force you marry?
Chineke gba aragi
be prayerfull and seek advice.
I am married and understand her perfctly. So I won't judge her cos only she dt wears d shoes knws whr it pinches.so my dear don't judge
DeleteStella, but why have you refused to post my story now...biko
ReplyDeleteStella post na
DeleteHmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteD 2 narratives are very delicate.
Am short of words
Will just wait for comments
Proudly team snoop.
Snooping can save one from lots of ish.
@p2 U go to Uk hubby is d best tin like u said!!!uv got a perfect life still e no do u!!!!I just don't kw why we use our hands n spoiling our marriage...nw u kw watz next..... u gon get lied 2 by hubby den?either ways not worth *snooping* I swear,just don't kw
ReplyDeleteI wanted to reply you but I looked at your pic and thought, no need.
DeletePoster 2: if I were u, I'll definitely ask hubby about it. Ask him politely without abusing him. Make him realise how much he has hurt u by that act of his cos he made it look as if u r his second best when u shld be the best. If he truly loves u, he will feel so guilty about what he has done. When trust is broken, sorry means nothing. Trust is like a mirror, when it is broken or it has a crack, it can not be repaired. Take it easy dear.
ReplyDeleteOyaooo, snop expert ova to una this one pass my muscle.
ReplyDeletePoster 1....If u want to leave your marriage do that because you have made up your mind that that's the best thing to do. That's after trying to make the marriage work, don't leave your marriage because one guy somewhere asked you to. Solve your problem. Your husband is temperamental have u found out the cause ? Have u spoken to him about how his change of character affects you. Make your marriage work first.
ReplyDeletePoster 2
Nne you dint do anything wrong by going through your husbands phone. Your husband is wrong wronger wrongest if there is anything like that. Talk to him in the middle of the night, don't shout at him shed tears and talk to him, ask him if his still seeing his ex? What's his plan about his ex ? Tell him to put himself on your shoe and feel what you are feeling. If u were to be seeing your ex will he be happy ? Of course NO. Talk to him in a matured way and am telling you he will think like a man and face his family.
I don't think she should cry.....
DeleteThe husband seems like a good man but when emotions are involved, it gets difficult.
Poster 2, hubby told u dey parted amicably he didn't tell u the love went sour, so ur discovery shouldn't b a surprise to u, he wifed u but the other lady is still d love of his life. Just live with dat fact, I know how painful it can b but just get use to the Ex. Poster 1 life is too short 4 a boring companion o, but the young lover is a no no! So u just fix the puzzle
ReplyDeleteSo if u are the one u wil live with the fact that ur own husband is still seeing his EX pls be realistic here,no one can live with such not even the man if it were d other way round
Delete#2...he's ur husband,confront him.ask questions
ReplyDelete#1...wen dey start their stories by labelling their husbands,u'l know they're trying to justify their infidelity...leave ur husband n marry him na...oloshi
Stella sugar, When you say you dont like snooping, it bothers me because thank God for snooping, i would not have discovered that the man i was in love with and ready to marry last year december was married and has a girl sef. i met the parents and siblings and he met mine. i even asked him severally if he was married but he denied it.
ReplyDeletePoster 3- Let your hubby travelled, but get the lady's contact, travel with your kids to Enugu and have a heart to heart with the lady(no shouting or cussing)talk to her, if shes truly in love with ur hubby, she will let him go after dat. appeal to her female sense.AND PRAY.
Whatever rocks ur boat,me personally I don't snoop
DeleteEven though ur English is funny, I like your advice. It might work....@poster 2
DeletePoster 1 How many times would they say it here that Xex is not food...
ReplyDeleteFace your marriage o and leave our bachelor alone... *RME*
Hmmmmm..with chronicles of blog visitors narrative coming 7 times a week and chronicles of hope onces or twice a week..problems plenty pass o..not helping we singles.It's well with both narratives o...
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1- ppls let d young man be and try working on ur marraige to better. Pray and talk to God about ur situation, he's able to turn things around for good and u'll live ever afta.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2- am not against snoopping. Its gud u snooped so u won't just relax b4 pepper enta ur eyes. Pls ask him about his affair with his ex. U guys signed for beta 4 worse and he shouldn't cheat on u. Ask him pls b4 tins gets out of hand.
Same hapnd to me I called the girl with a new line insulted and harassed her sent some friends male to Cal and treaten her to leave my hubby didn't tel hubby anything went to her Facebook harassed her made her life he'll hubby had the courage to ask me I now asked him back (are u telling me u are chatting on me when and with who) meanwhile my friends kept calling her threatening and insulting her na only she Waka go my sister
DeletePoster 2 abeg go organize that babe sharply
DeletePoster 1, pray to God to help you out. May God restore peace to your marriage and also help you to leave this young man
DeletePoster 2, I will advise you address the issue so that you both trash out any issue and bring back the love into your marriage
90 percent of men cheat both broke guys and rich guys no exception it's only d ones that hv d fear of God in them.infact these days if u don't cheat they see u as abnormal (sad but true) so it's now like a trend.It is only when the man is not paying his dues at home and cheating that is when it is double wahala
DeleteLmao @Anonymous 15:29....... I can imagine you forming innocent. But I'd prefer she deals with her husband.
DeletePoster 2 inukwa how do I go about it?Please ask him, you are there making excuses for him, you should be more worried if he had sex without a condom and has contacted 1 STD or another. Man that invited a girl for 12days, na farm work them dey do together?Good Hubby kor, horseband noni
ReplyDeletePoeter 1 :Please respect yourself and solve your issues with your husband or quit, don't go and cause problem for that new marriage. If it were a man doing what you are doing now, the world would have come down on the man!!
Hahaha @ farm work them do together.
DeleteMo rire oooo .... Subtle yab
Delete@poster2 wow
ReplyDeleteThese men ain't loyal
If I were you,I will start saving
Gather all the money u can now
Start a good business
Secure your children's future
I am as disappointed in ur husband as u are.
Mtscheeeew
All these Exs that won't go... Hmmmm... I fear for myself as well ooooo... Poster 2 just ask him whatsup with the ex just as if you never snooped. .. If he denied then you can burst the bubble
Delete.. abi
P2, There's always that ex that wants to die there but they'd meet what's worse in their marriage. Your hubby is the one tolerating her, he respects u though but that ex na ur senior wife. Ask if u can keep in touch with ur ex too, oga jaw go drop. Let him know u know what is going on n warn him seriously. Don't say too much. Need i say he's giving u privacy cos he wants his for the likes of the silly ex. Start saving for the sake of ur kids, thank goodness u found out.
DeleteP1, leave that marriage or u find another boy toy.
You guys should please save it.Which ex no wan go? E drive am na im she no go? If he stops communicating with her won't she go.
DeleteMost times it is our men that go back to their ex's professing i still love you bla bla bla, i wish things were different and other stories.He went to the uk,, invited her over for 11 days, how did the babe know he was in the uk? Make una stay there.
It is clear they still love each other and only parted because of genotype issues.What can you do than talk to him? hmmm!
Baylow, u said it all....
DeleteStill at poster 1.. And u must be among those be saying ' single girls leave our horsebands alone while your holding onto our bachelors...
ReplyDeleteLmao...
Lol!!!!
