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Thursday, January 29, 2015

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives!


OXYGEN AND MAGNESIUM!!!




NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE VICTIM CRIES OUT.
Hello Stella you are a blessing to this generation may God richly bless
you...Stella i need advice from you and fellow blog visitors...


I am a victim of domestic violence ..my husband hits me at the slightest
provocation.I am a married lady with 2 kids (sons).

since we got married in 2010 he has hit me severally after which he would plead and cry that he wouldn't do it anymore that its the devil and so on i would forgive him we would get back together and after some time he would hit me again .

I have prayed about this and still praying..i worry so much cos i'm confused
i have sought advice from a few pple who thinks i should leave the
marriage.my mum and brother practically thinks that i should leave him
with the kids and move on that when the kids grow they would look for the mum..but i love my kids and wont want them growing up 2 be like their father 

he can be so manipulative also.i think i need to leave this marriage but my
problems are i dont have anything doing for now and i'm still a student in
my 200level.i cant fend for the kids and also pay my school fees.most times i worry so much cos i dont know what to do, how to start and where to go...i need your advice and that of fellow blog visitors as well.
 please i need advice  that would encourage me cos i'm down as i type
this.....


Aside from advise may i suggest that you buy running shoes?you want to die for love?isnt there family that can help you out?have you sought help?dont keep quiet and die in silence oh!

speak out if you really love your kids.go to a domestic violence office in your locality and find out how they can help you.file beating cases at the police station.
All the best.



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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
WHEN UNCLE ASKS FOR SEX.....

Dear Stella, I trust this mail meets you well. I wish I could write my story including names, place,time and text messages, I really wish I could but I'm afraid..........

 We had always been a close knit happy family. My parents were comfortable , won't describe them as super rich but at least we didn't lack. My dad didn't quite believe in allowing us go spend time with family members but our house was open to them and indeed they came in droves especially as dad was a very generous man, he was training a lot of their children. 

 We were 3 kids, 2 girls and a boy, i,being the ‎first, my brother the last. 
I had just finished my SSCE in 2012 when my dad died. His family came, threw my mum out, took possession of the house and took us to our aunty's house to live‎. They tried to brainwash us into believing our mum is responsible for our dad's death and I know it's not true.

they made promises of training us to the highest level of education we want etc but as I write, I work in a store as a sales girl now. We've been turned to slaves. Within myself, I said if I can't go to school for now, at least my younger ones should go, they both finished a year after me, (my bro was very good and got into js1 from pry4.)so I approached one of our uncles who is doing well now and was reasonably close to us and really nice when Dad was alive. 


While telling him our present predicament and how I needed him to help train my younger ones, as I spoke, I cried, he started petting me and touching my breasts,i was shocked and withdrew from him immediately, he began to pull me towards him roughly,dragging my hand towards his trousers to feel his hard on , strength came from nowhere and I pushed him away from me. he said "you are not a child ", I left his place in shock, in short I died. 

He sent the first sms threatening me not to say a word to anyone and subsequently, he said if I really love my younger ones and I want their progress, I should sleep with him, there's nothing new under the sun. This is a man who is married, this is a man whose children are older than me, a man to whom my father was of immense help. He has sent me up to 25 love and lewd texts till date.

 I've not been able to tell even my mum who has been depressed and has not recovered since, they don't allow her see us, we only talk on phone. I thought of sending the texts to my uncle's wife and children as well as to key family members but I've just been afraid 

 My Sister started learning hairdressing this January while my brother is a teacher in a primary school, that was my auntie's new year package for us o, she said " university is not by force, it's not everyone that goes to the university that makes it in life"
 That's my story, I know God will see us through.

    ‎                      What do i do?








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  1. Habis Cakes Abuja29 January 2015 at 13:34

    These narratives are just so sad

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    1. onyiiasa29 January 2015 at 14:06

      BLOG ANALYSER: Really! Sad today I am short of words, weak and depressed from especially narrative 2

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    2. Unknown29 January 2015 at 14:21

      I'm teary mehnnn. God have mercy on us all. May help find you and Gods grace locate you both. Amen

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    3. my opinion29 January 2015 at 14:25

      Poster 1, what other advice where u expecting 4m here aside RUNN...? Everybdy dat posts abt DM here knows she'll be told run...

      Before u start running into the steets like someone something is chasing, take a pause and evaluate ur life! Is ur family willing to take u IN? From wt I read, u are still a student and he's probably sponsoring u right? Ur mum also said u should *leave* ur kids for him n go. Like seriously? Ur own baby?

      For now, u have to find a way to walk around that his anger until u are strong enough (financially n emtionally) to move. Don't run off into the streets without preparing urself o. All these people telling u to runnn are not infront of ur gate waiting to carry ur bags and ride u off in their range* to their homes.

      No matter how wicked he may be, u have an inner wisdom to follow him and get wat u want. Stop talking back or trying to prove points that he's not listening to or expecting too much. Just be numb for now n calculate. Study hard, graduate, save as much as u can for u and ur boys(dont take in again), get a good job and finally shock him with ur divorce papers when u are done!

      I pray God directs u. All d best*

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    4. Unknown29 January 2015 at 15:50

      Na wa o, uwa di egwu

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    5. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 16:35

      Mrs Habis cakes,a ri yin o

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    6. Chinyelu Okenyeka29 January 2015 at 17:38

      Sad Stories.

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    7. ChyAdaJesus29 January 2015 at 18:25

      Poster 2 my prayers are with u and ur younger ones, what kind of life is this? My God will surly fight ur battles for u.

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  2. onj29 January 2015 at 13:35

    Ogaju........ make I sit down like Stella read comments.

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    1. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 14:21

      Don't even know what to say, deep sigh.

      @ poster 1, chai! Whether or not you have something doing right now, i can't advice you to remain with that man; lest he kills you.
      Please look for an ngo and seek help from them. In the meantime, make sure you keep a record of all this abuse, pictures with dates and all.

      At 2, the Lord is your strenght, pele oh.

      Click my name for all your celebration cakes and cupcakes, cheers

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  3. Make-A-wish29 January 2015 at 13:40

    Poster one :
    Run for tour life otherwise it is your dead body they would take out of that house.

    Poster two:
    I feel sorry for your but it's not new. Some men do sleep with their own blood. You and your siblings can survive these trying times without resulting to illegality. All you need do work and pray hard. It may be rough for now but won't stay that way for long...put them to shame by becoming a success. Meanwhile make a wish you know human can fulfil and let's make it happen.

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    1. Poster29 January 2015 at 14:47

      Thanks so much Make-A-wish, I actually do wish for us to go to school but then again because of the peculiarity of our situation, ie living with our aunt albeit under servitude kind of, it will be rebellious for us to have people sponsor us, it will be like drawing the battle line and I really do not put it past these people to go diabolical on us, we need our peace to achieve all that God has in store for us. We plan to leave after saving enough.
      Thank you so much

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    2. Unknown29 January 2015 at 15:04

      God bless you

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    3. Make-A-wish29 January 2015 at 16:37

      Your really didn't specify your wish. Do u want help to get a place of your own or want to go back to school or just need physical cash? ??

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    4. Poster29 January 2015 at 18:09

      We want to go to school

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    5. Nitty-Gritty29 January 2015 at 18:25

      My heart cries for you. Please stay away from that lechreous idiot! Send the text messages to your mum and save it as evidence. Your sister is learning a skill, your brother is teaching, you can also learn a skill because sales girl salary is not much and be prayerful because GOD is the father of the fatherless, and HE will make a way for you and your siblings. What of your maternal relatives? Why would they prevent your mother not to see you all? You can go and look for her now that you are older.

      I find it astonishing that some people are comfortable to live off the sweat of another person and expects to progress in life?

      My 3rd cousin lost his father, and an uncle took over their house. They were suffering. Someone advised her to stand in front of her father: s grave that was buried in the family compound early morning before everybody wakes up and wail so.much calling the name of her father to come and fight for her. She did that for many weeks, that the neighbors and elders had to Intervene and the uncle was asked to vacate the property.

      I pray that the GOD of the fatherless, the same GOD who made a way in the wilderness for the people of Israel, will do same for you and your siblings. I don't know how HE is going to do it, but I know HE is a GOD of miracles and HE has never failed. I will remember you in my prayers. E-hug.

