NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
MARITAL SEX WITH HICCUPS
Good morning Stella,
I have an issue and I'd really love to see SDKers take on this.
My wife of six years is really pushing me to find sexual ecstasy outside.
1. She hardly initiates sex
2. She will cover her boobs during sex and devalue me to the point of actually making me beg to suck on them. Her argument is after nursing 3 children it feels funny having me go there.
3. The minute I start initiating sex, she'll suddenly have a list of requests. Can I at least have a bath? Can I quickly check on the children? You for try baff naa. Honey don't go there naa. Like who doesnt know that this shit kills the mood and spontaneity.
Oral sex is now a luxury in my marriage.
The last time I tried talking about this, she opened a site on google trying to prove to me that women change sexually over time.
I don complain I don tire. Now once I find myself having amorous thoughts towards my wife and I remember all the complaints and requests that'll follow from her, my dick go just fall.
I'm sick and I'm tired and I'm fucking frustrated.
I shouldn't have to face this shit as a married man. The most annoying part is, if a woman as much as smiles at me or even worse passes me a compliment my way, my wife turns to werewolf, teeth, pointy ears and all.
If you're going to deprive me all these, do you have a right to get angry if I seek it elsewhere? Suddenly I'm not so antagonistic of married,men who cheat. I swear.
Perhaps she is going through a phase that has diminished her libido.stress with kids?you? or maybe menopausal symptoms.Have you tried reading about this and and seeing how you can be of help?
Please explore all possible solutions before you use your hands to destroy your marriage.sex is not food oh.I wish you all the best and Solomons wisdom as you
seek for solution.
Have you tried being romantic?
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
BABY DADDY VERSUS BABY MAMA SITUATION
Hi Stella sugs,please i will go straight to the point.please I am a
single mother in my early twenties and boo is also a single dad.boo's
parents have been trying to match make him with a lady who is a medical
doctor and she is also from a more comfortable home than mine.now the
problem is boo is suggesting i don't allow his parents know that i am a
single mother,that it should be our secret and on the other hand my
parent swoudn't want me to marry a man that already has a child too, a
male at that though what matters most to me is the character of the
man in question.please i am confused because i don't know if i should let
both our parents know about it?please Stella sugs and my fellow bv's
what do i do?i am not ready to deny my priceless gift because of my
inlaws to be and i can't decieve my parents too.please i need your
advice as boo is seriously talking about engagement any moment from
now.
Thanks Stella and everyone that will contribute.i love you all.
The truth will set you both free or break you both.Do not lie to his parents or yours.you are in a very dicey situation.what if his parents agree and yours disagree?or your parents agree and his disagree?
....AT THE END OF THE DAY BOTH OF YOU OWE NO ONE ANY EXPLANATION ON
THE CHOICES YOU MADE/MAKE.
if he wants you to deny your child,ask him if he will deny his too...lol
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NARRATIVE NUMBER THREE
C-O-N-F-U-S-I-O-N
I am a lady of 32, I really want to settle down this year but the problem is that the man that is really serious about settling down with me is a divorcee with three children of which the oldest is twenty years old and the three of them are in the US. The guy in question is 52 he is really nice and want the best for me. He has been on my case since 2012 but I have stylishly friend-zoned him, in 2012 for example he single handedly paid for my professional exams and was ready to pay for my masters but I said no because I didn't want to be indebted to him. Now the confusion is about the fact that he has grown up kids and he is not from my tribe . I have another single guy who is from my tribe that I have been dating since that 2012, I really love him, but he is not coming forth about marriage. I want to give this other guy a chance but do not know how to brake the news to my family. Please I need your advice. Thank you and God bless. BVs please don't cause me out too much have pity on me.Lol
Hmmm,does the single boo love you as much as you love him?Are you thinking about the older guy because you love him or because you want to desperately get married?
Explore all options open....have a heart to heart with single guy and ask him when he will marry you...Discuss both situations with your parents,especially if they are putting you under pressure.Sit yourself down and have a heart to heart talk with your heart.Having grown up kids is another issue but they are not around to give you problems and being from another tribe should not be a criteria at your age.
The problem is YOU...what do you want?
Hian, no b small narratives 2day o.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, the plain truth is this: your wife doesn't think or see herself as being beautiful anymore. She is now so self conscious about her appearance and only you can make her comfortable in her own skin. You might find it difficult to believe, but this is the plain truth.
DeleteStart by commenting about her appearance, appreciate her, tell her good things. Even if she might not respond as you would want her to, don't sweat it. Deep down she is happy and actually wondering if all you are saying is true. Tell her u love her body more because she has used it to birth children for u. Believe me, she wants you and your advances and might even want to initiate sex but just doesn't know how to go about it. Help her build her confidence back. Remember marriage needs constant grooming, be patient with her pls. Good luck
Gently talk to her and be open and sincere how this affects you and all the thoughts and and all. Take her out. Gently arouse her and introduce her to sex. She just doesn't know you still find her attractive maybe she feels you are just performing your husbandly duties.
DeleteCommit touchery like it was as after thought, ur wife might be dying of konji o but u wont even know. I know all these will work.
BLOG ANALYSER: @ narr 1, Stress contributes to a lot of things. Check her stress level, try nd be assisting with the kids I mean huge assistance. Be romantic, buy her something she has been craving for. Above all have a heart to heart talk with her before exploring the options of drugs for low libido in women @2 please don't deny ur kid coz it will come back to hunt u. @3, check ur option very well, evaluate nd reevaluate situations. Don't take a drastic decission yet.
DeleteHahaha @ werewolf! Fangs, claws and crimson eyes! She's definitely going through a phase. She needs counselling from a therapist. Can like to try Mr. Ake
ReplyDeleteNothing much 2 say, stella has said it all.
ReplyDeleteGod help d the whole posters. This is a case that requires WISDOM
ReplyDeletePoster 1, perhaps ur wife dosnt find u attractive anymore. Take her out on a romantic date, spoil her silly, make her happy nd c if she won't rush u dt nyt. Gudluck
ReplyDeletePoster 1: your wife is not submissive. At least the Bible says so. Try being romantic. Make her Tea on Bed.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: cross ur legs and pretend to be a Mermaid. If u like keep hanging ur legs in the ceiling for a 2nd child to come. Can't u see that u are in cross roads?
Poster 3: u better be sure the older kids like u. If not the 20 year old most especially would make ur life miserable.
Abi? Na me talk am.
