A Yaba Customary Court in Lagos has dissolved a seven-year-old marriage between one Okechukwu Ikechukwu and his wife, Nkechi, for alleged change of church, threats to life and irreconcilable differences.
President of the court, Chief Rahim Dawodu, in his judgment dissolved the marriage and warned them to let peace reign.
Dawodu also advised them to go to a family court to decide for them how they would take care their only child.
He directed the petitioner to pay N3,000 to Nkechi as feeding allowance for the child every month.
“The child’s school fees and medical bills should be paid only when the child enjoys such facilities in the public sector except the petitioner chooses other method,’’ he said.
Dawodu also advised any of the parties dissatisfied with the judgment to appeal against it within 30 days.
The petitioner, Ikechukwu, had earlier urged the court to dissolve the marriage following his wife’s decision to change her church, threat to his life and lack of peace and respect He said the marriage took a new turn in 2010 when his wife left their church to another and demanded him to also follow her.
“Her character and attitude changed toward me, abandoned me and threatened to make life unbearable if I refused to join her new church,” he said.
He said in 2012, his wife had threatened to poison his food as well as denied him sex after accusing him of being unclean and a sinner. Ikechukwu said he had to invite both families to intervene in the matter to save the marriage.
change of church?OMG...what is going on?how can change of church lead to divorce?are we not all serving one GOD?
This couple ain't serious
ReplyDeleteBLOG ANALYSER: Change of church is a common factor for separation in Lagos, it is a very sad phenomenon. I think individuals should respect their partner's choices or decissions to aviod situations like this.
DeleteWow wow wow
DeleteThat's a new one, dunno why marriages don't last again.it's that child that I pity!!
Lol.. OK I Waka .
DeleteI and my hubby go to each others churches.if I follow him to family worship today,he follows me to coza tomorw. Just for peace to reign.
Delete3,000 was a typo. It's 30,000. Or how on earth will a child feed on 100 Naira daily?
Delete3,000 was a typo. It's 30,000. Or how on earth will a child feed on 100 Naira daily?
DeleteAll those fake pastors that "reveal" to couples to leave the other...smh
DeleteIf what they told the court is the truth, then I see the problem is more of what the "Church" teaches than changing of church.
ReplyDelete3000 as in £10 as feeding allowance for 31 bad days?
ReplyDeleteOmg!!
Africa is finished!
Black women are completely finished!
I weep in British accent
Hahahahaha! Mamie oh
DeleteShut up delisional bitch....this is 2015 your white skin jokes are old......
DeleteAh Stella, change of church can cause divorce o. If only you knew the harm some of these fake pastors have done to families.Rose
ReplyDeleteHmmmm..so just a change of church caused all these or they just made that an excuse? That's what d world has turned to..We claim to call on d same God but we can't worship in d same church..churches condemning one another.the only thing I like d Muslims for is dat dey can worship in any mosque in any area dey find theirselves unlike our own If I don't c my denomination somewhere, I won't go to church mentality..even right now that's one of d issues under discuss on with my fiancé. .He's a Catholic and said I will start attending his church when we marry.but I told him I can't go to Catholic. .please no offence to d catholics. It's just that I always feel so bored in their services. .I even doze..nothing to ginger u..I went to one of d services with him last year and infact I was sleeping..I felt so out of place...dey already know when to kneel, sit and stand. .I just dey do like mumu cos I didn't even know when to do all those. .maybe if it was another church, I wouldn't mind but mehn....still on it sha but I don't c my sef becoming a Catholic. .maybe I will be going with him once in a while. .or who knows I might just be able to convince him to join mine. .hehehehe
ReplyDeleteBetter go for your own church member. In your quest to marry, you will take up what you don't like. You doze in church, na whose problem? Na you and God matter. You fit even snore.
DeleteSo why are you wasting your searching time around him? You're hanging on with the hope he will change his church and follow you, sorry dear, if you don't leave on time, be ready to post your here for us to read. You love him, but you hate his church. Why haven't you found a guy in your church?
DeleteWahala...
DeleteWell for me i"d rather sit at home than go to my hubby's church where their pastors are divorcing themselves. Abeg o... before dem go sey make I go pastor America branch while he will pastor Asian branch. Better to stay home and let peace reign. Can't deal with fake churches. Annie lp
DeleteI don't think you are ready to marry sef
DeleteMR EDDY said this heat wan kill person o.
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lol jokers
ReplyDelete3,000 for feeding allowance?
i reserve my comment
Judge what will N3,000 a month do for a child as feeding. Make una dey fear God oooo.
