''Who's there?''
''me''
''me who?''
''meowwwww''
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
STANDING AT A CROSS ROAD
Good Day Stella,
I have been an ardent follower of your blog but do comment with anonymous, i love what you are doing keep it up. Please i want Bv to give me advice on this issues bothering me for a while.
I have an Australian visa for 3years and due to go by next month and my fiancee is happier but on the second hand she is saying that 3years is much away from her. I am 30yrs and she is 28years. Currently, i have the sum of 800,000 which is suppose to be for my flight and little reserve for my feedings.(Its not a student visa)
My fiancee is advising that with the 800,000 I can start up something here in Nigeria and watch it grow, her mood is usually down each time my travel issues comes up. She said i am going to forget her if i travel and that i will marry a white woman. As it stands now she already weakened my emotions.
I am confused.
Please anyone who has been there before should advise me.
Well will you blame her?that is what most Nigerian men do..They relocate and find out that the grass is not so green except they make certain moves.Most of them end up hurting the love they left behind because they are faced with marrying for papers and aiming for a better life or facing deportation.
N800k? I dont know about that but be a man and make any move that you have to........make a choice and leave that cross road!
pick a struggle..lol
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
FAIR WEATHER MUM.
Hello Stella,
Happy New Year to you.
Please I would appreciate if you post this on your blog for me cus I'm really depressed.
I'm a mom,with a fiance,We have a son,we're both jobless,at least for now cus I still have faith and trust in God.
My fiance's dad is not doing well over there in Asia,in fact the family barely feeds,and fiance is a graduate, he hustles but nothing comes out of it,he feeds from hand to mouth and thanks God for even garri he sips.
Now my problem is this,since my fiance cannot provide for I and the baby, so I live with my mom, although she's been helpful and I'm really thankful that no matter what,no matter how blessed I'll be tomorrow,I can never repay her back.
But stella,if my mom buys a pin for my baby or does anything for us,trust me,the whole "world" would know that she has something for us. I know I'm wrong for getting pregnant to a broke guy without marriage,but I'm human too,meant to err,and I have a future.
My mom nags at me and she's only friendly with me if boo brings like 2k from his ogoja hustle or his dad manages to send us anything,and she ends up taking everything and if I pinch anything out of it,the whole world go gather settle matter and I'll just be there sobbing my life out.
What happened today was worse,I was expecting a job I was promised,someone I was expecting it with told me he's being called,when I told my mom last night about it,she was petting me and praying for me. So this early morning I sent an email to the GM reminding him of me,and he told me there's nowhere to fix me for now. I told my mom and then her tome changed,she started again with curse's,then she lost her atm card from her village trip,and averted then anger on me,raised curse's on me,and told me that death is better off than having me as a child.
She does this over and over again,and when I'm sober,she rains worse curse's on me like calling me evil incarnate. She does this that most times I wish for death,like am I that bad? Am I the first? She also had a baby out of wedlock survived it,so why's mine up to this extent? That she only likes me when things seem ok.
I did wrong and admit it,I'm trying to make it up,it not like I can easily run away else that'll be the best for me to do,wishing for death is even worse cos I might go to hell for my sins. I'm really confused.
*whaaaaaat!
Stay strong sweetie.
Poster 1...Invest wisely
ReplyDeletePoster 2...I never read your post self* scrolls up to read*
Poster one say the truth, you no go marry oyibo there before? Which job you wan go do there?
DeleteMtcheew
DeleteU were rushing to comment first.
Childishness.
@poster1; personally i wont blame the young lady cos thats what happens to most people when they get abroad..but you as an individual need to make your own choices and for once follow your instincts..
DeletePersonally for me i believe in life and i believe in love too..more to that;i also believe in taking decisions without having a misplaced priority between love and life...
Why am i saying this;as a human,you can see things and their outcome even before they materialize..look at yourself,you know your capabilities and what you can do,you ve been in Nigeria soo you can easily finalize if that 800k would bring back profit if invested in Nigeria or more profit abroad..
Now if you know trully that you love this lady and that you will make it when you travel for this three years and still come back for her;then go ahead and travel and still keep contacts with her..if she goes for someone else before you are back;them let life continue..
One thing you have to realize in life is that your loved ones will not always be there for you..soo i dont see the reason you have to stay with her in Nigeria(because of love sake) whilst you can do better while abroad(depending on what you have in mind) and finally still come back for this young lady...
Love is good but dont think your survival on earth depends on love..
#all the best to you and please you must not stick to my advice cos personally am *team hustling* and not a "lovey Dovey" kind of person tho..**cheers** #but love is good ooo
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Gist2: mouth agape
DeleteLike I can't cast blame on you because you already know how wrong you were. First of all because your mum had a kid outside wedlock and survived it doesn't mean you should have followed her footsteps. Am sure she is dissapointed you did hence the abuses and curses. She is wrong for doing that. What you should do now is intensify your job search times 1000 yes oh..u can't ( broke and be with a broke guy. It leads to frustration and self hate.
Biko let your child grow in a happy environment. Hustle like there is no tomoro. Stop waiting for fiance's father to send money down for u...ish
Dats so irritating.
Biko how do poor people end up repeating the same mistakes their parents did?
Gist1: go to Australia but bear it in mind your babe won't wait for you for 3years. Not at age 28. If she is sharp enough she will start casting her net wide immediately u board the plane.
I won't advise you to stay here and invest 800k because if u were business inclined you would have done that instead of seeking greener pastures overseas.
May the Lord go with you and may u prosper there.
Ise
Poster one. Its Normal for her to feel that way. When you go there stay away from illegal dealings. come worst do factory jobs. Must you marry Oyibo? Since you have a Visa. Before it expires you return and renew it.
DeleteLike that till you get your Stay.
Don't forget your Babes. Invest wisely too when you are there, Send goods to Naija so business will be rolling in Naija for you.
Endure the Hustle, Cold etc to become a better person.
Poster 2. God is your Muscle. Continue to pray for Your Mummy eventually She will Change and be a better Mother. Also hustle hard to get a better job so the Abuses will reduce, at times its frustrating seeing one's Child preggy out of Wedlock its never encouraging plus Poverty but still continue to pray for a better Tomorrow. Its not how far but How well
Poster 1, do wat u tink itz best 4 un bt I tink u'l survive better outside dis country, Australia has so much opportunities, meanwhile, hw did u get a visa der nt bin student? I really wuld love 2 no. P2 ur case is d same of my best fwnd, ur own dey learn sef, ur mum is jsty frustrated, itz painful wen u put ur effort in2 sumtin n it doesn't work, dats her pain, jst endure wit her n pray, it'l get better. Wasn't able 2 cum online yesterday, I missed sdk, I love dis blog
DeleteC'est normale pour a tous
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DeletePoster #1. Are you going to make it if you go to Australia? Ask Goldscent and JayEm. Are you gonna forget about her when you get there? I also suggest you ask JayEm.
Are you gonna make it in Nigeria if you refuse to buy that flight tkt ? Bro ask yourself. 1 thing for sure, there is a Fat rich white woman waiting for you at the other side. Ask JayEm.
Don davido respect yr old age.d othr time it was xoxo,now u ar dragging jayem and gold scent into ur nonsense .we go sn treat ur fuckup
DeleteC'est normale pour a tous
ReplyDeletetranslate and transfer
DeleteWaitin for d translation
Delete@poster2,u need to get busy. Ur money in ur pocket is ur respect
DeleteIt means" it's normal for everyone" Thank me later.