#2: My darling, did I just read "what matters most to me is the character of the man in question"? A man who is ok with deceit to his parents and yours, is of questionable character, in my humble view. Wouldn't you be bothered about other things he may also want to keep secret, especially from you? Don't expect a man who has no problems lying to his parents to be forthright with you when you become his wife. Sweetie please don't confuse deception for love. A man who truly loves you will fight and defend your honour to his family. If he is scared to stand up to his parents (respectfully) then...you should be a tad wary. A union based on lies is problematic from the start. And what a dominant lie this.
DeleteIt's never advisable to alienate your families because of the choice of your partner, families come in handy if your marriage hits a rough patch. Remember, a mother-in-law holds a lot of sway over her son and the peace in your marriage. Some men think twice before they hurt the wife "mama" approves of.
I'll advise both of you to come out clean to both families and deal with consequences now rather than later.
#e-bearhugs.
Poster1 go fuck outside make your body rest.poster 2 the both of you should stop deceiving your self u are both 2nd hand products .expecially u the lady u guys are for each other better marry your self ......number 3. .@32 u are waiting for one small boy better go and marry that divorce guy stop waisting your time menopause is clocking.
ReplyDeleteSecond hand products? Human beings, second hand products? I don't want to live on this planet anymore. Smh
DeleteWord!!!
DeleteThen die na see me see wahala
DeleteI will sit on one of sdk's chairs to read comments.
ReplyDelete#3: Honey, if you were my baby sis, I would tell you neither is good enough for you because of how you have portrayed your feelings towards both of them. The fact that you're in your 30s is reason enough to ensure you are marrying the right man for the right reasons. You can't afford to hit and miss.
DeleteI hope you know marriage in its simplest form is challenging enough without complications? Marrying a divorcee with grown up kids means you may have to endure much more than you bargained for, moreso as you aren't in love with him. Hanging around a young single guy who may or may not see you as his wife and may start getting put off with your subtle attempts at instigating a marriage proposal, is also not a suitable choice. Darling, just because you have two men in your life doesn't necessarily mean you have to select one of them, it's not always an either or scenario. Don't sell yourself short, baby, the right guy for you may still be on the way. Never marriage out of any form of pressure, age, societal expectations, financial gains etc. Marry because your heart and your head are synchronised.
#e-bearhugs.
Well said
Deletelol...poster 1
ReplyDeleteGet yourself a smallie but be ready to drop at least 10k after every meeting
Your wife case can never be resolved
That one na done deal
Poster 32 yrs ...if his kids are in d US,trust me they're civilised enough to know that daddy needs so tender loving care.
You know them over there have very liberal mind n understanding.
When u get married, ur husband wud also get himself a smallie and finally infect u with HIV ... Dunno why u guys can be so insensitive to someone's issues. U think marriage is a joke. Nonsense!
DeleteY do I just love u M-amie? I Look Forward to reading ur comments! E-hugs & e-kisses
DeleteAbeg all this narratives of woe pass me, I don port to Chronicles of hope.
ReplyDeleteI won't even be back to read comments.
I don't get why a 30 something year old lady doesn't know what she wants or if her boo loves her since he's not thinking about marriage.
I don't get why a single mother will be told by her own parents she cannot marry a single father. What are your parents feeling like? Second hand should marry second hand, End of discussion.
I don't get why a married man will want to cheat on his wife because she's not satisfying him sexually again. Sex is not food.
All three narratives sum up to one thing: SELFISHNESS.
Thank you for single mother's parents forming for single father...LWKMD, dem too dey find tear rubber? Lmao...
DeleteThank you, ....single mother's parents forming for single father...LWKMD, dem too dey find tear rubber? Lmao...
Delete@ jayEM, ure so stupid and foolish at d same time. I don't know which of these two qualities has gotten d better of you. But I must say u need help ASAP
DeleteYou just spoke my mind Jayem!!
DeleteSpot on! Imagine my parents wont let memarry a single father as if you ur self na tear rubber! Mtcheww
set to read comments on a plate of chinchin.....
ReplyDeleteHmmmm i jst dey waka pass!!!
ReplyDeleteOr make i sidon read comments..
P1..lol talk to wife jor!
ReplyDeleteOr u r d type that wants to fuck every night?
Lol
If she doesn't want give u "mama put",
Go n self-juice
It's not easy.
P2..dats a dicey situation
U c y to be a babymama/papa is tricky!
It takes a man who truly loves u to dare his family n choose one!
Make una try sha
Me dey warn my lil sis to playsafe,
Let no baga deceive her into pregnancy.
P3..dont let. "I must marry this year" syndrome push u into what u won't like!
D divorcee with 3kids no get sense..
Anyway dude needs a legal honeypot..
I just tire! Ma abasi!
ReplyDeletehello married BV's, i need your advice. i am married to a very lazzzy husband. too lazy too even bath in the morning before going to work. the issue is he complains that since he brings money(his job is actually not a tight shedule job) he is not required to do anyting in the house. he cant even help fetch water on days our tap goes off. when i ask him to help, he complains and reminds me is the duty of a woman.
Deletehe complans i dont wash his clothes. i should be a good manager by taking that chore up instead of letting him waste money on laundary guys. any one naira he brings, he complains and nags and then brags.
he is always in a haste to run off and report me to parents and friends. he is also very controlling. a wife in his dictionary shouldnt talk when the husband comes late, shouldnt contribute or request for noting. and so much more i cant type. in summary, he is controlling, abusive, self-centered and a nag.
please how do i handle this trait people.
should i keep doing all this and not complain even when it kills me inside?
daily i lose respect for him and it scares me because he is big on being given 100% respect and treated like a king.
i feel like bursting inside and keeping quiet makes me sad and bitter.
please offer practical solution, will appreciate advice from women in similar situation.
Hmm.. Life ! Life !! Life !!! .. God please give them the wisdom to make the best decisions
DeleteAre u a house wife if u are mayb u try and get something doing am telling u ..If u are busy all those shits would stop like u font have your own money some men are very useless when they see u depend on them for everything they start treating u like a slave that's why he have the guts to report u daily to your parents. .try and get busy concentrate more on your kids just pray for him and don't let any of those his trash gets to u
DeleteMarriedW 5, if you get a job and begin to earn a living for yourself, however small, he will pipe low on his tongue. I was in similar situation. He would send 2k ( actually two thousand naira) to my mum and his friends will come telling me to spread a red carpet for him cos it's not easy to take care of extended relatives. I did everything at home and got insulted in return. He would not even as much as rise to check on the crying baby while I wept in pains of surgery. You won't believe he said he didn't care if I was ill or not. But I must do my duties. Woe betide me if I initiated sex. He would call me all the names in the world. Only he had right to sex. And he did it only to satisfy himself. No foreplay, no romance. Then I sat up one day, sought the face of God, God heard my cry, I started a little business that has blossomed into a limited liability company in a very short space.