ReplyDeleteOga you for tell us the church name na. Abi you dey fear say dem go kill u.
Dat your wife is very wicked. God is God. Anywhere you serve Him. I pray no be the church wey i dey think so.
OK Oga
ReplyDeleteWe have heard your version
Waiting for part 2
All these people allowing church to brainwash them.
ReplyDeleteNaa wa oh....nuttin wey I no go hear dis mrng. Change of church kwa....lol
ReplyDeleteBefore NKO, will you follow your husband to olumba olumba
ReplyDeleteThis is funny...
ReplyDeleteMarriage is no longer a do or die affair...
The lady should move on with her life jare,she is lucky she had only one child .....
But 3k monthly for feeding is too small...
Oriegwu ohhh!!!..
What church? Trust all these newspapers to give half baked news. ..3000 as upkeep allowance for 30days? what is that supposed to buy? garri and groundnut? na wa...
ReplyDeleteThe way some people take church matters is serious.
ReplyDeleteOne of my neighbors threatened his wife to change her church if she wants to live a peaceful life.
She eventually changed her church.
My very good frd got married last year and his a winners member why the wife actend Christ embassy.the wife refuse to change her church after marriage they both go seperate church on Sunday
ReplyDeleteWhat Nigerian churches will cause to marriages no be small.
ReplyDeleteStella good morning dear. I'm kinda not happy with you at all
Not only change of church stella,threat of life,it is obvious they are both tired of the marriage. It's not a do or die affair,it is better let the woman look for her church member marry and let the man do the same. Happiness and peace is restored
ReplyDeleteHello Stella, thank you for this topic. Religion/Church is a simple yet very serious issue to attend to when it comes to marriage. Recently I met a guy I really liked but he was a staunch catholic. He told me only death would separate him from the church, which I tot was too harsh.. also I got to learn that he separated from his ex wife be cos of church issues cos she was a pentecostal... I know when there is love it shouldn't be a difficult task to handle but there's nothing as lovely as when a couple/family attend same place of worship. I'm seriously thinking about his proposal. God help me
ReplyDeleteGod bless your guy for putting his faith first before a woman @Anon 10:02
DeleteMy dear you should think about his proposal very well, don't be pressured into doing what will make you unhappy.
Being a good Catholic is serious business.
We are very faithful to our faith.
We don't cheat on our faith, we don't go about seeking miracles from every pastor.
We honour our mother, Virgin Mary.
We believe in confession of sins.
We believe in saying the Rosary.
We don't joke with holy Mass, ETC
Are you ready my dear?
If you know you can't deal, please walk.
Your own man will surely locate you.
All the best.
I blame women in this issue. Now you've heard from him that nothing will separate him from his church, if you accepts his proposal, don't get up someday and start talking about another church.
DeleteBut most ladies do this, because they won't to get married, they agree to anything with the hope of changing the man later in marriage. Ideally, a woman joins her man to his church, if you don't want his church, pls don't want the man.
Period!
He has made his stand clear sis, accept or walk away.... But I won't allow you to walk away my dear, there is nothing wrong in Catholic faith... Welcome to our faith sis.....
DeleteD problem wit christainity is 'religion' and 'doctrine' our faith is in JESUS CHRIST nd nt in any church! Hw can smone say catholic is my faith? Rd d scripture nd allow d spirit of God 2 live out christ life through and nt some set rules by some clergies
DeleteIf you know you don't believe in the tenets of the catholic church, I will advise you to let go. He told you about his ex right?
DeleteMy mum is Anglican and we did not like the church because like you, we slept off, so she asked us to attend any church we liked. There was a male member who married a Pentecostal lady, mehn, this lady does not hide her disdain for the church with her actions! I heard it was the ISH in their marriage! They came for their first child dedication, while the women were coming out to dance with her to the altar, this lady just walked quickly to the priest with the baby in her hand, that the women returned back to the seat grumbling. Her husband looked apologetic.
My SIL was reluctant to go to the same Pentecostal church with my brother. She was a worker in her own pentecostal church. I heard it nearly caused an issue between them until he put his feet down. When he is not around, she goes to her own church.
It was then I realized why some pastors encourage members to marry themselves especially the females, so as not to lose members and avoid this problem.
So make your decision wisely.
Nitty
www.thenitty-gritty. com
If u want to marry a man..get ready to follow him to his church
DeleteAsk the woman if she has read her Bible thoroughly, she will say NO. You can't force a man.