DeleteCorrection c'est normale pour tous.... there's no "a" before tous
Deleteposter 2-it MAYBE that your mum is overwhelmed by the frustrations of taking care of extra bills (you and your baby). she may have hoped that by this time you will be the one taking care of her but since its not the case....she is an angry
ReplyDeleteposter 1. hmnnnnn...most guys who hustle to get outta Nigeria end up marrying a white woman for papers and on the long run forget about the lover left behind.
so don't blame her. prove yourself!
Exactly it's frustration that is making ur mum behave like that,she's wishing u were better and can take care of urself,pray and put more effort in getting a job,likewise ur fiancé, even if it's a small business from home just start something,this is why handwork is good,it would help wen there's no office job,if it's plaiting hair,bakery or any small skill to support yourself just try,ur mum isn't d first to behave like that,some parents get frustrated wen they take care of u instead of u taking career of them and immediately u give them some money,their mood lightens up. Poster1, I tink u shd travel,wen u get there hussle money so she can come tru student visa or she can visit u,just get a job wen u get there,800k isn't big money as such my dear compared to going to Australia
DeleteMy sentiments exactly.
DeletePoster 1's mother in all her life never expected her child to make the same mistake she did. Probably getting pregnant for a poor man. Why will you even date a poor/jobless guy in the first place? When we all know these niggas ain't loyal?
@ Bianca Bruno ur comment made me laff. Dating a poor/ jobless Guy. and still won't be Loyal. Show me a Loyal Guy and I will tell you his a Broke Ass. Broke Ass Guys are the most loyal Niggas. kikikikikhahahahahakakakaka
DeleteBiko...is it possible to keep a jobless guy and call him your fiance??
Delete@sassy chick, thesame thing i asked o!.is it possible to keep a jobless girl and call her your fiancee??.
DeleteBroke ass guys r ova loyal o...buh wen dey mk it, na anoda tori b dat. hehehehe
DeleteDaniel.. the thing tire me.. both of us cannot be jobless at the SAme time.. mbanu
DeletePOSteR 1: HAPPENINGS IN THE WORLD HAS MADE IT CLEAR THAT GUYS WHO GO OVERSEAS TEND TO GET MISTRRSSES AND FORGET THE ONES THEY ONES THEY LEFT BEHIND.
ReplyDeleteHuman beings are subject to change and u dont really expect ur 28 years old GF to be getting any younger. The ball is virtually in ur court. The decision u make is paramount at this time.
Make sure to be wise.
ELEYI GIDI GAN (this wan strong oo)
#I SEE DEAD PEOPLE...
Abeg no vex o, why are you constantly seeing dead people. Na cemetery you de stay. No cuss me o, I first beg u.
DeleteMe sef dey wonder ooo, Shey Ko si? (hope nothing)
Delete*She is angry.
ReplyDeleteremove 'an'
#1 please,buy ur ticket n leave...don't let any1 hold u down cos of her own selfish interest....am talking from experience..pls go asap,if God says u'l marry her den u will,if not,goodluck to d 2 of u but don't make d mistake of setting up a bizness wit dat 800k...abeg
DeleteI agree with you on this one bitchplis. There is no garantee that you will marry if you stay back and I bet you that if you stay solely bcos of her and invest the 800k and d biz flops you will for ever blame her for letting you miSs travelling to try for a better Life.
DeleteOga abeg go to aussie n snatch jayem from her oyinbo boo jare
Deletebuhahahahahaha
DeleteLol.i agree with bitchplis. I think you should go, but as a woman I also think you should be fair to her. Don't tie her down. U guys shud agree that if no show she is free to take a walk...if she's smart sha she go waka once u don reach one year. women can be so desperate sha.
DeleteHahahhahahaha with money he wan take snatch Jayem he dive rock
DeletePoster 2,
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry but you have to put up with your mum or stay far away from her.
Your choice.
Poster 1,
I don't know what to say honestly.
I understand how your girl feels. It's your duty to reassure her.
Always be honest and good to her, she loves you.
All the best in all you do.
Poster 1.. Please go to Australia dont ever let your destiny be dwarfed by your fellow human being.. if it doesnt work you have the option of coming back to naija after 3 years..but if you start a business in naija and it doesnt work will you easily get a visa again.. You did not come to this world joined with any woman.. if you marry a white woman she can also go ahead and marry a black man.. Long distance relationships are difficult to maintain so dont swear by ur ancestors that you will wait for her.. If you are meant for each other it will happen.. if not then its not such a big deal..
DeletePoster 2.. Instead of crying and trying to apologise for your mistake use ur tears to beg God for a means of livelihood.. Your mother is just frustrated at the extra expense you are putting her into.. So dont blame her too much.. get up and find anything doing it mustnt be an office job.. have u tried teaching? Make sure you dont gbensh your baby daddy(fiance ko) again without protection i beg you.. Be strong dear.. it will pass..
Poster 1: Only if you know within your heart that u won't find love over there, if not let her go, she is 28, she can start with another man, 3years is a long time to hold on for one man that would inturn say I had to marry because of papers or deportation and I want a better life than the one I had in Nigeria. 800k can start sometin but what's the something?
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Mothers don't want to see their children make the same mistake they did after they tried to led them right!! U just have to be patient with her and pray God elevates you!! Atleast she buys something for your baby, some would not even care if you and ur baby have eaten. Patience is all you need and prayers.
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DeleteExactly she has to b patient with her mum,most parents will behave lik this
DeleteUr soo right
Deleteyou couldn't have said it better
DeleteGbam!
DeleteN1, what exactly do you plan to do in Australia? Do you have a good job waiting for you? If not then think of what to do with that money in Nigeria. The problem i have with that country called Nigeria is the insecurity and light other than that it is easier to make money in Nigeria ( that is where i make mine even though i am based in Europe ). N2, your mum should stop cursing you it is bad for a mother to curse her child.
ReplyDelete"With that country called Nigeria " SMH! Frigging second class citizen!
DeletePick a struggle....Lol
ReplyDelete..
.see kemmit as well... Lol
Abeg make I siddon read comment
@Galore
join you jare
DeleteNo oh
DeleteDon't sit and wait for comments.
If we all do that what will we read?
And poster come and reply us oh..i love it when you guys do that
:p
It shows we are addressing real people
hmmmm.... let me sit dis one out and Wait for comments....
ReplyDelete#2: My heart breaks for you, sweetheart. Sometimes life happens and the very core of your existence becomes threatened. At times like these, it helps to count your blessings. Regardless of the hostility, you still have a roof over your head. You aren't homeless or sleeping under the bridge. You have a mother who has good days and bad days, some don't have mothers anymore. You don't have to shuttle between homes of friends whom may end up rubbing it in your face that you're a liability to them or start giving you attitude and dropping hints that you have overstayed your welcome. I don't know about you but I'll rather have my mum throw shades at me than some friend or the other. You have a baby, a healthy one. If you knew what some women go through just to have a baby of theirs, you'll be amazed! I'm in no way endorsing having a baby before marriage but what's done is done, time to cope with the outcome of your choices. You have hope of employment sooner or later, some people don't. You have a man by your side who tries to support you and your baby with the little he has, what will you have done if he abandoned both of you or even denied paternity? I could go on and on.