DeleteAnd then he changed! I couldn't believe it. I am now his pride. He can't do a thing without me. His DP is permanently me. My pictures are everywhere in his office. He makes sure I approve of every thing he does now. And now he says I don't ever initiate sex, meaning I don't like him enough. Did I tell you I sealed off sex totally? Because it was more of torture than the satisfaction it was supposed to bring. And he too didn't bother about me. We lived like flatmates. Only the kids linked us.
He wants all the touch now, he wants all the cuddling. I am no more the timid girl he would rather never associate with. I am now his pride. ALL BECAUSE I MAKE MY PAY NOW!!!
But in all, I have lost the tie I had with him before marriage. Sex is still rather non- existent because the bitterness can't go. I just stopped giving a hoot whether he had strings of girlfriends or not.
So my advice...... go get yourself some earning. it's going to grease a lot of stiff joints.
Anon19.07.. i love u babes.. no homo biko
DeleteI love anon19.07 even more. I love it when girls rise up to certain challenges. Now the guy wants to associate. I don't advise you to give him the cold shoulders but stay firm and see if you don't go places. Remember not to leave God on your way up o
DeletePoster 1 you can try romantic dinner outside ur house or just a trip for 2 outside ur home wre d kids won't bother even if its just a day. Sit her down nd talk to her, find out how to make it right pls. She may be going thru a phase like SDK said.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2 I have an aunty like urs, d hubby to be asked her not to tell her family she has 3 kids already, but looking at dis lady you won't bliv she has 3 kids. Its all your choice dear, are u ready to settle with him, tell him you can never look down on ur kid that u will always take care of ur baby. It all depends on ur discussion with him.
POSTER3 what exactly do you want, pray over it and let God decide. But sit the single guy down nd talk to him nd knw his mind towards u guys. As for d divorcee you have to be extremely sure he wants to settle down with u so u don't loose just like that from both sides.
me likey. spot on..
DeleteWhat are u up to? BORED? Need a gud laugh?
If you need a pick me up, click this link
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Wow! Stella I feel like giving u a very tightttttt hug seeing all ur advices,u re good stella sugar mama(in a waffy's voice) bvs plss ohh,der is sometin dat ve been bordering me,boos always sucking boo's boobs,and still sucking after birthing,wats d difference?I mean d feeling, Make una nor chop me ohh am just curious abegg
ReplyDeleteposter 1 please bear with ur wife for her libido has fallen to almost zero try talking to her about the effect it has on u cos going out to get sex will only destroy ur home. Mrs poster 1 if u read this blog better look for a solution to ur dying libido b4 u write a chronicle to Mrs Kork about ur cheating husband even if it means u taking an aphrodisiac or something. sex is important in a marriage, u either give it to him or another woman will.
ReplyDeleteposter 3 u never ready to marry at all, grown up kids ko he is not from my tribe ni. continue with ur single guy till u hit menopause while he will go look for a young sweet 16.
poster 2 ur mumu go soon ripe, he is telling u to deny ur child will he do same if the ball was in his court? are you that desperate to get married? is he dangote or otedola? dont u dare deny ur kids or else Amadioha will visit u with fat canes. mtssccheew
#1. Awwwww! Dear sir, welcome to the complex world of women. I'm impressed that you bothered writing in, in search of suggestions/advice. Some dudes wouldn't even bother, they'll use this as justification to cheat.
DeleteI know women tend to be uncomfortable with their partners touching or seeing their body parts they consider "problem areas" and will do practically anything to avoid sexual intimacy. If same is the case with wife, trust me, she may be longing for you touch but the embarrassment of exposing the "problem areas" is intense enough to let go of whatever desires she has. She's super conscious of the changes in her body due to child birth that's why she doesn't want you to touch her boobs let alone, suck on them. You know we, women, are not wired same way men are. We project our insecurities and believe our men are as put off by our bodies as we are, so any sexual gesture may even be perceived as ulterior.
You should be glad that she goes all "team Jacob" at the slightest advances from women regardless of how harmless they may be. Her affections for you makes her territorial so rest assured that her feelings for you has nothing to do with her rejection during sex. The way to most women's hearts is tenderness. There's a way you'll so pamper and spoil her with attention and affection without sexual undertones that she'll even be the one who rips off your clothes and begs you to "have" her.
Please calm down, dear sir, I know you're frustrated but remember why you married her in the first place. Look at how she turned your house into a home, remember how she upgraded your title from a hubby to a dad by birthing those amazing kids. Try a little tenderness, it works like magic. Take her out for lunch or dinner dates, cuddle her and remind yourselves how your love story began. Like the first time you knew she was the one and stuff like that. Take sex off the menu for now and woo her all over again, don't forget to keep telling and reassuring her that you still find her incredibly sexy and what she considers the scars of motherhood are actually the remainders of her sacrifice to bear your adorable kids and that why you always want to make love to her.They say men fall in love through their eyes while women through their ears. Keep the lovely dovey lines flowing, and see the power of sweet words from a husband to his wife.
Good luck, sir. Please give us situation reports, many marriages may just be restored by this.
Ok
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Poster1 please try saying these things to ur wife, better still you can show her dis post and tell her dt the situation looks lyk d one ur going tru with her(dats if she wd believe) but atleast u must have made your point.
ReplyDeletePoster2 don't hide it o, if he truly wants you,even his parents wouldn't stop him,they ought to know that u hav a child and ur parents too should know,such tins r nt to be kept a secret o, for future reasons
Poster3 wat are your reasons of considering the 52 year old man, is it because you think u are getting old? Abi he would make a good husband to u, most times we ladies make mistakes all in the name of looking for a partner,think well,cos if you truly love your boyfriend, u wouldn't be thinking of being with someone else
Gbam
DeleteSituation critical for all narratives *scratching my head*
ReplyDeleteWishing you all the best solutions you seek.
ReplyDeleteAeegurl...