Deletelolz,i agree wit u o,no wonder am stil searchin,plz ooo,married women leave our bachelors alone or we go backslide 4rm our repentance o,Lmao
DeleteAwon Mrs Onise pls leave bachelors alone and face ya horseband ooo
Deletemake i sit down read comments, dis chronicles pass me abeg
ReplyDelete@Poster 1: this is why I keep saying married women who have got issues in their homes should NOT get emotionally involved with SINGLE guys! It always ends up the same - HEARTBREAK!! up till now I still can't figure how married women are able to loosen up emotionally to other men apart from their husbands.... Maybe if I could, I won't be going through a lot of emotional stress, but then is it worth it??? I guess NOT!!!!
Delete@Poster 2- hmmmm I don't know what to advise u mbok....I used to be team snoop but no more! Cos there's nothing new I would like to know again..... But hey! Now u know ur 'good husband' is a man after all! If u must ask him, make sure u have a proof. But it can't be the same again mbok!
Meanwhile, the fear of Stella's mouth is the beginning of wisdom... Lol
BLOG ANALYSER: @ narr 1, pls end the relationship nd focus on ur hubby or better still leave him nd get oda men since ur boy is getting married. The truth is that doing it while still married is dangerous. It can lead to deadly ends. @2 sorry abt ur plight.my sincere advice to u is for u to start saving hugely since he has enough that can go round. If u must talk to him abt it.It has be calmly coz u snooped. Also use illustration nd stories to introduce it or buttress ur point. He might tink u are talking abt another person then if he knows it is him. He might tell u directly that he knows he is the one u are talking abt. From there u can now table ur opinion
ReplyDeleteSnooping member, yes I am present!
ReplyDelete@ poster 2, u said ur hubby respects privacy and hates snooping, right? Ok. U also said u are a prayer warrior shey? Ok. Now tell ur hubby dat in the course of ur fervent prayers, it was revealed dat ur hubby is still in love with his EX and dat it will end in disaster and also don't forget to mention dat his EX will die a painful death and dat plague will befall her...my dear if really u say he still loves her, he will end the relationship!
Just wake him up from sleep around 2am and ask him! ..... conny man die na conny man go wake am, *ex(es) and first love case* ehhh, arrrrrgh I can't deal!
Gbamest..Infact God showed you in a dream ans it was so clear and scary..lool
DeleteVery good advice, I used it once for DH and it worked like magic,he confessed and I forgave him. Poster 2 please take this advice.
DeleteLol,bestest reply ever,I feel u die,abeg poster2 this is your way out o.
DeleteGbammest
DeleteLmao...
DeleteTrust dats gonna work.
I'm so disappointed in ur hubby @poster 2. Okunrin kai!
Best advice ever, pls poster one. Heed to what Rudegirl said...
DeleteGBAM. Dat settles it @ poster 2. Make sure say na middle of d night oo.
DeleteGBAM. Dat settles it, make sure say na middle of the night oooo.
DeleteOmg....u r a real badass.
DeleteRudegirl spot-on gurl...Lmao. Men fear these type of revelation die.
DeleteLol this your advice make sense oh
DeleteFirst poster,am so sorry but you have to let your sugar son to get married....you are very greedy ohh...you don't want him to have a family,na wah for you sef...you guys can continue after his marriage jare...
ReplyDeleteNext time your husband lay his hand on you,fight him back.... Haba!!...
Poster 2,
Am #TeamSnoop and I always advise women to snoop on their men to avoid stories that touch....
Confront your husband so he can explain what he is still doing with his ex....you get heart to endure,if na me,the house for don catch fire immediately I saw the results of the snoop....
Call the girl and warn her to stay off....
Call her parents as well...
Dear Lawd! no matter what I read here everyday, i shall never be scared of marriage. Amen.
ReplyDeleteI don tire, lemme jusy wait for comments.
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Sweetie, marriage De sweet o....but just like vinegar, it could be sour.
DeleteTHELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeletePoster2----politely spill it out when he comes back and tell him how heartbroken you are,do not nag or fight him off......just act like a qween and hear him out...don't let the devil or any strange woman rob u of your peace ....its well with ur home!!
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
Can we just have one young couple in Nigeria that neither of them cheats? It wasn't like this in the Era of our parents and grandparents now. Cheating all over the place. Let your conscience be the judge for narrator 1. Narrator 2 : confront your husband with the evidence cos it seems you are the side chic in your own marriage.
ReplyDeleteNa lie. People have been cheating since before Adam and eve. Back then, they were just slicker about it cos the consequences were worse. These days, people simple don't send as much.
DeleteI swear, d thing tire me abeg. I'm married to the best husband any woman would wish for, but like poster 2 got d shocker of her life. Me sef dey fear. All these stories scare me, but i don dey build my shock absorber sha.
DeleteIn the era of our parents, it was worst than now, then no divorce, our father's married more than one wives, even with concubines outside there homes, so forget it ooo.
DeleteSo all these ppl that complain that their fathers are cheating on their mothers re toddlers? My dear, men hav been cheating frm time immemorial. Our mothers simply had more resilience and endurance. Again, in these days, information is widely disseminated, women feel they're gettin wiser and its their right to hav their husbands only to themselves, which is wat is causing the increasing rate of divorce. Even my mum told me dt she continued catchin my dad wt so many women to d extent that she started prayin for God to make her stop catchin him, cos she knew she couldn't b a divorcee. She caught him on so many occassions accidentally ooo, not lik she was lookin to catch him. As a matter of fact, my dad is late now and my mum is living wt HIV. That's why I don't really blame Stella's anti snooping policy, except if u re sure u wil leav d marriage if u catch ur husband cheating in u. If u don't want a man that cheats, repent of ur sins, bcom a born again christian and desist frm fornication. Pray to God for a God-fearing man. Only that can stop a man from cheating. Nothing else.
DeleteSnooping is a dicey game. But I support it. I wouldn't want to b snoopin on my husband but I shouldnt b afraid of touchin his phone just bc of wat I may find. I think most women dt re married to chronic cheats knew all along before marriage. Fact! Only very few didn't kno. So I feel no pity for women whose husbands re womanizers. They were simply desperate for marriage. Now for somone lik P2 whose problm is just her hubby's ex due to old flames, u hav to put a strain on that love. How? Don't confront ur husband. Send som tough guys to harrass and possibly beat up that girl. They should never mention u or ur husband's name. They should simply tell her that a woman she's dating her hubby sent them. They can make a video of her kneeling down and pleadin never to do it again. If she reports to ur husband, feign ignorance and deny dt its u. If he insists its u which is less unlikely, pick offence and then ask him who hes cheatin wt, but believ me, wen u say its not u, he wil start suspectin d girl of dating other men. There wil b a strain on their rship. And if possibl, those guys should continue calling and threatenin her. Nobody wil tell her to run for her dear life. If she tries to fight u, ur husband wil fight her cos he wil believ u re innocent. Those guys should trace her mvt and kno where they can find her alone, or better stil, borrow a car, toast her, and take her out at night. Then drive her to a secluded corner and deal wt her.
It is well....
ReplyDeleteTeam snoop anytime, any day....it is better she knws dan floating on water, I rather knw whom am married to dan float in lies cos I dnt want to snoop, number one I dnt support adultery no matter wat so I dnt hv an advise for u
ReplyDeleteTeam snoop present!