DeleteAs for your mother, it's possible she sees herself in you and she's transferring her self-loath to you. I'm guessing she regretted the choices she made and seeing you do something similar makes her feel like history is repeating itself. She might not realise her anger at you is actually her anger at herself. That's why she gets excited when it seems things are about to get better for you. Perhaps, she feels relieved that you wouldn't end up like her but the relief turns to disdain when you don't get what she hoped for. So in her mind, she's back to square 1!
As for those hurtful words, she probably is the type to keep mouthing away when angry, and anger brings out the worst in people. Wrong words are often thrown around with reckless abandon. My darling, if your mum was serious about some of the horrible words she threw at you, do you really think she will allow you stay with her? Some mothers will kick you out and tell you to go stay with your guy. No mother would be happy to see her unmarried daughter return back home with a baby sired by a man who is yet to find his feet.
Maybe you should have a heart to heart with your mum and remind her how much you love her and need her support for the time being. Reassure her that things will get better and you need her to keeping praying for you. I'm sure you'll see positive changes. Don't act like she is supposed to support you rather act like you are privileged to have her support. Sometimes, reverse psychology works like magic. All the best, honey.
#e-bearhugs.
Dats a good one
DeleteExactly, as far as am concerned her mum is nice, if it were some other women they will throw u out, the woman is frustrated that she's carrying a bit of ur burden, ur case is just like a girl without papers abroad going to date an illegal migrant, how will she get papers? U know u dnt have why date someone who dsnt have too? Ur best bet is to be patient with ur mother cod d deed has been done already so Icnt blame u cos we all mk mistake
DeleteCome come Poster 2. Lemme Give u a Side Hug *im a guy*
ReplyDeletesorry for d mistake u made. One day God will bless u and ur Omata B.F..
Ur mom is getting old and trust me as age goes by her self control diminishes. So take it upon urself to learn how not to talk back.
Psychological a Quite Mind is a Strong Mind. When yoh Quite she will eventually get bored of the whole isssh. Trust Me ur mom is special...
#I SEE DEAD PEOPLE....
Is your last paragraph written in codes?????????? I can't call this one auto correct....
DeleteDnt mind d attn seeker.
DeleteCome come Poster 2. Lemme Give u a Side Hug *im a guy*
ReplyDeletesorry for d mistake u made. One day God will bless u and ur Omata B.F..
Ur mom is getting old and trust me as age goes by her self control diminishes. So take it upon urself to learn how not to talk back.
Psychological a Quite Mind is a Strong Mind. When yoh Quite she will eventually get bored of the whole isssh. Trust Me ur mom is special...
#I SEE DEAD PEOPLE....
Obviously this dead people ure seeing is affecting ur grammar. Its quiet not quite. N try add 'y' 4 d psychological. Poster 1: don't think 4 a moment that guys who go over there n marry white had plans 2 do so, Na d situation dem find themselves in on arrival cos am. I know naija is bad but if ure ain't ready 2 eat shit n make worse decisions when u get there u better sit ur ass down N invest wisely.
DeletePoster 2: Ur mum is bitter n I don't blame her. Most women hate to c thier children make same mistake they made, she expected more from u n u disappointed her. She loves u no doubt and she's struggling within herself 2 bring out d mother in her especially when she sees a little light coming ur way. Where I blame her n wish 2 cain her bum is laying curses on u, how on earth does she think ull progress when all she does is curse. My advice, brave up n wake her up in d night, go on ur knees n beg her 2 4give ur mistake, tlk 2 her about ur pain n finally assure her that ull do ur very best 2 make her smile. Maybe just maybe she ll change her attitude towards u. #myopinion#
Tessbaby u ar funny
DeleteBlv m, i ll advice u to start smtun productive wt d 800k. Shes got a gud point.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: d lord is ur strength. Sorrow may last for a night bt joy comes in d morning
Everybody is saying start something. Start something.
DeleteBiko what is the something?
Nigeria na place where them dey start anything not to talk of something?
Oriegwu
God bless u Bianca. Something indeed.
DeletePoster 1 Biko travel to Australia. When you get there avoid illegal jobs. Work and send money down to Nigeria also don't forget your girlfriend. Everyone keeps saying start something. What is the "something" ehn? Just travel Oga.
DeleteNufin to strt in Nigeria wv 800k o.
DeleteSomething small na better thing? Abeg go abroad joor
DeleteJeeez....narrative no 2 left me wondering in a wonderland....J-E-S-U-S!
ReplyDeleteBLOG ANALYSER: @ 1st narr trust me it is not easy over there but God will make it easy for u in Jesus name Amen. I don't know wat plans you have for her or for the both of u. Believe me three years is a long time for a woman to wait and involves a lot of trust.What is the guarantee that u will come back nd marry her.if u won't pls discharge her now. @ second Narrative, pls bear it for now. It is a stage that wiill pass by nd things will get better. Pls don't relent in ur prayers. God will see u tru
ReplyDeletePoster 1:Three years is too long to wait for a man
ReplyDeleteI understand ur fiancee's fears
I donno what advice u expect to get buh i as i see it u must travel to Australia
On the other hand,maybe u should marry her before u travel...that's if she would agree to such plans
Somebody like me won't ooo...Niggas ain't loyal mehn!!!!
Poster 2:Try get a job Asap
Your mum feels u hv failed her that's why she treats u like that
It's such a pity u fell in love with a broke guy and got pregnant too
It's a phase which will soon pass
Be strong
smh..poster 1,if u hv plan and focus u can go but jst knw dt life over dre is nt dt easy,poster 2, hmmmm well God will see u through...hv faith and be strong.
ReplyDeletePoster1,dnt be discourage you better move to Australia!there is notin God can not do.dnt be susprice in a short while u can come back n do ur marriage or you hustle for visa let her join u......poster2 let ur man go rent house in face me i face u,you guys should move in n start a life!ur mum will respect u
ReplyDeleteFor the both stories...hmm...Lemme read. Comments
ReplyDeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteStay here in Nigeria and invest.This country is blessed but only few sees the blessings in Nigeria.
Poster 2
Is your mum related to patience ozokwor or camilia mberekpe?Why did you allow yourself to get pregnant for a guy who can barely feed?You should even thank your mum for being nice to you sometimes especially whenever things get better.I won't be nice to my daughter if after I train her,she graduates and becomes a baby mama to a guy who can't even feed her properly!I don't blame your mum,she is treating you this way so that you will get up and smell the coffee.You fucked up big time!
Biko wc reasonable bizness can one strt wv 800k in Nigeria? Mk una dey try talk wetin dey feasible o. Abeg poster 1 enter d nxt available flight to Australia o, if na oyibo u go mari to get papers mari! Trust me on a long run ur gf go frustrate u if u no get moni to throwae her syd. Btwn wt z a 28yr old doin wv a 30 year old? She no knw she go old quick pass d guy? Nawa o
DeleteExactly!! Y date someone who dsnt have,Abeg ur mama reach to vex
DeleteNo 2,
ReplyDeleteMove out and let Ur mother be!!!
She has trained U,but it's obvious she did a very shoddy job.
U devalued Urself by getting pregnant,if Ur Mum is so bad,move in with Ur mother in law.
Poor woman can't even cook her favourite meal without U chooking Ur eyes there.
U are not a nice person!!
U broke Ur mama"s heart by repeating her mistake and thus turned Ur family into that place they give birth out if wedlock.
Beg Ur mother for forgiveness and one that makes sense.
U makes excuses for Ur handicapped fiancé,father in law and none for Ur mother.
She is d one making d most sacrifice and I can bet Joy eka"s left breast that Ur fiancé is living with U because U be like person wey go like fuckufucku.
