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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

MAKING DECISIONS THAT AFFECT MARRIAGE

‎Hi Stella,

I hope you are doing good. ‎ Please I will be glad if you publish my story so that I can get people's honest opinions on my issue.  

 Suddenly, I have become the wicked wife, wicked sister in law, wicked daughter in law and wicked everything. My husband has changed totally and has stopped coming home early and even eating my food.

 We have been married for four years with 3 kids. Right from our dating period, my husband has always liked crowd. When he was a bachelor he had about 8 people living with him, family and non family members inclusive. He will feed them and all that, I have always shown my displeasure to his communal tendencies and he always assured me that once we marry, all that will be a thing of the past. Well, we got married eventually and they all left remaining his brother and sister which I didn't mind, at least they are family.

 A year after our marriage, my husband went to the gym one Saturday morning and cones back with a man who started living with us. He said the guy was homeless, a guy he knew from nowhere, I tried to cope with it, this man would sometimes bring his girlfriend to stay for a week or 2.

 6 months after that, my sister in law brought a boy of about 11 to start living with us, said the boy lost his mum and the dad was too poor to care for the kids so she took one, my husband welcomed him whole heartedly and put him in a very good school, in short, he adopted the boy, I had no choice but to accept him too against my will. If I send the boy on errands, my sister in law will complain, my husband too will concur. If I beat him, my husband will almost beat me. 

The boy became unruly but because I wanted peace, I conformed. But I began to notice that this boy tells lies and even steals and was beginning to influence my sons ,this boy even steals at school,  when I complained, they said I hated him and was just being wicked. The boy's dad cones once in a long while, he also speaks with his son on phone. Well, in October last year I saw my eldest son (3) trying to put his peepee inside his younger brother 's (2) bumbum,i was dumbfounded, I beat him and asked him where he learnt that from and he said it was what Kingsley(the boy my sister in law brought) usually does to them‎.

 I was enraged, I went to the boy, I beat him blue black and phoned his dad to come and take him away. I had had enough. The man came and took his son away. It led to a very big fight between my husband and I and my sister in law and I. I was called names all bordering on wickedness and evil. My husband and his siblings took it so personal that they stopped eating my food or associating with me. Life has been miserable for me since then but I am just so shocked that my husband refused to see the gravity in what that boy did. So I should have left him to turn my children to homosexuals?

What if the little boy learnt it from your hubby?Theres something not right about your husbands niceness to strangers.His family probably know what you dont know.

Instead of beating that boy,why didnt you as a mother sit him down and tried to find out where he learnt it from and how you could help him?

What you did was wrong,why should you beat another mans child and protect yours?

This is my two cents and i dont care what anyone says and i dont need anyone agreeing with me,it is my own opinion.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

WHISLTEBLOWER CONSEQUENCES

Hello Stella, straight to the point. I have the most irresponsible brother in law, who keeps chasing after everything in skirts including me and my younger sister. Now, to the crux of the matter, on my way to my older sister's house yesterday with my younger sister, we met our sisters husband coming out of the fast food joint with a girl (stopped there to get snacks for my sister's kids)

My in law's reaction was epic, he was just stuttering and the guilt was written all over his face. Now, this isn't the first time such thing has happened, the first time something like that happened, I told my sister and I saw the pains on her face, they quarrelled and later used me to settle and since then, I decided not to meddle. Now, this has happened and throughout yesterday, my little sister has been pressuring me to tell her but I told her that this thing called marriage is deep and I advised we thread with caution, but she didn't listen to me, she told her this morning and my big sister called me up accusing me of being a wicked person and how I can poison her.

 I don't know what to do, I was just trying to save my sister from getting hurt, and avoiding being the one to bring problems into her marriage. Please, what do I do?

Some people might say you did the right thing whilst others will say you were wrong not to tell your sister.if you say he is a chronic cheat then your sister is at risk of STD,HIV and all what not,especially if brother in law Dearest doesnt wear protection.

If i was in your shoes,I dont know what i would do.I am not in a good position to advice you oh.

Make i read comments.