Narrative 1
ReplyDeleteMaybe you seat her down and have a heart to heart discussion with her tell how you feel and how her action is really affecting please dont try to cheat because its never the best way
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ReplyDeletePoster one....Pele.....Yoruba go say "eni to Lori ko ni fila"....ur wife needs a serious "ringing".....DT kind ring wen go make her horny for life
ReplyDeleteThe rest posters....make I siddon read comments bikonu
@Galore
Hmmmmm. These narratives na wah oo. Make I wait BV Commentsssss. I need a cusin share to sit don.......
ReplyDeleteStella gave good advice on all the narratives of today..... I concur with all the advice she gave.
ReplyDeleteNa wah. P1, just be patient she would change. P2, never you deny your child for love or a man, never. P3, are you serious? Free the man mbok you don't love him. Maybe you talk to the boo you love or find another relationship.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, your wife is not comfortable with her body anymore, after birthing your 3 children, she thinks she is know more sexy again, that her breast is flat, her v**ginia is no more appetising, the only thing ur wife needs from you now, is reassurance, tell her how beautiful she looks, after 3 children that her breast look fuller and sexy, that you feel like raping her everyday, just make her look nice with your words, then you will see that she will come around, she will start feeling comfortable with her body. Poster2, both of you are single parent, so why listen to ur parents, you both have your lives to leave, so why waste time, poster3 dis young men are not loyal, check ur heart, if u sure love d elderly man, why not marry him, he might end up making you so happy, so my dear talk to ur parents about it,
Deleteit is well
ReplyDeleteStella, these exams in 3 courses too much abeg.
ReplyDeletePoster 1:
Sick, tired and fucking frustrated???!!!
Therein lies the difference between a faithful husband and one that flees at the slightest problem.
Your wife is having issues, opening sites on google? What have you done to help the situation? Don't you know how to google solutions to the symptoms she's manifesting?
When last did you take her for a romantic getaway?
You are there shouting shit all over the place and justifying irresponsible behaviour. Please do your research and help your wife get her groove back.
Poster 2:
Orisirisi!
You are an after-one, yet your parents don't want you to marry a fellow after-one. Would they rather you remain single?
Tell your boo it's best you are truthful to parents on both sides from the beginning. He should man up and be able to convince his parents about you
For how long will you hide your child?
Poster 3:
Only you can decide.
Do we know the men like you do?
Get 2 pieces of paper.
Write the pros and cons of marrying each man on each of the paper.
Sum up and go with the one with most pros and least cons.
Can't type so instead of me not to contribute I will just say posters, please follow stella's advice.
ReplyDeleteAbeg....make I settle down read comments o.....
ReplyDeleteToday...I follow others that usually say Stella has said all.... I'm simply not ready to stress my pretty little head jare...but at narrative 2....you are both baby parents na....see as both una parents no want make una settle down with other single parents but they expect other parents that their kids don't have baby issues to settle down you guys......now that's selfish....abeg make una follow Stella advice..
Advice to all sex aint food...in as much as Kids are blessings having them in the wrong setting would definately put a strain on other aspects of your life it's only by God's grace and we shouldn't take His grace for granted
Orela....you have already given ur advice nau.lol
Delete@chinz abeg na i most add my own na grip me....but abeg....that last paragraph na for everybody not the owner of these narratives
DeleteDon't have advise today oh, I wonder if these people really take the advises here, we never get feed backs, waiting for comment. Ronalda its being a while hope your good
ReplyDeleteFirst poster,
ReplyDeleteHaven't you heard on this blog that sex is not food?..
Abeg free the woman jare...must you demand sex every day??...
So after taking care of the house and the kids during the day and you expect her to have strength to satisfy your sexual desire..,
Go ahead and get a mistress,afterall it's your time,money and strength.....
Poster 2,
Your parents does not have a choice afterall,you are a tokunbo....
Poster3,
There's nothing wrong in getting married to a divorcee...
If I were you,I would accept the man...the older the sweeter...
Ur advice to poster 1, no be am at all, if it where to be a female poster, u would have concluded that the man is cheating, now d man is complaining, becos he does not want to cheat, and you are giving this kind of advice, I fear you oooo. Poster 1, your wife is not comfortable with her body after birthing ur 3children, she needs reassurance, that is all.
Deletetoo many problems
ReplyDeleteWow stella I love u so much u took d words from my month.d response u gave all three narration is exactly wat I will give too,God bless your wisdom ad regards to family.
ReplyDeleteAs in ehn, Stella has said it all. I wonda wat kind of pipo still talk abt tribe wen considering marriage,my village,my tribe,in dis 21st century? Oh pls.
DeletePoster one : u have to sit ur wife and talk sense into her or beta still u both Shud see a therapist
ReplyDeletePoster two: dont build ur relationship with lies...if he wants to get married to uu he Shud stand on his ground....y will u deny ur child bcuz u want his parents to accept uuu.....if I were u I wud just say d truth and get married to him..cuz I don't see y a matured man and woman are behaving like dey are babies...are ur parents d one dat will stay with u people at home...dis ur chronicle dey make me vex......but my advice still remains ....say d truth cuz it will set u free
Poster three : wat are ur reasons...y do u want to give him a chance....do u love him as much as u do d single guy....are u ready to spend ur whole life with himmm.......wen u ans dis questions...u will know wat to do
But y not have a heart to heart talk with ur b.f and ask him wat his plans are...and if u know u will not get married to dat oda guy let him b dan giving him hope.....all d same d decision is in ur hand to make
SDK have Spoken so well and I totally agree with her advice's..
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ReplyDelete@32, you're still talking tribe? Hahahahahaha too funny.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 hav some patient wit ur wife n try to get a marriage counsellor for both of u.Poster 2 i dont hav problem wit secret bt hope d man wont use it to hurt u in future cuz is a man n he can booast of his child anytym d best is to open up to both parent cuz man cant be trusted wen is coms to child from anoda man.Poster 3 u are d 1 dt know both of dem since 2012 n at ur age u shld who is gud for u btw dem.I hate pple takin advise on who to marry cuz we wont be in d marriage wit u.3yrs is enough for u to know dem very well.D man wit children is mature enough to handle d situation btw u n his children n his children are grown up too.
ReplyDeleteThe man should discuss his sexual frustrations with his wife and try to come to a compromise. He could also try to work on the things she complains about such as taking his bath and other stuff
ReplyDeleteStella gbam... u don finish talk na, wetin remain? post 3. settle for the man becos that young guy is not ready yet ur clock is ticking... so many ladies are looking for matured man u re looking for small boy... oriegwu...tank God that his children has grown and they will not disturb u mbok.
