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SHOULD I OR SHOULD I NOT?

When i was writing this chronicle, i was scared that this might be the longest chronicle ever. But apart from giving advice, the essence of a chronicle should also be to learn. So if there was someone out there with a similar problem who would benefit from this, then i don't mind. Let it be lengthy. Please post it for me in chronicles of blog visitor narratives.

I read this blog everyday. I have never commented but i have a blog id, i have been on this blog before chronicle, IHN and doctors in house session started. I really love this blog.

I am a Beautiful 35 year old female living in Abuja. I am single. I run my own business. 

  My mother had me when she was 16, and single for her supposed "boyfriend". (He's still alive but doesn't even want to keep in touch, trust me i have tried) After my mother had me, she left delta state to Lagos to "find work" she stayed with a relative then. I spent the first 6 years of my life with my grandmother in Delta state, before my mother got married to my late step dad and i joined her after much persuasion from my grandmother. 

  My step dad was a very nice and simple man. He was a banker and was about 20 years older than my mum, he made sure she wrote GCE and entered a polytechnic where she obtained her OND. My mum had two kids for my step dad, a boy and girl presently 28 and 25 respectively. 

  My stepfather died 5 years after he married my mum, my siblings don't even remember him. I understand that my mum was young with 3 children, a widow and needed help then. She did things I'm not proud of to make ends meet. Later on she met a Lebanese man that had a business in Nigeria and she had a baby for him. my 20 year old sister. The story about what happened to the Lebanese man is another jist for another day, but just know that the man was very much married to his Lebanese wife who was very rich and he was under her control. He could not marry my mum, in fact my mum was disappointed that he wasn't so rich after all.

This brings me to the main gist.

My mum is a VERY MATERIALISTIC WOMAN. 

right from when i was very young, i was taught to love money so much. in fact, i don't know how to explain this?growing up,  she had a bar, and anybody that called me "fine girl" she would instruct me to be the one serving him and never minded if they touch me. As a teenager, she would tell me not to waste my beauty the way she did. She would encourage me to date any rich man on the street.  she would say i should be "wise".

 I disappointed my mum because on several occasions i never agreed to do the things she wanted me to do. I was never the girl she wanted me to be. I always wanted to protect my sister, I even lost my virginity like 24. My mum hated me so much.

  I am a hardworking girl.  When i was in school, i was working and sending money home, i singlehandedly told her to stop bar business and sponsored her shop in balogun market where she is even till now.

  At 28, i met a very wealthy guy. he was too rich. he has 4 houses in Lagos (I'm not joking) he got me my first car, my first international passport Na him, the first time i took a flight outside naija Na him. my sister travelled to Canada to study nursing on his expense,she's happily married now. 

He expanded mummy's shop and also added a Jewelry shop to the shop where she sells lace.

  My mum was already planning our wedding, even before he proposed. She loved him dearly he was the in-law of life. She kept advising me to get pregnant, but I'm wiser than that.

Now you would wonder what happened to the guy? why we are not together. Our relationship was for 3years. in those three years, i couldn't see a SINGLE BUSINESS that was bringing in money.The source of his money was too questionable...yes he spent some on me i wont lie and my big business in Abuja today is courtesy the money i saved while dating him. But really this guy was doing the shadiest business deals ever. 

As at then, I was too scared to confront him, the only way out was for me to break the engagement or i might have lost my life in the marriage. I saw and experienced many scary things i cant even start to mention here..but i left him.

My mum kept malice with me for more than a year because of that guy. She cursed me and said if i can be that wicked to someone that helped me i will never marry. (She till hasn't reversed the curse, and the ex sef has a baby mama with 2 kids painting instagram red and making girls green with envy I don't want to say i pity her but i hope he has changed).

 I explained to her times without number that the guy was doing very bad underground deals. but she called me a liar and a cheat. In fact She slapped me twice for that very matter.

Now the guy is history, I moved on a long time ago. i have dated after then but my recent ex felt i was too much for him and low self esteem issues made him start acting up. God will send me my own. 

You know whats happening now? My mum has completely captivated my 20 year old half  sister with her spell. The exact thing she was forcing me to do when i was younger, my sister is doing it for her. She was expelled from covenant for her behaviour, She clubs and parties daily. She cant carry a bag if its less than 50k. I paid her school fees in convenant but everything has now gone down the drain. 

  I told her to come to Abuja and stay with me, she refused and said my mum would be lonely. but this girl is never at home and my mum supports her to the latter. now a 53 year old man bought her a car and I'm even suspecting shes preggy but my mum wont tell me. (my mum has aborted a pregnancy for her at 18 for a married man) I heard the man comes to our house and my mum entertains him well. Hes married with 5 kids!

  what kind of mother do i have? do i go to Lagos myself and drag my sister here? My brother slapped her recently and my mum called the police to arrest him. This is a serious matter o. The videos she posts on IG sickens me. Should i face my life and how i would get my own husband?  because my mum is already calling me old hag, saying I'm jealous of a young girls progress. I need my sisters life on track, my other sister in Canada has called and cried on the phone and is already giving up. What do you do, when you discover your baby sister does her own masturbation videos and sends to men for money?

But Stella dearie, please don't sit down and read comments on that your funny chair please, join hands with bv to help advise me, before i book a flight to Lagos and surprise my sister and mum( I need to talk sense into her and bring her here with me, i love her and i know she will go far, shes very beautiful and can earn a lot from modelling or acting, i have a lot of friends who could manage her, i don't want this high street runs life for her) *crying*  

I'm not jealous of my sister, and I can't mind my business because my heart wont let me. What do i do?

say what!!!!

OMG...Babe please i am too shocked to comment,i will comment when my shock is over in the comment section.I need to carefully re-read this again.