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    6. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 18:30

      Exactly @ Make-A-Wish.
      @Poster 1: What is it that you want help with? Be specific. Do you want to leave and rent a place? Get a job? Start school? You don't know who's reading,and where your help may come from. Come up with a plan and make a specific request.

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    7. chocolatti29 January 2015 at 18:52

      queen of the blog,i never knew u could be this myopic. Does it mean she cant get help unless if she key in to ur useless idea? may the lord have mercy on you

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  4. jbaby29 January 2015 at 13:41

    @ poster 1 please try and buy your running shoe, don't make silly excuse for him

    @ poster 2, I follow Stella open mouth, its well please if any one can help poster 2 please do, she is very intelligent, she deserve to further her education

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  5. I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF)29 January 2015 at 13:41

    Poster2,
    Look for a rich man and marry....
    Me I didn't go to the university because there was nobody to train me....
    Am happily married with kids and my business is moving very well....

    OR
    You start doing runs,that's what most girls that see themselves through school do....
    Good luck....

    Poster 2,
    Endure and divorce him once you are done with school....shikena...

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    1. Unknown29 January 2015 at 13:55

      Yes. Get married to any rich man that can provide for you and your siblings. Your uncle is never going to help even after sleeping with you.

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    2. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 13:59

      Thunder faya u dia! She should do runs ehn.....witch!!! May ur kids not find demselves in this position IJN. Anumpama

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    3. Unknown29 January 2015 at 14:18

      You are realy the queen of this blog, I trust your opinion when it comes to isues as this, but the big question is? Where and how can she connect to a big man to marry her? Abi you get any contact for her?
      If you say runz, hmmm, odikwa risky oooh, no be everybody destiny dey work well for runz ooh, make dem no go use am update ritual tinz.

      Poster 2: with your ssce result you can still make it by learning a vocation, hairdressing, fashion designs etc or better still that randy he goat of an uncle set him up for blackmail and make him sign to train your younger ones and even sign an undertaking incasre he tries to act funny. First confide in your mum, make a police report if possible involve human rights lawyers especialy the females cos dem no dey smile for such matter, get a back up of those messages, forward copies to those whom you trust for future reference. That man is as wicked as the devil and won't do anything for you, just false promises. Let him pay through his nose. Don't forget to get a recorded conversation where is promising the world to you if only you part the red sea.

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    4. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 14:18

      Go and start looking for a rich boyfriend or do runs(not ashawo oh).Afterall most rich and influencial ladies(married and unmarried) you see today are products of runz.Ditch your broke ass bf...if you have one.

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    5. Catwalk With Pat29 January 2015 at 14:20

      She do run girl??? Not nice smh

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    6. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 14:21

      Can you just be sensible for once and use your brain.

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    7. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 14:31

      So anony 13.59 what do you suggest? these ones may not be palatable but they are practical and require minimal capital outlay.
      I wouldn't support the marriage idea because that is not necessarily going to improve her condition. Will the rich guy stay rich? Will he allow her AND her family to benefit from his wealth?
      At least if she relies on herself she won't be so open to disappointment.

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    8. Seun Ajet29 January 2015 at 14:35

      Real thunder o....see advice

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    9. Unknown29 January 2015 at 15:04

      Anonymous 13:59... no need for the insults and curses. I guess she was Jst giving d best advice she can offer.

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    10. Unknown29 January 2015 at 15:07

      Nawa oo this is a tough one! Abeg where Pepper Ose Oku? Why are people disappearing from this blog naw?

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    11. Phenomenal Naija Mama29 January 2015 at 15:09

      What sort of advice is this? A young girl needs advice and this is all you can say? And you have a daughter too!

      Abeg Stella, some comments need not be published.

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    12. Nmasinachi29 January 2015 at 15:22

      LOL! She is just saying it as it is....

      @poster1 dibe ooo...can't your people help with the kids? its very sad...Ladies please equip yourselves pls even if it's a small business

      Poster2...may God see you through....There are other alternatives. never sleep with that man please. how old are you? be strong ok?

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    13. Unknown29 January 2015 at 15:26

      Am in shock! I cnt believe a wife & mother typed this.. Good have Mercy!

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    14. Unknown29 January 2015 at 16:34

      Babe, this your advice weak me I swear down. @poster 2, take heart, oh nne? Everything will be all right when the time is right. (2) Stella lol @Aside from advise may i suggest that you buy running shoes? Babe u don kolo since 1900.

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    15. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 16:34

      Ooh lord..i cried harder 4 poster 2 when I read ur advice,esp comin frm a mother..pls refrain frm giving advice on this blog..thk you

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    16. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 17:18

      Linda, hope u're feeling better. Pls stick to ur medications. I wish you speedy recovery. *asking how i know u"re sick? Your comment points to that direction* How on earth can you advise someone to do runs?
      Linda, get well soon!

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    17. Unknown29 January 2015 at 17:36

      *God*

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    18. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 19:45

      U guys castigating Linda (queen) fon't know her at all; she's just being her mischevious self. Don't take what she says to heart.

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  6. M-amie Hazard innit? 29 January 2015 at 13:41

    You would have just used razor to cut his kini.
    What's wrong with men these days?
    Is that not incest?
    Poster one....
    Pray for him
    Dress sexy
    Whenever he beats u,reconcile with mind blowing sex
    Make his best meals
    Be a whore in the bedroom
    Stay until we feature your death by domestic violence on this blog
    That settles it

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    1. Unknown29 January 2015 at 14:07

      Lol....poster one..gaan tie your husband with juju or run out of that marriage
      Poster2:..sad story.. Learn a trade or marry a rich man..may God help u

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    2. Tushmum29 January 2015 at 15:02

      Lmao!!!
      You dey kolo true true

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    3. Unknown29 January 2015 at 15:21

      Miamie has come again

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  7. Pero omo Senator29 January 2015 at 13:43

    Poster One: The beating didn't just start, it started when u were dating. But u still chose to marry him. Carry your cross. Ladies really need to learn. tired of saying the same thing over and over agin and u also said u are in 200 level, how old are u again? Seems u rushed into this institution *CONFUSED FACE*
    Poster Two: May that man never know peace, may all his children never find helper, may everything he has crumble before him since he is shameless and useless may thunder fire his blokus, may he go impotent. AMEN.
    Sweetheart, stay strong, God will see u through, i am not in ur shoes and i may not know ao it feels. PLEASSSSSSEEEEEEEEEEEEEE do not give in to that bastard. People who go through wat u r going through do make it big in life so please stay positive.
    WHY ARE PEOPLE SO WICKED, THEY FIND IT HARD TO HELP. MAY THUNDER FIRE PEOPLE LIKE THIS LEAVING ON EARTH. AMEEEEEEEEEEEEEN

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    1. Poster29 January 2015 at 14:10

      Amen Pero. Thank you

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    2. Alamala29 January 2015 at 14:34

      Why should his children be suffering for this idiot's impulses or did I miss where they encouraged their dad?

      May your prayers never boomerang on you if this is how you pray.

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    3. Debbie me29 January 2015 at 14:43

      Poster 1, please heed to Stella's advice. I wish you well in life.
      Poster 2, speechles. Don't listen to him ooo. I pray God meets your needs soonest.

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    4. Unknown29 January 2015 at 15:34

      Amen to alll ur prayers!

      Poster 1: move out of that house asap. Am sure U've got families.
      Poster 2: @least u& ur bro hav small jobs. Try to work a few yrs, save up & go bk to sch. U can evn enrol for a PT program. U cn also take Lil frm ur savings & learn a skill to support ur job.
      The lord is ur strength.

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    5. Jesus Baby29 January 2015 at 15:36

      God bless you dear, you spoke my mind as regards poster2. Men will always treat ladies the way they present themselves. You dont work, still in school with two kids already and you want the man to treat you as a Queen? Hello! What do you bring to the table? Sex and babies i guess! Babe, pleaee bear you burden and stop crying wolf.

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    6. Unknown29 January 2015 at 16:17

      Haba, why curse his children? Send all the curses to him because believe it or not, mist kids have horrible parents but they shouldn't have to suffer for their sins..

