Narrative NUMBER ONE
AGE AINT NOTHING BUT A NUMBER....RIGHT?
Hi Stella, hope you are good. I am in a dilemma and I need you To throw it open to the house as two heads are better than one. I am 34 and single. Dated guys who broke my heart,got engaged once and when that one too ended I almost killed myself and gave up on love as I was convinced it wasn't for me but my mum,siblings,colleagues and whole world would not let me be.
Not a day goes by that I am not reminded of my marital status and I decided to give love a trial this year. I recently met a guy I am liking and I believe he likes me too and I also just discovered during a random discussion that I am 4years older than him.
How Do I tell him without losing him? The day he told me his age I almost fainted with shock and when he asked my age I diverted the gist but it has been weighing me down since then. My intention is to just cut him off and move on or how do I tell him?.I have never dated anyone my age before talk less of younger.
Worried girl.
You are already setting yourself up for a heartbreak.He likes does not mean he wants to marry you.If you are giving him booty already doesnt mean he will marry you so shine your eyes and tell him your age,he might just turn out to be one of those who believe that ''age aint nothing but a number''!
Good luck!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
HUBBYS SPERM IS 5% Active,15% Sluggish - ADOPTION ADVICE NEEDED.
Hello Stella,
Hope you are keeping well? I am an ardent reader of your blog but i have never commented. I was led to send you this mail this morning( really don't know why). I got married last year February and have not been able to conceive. I had an abortion for my ex about 4 years ago( it was not a willful one, We both had genotype issues and could not marry. Our parents were against the union because of that). We dated for 3 years because we loved each other so much and just couldn't let go.I eventually let go and met a new person now my husband
I opened up and told my husband about the abortion before we got married and he never changed his mind about us. Now i have been married for 11 months and not even conceived. We ran some tests on me and found out i was not ovulating properly and was put on clomid. This is my 4th cycle on clomid and still not conception. We ran a semen analysis for my husband and the results were a little disheartening...his sperm count is very good(70 million) but motility low (5% active, 15% sluggish). He was given antibiotics and put on some supplements. Sometimes i wonder if its my mistake of the past that is allowing this happen. Doctors say really its too early to be worried but i cant help being worried.
I have started thinking about adoption if conception does not happen soon. I believe there are children who need love and i have a lot to give( can anyone help with the processes and procedures of going about this)
My period is late by a day as at today and i did a pregnancy test this morning and it was negative.It just hard to contain but i am confident in Gods time, it will happen. I am appealing to blog readers to remember me in their prayers. Please pray for me. I don't know any body on this blog personally but i know prayer works and i cant wait to share my testimony when i conceive
Keep up the good work of doing good and God bless you. You are changing lives through your media and God will continually take you higher and higher.
Sluggish sperm?how does one identify sluggish sperm?ORIEGWU!
hmmmm, how does one identify sluggish sperm? oriegwu! poster 1, tell him so he can know what he's about to get into, if he's yours he'll stay if not then he was never meant for you, all the best darling.
ReplyDeleteIt's called sperm analysis. Thank me now.
DeleteHmmm
DeleteMay God locate all of una in ur problems!!
Abeg give him your football age.
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My dear p1, pls have a little patience b4 adapting. Doctors has said theirs has God spoken? If worst come to worst you can go for IVF. But I think you worry too much there by putting pressure on ur self........ p1 my dear tell the guy ur ages first, age is just a number. Remove marriage from ur mind 1st until ur sure of what he wants else ur heading to another heartbreak. Cheers n good luck to u ladies.
DeletePoster 1- biko tell him, 4yrs no too far self. Poster 2- but you just got married now, since you guys know your problem already just continue with the treatment n pray to God to bless your womb.
DeleteSluggish sperm means all of them no get energy to outrun one another. All de lag behind. Thus inability to result in pregnancy. BV of age difference, give am your official age, the one that appears in your documents. Simple, or you just minus 2years from am, but don't subtract the whole 4 years. Okbye
DeleteV.O.O and u work in ZIB I know its u. That's ur Abbreviation. Anyhow u changed ur date of wedding. Just be careful. Relax. its still early to Adopt. Keep praying and he should continue his Medication. there is nothing impossible. you forgot to add he is Hypertensive. Anyhow come let us discuss it properly. You are a very Good girl God will definitely bless you with Children. U are worried because your inlaw have started discussing. It well my Dear
DeleteV.O.O I forget to add tell ur Hubby to reduce Beer. He flexs too much. Always going to Lounge
DeleteNna mehn, this anonymous I de fear u. Where u see V.O.O. I don scroll up, come down, I no see anywhere, abi my eyesight don de fail me. Abi no be for the posts here? Your nyokometer dikwa very clear oh.
DeleteAnonymous 19:20,you badt gann o
DeleteAnonymous 19:20, you are wicked. HHE (house hold enemy) you must be jealous of her secretly. Coming out here to divulge her secrets show you don't deserve to be a friend and hence true and loyal friends will elude you.
DeleteAmen @ the prayer to anony 19:20
DeleteCome lets discuss it??like really??
Who needs enemies with friends like you?
Narrative 2, I think ART will favour you, plsssss see a good gynaecologist to discuss management. XxxbarbieXxx
DeleteIt's well.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1 should open up to the guy and tell him her real age..
DeleteIf he stays fine but if he decided to leave,then it means he has never loved you.....
Age is just a number dear...
Remember Lola and Peter...
Darey art Alade and his wife etc....who are still in love and waxing stronger...
Narrative2,
I think it's still early to start getting worried about not conceiving....
I know some women who have done several abortions me inclusive having children in their husband houses.....
So stop feeling guilty and ask God to forgive you....
Try praying...it works...
Poster one:let him no...if he stays fine if he does not don't worry just trust God cuz he has beta plans for u
DeletePoster two:God will surely surprise uuuu.....u and ur Hubi can go to a different hospital and redo d test or see a specialist
It's well
DeleteGood advice Stella @ narrative number one...
ReplyDeleteU just met this guy and u expecting it would end in marriage?
Do u know if he's ready to get settled?
Please just take each day as it comes...
Marriage will happen when its gan happen...
Poster 1 tell him and let your mind be at rest. The earlier, the better for you. This way, you will know what his true intentions are instead of assuming.
DeletePoster 2: there is a tiny shred of hope for you guys. Since his count is high, you both have to treat his poor motility issue aggressively. Foods, vitamins, boosters etc. Google like never before and gather infos for your hubby and you.
Another important thing is towards your ovulation period, you and your hubby should not have sex at all...... get someone, a nurse preferably to calculate your menstrual cycle for you and figure out your ovulation date. Once you can get the days your ovulation falls on, that's a step forward.
If you both can, avoid sex 5 to 10 days before your ovulation. This iis to ensure your hubby's sperm count (the active onse) is high and it increases the chances of conception.
You, on your own, take suggestÃns and vitamins given by your gynea when treating your poor ovulation.
Above all, remember God's report is the best. You just have to have FAITH and trust in God.
Why you no go born pikin? Your mama no born you? It is well my sister.