ReplyDeleteWow wow wow
ReplyDeleteCOBVN making sense since 1800
Stellz so narratives now have number 3 ehn nice!! Lemme siddon read comments today
Stellz I love the advice you gave. They are so on point. I don't have anything to say today. I just tire jare. Its well
ReplyDeleteStella has said it all. And why is everyone tired today?????
DeleteSeriously, people take this tribe thing too far. Then what should people with the intention of settling with partners from other countries do? @ tribe nkwa?
ReplyDeleteWhen i hear that tribe is an issue i have to laugh.
DeleteThank God my mum doesnt think that way...she LOVES her Dominican daughter in law, her Columbian daughter in law and her Jamaican son in law. Yes, all her children have non Nigerian partners and it doesnt concern her the slightest.
Poster 1, is your wife circumcised? Circumcised women see sex as a chore.. You have to be extremely patient and speak to her from the depths of your heart. I'm sure she would be willing to learn. She wouldn't want to lose her husband, would she? Poster 2, your parents don't want you to marry a man with a child, but you have a child? Abeg, none of you should deny your child. If the foundation of your marriage is destroyed, then there will be serious issues in the future. A child isn't a curse. Poster 3, don't be too desperate to settle down.
ReplyDelete"Circumcised women see sex as a chore" = Fallacy of faulty generalisation.
DeleteNot true.
Liar not all of them besides uncircumcised ladies are loosed they can't hold them self aways masturbating touching that their long clit and using tap on it.at any slightest given Opp..
DeletePoster 1, is your wife circumcised? Circumcised women see sex as a chore.. You have to be extremely patient and speak to her from the depths of your heart. I'm sure she would be willing to learn. She wouldn't want to lose her husband, would she? Poster 2, your parents don't want you to marry a man with a child, but you have a child? Abeg, none of you should deny your child. If the foundation of your marriage is destroyed, then there will be serious issues in the future. A child isn't a curse. Poster 3, don't be too desperate to settle down.
ReplyDeleteWhat are u SAYING?
Delete@1, plz look for a calabar chick to service u cos life is too short to endure this shit.
ReplyDelete@2, u both don't owe ur parents any explanation, after all u both are second hand so ur both parents should ve no problem.
@3, Abeg marry d older guy cos he'll treat u like a queen, young boys wahala dey too much.
Ehn! I 4gt. Isn't it funny parents whose daughter and son have an issue ( child) don't want them to get married to another who has a child too. Wud have thought this was a perfect combination. Both after 1
ReplyDeleteNarrator 1 - if you love sex too much.... go outside if you no fit hold body. you men dont know what women are passing through. you better get condom ooo
ReplyDeleteNarrator 2 ... your man is not ready to marry you, ashamed of your being a single mum and also the man's family wants their son to marry a doctor. you what are you to them --- u no be doctor, no be lawyer, wetin you be na.
Narrator 3 ... divorcee has been in your case for the past 3 years. am sure d man don dey chop u since, (the man dey do ikpoki with you) you want us to advice u. Ngwa my advice is MARRY HIM. His children abroad will not come to Nigeria to disturb you.
Is seems as if dt no 1 post is from my husband....hmmmmmmm.
ReplyDeleteEven if it is not you madam, please please I BEG of you, talk to him and find quick solution to this little challenge to get your groove back!
DeleteThrough cracks lizards enter house
A word is ENOUGH for the wise!
Find a solution to the problem o?!
DeleteDon't allow water to drown you
Too many dicey situations in here.....I await comments
ReplyDeleteYou are always awaiting comments...with this your eyebrow
DeleteLMAOOOOO
DeleteNa Empty barrel
DeleteHmmmm... This is deep
ReplyDeletebros number one,tell your wife her fuck-up
ReplyDeletenumber two omor yan your p-man and your guy p-P
number 3 abeg settle iii nor easy oo you don climb 30
#1.... Most women c sex as a chore. Ask urself ds questions.... Does she cum during sex? Do u give her BJ? Do u have long foreplay? Do u make her beg u 4 sex(cus she's fully aroused I mean). Do u stimulate her clit during sex,Sex is nt abt d 1s we c in porn cos most Nig men think f**cking a lady d porn style makes her cum,its a big lie 4 most ladies. 2 make her enjoy sex, do d missionary style with both ur(u n ur wife) chest 2gether, then slid in slowly,kiss her as u sliding in&out. Tell her aw much u love her, recount sweet experiences,kiss her,kiss her neck still dng d slow motion. Within 10mins of dng dt,she will come cos ur dick area is slowly rubbing hetr clit n d kissing is fuelling it. If she dsnt come,slid out ,go av a bath if u can't do bj direct then go give her a bj slowly using ur tongue,dnt blow air into her vagina pls o,its dangerous. That aside,She might be insecure abt her boobs being flat&all and u might nt find it attractive hence d covering, make her cm4tble,tell her aw her boobs fed ur 3kids n u love it d way they are,kiss,suck&play with them more and blve u me,nxt tym u want to fuck her,she will fuck u well,consider other stuffs too dou lyk Stella said.
ReplyDelete#2... Never deny ur child, if his parent asks u,tell them Yes, if he's nt proud of ur child then he dsnt luv u afterall he's even a single dad too. Rubbish,that's y whites r better in most thnz than our African dudes. Weigh ur option dear..
#3.... 52yrs 2 32yrs? Hmmm! D gap is much o,hv u considered ur sex life?d man can't bang u d way a 36yyrs old guy will,can't last 5mins max...his children nko? They r youths n teenagers respectively and can make some decisions,u fit cope? If u can,then leggo..
A million likes for this comment. You really hit the nail on the head. But stop! You re making me feel horny already. *wink
Delete"The problem is YOU....what do you want?"... I like this Stella ' s question. It's high time we all know that we are the one to live with whatever consequences following the decisions we ever made. Nobody will share it with you, if the outcome is good, it's on you. If it's bad, it's on you. When we know that, we will truly start living .
ReplyDeleteOmg
ReplyDeleteI laughed so hard @ myself when I read narrative 1. Eversince I met DH 3years ago and till we got married I have never initiated sex.
He always does and hasn't complained for once.
So I've been sick for close to two months and the kain sickness eh... he can't even think of touching.