      #poster 1 please leave him so you can watch your kids grow and graduate, take them with you, take a leap of faith and follow Stella's advice
      #poster2 men like this are everywhere, dogs, but dont sleep with him, i can't really say go and look for work, cos this is Nigeria we are talking about, neither can i say follow sugar daddy because that would mean you have given up on all hope, so am as confused as you are, but if you need to start something and you need change, come back to this blog and let us know..

      *am out*

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    7. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 18:04

      @Jesus baby! What do u mean by what does she bring to d table, sex and baby?? And so? What should she bring to the table before?? Is she working?? And what's makes u think that women who bring 70% to d table don't get their ass whooped in marriages???? U re very funny n ur comment is damn childish..... u ve not met some mad men who don't give a damn even if u bring 100% to the table. Think before u comment.

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    8. Queen Bee29 January 2015 at 18:06

      Giving in to this perverted uncle is not an option!infact she rather goes out there and sleep with other men,dat will be a lesser evil thann committing incest!not even at gunpoint should such be considered.....so@peroOmosenator chill with the emphasis on 'pllsss'.#eyelashes

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    9. better pikin29 January 2015 at 18:07

      @ 1: Student with 2 kids that is probably y he is treating you like this bcos he knows you have nowhere to go. If your family can help go n stay with them a while if not u may just have to endure.
      @ 2: Don't even think of sleeping with ur wicked uncle as he won't still help you after that. Keep working hard save some money n then you can go back to school. Be prayerful this too shall pass...forget all those runs n things they only end in regrets..

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    10. Nitty-Gritty29 January 2015 at 18:35

      Amen 7x!
      I also pray he will become impotent! And as he wish upon her, same will be done to his flesh of his flesh in his presence!
      That, all his source of livelihood will begin to crumble one be one and I call the demon of poverty to come and have a seat of throne inside his home, that they will work as an elephant and eat as an ant!

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  8. G_PHARM29 January 2015 at 13:46

    sister with domestic palava.. Hmm stella sugar said u should buy running shoes. I suggest Air-Max or Air jordans. Just run as fast as ur legs can carry u.

    If ur parentz cqn support u then fine..

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  9. calabar chick29 January 2015 at 13:48

    Wow! What a wicked world we live in...I feel ur pain poster 2, God is ur strength.

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  10. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 13:48

    Tell your uncle that you will show those text messages to his wife,children and the entire community if he refuses to train at least one of your siblings...and dear pray a lot..there is still God and he is still in the business of doing good...Adaora

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    1. Poster29 January 2015 at 14:01

      He threatened me and I am afraid to take his threat lightly.

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    2. Alamala29 January 2015 at 14:35

      Stay well away from him.

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    3. Agu nwanyi129 January 2015 at 14:39

      Poster2 pls blackmail him with d text, threaten him! Tell him u ll tell d whole world if he doesn't cooperate

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    4. LeeBerty29 January 2015 at 14:57

      Poster 2.. Please don't even try telling him you'd expose blah blah.. If you are not living with him, please stop going over to his place.. You and your siblings are working right now, if you three can save up, do that.. O believe you are of age to go decide on what you want. Tell you mom, go back to your mom.. How can a grown up, in this case, grown ups have a mom and still be restricted? If push should come to shove, you three should run away to your mom abeg.. I know it sounds crazy.. You still have your mom please, let her help you. The people you are with are not going to help you. I wish you and your siblings the best dear.

      Poster 1. Stella said you should buy running shoes, please adhere..

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    5. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 15:30

      Nothing will come out of the threats, plus don't be afraid.he never thought you will refuse him.please try and show the text miles to at least your mom and try and talk to her not to handle the matter by herself because she can react with anger but let her all family members know about this black sheep after that run away never look back to him.As per you and younger ones, God is God always except if He is dead will He not guide protect and make all these a story in the future but please use all you have got and all you will do to reference God and wait and see. FAIR GOD,God be with you and He will surely send helpers your way.

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    6. Jesus Baby29 January 2015 at 15:38

      Poster 2: Please dont show the mesaagea to anyone. Just avoid him so he doesnt either rape or hurt you more. Please stay strong and be prayerful, that's life for you dear sister but trust me when i say it will end in praise for you.

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    7. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 15:49

      Poster 2 pls how old r u? U said u just finished ur ssce so u shld b btwn 16 n 18yrs I guess! So u can't take ur siblings n urself away frm dat place to ur moms? U were able 2go see ur uncle 2beg for help but u only talk 2ur mom on d fone cos dey won't let u guys see her! Dis ur story sef! *rolls eyes

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    8. jbaby29 January 2015 at 15:54

      Poster don't mind the anonymous saying u should show the massage to his wife, he is forgetting the kind of country we live in, the poor are being oppressed daily, will the wife fight for her? NO. He might decide to deal with her n make her miserable. My dear @ poster keep praying, apply for scholarship if u see any. God would send helper your way

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    9. Unknown29 January 2015 at 15:57

      Adaora, u think its dat easy.. Poster just hang in there, I'm sure help will come. Be strong for u and ur siblings plus mom. God bless u hun

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    10. Lacey Love29 January 2015 at 15:59

      Poster 2. Don't take his threat lightly. Any man who can descend dt low can do worse. Let your mother in on this matter. I don't trust any of your father's relatives at the moment. They might still gang up on you. Just endure whatever you are going through now and manage your work and encourage your younger ones. Don't give in to your uncle or any man for dt matter because of lack. Like somebody already told u, people like you turn out great and believe me dts true. Focus on God always. My prayers are with you. And pls don't delete those messages from your uncle. He is a bastard and shld be castrated. God will make him impotent and then I will see what the pervert will use to terrorise little children.

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    11. Bimpeforever29 January 2015 at 16:22

      You should have squeezed his balls very hard, next time he won't put his hand on his crotch again. Silly man, pele dear, I suggest u start working till you can afford to fend for urself and siblings, it is well with you in Jesus name, poster 1, I want to believe you running already, all the best

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    12. Unknown29 January 2015 at 16:22

      He will not do anything. He will end up opening his own yansh

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  11. MOI29 January 2015 at 13:48

    Nah wa!

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  12. Unknown29 January 2015 at 13:50

    Poster 1, please run away before he kills you. Go back to your family and go with your children. Your family should be able to help with their schooling at lease for now until you finish your own. When you finish you can take up from there but for now run for your life.
    Poster 2: first of all, how old are you? If you are more than 18, leave your Aunty and go back to your mother regardless of what your father's family think they can do to you. Tell everybody you need to tell about your uncle's bad behavior forget about whether they'll believe you or not. Just tell them and go back to your mom. You could learn a skill just like your sister. Being a sales girl is not bad but it's not a skill that you can use to help yourself later when you start school in case you need money. So, go back to your mom and go and learn something while she gets money to send you to the university.

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    1. Poster29 January 2015 at 14:05

      Yes, Cindy, I actually thought of learning a trade later. Going to my mum right now is not an option because she squats with her elder sister which is a lot of stress already on her Sis, we wouldn't want to inconvenience her the more

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    2. Dika29 January 2015 at 15:13

      You just wrote exactly what I was thinking.Poster 2,are u not up to 18yrs?Pls if u are,arrange with your mum so that you & your siblings can go live with her.Since u said you'v finishe secondary sch,i'm assuming you should be close to that age.You need go back to your mum & acquire a skill,things will get better from there.Don't sleep with any useless man for the sake of help,they don't have anything to offer you,they'll just take advantage of your situation to mess u up.

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  13. ANGELRAY4SDK29 January 2015 at 13:50

    @1, I hate when married women are idle, u depended on ur hubby for everything dats y he beats u at d slightest provocation, get ur flat ass outta his house, if u don't ve money to send ur self & children to sch all of u should sit down @ home cos, I don't feel sorry for u, I did business when I was in sch even though I did not lack anything, i just wanted extra income, so u don't ve any excuse to be lazy, student my ass.
    @2, can't u and ur siblings live with ur mum, didn't ur mum save money when ur dad was alive, how come ur dad died and u guys are already depending on family for susvival, is ur mum not working or doing business, I really want to understand.