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DeleteCynhams cakes... love ur comment... encouraging esp d last part say her mama born am and she sef go born hers
DeletePlease do not abstain from sex for more than 5 days when trying to conceive, it reduces the quality of the sperm....Google this or ask your dr
DeleteDere's still hope for him, atleast the sperm count is 70million, let ur gynae place him on drugs, it's not new at all trust me. U'll conceive in due time.
ReplyDeleteApart from drugs sef,IVF can also be done.....
DeleteYes there is hope, he can be on drugs for 3-6months and his sperm would be fine, u can read up on ovulation on google, ur case isn't dat bad oooo
DeleteNarrowing 1: tell him ur age. If he doesn't know now,he will definitely know later even in marriage trust me. Iam handling a similar case now.D guy just find out from d wife's younger sister CV. It will take d grace of God to restore trust in that marriage cos d hubby suspects everything now. Tell him d truth and let him dealt with it. Who knows if telling him d truth will make him put a ring on that finger?lol. Narrative 2: If ur result if from sperm count/analysis result, what was d clinically conclusion. Place him on fertility drugs. Vitamin E is good. Ur doctors should prescribe. But too early for adoption pls. TinaBlack
DeleteNothing "Agbo" cant cure but consult your physician first.
DeletePoster 1: if truly you two like eachother then theres no harm in coming out clean about your age ...
@P1 tell him your age if you hide it now and he eventually finds out later what make you think he won't run . So just deal with the drama now instead of shifting judgment day
DeleteSamira, even though I understand you do not reside in Nigeria; you are still very rooted. Imagine talking about agbo. I'm impressed!
Deleteis it about age? Please tell him ur real age. Anything real is always real. If he is gonna propose he will. Dont let unnecessary things bug u. Make sure u tell him before trying to Quit. Everyone deserves to love and be loved.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: im sorry for ur past. Commit everything to the hands of God. And it seems u have already given up on him and submited wholly to science. I want u to know. That God is the Doctors of all Doctors. And the time u least expect it. He will surprise u with ur own bundle of Joy.
Remain Blessed both of u. Dont let issues of a 'Mini Me' destabilze u.
Okbye....
#I SEE DEAD PEOPLE...
U see dead people, are you the sixth sense.😃
DeleteP.1 age is nothing but a number
ReplyDeleteP.2 Relax, God will answer your prayers soon
It depends on maturity of d mind when it comes to age. Poster 2) there's nothing God can't do.
Deleteis it about age? Please tell him ur real age. Anything real is always real. If he is gonna propose he will. Dont let unnecessary things bug u. Make sure u tell him before trying to Quit. Everyone deserves to love and be loved.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: im sorry for ur past. Commit everything to the hands of God. And it seems u have already given up on him and submited wholly to science. I want u to know. That God is the Doctors of all Doctors. And the time u least expect it. He will surprise u with ur own bundle of Joy.
Remain Blessed both of u. Dont let issues of a 'Mini Me' destabilze u.
Okbye....
#I SEE DEAD PEOPLE...
Poster 1 don't just walk away,I think u should tell him ist,u never can tell..Its all about risk taking
ReplyDeletePoster2 sluggish sperm kwa..nawa o
But its too early for you to hv sleepless night over this..Just calm down sweetie.My God doesn't sleep,trust in him and watch your life turn around for good..
Don't adopt yet,just a real patience.
My dear, Idnt tink its too early to worry o, atleast they would have time to seek for solutions now
DeleteP1 tell the guy, he should either accept you as you are or move along.
ReplyDeleteBut how can you go into a relationship and not know you ages at the early stage?
P2
It is well with you, Miracles still happen.
This your display pix amuses me....I like
DeletePoster1,age is noting but a number,dnt be shy of ur age let the dude know ur real age.poster2 pls adopt give an innocent child that motherly love and God will bless you with urs soonest
ReplyDeletePoster 1, i can't date a guy i'm a day older than left alone years. I think the respect might not be there at a point in time. Well people differ anyway. It might work out for you if you so desire him. I wish you all the best with your final decision.
ReplyDeleteIt happens alot.. u won't even know How.... by that time u will be head over heels... some guys doing even look their age....for me...love is love..
Delete@ Narrative number 1, what would Toyin Lawani do?
ReplyDelete@ Narrative number 2, why are you fretting? You have just been married for 11 months, not that i don't understand you though,the wait can be quite frustrating...my advice, trust God and have loads of youknowwhat with your husband. God bless you darling
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P2 have u considered ivf? P1 u believe he likes u(mistake 1) don't believe some1 likes u,u might be wrong n u might be right. People will tell u age is nothing but a number,the same pple will castigate u for marrying a smallie. Do what seemeth right unto thee. That aside I've always longed for feedback from previous narratives,make una bring feedback naa,wanna know if is "happily ever after" or "new beginnings" eg that lady that dated a married man who always took her to his house when his wife has gone to work, Nne Howfar? Did u guys finally tie d knot as he promised? Yesterday narrative,pks bring feedback inugo...I need to learn from yo mistakes *sips acid* mmm tastes good. n the guy dat slept with his friends wife, bring feedback pls. God bless u all. Wow!
ReplyDeleteExactly ivf will work, she can have twins from there and lockup, but medications can make him produce more better sperms, ignorance dsnt mean there isn't a cure, there are drugs to boost sperm quality Google
DeleteFertile aid for men Nd women, u can try that
DeleteWe are still going strong. We are renting an apartment this month and taking it from there. Dis is not me gloating, dis is me answering ur question honestly.
DeleteYour mind is right at poster 2; you aborted because of genotype if I understood you? That's murder lady? Adoption is a good option but . ..
ReplyDeleteBiko shut up!...
DeleteAnd who are you to judge her?...
Hope you are perfect...
@Anonymous,you sound like someone who escaped abortion! How dare you judge her?
DeleteJudgemental pple will be judged oh
DeleteOver saving anonymous...according to the laws of the fedtalking republic of Nigeria...Lol..as provided...abortion..is not murder
DeleteAnd I Am not saying women should indulge in it..but they are circumstances when... the need will arise
DeleteAm sure that Anon is a regular and known Abortion doer in Africa. Who made u a judge. Go get a Life. Babes its Well. Adoption should be the Last option. ThankGod for Ivf. But its too early to worry. Am sure ur inlaws have started disturbing u. Keep praying I believe in Master Jesus is the Doctor of all Doctor. Also ur hubby should continue will his drugs. With the Clomid u have started am sure ur Ovulation is already stimulated. But pause a while so ur hubby will be fine first.
DeletePoster,since your husband has good count,what you need to do for him is simple.
DeleteMake sure he stops any form of alcohol.
Get mannix,addyzoa,and we'll man conception for him.
Take more vegetable andd fruits,carrot,cucumber especially.
Tell him to avoid sweet thinz like coke malt etc.buy walnut for him to chew daily.its also good for sperm boost
For you to boost your ovulation,clomid is not really. Advisable cos it will taamper with your cycle.instead after ur period,buy grape squeeze it inside warm water,drink it till when u start your fertile days.take ewedu too don't put dat potash abi wetin dem dey call am.