Lastly,it is well!!!
No 1,if U were my son,I will disown U.
Dump that bitch and go make Ur way.
800k is too poor for wedding and business and that woman go frustrate U if U no get money again oooo.........
How can a 30yr old marry a 28yr old???????
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DeleteExactly
Delete@ Ezenwanyi since you dey worry. Abi he should drop that bitch and she will frustrate the Nigga if he turns out to become a Broke Ass Husband. Lwmd.
Delete30 VS 28yrs = The Age is too close.
But all your points are good.
I dont understand your last part.. The question. ' How can a 30yr old marry a 28yr old???????'
DeleteEzenwanyi, biko is it a crime if that age group marries.. Elaborate pls.
Tough love baby!
DeletePoster just read these comments with the mindset that we all want the best for you,and your poor mom.
Ezenwanyi on point.i agree with everything she said.
DeleteIphie,pls dont mind that useless person from yesterday thread.
Well written
DeletePoster 1, so when 800k finishes before 3years is over, what will now happen? How do you intend to survive?
ReplyDeletePoster2, Nawa o.. Lemm just read comments on your matter first.
P1: ABEG GO ABROAD GO WORK SMALL BUT REMEMBER SAY HOME NA HOME....FROM EXP 800K NA SMALL CHANGE OO AND IT TAKES A LONG TIME FOR BIZ TO GROW WITH DIS KIND SYSTEM FOR NAIJA, ONE WOULD AV BEEN FRUSTRATED SELF!
ReplyDeleteP2: THAT UR MUM NO BE HERE.....SHE HAD BETTER CHANGE HER WAYS IF NOT THE STORY WILL REMAIN SAME FOR THE NX GENERATION(GOD FORBID IT) BUT CHEER UP AND BE STRONG
*E-HUGS
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
ReplyDelete.
ONE: i swear ur babe no want ur progress, wetin be use 800,000 do business for naija, which kind business bdat abeg.... My frnd run no look bad bcos naija nobi wetin e be again....
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TWO: sorry yu hear.....
*GLO BRING 3G TO KONTAGORA*
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
Poster one, think well and decide on what ur heart really wants. Dont let ur babe make that decision for u.If u heed her advice and the biz doesnt work out, u may hate her for life. Poster 2, all i can say is hmmmmmmm
ReplyDelete@1, take a decision fast, u either travel and forget about ur girl or stay here for love, which is more important, if u think u ve a brighter future there plz go, if u guys are meant to be it will eventually work, what guarantee do u ve that if a rich handsome guy comes tomorrow she will not dump u, bros use ur head .
ReplyDelete@2, ur mum is a wicked woman period, endure until u get a place of ur own, maybe u should remind her dat u only followed her footstep by having a child out of wedlock, like mother like daughter.
Love? Am in love na name of film, Mr man travel
DeleteIt is well with you,God will send u a helper
ReplyDeletePoster 1 I started a biz with #1m two years ago. It's projected to brin in #20m this year.
ReplyDeleteU can hustle in naija. If things dint go well for you there in love and business you will be stuck.
Poster 2. Pray. And look around harder for a job. Try and move out of your mother's house. Her bad mouth no go help u
Please which business is that ?
DeleteFill me in.
Abeg, me sef de interested.
DeleteEducate us please, there is love in sharing...
Second poster
ReplyDeleteI dislike it when mothers cuss out especially on their on blood...it is very wrong...but do you know that your momma might be frustrated? No mother wants her single daughter with a child living with her.
Depending on her age...they usually become more talkative and troublesome as they get older...just forgive her for the frequent amebos...
Always be thankful that you have a mother willing to take you in..be thankful that you have a relative willing to lay their own luxury down for you and your baby..remember these words of mine in your time of despair...it is not permanent dear...
All mothers love success stories...always help her around the house and try not to disrespect her like some "werey" daughters please...
Do not disclose the entire amount of money your hubby to be or whoever gives you..you are an adult,take what you think you might need from the money,no matter how small and give some to her...
God will visit you at your point of need.
Iphie on point.
DeleteNarrative2 its well dear some mums ar like that jst endure her until you get a job,i wish you luck
ReplyDeletePoster 2,awww baby,come here......
ReplyDeleteThis too shall Pass....
Be strong,kk?
And hold ur Head up high...
No one wil bring u down without ur consent.
Even if that person is ur mom.
Lean on God.
Make peace with ur past and watch God transform ur life...
Buh whatever,Hold no grudges against ur mom....forgive her.
Rooting for u Darling and Sending u Bear hugs
"Knock knock"
ReplyDelete"Who's there?"
"Temi"
"Temi who?"
"Temi who made it possibu...Your mama.., your papa.., your mama.., your papa.. a i..."
Lol
I actually laughed out loud
DeleteHa hahahahaha....
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Narr1) please go to ur Australia oooo if u both are meant to be then faith will bring u guys back together! Don't miss dat opportunity Australia is a very good country, u will make it there if u put ur head together. .....jst imagine if dis babe dump u tomorrow for a richer dude? Or if d business u invested on fail? Dis is naija for u ANYTHING can happen.
ReplyDeleteNarr2) your mum is not wicked but she's jst a talk active and she also love awoof. Jst try ur best to make it in life den u will know dat ur mum is sweet....ignore her whenever she's talking. ....
poster 1-you should know what you want ,am sure 800 k can do lots of business in nigeria .
ReplyDeleteposter 2 -you and your mama need jesus.
So Kermit is now shacking paraga.....issorait
ReplyDeletePoster 2: She is probably frustrated and feels you disappointed her. Please don't be sad, pray and try very hard to get a job. If you have relations or friends that can assist you and you start a business. You need to support your mum and take care of your baby. All the best.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: firstly, what are you going to Australia to do? Do you have a job waiting for you???? If you don't, jeje stay in Nigeria and look for business ideas and invest in one or 2 businesses. so you can get money both sides. Pray to God for direction and blessings. Your 800k can be multiplied here than travelling and living from hand to mouth in Australia. You can do a short holiday in future. it is a 3yrs visa. Between, what were your plans before you got the visa??
If he gets a job there he will be fine,it's only ppl without papers dat wil complain of Money
DeletePoster 1-She needs re-assurance and yes, she has a point 800k will help start something.
ReplyDeletePoster 2-Patience and prayer is the key,while at that find something doing no matter how small so you could also contribute while there. You just need to endure for now at least she took you in...God strengten you.It is well
Poster 1 - The thing with the future is that it's completely unpredictable. You alone needs to weigh your options and be sure as to whether your move to Australia will be beneficial in the long run although I'm sure 800k can set up a goood biznes here in Nigeria. If you love your fiancee well enough, you will most definitely come back for her so long as you both maintain a very strong communication in your absence.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 - You need to leave your mom's place for sometime. Have you got any good friend or family whom you can visit for a while like 2weeks - 1month?
P1; I don't blame that ur babe o. These guys are not loyal especially when they travel abroad. One of the many cases happened to a close friend,her life has not been the same since then. As Stella said, do what you have to do.
ReplyDeleteP2; Speechless for now. I'll be back.
N1, you can't completely blame you mum, she's probably getting frustrated from taking care of you and yours babys' unending needs...and your broke ass fiance isn't helping matters, just be patient with her, try not to provoke her, don't over ask for things so she won't insult you and make you feel bad, just keep praying to God to see you through, be prayerful, learn to give him thanks, and study the word of God....just believe that all must be well. Bless your soul.
