Quite an interesting topic,however Kemi should have used the word ''Some African men'' and not generalise.
Yes.most African men cannot deal with rejection but then most men around the world as well cannot deal with being rejected by their love interest and that is why we hear horror stories of women being attacked,maimed or killed by the men they walked out on .......
In this webisode,Kemi addresses some of the things some men do when they are rejected...
..... they spread lies about the Lady who has told them no and begin to concoct lies ' She’s gay,She has spiritual husband......blah blah blah'
...... Dissing her via their social media handles or even going under anonymous mode to spread lies and hate and some even go as far as Posting nude pics. Remember the Dublin loverboy who posted naked pics of his lover girl when she walked out of the relationship because she was tired of being milked?.
.....Some even go as far as asking for gifts back..LMAO .I have been in this situation before,he wanted the gold chain he had given me with my initials on it,unfortunately for him,I was still rocking it and didnt feel i had to return it,I asked him to return all the hot love poems i constructed which had assisted in melting his heart into buying the chain.I wanted an exchange and that was the last i heard of the matter.
......Some go as far as Planning revenge. This is all shades of wrong,if this ever crosses your mind,please hurry to the next deliverance centre and go down on your knees to get rid of those demons.
Has anyone ever had to deal with being rejected by a lover? or you ever had to reject anyone because of flimsy or solid reasons?
I have had someone tear a bunch of forex into two halves and give me the other half when i didnt have a dime on me.he was returning to the UK to be back in a few months and he said if i agreed to be his,he would give me the other half when he returned.I looked at the matter on ground and decided i was about walking into a lions den,i picked up my broke ass and ran...dumped him and his two halves of forex like hot cake and he blabbed but who cares.....Oniranu!
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Hahahahaahahahaaa dts some men for u, but u Stella, u re mean o. Some men can be a psycho wen. U dump dem.
ReplyDeleteAbegi!!! Women!!! *sigh*
ReplyDeleteSome men are Coward's, not everybody must like u, if 5 women rejects u, 50 will fight for u.
ReplyDeleteYou are soooo right...up u jowi.
DeleteNice comment @ Angela. But some ladies too are not saints! Some act as if they like a guy and milk him dry claiming to be virgins or celibate while they can't do without sex in a day... Well, some kpomo men are the culprits.
DeleteNot supporting men that do this but our women set this up at the point of entering relationships.
DeleteI am a bit like that
Many of our ladies set this up at the point of entering into a relationship. They enter relationship as the weak, helpless and dependent party. The man then assumes the godfather and father Christmas role only for the weak and helpless one to wake someday and decides to walk away (mainly after discovering a better and richer father christmas) knowing fully well that nothing is biding.
DeleteUntil we have a relationship based on you give me, I give you and not give me give me give me, this situation continues. Many women think that sex is their contribution to a relationship but that's the unfortunate root cause of this issue.
Men and rejection?
ReplyDeleteIt depends.
Some just move on,
Some just can't believe, hate to believe they've been dumped.
It depends on the individual but any man who goes asking for his gift back is childish.
Will he return all the steamy sex back?
Mtchewww!
Abeg e!
The sex was had by both people tho...
DeleteBloglord talking like a typical Nigerian lady that sees sex as a lady's contribution to a relationship and this is the problem. You practically reduce women to sex toys, you erode the actually value and the place of the woman in the society.
DeleteFor your information, sex is shared and enjoyed by both. If you're a runs girl, good. You're in a trade and not a relationship and no man will ever feel dumped by a runs girl!
You enter a relationship for accepting gifts and you think the sex you enjoy better is a bargain so when you see a better bargain for your sex, you jump ship, haha, the man will carry his village witches and wizards to pursue you!
Pls define your relationship before you enter it. Sex is not a bargain you can furnish.
16:34, spot on! Nigerian women think they are doing the man a favor, that is why they carry chastity on their head like gala hawkers, while the men don't give a shit about abstinence, and fuck anything in skirt, and when they want to settle down, they want a chaste wife, because of ego, but it won't stop their wandering prick sniffing out another pussy, while the chaste wife will be living in delusion that her chastity has put her on a pedestal which makes her to look down on other women and cuss them out! Only to wake up from their fantasy world, that the man don't give a fuck! A hole is a hole to him! Mschewww
DeleteNaturally nobody likes rejection. Both in relationship and all aspect of life, rejection is bad and makes one feel very bad. It can cause a number of things of which depression is top of the food chain.