Above all,pray to God,he is the one that gives childrem.i hope this help.
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@1, the guy has not proposed yet and ur body is already shaking, abeg go seat down with ur age.
ReplyDelete@2, never heard of sluggish sperm before so can't advice u.
Poster 1: follow anty Stella's advice Poster 2: God will do a new thing in ur life. U can adopt because according to the yoruba's ori Omo lo n or omo wa ye
ReplyDeletePoster 2, grace changes everything. I pray you receive your last hour miracle soonest. I look forward to the day you shall testify about your conception and delivery.
ReplyDeleteKpele BV's.
ReplyDeleteWaiting for comments..
ReplyDeleteposter 2 ,I always advise women on no account should u in the name of love disclose certain ugly things to ur husband, eg abt the abortion cos either he says u r d cos of u guys problem when the heat becomes too much or he will say u were wayward.Have u not seen men who know they have probs n yet force it down the womens throat that they r the cause?
ReplyDeleteUr abortion might have nothing to do with this afterall most ppl here have done 13 n they still conceive.Its abt Gods mercies.What u both need is talk about this together , take ur drugs religiously and pray hubby doesnt tell u one day u have aborted and removed ur womb.Some men do i luv u as e dey hot,it often never stands the test of time.Me, id rather die with secrets of my past if i had any.
Seems like 99% of ladies on this blog have done abortion....lmao
ReplyDeleteMrs sluggish sperm,if u were in ur husbands shoes he would have treated u like born by mistake and thrown u out.
His family would have taunted you without his defence.
Most African men are that bad.
My advice is u should reconnect with your ex you aborted for and bear DH a child.
Most babies in a family don't necessarily belong to the man so act wisely.
Poster one-at 34 you should have laid marriage plans aside and thought about having a baby who's gonna be your companion for ever b4 menopause sets in so u don't lose on both sides.
Take the likes of Genevieve etc.
No one sees her as a total loser as much as our very loved Riri Dominic.
Marriage isn't for everyone.
Take my advice cos I'm the best on SDK
If 99% of ladies on this blog have done abortion,am sure you are one of them!Pls not everyone has aborted their pregnancies like you!Speak for yourself alone!
DeleteMami u no try oh..advising her to commit adultery and give birth to a baby dat osnt her hubby's and for how long is she goin to live with dat lie.poster2 as far as u at ovulating and ur hubby still has some active sperm,der is still hope..its too early for adoption.dat option is normally like in 10yrs time and by God's grace,h wouldn't have to wait that long
DeleteM-mamie the chief Abortionist. Thank Goodness you counted yourself first mscheww
DeleteBuhahahaha..drama queen.... wrong data joor
Delete@Mamie, what kind of advice is that? It's not like her husband has a problem that can't be treated....why advice her to commit adultery? Smh
Delete@mamie seriously?
DeletePoster 2, there are some things you NEVER should disclose in a relationship because it might come to haunt you later.
ReplyDeleteI wish you well but don't give up yet
Age is a number, Maturity is not Age.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 age is just a number,open up to him and let him know your real age. How long do u think you can hide it? I tell you if he is yours he will overlook it. He may be the boo u ve been searching for afterall.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 i think u are worrying so much,there is no cause for alarm yet.i mean you are not even up to a year in marriage. Why not relax and enjoy ur hubby first mmmmmm, when you are relaxed and settled, it will come.
Keep taking your drugs and encourage him to take his,God has the final say. Good luck
@p2 you can add zinc to his vitamin and pistachio nut. It helps increases the mobility.
ReplyDeletePrayer works as well but follow all the doctors advise. What's ur cervical mucus like? Are u temping? U can also try green tea and raspberry leaf. If u are on a break on clomid, use evening primrose oil. I wish u get ur BFP. Take a blood test. Sometimes u can't pick the preg from hpt. Or maybe ovulated late.
Yes zinc is good n she shdnt take clomid everytime cos too much of it can cause ovarian cyst, u can try fertile aid and read on things to mk u ovulate while hubby is taking vitamins and sperm boosters for some months, then after some time he can do d sperm analysis again bfr u use clomid again, u cNt b using clomid continuously if some of his sperm are sluggish, u go wound oo
DeletePoster 1, pls dont start falling. Let him ask you out, then tell him your age. What go be go be
ReplyDeletePoster 2, the word of the Lord says None shall be barren. His word also said we shall multiply and be fruitful the world. So pls 1st cast away your worries sweetheart.
Oya listen to me, Pray to God for forgiveness, forgive yourself, sow a seed and pray fervently. Speak to that stomach of yours that it shall be fruitful. And the Lord will answer you.
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DeleteStella pass me one of those your ludacris chairs make I sitting down reading comments.
ReplyDeleteAre u in any way related to Kajad man? Ur gbagauns can break d internet.. I raise nyash for u.
DeletePoster 1, judging from where u r coming from, it's safe to tell him now,if he's yours he wld definitely stay n if not, your own will come sooner than u think.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,like your doctors said, i also think it's too early to start getting worried, why not try n enjoy your marriage and just trust God.
Poster 1:
ReplyDeleteIt looks like some people like to conjure problems where there is none!
You and the guy are liking each other, you haven't defined the relationship yet but you have over-analysed the situation and are getting worked up over nothing.
Only under-achievers hide their ages. Come clean. Steer a conversation towards age and tell him your age. Some men prefer to date older women.
If he can't deal, better he scrams now than when you are in too deep.
Poster 2:
Another case of looking for a problem by fire, by force!
Doctors have diagnosed your husband's semen as below par. Instead of concentrating on solving the problem, you just had to take ownership of a non-existent problem!
How is your "mistake" responsible for your husband's lazy semen?
We have BVs with a dozen abortions to their credit (shout out to them) and they've gone ahead to have babies without problems.
Your marriage is too young for all these stress you are piling on it. Don't make your home a sad place for your husband.
Don't confuse it, semen is different from sperm
DeleteThis reminds me of when I dated someone younger unknowingly. He looked much older. Thank God it wasn't wen we were ripe for marriage, or I might have just decided to bone the age. Walked away with time, its still one of d best relationship I ever had. Poster just tell him and if he can't deal, take a walk, u might be surprised that he wouldn't mind. He should sha not tell his people u are older
Delete@poster1:pls take ur time n don't rush in2 marriage dat u will end up regretting.
ReplyDeleteA women gave her testimony here,just hold on n wait 4 ur God's ordained hubby
@poster2 : am a learner in cases like dis......will just relax n read comments
My prayers are with you@poster one
ReplyDeleteGod will surely answer you. This year will not pass you by. Let doctors in the house tell you the implication of the semen analysis.
It is too early to look at adoption as an option dear... that is my opinion for now.
Poster 1
Let him know your real age. I wish you were upfront about it from the onset so you will be able to bear the outcome easily without emotions clouding your judgement.