ReplyDeleteConfront the heck out of that man
Is it ur fault the lady is AS? Wetin concern u? Did u force him to marry u?
Since he has married u, he has no business keeping that lady oo
You are even sounding too nice about this matter. You found out ur husband spent 12 days wit a lady and u are still twisting ur fingers and asking questions.
These men are always acting as if they r the best thing that has ever happened since sliced bread
Mtcheew
This is hard!! I'm honestly against snooping as well so wouldn't advice it because 9/10 you will always find something snd when you do.. You have to do something about it as Stella says. But I'm also against men that lie and cheat and hide and seek so this one is a catch 22. You're damned if you do, and you're damned if you don't.
ReplyDeleteFor now I would say approach your husband, sit him down. (After valentines day) ask him if he has anything to tell you? Anything he has to confess... If he says no, mention the texts messages you saw. At this point, you may not want to mention tha you snooped, maybe say someone had been texting you or emailing you annonymously saying they're dating him... Not sure how you should approached it but let him know that you know.
One of two things will happen.. Either he will A) Admit and beg you for forgiveness and understanding or B) he will deny, and twist the entire thing to make you look like the bad person. Which ever one happens, stand your ground because you've made your bed so you have to relax on top of it. Stand your ground... Don't end up being the one begging him.
But then again, what do I know? I'm not married lol just my own 2 cents!
Good luck!! :)
u shld totally approach dis from a vry different angle. u hv snooped, vry gud. d way to bell d cat can b tricky, but it happens.
ReplyDeletehere is my suggestion.
wake up one morning, vry early. n strt sobbing. sob until oga wakes up. den tell him wht u jst dreamt about (all d orishirishi) u found out.
tell him d dream was so real. dt infact after u saw all dt, u knw it true. den strt askin him y he is doing dis to u.
now b prepared for d denial. accept d denial, bu tell him to let u see his fone. u r d damsel(victim) in distress o. so dnt go about it in a gra gra manner. be prepared to cry lyk ur heart is in shreds. if u dnt knw hw to act, rehearse vry well o. u knw ur hubby beta, so u knw hw dis will play out. he will eida confess(not vry likely but a girl can hope) or u wld take his fone n voila.... wht happens afta dat is up to u. b rdy to remov evry strange woman in ur marriage.... cunny mann die, cunny woman bury am. u knw wht to do.
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DeleteNo be small drama queen. Thought my own suggestion was dramatic haha
DeleteHope u collected d lady's phone number and saved it incase,because your hubby would save it with a man's name
DeletePoster 2, babe please confront your husband immediately.
ReplyDeleteWTF!
God wanted you to know what he is up to that's why he made him forget his phone.
The man has been cheating on you and you are still thinking of how to talk to him?
unbelievable!
You don't even sound angry, disappointed or heartbroken.
Am I missing something here?
Seems you are scared of him. I hope not.
My dear, remember you are the one that has been wronged. He has been lying and cheating on you all these while so don't make it seem. As if you did something wrong by snooping. His phone is yours too and you have every right to go through it anytime you feel like.
You are meant to be 1!
You just obeyed the holy spirit that directed you to snoop.
His cup is full.
Now you know how deceitful, and untrustworthy your "perfect hubby'' is.
Your hubby has lots of explanation to do Nne, make him to start talking now.
He doesn't have regards for you. Imagine inviting her over for 12 days, the horror!
I won't advice you to quit or stay, that's totally up to you.
Depends on what you can tolerate.
All I can assure you is that if you treat this lightly, he'll never stop cheating on you.
And don't forget to go for a comprehensive medical test.
Who knows the nyamanyama he has passed on to you.
#shivers
All the best dear.
Poster 1,
Shameless irresponsible woman!
Your reason for cheating is so dumb. Just like your fellow cheats, you always have one silly excuse or the other.
If your husband is that horrible, why didn't you quietly divorce him before going on fucking spree with another man?
As for that fool sleeping with another man's wife, his wife must cheat on him.
#Karma
Please I have no advice for you. Continue sleeping with him even after his marriage, till his wife designs your face with acid!
Tueh!
Ashawo!
I forgot to say you are a disgrace to married women and mothers.
I expect you and your likes to come and bite me.
Bring it on girl!
Leave my toto for me, I love to fuck but hubby is misbehaving,I need to satisfy conji
Delete@poster 1:why why why.all married women should learn this words patience patience patience.
ReplyDeleteendurance and perseverance. two wrongs can't make a right. If you love your kids so much; you will never do something that will make them feel shame. a married woman should always make prayers; her kness and cries her best friend. what do you want to achieve by keeping this relationship. pleasure; affection; love and care but they are illusions because it will not last.marriage is for worse my dear and comes with challenges that one has to tighten his or her belt in other to conquer. each and everyone of us have our own crosses that we bear. so why won't you bear yours with pride and dignity as you wait upon the Lord to answer you.what you are doing is frowned upon and know that two wrongs can not make a right.
they say that if you want to come to equity; come with clean hands.have you searched your conscience.did you have an affair with a married man while single and now you are facing the consequences of your past because you made another woman cry.why am saying this is because most times people live a reckless life as a single person and when they settle down they expect the best and a peaceful home.yes you will have a peaceful home only if the person sincerely ask for forgiveness and wait upon the lord to fix it.please have some self control and end that relationship. go back to your home and make your home.continue praying because there is no over dose of prayers.you hear
When the heart isn't in a right state, how do u pray? Many questions I've got but zero answers. May God help us to always do wat is right.
DeleteNarrative 1:ℓ̊ fynk SDK boss has contributed very well.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2:The team you join doesn't help @all,it rather destroys homes,pray hard,ℓ̊ believe no body will take your place nor share your "thing" he never even reach you Lol, whine hubby about EX in the sense he won't kw u snooped,cos no man likes snooper. God will help you IJN.
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DeletePoster 1, am not going to curse you out bcos anybody can fall into this kind of temptation. You need to re-evaluate your life, set your priorities, go for a holiday alone to be able to this. Most importantly involve God in your decision and marriage. The institution of marriage is a very difficult one and one needs God to be able to scale through. Wish you luck in your decision. Keep your eyes on the stars and your feet on the ground!!!
ReplyDeletePoster 2, you can bring up the issue without your hubby knowing you snooped. Bring up the topic about EX and the last time you guys saw or hear from them. The trick "talk talk talk and when he is into the discussion listen listen listen pick your weapons" then ask him in particular about the banker lady and watch his body language....God please don't let him lie to this BV!!
Allow him to talk, even if he lies do not worry. If you two dnt pray together, pls start now even when he travels. Use the lady's name as your prayer point, ask God 4 forgiveness and then to bless her with her own hubby + separate them through prayers you are the 'WIFE'
Fight spiritually not physical...keep loving your Boo and make him to know is you and him forever.
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Can we just have one young couple in Nigeria that neither of them cheats? It wasn't like this in the Era of our parents and grandparents now. Cheating all over the place. Let your conscience be the judge for narrator 1. Narrator 2 : confront your husband with the evidence cos it seems you are the side chic in your own marriage.
ReplyDeleteposter one
ReplyDeleteIllicit affairs are fun until you abandon your hubby,that is when you will know the real side of humans!
If you are getting a separation because your "abusive" hubby,do it because you want a safe environment for you and your kids!