ReplyDeletepersonally i hate being rejected by a lady, but wisdom and maturity demands that we should learn to see it as part of life and part of human existence so we should learn to control ourselves and not do something irrational when we are rejected.
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Alloy nwoke oma, kedu ka imere, ino kwa ofuma nna?
Delete@nikky emerem ofuma dear.
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That's her my friends boyfriend now ex told her to return all the money he pent on her or. It wasn't funny o. When I was in secondary school I guy requested for all the gifts he gave me while toasting me and I didn't accept.what I did was to look for the empty cartons and wraps, even the yeye flower cut in bits and packaged it and sent to him. And I laughed at him whenever I see him on the street.
DeleteMen that do this are idiots.
I don't agree totally with Kemi. In Nigeria, when you tell a man its over he will even thank you so that he will have chance to move on. After all there so many of them waiting to be approached lol.
ReplyDeleteHave being rejected because of my colour,Mtcheeeeeeew
ReplyDeleteHad to dump a silly boyfriend then who was always broke! What even pissed me off was the day I saw him taking money from my handbag and the silly thing never gave me N5 for the 7 months we were together.
ReplyDeleteHe almost bought goods in my name. Thank God for God I for don enter gbese.
But is true
ReplyDeletepost my comments o. pls stella sucre. stella bae and aunty stella
ReplyDeleteit hurts der ego when u tell em NO.. so dey strt to act up. hu cares really
THELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeleteSo so true,some guys don't know how to handle rejectionssssssss,they tend to flip over and bring out their beastly nature to glare....
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
Komu uko na okpu nsi
ReplyDeleteLike my friend's ex was asking to give him back his car, I pray! I told my friend to sell the car and pocket the money.
ReplyDeleteHe dey mad. Give him back the car wey he use her name buy...dude don kolo.
Her spoils of war.
Guys need to grow up. Leave the sulking for women.
Why do girls send their nude pictures to guys? I can't even send my fiancé a selfie not to talk of a nude picture. I don mad?
Kemi don dey do makeup? Lol
Hmmmm
ReplyDeleteIssokay
ReplyDeleteWhen a man disrespect my integrity, I will surely walk away from that relationship. My ex invited another girl to his sister's wedding, I caught them while the girl was sitting on his laps, I told the girl to get up cos I want to talk with my guy, the girl got up and left the scene, my ex was shouting @me that what did I need again, since all his family already knew and accepted me, he was shouting seriously and went to beg the girl and walked with her in my presence. I told myself that if he's the only man on earth for me to marry, I'd rather be single for life. Since then up till now, he's still begging even after dating 4girls after me. I can't stand a man who doesn't respect me, I have my self esteem intact
ReplyDeleteThat's the spirit @starry larry.
DeleteThat guys is so stupid and dumb.
Nonsense
Gbam
DeleteGbamer
Gbamest
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Yes dear, we should have self worth so that men can respect us
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ReplyDeleteAfter breaking up with my ex boyfriends,I keep malice with them so that they won't ask me to give back all they gave me.One in particular ignore my malice and asked me to give him back the car he bought for me(thank God he bought in my name)I asked him to return all the crazy sex styles I taught him and he insulted me,insults no dey kill person na,am still flexing with his car oh and I have forgotten all about his "curses",ha ha ha ha!
ReplyDeleteAre u Jay-Em's friend??
DeleteLol@crazy sex styles,didn't u enjoy them as well?
DeleteLmao!
DeleteWhen d curses start to manifest, car no go save u...... Long throat , all these poverty poverty girls from poor homes .... Fake girls
DeleteOk seen
ReplyDeleteNothing new
MR EDDY said this heat wan kill person o.
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lmao some African men o not all African men a perfect example is some Nigerian boys but wait it seems stupid to do that o
ReplyDeletethis writeup made me remember a boy that ask a girl out and she gave him a capital No he started insulting the girl o
#GODWIN
Rejection??
ReplyDeleteReaction for been rejected??
Some people are born to harm other people. Rejection is sometimes used as the cover book. That man or woman that hurts his partner that supposedly rejected him or her has only found an avenue to display his/her demonic trait.