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    1. Poster29 January 2015 at 14:23

      My mum was a teacher, Dad was the major source of income and was doing well. He had 2 houses, the one we lived in and one in the village, we had 4 cars, the family took possession of it all. His accounts had me as his next of kin, my Aunty said when we are of age, they will give us everything, I don't believe them though. My mum stopped teaching due to illness caused by depression. We can't live with her cus she lives with her sister. How much could she have saved? If they hadn't taken dad's property and sent her away, we all would have been fine, I know.

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    2. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 14:26

      So career women doesn't experience domestic violent

      Say something else

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    3. Correction Fluid29 January 2015 at 14:27

      Really!!!
      Its that hard for you to understand or its the assimilation process that's slow for you. Did you skip the part where she wrote that her dad's family took all they had or you just decided to overlook and ask baseless questions!
      Make me understand too!!!

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    4. Unknown29 January 2015 at 16:21

      @angelray, did u read post 1 story well, she is not idle or stay at home mom, she is a student, that is why she is not working, do u know why d man is beating her, it is becos she allowed it, yes she allowed it, when I newly got married, any small quarrel, oga at the top will give me dirty slap, and after he will apologies, he did it 1st, 2nd and 3rd time, on my own side, I will cry like d new wife that wants pity, I believe he wanted to create dis fear in me, I was beginning to leave in fear, so when we argue atimes, I sit at d edge of d bed, for me not to receive slap, oh did I mention dat I played football in senior sch those days, ( so I am a tom boy) so it got to a point I could not take it anymore, I told my mom that I am going to beat d demon out of my husband very soon, my mom pleaded with me. One faithful day, my husband started is crasi, b4 u know it, I have received one hot slap, my fellow bv's, I gave my husband double of d potion, I rush am for ground, hold am for neck, pin d man down, my husband started breathing fast, asthma attack don start, I had to leave, and I gave him d warming of his life, so after then, any argument I don dey foam up and down, I will start saying dat ( I go break somebody head today, try me and see) my fellow bv's d man come take chill pill, since then up till now, he sees me as a mad woman, I can snoop for life, no more pass wording phone, If he dare it i will throw it inside d toilet i swear, since almost 6yrs now, no more slap for me. So poster 1, u need to harden up, show him crasi like few times, that's if u have power to fight back, but if u don't have pls respect urself and run. Fellow BV'S how una dey, longtime jare.

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    5. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 16:26

      And if u get to understand, of which help will u be to them. Biko shut up that your dirty mouth. Idiot like you. Must u comment? Bad belle. Who no lack for school? U no lack say u be GEJ dota. Mai friend gerout for here, anu mpama.

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    6. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 16:50

      Devil ray, u are a big fool! Just pray you never get to experience what some people go through, ur comments are always judgemental. Oversabi motherfucker! Bitter single girl. Idiot! If u cannot help people's situation, don't make it worse! Business my foot! I'm sure u were on top run girl in school. Oponu

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    7. Irene Bernards29 January 2015 at 18:03

      Jenny A,i don laff tire. i just dey imagine as u throw d guy for ground

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    8. Nitty-Gritty29 January 2015 at 18:49

      They took the 4 cars and 2 houses? What manner of heartless and hungry people are they? Glad your dad put you as next of kin, the bank will adhere to that, but my fear is that, they will want to take the money from you, maybe is the agreement they had with your auntie for her to accommodate and train you all. You are so young to be going through all these, you need an NGO and lawyer and pastor to help you through, because desperate people can go to desperate length, sigh! You know what my dear, lay low for now, and simply take a day at a time and let events unravel itself, if you know the bank that your father made you kin, visit that bank and ask to speak to the manager or who is in charge of the account. Open up to the person in confidentiality, I believe they will give you options. And on your own be prayerful. Find a prayer book by Father Mbaka, its good. Best of luck my dear. E-hug.

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  14. JayEm "Agrodolce"...the Nigerian-Italian-Australian experience.29 January 2015 at 13:50

    Narrative one: Fight back or leave.
    Dem no born the baga wey go try abuse me physically. We go fight! No woman should be turned into a punching bag. Abeg, beat your husband too one day like that narrative of the woman who beat her husband. Woman stand up for yourself. Be a champion...lol
    Abeg, park your things and go!

    Narrative two: Hmmmmmmn! Life and chance happen to us all.
    Iphie and TGW borrow me some e-hugs, my own don finish. I don hug my friend mix raced kids taya today, my hugs don finish.

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    1. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 16:06

      Mixed race.
      A detail worth dropping here...

      We're you that deprived as a kid that fickle things trip you?

      White man
      Designer labels
      Abroad
      Mixed race.
      Hahahhahahaahah

      Sry 4 trolling though but you always sound very inferior

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    2. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 16:07

      Correct advice for poster 1 . Last few weeks my bf started practicing how to beat women. He twisted my hand first and made me understand it was a joke. Very painful joke. The next week he tried it, I only dragged him down and pinned him down for a few minutes just to let him know who he should toil with or not. He got d message and I never hit am o. I can't give any man dt chance. He should go and hit his younger sister.

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    3. Rubynnia 29 January 2015 at 16:14

      JayEm! JayEm! I trust you not to take bullshit!

      But come to think of it, these abusers know the kind of women they want. They won't go for women like:
      SDK,
      JayEm,
      Ezenwanyi,
      Genny baby,
      Chizoba Ibebuike,
      Sunshine,
      Bloglord and
      newcommer-Juicy babe
      _ _ _ _ _ _ (please fill in the gaps) because their CRAZE no he here!

      They go for the gentle and subservient types who can easily be brainwashed.

      It's good for a woman to know her worth and have a solid mindset and voice out her displeasure rather than keep quiet in order to be seen as a "wife material".

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  15. Virtuous woman29 January 2015 at 13:51

    Thanks a lot to the blog visitor that sent e books. I got mine last night and shared to some friends as well. God bless you.

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    1. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 14:15

      Please can u send me a copy too?. My email is dolutobi@gmail.com Thanks.

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  16. Blackberry29 January 2015 at 13:51

    P2..is there no way u can visit your mum?

    Weigh d conditions,
    Staying with your mum,
    Or your aunty?
    Any1 that is favorable choose.

    P1, carry your load n go,
    Easier. Said than done.

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    1. Unknown29 January 2015 at 14:08

      Wicked relatives everywhere. God will see you through dear

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  17. Anonymous Chielo29 January 2015 at 13:51

    Good gracious God!!!! speechless

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    1. PREACHER'S WIFE29 January 2015 at 16:47

      @Poster one : Im sure that man knows you love your kids so much that you would rather endure his beatings than leave. Pls leave him, u can take the kids along if your family can assist you and if he uses the kids as a threat, leave them, I assure you, he'll come asking u to take them back as it might not be so easy to take care of them himself. Beating is one thing I would NEVER accept. A man beats you and after a while demands to sleep with u? No way!

      @Poster 2: pls, u guys should move to where ur mum is and manage together as a family. Try and learn a skill and put ur mind and your all into it. I advise that u let your mum know about that ur uncle's stupidity as well. Don't ever let anything push u to succumb. It is well with u.

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  18. Unknown29 January 2015 at 13:51

    Oxygen and magnesium!!! @ poster 2, please don't delete any of those messages. That is serious evidence that u will need one day. The man sef is a fool, how can he send text messages that he knows can be saved n implicate him.. Odiegwu oh.

    Poster 1, no word for u. if u still dunno what to do after all the awareness on domestic violence then u r OYO. Ok, Stella pls go to her house and beat the husband back for beating her, then breastfeed her n tell her sorry... Nonsense and ingredient!

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    1. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 15:36

      She should save it on her email but phones or simply cards can tomorrow disappoint....send it to your email even after you have shown it to your mom.

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    2. Poster29 January 2015 at 17:32

      My siblings and I have them in our respective emails

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  19. G_PHARM29 January 2015 at 13:52

    Poster 2.. I Seriously dont know what to say as i am not a gurl. I pray God gives u strength to overcome all of these. This Man is obviously in for you.


    Keep Fighting. Ur Helpers are on the way.

    It is Well...