Age is not a number they say,but some young men of today use it to their advantage. Let him know what he is getting into. You are ripe for marriage,you don't want a fling. We don't want to hear stories about how his parents rejected you or his pastor had a nightmare about you..
Look out for yourself dear..i wish you all the best!
Poster1 tell him before he finds out from elsewhere, then you will have more explaining to do.
ReplyDeletePoster2, i really don't know what to say, so as not to misfire, i'll pass hoping intelligent more intelligent minds will have answers for ya
@poster even if dev gone astray de are still my own the lord will visit u...be patient..@poster u are surely ur own problem,age is noting my dear,cept u treat em like a son
ReplyDeletePlease which advice is for who?
DeleteN1, this year quick quick you don deh think say na him? I see you as one emotional and very easy to convince kind of babe. Thinks have not been put in place yet you are getting heartbroken, you not even learning from your past. Na wa o. N2, in HIS right time he make all things beautiful, OK!
ReplyDeleteN1 I understand how you feel and it is so cos you are in Africa where being the older one in a relationship seems somehow. But like Stellz said, open up and let him know your age. It might be one of those peeps that believe that age is just a number. Love your self and your life first. Don't feel bad about your age cos life is not easy to come by. God is your strength and will do everything in His time.
ReplyDeleteN2 Don't you think its too early to worry your self over this? Enjoy your self with your hubby and you won't even know when you get pregnant. Why allow devil use the abortion thing against you? The more you dwell on that, the more disturbed you get. Pregnancy can only occur when you care and worry less. Just take doctors' advise and pray fervently. God will meet you at the appointed time.
Poster 1: do not let ur hopes get high. Open up to him about ur age. It is either he stays or he goes. Do not be desperate. God will send u ur own husband.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: why not wait a little before adopting a child? Have patience and trust God to do wonders in ur life.
MEMO TO ALL WARRING BLOG FAMILY: please with all due respect this calling out, cursing out needs to stop, i look forward to reading this blog daily but with all the shenanigans i see nowadays its becoming disturbing to the eyes. please u all should sheath ur swords for Gods sake this blog is big enough for everyone to air their opinions without being cussed or bullied. i know some bvs comment with multiple ID here nd i know some bvs are catalysts for trouble, they cheer the warring factions on to continue exhibiting ill mannered characters. this is a blog and not "AUGUST MEETING" we dont have slots for president or other positions so please no need to form blog president or blog mama by ass kissing other bvs or bullying others just to get noticed. now to the warring bvs continue exhibiting the market woman syndrome in ur dna's maybe u think by insulting people or replying their insult the same way they dished it to u makes u tough or a bad ass crazy chick but unfortunately it makes u look like ill brought up kids from abusive homes, they are ways to make someone sound stupid without u spelling it out. many of u carry the hurt nd anger from the real world and pour it on bv's here, let everyone air their opinions in peace even if they are lying, bragging or sometimes just absurd. freedom of speech is still in full effect, my own opinion though
ReplyDeleteShut up my friend. If you don't enjoy the drama, that is your own cup of tea. Skip it or stop visiting. There are others blogs where your boring self will fit in perfectly. And how dare you make pretentious assumptions about the warring Bvs home training?
DeleteThis blog thrives on drama and I love it. Most of it is just for fun; I don't believe the Bvs mean each other any harm.
A million likes for this comment...I pray they adhere to ur advice
DeleteWell said my dear, God bless u
DeleteTrue talk.
DeleteThese contoversies and cussing out are d things dat makes dis blog fun and entertaining..We dont want dis blog to be boring..So shift one side joor.
DeletePls my fellow BVs, I need help and good advice. I got pregnant outside wedlock, it wasn't my fault as its not lik I was havin willful sex wen it happened. But d thing is dt am pregnant now, and didn't abort cos of guilt and fear of God.
ReplyDeleteMy ques is, is it wrong to giv my baby up for adoption? Do u kno ppl that av done this? Will I regret it? I can't afford to be a single mother cos av seen d stress involved...no money, limited choice of suitors, no help from family and friends, I hav wicked sisters dt av alws been jealous of me, they'll b d ones to stigmatiz me sef. So wat re my options pls. Its a baby boy, from scan
If you were raped,why didn't you go to the hospital for a doctor to giveyou drugs to prevent pregnancy and STDs?You sat down and pretended as if noting happened!I won't advice you to give your son up for adoption,what you should be praying for now is for safe delivery,that baby will bring smiles on you face,u'll see. Meanwhile why are your "wicked" sisters as you call them jealous of you?
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DeleteYou ugly thing called juicy babe, shut up ur dirty mouth. Did she tell u she was raped? Wat if she was rape, she went to the hospital but d drugs stil didn't work? Abi u never hear such before? Or u never see where person try abort baby no way? This is how u ppl end up judgin single mothers...now someone didn't abort her baby and u re here blaming her. Bush pig! I myself hav wicked sisters that pray for my death after all I've done for them so what re u insinuating
DeleteAnon 14:30, I understand ur plight. Only u kno ur condition. Don't let anyone's opinion disturb u. Do watever u feel is best for u. I'll even lik to meet u but am currently outside d country
Giving your baby out for adoption is a big and brave decision. If you know in your heart of hearts you CANNOT take care of the baby, and there is a willing and responsible family that will love that child as theirs, then you go ahead.
DeleteI've read about adopted kids and how they feel about their biological mum, one thing they keep repeating is; why their mum gave them up, is it that they didn't love them enough?
Please use a reliable orphanage, not all these shady one that will sell your baby to any random person (ritualist etc). Again adoption is total give up not foster oh (na dash you them the pikin, na their own forever and ever), not after training the child, you will now want to collect he/she back. Read every document thoroughly before you sign, if you don't understand anything ask for genuine clarification. Good luck with your decision.
N.B. most kids when asked would prefer to stay with their biological mother(s), even if she is cracking kernel. On my part I wouldn't give up my child except it been proven beyond reasonable doubt that it's for his/her own good.
Juicy babe pls calm down. Anon pls send me a mail michelleogo1@gmail.com
DeleteI don't know why u pple keep on advising young women to always keep there pregnancy and come here and start begging for assistance, why must they be opening there legs and getting pregnant, I don't even understand,
DeleteU are very stupid for asking dis question..when u were raising ur two legs up collectin prick u didnt realise all these..U dont want to be a single mama eh? What made u think u will find a suitor if u are not a baby mama?
DeleteWhat u ar supposed to do is kill urself..If u dare give dis child up for adoption,ur life will be miserable till death..Did ur mom give u out for adoption? Are u mad? Common gerrrrraaaway from here..Ewu!
Chizoba ibebuike. Ahn! D way u insult people on ds blog, na wa ooo. Any way sha, u re a popular lagos prostitute so am not surprised. One thing I kno is that single mothers suffer a lot. Me I be single mother. I kno its not easy.
DeleteChizoba pls tak it easy on d insult plz, she asked 4 advice biko, if she says na abortion she wan do, it's a diff story. God wil c u tru dear
DeletePoster 1: age is just a number abeg, the truth is that, you have made up your mind for brkup.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: sluggish sperm ke? Please am interested to know how to identify it too
Poster1;my dear always remember that God's time is the best. God will meet you at the point of ur needs.