Poster 2
Freaking ask him! Tell him God led you to probe further....he won't be happy you snooped? Are you happy he is almost married to another woman?? Take back your marriage!!
This is not a case for leaving your home ooh.
Stand gidigba for ground!!
Don't go harassing the babe,work on your hubby...
Something must give!
I just feel back you didn't find out sooner....
*bad*
Delete@Iphie like that part, something must give, that is a strong prayer point, something must give for you to receive, kai men don turn there wife's to prayer warrior finish for 9ja, poster2, that ur style is called snoop doggy dog style, confront your husband, ask him, let him explain to u, at least u have d right to know, or did you force him to marry you, or are u afraid of him, it is not a one sided affair, so he needs to explain to you, if he does not love you anymore, he should let you know, he has to choose btw his immediate family or his side chick, tell know ur mind, so u pple can move forward to a better relationship, or work towards your marriage. Wish you best of luck, pls don't forget to give us feedback ok. Poster 1, I wish you best of luck, you think your lover will leave his new wife for u abi, grow up and behave ur age, he is just shagging you for the fun of it, how do u think he will ever respect you or trust you if he marry's you, it can't be possible, you are fucking anoda man, when you are still married to your husband, pls think with your brain not ur anus. Sori just got angry on anoda person case.
DeletePoster 2 Pls follow this advice. Fight for your home!
Delete*because of your abusive*
DeleteCorrection, poster2, tell ur husband it mind
DeleteI'm tired of women that think men they're having affairs with are worth being with! Why can't she see that it's just about sex and the thrill?? Someone that's getting married to sooneone else?? Don't know what makes her think he will leave his babe for a married woman he's been having an affair with... WOMEN... WAKE UP!
Deletetough....
ReplyDeleteposter number2, let me give one strategy that worked for me. dont confront him that you snooped through his phone,when my own happened, i i used the dreaming strategy and he opened up and told me everything... this is how it works, since he is around now, try and wake up one midnight as both of you are on the bed, start shouting let it look as if it was happening in your dream he will wake you up to find out what the matter is cos he will be scared as well, then you start with everything you saw in his phone, tell him you saw the revelation in your dream. then he will open up to you. it works like magic try it...
ReplyDeleteMay God restore peace in your heart and home..
Lmao...dat will scare any man o. I can imagine a lady waking me up in d middle of d night telling me everytin I've done,na to dey spill everytin o
DeleteHahahahaha! Wife strategies..
DeleteLmao! He will fear her after this episode.
I nearly peed on myself on this ur comment
DeleteDear anonymous! U are an actress!! I can't deal with u right now.... Oh my God I'm still laughing ...
So ur hubby feel for this dreaming strategy
Chia ladies be Manipulating men in different ways since the garden of a Eden
A dramatic approach? Hahaha nice
DeleteLmao....
DeleteHaha!! Dramatic wives club! When I get married I will try this ladies. Thank you in advance haha! Not that I'm wishing for such a thing to be an issue in my marriage. God forbid!
DeleteP1 What is wrong is wrong. True, being in ur shoes might be hard but then whose fault is it that u got to this point.Get someone to talk to, start from there.
ReplyDeleteP2 Let ur husband know what u have done...Talk it out.But be prepared cos the conversation might either turn out good or open up a can of worms.Apply wisdom!
Stella bae u know i alws ur advise are feminine bt i luv ur advise today esp to poster 1.Poster 1 do excactly as stella said n contact her.Poster 2 u dont hav a problem cuz hubby luv u so much just sit him down b4 he travel n tel him wot u saw n u wil settled it cuz from ur story ur many a luvly man.Dont kip it to urself ask him in a polite manner.
ReplyDeletewhen i broke up with a guy cuz of genotype, he wanted to hang on including his mom but i said No and i survived it. my point is the gal must have been so hurt that your loving husband finds it difficult to ignore her...tread carefully
ReplyDelete#teamsnoop# poster you just have to look for a way to bring up something related to this and hear what he says. From experience, trust me if you tell him you already know he'll stop leaving msgs for yu to see. Just bring up a discussion and from his reply you'll know. Good luck. Pls stop snooping for your own sanity.
ReplyDeletePoster2- It is well. Pray to God to touch his heart,then sit him down to have a heart talk. Don't Nag....I repeat don't Nag,as this will push him far considering the fact he's still travelling. God will restore the Sanity in your home.
ReplyDeletePoster 2- Leave the guy to go start his family while you go back and build yours. Are you working or Running a business? Work hard and support the family financially.. God will help you.
Stella has said it all..... so make I sit down read comments.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, if your sugar boy really loves you, he wouldn't be planning marriage to someone else by now. Please concentrate on your children since ur hubby sef is messing up. Try salvaging ur marriage nd at least getting nd saving money just incase you decide to leave.
ReplyDeletePOSTER2 something would have prompted you to snoop, that's why you did. You can ignore or quietly nd romantically sit him down, stylishly ask him and am sure he can explain what must have happened or why he did such. Don't shout or nag just talk to him like a good and loving wish. I guess it was hard for him to let the lady go since they really loved each other but it still don't give him room to cheat on his loving wife.
Any man who breaks it off with a woman as a result of genotype issue is most definitely still in love with her....and vice versa. Im a witness..so, you all be careful.
ReplyDeleteMadam, your hubby is cheating with other women as well..too bad! Since you snooped already,just finish it up by confronting him with your findings.
It will cause a rift;but then,he's the offender....so,dont be afraid. He should be ashamed. Face him! know you can do it.
Poster 1: leave d young man to move ahead with his life and have a deep talk with your husband.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: snoop doggy sister, deal with the result of ur
Snooping
P1 when that guy fucks u to his satisfaction, he will leave u cos already u have a baggage.
ReplyDeleteP2 confront him
But bear in mind,d ex won't be wife number 2
If she likes let her dote on ur husband n not look for another genotype compatible mam.
She go old.
Relax! No shake cos she will remain an ex
Till she becomes wiry.
Blackberry nne, well said....Poster2, from another angle, if I were you, I would gather enough evidence Asin copy all copiables from ur hubby's phone to ur phone, then wait for him to go back to d UK....enter flight straight to Enugu, look ur best o, enter d idiot's branch and calmly demand to see her branch head, explain everything to him or her, tell d branch head dat his/her staff is wrecking ur home! No dramas o, act as cool as u can....but dont bother seeing or discussing anything with d bitch.....demand dat d branch head calls her to order....calmly walk out again and enter flight come back home....I swear d shame of being d object of office gossip go create instant hatred in her heart for ur hubby......When she tells hubby and he askes you simply tell him he started d whole shit so u r just following up Shikena.
DeleteAnty Stella, u are always against #teamsnoop.
ReplyDeleteBut when certain things go wrong in a marriage, u'l say the person did not 'investigate' properly before marriage.
I understand where you are coming from o, but there are certain things that shouldn't be called 'snooping', like casually going thru the hubby's phone. As much as there's a big possibility of seeing 'unwanted' things, I think it's better to be in the know than to be ignorant.
#justsaying.
Poster 1 - your matter dey God hand.
Poster 2 - calmly ask the hubby wassup.