The sickness come dey relieve me small small this week and me sef e don dey totori me for body. Hian
So early this morning ooo as he was about turning in bed to get up n get ready for work, his finger just mistakenly brushed my clit small...(we both slept naked after bath)
Chisos! I almost had ORGASMIC SHOCK(na for this blog I hear am oo) I quickly retained his finger down there joor and started rocking his thing with my hand too.
He was shocked, with full force oga don start real show and 25mins down wossai... baby it's almost 7am oo I'll be late.
I laughed so hard.
Well I just realised now today it could be a problem if a woman doesn't initiate sex; I'll double my game. Poster forgive her and talk to her please, you never could tell what her problem is.
Poster 2
Both of you(babymama and babypapa) are living in denial. Sorry.
Poster 3
At the end of the day you know who you will be able to settle with. Shebi I dey hear say age is just a number, but this one with grown kids...
All the best.
PS: Apologies oo GW, I can't beat you with your stories joor, first time ever and na related narrative cause am. Lolzz
Ehen..why are you telling us abt ur blues with DH? oga!!!
DeleteLmao. You try.
DeleteI hope you are much better.
May God heal you completely.
Don't worry yourself about compulsory initiation.
As long as he's initiating and you are collecting, and he doesn't mind, no worries.
Each couple with whatever floats their boat.
Goldscent Amen to your prayers.
DeleteThank you hun.
Poster 1: maybe two of you shd seek professional help. I wish you well.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: The truth shall set you free. Like I always tell my single friends, never hide or lie about your child because of a relationship. If both families will not accept the situation so be it and move on. There are things that are non negotiable in a relation and kids are number 1. Never lie abt them or hide them.
Poster 3: I hate to be too harsh but I think you are desperate and confused. You are not into the old guy so stop wasting his time and yours and move on. Marriage is not a drop that you can easily get off from. Think about what you want and go for it. Settling for anything will frustrate you in the long run. And i am shocked that tribe and ethnicity is still a factor in Nigeria when it comes to marriage.
@ times after reading d chronicles u r too exhausted to give any sensible advice. It is well with u all.
ReplyDeleteAny relationship started with falsehood will end thus. @ poster 2.
The three narrators are in a state of confusion.
ReplyDeleteNarrator 1: have a very deep and romantic conversation with your wife. She's probably not so proud of her body again; we all know what childbirths can do to a woman's body. Let her know how you really feel, Pamper her by taking out, get her some sexy clothes, help around the house with the children and chores and take the kids to your parents/siblings for weekends once in a while. By so doing, you will have her to yourself and there won't be room for complaints or excuses.
Narrator 2: you didn't tell us your level of education but it seems you are feeling insecure because the other lady is a doctor and from a more comfortable home. Don't ever hide the fact that you have a child from your future in-law to avoid stories that touch in future. Take it slow with your engagement and marriage plans, if his parents are not willing to accept you and he is not ready to stand up for you, then it's time for you to take a walk. Also, inform your parents that he has a child already.
Narrator 3: who do you love more? You have put yourself in a dicey situation by dating and considering two people for marriage at the same time. Your younger boyfriend may not have made his intentions known due to finances and the older man seems very comfortable. Picture your life in the next 10-20 years, what do you see? Are you ready to be a mother to the three other children? The older man's attention and time will be shared between you and the kids, can you cope with that? Are the children staying with the man, his wife or independent already? Please think deeply before you make a choice.
Good luck to the three of you.
Poster one please take this advice. It is well with your marriage.
DeletePoster 2, i was a single mum from a failed marriage, when i met my new hubby, he didnt want us to tell his parents about my past, he said they will never accept me cos he doesnt ve any kid and has never been married, we loved each other so much and i agreed but i told my parents his request. We had our introduction and fixed a date for our trad, lo and behold 3 weeks to our trad, my Dad called us and said he was no longer part of the marriage, that its either we tell his parents the truth or he should forget the marriage, he called his mum and told her everything and to our greatest suprise, the woman said it doesnt matter so long as we love each other, that failed marriages are very common these days and at least that i told him the truth, she said she ll know how to present it to his Dad without him being upset. Today we r married and am not living in fear of them finding out, there is no greater feeling i tell you. So please tell them the truth cos u never know.
ReplyDeleteAnd the truth has set you free!
DeletePoster1
ReplyDeleteI think your wife is not comfortable in her own skin. She may not be feeling beautiful after three kids. She's ashamed of how 'ugly' she may have gotten with age.
If she's been like that from 'Genesis', then she's one of those women that don't like what they see when they look in the mirror.
How often do you remind her how beautiful she is? Pls try and help with her self esteem. Does she really know how you feel about her?
Poster 2
PLEASE, be open to your parents and inlaws. If it does not work, MOVE ON. The fact that you have a child does not make you a waste product. And your still very young.
Why would his parents not approve of you when their son too has a child outside wedluck? tell your boo you want to be open and plain.
Don't desperately go into a marriage that would make u regret in future.
Poster3
I agree with Stella.
@gifted what u wrote to poster 1 is very very correct, it happens to few married women, after given birth, they become uncomfortable with their body, so d poster1 should reassure d wife that is all.
DeleteCorrect
Deleteposter 1 pls get a girlfriend u have tried. poster 2 leave that guy he is childish and is not man enough to face problems head on. poster 3 pls dont disturb us with irrelevant problems. some of us take these chronicles seriously
ReplyDeleteYou have not considered it a joint challenge @ poster 1
DeleteNO GIRLFRIEND
Dont mind anon 15:38, SMH (Note: infidelity is a game with deadly consequences many casualties)
Poster1 Work on all options fun and interesting ones abound that you can explore this value, woo her afresh and enjoy!
I would be here reading comments...
ReplyDeleteAge is just a number. Most important Love, Care and Understanding. The Kids are grown so what? After all they ain't around to disturb you. And if they are around to display play Mature. Also find out why he got divorced.
ReplyDeletePoster2) never hide ur child from ur in laws because of rainy day. U never can tell, let d man not go and insult u someday. Poster 3) pz be patient and allow God direct u.
ReplyDeletePoster1: Take your wife on a small vacation for two. Whilst there tell her in a loving a caring manner how her actions are frustrating you. Engage in activities that will spice your love and rekindle the flame in your union.
ReplyDeletePoster2: If truly he loves you he will not consider your baby a problem. Tell both parents the truth and face the consequences.Don't you dare build your union on lies.