ReplyDeleteposter2; I personally dont see anything wrong with Adoption. most times, it opens the door for u to ve ur own blood kids. there is absolutely nothing impossible for God to do.
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Stella Bea you were so carried away with the second sister's problem that you forgot to say amen to her prayer.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Open up tell him the truth and let God's will in your love life be done.
Poster 2: Relax your mind as anxiety doesn't help people trying to concieve achieve their goal. If you must adopt then be prepared to shower your adopted child with the same amount of love you will give your own children when they start coming.
How I wish Jane Aku didn't chase Kehinde Ake away with her relentless love declaration.Poster two's predicament is so his spec.Kehinde our Sexpert please come back, love is not something you run away from. Your expertise is needed here urgently.
#1 Tell the guy your age, if its meant to happen trust me it'll happen also don't forget to PRAY!, PRAY! PRAY!!.
ReplyDelete#2. God be the giver of children, enjoy your marriage and have fun, stop the doubts, I am 100% sure that you both will have children around your dinner table. Focus on better things, like romantic dates, cinema outing or just cuddling up and talking about how to invest and grow a business empire anything sha!! don't kii ya self.
phew!!Hand don dey pain me.
Poster 1: 'He likes you' is no guarantee that he'll marry you so tell him your age and see what plays out next.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: It's really too early to be this jumpy. Give it time and let God work out a miracle for you.
She can also raise her legs up after sex nd sleep off with d sperm Stil there, atleast bfor morning the dperm would trek to d right place
DeletePoster 1 just let him know d real age, if he's yours he will stay if not he should go. God will bless you with ur own man dis year just keep believeing.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 have you completely lost faith in God in just 11months. My step mum took upto 22 yrs but now she has 3 sweet kids. Pls its yet early to fear, pray more love up with DH more biko and try forget dt nagging thoughts for now.
N1 pls just tell him and wait for his reaction and as for N2 keep hoping on God you'll definitely concieve..love Sdk blog though♥♥♥♥
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ReplyDeletePoster 1 just let him know d real age, if he's yours he will stay if not he should go. God will bless you with ur own man dis year just keep believeing.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 have you completely lost faith in God in just 11months. My step mum took upto 22 yrs but now she has 3 sweet kids. Pls its yet early to fear, pray more love up with DH more biko and try forget dt nagging thoughts for now.
Poster 1 just let him know d real age, if he's yours he will stay if not he should go. God will bless you with ur own man dis year just keep believeing.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 have you completely lost faith in God in just 11months. My step mum took upto 22 yrs but now she has 3 sweet kids. Pls its yet early to fear, pray more love up with DH more biko and try forget dt nagging thoughts for now.
Poster 1 just let him know d real age, if he's yours he will stay if not he should go. God will bless you with ur own man dis year just keep believeing.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 have you completely lost faith in God in just 11months. My step mum took upto 22 yrs but now she has 3 sweet kids. Pls its yet early to fear, pray more love up with DH more biko and try forget dt nagging thoughts for now.
I remember when my husband and I wanted to adopt a child. The process in Nigeria is just too hectic. No wonder a lot of people don't want to tow that line. I have kids of my own both male and female. I just wanted to give a child a better home. At the end we were denied that our heart is full already and we won't have space to love the child.
ReplyDeletesecond post touched my heart,couldn't even scroll down to read other posts before responding...I know how it must feel,the fears and worries...I'll keep you in my prayers..don't give up..Never lose hope. God will grant you your heart's desires..You will conceive by the grace of God.THE BIG BOSS doesn't need the validity of doctors and what not to show his wonders.
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ReplyDeletePoster1-kool your temper and tell him,let ur mind be at rest,there's no point cutting off communication from him witot giving him room to prove himself to you irrespective of the age difference.....so you guys sud hang out and just catch fun,,,,,and in the process of dicussion,bring up the age issue and y'al sud talk about it extensively....no cause for alarm biko...
Poster2-i decree upon ur womb to receive life and bear fruit....as per ur hubbyz sperm mobility,the hands of God is replacing that sluggishness with HYPER-ACTIVENESS....its will end in praise!!
STERRA Bae...where sud i send ur kisses to???
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
@Poster 2...How me and you wear thesame shoe?shooo.Na wao.Its so soothing to know you are not alone in your worries.When I mean exactly as in exact same shoes;timing,DH health issues except that I married as a virgin and have no health challenges after tests.Anyway,I am positive so pls remain positive.I have chosen not to worry anymore,it will happen in due time.Wait a min @ M-amie,are you for real with this your advice?Like seriously?Adultery to join preggers league?Nna o di egwu really
ReplyDeletePoster 2, pls gv clomid a break and detox ur system. If u are on d fat side shed sm weight, and use metformin. Tk fruits, cut out carbs, gym. For ur hubby google up how to use "aki hausa or hausa groundnut" for low motility. Get vit 2(1000iu) selenuim, manix for ur dh and repet d SA in 3months tym. Above all be calm, ul b pregnant. D above terapy was was workd for me, exactly january 2014 I found I was preggy after 17months of infertility. U can check up the" trying to conceive thread" on the health section of nairaland, it ws a life saver for me. I wish u all d best, above all be happy, I hd given up hope b4 I found I ws preggy. Hugs sis
ReplyDeleteExactly, she shd give clomid a break, too much of it will cause more problems, use drugs for u n hubby first bfor u jump into conclusion or do ivf, u can still have biological children , ppl who did 50 abortions still have kids, it's normal to feel guilty
DeleteLemme read comments ooooooo
ReplyDeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteYou seem to have low self esteem,you feel that this bobo would quit if you tell him that you are older than him.Gabrile Union is older than Dwayne Wade,yet they are married.Tell this guy your real age and watch his reaction.
Poster 2
Must you tell your husband about your past?You comited an abortion for you ex so why didn't you put it behind you?Am sure your husband knew about his problem long before he married you that's why he seems to be fine with your abortion story!If he cannot get you pregnant,adopt or quit!
@poster 2,I just read your narrative for the 2nd time ,pls don't quit,be patient and pray to God.Wait for sometime before adopting a baby.It is well.
Delete"I recently met a guy I am liking and I believe he likes me too".
ReplyDeleteDid he tell you he likes you or are you just assuming? From your write- up, the said guy hasnt professed love for you or anything of such and you are already expecting more from him (I understand how you feel from the past breakups and recent pressure, so I dont blame you at all) First, I think you have to know the guy' s feeling towards you before jumping into conclusion. Find out if his feelings towards you is that of a brotherly kind of likeness or if its something deeper than that so you dont end up having high hopes and having it dashed.
After you have done that, open up to him about your age because even though you succeeded in brushing it off once, it will pop up again and again. You can' t run away from it honey.
Ill advice you open your heart to friendship because love come when we least expect. It may not be rhe current guy you like that will be your husband. It could be abybody. Dont be all about marriage for now. People make deadly mistakes at this point owing to the pressure and desperation-permit me to use the word.