ReplyDeleteN1 what's your story again??? Sorry I can barely remember, been forgetting things a lot these days, May God give you the wisodm to make the best decision. Goodluck
Poster 2: She is probably frustrated and feels you disappointed her. Please don't be sad, pray and try very hard to get a job. If you have relations or friends that can assist you and you start a business. You need to support your mum and take care of your baby. All the best.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: firstly, what are you going to Australia to do? Do you have a job waiting for you???? If you don't, jeje stay in Nigeria and look for business ideas and invest in one or 2 businesses. so you can get money both sides. Pray to God for direction and blessings. Your 800k can be multiplied here than travelling and living from hand to mouth in Australia. You can do a short holiday in future. it is a 3yrs visa. Between, what were your plans before you got the visa??
Poster 1: leaving a 28 year old woman for greener pasture is a death sentence for her! Choose your struggle wisely.
ReplyDelete@poster 1:u can start up a meaningful business lik she rightly said n watch it grow n u wil b happy u made d choice,at poster 2:hmmmm ur mum is only human n she means the best for u n mayb she is struggling too.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Pay bride price on her head to assure her of your commitment to her.That way you will know you left a wife behind and won't mess up when you leave.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I understand your mum's pain and frustration. In as much as you have made your mistake and are trying to correct it, she feels you are not doing enough to better the situation hence the constant nagging to make you sit up. Ignore the insults, continue struggling and make her proud someday by succeeding and wiping away the tears and shame from her face.
Poster 1: Don't blame her for her fears because some guys don't keep to their promises the moment they travel out of the country. Maybe you should re-assure her to ease the fear of you leaving her and also keep to your promise or invest wisely here. The decision is still yours to make.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I feel your mum is reacting out of frustration of taking care of you and your baby when you should be doing same to her. The words she used are harsh though. Forgive her please and I pray you get a job soon so you don't have to depend on her. I also pray your fiance gets better job to so he can do the needful.
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Poster 1....be a man and make your own decision....but you should know going to Australia is no guarantee you will make it over der....but what do I know?....
ReplyDeletePoster 2.... I really don't know what to say o...I suggest you keep praying for a change like am doing right now
Poster 1.Pls i am begging you in the name of God,pls dont listen to fiancee.Its better you travel and see things yourself.Even if its not as easy as expected you can always come back.I am talking from experience.This is the same mistake i made many yrs ago,i had a visa to travel but never traveled all in the name of love and that i dont want to loose my fiance..i never traveled,and a year later my friend had the same opportunity he traveled,today he is marroed with kids.He bought a house of over 20m for his mother,now has many properties..Here i am single,still in the same place..the same fiancee that i never wanted to loose ,left me on her own when things were not as rossy as it used to be.Now am alone..She has moved on and elope with another man..So am advising as a brother..dont ever listen to her..If the money finish ,its then ur eye go clear ..Pls travel,before its too late.
ReplyDeleteMaking sense Sir! Word! What exactly do want Australian things .
DeletePoster 1.. come and read this oh.. Anon.. Thanks for sharing
DeletePoster 2:
ReplyDeleteYour mum make a mistake having a kid out of wedlock.
That's enough reason for you to resolve not do the same.
Unfortunately, you let history repeat itself.
You think that doesnt hurt her? Especially when people make reference to it.
You didn't even repeat the history in a comfortable place.
You had to repeat it with a penniless guy.
You are both jobless, you put unnecessary strain on your mum.
Of course, she's frustrated
She's wrong to curse you but that's her way of dealing with the eish.
The only way out is to get out of her house.
Hustle hard from January to December; Buy and sell whatever moves.
Go from office to office. Shop for corporate women too busy to shop themselves.
Do whatever it takes because I don't think your baby daddy is trying hard enough.
Make money and relieve your mum of stress.
Poster 1:
Please man up o jare. Do you want to go or not?
Didn't you two discuss this when you were processing the visa?
Being moody at your leaving is natural but I don't understand the "setting up of an 800k business" when all is set.
Don't derail your plans because of someone else. You might regret it and detest that person for it in future.
Search yourself.
If you are serious about the girl, reassure her and face greener pastures in Australia.
If you are not and intend to play games, break up with her now and save her endless waiting.
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Delete@poster 2,stay strong,its always like dat.bear with ur mum cos u wont stay with her forever,things gonna change soon
ReplyDeleteMake I siddon dey wait for comment to roll in
ReplyDeletePoster2---ure mum is so damn EVIL,i mean,why wud she be cussing ur life and invoking badluck,curses and death upon you!!,what kind of mother does dat???...no be u go be the last to carry belle so wats with the curses!!!does she knows that those curses wud be working against ur success in life???.......anyway,try get somtin doing and move out of her house....((Hates when MOTHERS invokes curses on dia children))
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Poster2---ure mum is so damn EVIL,i mean,why wud she be cussing ur life and invoking badluck,curses and death upon you!!,what kind of mother does dat???...no be u go be the last to carry belle so wats with the curses!!!does she knows that those curses wud be working against ur success in life???.......anyway,try get somtin doing and move out of her house....((Hates when MOTHERS invokes curses on dia children))
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Poster 2: sorry you are going through this,put up with your mum and try all you can to get a job.I see a lot of job advert here on Sdk,try applying too. All the best
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You need wisdom right now
Whatever your decision,let it not be what will leave you in had l known.
What do you plan to do in Australia when you get there? Will you be able to endure when things don't go as planned or you will take the easy way out by hooking up with a 90yr old granny you will be picking ticks off her ass or go the drug route? Better ask yourself questions and be sincere with your answers.
Poster#2
Take it easy with your mom for now,it will pass. Its not easy feeding extra mouths when you are struggling.
If she made the mistake of having a child outside wedlock as you said,you should have been more careful,l guess history is repeating itself and she is telling you though in a wrong way,you shouldn't have made the same mistake she made. Both of you need to forgive each other.
Poster 1, lemme ask u a few questions.
ReplyDelete1) why are you travelling out?
2) what will u be doing there. ....do u have a job offer?
3) do u really see this lady as the person you want to settle down with?
If u are just travelling for travelling sake and u do have a job or accommodation there. ....my dear, just sit down here in naija and open a business. Life isn't as easy as u think it is over there.
Pls, make up your mind abt the young lady so she wld knw what to do with herself....time is ticking. ....
poster.2, it is well....I think the pressure is much on ur mum.....pls try a trade...u can sell things and make money to keep body and soul together. ..the mistake has been made. No need crying over spilt milk
N1- Start a busines, maybe pure water.
ReplyDeleteN2-be patience with ur mum is not easy den find a job no matter how small.
N1 except u have a job waiting for you there then I don't see the point of you going. A lot of pple look for just 100k to start business yet u have 800k and u have decided to waste it on flight nd ticket. You should understand that Nigeria is one of the best country to establish urslf....no tax, easy transportation and other things. besides she isn't getting younger but if u insist on going, then break things off cos u can't promise u won't compromise when things get worse. Seek advice from established pple, walk around for two weeks and be smart to pple's advise so u don't fall prey. The lord is your strength
ReplyDeleteN2 A mentor once told me to always say "thank you jesus" when I can't control things anymore. U shld see the way my dad react sometimes and words that come out of his mouth....with time I stopped answering him instead within few mins I will communicate to him like he didn't just insult me...after a while, he respects me more than anyone at home. With time job will come and as long as u trust God he will never forsake you
Poster 1. You have to understand the point your girlfriend is making, but the truth is nobody knows how it will work out for you because each persons destiny is different. Pray and chose wisely.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 bear with your mum many it's not easy for her as well both of you are feeling frustrated. It is well.