A man who has no harming tendency cannot harm a partner if rejected, no matter how many times or no matter how gravey it seems
But ehh, some people needs to be taught
DeleteA lesson. Some people na serial heart breakers
This "moral superiority" that deceives people into thinking that they are judge and enforcer has created part of the prison population. He who is without sin cast the first stone.
DeleteKemi,have u gone thru all these?...what kinda guys have u been attracting? These are lame ways of getting back to at someone doing shakara...get anoda girl n let her see wat she's missing or sleep with someone close to her...her sister,friend,cousin or neighbour
ReplyDeleteYou should try watching the video before making all kinds of assumptions, abeg. She gave examples of the people these things happened to; her friend in Nigeria who she was just talking to yesterday, her church members who were Africans but not nigerians that live in the US, some girl on the news that was circulating recently etc. she didn't say any of these things happened to her. Don't try to stylishly insult her for stating an obvious fact about "some" african guys. She also concluded by saying the guy should just ignore her to show her she's nothing to him and even avoid her to avoid feelings and pettiness. The idea is that it IS very childish , lowly, petty and backward to try to get back at a woman for not wanting to date you. Not everybody you ask out would like you that way and it is fine, just move on! Your our own idea is even the lamest, I guess you're assuming the girl's friends and family members would be classless enough to want to sleep with you, right? Lol! If she's classy and intelligent enough to say no to you, I don't think her friends and family members would be too far off below her caliber to end up sleeping with you.......... Just Saying
DeleteWhat's dis didirin all about?
DeleteWhat's my biz wit any silly video,I dropped my comment based on what stella wrote...ode
DeleteLoL @ didirin.
DeleteOne stupid guy has asked for his gifts back from me. Cheap gifts for that matter that he got for free even oh. I returned then sha. He was forgetting he was owing me 130k. I arrested him and made sure he stayed in cell till I got alert in my account.
ReplyDeleteChicks are not playing o!
DeleteBwahaaaaa shared this with my brother (we are both laughed)
The past years all I watched on Tv's, read on blogs are women throwing shades men, forgetting such comments should also apply to women.
ReplyDeleteNone is even trying to balance their reports, am sure if such shades thrown at men are thrown by women to their fellow women things will be better. We won't read about cheating men and women/side chicks.
I guess blogs/self videos are the mouth piece for some ladies to bash guys since they have all the time in the world unlike men, "FEMINISM" is working. Inasmuch as I know men have got issues some are evil,
people like us can as well write best selling books about bad women we have come across in our lives as I believe it takes two to tango. As we have evil men, so are evil women,most of you do not know what a lot of men are going through in the hands of mothers/girlfriends/wives/mother inlaws. Men do not come out to talk about the ill they are faced daily because most are too busy to come online to refute some post I read or videos or too shy to talk about it due to ego.
Women who talk about evil men should also talk about evil women to balance the equation. Both sex need each other wether we like it or not, as you want to trash men please kindly trash your fellow women because they are not better. Even reading some of their comments here make one wonder, I see reasons why most are still single. Men are not blind, we see your bad side and we play along until we are fade up, reasons you see chronicles script you read daily.
One can detect the very abusive/aggressive/mannerless women among us just reading their comments. So tell me how such women who derive joy in throwing abusive language just to prove a point will make a good home?
Change should come from all corners. Some women handle rejection badly too, some even threatens the men.
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DeleteI'm going to Write u a memo one of these days Jay Em.. I fink the chaos u re always having with that ur neighbour shouldn't be used to disturb our peace and tranquility here. I mean how can u girls be tearing at each other in public. We come here to unwind, not to resolve conflict between two stupid adults. And Jay Em u re the more stupid one & uncouth. I just dislike you now.
DeletePS.. I don't know I both and I'm not taking sides
*Dozing*
DeleteDid u watch to d end at all, did u not hear when she said she'd be back in two weeks to talk about what women do??? Don't always rush to comment, if u must comment, make sure u read/watch to d end so as not to go off point
DeleteSome chicks define the biblical " hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"
Delete:* :* 2 jay Moore! It takes 2! As we have bad men, we have bad women! The comments by some womenfolk makes me shudder! I have no sympathy for some of the sob stories sent here because some of them are the 'causer' of their problems! Fickle minded females with fish brain and greedy hearts! The problem is that societal laws are favorable to men and not women, that is why more shades are thrown on menfolk.