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    1. Unknown29 January 2015 at 14:44

      Did they sack you from your cementary or is it grave digging job? Just asking because I noticed you have stopped seeing dead people

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  20. Chianuri29 January 2015 at 13:52

    Poster 1..u just ve to leave that marriage..you are too young to be going through this..Your family members should help you and your kids..Money shouldn't be a reason for your death..@ poster 2..people are mean..something like this almost happend to my friend..but thank God the dad was a wise man while alive and invested somethings in his children's names..or else they would ve been begging by now..don't give in to his advances..continue trusting in God and doing your own..everything will be ok..#ehugs#

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  21. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 13:53

    poster 1 better change that ur prayer to "lord save me from untimely death". u are being adviced to walk out of ur marriage without ur kids hmmm will u be able to sleep at nite knowing that u left ur kids in d hands of a beast in human form? another women will come nd train/brainwash ur kids with d help of their father. take ur kids nd urself out of that house b4 u die there, it wont be easy to take care of them but its the best thing to do.
    poster2 continue ur hairdressing, i know someone that enrolled for part time program in my uni nd saw her self thru school with the money she made from hair dressing, thank ur stars that ur aunty didnt turn u into a live in househelp atleast see this hair dressing situation as a blessing in disguise. as for ur randy uncle, leave him to God nd karma dont report him cos a man that is willing to take advantage of his niece might be capable of more dangerous things. u will be reunited with ur mum someday

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  22. BLOGLORD (MVBM)29 January 2015 at 13:53

    Reading poster 2 story, my heart broke into pieces.
    poster you need to confide in someone. you need to spill..at least you have evidence (text messages et all) never give in to this wicked man. expose him! because he may just rape you one day. do the needful right now!
    this world is really a wicked place.

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    1. Correction Fluid29 January 2015 at 14:24

      In addition to that, setting him up could do you a lot of good.
      You could set him up in such a way that you'll not be guilty of anything. My dear, please act as fast as you can.
      Have you tried telling the woman(aunty) you live with or better still someone from your dad's family who likes you peeople. They can't all be that bad.
      You could also go to your mom, whatever the circumstance you meet there, its better than putting yourself at the mercy of this wicked uncle.
      Also, consider taking a part time job, so you can get educated too, there's very little your salary will do uneducated especially if you plan to train your siblings.
      Above all, pray that God sends helpers your way and I pray that may your divine helpers locate you in Jesus Name.
      Whatever you do, DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT engage in 'runs a.k.a advanced prostitution' and do not give in to your crazy uncle!!!
      His punishments awaits him in a trailer load!
      I repeat, pls don't do RUNS! It kills destinies!!!

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    2. Poster29 January 2015 at 14:34

      Thanks Bloglord, we don't live together and I have been avoiding him like a plague. I am afraid for now but eventually, I will spill.its funny how you adjust to life's situations, my siblings and I have adjusted to the roles given us, we are very very sure tomorrow will be fine, I don't know why, I just believe so. Thank God we were not separated to different homes, we find solace in ourselves, we pray together, we plan together.
      The world indeed is a wicked place, if my dad hadn't died,I never would have known how desperately wicked the heart of man can be.

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    3. Poster29 January 2015 at 17:34

      Correction fluid, thanks. Runs is not an option for me.

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    4. Nitty-Gritty29 January 2015 at 19:22

      Happy to hear this and glad you were not separated. Continue to be prayerful, GOD is faithful, you will give your testimony someday. E-hug

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  23. ceetee29 January 2015 at 13:54

    Poster 1...Please in the name of God, if you must leave please take your children along. Don't ever make the mistake of leaving them behind. Your children are yours and will forever be. I can't go into details of what might happen to them if you leave them. Go back to your parents house, enrol them in a public school and manage somehow till you graduate.
    Poster 2. They say if life gives you lemon, make a lemonade out of it. My dear you can do part time and work to send yourself to school.like wise your brother. Where God has destined for you, you will certainly get there. Ignore your uncle and change your number, don't go back to you because he can rape you.
    I wish all women can have savings secretly somewhere so that when the unexpected happens there can be something to fall back on(trade).
    Poster 1 & 2 it is well with you!

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  24. mide29 January 2015 at 13:55

    P2 that your uncle is Insane... What rubbish no fear of God whatsoever. My dear God will uplift you guys and don't tell your uncles wife before they turn it in to something else.
    P2 madam run as fast as ur legs can carry and and take your kids with you, learn a trade or look for a part time job. don't let one useless man finish you with beating.

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    1. Poster29 January 2015 at 14:36

      Thank you Mide

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    2. Nitty-Gritty29 January 2015 at 19:24

      Yes o! Don't tell your uncle's wife or auntie sef, only your mother.

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  25. ELENA (HER MAJESTY)29 January 2015 at 13:57

    Poster1...maybe until u die there or probably have a near death experience,then and only then would u run 4ur life and i think ds cliché bout not having where to go nor what to do is a new format for begging...don't u have family members? ok o dnt leave whilst u stil can,stay there n b his punching back until maybe u loose ur life or bcome permanently disfigured
    Poster2...don't give in2 his silly advances...if i were u,id tell some1 or prolly tell ur mum to call ur silly uncle to order habaaaa

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    1. Poster29 January 2015 at 14:36

      My mum? She will just worry herself to death. At the right time, I will spill.

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  26. Chidinma Grace29 January 2015 at 13:58

    N1 anyman ddt beats a lady should be left alone but don't leave urs sons. U can get a legal help. N2 am sorry fr ur predicament but what must be must be, it may just take a little time. Don't give in to dt old fool bc he must surely reap his reward.

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  27. Jasmine29 January 2015 at 13:58

    Poster one sound like sum1 I know. I just hope it's not u sha. Run far away and plz with ur kids. U av family na. Even if na garri u and ur kids go drink, so be it but leave dat beast
    Poster two, I wish I can advise u to get sum thugs to beat d hell outta him and still get sum cash 4rm him but... just avoid him dat's all. They should allow u guys stay with ur mum na, haba!!! More reason why I don't av uncles nor aunt coz wetin dem don do my family, na only God fit judge. Stay strong poster, for the sake of ur siblings

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    1. Poster29 January 2015 at 14:38

      Amen Jasmine

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    2. Nitty-Gritty29 January 2015 at 19:56

      When I tell people I know nothing about my relatives nor do i want to get to kmow them, because I don't want to go through what my parents did, I am called names! I don't care! I am glad my father is still alive to see the nonsense they would have done If the unexpected happened! My father prepared his will and showed us in presence of his lawyer. My dad told my mum to put any property she buys in her name. While both of their names are on the properties he bought. For next of kin, my father put my elder brother while my mum put my younger brother. Because this is the bitter truth of life! THERE IS NO BROTHER WHEN IT COMES TO WEALTH! I don't know why some men will put their siblings and relatives first before their own children and wife and not save the money spent on ingrates for their children's future! My hubby had educational trust fund for our children in Nigeria, we liquidated it when we relocated. and have life insurance instead. I and hubby deprive ourselves of so many things and live prudently so as to build a future for our children, then one bastard will come to eat off our sweat and sacrifices? I will lay the curse of the 10 plagues of Egypt on that person head!

      Sorry poster and Stella for so many comments and rants, when am passionate about a subject, I rant a lot, and poster 2 narrative touched me to the depth of my being! I hate people with long throat! #wipes tears#

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  28. Anonymous Personified 29 January 2015 at 13:58

    hmmmmm..I still shiver at No 2 narrative. What a world!Please do not let that uncle of yours take advantage of you. Stay strong and always communicate to your mum. The Lord is your strength and will direct your path.
    @N1 Pls do as Stellz advised.

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  29. Unknown29 January 2015 at 13:59

    God wil punish ur wicked uncle

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  30. Unknown29 January 2015 at 14:00

    When you think you have heard it all.
    Poster 1 my advice to you to is to leave that marriage. Look for something to do no matter how small.
    poster 2 try and concentrate on sending your intelligent brother to school. All of you can join hand together and make the sacrifice.

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    1. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 14:27

      Poster 2 drop his name and his entire generation details so that the foolish man will be exposed and humiliated. Better still pack you bags and run to you mother oooo. You and your siblings. You must be under 18 because I don't see any reason why you can't leave. Poster 1,buy an airplane instead of running shoes and fly for your life before its too late. 200L,2kids???