Poster3: You know both men better so follow your heart.
So annoying how most BVs don't have an opinion of their own, whatever Stella puts down in the advise column y'all follow suit, dear Poster 1 i feel your pain, trying to be be faithful and yet your partner isn't meeting you half way. Try and reenact those things you did to make her fall in love with you the first place, don't pressure her for sex all the time i know this might be though but women are more responsive if you don't bug them every day for sex. Try wooing her all over again and talk(not nag) to her about it.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, tell the stakeholders the truth in this matter, no relationship survives on the foundation of lies.
Poster 3, determine what's more important to you, getting married or being happy. Don't marry the divorcee out of desperation and no one says you have to marry the single guy either, be happy with yourselves first and the right man will come.
So how is what you've written here different from what Stella & other bv's wrote.Pot calling kettle black..
DeletePoster1...sex is no food.
ReplyDeletePoster 2...it depends on what you want. let hiding your kid not come back to bite you later.
Poster 3...that single guy may not marry you. Marry the divorcee.
XOXO MYSTERY
This one much for me shah.
ReplyDeleteGod will see you guys through.
@poster 1: marriage is all about understanding and tolerance.what you have to ask yourself is has my wife been like this before.if no is the answer; then is so obvious that there is a problem.getting annoyed or you comtemplating to cheat on her is being selfish. try and find out what is wrong with your wife.try to know if something is bothering her.in this your present state and attitude; one can not confide in you and your shoulders presently are not comfortable for support.I don't know her age but it can be menopause and some have bad menopausal symptoms. if this is the case then you have to support her in this stage of her life.don't leave her.maybe she doesn't even know why she feels that way.help her please and don't do anything that you will regret for the rest of your life.marriage comes with challenges and only the tough and strong conquers. weldone
ReplyDeleteOn point
Delete@ poster2: marriage should not be started on a bad foundation; so that it will not come crumbling on you later. set the records straight and if it doesn't work then that's the will of God for you.
ReplyDelete@poster 3:their was a similar post some time ago.Marrying a man with kids is a very difficult marriage at this part of our world due to our culture and they are even grown ups.you are still young and can give birth to children; so how will they see it.mostly this type of marriage is better for a woman who has attained menopausal stage and can't give birth again.a much older woman.so I will advice you think about it or just forget about him and move on.have a heart to heart talk with your single guy and know if he has plans for the future or not.
I totally disagree with that statement "sex us not food". Yes it's not but we all know it's necessary in every marriage. We have all come to realise it's not just for procreation only but a form of connecting, relaxing n enjoying with your partner. I bet y'all shouting sex is not food are the same ones watching porn or begging their partners for sex often or masturbating or the ones whose sex lives suck. #JustSaying
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How I hate that word "boo"... It's been overused, just like "swag". Boo this , boo that, baby boo, boo boo... Dang!
ReplyDelete@cocaine finest Honey if you are not a virgin...you are also second hand. What kind of talk is that? Some of you talk like you no go school.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, i think yu shld talk to yur wife,make her understnd wat yu ar goin tru nd make sure yu dnt demand love makin almost every nyt.God help u both. Ella God bless yu nd yur household
ReplyDeletePoster 1: I am familiar with your situation, dis is my advice:
ReplyDelete1. Make sure you help her around the house sometimes. While she cooks, you can do dishes and gist at the same time.(it turns any woman on)
2. Sex should not just start at night! During the day send her messages suggesting u wanna get down tonight. Remind her how much you love her, don’t be afraid to talk dirty to her………..she’s ur wife. Turn her on before you get home.
3. Make sure the kids are fast asleep (put them to bed yourself) before you initiate sex, so her mind will not wonder.
4. I have never seen a woman who doesn’t like to be sucked down der. Make sure you guys have ur bath together, from der move to the bedroom. Oral sex is a two way thing, give her first before you expect your own.
5. Remember, der is no excuse to be unfaithful. Try all you can to make your marriage work.
P2 and P3, Stella don talk my mind.
My own is that my boyfriend of 32 months just broke up with me via bbm. Someone I was with the day before, happy and laughing. There were no issues beforehand, no argument, nothing. Just a 4 word message. I won't even confront him. I'll just say this: Ladies, when a man shows you who they are, never make excuses for them. A man wil always step up of and when he wants to. I wil take a break from dating for a while. Tired of searching for Mr Right
ReplyDelete2years 8months!
DeleteGod will bring your own right man soon.you worth more than him. #e-hug
DeleteHian see serial abortionists calling P2 a tokunbo...diaris God o.
ReplyDeleteP2-Tell your parents that they can not look down on a single parent as you are one as well. You can marry a guy with no kids by the way.This guy...e no be am. How will he ask you to hide your child. If I was in your shoes, I will pump the brakes.
P1-See ya face. Have you every cheated on your wife? If yes, it could be that you irritate her. She says she has forgiven but she can't bear the thought of you touching her. If not, please take a bath before you try and come near her. For her to say bath might mean you smell a bit. Check yourself and quit complaining.
P3-Nne, what do YOU want?
Funny how so many women are stylishly supporting the woman starving her husband of sex. Sex is not food, bla bla bla. Sex is the most important ingredien in marriage then kids, whether you want to accept it or not. The woman is wrong pronto! The man just needs to keep trying to make his wife see reasons and to to also explore other means like already adviced. Some women can frustrate men for this life sha. All you talking, especially the married ones, if its how your treat your husbands at hope better amend your ways.
ReplyDeleteyou come here to say sex is not food but you cant be okay without having sex for 3 nights. there is God o.
ReplyDeleteWhy would a woman refuse the husband sex. WHY. there poster, have a talk with your wife and pray too.sex with her is ur right. EOD
Narrative 1 my dear I was in the same shoes when I just gave birth.even after a year i didn't want my husband to touch my breasts because I thot it didn't feel right
ReplyDeleteTry asking her what the problem is cos what's she doing is unacceptable.she could be so stressed ..but she doesn't want to say no but she really is not in the mood
It's well
Poster1,your wife is selfish.she does not want her hubby to suck Bobbi yet you want his sex.or is her libido get low or what?you better give your hubby everytin in sex before he goes outside and get the fuck of his life.trust me if ur hubby try mad sex outside mennnnn you the wife will cry because he will hardly have time for u so be wise.. Poster2.pls both of you should be proud of your kids never you lie to any1 that you dnt have a child yet.let ur in-laws know you already have a child,have seen couples who are happy married today but they have a child at their youthful age.all the best to both of u. Poster3,it's obvious you are following the 52 year old man for material things when it comes to marriage now you want to shy away from it..his grown up kids has notin to do with this i guess they will be happy their dad is about to settle down...sit your family down and let them know who u decide to marry
ReplyDeletePoster sex is not food.xoxo mystery says so .
