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CONFUSED AND AT A CROSS ROAD!

Please Stella and BV's,my story is long,be patient and hear me out before you crucify me

My story goes thus: I was dating a guy for about 3yrs, at the beginning of the relationship ( the first year in particular) he was good, lovely, caring,romantic,but the only problem(or so I thought then)was that he had no money as he was a student. But amidst this I was willing to be with him, I really loved him so much.

   Hmmm,the problem started after the first year of dating, I started noticing some flirtatious move in him, though I just overlooked it cos I didn't want to snoop. I came to his house one evening and didn't tell him I was coming and I noticed my pics that used to be on his mirror were no longer there so I asked him why? His response was not not satisfactory and annoying, as he said " I just realized I put up your pics but do you have mine on your own mirror in the 

hostel?" 

Gosh! 

That response was annoying because we both knew that I have his pics and I use him as my dp every time, I stay in the hostel and he doesn't enter my room cos it is not allowed, although I don't have his pics on my mirror I always flaunt him and almost everyone knows am dating him. So I suspected a lady came to visit. So while we were arguing about it, I asked him to give me his phone to check and he refused. After much argument he finally gave me and I saw this particular number he was always calling, 20mins..11mins..30mins conversation and so on and it was frequent.

 So I asked him who it was and he said it was one girl that is disturbing him... I was curious and sensed he was lying, I know how faithful i've been despite his poor condition, so I insisted he call the girl but he refused saying I call her myself. I called her and she rained abuses on me saying that my boyfriend had told her everything about me and I should not try her. 

Ah!

 I was shocked. I was confused for a while and wanted to call her back but my boyfriend dragged the phone from me as I wanted to drag the phone back the next thing I received was a thunderous slap 'Woozaaa' .

I was dumbfounded for a while but slapped him back, then I received the beating of my life, he beat me so hard for like three straight hours with anything you can think of, belt, ring boiler, pressed my neck, hit me hard on the floor, what did he not do that day? Threw my clothes to the next compound. I couldn't leave cos it was late already.

 The next morning I went to school and everyone was asking what was wrong as my face was swollen and my uniform was not ironed ( I was a student nurse then). 

In the evening, he called me and was begging, sent me text, came to my hostel kneeling and even said he would commit suicide if I don't forgive him; And yes I forgave him. I loved him so much.

   After that incident I became unsure of him, and he promised to marry me after his schooling. I am the first child of five children and from a poor background with my widowed mother, I really needed financial help, so I asked my closed friend to hook me up with someone that can sponsor my schooling and bills while I still keep my boyfriend. My friend knows lots of rich guys as she is from a rich home and travels to different countries, so she hooked me up with someone abroad. 

At first it was cos of money I was speaking with this guy but before you know it I started liking him. He loved me so dearly though he haven't seen me then, we only communicated via phone, he needed a serious relationship and promised to be there for me. Even when I was looking for money to pay my school fees he sent me double the amount, he was always sending me money as I explained my family condition to him, he calls me like 5 to 10 times a day. Even when my phone went bad he sent me a new one and told me to keep myself that if there is any problem he will always be there for me, He was crazy about me and he still is. So we were communicating for up to seven months. 

    One evening, I went to see my boyfriend as usual, this time I was devastated as I was pregnant, we were talking about the way forward and he said I should abort it as we are still schooling and no money. As we were talking my phone rang and as you have guessed it was my overseas guy, I was so scared to pick the call. My boyfriend was angry and wanted to pick the call but I refused and switched off the phone ( I know I was wrong). The next thing he gave me a very hot slap and started beating me up, this time it was worse than the first and I was pregnant! 

He beat me up so bad and injured me, dragged me with my hair and I was shouting in pain, his landlady heard and she came and the only thing she said through the Window was

 " young lady respect yourself and stop shouting its late ". 

I couldn't bear it anymore and I went to the kitchen to hold a knife thinking he would leave me with that ( I'm in tears now, the memory hurts) but he didn't he came close to hit me again and out of frustration, anger and not knowing what to do I stabbed him on his upper back and I quickly ran out, it was raining heavily this time, he pursued me in the rain and gave me another round of heavy beating, his back was bleeding and I was scared, it was horrific! 

  I was so frustrated and almost committed suicide, I didn't tell anyone what happened up till now. 

He called to beg me again, and much begging, pleading and crying for days, I forgave him again and went for D & C.

   My oversea guy became so serious and was planning to come to Nigeria to see me, so we can get to know each other better, I was kinda scared cos I was still dating my boyfriend. The one my boyfriend did last that really pained me so much was when he started asking my friend out and I got to find out, I just couldn't take it anymore and I broke up with him, though it was painful. He begged and begged but I refused to take him back. 

  So my overseas guy came to Nigeria just to see me......

 Stella, BV'S, when this guy came he was everything a woman would want in a man, tall, God fearing, rich and loves and adores me like he is under a spell. We spent two months together, he had to stay that long for us to know each other well, and did I mention he is educated, an engineer and a British citizen.

 He came to see my family and took me to his too. My mum and siblings like  him and his family likes me too and they treat me like egg. Though we have our arguments too but they are just trivial things and he always begs me even when am wrong and always tell me to say anything I don't like so he'll change cos he is scared of losing me, Stella you can see it, even people around knows he loves me, so much that at times I wonder if I jazzed him mistakenly, lol.

  He has gone back and he is planning to come and marry me this year ending, he engaged me before he left. We communicated for 8months before he came, we spent 2months together and we still have like 10months to know each other better. His mum calls every time. 

  Now my boyfriend has started calling again, begging and sending text,crying on phone that I left him cos of money and he is a changed person now. And the thing is that I still love him though not as before, and whenever he calls me i cry a little that day. And i love my overseas guy although am scared of our age difference, I am 22 and he is 35 and ex is 28.

Now I want you to advise me on this

Should I go back to my ex? Does the age difference matter? Do you think I am being greedy by marrying this guy and dumping my ex?, I am scared of leaving my overseas guy cos I think it will be difficult to find someone like him. What is your over all advise? 

Thank you all.

Did you just ask if you should go back to your ex or did i imagine it?

Do you still have brain in that your head?please check it well because it is only a brainless head that will go through this and still consider going back.

This guy has almost dislocated and derailed your life with beating but you are still confused?

Let me sit down and read comments but meanwhile,I bind that your ex from your life in Jesus name!..