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    2. Poster29 January 2015 at 14:40

      Our plan actually Nelo.thanks

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  31. Unknown29 January 2015 at 14:03

    Poster 2 how old are u? How does one connect u? U need to engage in something and retrieve ur siblings. Which side do u ppl live? Can u relocate? Are u old enough to take ur siblings along?
    I wna knw

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    1. Poster29 January 2015 at 17:43

      Thanks Nelo Ozojie,we live in Benin. I am 19. I planned to leave with my siblings when I am 21 but as it is, we might just see how this year goes. We don't want to leave with bad blood that's why. Relocation us an option but to where?

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  32. Unknown29 January 2015 at 14:03

    Poster 2:

    If your mum is asking you to leave your douchebag of a horseband, then it's serious and you should leave before your corpse is sent home.

    I'm surprised though that she's asking you to leave your kids behind. I'd rather you drop out of school temporarily and fend for your kids. Whatever escape plans you have must involve your kids. Don't ever leave them vulnerable to their mad father.

    I hope young women can see a trend in these DV cases. Jobless, dependent women are more likely to be victims.

    Not having your own source of income, depending on a man for everything are unattractive traits. Be able to stand on your own feet before you get married.

    Poster 2:

    I don't understand how you were thrown out of your father's property and your mum sent packing.

    Was their no will?
    Was your mum married to your dad?
    Did your mum seek redress legally?
    Didn't your father have assets in his name?
    Or your mum was not next of kin?

    Anyway about your dog of an uncle, forget him.
    Don't even complicate your life by reporting him to his wife and kids, they must know he's a dog already.

    I reckon you are about 21.
    That's life for you.
    Men will always dish out rubbish, you turn it down and move on.

    When there's life, there's hope.
    You dust off the bullshit and keep pushing on.

    What you need is assistance to go to school.
    You didn't say if you had the prerequisites.



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    1. Poster29 January 2015 at 17:44

      I am 19. We made good grades in all our papers in SsCE

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  33. Unknown29 January 2015 at 14:04

    Mmmmm life poster 2 God will see u all through. Poster 1 do wat u knw its best 4u n kids.

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  34. Unknown29 January 2015 at 14:13

    God will intervain for both of u,

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  35. LOVE ISLAND, SEX RELATIONSHIP ENTERTAINMENT ALL AROUND THE WORLD29 January 2015 at 14:14

    P1: what should I say now? Some women love their men beating them according to recent survey. If not, you ask what you should do??

    P2: You see, that strength you found to push your pervert uncle away is still there. Use that strength to move on. You are a sales girl right? God is given you the privilege of re-writing your own history. Forget all your uncles, aunties, etc, forget whatever form of help any body ever enjoyed while your family was intact.. all those things are no longer relevant. Plan your life while you take your sales work very seriously. Read your Bible and pray always. Welcome to a self made virtuous women world.

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    1. Poster29 January 2015 at 17:46

      Thank you so very much Solomon Okoh, God bless you much.

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  36. LOVE ISLAND, SEX RELATIONSHIP ENTERTAINMENT ALL AROUND THE WORLD29 January 2015 at 14:15

    P1: what should I say now? Some women love their men beating them according to recent survey. If not, you ask what you should do??

    P2: You see, that strength you found to push your pervert uncle away is still there. Use that strength to move on. You are a sales girl right? God is given you the privilege of re-writing your own history. Forget all your uncles, aunties, etc, forget whatever form of help any body ever enjoyed while your family was intact.. all those things are no longer relevant. Plan your life while you take your sales work very seriously. Read your Bible and pray always. Welcome to a self made virtuous women world.

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  37. CatWalk With PAT29 January 2015 at 14:17

    Sad story, i am moved to tears...things are happening

    Please click on my name for Fashion/Fitness/Beauty tips

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  38. Finest Prince29 January 2015 at 14:18

    Poster 2 God is ur strenght cuz ur story is very pathetic bt pls dont sleep wit ur uncle cuz dt wont solve ur problem.Try to be a member of 1 of dis richest church n close to d pastor n tel him abt ur problem,am sure church member wil help u bt prove to be a gud gal.

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    1. Poster29 January 2015 at 17:49

      Finest Prince, thank you. I can't get close to pastor o before he becomes Uncle number 2

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  39. Unknown29 January 2015 at 14:19

    Is it well, dat is all I can say to the 2posters ooo. Mother Mary pls intercede 4 dem.

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  40. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 14:19

    Hmmmm where will i strt from? My 2nd cousin who is much older raped me bcos of school fees not once not twice, anytime I think of it I hate myself !! And guess what? He is a born again christain (so he claims) now have graduated he wants me to come work 4 him cos he owns his own company buh I can't and won't work for him am older and wiser now .. God 4give me I hate him !

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  41. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 14:19

    Hmmmm where will i strt from? My 2nd cousin who is much older raped me bcos of school fees not once not twice, anytime I think of it I hate myself !! And guess what? He is a born again christain (so he claims) now have graduated he wants me to come work 4 him cos he owns his own company buh I can't and won't work for him am older and wiser now .. God 4give me I hate him !

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  42. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 14:20

    Hmmmm where will i strt from? My 2nd cousin who is much older raped me bcos of school fees not once not twice, anytime I think of it I hate myself !! And guess what? He is a born again christain (so he claims) now have graduated he wants me to come work 4 him cos he owns his own company buh I can't and won't work for him am older and wiser now .. God 4give me I hate him !

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  43. Unknown29 January 2015 at 14:26

    a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
    .
    This two cases tire me i swear.....
    .
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    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

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  44. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 14:26

    Poster 2, forget d threat!! He is bluffing, i repeat dat yeye agbaya uncle with totten blokos is bluffing joor. What u shld do is send all his messages to a close friend as a witness, and your pastors wife too. Just so that at least two pple knw he is threathen u, then tell him to train ur broda or else u will expose him, tell him too that ten pple know and hv record of his sms dat if anything at all happens to u or ur siblings he is gone. My dear God just buttered ur bread o, if na me walahi, this will be my passport to cash for life! Idiot, milk him dry! Blackmail his ugly ass

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  45. Unknown29 January 2015 at 14:28

    Poster2 am so sorry you are going through this,I will only advise that you and your siblings return to your mother atleast you will have a bit of peace to plan for your future....Remember that God is still in the bizness of doing miracles,so hold on.

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    1. Poster29 January 2015 at 17:57

      Thanks Cindies.my mum lives with her sister. We would be inconviniencing her sister going to join her there. My mum hasn't been quite okay. Even when we speak on phone she says " you know I would have brought you all here to live with me if it were possible ".

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  46. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 14:28

    This Narratives na yawa ooo. Kept me sighing till I was done reading.

    My Sister, Please dnt give him a chance for anything. He will use u and eventually not give you anything such as help. Keep the faith ehn. I happen to be fatherless as well but God has been our Strength. Help will come soon by Gods grace.

    Narrative 1, I cant help but Sigh as I have nothing to say but To keep Praying. Na only wetin fit help be that......

    God help us all.

    Afternoon Bv'sssssssss

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  47. Cynthia Iyede29 January 2015 at 14:34

    1. Please solicit for help from family members, church members to take care of your boys. Leave that marriage. Is it not when you are alive that you can take care of them? You want him to kill you 1st then your boys will suffer? Don't be selfish abeg. Your boys needs you more. You said something about them not learning bad ethics but do you know that you and your wrestler of a husband are already teaching them how to become bad to women with the constant beating drama? Sorry for sounding harsh. I'm just pissed. Please move out of that marriage before its too late.

    2. Tell his wife and children about the sms he sent you. Show it to them. Do not keep quiet jor.

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  48. Correction Fluid29 January 2015 at 14:42

    We all come from or have seen various family circumstances.
    Poster 1: I'm not in the best position to advice you to leave your matrimonial home, neither will I advice that you stay and get yourself maimed or worse still killed.
    But I'll advice that you weigh all your options before you make a decision.
    If you decide to leave your husband, consider your children; sweetheart they are boys and living without a father can have drastic effects on them. You also might not be able to take care of them properly (financially) except you get something doing which might be hard considering you are still an undergraduate.
    Also consider yourself, what effect a divorce will have on you at your tender age etc.
    If you decide to stay, consider your children too; because living with an abusive father can have a negative impact on them emotionally and physically. They might want to emulate their father's actions moreso since they are boys and he just might end up battering them too!
    Also, consider yourself as you just might end up maimed, handicapped or dead from staying. Note death could be physical, emotional or social.
    Consider your sanity and peace of mind
    Weigh your decision as best as you can, put all factors into consideration before making your decision.
    No one is in the best place to tell you to leave or go!
    Its your decision to make!!!
    And make it FAST!!!



