Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

Hmmm...what do you think about a situation where you run into a couple but they make out like they are strangers but go behind laughing out loud?...lol

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
DISRESPECTING AND RUNNING DOWN A SPOUSE' REP

Dear Stella,   May God's blessings never depart from you. And your family. Am an ardent reader of your blog, but rarely comment. I just enjoy reading and spreading the good news about your blog to anyone that gives me a listening hear  I did my traditional marriage in july 2014, after which I got called to re-shuffle a supermarket I once opened for a rich woman. Had to spend six months there, always sending my own little quota to my husband to buy properties needed in d house even though we still stay in the family house.  I noticed each time I come back after two weeks of absence, my husband secretly checks my wallet in my absence after which he won't bring out money for cooking until he makes sure that I don't have a dime with me. Since I came back, its from one quarrel to the other, reporting me to my aunt that he found out I once had more money in my account than he does, that I don't let him into my financial account.  The worst part is he keep tarnishing my image in the presence of his family, things I never noticed while courting him.  He even complains of me buying food outside even when there's is food at house, not minding that am pregnant. Am contemplating leaving the house, get a little capital to start something to take care of myself and my unborn child until he comes to his senses or for good. Please I need sincere advice from BVS. Thanks Phil

OMG..just less than 7months in marriage and this is happening?isnt there a way you can salvage what you have left instead of leaving?do you both communicate? I dont know what to say,your marriage is so young....give it another chance,have a heart to heart with him!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
CALLING THE COPS ON AN ABUSIVE SERIAL CHEAT

Hello Stella I admire the work you do and may God bless you for it.

Right now I need the advice of fellow bv's and sorry my story is a bit long but will try to cut it short. We have 2 kids, met in 1998 and got married in 2010 so we have been together for 17 years.

Yesterday morning my husband fell asleep and with his phone in his hand. Before now I had been suspecting he was up to something and had playfully demanded his pin which he gave me but it wasn't the true one, so seeing the phone open was like xmas to me. On searching the phone I realised he was texting a girl when he slept off. Calling her all sorts of sweet names.

 When I looked more I found texts from other girls and pictures with also a very active call log between him and a total of 7 girls in the past one week. I quickly sent the pictures and texts to my phone then confronted him. He said there was nothing to it that he was just messing about with them and swore he hadn't met  any of them them. One even said he should come and pick her up to his place and he replied he was on his way. 

I asked him if there were any issues in our marriage that had warranted his actions, he said no that he was okay with me.( the last time we had a quarrel was in June 2014). I thought he was happy because everything seemed fine or so I thought. His excuse didn't go down well with me so we quarrelled. While he was at work I ket texting him to express my anger at his deception. Now in nov 2013 we were  approached by an Eastern European lady who was married to a Nigerian but wanted a divorce. I was surprised when she mentioned his name , my name and my son's name.

 I was 4 months pregnant then. They met at the gym and he later told me that he kept telling her not to leave her marriage. But he claimed she wanted a relationship with him and said she told him she would destroy his marriage if she couldn't have him. She works and lives around so she knows my house, even told him she used to see us through our kitchen window. Well I warned her to stay away from my family and she backed off. In sept 2013 I went to Nigeria for a visit with my son and my husband was on his own, for 3 weeks. 

On my return I found oyinbo woman's hair in between my sheets in the room,on the floor, on my cooker and in the bathroom. When I asked him he of course denied it again. Well fast forward to now I had been trying very hard to start trusting him again only for him to stab me again. This evening(Monday January 19,2015) we got into a fight and he punched me on my arm, almost punched me in the face and almost strangled me so I called the police and he's been arrested. My fellow bv's what's your take on this?

Oh Wow!....you called the Police on him? I dont mean to be wicked but i think your marriage officially ended yesterday and your husband is in a lot of trouble.
They will ask you if you want to press charges or go ahead to do it on your behalf.
I know another blog visitor who is going through same and it has not been easy for her emotionally.

I dont know what else to say so let me sit down and read comments.