ReplyDeleteD wife is insane ,wot does she mean dat d hubby is unclean cos he refused to follow her to her new church thereby denying him sex mtcheeeew,misplaced priority is all I see here,
ReplyDeleteDis woman doesn't know that denying her husband sex is giving him licence to commit adultery
Delete#Abbytohxoft
It is not an excuse. Adultery is a sin, whether you were given sex or not and God will not say i my dear, na your husband or wife cause am so dont worry.
DeleteIts a pity,the devil continues to use this holier than thou attitude to destroy homes and lives.
ReplyDeleteMadam Stella... u no dey do give away ni
ReplyDeleteThis blog be like charity organization for ur eyes? E-beggar.
DeleteThis blog be like charity organization for ur eyes? E-beggar.
DeleteLol @ E_begger
DeleteThey were obviously not in love
ReplyDeleteShe no dey do. Do on her behalf.
DeleteAbeggi.....dem don wan divorce tay tay....which kind flimsy excuse......Mtcheeeee
ReplyDelete@Galore
Huh! All these divorce ish going on high rate now scare me.
ReplyDeleteIts not your portion in Jesus name
DeleteAmen oh! Big amen to this. Thanks and God bless you.
DeleteIt happens oooo. Discuss all these before marriage.
ReplyDeleteMutual understanding, patience, tolerance and more lacks in the marriage. They were not meant to be
ReplyDeleteOnce people start attending all these mushroom churches, they loose their senses.
ReplyDeleteI have seen this happen a lot of times.
Everyone around them who is not a member of their new church becomes an automatic enemy.
Even family members.
I don't know what those fake prophets use in washing their heads.
Abeg, the man should kindly face his life and leave the woman to continue chasing shadows.
How can any responsible married person change church without first discussing and coming to an agreement with his or her spouse?
I wonder what people take marriage for these days.
People messing up the institution anyhow.
Mscheeew!
are they alright?
ReplyDeleteimmature couple.
that's what happens when kids get married.
You cannot force your partner to change to your church if that church is a real place where Christianity is being practiced. Her change in character will just attract the husband over to the church.shit been happening since 1914.
ReplyDelete3,000 a month as feeding allowance for a child? Chai this judge should fear God na!!
ReplyDeleteThat might be the genesis of the story but there would have been other parts that have been removed to make it sound ridic. I've heard of a couple divorcing because of toothpaste used in a messy way
ReplyDeleteLol church matter is serious in marriages if the couple have different beliefs
ReplyDeletelets hear the womans own side naah!!.
ReplyDeleteSolace Awuni
Maybe he bribe d judge to do so dt he can go and marry someone else.there is nothing dt is impossible.just because of irrelevant thing even DH and i did not attend same churah
ReplyDeleteOriegwu
ReplyDeleteYeye couple
They should give a better excuse
Omg am scared of marriage dis days, I pray mine last forever.
ReplyDeleteNawa 4 dem oo
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Nothing wey we no go hear.
ReplyDeleteNawa o.
How can couples once happily married get divorced over a minor issue.
The devil must have crept in.
i dnt blame d man. some churches r not churches n wht dey practice r downright barbaric.
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The wife is really crazy. Why on earth will yu be threatening ur hubby bcos he didnt go ur church...... Mad woman and this divorce is 100% accepted by me......
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i blame these brain washing churches for this...the couple should have found a way to work things out shaa...
ReplyDeleteAmaghi ihe bu oria..... Lack of wisdom even if you want your hubby to join you to your church, Na your character will do it for you not by fire by force..
ReplyDeleteIt's the new thing now o, people are not getting married Cuz of this church wahala o
ReplyDeleteChange church kwa, divorce? ? ?
ReplyDeleteIs the man diabolic ? ? ?
*just asking*
Well woman it is not good to deny him sex, for whatsoever reason. If it is true oooo. Men sabi give women loads of accusation wey big pass them, in cases like this.
chai see who is advicing *taa ! apua m ebe a*
There might be some other issue leading to this
ReplyDeletebut some church should also encourage women to respect their husband wish as the head of the family
the wife suppose to be the one to follow her hus to church.
I think church have to come in and settle this matter.
Dey r definitely avin braintouch
ReplyDeleteSee Dirty Talk o
Hmmmm church kwa, I don't think the woman is well
ReplyDeleteIf na religion, ma sugar-sugar for don leave me tay-tay. He's a Muslim, I'm a Christian, our boys practise Islam. We had a church wedding and a nikkai. I do church on Sundays while dey do asalatu. We all do church together sometimes or asalatu and sometimes we just do our thing.
ReplyDeleteCome Ramadan, we all observe the fasting and wen I av to do ma Christian fasting, ma sugar observes.