    But if I were you, my dear, I'll take my kids and run as fast as my tiny legs can carry me!

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  49. mysonsays29 January 2015 at 14:44

    dont be afraid of his threat...go to your mum..they wont touch you.

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  50. Miss Ess29 January 2015 at 14:46

    N1, in all the cases of DV I have read they always say they don't have anywhere to go, but in your case you have somewhere to go and they are welcoming you with open arms. My sister stay there you hear, there's another place he himself will send you to and it starts with the letter H. N2, I hate being speechless but I am. The only person that would believe you is your mum and now they have blocked access to her. Don't tell anybody this until you can reach your mum because if you tell the other members of the family they won't believe you. God willl surely fight your battle.

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      Thanks Miss Essex. Amen to your prayers

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  51. Unknown29 January 2015 at 14:47

    @Poster 1: Your husband behaviour is so awkward . You sound very young but nevertheless grow up and learn to be matured. Sit him down and explain the beating/heating on you all the time. So that he wont take advantage of you being young again.

    @Poster 2: I suggest you report your Uncle to your Aunty first. Try as much as possible to avoid him. You will definitely make it in life. It is a challenge that will pass you by. Remember to pray always and God will send you your helper someday. I wish you goodluck.

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  52. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 14:55

    shoki shoki aaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhnnnnnnnn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! . Thank you Jesus !!! I'm the latest holder of uk drivers license . Rewind to nov 2014 when I came here crying over my stint with the police cos I didn't have a full license holder sitting by me while I was driving ,3 points, high insurance, car pound release fee + depression that followed ,had to bus it to my kids sch everyday it was a nightmare in this freezing temp ,took my test few hrs ago and I paaassssed .cant stop dancing . Thank you lord shoki shoki aaaaaahhhhhhnnnnn ,in Stellas voice + stellas *side eyes*.

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  53. chick felix29 January 2015 at 15:02

    The two narrative today is heartbreaking.... Am really touched reading through d second narrative......

    Chick Felix

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  54. chick felix29 January 2015 at 15:04

    Narr2) please don't visit dat ur devil of a uncle again oooo don't even go close to him please I am begging you.....

    Chick Felix

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  55. Opeke29 January 2015 at 15:09

    I feel so sorry for the two posters
    Poster 1: pls,find something doing now and get some help.Make up your mind to leave your husband and as soon as you are on your feet.The day before you are to leave,give him sleeping pills,tie his hands and legs and beat the hell outta him.Yes! With all the anger and pain in you.May God help you.E-hug

    Poster 2: I feel so sorry for you,dear.These are times I wish I was super rich.May your uncle's left yansh bend.What a shameless man.Isn't there anyone from your mum's family who can help? You sound ambitious.May help locate you.E-hug

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  56. Onis29 January 2015 at 15:09

    Poste 1 pls lesting to Stella ok,.i was once a vitem. Poster 2 i feel for you sorry, pls people help her i wish i have money

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  60. Unknown29 January 2015 at 15:10

    @Poster 1 Every body is saying leave the marriage but it's easier said than done. I'm sure you saw the signs before marriage or even the real deal but you chose to ignore it. Just ask for God's guidance and help

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  61. Unknown29 January 2015 at 15:15

    Aru na eme na uwa na atu egwu.

    poster 2: tell your mum.

    poster 1: run as fast as you can

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  62. zarah muah29 January 2015 at 15:20

    These narratives are really sad.
    Second narrative, please don't go close to that your uncle again, not by mistake, that's the very first step you should take.

    Poster with Domestic Violence case, please seek the help of appropriate authorities in your locality.

    You can own a Home Business of your own, visit my blog www.loisyassat.com for details, sign up today and begin to earn income as you learn. Its free to join, so visit my blog for details.

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  63. Shyla29 January 2015 at 15:28

    Poster two; Do not delete those text messages. I understand you are afraid but is there no other higher person you can meet to confide in without that one running their hands on your breasts too? Please do no do runs, you will feel dirty cos it's not what you planned for. Encourage your siblings to keep it up. Make sure you guys save towards your education. It's never too late to go to a University. But if you see a prospective suitor, you fit marry and save your family the stress a little.
    Poster1: As for me, any thing that has to do with hitting a woman, I advise you to waka.be you my friend or not. My folks no beat me for house,na husband go start am. Did I tell him that this body likes cuts and bruises plus hospital environment? Not to mention of mortuary. Then I will leave my kids to grow motherless and mentally unbalanced? Okay, seems you love the beating and make up so I will advise you to stay. Inugo. You still have like two more years or three to collect beating before you can waka. Sidon oh.

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  64. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 15:31

    @ The queen and the boss of this blog it will NEVER be well with you for the advice you gave this little girl, how stupid can you be for a woman if you are actually one... You will not see anything good in your life, your case will be worse than that of this little girl IJN

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    1. Jesus Baby29 January 2015 at 16:58

      Please read your comment and tell me if you are better than her.

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  65. Unknown29 January 2015 at 15:34

    Poster 2
    I am so sorry
    Life is so not fair.
    People no longer have the fear of God.
    Imagine your own uncle!
    Call a family meeting
    Invite every one n disgrace him publicly. .
    And warn him.nothing must ever happen to you..
    Useless man..
    God is the father of the fatherless and He will definitely see you and your siblings through.
    E-hugs

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  66. Bootylycious diva29 January 2015 at 15:34

    hmmm ,poverty na bastard

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  67. Trendingshoes_shoes29 January 2015 at 15:36

    P1...How can your family advice you to leave your kids, na wah, take your kids along, and make sure u have stolen enough money before leaving. P2...God is your strength

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  68. Jesus Baby29 January 2015 at 15:41

    Poster 2: Please go and look for your mum and if possible stay with her. A mothers whip is sweeter than most relatives meal. Together you all will make it work. My mother inlaw single handedly cared for her 4kids with my husband being her only son. She went through hell but i bless God because today, i am married to a man who pactically worship the ground i step on. She is also enjoying her children. Be strong darling.

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  69. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 15:44

    Poster 2: where is your mum? is she based in d village or city? if yes cant u and ya siblings moved in with her? and if she's in d village, save up cash and rent a room in d city, move in with ya mum n siblings. ya mum need to get herself together , hustle to train u guys. my mum sold crayfish, dry fish, red oil, plantain etc to raise 6graduates with God on her side.

    uncles and aunties will not help u. your mum need to get something serious doing.

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  70. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 15:45

    poster 1......you have to find a way to be independent ...

    Poster 2....it is well,God will fight your battle.

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  71. Unknown29 January 2015 at 15:51

    Narr1...Your hubby doesn't have any atom of love in him towards you,thats why he beats you at will like its some kind of sport. Leave that marriage now,yes this is unlike me but i do not want you to loose your life in that "marriage",You have lost your dignity as a woman and you are almost loosing your sanity but,you can still move from that monster that calls himself your hubby,Do not be afraid of starting all over again cause i know that is one of the fears of we ladies.Narr2...That uncle of yours a demon.

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  72. PRECIOUS ME29 January 2015 at 15:52

    POSTER 1: Many pple ar sayin leave him , leave him. z easier said than done.Think of d harm broken home can expose ur kids and even urself to, hand ova everytin to God. I Think part of wat provokes him is d fact that u dont contribute to d upkeep of d house. I wld advice dat u take things easy with him n watch his mood b4 u make any request.please dnt make mistake u wil regret in future.
    Poster 2:U hv to go n stay with ur Mum n nt ur aunt.Z true dat ur dad z late but ur mum z dia. Y wld ur fathers relations forbid u n ur siblings to see ur mother? My dear, my advice z dat u go bak to ur mother cus @ dis depressed stata she z capable of anything. u ar nt tied in d house, take d little u hv earnd frm d salesgirl wrk n go bak to ur mum even if it means leaving behind some of ur belongins @ ur aunt's place to avoid stopping u. Stay wit ur mum n help her come out of her depression, wit time u can enrol for a part time programme wen u ar sure u can cope.