Relax honey. My cousin is 32 and getting married this saturday. Better to wait and choose right than than to come back and share stories that touch. Alot of people are in loveless marriages now. Im sure you dont want that.
Don' t give in to pressure, ok. God will perfect it.
Cheers!
Age is a number. I have a guy am senior to but he does not mind at all. So one man's meat is another man's poison. If you are not comfortable with it. Please quit
ReplyDeleteHe's just fucking you jeje lol
Delete@oladimeji whatever...u never have any meaningful contribution to make! tufia!
ReplyDeleteCos Stella said "sluggish sperm kwa" y'all are echoing the same! I dislike people that don't have a mind of their own..its quite repulsive!
Instead of rushing to comment blindly why don't u do a little research on Google so that ur advice will be helpful whilst u also learn!
Anyways...sperm motility is one of the components of semen analysis, and yes..its something to worry about! it's one of the causes of male infertility.
If u have a sperm that is not motile or sluggish, it may not be able to reach the ovum when it is released...its just like a football player who cannot run to kick the ball in the net...u get it now? sperms are supposed to move, and fast too(movement is measured on a scale of 0-5 medically..google the grading if u wish)
However, poster...I wonder why you are the one drinking someone else's panadol! are u the one producing the sperm?? Why are u thinking about adoption after 11months of marriage(cos that doesn't fit the definition of infertility) unless maybe u are above 35 years! Then that will be the time u will fit into the class of those "looking for child"..phewww!
Advice to u....stop worrying, please and please cos that may even affect your menstrual cycle(remember those that miss their period during exams? Yeah..its the same mechanism...tension! worry!)
Let your husband man up and seek the best of gynecologists as long as he can afford it and of course take his supplements and other medications seriously.
....and while at it....just pray! forget worry! The ball is not in your court at all!
Poster 2.
ReplyDeleteYou are giving yourself unnecessary headache. One of the keys to conception is calmness and peace of mind. Listen to your doctors, do not worry. I mean: do not worry. The more you worry the more it will not happen. Can you find the fruit soursop? If yes buy and give to your husband to eat. He should also take anti oxidants like vitamin C and E daily. If he smokes and drinks alcohol, he needs to stop. Something to boost his sperm count is what you need. If he also takes energy drink he should stop it. That is a killer. Just be grateful that his sperm count is very good. Relax and give him 3 months of this then go for another SA test.
For you, taking Clomid when your husband's sperm is not viable is a lost cause (speaking from my experience). I suggest you stop taking clomid. It's comes with its own side effects. You should start exercising and eating healthy. If you can, you can take some daily vitamins + the Nigerian local folic acid. Then relax your mind. If you work, put your mind to your work. Don't worry about when you miss your period or not. Give it time ok.
Please enjoy intimacy with your husband. Don't just do it because you are thinking of conceiving, no. Do it and enjoy it.
Then finally, God is the giver of children. Rest it in his hands and trust in him.
U will carry ur own child soonest don't worry,ur God isn't asleep
ReplyDelete****LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*****
@poster 1, the thot of ur bf calling u aunty booboo sounds appealing to me or what do u think? (i'm only kidding). Now seriously, I don't think the age difference is a big deal, d love u share is a bigger deal. Don't just give up, tell him, u might just be surprised at his response (in a good way)
ReplyDelete@ poster 2, the ways of God isn't the ways of men, am sure if u av confessed ur sins nd repented of them, He has forgiven u nd will never go back to using it to punish u. That's why He is God and there is none like Him. Just a little more patience and i assure u, you will sing a new song and we will all dance with u by God's Grace
I am so sad because we may be filing for a divorce anytime soon.The marriage has been very rough and rocky and the fact that we live in different countries has made it worse. The final straw was when he told me that he prays i loose my job and that he would take the child away from me.I feel we are two unhappy people in a marriage that would never work and its best we walk away for peace sake. I am confused but on the other hand finding my peace of mind since the seperation.Abeg who has been through a divorce and how did they overcome with a child or children?.Please dont cuss me out.
ReplyDeleteWhere u a weekend wife? Y r u living in different countries with kids?/kid?
DeleteY not pray n work it out? U guys shd stay together in same country if it's possible, wsh u well in the decision u take
Delete@ poster 2...kai, I've exhausted my brain responding to poster 1.
ReplyDeleteHowever...little word of advice, don't assume you and a man have mutual feelings until he says it, and repeatedly too( not just flimsily oooo) to avoid stories that touch...I've heard this from hubby and even male friends and siblings.
Biko nne don't go and start planning wedding when the guy just sees u as a friend...ofcourse u must not marry every man u fancy.
Yes, u guys could end up together, or he could even be the one to connect you to your future hubby based on how u package urself ! (that was my own experience) ...don't mess up yourself with him...think of the future.
Am out!
NB: i'l be getting my blog id soon and will be commenting as sherikoko, lol.
Hmmm poster 1. Tell him ur age my dear, but what I will not advice u to do is under rating him bcs he's younger, men has ego, to me age is nothing in marriage, bt before then watch how serious he is oo. Poster 2. U have a problem, ur problem is that u need it to happen as soon as possible. Relax ur mind first, its a psychological problem, once u re not relaxing ur mind it will take time, again stop thinking of adoption for now dear, u are too young for that. Learn to trust God. Good luck to u.
ReplyDeleteMay God rememmber u in Jesus name.
ReplyDeleteAmen
poster 2: I had the same fertility problem,just four month after my weeding and no conception in laws were on my neck,I took clomid for two cycle nothing happen, then I went to see anoother doc who puts me on prolactin" drugs to suppress my breast according to him( I have excess breast milk,that was hindering or delaying my ovulation) that also I did'nt get preg until I this drug myself it is called "fertility blend" its 90 capsules u will take 3 daily for 1 month. to God be the glory I conceived the following month. I now have a 5 month old baby boy. poster above all prayer is the key, pray like never before. wish u goodluck
ReplyDeleteAnon 15:29Please can I get this fertility blend here in France? Answer please
DeleteAnony order online or ask around in France
DeleteN1, are you sure it is only 4 years age difference? I ask because i feel 4 years is not a big deal, again it is not as if he wants to marry you. Some of you are too desperate!
ReplyDeletePoster 1: pls go ahead and tell him..its no biggie
ReplyDeletehi Stella, the famous Gossip Queeen, this is my first time of commenting here , i just want to say that you are a rare gem , even with your Akproko you have made your blog visitors come together like a family . i really like that about you . Keep it up and God bless your hussle .. am also a blogger ,still building up on mine .. will like to be like you one day .
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile for the lady who is older than her BF, my dear it is better you tell him your age and watch carefully to see his reaction , if he would stay he would stay and if he wont stay let him go , somebody better will come your way , where is your faith Girlfriend .... It might take a while but surely we all would settle down one day .. Just pray about it and tell him .. all the best .