DeleteJay moor chicken go and sit
DeleteLmao...Def not all, buh d foolish and pained ones do!
ReplyDeleteSome are very horrible. My ex seized 24,000 dollars of my money in revenge for what he spent on me. And to even think it's someones money I was given to help keep& I kept it with him. As I speak, it's been 2years & we ve done all sorts, he swore he ll never release the money.
ReplyDeleteHe wasn't only violent, he had personality issues. He called immigration to come deport me& when we got to the airport he knelt down apologising that it's the Devils work and I should forgive him, but that was the last I could handle. So I called off the relatnship after 4 years,.. To even think that it was the first time I was relocating to meet him since we lived in different countries. He said all sorts, called me all names!! But I made up my mind not to die young.. Some guys are horrible losers I swear!!
You are better of without such a person in your life.
DeleteInteresting topic Kemi. I was once asked out by a man who still keep malice with me up to date because I said no, bearing in mind that we are both married and have our own different families.
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He never start
DeleteHis mates are peacekeepers
His own na malice,
People malice keeping like there is an award for it
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Ladies do worst shah....
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a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Ladies do worst shah....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
I have been there oo... the boy just won't go. embarrassing me everywhere I went. Sleeping outside my door. Abeg, they are just bad news.
ReplyDeleteI think i'll pass! Iv never had a crazy ex experience! Been wit 2 guys they'r all responsible n still check up on me,
ReplyDelete@ Nelson, not all o especially if the guy has spent so much on the lady. Only the matured ones at heart can really accept the reality of being dumped.
ReplyDeleteHmmm interesting
ReplyDeleteI once rejected a guy who chased me for 2yrs back in uni. Wen d guy saw that I was serious about not dating him, one fateful hot Tuesday afternoon in gwagz, this guy saw me coming out of law faculty gate, he came out of his yeye baby boy car and threw several notes of 1k on me, and started telling people around that he just splashed me with 40k, that I told him that for him to sleep with me he wld have to spend enough cash on me, and splash me with money in public, this guy was just shouting saying that I'm an Ashawo, that no man enters me without money, and that a friend if he's told him that my p...y is very sweet so he's determined to enter there. that he has 100k on him and won't mind spraying all for even strangers to pick. Stella baby, I swear I was in shock that day, in fact I was in coma. I just stood there like a zombie praying d ground shld open and swallow me. He even told people to start picking d money he threw around, that it's on me. Chai, shame killed me, it was my course mate that was also my flat me that came and confronted d guy. I don't even know what he told d guy cos at that moment I wasn't myself, all I knew was that the guy just came and removed me from der and took me to a nearby restaurant to calm down. Do u know this oda idiot of a boy called me and said he did that to me cos I made him a laughing stock for 2yrs amongst his boys . Honestly whenever I remember that incident, I still get goose bumps.
ReplyDeleteAnd so he had to embarrass you in that manner?
DeleteSome men will still be boys regardless of whatever age they may be.
Will he ever overcome his childish attitude?
Mtchewww!
Thank God it was money he threw at you not any dangerous substance.
Say what?????
DeleteYou stood?
You're strong.
He is an idiot. Sorry dear.
DeleteChai, I can only imagine how embarrassed u must feel. I don't even want to start mentioning all my ex did to me while I was in uni, to d extent that I had to leave d environment for a few weeks so things could die down. This guy even went ahead to break a bottle on his head and said he was ready to kill himself if I didn't come back to him. Or that both of us will have to drink poison and die. Pffffff, I still shiver wen I remember that day!
DeleteKelvin Happiness where have u been? Wellicomu o
ReplyDeletethat she was unfortunate to meet pyschos does not make us them same. the 1st gal who rejected me in 2009 is somehow my best female friend now. #besides some gal are terrible e.g my neigbhour, an hell raiser
ReplyDeleteLmao some guyz can't handle rejection one even insulted his generation because I said no
ReplyDeleteSome guys are really cheap and egoistic like that. I wonder why they can't just take NO for an answer.
ReplyDeleteBlockhead comes to mind to explain their desperation
DeleteMy ex collected d customised football jersey he made for mi in my name(lol)How lame!,Who will wear it now?Maybe he will get a new galfriend with d same name.
ReplyDeleteThanks Stella. Noted. Certainly not all African men do this. Thanks to all who watched!
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