Poster 1. You just have to let go. its difficult considering the fact that the guy offered you a comfort zone at ur time of distress but if you determine to do it, you will. Do not cause another woman pain, that will be selfishness on your part.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. Is it possible for you to turn a blind eye and pretend you didnt see anything? I would have advised you to confront him but from how u described ur hubby, i dont think he is such a "dramatic" person. Its very easy for him to get along with his ex because they didnt really have a fight before going their separate ways but that is still not a reason for him to cheat. His 12months in the UK will soon expire and he will return home so take it easy with him.
Sleekreek dear,he will return home to the babe still...poster says concubine lives in Enugu. ooh..So how long will she turn a blind eye to this?
DeleteHe probably flies her to any country he is posted to..
Is it until he wills everything he owes to "the love of his life" it is well
Oya o team snoop
ReplyDeleteA little bit under d weather today ,cnt comment or cuss stella lol cos am team snoop
ReplyDeleteBuahahahaha at Stella's second red biro.
ReplyDeleteEhen na u always accuse us team snoopers hence we give it right back at ya.
I still maintain my stand it's good to snoop. I won't go out of my way to check his fone if he is in d toilet or that kind of snooping that your heart will be beating but if I find the fone lying around and he isn't in the house atm am definitely going thru it.
Abeg my sister snoop nothing do you. It's good you know what your hubby is doing and has been doing for the past 5 years. So dat if you were carrying husband matter upon your head before you go jejely drop the load and face your career. No comot from the marriage oh. Na till death do us part
@1, no be only men sabi cheat, ur deserves wat ever u do to him, money e no get, good character e no get, common nacking kwa e no sabi, abi dem swear for ur hubby, abeg enjoy ur sex life with ur sugar boy while it last.
ReplyDelete@2, no advice, stella don warn all snoop doggy dog on this blog but una no dey hear word, na u sabi.
HMMMMM. nAWAOO.
ReplyDeleteFOR THE FIRST NARRATOR, I WILL SAY SHE IS JUST BEING SELFISH..SHE SHOULD GROOM HER MAN TO WHOM SHE WANTS HIM TO BE SEXUALLY, EVEN IF IT MEANS GOING EXTRAL MILE WITH SEX TAPE TO TEACH HIM, AND SHE WILL ENJOY HIM..
2ND NARRATOR..
I WAS FIRST SPEECHLESS AND THOUGHT WHAT IF IT WERE ME.....
WELL IF I WERE IN YOUR SHOES, I WILL ASK HIM BUT IN A MATURED WAY.. NOT MAKING IT SOUND AS IF YOU ARE OUTRAGED OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT.. LET HIM KNOW YOU ARE DISAPPOINTED AND DIDNT EXPECT THAT...
YES THERE WILL BE SOME FIRE IN THE AIR, BUT IT WILL SURELY BURN OUT THE SHIT AND SET THINGS RIGHT..
IF U SHOULD KEEP IT,, IT WILL BE WORSE COS U WILL DEVELOP HATRED FOR HIM THAT IT WILL CAUSE MORE HARM...
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ReplyDelete.
Mehn, women dey really pass alot shah....
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Hmmm....Post 1...Jump and pass...I no no for you oooo...
ReplyDeletePost two...My candid advise is that you don't say anything now...keep praying , ask God for wisdom on how you confront Hubby, cos you don't want him turning the story around in his favor....cos men sabi do that thing......so be patient, pray that God quenches that old flame..... but gather more facts ooooo... so that the day you will download all you know(not with fight ooo) hubby go know say u don catch am red handed and then you can both begin the road to restoration.....trust me patience is a good virtue...
Also prepare well for home coming, look your best ever so when he comes he just cant help but fall for you (na you him marry naa, and na you born am him children)....the hand that rocks the cradle rules ....
@ poster 2:am so sorry for the heart break.sometime ago I commented that there are two types of men who cheat.1.the ones that cheat on their wives; are discrete and when they come home; they are good fathers to their children and good husbands to their wives. they take care of their responsibilities religiously. they have respect for their wives and won't want to hurt her.2.the ones that do not have any iota of respect for their wives and do not care whether their wives finds out that they cheat or not. some bring the girls into their matrimonial homes.some bring money for upkeep even though they hurt their wives and some don't do that.
ReplyDeleteyour husband belong to the first category. you have to talk to your husband but please be tackful.have a heart to heart talk with him and ask him if you are not enough for him and if he doesn't love you that much that makes him keep his ex.don't shout at him or scream but do it with gentility.if you feel like crying;cry.tell him the consequences of his actions if he was to put his ex in the family way.beg him not destroy his home.whatever the outcome will be always still be the good wife and go about your normal activities as if nothing happened. when you do that he will be more pricked in his conscience.and he will by his grace have a rethink.don't forget always going on your knees because there is no over dose. this is a trying period so you have to be careful the way you handle it;so that you will be able to contain it.inugo.jisike
@Narrative No1: You don't need any advice, cos you already know d truth. Just do the right thing pls.
ReplyDelete@Narrative No2: God simply showed you a prayer point, not a talk topic. Pls keep ur mouth shut and pray about it, that's, if u luv ur marriage. Talking has never broken any sort of soul-tie(what ur hubby has with the ex). Hold ur tongue, control ur self and get on ur knees. It might not be an easy task, but that's what u NEED to do to win in ur marriage. I pray that God gives u the strength and wisdom u need.Hugs.
poster 2
ReplyDeleteImagine if you didn't snoop! Let ur hubby know you are in the light of what is going on between him and his ex because you never can say what will happen when he goes back.
Don't try to look for the babe or exchange words with her.
I just don't know why ex don't stay off their exes relationship., Ex should learn to respect relationship.
Narrative 1 and two
ReplyDeleteGobe + gobelization .
Poster 1 - your matter eeh ,your eyes dey outside before .
Poster 2 -abeg confront him afterall his your hubby .pull down the roof ,tell him he left his phone and you snooped .kilode are you scared of him
Dnt no wat to tell poster 1, poster 2 just joking tellin him to use condom, if he is cheating.. cos u dreamt he is cheating.. start lk dat.. pls am new here.. make una welcome me well.. I decided to start comment today.. love Sdk n sdkers
ReplyDeleteStella I do not just love ur blog! I personally love u for who u are darling, u gave it all to poster 2. Oya team snoopers make una come sis wey get belle don born baby boy ooo, lol
ReplyDeleteTeamsnoop bu egwu ndi obi ka, if u know say u no get mind to swallow what u will see so why snoop?? Note to new member that want to join teamsnoop, kindly ensure that u have a strong heart. Becus there are certain things u see that u have to keep to ur slf. My advice to u is this, come out plain, first apologise for snooping n then tell him what u saw n ask kindly honey are u still in love with her? u have to let go sweetie if u truly love her so she can face her life n find someone to settle with. Act all cool n caring n watch him open up n tell u more, that way u will bring him close to you. Please dont shout, love is a feeling u dont choose who u love, it's unfortunate they were both AS. cuddle him n tell him i know this must be hard for u but we will get tru it darling. U have to let her go for her own good. u get d drift??? Bring that ur hubby on ur palms n squeeze him gently while u smile.
ReplyDeletemake i siddon like stella bae read comment
ReplyDeletePoster 1: u don enter oh, listen to stella's advice
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I rily dunno what to advice u o, but since you've snooped n discoverd something, I think u shud calmly talk it with him. Pele
Today's chronicles get as e be o. Poster 1, extra marital affairs always have dire consequences. You don't need unnecessary drama in your life. Poster 2, now it's the time to get on your knees and talk to God cos He's the only one that can break whatever bond your husband shares with that lady. Good luck to you all.