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#1 Your gf is very right, most naija men get there and forget their partners.Yea, u might not be that kinda person and you may actually want to believe that but if you are really bent on travelling,u'd just have to forget about ur relationship
ReplyDelete#2 All of those probably came out of frustration, u just have to endure till things get better.Tis well dear
N1. No future is guaranteed. Therr is no guarantee that she will be with you if you stay back or travel and vice versa. As my Stella said, pick your struggle. If you could tell us what type of visa it is, we can advise properly
ReplyDeletePoster 1, I can't advice you cos no one knows Gods plan for your life. Look inwards and pray fervently for God guidance. As for you babe, she really does have time to waste so pls be sincere with her. Let her truly know your stand as most guys hook someone else n most times forget their home love.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, pls don't be sad. Pls be strong. The mistake has been made already hence no need for regret. Just continue to hope and pray. I believe help is on your way soon. Pls patch up with your mom for now. U have spent more time than what's left. God will strengthen you
Hmmm...poster2 this year is your year of rest.
ReplyDeletePoster1-theres no point if you move over,you are goin to forget her. So decide and be a man about it!
Poster 2; Just stay strong and keeep praying. i was in a very similar situation, my mum's attitude eventually destroyed my engagement n i m now a single parent.my fiance got married to someone else. i saw hell in my mothers hands. i was contributing to the home, i even had a job et all but yet......the best thing is to be independent. Then you can make certain decisions. no one ever understood my plight n frustrations. relatives would always smile n say "she s your mother, be patient....". today she begs to even see us. I m not quarreling or keeping malice with her, we talk often but the scars n pain were much too deep. so hold on n be strong, there's always light at the end of the tunnel.Don't let her kill your spirit.( mine was crushed, till i suffered low self esteem n depression, i almost committed suicide, I was a walking shadow n everyone at work noticed). let me stop, its not something i want to remember.
ReplyDeleteu ar a disgrace. Shame
Delete@poster 1 I don't blame ur girl one bit na so naija guys dey do. @poster 2 d Lord will definitely see you I have a friend going through worse than your situation right now but she's looking into God aline stay strong stay focused, watch and always pray. God bless you
ReplyDeleteN1, I inderstand her fears but a man gat to do what a man gat to do. N2, Hmmmm, plenty mums like that but keep on praying for breakthrough for yourself and le boo.
ReplyDelete1] I don't blame the girl for being worried maka na umu nwoke kita mutaziri ozo. So just think deep nd make the wise decision.
ReplyDelete2] Just hang I there nd stay strong for ur baby..God in his infinite mercy will locate you soon...pele oo
Poster 1.. what will you be doing in Austrialia. I know Nija is tough but can you stand Austrailia heat? if your heart is to travel out and will be good, go ahead but dont forget about your fiance here. That is what we know you men for. Una dey change when una reach abroad.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 ... Your mum na the more you have you are my daughter, the less you have you are a useless daughter. Na mothers way be dat. Dont let her bug you
Australia heat?
Deleteyes ooo JayEm, Australia heat...Aussie is tough. its only easy when u have a parent or an aunt here...please everyone cant be as fortunate as u.. coming here as a 1man army is tough biko...im not saying he should not come..but prepare his mind cos u and I know u aint gonna be there for him all the way. He has to stand on his own. bros please come over..but its not in anyway easier than Naija...just a better quality of life...thats all
DeleteI must commt by force.aus heat ko
DeleteN1.. think well, just use wisdom and hope whatever path you chose is the right one, no one can make a decision for you, you alone can do this, just pray.
ReplyDeleteN2.. Hmmm, I think what you should do is try not to quarrel with her, whatever she says suck it up and take charge of your life. If you want to progress start praying and fasting take the right actions now!
Poster 2 I've been there trust me and I know how it feels.. Get strong and find something doing.. Lamentation won't do you good.. Stay strong and be responsible for your child in fact I don't think you should allow your mum to bear additional responsibility which is the baby.. That is why she angry.. Just pick up any job for now b4 somfin beta comes up I'm sure she will appreciate that. Whatever comes from the dad should be an addition... No one is a friend to failure... Please........
ReplyDeletePoster 1: You leaving is hard. Staying for 3 complete years is even harder plus not sure of the outcome is much harder even. Firstly you do not (or maybe cos you didnt mention here) what you will be doing there at the moment. Do you have a father there?. Mother?. Relative?. How body been deh them there?. If they have options will they want to come back to Nigeria?. I understand she should be giving you words of encouragement and being your number 1 fan and cheerleader but there are serious doubts. And yes if you dont try, put in your bests, not letting these critics nd obstacle weigh u down or be a stumbling block,you MIGHT just make it,get interviewd on CNN Or write a book about it nd go to school and motivationally speak to young kids, Marry her or even bring her over or whatever the plan is. At the end of the day you guys have to agree for you to go come or you let her go or you start something here(in as much as i dont know the sth. but the my guy weh been start with with less than $100 and now makes $7m nko that owns baby doll industry abi na factory. Learn from that naa).
ReplyDeletePoster2 pls saty strong dear.. You mum's problem has to do with age. Pele dear thank your GOD that you still haVe a mum oh
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I have gone through a lot with my mum, that nothing from her is a surprise any more, but in my own case I am married. She has cursed me and my children but I use prayers to neutralize it. When I initially got married we did not have much back then, at slightest opportunity she will make remarks to mock us. If she gives us anything is as good as the whole Nigeria will be aware of what she did for us. If I tell her anything forget it is as good as announcing at WAZOBIA FM. It took me a lot of prayers to behave as though she does not exist, to save my sanity. The only time she tries to be nice is when I send money to her account, afterwards she goes back to the hating game. She has tried to really make my siblings hate me along with her, but God is always on my side. She talks down about me any where she goes. Pray hard so you get a job, move out of the house, keep her off, only send her money when you have to. In that way you will be a lot better off. That is how I relate with my mum now. We have no relationship whatsoever, I don't tell her anything about my marriage or myself. But as a child of God I will send her money because she is my Mum, any other thing outside it is a a big NO
ReplyDeletePoster #1# you are 30 and she is 28,you want to go abroad for three years and am very sure three years will be 6years where you might be force to marry a white woman,what are you even going to do there?do you have a job waiting for you,pls invest the 800k in a good business here in Nigeria and when you have a enough money you can be going and coming,then marry your fiancee
ReplyDeletePoster #2# what do you expect from your mum?she is aged,you are supposed to be taking care of her,instead you got pregnant out of wedlock and for a broke guy,who can't even take care of his baby and you are there complaining your mum nagged too much,you should be greatful that she's even housing and pls try and get a job and relive her of those stress you are giving her
#1. I dont blame your babe's points but at last the final decision lies with you. If you know you are real and wont jilt her for any reason, then try and assure her of your love and genuity! All the best
ReplyDelete#2. Your mama is only being psycologically disrupted, just keep tolerating her for sometime. Wish you God's grace, patience and wisdom
Poster,if u dont travel i can assure you that you will regret your action for the rest of your life.
ReplyDeleteHow much is 800k?I had over 10m with me when i was given same visa bu never travelled..oboy till dat am regreting my action...Dont ever comprise your decision because of your fiance,if you do,i can bet it that you will and must surely regret it.
A word is enough for the wise.
