Chronicles Of Blog Visitor Narratives On Friday!

A mothers love is the best thing that can happen to any child!

A mothers hatred....?dont go there!

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
WHEN A MOTHER HATES HER CHILD AND CURSES....

Happy New Year, Stella. I wish you a great 2015 filled with all that will add to your life.

I really think my mother hates me!Well...Let me tell you why. From when I was young,10 yrs (I was still innocent and a virgin) my mother has always cursed my life, wishing me to catch Aids and die. She used to beat me and tell my step father how she wishes she can find a way and get rid of me.

As time went by, my siblings were getting older, I remember them messing up the house and calling me a housemaid while laughing and messing up the house and whenever I got upset and discplined them my mother would tell my siblings to beat me back. M siblings used to fight with me because my mother gave them the go ahead. I am 15 years older than my siblings. I remember having friends over and my mom talking down to me and telling my friends that I will never amount to anything that my friends will grow up to succeed and I will always be at the bottom. When I used to ask her for transportation money to go to school she used to tell me to go to my father's grave and ask him or I should go look for a man.

It was really hard for me to focus in school because I was always tired due to doing house chores and babysitting my siblings, my mother never gave me time to rest once I got home all I did was clean,as in clean every hour,pick up after my siblings mess. And I used to get up early in the morning and get the kids ready for school and drop them before going to school . Because of that I started dating hoping to find love else where and this really messed up my head because I ended up meeting the wrong friends and even boyfriend, this left me confused,distracted,sad,lonely and very unhappy.

I remember my mom waking me up 4 in the morning to do dishes,sometimes she will come and throw garbage on my bed while I am sleeping. I can never forget this one day, I can't remember what I exactly did but I do know it was nothing serious but she started beating me so hard and her friend was there a male, he was pleading with her to stop hitting me but she kept going until he got up and stopped her. I remember after that she started speaking in our native language, saying to me ' you want my friend,you want him eeh,he can't never want you.' Stella, until today...I am still asking myself why did she say that?

This other time, I was showing her my dream engagement ring and she told me that "no man will come near me that I won't have any man come to marry me.'

Is this normal?

Everywhere my mom goes,she speaks ill about me. She sits down with people who I used to be friends with and discusses my life. She says hi to my enemies.

Now that I am much older she tries to treat me nicer but still talks ill about me to others. Because of these I have grown up to have really low self esteem and it has affected me. I always start projects and quit half way. A pastor was praying for me and said my mom has contributed to a lot of the problems I am facing in life.

I am so unhappy, I keep to myself and cry, I  just don't understand how a mother can be this evil. She has done so much to me that I cannot even begin to write here it will take forever.

 I need advice on what to do about this situation,I recently decided to stop talking to my mother and siblings because they really make me feel like an out-cast.

Please don't insult me, it took me a lot of courage to open up about this issue that has been eating me alive, just give me your honest advice on what I should do.

Everytime I want to do something meaningful with my life i think of her voice telling me' you will never amount to anything.'

Thank you all, God bless.

JESUS!....I dont know what to say but i pray you find healing..you are strong,please stand up and face the sun,the future is so bright.stay away from negative people (your mum inclusive) until you can build back your self esteem.

...........................................................................................................

NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

WALK AWAY OR STAY

Happy new year stella and all  the  BVs, I am a single mother to the most precious treasure. When I was in university, I had a relationship with my ex for 6 years till I graduated, served and we're both relocated abroad, before we traveled he asks my hand in marriage from my father. 

We had a smooth relationship, until we got here,he just started behaving funny. I later discovered that he got engaged to another girl when we're in Nigeria, his excuse? I never got pregnant since we've been together. I walked out of the relationship. since then I felt depressed. I had another bad relationship before I knew I was pregnant i was far gone. 

Though I am a single mom, I am so content with the Lord's treasure. I ran to my ex last month and he looked so bad, he got divorced, had an accident that left him in a bad shape. I felt so sad for him. Despite what happened , he did a lot for me when I was in Nigeria then. I still have feelings for him. He asked me for a second chance,  should I give him or walk away?

Why do you want to date out of pity?everyone deserves a second chance at love but do not behave like a dog by going back to your vomit! -WALK!