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Poster 1, Age to me doesn't really matter in a relationship, so long the love is there, there's absolutely nothing to worry your head about but do not hesitate to tell him your real age that is if you are sure he's into you cause from what you narrated up there you guys are just getting to like each other...Poster2, patience is all you need and because you have had an abortion before is the cause of your delay in conceiving. Pray& be patient.
ReplyDeleteGod I just feel like dieing, why me? Why did this blood show up this month again? I want to carry my own baby but PCOS won't Let me.why me?I hard sex all through December I did all styles, raised my leg up after sex, relax for 1hour after sex before getting up, still this blood decide To show up after 4 months without it. I was having all the pregnancy sign this January and I said to myself that miracle is about to happen in my life. I pity my hubby, each time he want to release he scream and say baby this is twins receive it (his friend advice him to always say that each time he wants to release that it helps). After he saw me crying inside the bathroom last night, his words was -so everything we did last month is all waste? Baby what's wrong) God please help us please.... Blogvisitors you all should please help me beg PCOS to leave my life, PCOS has destroy me,my skin colour is now coke and fanta, dark spot all over my face, and my boobs are now getting smaller still PCOS doesn't want me to carry my baby. You all should please pray for me am currently on 10 days dry fasting. I need prayer The thing now is everybody I know are either pregnant or just put to bed, GOD please blessssssssssssssssed me I need this child oh lord, I don't want to be a barren, do a miracle in my life oh lord. Stella am dieing, blog visitors am dieing, am dieing am dieing am dieing. All I need is a child oh God I don't know if someone here understand my pains.
ReplyDeleteSTELLA why are you not posting my comment? You don't know where the comments might help me.please I beg you in the name of God post
My dear chill..wen numerous pple dey get unwanted pregies and mad women..it will happen..God is not dead!
DeleteMy dear.. pcos doesnt mean u cannot have children. It also doesnt mean u hve to fold ur hands awaiting a miracle.... have u been on any medications like clomid and metformin..or even fertile aid...google is ur friend..many women have pcos and still concieve ur case wouldnt be different...I do have pcos diagnosed since 2010 ,I am yet to.be married bt then I hVe stuffed myself with all knowledge on what to do pending when im ready to take in....
DeletePls dear, first things first, stop professing death with your tongue. The power of life and death and are in the tongue. You won't die, you will live to testify to God's goodness in your life. Wait on the lord. From ur narration, you aren't been firm, your faith is wavering. God's ways are not our ways, neither are His thoughts, you have to let go and let Him. Believe that as you have asked, you will receive. Believe that His timing is perfect. Thank Him. Keep praising him even though u can't actually see, believe your miracle is on the way. Trust God please. Trust God please. PCO is nothing compared to the name of Jesus. Then master Healer! It is well. Be comforted dear.
DeleteSo sorry u r going through this, read in how ppl got pregnant with pcos success stories on Google, my friend got pregnant with pcos
DeleteStop acting like the world is about to come to an end. When your husband married you, he didn't marry you so you can be manufacturing children for him, he did because I believed he wanted you to spend the rest of your lives together. What he said about everything you did this month being wasteful was not very nice. You are not God! In His own time, he makes things happen. Being to anxious or worried distorts your body balance, try and relax and eventually something would give. I am in my late 30s yet to have a child of my own with my husband in his 40s but I believe God doesn't sleep.
DeleteTry systemic enzymes like Wobenzym N or serrapeptase. These things work and with prayers, nothing is impossible
Eyaaaa...
DeleteIt is well...
Good talk
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ReplyDeletePoster 2,, Chill, God is not man, he does his things at his own time. When I was 1yr in my marriage, I started panicking, but when God opened the door for me, it was more than I bargained for.
ReplyDeleteToday am a proud mum to 5 handsome boys...... Am currently on family planning cos I no want again lol.....Relax and keep praying, the God that did it for me will definitely do yours only if you believe.....SHALOM
My dear Poster 2,
ReplyDeleteYour Husband has poor sperm motility and that shouldn't be a problem if oit wasn't for the backwardness of health care in Nigeria. Put it this way, his boys are not good swimmers!! It doesn't mean if they get to the goalpost, they won't score, its getting there that is wahala. A simple procedure like ICSI (Intracytoplasmic Sperm Injection) where the sperm cells are injected into your Egg cytoplasm would adequately sort the problem out. What can you do if you're in Nigeria...?? If you ask me, na who I wan ask..??
Resident Blog Physician
N:B Sterra no vex I've been away and since plenty Trado-medical people dey here dey give advice, I just calm myself
Poster 2, my heart goes out to you. It is well with you.
ReplyDeleteI think its too early to start thinking about adoption. You are just about a year old in marriage and you have started medications too,so i think you should just give you and hubby some time at least for the medications to run its full course....
You also said your period is late by one day now....and you have done pregnancy test and its negative. My dear,you are too anxious and seriously,u dont need it. If you did a urine pregnancy test with a strip, you may not get a correct result now because it's still too early. But if you cant wait a little more, then i advise you go for the blood pregnancy test and I pray u get your desired result. it is well!!!
Poster 2: You are already assuming things ooo and if eventually it does not happen that way,,you will say you are heart broken. I advice you tell the guy ur age,if he wants to stay, he will. I wish you well!!!
BV1 please just tell him the truth about your age. Some men actually like dating older women. If he likes you I don't think he would mind about the age difference. BV2. From speaking with friend who are waiting for the fruit of the womb, I have found that worry and stress actually adds to the problem of not conceiving. Like they told you, I think its too early to worry. Just relax and both continue with the treatment. When the time is right you will come back to give us your testimony
ReplyDeletePoster 2,why not try bitter leaf & scent leaf,from experience it helps.You & your hubby should read psalms , pray & drink the extract.May God heal you.For more info contact ... Poster1,God is still d ultimate,his time is the best.Tell him your age & have it at the back of your mind before telling him that if( is no go,was will go).Udo diri unu.
ReplyDeleteStellz, sluggish sperm is the one that treks instead of entering sports car. It is the one that swims instead of using speedboat.
ReplyDeleteHave u heard? It is the one that draws like okra soup instead of entering sharp sharp like beneseed soup.
Anyway, adoption isn't bad. But I think you're a worrier! Yes, like most women. Let the doctor watch your husbands consition first ok?
Pls, let us stop making adoption look like an option only for infertile couples. My mum had 5 kids back-to-back and still adopted one. Adoption is a charitable gesture and ur own little contribution to the motherless children. It should be encouraged. Because I have seen that it brings blessings, from my own household.
Poster 1, why don't u tell him ur age and DATE first? You sound forward.
Please tell him your age. If he loves you and is not bothered by the age difference, he will stay.
ReplyDeleteSorry sweetheart, you shall conceive in God's own time. Just be a little more patient. It will happen.
Poster 1, hv faith in God, He wil surely do it @ d right time. Hv u considered d fact dat some ladies older than u ar stil single? Let him knw ur age now dat d rlationship is stil fresh n watch d outkom. Poster 2 wia z ur faith? jx one year n u ar lke dis, wat of couples dat hv stayd 4 yrs n dia z no issue? Dnt jx loose hope cus ur miracle z on d way.
