Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative.

Is this a joke??? that was what i asked the poster because i was in shock till i read through.When i was done i pinched myself and asked her and her response was thus

''Why do nigerians always take the most serious of all issues as jokes? 

It is fine, you dont have to post it anymore, i would find help and good counselling else where.Thank you''

Please read and advice accordingly.

STAND ALONE NARRATIVE

AT THE POINT OF SUICIDE - DATING DAD AND UNKNOWINGLY GOT PREGNANT FOR SON

Hello Stella babe

How is the family?  Big ups to you and the great work you are doing on this blog especially this segment.

My name is withheld , i am 28years old, graduated from OAU 3years ago . I met this man a year before i graduated and he started taking care of me, got me my first car a Toyota muscle , financed me greatly, gave me an apartment in Lagos so he could always come chill with me there whenever he needed to get away from his wife whom he claimed gave him more sadness than joy. She practically brought all her village people and their kids to be living with her and her husband and it irritates him how crowded his house is by this woman's family. Meanwhile his own kids were not in the country, he has a boy and a girl. The boy is 4years older than i am while the girl is 2years older.

To cut the long story short. This man and i got really serious . I started travelling with him on business trips, his wife got to know about me but never knew what i looked like. All she knew was my name and the fact that her husband loved me dearly. Hes a Yoruba man and owns two houses in Lagos. When my rent expired he gave me keys to his second house to move into. I was more like a second wife that he wouldn't introduce to the family or have a child with.

Being a Benin girl, after my graduation my mother told me to use my tongue and count my teeth and start thinking of my life without that man because she must witness my wedding and child birth. When i approached this man about where we were heading he told me we could never have kids together so marriage would be a waste of time. When i pressured him on why , he got angry and we had our first major fight. I got angry and packed my stuff out of his house. Of cos by then i had saved some cash for myself from him cos he never let me work, so i rented an apartment . I didn't call him and neither did he. Last thing he said to me was that I'm an ungrateful girl and whenever i find happiness with another man it would crash as i crashed the happiness he found with me. Just imagine this selfish talk. I moved on! 

A friend of mine had her birthday party in Dubai on November 2014,so i went there and met this new fresh bobo o. Bobo and i started with a one night stand cos we were both high, i could smell money All over him but i just needed a fling to erase all the memories of my previous relationship. 

Stella and BVs this one night stand turned to something else o. I came back to naija after 7days and my old man started calling me and begging me . Said he wanted to see me and explain things. 

I agreed and went to see him, when i got there i saw an unregistered new ride! My people a Benz o! A c350! Omo my eye popped when this man told me this car was for me and started apologising. Begging me to come back. We went inside to talk and this man gave me a shocker news. Told me the reason why we cant have a child is not becos he doesn't want a child with me but rather its becos he cant get a woman pregnant. My jaw dropped open. I asked about his kids and he said they are both adopted. Said that's the reason him and his wife have no strong bond because her family keep mocking him and he knows she only stood by him becos of his money . 

Said he adopted the kids when they were one year and till date they have no idea that hes not their father or shes not their mother. I almost wept for this mans sad life. It was then i understood why i never got pregnant for him even by mistake . And not for one day did we ever use a condom. I dint know how to console him so that's how i found myself staying over with him o.

During my stay with this man, this my one night stand bobo managed to get my contact from my friend and started disturbing me for a date. I no even give am face cos i really care about this old man. Nobody has ever loved me like he does. Fast forward to 2weeks later i started feeling funny. My old man was on a business trip so i went to the hospital myself and found out i was pregnant.!! Stella as i type this i am pregnant for this one night stand boy! The next time he called me i didn't know if to tell him or not ! 

When my old man came back i started acting up cos i was actually feeling nauseous every minute . He told me his kids were coming to naija for his birthday January 3rd. And he was having a big party but also wants me to be there side chick or not. 

I agreed and we made plans for the birthday. Fast forward to the birthday party. I had to go with an escort in case the mans wife wants to beat me up so i would have back up o. I went with my friend. Only for us to get to the venue and i saw this my one night stand bobo. I got irritated with myself and wanted to leave instantly. My old man saw i wasn't comfortable so he came to me and told me his driver would drop me in the house and he would join me later like 2am when the party guests were all gone. On my way out, the one night stand bobo came to meet me with another girl and he introduced her as his sister, i was like "cool". 

Then a woman came and asked him to go and ask daddy's driver to help her drop some guests at the taxi park. He introduced me to the woman as his friend and called her his mother. I was getting uncomfortable becos he seemed familiar to everyone , even my friend was starting to pinch me and give me side eyes! I turned to walk away and he insisted on escorting me to the car park. So my old mans driver drove to me and came down from the car to greet this my one night stand boy.! Stella i nearly entered the ground! He called him "oga" . And then turned to me and said "madam are you ready". 

You can just imagine the scenario and the look on our faces. My stupid friend just immediately walked away and sat inside the cat abandoning me there like that. This my one night stand now had to pop the big question and ask "do you know Francis?" That's the driver. And i was like "NO, then i faked a headache and walked off instantly into the car" . All through the ride home i couldn't reply all the questions my friend was asking. I just couldn't think of what just happened.

When my old bobo got home i had already drowned myself in alcohol and was too angry with everything even the ceiling was provoking me. I transferred all anger to him and he was just there looking at me like a homeless puppy. The next day i told him i needed to go to my house and the next thing he said was I'm in my home . Then he brought out a ring and asked if i would stay with him till his last day on earth. I couldn't make that decision , at that minute my hormones were acting up so i rushed to the toilet to vomit. He wanted to take me to the hospital but i didn't let him . 

He told me he wanted me to meet his kids the next day, that was when it dawned on me that i had never seen what they even looked like! Never seen pics of them! Fuck! I asked for pics and he had to open his email to bring it out for me, lo and behold on the laptop screen laid the face of my one night stand bobo and his sister! I fainted instantly and woke up in the hospital few hours later and it happened that the doctor had already told him i was pregnant and that's what triggered the faint. 

I could see the sadness in his face knowing that i had cheated. I was discharged that same day and he drove me home where we talked and i explained how i got pregnant but  lied that i had not seen or heard from the boy since d day and i planned on doing a D&C.

He rebuked me and said we would keep the child as a miracle sent from God to make us stronger and that if he could love and take care of kids that he didn't know anything about , what more of a child from the woman he loved dearly.

I couldn't take all the pressure and surprises so i just left his house and I'm presently at my friends house. Been here for bout 2 weeks now and i put off my phone. So both son and father have been unable to reach me. My mom told me she wont let me abort the baby becos I'm 28 and children don't come easily for my age group. 

I'm more like a living dead right now, my friend wants me to go back to my old man and stay away from meeting the boy . My mom thinks i capable of training the child myself, she said i would bring trouble and confusion in the mans family if i should open up.

But me i think i should just commit suicide so there can be peace and sanity everywhere.

If i open up, this boy would probably find out that this man isn't his father. I cant live with that.

My old man might die of BP if i tell him any of this. I cant live with that too.

Which of these options is best or does any blog visitor have a beta option for me? Somebody please help because time is ticking and honestly I'm running mad.

I wanted to go to church and make a confession but i thought i should make my confession here where i could get lots of options . I hope you BVs know that insulting me would only make me more suicidal. If you cant help please just don't bother commenting.

I'm sorry for the long story but i just had to pour it out somewhere. This is a frustrated woman typing.