True talk bro!
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ReplyDeletePoster 1, do what you think is best for YOU.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, God will intervene.
But why the phuck did you bring a child into dis world to suffer? !!
Couldn't you and your fiancé afford #50 for gold circle condoms???
Poster 2: Now listen shuga,no mother wants her child to go down that road she once danced on especially if tagged 'bad'. Am sure she is relieving so many things. Maybe even what one or two people must have said in d past(e.g say her daughter will do same as she did, like mother like daughter, if she like may she no hold this wan she born etc). The fact that it reoccured...you reason am kwa. Na so the lineage be?#nooffenceplease. It has happened be say it has happened. Suck it up,put on your best armour sheilds for the cussings and FM radio announcements for the world and all that is on your mum's dishing plate, make friends who are ready to help with jobs, smile/laugh;hard as it may be its not the end of the world. You will remember these days in the future,drink to it,nd smile. All the very best.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 1 : I advise u go on with ur travel plans(if u'r willing to let go off ur rshp) who knows what God has in store for you But again 3 years is a long time to keep a 28yr old lady waiting. Truth is, majority of rshps like this end up with heart breaks so i won't blame ur fiancee. As it is, you can't be too sure of yourself till u get there. Guys who get married there do so out of frustration or as a necessity. Either you travel and both of you have an open mind about your rshp, or you stay back. Also, therz no guarantee that it would be rosy if u stayed back. so u do not get to the point of regreting or calling her a witch. Whatever decision you decide to finally take, consider your ability to be patient and endure in the long run. if u decide to stay back, make wise investment decisions pls.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2: look for something to do and stop being dependent on ur mum. Most parents do not take it lightly when they have to feed u and feed ur child. Try working out something no matter how small, so u can start taking responsibility for certain things. Learn a handwork or smtn.
Poster 2. The only option you have is to be patient with your mum while you keep praying for your breakthrough. Your mum is just frustrated because by now she'll expect you'll be taking care of her instead of the extra load you are putting on her.
ReplyDeleteDo not, I repeat DO NOT hold anything against her even when things get better. Always go back with goodies and receive blessings, God will bless you and your man soon.
Also, do not make the mistake of visiting a prophet to diagnose your problem, they will tell you your mum is a witch and because of what you are going thru in her house you might be forced to believe it.
Hustle legit and pray.
Poster1. If you were in her shoes you will feel same.
Poster 2 Please train your child well so that she will not end up like you and you also ending acting like your mama!
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ReplyDelete#1 do you have a degree? What also is your motive of traveling ?
ReplyDelete#2 please be patient I v learnt to pray it works please pray. Help her with chores and show her you love her. It's hard but two wrongs don't make a right. Ezewanyi I bow for you o hian
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ReplyDeleteI dont think you are a real man.Only a real woman will advise you to travel and hursle for more money.You have 800k and you are confused?What business can you do successfully with 800k in Nigeria within a shortwhile?You wil be surprised that you will squander that money within months without anything meaningful.
ReplyDeleteMy brother in life opportunity come but once.and once you loose it you can never regain it again.
Go ask business owners in Nigeria,what it takes to run a business in Nigeria.800k doea not even run a business for 6 months till it folds up.Be wise take your bag and travel.Go hursle tight.
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ReplyDeletePlease I dont just get this ezenweanyi at all...whats the meaning of "how can a 30yrs old marry 28yrs old? " what a dumb question...shes just been posting rubbish all day.
ReplyDeleteAbeg sharaaaaaap anon! What is ur business with Ezenwanyi's comment? Is she not entitled to her own opinion? Abeg park well.
DeleteLike i always say use ur ID dnt hide under Anon to mention Ezenwanyi until u have that liver abeg stay on your lane..
Deleteezenwanyi has actually been posting rubbish biko...no asslicking here.
DeletePoster 1 u situation need wisdom cuz d two option is a gamble,either goin deir or stayin behind to start a biz is gamble bt is left for u to know wch 1 worth gamblin on bt rememba life itself is a gamble n u wont know until u try.Best luck to u.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 ur mum bittered dt u make d same mistake,just pray for breakthrough so ur mum wil be proud of u.
Poster1) if u really love her, go on this journey and return back for her. Don't keep her hanging here with I go marry. Abroad isn't too rosey too o, but pray and God will show u how to succed where others fail.
ReplyDeletePoster2) ur mom is reacting to frustration. Pray for ur man to receive favour from God and come pick u and ur baby. But before then, be patient and never insult or be rude to ur mom. May God see u thru.
N2, frustration leads to aggression, you cant blame ur mother, trust me she feels bad after those shouting, but u know African parents, she may not come to say sorry but that she houses, feeds and does other things for you and ur child? please enter the streets and find a job while you still have an eye to care for your child.
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Mr poster1 u had better buy ur ticket and travel to Australia soon cus when dat so called business fail, she won't hesitate to use nags to frustrate u.whatever that is meant to be will be, no matter how close or far.poster2:pls 4d love of God; get something doing ok, no matter how little. U remember d lady on here who made meatpie and cross buns wit 1k then made 5k plus much more orders.Take that gargantuan step, u hear., don't wait for mama anymore, u are a BURDEN same as your child. Am a single parent too &I chased my baby's dad out of d picture because he isn't supportive, and snide remarks started pouring in, i didn't think twice but took necessary action, am a no nonsense individual. I want the best 4my daughter and I work hard asin hard to give her the best money can offer,if u see my baby gal u will think her dad is an oil tycoon or someone of opulence.I don't need pity and I don't give room for it; so pls dear whatever u know u can lay your hands on do it and also if dat your management and by force fiance isn't motivating u, u better sideline him, empower yourself and start marching ur way to greatness."Heaven help those who help themselves".
ReplyDeleteGuy marry her before u travel! Finish!!3yrs na normal stay ooo,she's not even sure if you gonna come back(3yrs),before u go finish come back begin speak Ini Ini for her,say u no wan marry again,wen oyibo women go don sidan for ur face finish.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, don't be like my bro that was believing in Naija and wasted millions setting up a business. When business no make sense after almost a year nobody advised him. He kuku carry im bag and baggages go Australia go meet im people.
ReplyDeleteDon't be dumb my friend! 800k is chicken change! More than half don go for ticket depending on which airline you're travelling with. 800k is chicken change.
Go to Oz and make a living. If you need help to settle down...
to be continued when you make up your mind to go or stay in naija.
@ poster 1: pls bros if you don't have anything waiting for you abroad; don't go.people think that life over there is a bed of roses when you don't have anything doing there.my dear; people who go there with nothing suffer and this leaves them on a cross road.they don't don't want to come bk and face the shame and at the same time; they want to make it; so they are left with options of soiling their hands.my dear 800k small but at the same time its big.if only you can fold up your sleeves and dig it out here; you will make it with that amount.after all there abroad; no resting and majority of people who go there with nothing.work round the clock and all are odd jobs.you and your fiancee can join heads together and make it work before kids and other responsibilities will start coming.Let me suggest some business.I don't know where you reside; but you can share the money in a way that you can start a small business for your fiancee. like provision store.she will sell big ice there and also drinks.you know day to day things that we use.then you can start up a poultry.I did it and gives money. keep both broilers and the layers for eggs.when the eggs start coming; supply to eateries; supermarkets.even the chicken well dressed. or even pig business.but b4 you start any; learn it well.should take you a week to learn.I hope you will settle your mind soon.All the best
ReplyDeleteAll these things pass 800k Oo lol
DeletePls #1 the decision is yours. #2 pele some mothers are like that, just bear with her and try to find a job or anything that can fetch u money to easy her stress. It is well
ReplyDeleteI'm reading lots of stay back in Nigeria in this place, poster 1...Australia is not Europe or Asia where it's difficult to get a job. Getting a job is very easy, just start applying before you leave Naija.
