Blog Visitor Has A Stalker ......OMG!

She sent this in and called me...her voice was sweet and scared...i read her narrative and decided to post.....I didnt know we have stalkers in Nigeria ooooh.

Stella,

Good Evening,

 Please share my story. I have been mortified all through the holidays, i want to know if i should have done something that i didn’t do and know this came to me. Also for all those who thinks a guy loves them, he might just be obsessed.

i will like to be anonymous please

MY STORY! NO ATTRACTION, LIES AND NOW A CUP OF CRAZY

My story goes like this......

 i met this guy in Nigeria and i didn’t like him at all but everyone told me i am crazy to let him go that he was doing well, responsible home, educated etc. So i said yes to him and started dating him, i didn’t have any attraction to him at all. I complained to my family members but they said i was being too picky. I decided to give a serious try and be very commited to him and over look anything that irks me like his pot belly and how slow he is to walk and talk.

 I was at trying ooh for like 1 year and then when i was about to leave for my Masters he proposed but i rejected the ring because i was still not there with the attraction and at that point i had a heart to heart with him and told him the reason i am rejecting the ring is because i am not attracted to him and I’m constantly struggling to spend any time with him yet alone get married. 

He said he know but that it will come i need a little time to open up my heart.  I left for my Masters and i was sort of relieved as God should have it, while i was there i discovered from his family friend in the USA that the guy lied about his status, jobs and some family background. I was so upset with myself and my family members because it was time wasted for me and how he tried to deceive me to marry him knowing all the lies he told to me.

Anyways we broke up after a year of dating, he kept on trying to contact me and send email, calls etc. I blocked his calls and emails and just forgot everything. I was doing my thing for two years (finished school and got a Job) and in the third year this same guy pestered my sister in Nigeria to please give him my number that he just wants to have closure and beg me for forgiveness. My sister called me to tell me he has been to her house and made calls to her pestering for the number and her husband is beginning to get irritated.

My sister said NO, but he kept calling she blocked his number but he always found a new number to call. Finally, my sister gave into the pressure and gave him my number and she called me and explained that we both need closure. I decided it is cool so we get the closure done so he can move on. The next thing like 3 months after she gave him the number this guy calls me and says in New Jersey let us see. I was like i will see you close of work tomorrow. After work we saw at a restaurant and he came clean about all the lies. I asked him WHY he said it was because of my family background he lied. Ooh well not to dwell on the matter i forgave him and we ate and i left.

I came back to Nigeria last year, he saw me at a party and started his pursuit again, i told him i am not interested he says it will come that i am just angry he lied. I told him point blank that i am not interested because i have no attraction towards him. He has refused to listen and still calls and begs we give it a try. i have blocked all 6 of his numbers and he keeps using new ones to call, he send me flowers to my office and home as if we are still together, he send me names of our kids in messages and some really crazy things. 

My mum saw his mum at a wedding and she hugged my mum and said that thank God our kids decided to work things out. My mum was shocked cos it sounded foreign to her. She came back and asked me and i was like very shocked that he is so delusional to think we are in any sort of relationship. I was so mad that i called him to ask him why he is messing with my life and telling people we are an item, he says because he knows we are i just need time to come around and he will wait for me. At that point i decided that i will just totally ignore.

Now the scary part on 25th of December this guy had the guts to wait at my church and when church was over he embarrassed the heck out of me, (people will know me from this part of the story) when i went to get into my car at the parking lot, i saw this guy kneeling down at my car with flowers one hand and a ring in another. I ran away from my car and was crying and i called my mum on the phone and my sisters and he came walking towards me and i was running. People even started running with me because they were confused to why i was running, they later led me into church and restrained him from getting in. 

Finally my sisters and parents showed and told him to respect himself that i do not want. He said he was taking a leap of faith. My dad warned him sternly and told him in his exact words “MY FRIEND ACT LIKE A MAN, MY DAUGHTER SAID NO”. finally  he left and i was too shaken to drive so my mum got off dads car and drove my car with me in it. Getting home my mum called his mother and told her what happened she kept on apologising and saying that they didn’t know about it, they only knew he said we have worked on our issues but they wondered why i didn’t come to visit them. He kept telling them i travelled or I’m on a job assignment etc. So they never knew we are not even an item.

As I speak to you my parents are so scared, that we agreed that i go back to the USA that he might not be so well. So come Feb I’m moving back, i hope this will be the end of my ordeal. Please trust your instincts always it is a guiding force.

*ORIEGWU!