ReplyDelete@ poster1, you have no justification as to why you should cheat, kindly file in for a divorce if the man is this bad......allow d young man go oloshi
ReplyDeleteStella pls post my story. I have just emailed you the third time last night. Pls I beg you in the name of God.
ReplyDeleteStellz, u havnt posted or replied my email, praying its nt in d comment pot.
ReplyDeleteposter 2 i read ur story halfway and i fainted,wen i wake up wil read d rest
ReplyDeleteWow! Poster 2 u really need to spill it out abeg! Else it won't stop. That's not a good one, they might just over look d genotype tin and before u knw it pregnancy comes it...pls inform ur husband and if he's unrepentant, call d family members to interfere. My 2cent tho!
ReplyDelete@P1. You have to let the young man go. Him telling you to leave your husband for him might just be mere talk he might not mean it. If you tell him you will do what he asked don't be surprised if that will be the last day you will see his shadow.Sex they say is not food according to XOXO mystery . Adultry is a sin before God. My take on any married cheating married woman is for them to leave the home and be free to carry on their excapade. Then you can shine your congo as a single person. @P2. You can't ask him you will only make him change strategies according to Stella. Remember you had no business with is phone.unless you are ready to darm d consequeces then ask him
ReplyDeleteHmm it is well. In my next life I will be a man
ReplyDeletePoster1, plz let d young man go, if u stop him frm getting married, u re blocking someone's destiny frm being fulfilled and if u continue wit him after he is married, U re putting assunder and causing someone pains in here home. Pls present ur Man n family before God and he wil make all tins beAutiful in his own time.poster2,let me congratulate ur DH 4 being d best like u rated him dat means he deserve to be appreciated, kip d peace alive and dnt try to put fire dat u cannot quench biko. Since u already knew y ur hubby parted frm his previous relatnship and being a good man I really tink dat whatever he does to his Ex is kinda making up 4 d hurt. Dnt ask him now, give him time atleast d training wil soon end and he wil return bac to U. Stop snooping as a married man bc even if u find out d worse,marriage is 4 beta 4 worse. No one is witout sin,,,,,,,,,,,Do not ask until he display a questionable attitude den u can use it as a base.
ReplyDeleteat N1...i feel u. feel free to remain a punching bad.
ReplyDeleteat N2...hmmmm. u shud mind ur own business. because he's married he shudnt live his life again? nonsense.
You have issues!
Delete@rudegirl aswear your head stand gidigba.
ReplyDeleteI am team snoop.....i snoop sotey my eyes find it hard to readjust after twisting them on end to look in boos phn.poster2 if you are reading then take the advice of ''rudegirl.........its wat i do.i'd say its my spirit my instincts that tells me these things i snooped and found
Poster 1.i'm sure if you truly sit down for 10mins dedicated at finding a solu....you will.be truthful with yourself,ok.com take a hug
@poster 2, i can relate to your story 100%. Im like that with my ex aswell. He was my first, disvirgined me and all that. We were soooo close he loved me to a fault, took care of me like a big brother, but i was very young. we dated for 4years from when i just got out of secondary school. I dumped him when i got into uni because i thought he was choking me too much and i needed space ( greatest mistake of my life) he was travelling out and begged me to wait for him, cried all night but i couldn't just wait 4 him to leave cos i was tired, couldn't even stand 4 him to touch me anymore. Even after he left he was such a mess. Alot of his new friends, even females used to call me to tell how much he was a mess trying to make me reconsider but in my mind i was done. At some point he moved on . Eventually got married n had kids. Then i became a mess, oh what a great mistake i had made, nobody i ever dated after him could ever be like him. after about 10yrs he came visiting, i went to see him, spent the night with him and it was like no time had passed between us atall, we both cried our eyes out that we didnt end up with eachother. The love making was like ever before, the best i ever had. The connection between us us still like 100%. Then i realised i had lost my soulmate, apparently he is in an unhappy marriage aswell. After he left i went into depression, so bad that i didnt get up from bed for a week. Didn't getup, didn't eat, didnt bath, all i did was cry n sleep. A part of me was missing and i couldn't get it back. My bestfriend was scared i had become suicidal. Then we started communicating we still tell each other how much we love eachother and exchange hot heated messages like young lovers would. He started picking up my bills aswell. Bought me a car and set up a thriving business for me (outside my regular job) Whenever he comes around its the same cycle that happens over and over and over. He still hopes i would get someone nice to settle down with, but now im in my 30s, not in a relationship ( no relationship has ever worked, no one has been worth it), still 100% hung on my ex, still hating myself for letting him go. I regret every single day. Guess i need help too.
ReplyDeleteAnother woman's husband Abi? I hope you know when you get married your husband will cheat too and mind you Pls don't come here writing chronicles of narrative Abi na wetin. Karma will hit you so bad that you won't be shocked. Oshi!
DeleteWhat are you yarning about?na ur type de cos confusion for inside person marriage....same thing we are talking about here.get over yourself pls..mschewwww
DeleteN2 this is the x o.
DeleteU go old o
DeleteLol
If u guys love urselves n he's in an unhappy marriage, let him divorce his wife n marry u or better marry u as second wife,that is IF he loves u as say,else u will remain like dat until u go old n he will go for a fresh kill. Tell him to do it n see if he will.
Cunny men everywhere.
Yes snooping is bad but you have seen what you should. You have to confront him in fact you must. It is obvious that he loves her and cannot love two women at the same time so you have to know where you stand in all this. There is no need to fight them know your stand and work from there.
ReplyDeleteAwwwwww! My poor darling, yeah, good sex after a lifetime of mediocre or substandard sex can make a believer out of any woman, even a frigid one. We make love with our brains which secretes the "bonding" hormones. What you feel may not be love but intense sexual attraction and compatibility. So you may need to pump the brakes and be sure of the emotions you feel.
ReplyDeleteHoney, how old are you? , when and why did you get married to your hubby? I only ask to determine if he has always been this way or something triggered his psychotic episodes and mood swings. I'm not in support of cheating on a spouse or ending a marriage (unless in extreme cases) but I believe if you want to quit your marriage, please don't quit on the promise of marriage by your side dude. If you must leave, it should be because the marriage has broken down irretrievably or your life and sanity or those of your kids are in jeopardy.
Some single guys use the "I want to marry you" line to hoodwink single ladies into giving up the "cookie", only to pull the disappearing act once they've had their fill. Honey what makes you think a single guy will be honest about marrying a soon to be divorced mother with kids? That's and problem with good sex, it tends to dull your sense of reason. Can't you see he is already about to marry someone else? The his prospective wife just drop from the sky? Wasn't she in the picture while you and lover boy were doing you thang? A decent man who is ready to marry you in spite of your baggage, possesses love strong enough to wait a while for you to get your issues sorted out before he opts out to marry someone else. It's sad how many women easily believe the dude outside loves them and wants to marry them. Only to leave their hubbies and the lover boys start giving them attitude and the true intentions are revealed.