Hubby and I pray every night (Christian
way) we respect each other's religion above all we respect the most high GOD.
8 years on..,
I like this.........your both educated in character and learning
DeleteAnon God will continue to bless your marriage! You and your husband are obviously educated. Na illiteracy and poverty dey cause these kind nonsense gist. Hisssss
DeleteTanya darling, ow old are u again?
DeleteThere is more to this. Change of church???!!!
ReplyDeleteSome churches though.
ReplyDeleteLadies normally agree on anything with the hope of changing them after marriage. Marital blunder no.1
ReplyDeleteWives follow their husbands to their (husbands') churches but our ladies will always feel it's the other way round...marital blunder no.2
Making heaven is more important than marriage...Blunder no.3
When you divorce your spouse because you want to make heaven, the heaven you won't make!
Will be right back for more.
na wa ooo. there is nothing person no go hear dez days
ReplyDeleteStells, that's just a sensational headline. No reasonable court will dissolve a marriage solely on the grounds of "change of church". As a couple, the issue of discord as per place of worship is serious enough to cause a rift. They may decide to separate and tell each other and everyone else, the marriage is over (unofficially) but that's not a cogent reason for an official dissolution by the relevant Court.
ReplyDeleteThis issue was used to underscore the ground of irreconcilable differences. The court probably dissolved the marriage on that ground. The change of church and threat to life is the evidence the petitioner adduced to prove to the Court that the marriage has run its course. Dissolution of marriage is easier at the Customary Court, if it were at the High Court... let's just say the petitioner will have to get more "creative".
#3k as monthly feeding for his child? What a mockery! I.e 100 per day? This is one of the reasons some women are reluctant to divorce. Our divorce courts are not favourable to women!
ReplyDeleteNitty
www.thenitty-gritty. com
So true.
DeleteOrisirisi..
ReplyDeleteStella same church issues with my bf
ReplyDeleteHe is Ang and I am catholic..if I he weds me in Ang church,my parents are going to face a penalty,so hv begged him to wed me in catholic n I will follow him to his church.But,he cnt do it,his family doesn't wnt him to do it.
I can't watch my parents go through the punishment in church bcuz am wedding in Ang church
Life isn't fair
Eeya let him we'd you in a catholic church if he truly loves you.
DeleteWhat punishment are you talking about in the Catholic Church? I have never heard of that. People be more catholic thank the pope!
DeleteWhich punishment is that one? Hian. You guys should do court wedding and enter house. Kpom kwem
DeleteBoth of them are not serious but the unseriousness started from d wife if wat d husband said here is tru.How can a woman be giving d husband order to come of his church d woman has gon to a fake church where she has been brainwashed and replaced with demonic ideaolgies.Some times women can easily be treaked.
ReplyDeleteHahaha! Dis pple r jokers walai
ReplyDeleteOturubeke!
ReplyDeleteWetin church don cause. Is it not the same God we serve. But come to think of it, what about the other allegations? Is not all about church, there is more to it.
ReplyDeleteCaptain's Angel,
ReplyDeleteThe man has given you his condition o. If you cant see your self going to Catholic church, why not go look for another man in your church . I hope you wont come here lamenting after marriage. Leave the man to marry the woman who is willing to follow him to his church. Rose
From the issue at hand, a good understanding is that the woman began her attitude when she changed church and she began to see her husband as dirty and a sinner and wanted to force him to change. Even though her actions may seem good but she when in a wrong manner, threatening the man and denying him of sex. That is not a Christian teaching. Some of these new churches where women run to for solutions are only out to cause havoc with their wicked desires to own people to dominate they say all sort of things which are anti-christian to destroy souls and homes. If you ever want your spouse to embrace your faith or what you believe, we must never forget the very first element of faith... LOVE, where there is no love faith cannot endure. You can't force anyone to accept your religion else you will have only outward and shallow believers which in the long run will crumble in the time of testing. I take my faith serious and it is easier in marriage when both spouse are of the same faith because that the only thing that can carry you through when the love is gone.
ReplyDeletei dont think they both know God . so d change of church is not d reason.
ReplyDeletei married a muslim wu later changed to a xtian.
we were attendin diff churches bfore but now we go to d same church. when hubby was not a xtian there was no fight so i dont c y two xtians shuld split bcos of same religion except if d wife dey chuk her eyes for all dis churches owned by babalawos in suit. Lord have mercy.
AI-DEAREST
Church?
ReplyDeleteMMM, u're just ignorant n myopic. U might think u're working for God not realising u're working against God! May God have mercy on u for trying to condemn Olumba Olumba here. #Emi
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