ReplyDeleteThe sooner you let him know the better. Seriously though age is just a number. Don't be scared or shy.its all in the mind. P2, enjoy your marriage, it's new, fresh. I know as a woman we always worry, be patient and keep taking the medication and also your hubby. You will be fine. You can always adopt a child if need be.
ReplyDeletePoster 1,Tell him if he truely loves you he wil go no where I know alot of guys who married a lady older than them and still goin strong.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,Sluggish/5%? Ok o.Keep keeping faith your baby will come.PLS !!!IF YOUR HUBBY DRINKS ALCOHOL LET HIM STOP NOW.TELL HIM TO TAKE ZINC TAB ONE DAILY AND TAKE ALOT OF FRUITS AND VEGETABLE THESE ARE POWERFUL SPERM BOOSTERS HONESTLY......ALSO LET HIM DECREASE D AMOUNT OF TIME U GUYS HAVE SEX DRASTICALY FOR D NEXT 3 MONTHS...E.G SEX ONCE OR TWICE IN A MONTH DIS WILL PRESERVE YOUR SPERM AND MAKE IT STRONGER TO MOVE FAR LET HIM KEEP DOWN THERE COLD ALL D TIME TOO.Good luck.
@Sweet Mother- its always very tough in Lagos. But other states have it easy. SO u can go outside Lagos, Abuja, Port hacourt.
ReplyDeleteThen, try check ur village or husbands village. There would be a homeless child roaming the streets, whose mother is dead or lives with a grandmother or a distant relative who is lookimg for who to fling him/her to. Like my granny has one who keeps her company and goes to school. She is an orphan in the village, and d day granny passes on, we will have to adopt her.
This law firm Elvira Salleras and Associates, also assist with adoption. You can google for more info.
Kudos to you and oga! God bless your good hearts.
hmmm. Let me just read comments
ReplyDeletePoster 1: God created you beautiful. Before you were born he knew you through and through so why are you throwing away your self worth? You just met this guy, you don't know him well and your head is up in the clouds already. Snap out of it!! You deserve the best, wait for your man! Be honest in your relationships, your man will love you warts and all trust me. Men also love women with confidence and can sense a desperado instantly. Look up to your creator, be holy so that you can hold Him to his word.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 n ttc ladies: God loves you I hope you know. Hope you know that their is the right time for everything under the sun? I too passed through that stage and am still passing through it cos I want a baby girl and nothing has happened yet but I know that it isn't the right time yet. When my time comes, it will be beautiful. Don't let guilt consume you. Have you confessed to God? Are you sorry for your past sins? Then hang in there. Do not allow devil to drag you to the past. When God forgives, He does so completely. He isn't man that will keep trying to blackmail you with your past sins.
Stop the clomid, loss weight, google Fertilaid (Man/Woman) am on it too. Remember child or no child, God should be honoured and worshipped. Take care, people.
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#1, Tell him and watch his reaction by reading his body language rather than listening to his voice which might say it does not matter, that age is just a number because, some will say so just to follow popular saying but deep down in them, it does matter, and will use it to cuss you whenever you quarrel. Are celebrities not cussed out in the media because they are older than their spouse? Follow your instinct, if you are not comfortable with it, let go now before you get committed in the relationship.
ReplyDeleteBest of luck.
Nitty.
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poster1 pls take it easy!you are like a friend of mine who see a husband in anyone she dates within a matter of days.take it slow,tell him your age and take it from there.age is just a number.poster 2..a year is kinda too early to fret.relax and make sure your husband takes his drugs.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: keep praying and God will sort it out. I have one working fallopian tube and a husband with low sperm motility. We have two beautiful kids. No clomid, no IVF just the grace of God. Make sure you stay healthy, eat well, exercise, pray and let God do the rest.
ReplyDeletePoster1, try dating an older man, surely u get dem bt u feel dier 2 old, God's tym is d best anyway. P2, since it's sluggish den hang 4 Sumtym b4 getting up after sex so it can enter wella. God wil give u ur own IJN. Amen. *church* wil b bck 2. Read comments. Out.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous 15:43 that feels like dieing becos her monthly visitor has showed up. I think you should do an email to Stella. If you are Lagos based, go to NORDICA OR BRIDGE clinic. They have the highest recorded successful IVF cases in Nigeria
ReplyDeletePoster 1.jez tell him ur age.a guy that lovs u wnt care about al dat.n if u knw deep down u , u wnt b able to respect cos he is younga den let him go derz no point cos dis lov we r talkg about. ..wen d chips r down wil u treat him as ur hubby or ur security man/messenger. Ma dear do wat is in ur mind n dnt b mislead so u wnt come here postg a mistake u made thru advice.im nt sayg advice is bad but b careful.
ReplyDeletePoster 2.u shud b enjoyg urselves n stop worrying.push d tots aside ofcos def dey wil come buh enjoy urself b4 u know it miracle wil just happen n u take in.dnt loose hope ur case is nt dat abeg o.take gud care of urself anyway.
This is the problem with Africans...sufferhead mentality...what's wrong with giving up a baby for adoption? Many families have bn compltd thru that process. IMHO, its not a big deal...if u travel overseas, u wil c that many pepl do it, instead of suffering wit the child. Its not a sin, but that's my opinion...make all des frustrated old ladies here no pounce on me ooo
ReplyDeleteSister, pls worry not cos God is still in d business of performing miracles. Have u considered ivf n BTW wot is Pcos?
ReplyDelete@Anon 17:51,am in your shoes. I pray that God who did yours will surely do mine too in this year.Can't wait to experience what motherhood is all about.
ReplyDeleteIf a man likes you, he will let you know, age aint nothing but a number. Tell him your age and do not be desperate.
ReplyDeleteDo you prefer to be married and miserable or be true to yourself??
Poster 1, I will advice you to tell him your real age, I have 2 family friends who got married to ladies who are older than them with 2 beautiful kids each. Just slow things down and don't get your hopes up. Poster 2, calm down, all in good time. Doctors will only prescribe drugs and advice due to what they know, think, heard or observed. Let go and let God have his way. You will testify soon IJN.
ReplyDelete@ Jenny A the root of the cause is Love. Looking for that void to be filled in the wrong place.
ReplyDeleteI pray the Love of Christ fills all these ladies and they know they are loved and know their worth.
Peace and Love.
@sally r u minding her (mamie) am sure she ws conceive outta such "adultery" dts y she needs sum1 dt came tro such no wonder she s advicin Mrs lazy sperm 2 go n do! Ma dear wait until u marry den go meet ur EX 2 hv ur 1st child
ReplyDeletePoster1 if u think u really love d guy like crazy give am football age, but telling him d truth n giving less age will not keep him, u need to have a serious prayer near God in service he will choose a life partner for u. Poster 1 u still have time to wait ur marriage is still fresh for u to be worried,adopting is ok but takes long procedure wit that time of waiting ur hubby sperm can still be corrected.
ReplyDeletePoster get him fertilaid from Amazon, it works wonders with prayers
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