Sweetie, I can't tell you whether or not to leave your marriage because you stayed long enough to birth his kids and you are the only one who knows the horrors you endure, but if you decide to leave, please do it on your own terms and not on the premise of an unreliable proposal. I'm sorry, my love, but I doubt your hold on lover boy is strong enough to interfere with his prospective marriage plans. He may continue sleeping with you as a side chic. Please hold on to the last shred of your dignity and let him be with whomever he chooses.
#e-bearhugs.
Poster 1, I'm not God so I won't judge. My advice to you, if you're done with the marriage, leave and be with someone else. No one will bit u if u sleep with someone else, while single. If u want to stay and continue with the humiliation, just stay. But don't use the abuse to justify what you're doing cos no one buys it. If u choose to stay and be abused, that's on you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, I'm kinda shocked that you're asking for advice. If u didn't suspect him in the first place, you wouldn't have snooped. Bottom line is you knew something was up and now that you have proof you don't know what to do? Confront your husband my friend! You're his WIFE. Not girlfriend or mistress or FWB. You DESERVE an explanation. The manner in which you do it is up to u cos you know your husband better. But you must confront him. This isn't a matter u sweep under the rug "to save your marriage". It isn't a marriage if both people aren't honest and open with one another in the first place.
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DeleteDear poster 1, pls read proverbs
ReplyDeletechap 5 & 6:20-35.
Poster 2, I use to snoop but I've tried to stop. I almost went crazy. Then I shared with a friend and she said something to me. Snooping is like stealing, that is taking what is not yours. She advice that instead I use it as a prayer point and a way to get my hubby's mind. But let it go without saying a word. Once we talked I brought up some of the issues but he denied. Well, my friends point was he will never trust me etc. So I will go with e counsel an anonymous gave for you to use dream to bring the issue to his knowledge. However, pray and break that relationship between him and the other lady.For me it the uissue was not infidelity, they were mind issues and deep too. So different strokes for different folks. All the best.
@ poster 14:33, you need'nt be afraid of marriage. I have been married for over twenty years and for all of those years, i have never cheated on my wife. Note that i am tall, fair and very okay financially;the difference is that i fear God very seriously. I believe that there are still good men out there who are faithful. Work on yourself with God helping you, you should get a good man. What you sow is what you reap - If you sow righteousness, you will reap righteousness but if otherwise ......
ReplyDeletep 1: so you want to that young man to still meet you even when he is married. you want to eat ur cake and have ba. before i open my eyes you have left the guy to work on his on marriage. you sef, work on your on. shebi na you agree to marry him. desperado
ReplyDeletep2: snoop dog chai. you are nw in a cross road. you have to tell ur hubby nw. hw u do that i dont know. its ur cross carry it.
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The Lady who recommended the dreaming strategy for Poster 2 has a good point. I think that is the best way to confront the issue with hubby
ReplyDeleteThe sad thing about confronting cheating spouses is the lies that follows.
ReplyDeleteI'd advise you to be silent about it and pretend you did not see a thing. In the meantime increase your demands and that of the children and save up big time.
You can invest the money in landed property or start a trade, just make yourself happy.
Don't forget to break them up spiritually through prayer and fasting. Tell God to scatter them beyond reconciliation. If you confront your husband it might result into a big fight and that will not make him stop. Above all pray and follow your mind.
Option 2... Take the phone as evidence and report him to his mother.
#TeamSnoop, let's do this.. let's help our peronal person out. Let the comments roll in
ReplyDeletePoster1,just go and ask God for forgiveness because u are worst than your husband..............
ReplyDeletePoster2,u did no wrong by snooping, he is ur husband and u guys are ONE...Now that you have snooped and discovered wat u did,u need to ask him before he travels....I said ASK not CONFRONT,since u say u're a prayer warrior, tel him your 'spirit' led u to do it and if he tries to go defensive, use his weak point against him.....Now that you know ur husband still loves his EX,start saving, work on Urself,start a business,secure the future of ur kids,pray,sit down,relax and watch God work wonders for u....No need to cry over spilled milk,take it to God in prayer!!!! #SNOOPING has more advantage than disadvantage, depending on the SNOOPEE....
@poster 2.. Please do not confront him now if u do not have enough saved up as backup. Because if he left that girl just because of genotype it simply means he dint wanna av SS kids by chance. So now that he has kids from u, he might as well leave u for her (his love) with d notion that he has his kids already so now he can settle for love. And girls being so desperate these days, wont mind marrying him if he decides to leave u. So please save enough first then confront him. Just incase he picks her over u. Because the minute he is aware u are aware everytin changes and becomes weird for u both and him especially
ReplyDelete@ Poster two... I can totally relate to your husband's story, as i and my bf (you see, I say bf cos that is the way i still feel) decided to move on cos we are both AS. Now the issue is neither of us is actually moving on. Then comes this guy, so romantic and all, I have decided to give it my all, he loves me so much but i still see that i have not completely forgotten my AS bf. I sha pray not to enter the kain gbege when your hubby enter so. Good luck on the confrontation
ReplyDeleteBVs plssssssssssssssssssssssssss........ I need a JOB like seriously, am a graduate, I reside @ Lagos, I am tired of staying home all day to the extent that even the Rats in my room has started Gossiping me everyday dat am jobless!!!!! Plsssssssssssssssssss BV' help a SISTER a reduce the Gossips by Rats!!!
ReplyDeleteI saw this comment but Moi said I should stop replying "married hoes", so I didnt. It's a post now, so I can. Poster 1, I'm praying this prayer on behalf of that young lady that wants to marry your lover. Jehovah expose this rubbish to her and give her the courage to take a walk! Father lord I'm standing in gap for that woman who is about to marry a man that sleeps with another man's wife and has no respect for the institution and sanctity of marriage, God in heaven reveal this bullshit to her and give her the grace to carry her heart to another place. Adulterers forever giving excuses since WWI. Poster ashewo 1, is divorce ever that hard??!!!!! And I'm sure it's your dirty likes that would be the first to castigate and put down divorce women for not keeping their marriage.FYI a divorced woman, who left her marriage with her dignity and pride intact, is a thousand times better than a married ashewo.So you're in love with him, what should we do? If he had any iota of genuine feelings for you, he would have waited till you left your marriage with your pride in place before starting BS with you.
ReplyDeleteErmmm you better forget about him ever marrying you! If you like divorce your husband today, he won't MARRY YOU. Why??!! Because he knows that the same fate that befell your husband will befall him. If you think I'm lying, divorce your husband and see.You think your husband is terrible??!! You've not seen yet. Your sugar boy does not love you and never will. You don't even love him sef, it's the hot steamy sex you love.You know what you should do since you asked, on his wedding day, go to the church, when the priest makes the "any objection" announcement,be sure to object and state your reasons clearly. You guys can now live happily ever after. You think your lover is stupid, lol. He tells you what he knows you want to hear and as short sighted as you're, you re loving it. Women in genuinely terrible marriages don't have time to cheat. Adulterers and adulteresses up and down the place defending their side occupation of distributing their privtae parts and turning it into public toilets are not in terrible marriages. GTOFH!!!!!!
