Chronicles Of Hope - 1

Marriage stories to inspire you to take the plunge.........

''The only difference between those who threw in the towel and quit and those wo used their energy to rebuild and kept it going is found in the word HOPE''

Chronicle ONE.

Will I MARRY THIS MAN IN MY NEXT TEN LIVES?...YES!

Hi Stella,

I totally agree with you about the appalling rate of divorce,abuse,violence and cheating that has become so rampant that if I was also single,I might be tempted to look at marriage with that your 'side eye' and probably sit on one of those your chairs and watch.

I have been married since 2004 and I am so grateful to God for the kind of man he gave me.he is dark,handsome,average height and also very broke when I met him,he had a job though,but it was paying peanuts and I was just about to finish school...I agreed to marry him despite some hesitation from my friends,they wanted me to marry a man that was already 'settled' ..whatever that means

I went ahead and married my hubby,and believe me Stella,God is my witness,this man has been the best thing that happened to me followed closely by the birth of my children.

I haven't worked except for  a few months because I insisted I wanted to test out what I read...I am a lawyer...

I had to insist that I can't be idle,so he opened up a business for me,that has afforded me the opportunity to travel the world on the pretense that I am buying goods....wetin  them they sell for Germany Stella kork,make I come use style visit you and gist plenty...lol

A lot of people miss it today in marriage because of misplaced priority,let me share with you my four core values that I won't compromise in a choice of a life partner

1. Fear of God....a man that fears God will restrain from a lot of stuff

 2. Ambition and Prospects....my husband had a 30year goal plan broken into part of 5year each when I met him

3. His people's skill...if he treats other people like trash,being his wife doesn't put you on a pedestal,he will treat you worse

4. Does he love me

The fear of God keeps my husband from cheating on me,abusing me,etc

His drive is helping him to make a name for himself in his career and bucks are rolling in

He is a wonderful father and husband because he has respect for people's feeling

I can get away with almost anything because he loves me very much.

We are not there yet Stella,but God has been faithful.

Will I marry this man in my next 10 lives,most certainly Yes

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Chronicle Two

MARRIAGE BUILT ON Prayers,Patience and Perseverance


Hello Stella sugar, (been itching to call you that)..lol. How are you? I comment as Ennie Dr. Truly all these chronicles that have been coming in recently are quite depressing. Marriage is not meant to be like that...its meant to be enjoyed not endured.

I met my husband shortly after I finished house job. I was one of the 'efikos' in school though I usually liked forming hard core babe. Not many people knew that I never had a boyfriend till I left medical school. My husband was my first boyfriend who I met through one of my very close friends. 

They had been friends for years but I wonder why I never saw him with her...perhaps it was because God was saving him for me..lol. He was far from being inexperienced like me though..He had had his fair share of relationships. From the day he met me, my hubby told me later on he knew I was the ONE.. 

We started dating a month after we met and boy...He thoroughly wooed me. I was living in Abuja while he was in Lagos but we always made sure we visit at least once a month. He respected my wishes of no sex before marriage and he also became celibate.. He's God fearing, comes from a good family and he respects and loves me a lot. He proposed to me 6 months after we met and we were married 18  months later. 


The first year of marriage was a learning year...I think any couple that survives this will make it to the end. We have a child now who is almost two. Of course we have our own arguments, but we settle it and thrash it out without making too much of an issue. Each day comes with pleasant surprises. I'm absolutely glad I married my best friend.

All I want to tell those out there still single is this...Trust, mutual respect, love and the three Ps are the bedrock of any marriage; Prayers(lots of it), Patience(never too much) and Perseverance. The husband is the head of the family and the wife is the support system. None can exist without the other. Husband...love and respect your wives...wives be submissive and do your part.

My dearies its not even that it needs work to keep a marriage going,it needs everyday work to keep it afloatThank you to both posters for their wonderful stories.