ReplyDeleteDo not allow anyone discourage you, you can work for these 3years and return to Nigeria if you please.
At least, stay in Australia for 6months for a trial so you will know what you're signing up for.
Do not let anyone confuse you, you can easily get a job in Australia.
Do not stay back in Nigeria, you will regret it in future.
Those people advising you to stay back, won't think twice if they're in your position.
If your fiancee gets an opportunity like this, she will dump your ass without remorse.
Do not jeopardise for future and that of your unborn kids for a woman.
Some women are destiny destroyers.
Go to Australia and work.
Go to Australia.
You should and must go to Australia for greener pastures.
*whew*!
I rest my case.
Poster 2: I didn't read, the Australian gist too sweet me, I no wan spoil am with your disrespectful narrative.
JayemPlease shout it louder.. Inukwa because of a woman you want to jeopardise your future..
DeleteJay em getting a job in Australia is not that easy o...I mean office jobs..even with casual jobs u need cerificates..and casual jobs like dishwasher, cleaner, car washer, waiters bla bla...please I know that aussie isnt that easy..guy if u want to come over please do so...but be prepared cos its not gonna be easy, there are days u will regret the decision to come over and there are days ull be happy. Life is not sweet here until u get your permanent residence o.
Deletesome Naijas guys in aussie dey sufffer pass when dem dey naija cos its a different ball game here.
They will also treat u like crap a bit because of ur accent...lmao..I call it subtle racism...please no where is easy.. its just the grace of God. Ask God for direction please. Australia is harrrrrd bro..dont come here thinking ull get a job in 2weeks. cos 2months u still dey apply..And please save more money...800k might be too small when u pay for rent and feed from the balance left after buying ur ticket. its up to you bro
If u no dia is a ready job for u there go and let her pay u a visit over there once in a while.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 Stay strong no condition is pamanent.
Poster 1 there are so many businesses in nigeria in which you can invest and make money witout d stress of travellin and all dat. Nd to poster 2 get something doing no mata how. Small inorder for you to earn a living it wud reduce d way ur mum feels sorry abt havin you
ReplyDeleteNa for Stella blog you dey see this dead ppl ??!!! Very soon dead ppl go dey see you . Rasclat . You can misyarn. Smello.
ReplyDeleteronalda i hail o!..you dey write no be here...only you go use just"how are you" write epistle...ishiri ike
ReplyDeletePick a struggle=Anonymous Manna Bee Yabber=Miss North Dakota
ReplyDeletePoster 1: if you know something, better travel to Australia and make it big. She opted for a good option though bt Australia option is "gooder".
ReplyDeletePoster 2: waiting for comments
My brother, please o make you no do woman wrapper. Go to where your heart leads you. If you are poor tomorrow, she will dump you or torment your life with bad mouth. A word is enough for the wise.
ReplyDelete#2: You want your mother to be happy that you have continued to be a liability to her right? The woman is obviously frustrated. Go look for something doing before the big job comes. Rose
@biana Bruno, you think it's easy getting a job here abi.,you think she hasn't be making effort in getting job, like she enjoys the way her mom rains insult and abuses on her. @poster2, Don't worry God doesn't sleep. He will soon put smiles on your face and bless you with a good job...To all single mom's out there, God will provide for you all.
ReplyDelete@ no 1 Please if you still want to go, assure her that she is safe in your heart and just make sure the struggle over there does not change you oo.
ReplyDelete@ no 2 hold on you will be fine and find something to do. Get busy, even if its as little as a mustard seed. Your mum will come around once you start something little.
@ Jay Em I agree with you because you are there and knows best. So poster please go with Jay Em advise.
ReplyDeleteEzewanyi or whatever you are called...... you must be a senseless empty brain and a total waste of space on this blog. your comments are like something drained out of the gutters. foul mouthed he/she goat. Gutter rat!!!! Get a life !!!
ReplyDeleteAttn seeker . useless single parent ashawo like u.is ezenwanyi d caus og yr frustrations?yr has placed hvy curse on u thts y u ar behaving like gutter rat.
DeleteChuckleberry you sound pained.
Delete#1, Listen to your fiancee please.
ReplyDelete#2, Your mum is under pressure, and people react differently when stressed. My ISH with her is the curses...haba! It will affect her also. You just have to continue to endure and reject all curses in your mind when she rains it on you and then plead with her not to curse you with such words again. Best of luck.
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@poster1, you can't be confused when it's obvious you are totally ready to leave the country. God's grace in your hustle. Mind you, your babe won't wait for 3years, not at age 28..
ReplyDelete@Poster 2, just be strong...this too shall pass away.
So typical of most frustrated mothers. My mum can complain for Africa. She's a sanQUEEN!
ReplyDeleteaquarius...
Useless pikin.
DeleteMehn I'm loving d's blog , see ppl forming I can talk , interesting doh . Yeah I'm new here and I'm really enjoying d comments , #1, u better use ur brain not ur heart if not you r on ur own o
ReplyDeleteplease I have friends still wondering why they left their jobs in Nigeria to come to Australia. if u dont have an office job here, you have to apply for other jobs like a waiter (for that ull need a certificate called RSA), a game assistant ( ull need an RSG), a cleaner (ull need a white card), a kitchen hand/dishwasher ( ull need food handling certificate), a aged care assistant (aged care certificate) and so on. my point is any job u wanna get here ud have to get a certificate for it which will cost between $40-$60. without these cerificates, u can't get the jobs cos ud be asked. Then work on ur accent, try to mix it a bit(even if na fake) cos dem no dey understand our naija english.And it will be difficult to get promoted in any job u get cos of lack of good communication skills. wish u luck
ReplyDeletePoster 1, I live in Australia and may be able to give you some insights here, I need you to tell me
ReplyDelete1) What visa are you on
2) Where you intend to live
3) Do you have arrangements here?
Australia is a lovely country, but then, you have to know what you are doing, it is very possible to make that 800,000 in less than 2 months here.
My advise will be for you to answer those questions, put your girl's mind at peace, make the 800k here in Australia, send the money home to her, let's see what she does with it in 3 years, in this case, you can kill one bird with two stones.
And poster's gf, there is no assurance that a man will marry you even if you live in the same room for 10 years, allow your man explore, if you can't stand 'road to possible success' you probably don't deserve a man, marry yourself.
2nd poster, sorry darling... no advise here
juicy baby you are a stupid irritating piece of shit....so someone makes a mistake and mother behaves like that? any u must have been raised in similar circumstances....am sure u read her post with your brain on off mode....stupid comment
ReplyDeleteThis Ezenwayi eh..kai. i agree with some of your points.
ReplyDelete#1 You can't repeat your mum's mistake and expect her to be happy unless the person involve is Dangote. Try look for a job no matter how small it is. Your mum is not wicked I bet you, just that history repeated itself n your inability to get a job n start earning. Pray for her, yr fiance and also for a job. You will smile at last.
#2 I don't really know what to advice you but try make sure that her mind is at rest. You can travel but make a serious enquiry and ask God for direction. If you really wanna marry her, your people can do everything for u while still there. Be focus and pray.