Yeah I forgot, he seems to be the shoulder for and comforter of married women with terrible husbands, so don't be shocked when you guys are together, he replaces your position with another married woman with "a terrible husband." I pity children of ashewo mothers, tufiakwa!!!! Love my ass.But seriously, why can't NIGERIANS divorce??!!! Is it ever that complex? And that pig of a man sleeping with another's wife will be jubilating on Saturday of his wedding day and people would be admiring the wife not knowing on Monday her husband is going to Transcorp Hilton to resume shagging another man's wife. Aru!!!!!!!! I'm just pitying the girl that is about to marry that demon.yuck!!!
Poster 2, God will help you oo. I don't know what to say. Maybe you should give him an ultimatum. You or his ex..... Abeg I don't know. But I know this would never be the same. Why do people even get married when they are stll have that ex factor? Is marriage ever that compulsory? Nawa oo, see what he wants to ruin now. A beautiful family. Me I don't know oo. Since you said you pray, maybe that's God's way of showing you the diseases ahead so you can arm youself against them. God help you.Im sure that his ashewo ex probably is married or has somebody she wants to marry.People really do make life more complicated than it already is. Smh.......... God help you.
DONT GET MARRIED, IF YOU DONT KNOW WHAT IT MEANS TO BE MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!! Association of adulterers, forever defending their trade! Mistcheww.
Boring..as dry as haramttan season
DeleteI am a proud member of team snoop a lot of deceitful men out dere and y b d fool and not knw Wats happenin or b wise and knw if u're in a situationship or relationship d day I snooped my life changed 4 eva and I thank God 4 makin me do dat or else I would ve been a laughing stock pls c0onfront ur hubby and knw wat u r into and knw if u can deal wit d situation or walk away cos it's obvious he's still inlove wit her but y did he marry u anyways I pray God gives u wisdom to address it appropriately
ReplyDeleteSnoop o snoop if I didn't snoop I wont have known what he's been up to. You don't want to end up like me. Got tests results today stating I've tested for std. Thank God it can be treated. If it was Aids nko? Snoop o snoop !!!
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ReplyDeleteP1: If you have issues with your husband, sort it out. If you want to leave him, do so. Build your own life. But to leave your marriage simply because sex with another man is good? Abegi. Stolen bread always tastes sweet. But afterwards, the mouth is filled with gravel. You are well on your way to leaving the marriage anyway. Either he finds out or the guys fiancée will. And the shame you will face is better imagined than experienced. If I were you, I would cut off the sordid affair now. Sex is not worth losing all your dignity for. Your children will never forgive you!
ReplyDeleteP2 you should let your husband know. It happened to me. I snooped. But I told him in a very gentle way-didn't turn it into a fight. He begged and begged. till today, it is my weapon when we have a misunderstanding and I so desperately want to score a point. If I refer to it, he becomes very calm and apologetic and allows me to win! He he he he he...
Marriage is hard...a cheating partner is d hardest,traumatic nd horrible!
ReplyDeletePoster 1 : Pls don't walk out of ur marriage
ReplyDeletePoster 2: you re cool..huh?. Still keep cool so that you don't let d gate of abyss loose...This is an illegally obtained evidence, keep cool and use tour senses
BV@ 15:32. I feel sorry for you. You say he has an unhappy marriage now and you have made yourself the "filler" for him. You need to re-examine yourself and give yourself a little self-worth. Every cheating married man has "an unhappy marriage" He sees you as an available 'remainder" and that is why he keeps coming back to you. If you were married already by the time you met him 10 years later do you think the situation would be like this? God will give you your own man. He isn't going to leave his wife and kids for you. The stakes are too high for him. Leave him with his wife, dear girl. Or keep on filling in the gaps for him by providing him sex and he in turn providing you financial succor. If that's what you want for your life. And when your real man comes along only to find out that you have been dating a married man, your value will take a dip. You are short changing yourself girl. And you have much more to lose.
ReplyDeleteOghene!!!!!poster 1 pls don't leave your marriage o..take your mind of that guy and if it's the sex part you are lacking go get a vibrator i mean rubber dick n satisfied your self!!!!! Cheatin on ur hubby is not the best solution now and if really you know Stella give her a call don't be scared. Poster 2. You have snoop and put your self in a thinking situation.before your hubby goes back sit him down n let him know what you saw period
ReplyDeleteI don't know wer to start from, but I will sure start frm Somwher. Before I say anything, let me respond to Genny & Lady Buchi, there is no excuse for a cheating wife... And pls I did not applaud myself for doing the horrible acts. Thanks for the name calling, and I hope you 2 have never in your life sin? I rest my case! Let me sort my baggage like you called it. Good bless you two as you continue to live a sin free life!
ReplyDeleteThanks my wonderful and reliable BV, I've cried,and laugh at the same time,because some of the comments are damn funny. I read all comments like 5times, the more I read the more I cry,I dnt expect any of you to understand or applaud me for my sins, but trust me when I say I was almost a perfect wife until I saw myself committing adultery. As I type I still live in denial about everything.
Someone asked for my age, I'm 35yrs old. I didn't write a lot of stuff here,bcos he visits this blog once in a while. Like my lovely Stellabae wrote, I will call her to explain everything to her. Thanks once again for those powerful advice.. truth is sure bitter! I dnt pray for my enemy to be in my shoes. Genny and Buchi pls a word of advice, learn how to give constructive advice rather than insult and curses to someone you know nothing about her life.. Because I'm sure you didn't marry a Virgin! Thanks Stella Sugar for this opportunity. I will call you now.. hugs and kisses to you all. I pray to come back with Chronicle of hope....
I will advise that you keep calm and you did not see or snoop nothing. He respected you a lot by keeping the affair from you, if you now blow it he will ask you to choose what is good for you. So pls be quiet and enjoy your marriage. SILENCE IS VERY GOLDEN. MM
ReplyDeleteI will advise that you keep calm and you did not see or snoop nothing. He respected you a lot by keeping the affair from you, if you now blow it he will ask you to choose what is good for you. So pls be quiet and enjoy your marriage. SILENCE IS VERY GOLDEN. MM
ReplyDeletePoster 2, I agree with Chioma Obi. You need to BREAK THE SOUL TIE binding them together through prayer.
ReplyDeleteIf you like SHOUT, SCREAM, YELL, THREATEN and do all sorts, it won't yield result and even if it does, it's only temporary.
Break that tie between them and reclaim your DH. It is WELL. ---------------------------------------------
Poster 1: The 7th commandment says: "Thou shall not commit ADULTERY.
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Memo to all single (Male & Feemale): Please look well, physically, spiritually, prayerfully, emotionally, socially and all the allies before you jump the broom into matrimony.
My own snooping was my friend! I saw my friend use a dp that my bf used! Curiousity made me snoop on her and I found out their chat and how he was going to send her 30k to come see him! I challenged him and he said my friend has been playing on his two friends (which I knew about) and they wanted to use him to trap her to come so he can see both of them together while 'chilling' with my bf. I tire ahswear cus whenever I snoop his fone.....I don't see anything! He leaves it with me and no one ever mistakenly sends anything. My pics are all over his IG page! I deleted him off my friends fone and his fone too but this bastard is too smart and I can't leave him! Forget all those talks about leave him blah blah.....
ReplyDeleteIst Poster, better let him go, they always seem nice from a distance, am sure he will be worst than ur horseband wen u try to cross the boundary.
ReplyDelete2nd Poster, please confront him mbok. 2 things are bound to happen either he lets all hell loose, fight with u and mayb breakup🙈 or maybe ask for forgiveness and makeup.