ReplyDeletePoster 2 - you second hand calling another person second hand ,your family see who wan take you as you are they still have a choice is ok.
Poster3 -his kids are old enough ,abeg follow your heart.
Poster 1, does your wife have help at home? Do you help her around? With 3 kids, she must be very stressed!! That is enough to kill the libido.
ReplyDeleteTry to sort those issues.
Also romance too, it seems that with you, its just the act of sex. Where is the prelude. What do you do for her romantically/ There is no woman who will turn her husband down if he touches the right buttons. As her husband, it is your duty to find out what hers is. Dont make this only about you.
If you like go and cheat, the grass isnt always greener on the other side. You are an adult.
Poster 2
See adults acting like children. Please dont deny your child, and if him and his parents cant deal with it, then NEXT! Also your parents need to know about his, your marriage shouldnt be built on lies.
Poster 3
Are you trying to marry the older guy because you want to settle? Thats what it sounds like. The younger guy if he has dated you for almost 3 yrs, and hasnt decided on marrying you, at your age (or his), then something is clearly wrong there. You should be able to step away. It doesnt have to be the older guy, dont marry him because he is a provider or out of pity for your unmarried status.
N1, i hope she is not getting it elsewhere?..N2, don't deny your child, never you deny your child! N3, At your age you should know what you want. What do you want? Who do you love?
ReplyDeletePoster1 please think about the things your wife may have complained about e.g
ReplyDeleteIs there help needed round the home,
does madam work and look after the kids
does she stay home ALL day every day
Was any if the childbirths difficult or was the last child unplanned
Are there unresolved quarrels or discussions between you both
Has she been asking you for things within your gift that you haven't delivered?
I mean you must have had some kind of harmony before before for you to actually feel this way.
Reflect and reach out. Put yourself in her shoes. Treat her like a companion not "mama pickin" or "ma waf". It may take a while but believe, it will get better.
Poster 2 you are very young na, why marriage dey itch you seriously. Tell them the truth. But should incase they talk trash, forget the guy jare and work on your self. See genevieve today, she's a single mother. She can "Buy" guys to marry her but she no send as such abi? So you too work on yourself jare.
ReplyDeleteMind you I'm a guy and I don't see single mothers (who have never been married o) as second hand. So long u never ever marry wetin dey there? Be confident of yourself jare and stop having inferiority complex because that is exactly what is worrying you from your post abi I lie?
Stella biko post am. I believe if she reads it, it will help her
Yes o. My own brother married a single mum for love. Still doing well together 15 years later.
DeletePoster 2 you are very young na, why marriage dey itch you seriously. Tell them the truth. But should incase they talk trash, forget the guy jare and work on your self. See genevieve today, she's a single mother. She can "Buy" guys to marry her but she no send as such abi? So you too work on yourself jare.
ReplyDeleteMind you I'm a guy and I don't see single mothers (who have never been married o) as second hand. So long u never ever marry wetin dey there? Be confident of yourself jare and stop having inferiority complex because that is exactly what is worrying you from your post abi I lie?
Stella biko post am. I believe if she reads it, it will help her
Poster 2 you are very young na, why marriage dey itch you seriously. Tell them the truth. But should incase they talk trash, forget the guy jare and work on your self. See genevieve today, she's a single mother. She can "Buy" guys to marry her but she no send as such abi? So you too work on yourself jare.
ReplyDeleteMind you I'm a guy and I don't see single mothers (who have never been married o) as second hand. So long u never ever marry wetin dey there? Be confident of yourself jare and stop having inferiority complex because that is exactly what is worrying you from your post abi I lie?
Stella biko post am. I believe if she reads it, it will help her
Poster 2 and 3 na desperation dey worry una. And as for poster 1 I've never been married but I'm yet to be married by the trace of GOD. AMEN. I know one thing "prayer works wonders". Pray and you'll see. From the post sef e be like say u be d jaiye-jaiye type o abi?
ReplyDeletePoster 1 Na wa for u o!.ur man go soon leave since u dont no how to appreciate wat u have.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 be honest
Poster 3 Tribe should never b a criteria except u are not serious.I am igbo married to a Yoruba Lady and I dey enjoy myself.
Number 1- seems ur wife feels her boobs r less attractive now after 3 n her her sex appeal has drooped, d woman doesnt want u to suck her boobs u too leave d tin alone,men and breast sha i dnt even no who started dis breast tin sef.mtcheeew
ReplyDeletenumber 2-did i read well? U b single mum yet ur parent dont want a single dad for u? And same wit him? Both of una parent are selfish. Both of u freaking deserve each other at least una need just one more kid to complete d family circle
number 3- u old enough to make decisions on ur own so am trusting u to use ur head
Hmm, it is well, I just feel 4 poster1. As for all these people saying "sex is not food" I hope u understand the gravity of dat word, u starve ur man of pleasure n expect him not to get it else where? Pleas let's play our parts as dutiful wives n leave d rest 4 God, n men please stop been selfish, it's not just about u, pleasure ur wives too, make dem look forward to it. In all marriage should be enjoyed not endured. Peace out
ReplyDeletePoster 1, please talk to your wife. Tell her if she does not satisfy you sexually, you will be tempted to go outside. Secondly, learn to seduce her. For instance help her around the house. Go out of your way to make sure she is comfortable. Care for her like you have never done and you will see a great change. The average woman appreciates being doted on, so take note, its like food to her soul.
ReplyDeletePoster 3. You are living in fools paradise. I know u but I wont mention names. Your real age is 27 and d guy is 10yrs older than you. He quietly got married in december to his tribe lady. He is yoruba and u are igbo. Stop fooling ur self.
ReplyDeletePoster 3. Sorry I meant to say the guy is 20years older than u. You are by the side yet he got married in december and u ar still in fools paradise. Sebi he bought a shoe for u and some tops and boot for ur brother in january yet u didnt kno he is married. A word is enough for d wise. Beta marry ur side young bobo and stop fooling urself cos he has paid u in ur own coin.
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