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Having a great Monday?My day started early and its a bit stressful but whadaya know,I Love Mondays...

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

D-E-S-P-E-R-A-T-E TO MARRY

Hi Stella, to say am an ardent reader of your blog is an understatement. for every of your good works be richly blessed. 

I am a 33 year old lady looking up to God for marriage. There is this guy I've know for 3 years now who has been asking me to marry him. He will show up at d end of my church prayer and fasting, then propose marriage and disappear for 3 months. Not even a call or visit. He did it again this January and since then, no call.

For the those past 3 years, i cant say he has bought a bra or pant or even recharge card of N500 for me. Even when i ask him he will just tell me he doesn't have. He has a good job, a car and lives in a comfortable apartment. To even show love, for where! 

During my birthdays or even xmas, not even a gift by mistake. (I have a job so he will say am ok.)

He traveled to UK and bought things: shirts, perfumes, shoes but couldn't spare not even 1 for me. i checked his phone one time and saw pictures of female private parts sent to his BBM.

I talked to him about it and he said he will change when i marry him that he is afraid if he starts spending money on me i will run away afterwards.

I talked to a friend about it and she said am asking for too much.

Please am i really asking for too much? are these not a red flag that something may go wrong later? What if he doesnt change.

I really want to get married ASAP and he seem the only one in sight now.

So Stella and my fellow blog Visitors, If am your daughter or sister, would you advise me to marry him?

For the records, I did not sleep with him o.

Thanks a great deal.

Why are you so desperate to marry darling?Cool down please,love will find you.

Do not marry this man you just described even if he is the last man standing,because you'd be marrying yourself.!

Do not let anyone put pressure on you .

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

THE WOMAN IN THE SHADOWS

Dearest Stella.Please post my story so I'd know if anybody else thinks I'm stupid ( i think I am) or just being paranoid over nothing. As I write to you now I'm at boo's place, travelled down after work today cause boo is sick. 

I met boo some months back with this girl that always hangs around. 

They called her 'little baby'(boo and the ex, we're all friends), according to boo she's like a little sister since boo doesn't have any and she usually help out around the house. I later found out they had a 3some with the girl and boo and the girl continued after that deceiving the ex. 

Now boo says there's nothing between them anymore, that the girl is in love(with boo) but no feelings on boo's part,but I sense and feel otherwise.(TeamSnoop). Anytime boo is in town she shows up at their fam house.(i wonder if that's the only time to help around the house). Boo and I are becoming serious and it's really paining the girl, she acts up all the time, getting drunk, complaining how no one wants her cause she's ugly (she've been in some pageantry though she've never won). I had to sit her down at some point and give her a pep talk on loving herself and not settling. 

I did this because i feel boo is using her, she cooks, washes, cleans and everything yet boo says he's in love with me. Boo doesn't wanna let her go, yet can't love her (I've begged him to go be with her countless times), she's willing to stick around even if boo is in a relationship. Now me, I'm confused, normal me won't let things get to this extent before I pull out nor tolerate all the drama, but I really really like boo and wanna see where this leads but how do i do that with someone hanging around doing my gf duties? Just this night, she popped boo's pills and then boo took a swallow of soft drink and she threw the drugs in his mouth, like does she have to feed him the drugs??? Boo doesn't see anything wrong in all these. 

If boo is at my place for long he lies that he has gone back so she won't be sad, he won't pick her calls yet when I've gone to work he calls her. This is the most awkward visit because the girl is not talking to either of us (except when it's really necessary)and I hate that she's heartbroken on my account. 

Please, should i pull outta this relationship or believe that there's nothing or make boo loose the girl (having this particular thought is making me feel like a wicked stepmother). By the way the so called lil baby is just 2years younger than me and 3years younger than boo. I await your advice.

what is this?A movie script or what?what kind of mess are you involved in?you think you are in a relationship?nah bae you are in a situationship and you need to sit up fast and re-evaluate yourself.

This is called 'settling' and you need to PUT ON YOUR RUNNING SHOES!!