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  73. Chux James29 January 2015 at 16:12

    What can I say than to just look up to God? Whats the update with your father's documents? that could really help you and your siblings fight back at least to get your house back... ~ Blunt Truth

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  74. Chocolate29 January 2015 at 16:14

    Poster 2. He threatened you bawo?
    All that one na film trick. He cant do anything. Do the needful dearie. Cheers!

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  75. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 16:33

    Seenitall

    @Poster 2, people like you make it big in life because God will come to your aid. While working at the store, I suggest you enroll for part time studies and as much as possible save to pay the school fees, just forget about new clothes and human hair etc. Your brother and sister should also do the same. Though it will not be easy but you will eventually get there. I'm saying this because I know someone who experienced what you are going through and today she is doing very well and a very senior manager where she works even though all her schooling up to masters level were part time. Please do not abandon your mother and if possible you all should move in with her, I think it's better that way. I guess you are no longer kids hence should be able to take decisions on your own without recourse to your fathers people and. You also don't need to continue to live with your aunt. God will definitely help you. I Wish you the best.

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  76. Mao Akuh (Oriflame)29 January 2015 at 16:33

    200L and no savings or what. You can sell okrika to students so as to sustain yasef. Your kids that stay with ya mum. No let him kill you one day o. You here wetin Mamie talk....hahaha Mamie na crayy

    #2 If I were you I would send the msgs to his wife and stay off from him, if possible will report him to the Police station in case of 'rape'. inukwa anumanu! God will see you through, this too will fade away, keep working n at the same time, save and save.

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  77. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 16:39

    Poster 1, pls don't go anywhere,keep praying,4 prayers changes things,seek God present in ur house,& check his back ground,then break evil Covenant where necessary. Trust God intervention,as u seek Him. Poster2: pls don't give in 2 ur uncle neither report him 2 anyone if u love ur life. Such a man is capable of destroy wit no second thought.

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  78. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 16:40

    Poster 1, pls don't go anywhere,keep praying,4 prayers changes things,seek God present in ur house,& check his back ground,then break evil Covenant where necessary. Trust God intervention,as u seek Him. Poster2: pls don't give in 2 ur uncle neither report him 2 anyone if u love ur life. Such a man is capable of destroy wit no second thought.

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  79. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 16:43

    #1: Since you are in school, you can avoid him as much as you can until you finish school. But if you have a relative who can help you, you can leave him before he kills you. If I were you, I would avoid any situation that would make him beat me. Even if I catch him on top of a woman, I would pretend as if I did not see it until I get what I want. Apply wisdom.

    #2:Dont let them waste you and your siblings. Why not run to your mother's side since they are not doing much for you.

    This is a wake up call for men who buy properties in their names without including their spouse. If you don't trust your wife, why not buy one in your son's name. There is nothing wrong in a woman staying home for the children when they are very young. People should always think of death. It can happen at anytime.
    Rose

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  80. supermom29 January 2015 at 16:44

    Poster1 u need to leave that marriage. U won't know how much strenght you have until u leave him. Take your kids to ur parents. Your husband needs to get help but leave his house first. So that someone else will not tell ur story.
    Poster 2. Ur uncle is a pig. Welcome to life. Don't give in. Help will come from where u don't expect.

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  81. Unknown29 January 2015 at 16:54

    Poster 2..........press on, dont give up there's light @ d end of the tunnel. That ur uncle needs to be castrated sha, dead body!

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  82. Unknown29 January 2015 at 16:59

    Poster 1: save up and leave the marriage. I am against domestic violence or find a way to threaten his life.
    Poster2: please never go back to your uncle to ask for money.
    Save the sms as a further evidence
    Learn a trade, it will help more and make you financially independent sooner than expected so that you can use the proceeds and go back to school.
    Finally, pray and pray and pray again.
    God will send an helper your way soon.

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  83. jeloho29 January 2015 at 17:10

    poster 1,my case is like yours d difference is that u get an apology but mine i never get an apology,i just stayed because i was afraid to start again,it was my inlaws that got afraid for my life n sent me packing wit 3kids at ist i was confuse and left my kids,i later went back and stole them.i have gone back to school now to go and complete my nursing education with no promise of help from anywhere but i know i must finish it and get my certitificate by Gods grace.my dear is not easy out here alone wit the kids please turn deaf,blind and dumb to whatever your husband does.he wont kill u if u become a zombie to him until u finish your school and look for a job.because out here in the world u will wish 4 death sometimes. Poster 2. God wil surely send helper to u

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  84. The only controller G29 January 2015 at 17:34

    @ poster 1: pls file a complaint against your husband through a lawyer who is an activist against domestic violence. this is the only thing that will help him cool his temper and stop being a coward.
    @ poster 2:come let me give you a hug; pat you on the back and tell you it shall be well.my dear don't ever let anybody write your future and history for you.the same goes for your siblings. only you my dear will stamp your feet against all odds and say that I will make it in life. I will be who God has destined me to be.I will be who I have chosen to be and no one can stop me.they can only delay what you will be but can not put an end to it unless you allow them.dear put on your fighting garment and tough skin and move on.put your head and dive into this complicated world and write what you will be. be encouraged And know that the lord has the final say and no one else.Go on your kness in your closet and cry always upon the lord and tell him what you want and it must surely come to pass. maybe not today but it must surely come. is your type that the Lord buys up their case and fights their battle without having mercy on all those that oppressed you people. he is a just God and hates oppression.he is the strength of the oppressed. and he has said ask and you shall receive.we are his children and we have power bestowed upon our tongues.that when we speak; all things must bow.may the promises in psalm 91 and 23 come to pass in the lives of everyone in your family.they will be alive to see the Blessings of the lord come to pas in your lives.Amen.take care of yourself; your siblings and your mother. always tell her mummy it shall be well with us

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  85. ese929 January 2015 at 17:56

    nawa o
    I just weak

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  86. adetadel29 January 2015 at 18:11

    Hi id like to help poster 2. . . . . . . if you are legitimate. Stella if you see this post pls verify the story and i will step in. Thanks

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  87. Unknown29 January 2015 at 18:24

    Poster1,any man that raise his hand on his wife is a fool.pls run for your life because the beating will continue carry ur kids along if possible.your hubby is lucky you guys are in Nigeria if not they will lock him for long....Stella if they report such case in 9ja police station our police will just Corlet money from her husband and the case is over. Poster2 pls let your mum know what your uncle wanted to do and also show his kids n wife his txt msg as prove.its so sad we are just hearin horrible stories,stay strong God will take control

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  88. Anonymous29 January 2015 at 18:50

    poster 2 my heart goes out to you, i know what u mean because my mum's brother tried to molest me so many times but i never agreed. I hope Stella and other blog visitors can help make sure u and your siblings benefit from the school fees post coming up. Your uncle will get whats coming to him eventually and anyone that can link you with any legal aid lawyer who can help you will ne great

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  89. bivan29 January 2015 at 19:07

    Nawa o for Una wey dey advice dis gal make she go do runs una fit advice ur sisters same thing...poster2 keep praying to God for a helper and he wl send u one.

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  90. Triumphant Zion29 January 2015 at 20:20

    Poster1;Not unless he is a useless man,he cannot be beating you without a cause.there is something you are doing wrong and he is reacting by being violent.As much as i dont support a man beating a woman as a way of letting his anger out,quote me anywhere and i will defend it,Every woman has the power to tame his man unless he is not yours.you are gifted with a special gift that can make a man lick your toes but do you know about this gift?talk more of using it.
    Humble yourself and discover this gift that everywoman has in you and enjoy your marriage.
    Did i tell you that even if you leave this one and run,you might end up with another wife beater or a cheat, who only cheat on you because he wants to avoid you??




    poster 2;cant you run to your mother with your siblings?Even if your mother cannot take care of you,is it not better to drink garri with her than be subjected to the kind of evil that awaits you there

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